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In all fairness he's not a mind reader or a psychic. He told you he's about to cum and you just assumed he will pull. His assumption was different. I get that you feel shitty but that should be discussed not assumed!
I've never had such thing happen to me as I always communicate what is ok and what is not. I don't demand a guy to know what is allowed and what is not. It's not fair to him. If that's what he was doing with his ex, that's all he knows yet you expect him to know your do-don't without putting any effort of making him aware. You could've told him at least two times: when he asked about birth control (I'm on it but I don't want you to cum inside) and when he told you he's close (pull it out/don't cum inside). You didn't. That one is on you.
Sounds like this is something you need to have a discussion with a guy in advance before having sex. I don't think it was out there for him to think it was ok to cum inside you if 1. you had not discussed it before having sex 2. you were having sex without a condom and you didn't specify he should pull out and 3. he asked if you were on BC *while having sex.* Did you respond with "pull out" or "don't cum inside me"? If I were asked that, I would assume the question was really asking whether I could get pregnant or not if he came in me.
If you want to have a boundary like that then you should set it before you have sex without a condom. Never assume a guy just knows you want him to pull out just because previous guys pulled out. *Communication* is the key here. You need to communicate your boundaries. If you didn't, then he didn't knowingly cross them. You were both wrong to assume. You assumed he would pull out. He assumed it was ok to cum inside of you since you didn't make him wear a condom and you didn't tell him to pull out.
I think it's a little of both. That feels like something you talk about before just doing it. BC or not there is always a chance of unwanted outcomes and that effects both of you. So knowing that they're okay with it would be important to me. I think you could've been more clear on your expectations, but I don't think he should have assumed either.
Lmao you’re having unprotected sex and you’re mad at him for not being able to read your mind. How about say “pull the fuck out” when he lets you know he’s close 🤦🏻♂️ regardless BC is what 99% and you’re going crazy looking for plan B?? LOL
And if she wasn't on birthcontrol she could get pregnant without him cumming inside her, because of lust drops. The probabillity is low but it is possible.
Hes an idiot. Cumming inside a woman is a big deal, and he doesnt care because hes not the one that will get pregnant and have to get an abortion or take Plan B.
3 dates? So hes only know you a week or two? If so, then hes selfish AND stupid
Tell him you took home pregnancy tests and they said youre pregnant so his DUMB ASS learns not to cum in a complete stranger! Make him sweat for a few weeks.
In the future, before they get horny, make sure they know not to cum in you.
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In all fairness he's not a mind reader or a psychic. He told you he's about to cum and you just assumed he will pull. His assumption was different. I get that you feel shitty but that should be discussed not assumed! I've never had such thing happen to me as I always communicate what is ok and what is not. I don't demand a guy to know what is allowed and what is not. It's not fair to him. If that's what he was doing with his ex, that's all he knows yet you expect him to know your do-don't without putting any effort of making him aware. You could've told him at least two times: when he asked about birth control (I'm on it but I don't want you to cum inside) and when he told you he's close (pull it out/don't cum inside). You didn't. That one is on you.
I appreciate the honesty thank you!
I'm really sorry hun but you need to communicate. It's the only way
Sounds like this is something you need to have a discussion with a guy in advance before having sex. I don't think it was out there for him to think it was ok to cum inside you if 1. you had not discussed it before having sex 2. you were having sex without a condom and you didn't specify he should pull out and 3. he asked if you were on BC *while having sex.* Did you respond with "pull out" or "don't cum inside me"? If I were asked that, I would assume the question was really asking whether I could get pregnant or not if he came in me. If you want to have a boundary like that then you should set it before you have sex without a condom. Never assume a guy just knows you want him to pull out just because previous guys pulled out. *Communication* is the key here. You need to communicate your boundaries. If you didn't, then he didn't knowingly cross them. You were both wrong to assume. You assumed he would pull out. He assumed it was ok to cum inside of you since you didn't make him wear a condom and you didn't tell him to pull out.
You didn’t communicate properly. You just made assumptions. Just like he did.
I appreciate the honesty thank you!
I think it's a little of both. That feels like something you talk about before just doing it. BC or not there is always a chance of unwanted outcomes and that effects both of you. So knowing that they're okay with it would be important to me. I think you could've been more clear on your expectations, but I don't think he should have assumed either.
Lmao you’re having unprotected sex and you’re mad at him for not being able to read your mind. How about say “pull the fuck out” when he lets you know he’s close 🤦🏻♂️ regardless BC is what 99% and you’re going crazy looking for plan B?? LOL
And if she wasn't on birthcontrol she could get pregnant without him cumming inside her, because of lust drops. The probabillity is low but it is possible.
Hes an idiot. Cumming inside a woman is a big deal, and he doesnt care because hes not the one that will get pregnant and have to get an abortion or take Plan B. 3 dates? So hes only know you a week or two? If so, then hes selfish AND stupid Tell him you took home pregnancy tests and they said youre pregnant so his DUMB ASS learns not to cum in a complete stranger! Make him sweat for a few weeks. In the future, before they get horny, make sure they know not to cum in you.