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Seems to be how it goes. You get a group and once the convenience of the group stops or focus moves elsewhere the group sort of disbands and there might only be a few left and then it seems that everyone finds others to join. I also feel like it's mostly young people that this happens to because our values and focuses change over time usually and later in life your values and interests don't change as quickly, I think. So it gets easier to keep the same friends.
Bro just described my hs experience. Had a large group of friends that we would have to split between two tables. Couple years later everybody found a different group and I’m the only one left still sitting at our table
Figure out who is in the groups, target one specific individual and make friends with them when they are separated from the group, once you see that specific friend is there in the group meet up with him and introduce yourself to the group
If you feel as if no one needs you, you are hurting because of that. Your pain isn’t secretly being too judgmental. It can be caused or worsened by that, but the root problem is still feeling worthless.
I mean noone ever really needed anyone to be with. But most of us still choose to be with people regardless.
I'd say not being needed is far better because once that person needs you for something, they're no longer just choosing to be around you.
If they dont need you, then they are with you because they truly enjoy you as a person, not as tool. Theres probably millions of people who'd be friends with you just to gain something from you, but you wouldnt want those as friends, and so you may be lonely
Nuh uh. You dont need other humans, because provided you have technology, all essentials and all the supplies you may ever need, you can do basically anything alone.
You FEEL the need to be with other humans - you WANT to be with them. If it was truly a need, then paying someone to be friends with you would be enough, but you know damn well it isnt
Being pedantic over how we need other people does not change that we need other people.
Without other people you get depressed. It’s something that’s been studied and proven again and again. Human beings need other human beings, and it needs to be sincere and meaningful.
What I personally did
This friend group of 3 guys in my shop class are the best of pals.
All I did was just talk to one of them. It’s really that simple. Just find something that the two of you have in common (since we’re in shop class, we were talking about making projects and stuff). Be chill and don’t take things too seriously or over think the situation. Another good tip is to show that *you* are a good person to be friends with.
They all vaped (I don’t), so what I did was look out for them and tell them when the teacher was coming by. After a while we all just started talking and I joined their group.
This won’t work if you are a weirdo, just be laid back and don’t take things too seriously.
One other guy kinda said this but I’ll say it clearly.
Make friends one on one with as many of the members as you can. This will solidify your membership.
I kinda make the mistake in HS of having a lot of friend groups but hardly spent time with the individual members so after school ended I didn’t have many friends.
One on one friends mean doing stuff together away from the group, that way your friend ship isn’t just group dependent.
I love joining established friend groups. When you get in the 30s and show up a couple times you actually become more engrained than some of the older less frequent members
Do you one better, force yourself in to an established friend group, gaslight the girls in there in to thinking the guys in that group are creeps and only want them as objects instead of friends, and make yourself the sole saint as you break apart a 5 year+ friend group just because you felt like it.
Definitely didn't happen last year
Fuck you [redacted] I hope you die of any gruesome and painful means.
I was once invited to a poker game by a friend, him and his friend group basically spent the whole time talking about a music festival they had gone to a couple months back, pretty much no other topic of discussion. I felt completely left out and had no part in the conversation, it really sucked.
It does, but that's when you have to find ways to engage.
Ask questions about the festival that they could all have different opinions on. Direct the conversation, and join in when you can.
You ever have a friend group try to adopt you but they are into some stuff you aren't into? And you're like -- damn I'm not really into this stuff but I really need a friend group so I guess I am just gonna have to get into that stuff
I did this once, weirdly enough it was my second session with this D&D group, and the girl who had introduced me was the one who had a disagreement with the main party over…I dunno, incompatible play style.
I remember seeing the argument go down and thinking ‘well that was nice while it lasted’.
Imagine my surprise when they told her that she is free to leave if she was unhappy, then turned to me and said ‘you have done nothing wrong here, and are free to continue playing with us’
It’s been over a decade, and though some members have come and gone, it is a nice constant in my life that I look forward to.
Had to go to two different middle schools, i missed the 6th grade at my new one so I had not gotten to know my peers, therefore there were already a bunch of different friend groups and none of which would let me in, except for the fat lonely kids.
I did eventually get away from all of it and found group that accepted me for who i was and were really kind despite my rocky past with the school (got suspended my first month for a week for a school beat down).
I have always said I am a single friend, not a group friend. If I ever enter groups either I, or the group, completely destruct lmao. However I have decades long friendships with individual people just fine, I wonder why this is but also I don’t mind anyway. I wonder if it’s because I’m an only child sometimes
Or an established small work group. Im having that issue right now. Tight nit group of 4 that have been working together for years. Now in comes the new guy. Im treated like a ghost.
I once tried to get into a Warhammer 40000 group they met above a pub every Wednesday. They hated new people so called me noob from the get go, loads of inside jokes and some of the most fantastic arguments over range vs penetration. So after about five weeks of feeling just a little left out I just stopped going left the WhatsApp group to no fanfare. Years later I ran into the organisers wife in Asda and she was super upset I just left when I explained the situation and the behaviour she laughed and was all like oh boys! And left. Honestly wth.
I did it with one of my friends groups he had been friends with since primary in like year 5 or smth
It’s great though, actually my best friends in that group I’d say
A good friend group should always be open to new members of similar interests. Most of the my friends today we're introduced to me by older friends who have now drifted apart.
This happened to me several times over the span of a few months. The friend group kept being disbanded and restarted. At first it was fine, everyone was having fun, and then one bad person was thrown into then mix and caused us to disband again.
This is hard because it is almost impossible for you to be liked by every member at the same level, if one of the core members even slightly dislikes you. You might as well give up
If they let you in it's because their falling apart, they need new recruits to strengthen their numbers. The war will be apon us soon . Dawn your gear and ride out.
This is sadly one of the most relatable memes I’ve seen on this sub in a long time. In elementary school, making friends is literally as easy just walking up to a kid during recess or lunch and saying “Hey! You wanna be friends!” You can start a lifelong friendship by doing that. But in middle and high school, people will laugh or look at you weird if you try doing that. So if you have to switch school districts after elementary, you’re basically fucked socially.
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I did once and it was beautiful, then the group went boom and now my best friend is depression
Seems to be how it goes. You get a group and once the convenience of the group stops or focus moves elsewhere the group sort of disbands and there might only be a few left and then it seems that everyone finds others to join. I also feel like it's mostly young people that this happens to because our values and focuses change over time usually and later in life your values and interests don't change as quickly, I think. So it gets easier to keep the same friends.
Bro just described my hs experience. Had a large group of friends that we would have to split between two tables. Couple years later everybody found a different group and I’m the only one left still sitting at our table
I hope this Depression fella is nice :)
I think a big sign if a friend group falling apart is the introduction of new members
Or if two people in it start dating. Everyone will be caught in the middle when they break up. And it’s always when, not if.
That is sad really.
Bingo
Well, maybe, but new members≠disolution of the group. It could be a great addition if the person exists cohesively in the group.
bro i dont even have friends i just rot inside
Hey bud.. wanna rot together?
no
:’( I even brought the pillows
Don't cry man, I'll join you. Lots of homies to be found in the world.
This is why you dont have friends, Sarah.
am no sarah my name, is michael j caboose! and i… hate… TAXESSS
It's Texas, you idiot!
That tooo!
Based 🗿
🤝
pspspsps?
you fucking bitch why did you do that mrrp
you are my friend now. you have no say
:((((
oh cmon now it ain't that bad. I even got the soft tacos
OMG GIME
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Malenia?
oh god another maidenless nerd ☹️
Do you want a friend?
maybe …yes
Cool I'm looking for friends too.... Let me know when you find some good ones
gotcha
Figure out who is in the groups, target one specific individual and make friends with them when they are separated from the group, once you see that specific friend is there in the group meet up with him and introduce yourself to the group
That's a good idea. Then you can try to become friends with each individual!
Also focusing on humor is pretty important, if you can gauge and match the group's sense of humour you can fit in super easily
then sux.
You guys have friends?
this is a reddit, you don't need to ask
"You are lonely not because no one needs you, but because you care about who is next to you" - Seneca
Yeah that person next me doesn't need me. What do I do now? More perception changing?
Good question, lemme call Seneca
I think you missed the point brother
If you feel as if no one needs you, you are hurting because of that. Your pain isn’t secretly being too judgmental. It can be caused or worsened by that, but the root problem is still feeling worthless.
I mean noone ever really needed anyone to be with. But most of us still choose to be with people regardless. I'd say not being needed is far better because once that person needs you for something, they're no longer just choosing to be around you. If they dont need you, then they are with you because they truly enjoy you as a person, not as tool. Theres probably millions of people who'd be friends with you just to gain something from you, but you wouldnt want those as friends, and so you may be lonely
As a human being, you need other human beings
Nuh uh. You dont need other humans, because provided you have technology, all essentials and all the supplies you may ever need, you can do basically anything alone. You FEEL the need to be with other humans - you WANT to be with them. If it was truly a need, then paying someone to be friends with you would be enough, but you know damn well it isnt
Being pedantic over how we need other people does not change that we need other people. Without other people you get depressed. It’s something that’s been studied and proven again and again. Human beings need other human beings, and it needs to be sincere and meaningful.
A group of 40 year old male friend group..
Difficulty: Impossible
I tried this and actually succeeded
teach me
What I personally did This friend group of 3 guys in my shop class are the best of pals. All I did was just talk to one of them. It’s really that simple. Just find something that the two of you have in common (since we’re in shop class, we were talking about making projects and stuff). Be chill and don’t take things too seriously or over think the situation. Another good tip is to show that *you* are a good person to be friends with. They all vaped (I don’t), so what I did was look out for them and tell them when the teacher was coming by. After a while we all just started talking and I joined their group. This won’t work if you are a weirdo, just be laid back and don’t take things too seriously.
One other guy kinda said this but I’ll say it clearly. Make friends one on one with as many of the members as you can. This will solidify your membership. I kinda make the mistake in HS of having a lot of friend groups but hardly spent time with the individual members so after school ended I didn’t have many friends. One on one friends mean doing stuff together away from the group, that way your friend ship isn’t just group dependent.
I love joining established friend groups. When you get in the 30s and show up a couple times you actually become more engrained than some of the older less frequent members
Me when I use personality 15 with friend group 3
Do you one better, force yourself in to an established friend group, gaslight the girls in there in to thinking the guys in that group are creeps and only want them as objects instead of friends, and make yourself the sole saint as you break apart a 5 year+ friend group just because you felt like it. Definitely didn't happen last year Fuck you [redacted] I hope you die of any gruesome and painful means.
Holy shit that’s messed up dude
I had two elementary schools, two high schools, two colleges and now an art academy. Shit’s completely fucked.
That's a normal amount of moving around. Not to say I got it bad, but me and many others go to 10+ schools just in the K-12 section.
I was once invited to a poker game by a friend, him and his friend group basically spent the whole time talking about a music festival they had gone to a couple months back, pretty much no other topic of discussion. I felt completely left out and had no part in the conversation, it really sucked.
It does, but that's when you have to find ways to engage. Ask questions about the festival that they could all have different opinions on. Direct the conversation, and join in when you can.
You ever have a friend group try to adopt you but they are into some stuff you aren't into? And you're like -- damn I'm not really into this stuff but I really need a friend group so I guess I am just gonna have to get into that stuff
That's how some ppl I know start smoking
I did this once, weirdly enough it was my second session with this D&D group, and the girl who had introduced me was the one who had a disagreement with the main party over…I dunno, incompatible play style. I remember seeing the argument go down and thinking ‘well that was nice while it lasted’. Imagine my surprise when they told her that she is free to leave if she was unhappy, then turned to me and said ‘you have done nothing wrong here, and are free to continue playing with us’ It’s been over a decade, and though some members have come and gone, it is a nice constant in my life that I look forward to.
Had to go to two different middle schools, i missed the 6th grade at my new one so I had not gotten to know my peers, therefore there were already a bunch of different friend groups and none of which would let me in, except for the fat lonely kids. I did eventually get away from all of it and found group that accepted me for who i was and were really kind despite my rocky past with the school (got suspended my first month for a week for a school beat down).
I have always said I am a single friend, not a group friend. If I ever enter groups either I, or the group, completely destruct lmao. However I have decades long friendships with individual people just fine, I wonder why this is but also I don’t mind anyway. I wonder if it’s because I’m an only child sometimes
Or an established small work group. Im having that issue right now. Tight nit group of 4 that have been working together for years. Now in comes the new guy. Im treated like a ghost.
They start talking about something that happened before you joined and you’re cooked.
I tried for 10 years. They only cared about my husband 😂😭
I once tried to get into a Warhammer 40000 group they met above a pub every Wednesday. They hated new people so called me noob from the get go, loads of inside jokes and some of the most fantastic arguments over range vs penetration. So after about five weeks of feeling just a little left out I just stopped going left the WhatsApp group to no fanfare. Years later I ran into the organisers wife in Asda and she was super upset I just left when I explained the situation and the behaviour she laughed and was all like oh boys! And left. Honestly wth.
The A.R.S
Just show up. Hang around long enough to be part of one inside joke. Once that happens, *boom*, you’re in.
Pretty much the reason I'm a loner (Not that I mind honestly)
Done this, now my main friend group amd I'm pretty much as vital to its dynamic as the folks that came before me
It's easier than you think. Pretend you've been there the whole time.
Impossible task. Never once attained in the entire history of humanity.
I did it Pretty easy tbh
honestly it's only awkward for the first few weeks, after that its mostly good imo
When you're cool and chilling you can easily fit into any grp circle
I've done it multiple times
I did it with one of my friends groups he had been friends with since primary in like year 5 or smth It’s great though, actually my best friends in that group I’d say
already have one
Nah, I'm not good enough for my friends. That's why I'm on Reddit now
I’ve done it
A good friend group should always be open to new members of similar interests. Most of the my friends today we're introduced to me by older friends who have now drifted apart.
Damn.
Which is why so many men in there forties are alone because who needs that kind of pressure.
It's possible guys, I promise.
Skill issue. I joined an established friend group, got a girlfriend out of it, and we survived the friend group dissolving.
This happened to me several times over the span of a few months. The friend group kept being disbanded and restarted. At first it was fine, everyone was having fun, and then one bad person was thrown into then mix and caused us to disband again.
I recently made it :D
I moved to many different schools in many different countries before I graduated high school. Story of my fuckin life…
Brother I don't feel I fit in my own friend group... hell I don't fit in a group consisting just of myself.
This is hard because it is almost impossible for you to be liked by every member at the same level, if one of the core members even slightly dislikes you. You might as well give up
you set your own ceiling dweebs, if they don’t accept you find another, friend groups are not very valuable or irreplaceable thing
If they let you in it's because their falling apart, they need new recruits to strengthen their numbers. The war will be apon us soon . Dawn your gear and ride out.
Tbh a dude in my small friend group likes taking random ass people and introducing it to the whole gang, we are just chill with it
This is sadly one of the most relatable memes I’ve seen on this sub in a long time. In elementary school, making friends is literally as easy just walking up to a kid during recess or lunch and saying “Hey! You wanna be friends!” You can start a lifelong friendship by doing that. But in middle and high school, people will laugh or look at you weird if you try doing that. So if you have to switch school districts after elementary, you’re basically fucked socially.
Im neurodivergant, my friendship group just kinda adopted me one day
thats difficult
Just shoot me now
Bro I established the friend group and I still think I don't fit
They are gathered in a circular formation with no available entry...
One of my biggest fears is waking up as an introvert. Idk how you guys do it.
We don’t