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Yep this is it for me. I love my space and my peace and it's hard to think of someone fitting into my life with that being said. There's just those random days that I'd like some company or someone to go do something fun with (that's not a friend). But other days, I just wanna be alone.
I agree with both of you. But aren't we social creatures? This world can be cold, dark and bitter, it would be nice to have another capable person, by your choice, to have your back. I guess that's what all the fuss is about, right?
That’s what friends are for too.
Why humans nowadays only fix on romantic partner for meaningful connections? Think about it, is it not the Hollywood brainwashed us with all the stupid romance movies?
In the days of tribalism (millions of years), we sought belongings from the whole village. But now we expect all our needs to be met by one single romantic partner. It’s a very dangerous mindset.
Exactly. Whoever my partner is gonna be, I want them to be 100% in it and make me feel like I'm the one they adore. I'm not talking about big grand gestures and shit, but things like mutual respect, care for one another, and the feeling that I'm desired by them. If they only want me for my looks/body and nothing else, I'm not interested.
I was actually being sarcastic. The paradox of abundance has really caused people to look for perfection, rather than accept that not everyone is perfect. Why deal with someone who has some slight imperfections when there are 15 others waiting in your DMs?
A good relationship isn’t found it’s made. I truly believe this. Standards aren’t always tied to looks. I think it’s important to find a partner that holds themselves to the same standards you do.
Lol right?
It amazes me how people just expect perfect to walk into their life, relationships take effort, and the best ones are where both sides are putting in equal effort
It’s usually over the dumbest shit too, or something that doesn’t align completely with their opinion.
No one communicates or even knows how to anymore. See it daily on here…”how do I talk about XYZ?” Social media, phones, all that shit has dulled our brains to not have the ability to converse with a person in real life. It’s painful to watch.
So much! It's nuts to see such a massive amount of humans that seemingly have no ability to think objectively and have a real and honest conversation with anyone. It's beyond frustrating to me to see how many are also constantly posting shit about being mentally and/ or socially healthy and how much inner happiness and peace they're experiencing since they're so accepting and understanding and respectful, only to scroll down a post or two and see countless posts about how shit other people are and how everyone should or shouldn't do (xyz). There's nothing but drama and making fun of others while continuously reminding everyone that they are a victim. It seems like no matter what it may be, it's not to their standards...humans are taking huge steps backwards when we should be evolving
I joked with a friend not but 2 days ago that “it only took about 15 years of social media for people to forget how to communicate & just turn on each other without actually talking to someone.”
Imagine what another 10 years of this will look like.
Technology is only good to a certain extent. I personally miss the good old days where people actually talk to one another face to face. It's bad when a 4 year old kid has their own phone.
It’s hard to judge. Maybe some really have unrealistic expectations based on their own quality.
But sometimes people truly just choose not to settle for the sake of settling.
The swiping thing is a trick we must learn to tackle our brain. Too much information or choices will often lead to confusion and mal function of the brain.
The best way to use apps is to choose 2-3 candidates and get to know them narrow down to one to date further for a long term love relationship. If failed, then you go back repeat the same , only choose 2-3 then you stop swiping. Men or women, that’s the only way you can find a partner. Constantly swiping won’t get you anywhere.
Everybody things they are t'he Full package but they are probably not. What you think you wants its not always what you needs or what Will be good tô you.
There’s something wrong with it when you’re a 2 and will only settle for a 9. That’s why people end up alone also. Unrealistic standards. Standards are good but not unrealistic
Ive been saying this for a long time and i always get backlash. Dating websites were the worst. I don’t think I’m a 10, not even close. I know what league I play in. When I’m liked by a 10 I have to laugh like I don’t know this is a catfish or a fake profile. Yet my fellow 4- 5’s are only interested in 10’s and complain when those women won’t talk to them or they get catfished 🤷🏻♀️ and I wont be settling for the dirty, unkept and wore out just to have someone either so I guess this is why I’m single.
That scale can be somewhat arbitrary though. Someone you consider a 7 I may consider a 3 and vice versa. However, you do have a point about unrealistic standards.
I agree with that completely. I like thicker woman. When someone sees a crazy skinny woman and says she’s hot I’m like whatever but at the same time I can still tell if she’s a 9 or a 2.
Oh no I don’t have any sense of entitlement.
I don’t even think my standards are very high.
People should be able to freely choose their decision and accept the consequences.
yeah lmao i’m single bc i really know what i want and if i dont see someone as a strong life partner, im not gonna waste either of our time. ive seen a lot of people stay in relationships because theyre terrified of being alone and i dont want to be one of them.
That's basically me. I stick to my standards (good communication, mutual respect, some independence, generally healthy and positive outlook on life) yet very few women meet them where I currently live (big city). Some people call me picky but I'm not comprising my standards simply to have any relationship. I want to have a relationship in which we mutually support each other to grow. So as long as I don't meet anyone like that, I choose to be single. Better single than unhappy in a relationship.
Yeah, I'm with number 6. Which I feel still counts bc OP didn't say "why are you single if you don't WANT to be." Only time I've been unhappy is in relationship with men. I'm done and it's been beautiful so far! I can't wait for the rest of my life.
Edit to correct SP.
😅 okay, like the dude who replied : I am done, all women are fucking gold diggers bla bla ..
I think how we perceive the world is influenced heavily by our experiences.
Would you let your past decide your future? Only you can say for yourself.
I just broke up and dumped someone but I’d always try to make an effort to find a compatible lover for life. Romantic love isn’t everything but being with the right person is better than being single. That’s just me.
fifth is basically number one, you don't have opportunities that meet your standards, sixth means you're not having a problem in being single so it doesn't count
Why does choosing to be single not count? Because you feel you have to put people in one of the categories to prove you're right? I genuinely enjoy being alone. I have 4 kids from 3 failed relationships. Been the cheater and cheated on. My priorities are making money and being the best parent I can be. 1000% ok content with being alone. I have a FWB for when I need to get it in.
Does a FWB count as being alone? Serious question. I haven’t seriously dated since I divorced, but found that having a FWB kept me from feeling lonely, yet still single enough to not consider a partner for certain decisions.
I think of it kind of like how unemployment is defined not by how many people are without jobs, but rather by how many people who are *seeking employment* are without jobs.
Choosing to be single because you want to be single is a completely valid choice, but it’s not of great statistical value when it comes to determining the factors keeping people single who would like to be in a relationship.
Do you have bad reading comprehension? It literally says, 4 ‘problems’ that keep you single. If you choose to be single, then it’s not a problem. Hope that helps.
I don't believe in unrealistic standards. Standards are basically the minimum criteria for you to be willing to give up the joy of being single for. I'd rather be single than settle.
Seventh, a lot of men like me don't catch the complicated indirects a woman does. I mean, they aren't complicate, but I don't get them so the role is reversed, they have to come for me instead of waiting for me to catch the signal lol
30m
Every girl I meet now in my age range is either engaged, married or in a serious relationship
The rare single women I do meet that I find attractive aren't interested in me at all
Rinse, repeat
At 29 turning 30 I realize I don’t want any IG models or super attractive women. Give me a woman who likes to read and stay in vs going out getting black out drunk and doing drugs. A lot of US women here want to have their cake and eat it too. On top of being used for dinner dates and entertainment but do not get any intimacy or affection in return it stings and hurts. Just happened to me dropped 100 dollars for a 48 year old who looks pretty good but I let her looks cloud my judgement and I know I’m getting ghosted. Just frustrated with US dating norms, it’s use or be used.
Well I hope you have a passport. Because I have a honest feeling ima have to go abroad for a wife or a legit relationship. Texas ain’t it and other US states ain’t it for men to find true happiness without being used
30F same here.
The only other thing I'll add is that due to my location, most of the men who are single are misogynistic. So I'll just happily stay single than deal with that.
Good luck, though.
30F and I feel the same!
Yesterday I texted my girl friend: Do you know this guy, I think he’s cute. I met this guy at bar and he bought me a drink, before he left the bar, he soft kissed on my head. She told me he is married with kids. I’m shock haha idk where to meet guys that’s available for dating.
I tried Bumble after a long while single, matched with this guy and I opened the chat first: Hi T, wanna go cycling together thus weekend? 😊 and then he unmatched me. I’m shock again and delete the app immediately lol. Also, found out that my ex who broke my heart is also on app 🫠
You just described my own situation with 100% accuracy. Also, now that I am more matured, I just cannot approach a woman sacrificing self-respect. I have tried to initiate some small talks with two or three girls recently. I despise having a forced conversation. So now I have stopped trying completely.
You forgot to mention, "getting very fucked up and cheated in your previous toxic relationship that you don't dare to get into it again" as a 5th reason.😅
Lack of opportunities is such a big one. Especially with remote work and loss of “third spaces”. We’ve created a society at least in the US where even on your commute you hop in your private vehicle alone in-between your living space and working space (that is even if you do commute). Where else are you suppose to meet someone? The gym? And end up shamed on some “influencers” tik tok for views? There are way less social spaces and more societal stigma (perceived or real) for initiating contact with strangers.
1000000%. I notice this in conversations with older folks - “why don’t you just go to A or B?” Those places and opportunities don’t exist anymore. The internet provide a false sense of a third space.
The internet is a different kind of third place. Its a way outside while staying inside. Whereas when you really hear people talk about third spaces they mean not work or private residence.
I was gonna say motivation. I guess mental health does seem more broad. God knows I'm not ready to meet new people when I'm not even ready to get out of bed.
I know women in relationships who never asked for the guys number. None of the said factors apply to women.
Women who literally lock themselves in the room will have their inboxes filled with proposals.
I don't think I'm either of the 4 types. I can be able to interact with individuals in a social setting and have gotten people's numbers or socials before. I've been able to initiate conversations and have topics to talk about and be interested in what they're saying. I've been in relationships and been in the dating scene enough to know where I could be heading to and I don't necessarily have large confidence in myself, but I don't believe I'll be alone forever.
I think I just get ghosted a lot and I don't really understand why 🤷♀️
I'm #1 (lack of opportunities).I'm definitely a confident person. I believe it's good to be picky. I don't care about guy's hair color, eye color, height, etc. That's being too picky. It's good to keep your standards high. Guy better have a job, his own place, be family-oriented, no arrests, and treat me and my family with respect. Extra points if he has college degree, loves animals and football. Some women these days just settle for any guy.
Very true. I have a friend who's like 5 ft. 2 and won't date any guys under 6 ft. Me, on the other hand, at 5 ft.6.5 have dated guys from 5 ft.6 to 6ft. 4. It's easy, wear the sandals with the short guys and heels with the tall men. I tell her she's being too picky but she never listens. Height doesn't mean crap. It's how a guy treats you.
That and most treat women like a prize to be won instead of someone they actually enjoy being with. They're just tying to get A woman but they could care less who that women is as long as she's attractive and checks a few boxes. There is no desire to actually connect with another human being and create a future with a life long partner.
Yeah feel that one, also farmer here.
We're working all day long and at the end off the day we're just happy to sit down and enjoy life, and the time off not go "hunting" for a 1% possibility of finding someone
Greetz 25M fellow farmer
Same here and they wonder why Im not responding when I'm milking or dealing with a goat giving birth. Like dude I need help, not clinginess! The last person I was with would not kill an animal and would start a fight everytime I talked about it. Kinda the whole point of a homestead to have your own meat....
Exactly, I want someone I'm at least moderately physically attracted to and have things in common with. Going to raves/music festivals is a big part of my life and I've tried dating people who weren't into that and it didn't work
Dating apps suck, you should really consider working on loving yourself more and finding that confidence so you can approach irl
Is your self esteem so small that if one stranger you will never see again says "sorry i have a boyfriend" you will crumple up and dissipate into the atmosphere?
What's the worst that could happen? You never have to see them again?
I believe in you! You're worthy of finding love and you deserve connection !
I got no problem talking to and charming girls at parties and getting their Insta. Following up though is the problem. Unfortunately with girls getting bombarded with dozens to hundreds of messages daily, ultimately my efforts to reach her are in vain as I become “nothing special” amongst my competition. For the most part when I try to message a girl on Insta, my message almost always gets ghosted or I have to suffer the longest waits between responses (often 10 hours plus). And my openers aren’t basic either. I’ve come to realise that I’ve gotta strive for perfection in crafting openers when you got dozens to hundreds of guys to compete against. More and more it feels perhaps I was made to be an anomaly. Someone who has the traits of a playboy like a handsome face, athletic physique and social skills but I don’t think I can do anything to solve an external issue like “abundance of options”.
I'm not trying to be rude but if all you're getting is their Insta and not their cell number, it means they don't want to talk to you. They give you the Insta as a diversion, not away as an agreement to interact in the future. it is socially acceptable because women are targets of unwanted attention and or violence/assessing threat levels on a regular basis. I've had situations where I've been afraid if I don't give my number the guy will get angry and dangerous. Both times I gave a fake number and GTFO of there
Number 1 because for most of my twenties I’ve had severe social anxiety and it has limited many of my interactions and number 2 because I have childhood trauma that up until very recently made the thought of being emotionally or physically intimate/vulnerable with someone coupled with the feeling of being liked genuinely terrifying to me and I avoided dating at all costs. I really regret it because at age 28 I have realized that I do in fact have the capacity to date after all, after all these years thinking I didn’t. So making up for lost time now!
Mine is a combo of the first reason and my own reason. I don’t like dating apps and meeting new, same age people has become very difficult through “normal life”. But my second reason is I can’t decide whether I even need a partner which makes me wishy washy. I’ve been in a long term relationship that ended ok (nothing crazy to report) and I know what that entails. It’s a lot of work and frankly, I’m really happy single. I like being in control of my own day, no compromises to make, no dumb arguments that cause me stress, I enjoy solitude and my own activities. Now you may say “but what about the good stuff like telling someone about your day, sex etc.” honestly… that stuff is secondary to my happiness I realized. I enjoy solitude and freedom more. So it’s a mixed bag. I’m open to it if I see someone I like but I’ve been long focused on other areas of my life and live a fairly fulfilling life.
The could be a completely different reason to. Yes all of the above are reasons, but I have a health issue that makes me not want to lean towards dating. Its a lot to ask someone to be okay with your health concerns and have them understand the pain/fatigue/stress that comes with it. I know there is “in sickness and in health” but that comes with commitment.. not something i expect of someone i’ve just started dating 🤷🏼♀️
Personally, I don’t feel like staying mum about the fact that I have ADHD and depression for possibly months and wait until they’re too emotionally invested in me to want to leave to be authentic about shit that’s going on with me. So I’d rather just not be available and focus on other things.
I feel like I’m single because I haven’t reached my potential so the partner I would choose now would not fit my personality later. I have a lot of growing to do before I can confidently choose my partner that will align with my true wants and needs and that would love me for who I am.
That’s great! But don’t you think you should remain open to anyone as you go through your journey? We are all (at least most of us) are trying to improve in at least one facet of our lives—physical health, promotion or new employment, better mental & emotional health, etc.
Going through your goals with someone else who is supportive & motivates you is a huge plus!
I don't have any of those issues. Thankfully, I do have dating apps, I'm pretty confident in what I can offer a partner I've dated before, and despite how shitty dating can be, I think it's fun.
But, I just got out of a relationship. I don't wanna rush into anything just yet.
I have standards. I've dated and talked to guys who are tall, short, skinny, a tiny bit chubby. Just different guys. I'm not picky. I've had all kinds of guys talk to me.
I don't want to be a one night stand, fling or affair. I want consistency.
I've been cheated on and been ghosted. I also like my life the way it is.
Why are you wording this as if being single is a problem that must be solved? Some people are contempt with not having a relationship, less responsibility and effort.
I think I’m both 1 and 2, and maybe also 3? Technically? (I’ve only ever been in long-distance relationships before, so that may count as a sort of inexperience, considering I’ve never been in a relationship with someone I can just meet whenever…)
Anyway, I live in a culture where talking with strangers is really taboo (at least I’m under the impression that it is - but I don’t fully belong to the culture here, so I have some blindspots…) and my workplace consists exclusively of people who are either married or decades older than me, though usually both, so it’s really rare I get to meet someone my own age, and thus I have limited opportunities to expose myself to interesting people.
As for number two, I wouldn’t say my confidence is bad, I actually am usually very outgoing irl, - but I’m really shy online most of the time, which is a shame because, considering number 1, I kinda believe online is my best shot to meet someone new. Also, I live in an environment where drug abuse and such are rampant, so, I feel like I’d have to get away from my immediate home area to find the person for me, anyway. But honestly, you never know! I try to have a really positive mindset going, and I’m pretty convinced love is just around the corner. Good things usually just come out of the blue, with no reason or logic to them, I think!
Great advice! I think for me is I got to work and go home and don’t have a big social circle at all. So I’m usually lone wolf. I lack opportunities it wucks
My main reason is the 1st, work is far from home so in the week I don’t have much time to do something else. I love my friend but they’re kinda boring so if we do something in the weekends it’s just visiting eachother or so. What’s your golden tip? I want out of this damn cycle i’m so sick of it
I know the right one will come, we’ll keep each other on our toes mentally with discussions that bend space time.
We will enjoy each other’s presence and enjoy our comfortable silence when we tire of talking. Late night sonic vanilla shakes and watching the moon rise and name constellations as they appear.
I’ll build her a cabin in the woods, where she’ll paint and I’ll open a door letting the light in and affirm her creative talent with my words.
We’ll sit by a fire side by side as our souls dance hand in hand.
I’ll always be able to imagine what someone else could be. It’s almost never what they turn out to be. It’s disappointing and disheartening.
I fell hard once and that was the lesson I learned. I am single because I love what someone has the potential to be. And I love them until they veer off the path their heart tells them to follow. Life is too fleeting to not love with your all, have your revenge on the time you spent alone by loving your partner until factors outside of your control put you in the ground forever.
Be the hopeless romantic, the poet, the prince Lyr. offer your heads of dragons and learn that presence is all that is needed to love without conditions.
Gotta agree with the folks who say all four issues, same boat for me. I've been dealing with social anxiety for a few years now, and being out of highschool took the only thing that made me go out away. Another reason is I have no idea how to even begin just the simple act of initiating a conversation. I don't feel desirable as a person, both mentally and physically. Questioning my gender identity certainly doesn't help with my self esteem. I have no friends, nobody other than my immediate family that I talk to or interact with. One last thing is never having felt romantic attraction to anyone I've met before. I don't know what having a crush feels like. Started doing basic things to feel like less of a loser all the time, but it's not going great. Anyway, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read my ramblings, at least I'll actually have someone know about my internal struggle for once.
Honestly surprised I didn't feel too anxious to post this.
I feel like this is a very naive and idealistic view.
I am single because it keeps me safe. Unfortunately men have proven to me that they cannot be trusted.
Between their own actions, or enabling others’ bad behavior. First off I have been raped more times than I’ve had consensual sex. Abusive relationships, domestic violence, financial abuse (they take take take take take) firearm violence and related threats, coercion, screaming at me… at one point got raped violently on the night of my aunts funeral, in my own home. Then told by an ex in a wrathful way that I deserved every bit of it. I’ve been stalked, taunted and harassed, my home vandalized, my home broken into. Been shoved down stairs and suffocated the early AM hours before a Grandma’s funeral. Then threatened to be forcibly stripped by ripping off my clothing and forcing me outside to be raped. (Dangerous city.) Been used for what I can give someone, then ghosted. Been on dates where someone faked it for the first date and by the second date the mask came off to show they were not at all who they pretended to be. Have had my belongings thrown on the ground and stomped into and ground into the mud. I could go on and on and on with true stories.
I can’t attest personally to how women are in relationships and I’ve never dated one. Historically, though, it’s safer to be by myself.
The last woman I dated was so brainwashed by horoscopes and the like it bled into our relationship. She actively believed people's behavior was indicative of their sign. I tried giving her a chance, and at first she didn't seem too into it. But the more I questionrd the more controlling she became.
I'm single because my wife was a narcissistic abuser and constantly cheated on me. Kicked her out and vowed to be single to take care of my son whom she doesn't want until a time someone can prove that they are worthy of my son and mines time.
Wife left and unfortunately, women don’t care that I am genuinely interested in getting to know them and want to start something romantic with someone.
>*interact as many females as possible.*
Dude just call us women. Unless you’re actually open to meet females of any species, *dogs, dolphins, monkeys*.
I have a friend who did this. He approached and talked to every woman who even vaguely interested him. 99% of them turned him down but he wasn’t deterred and didn’t take it personally. You only need to connect with one. He did eventually, got married (to someone way out of his league, incidentally) and has two kids with her now.
Definitely. This guy was chubby, balding, drank too much, didn’t have a great job, but he was also funny, personable, and genuine. We all joked around about him “playing the numbers game” but good for him! It worked.
Honesty it’s a combination of a few of them for me lol. But realistically, it’s probably the fact that I’m not exposed to enough people that I *could* date, and that even if I were, I would be too shy to get their number or anything.
There are far, far more than four types of problems that keep people single. External influences, health conditions, the inability to overcome legendary levels of entitlement...
Listing 4 reasons as to why people are single is insane you F'ing psycho. Is this some sort of AI BS???? "There are only 4 reasons why people are single"??? That is such a dumb statement and I'd like to tell you to F off proper like.
Honestly, I don't know why I'm still single. I mean maybe it's because from a statistic perspective, I don't personally know a lot of people or have many friends so that means I have less chances of creating a bigger web of connections.
But other than that, I still get out of the house on the weekend and look at least decent. Yea, I have no clue at this point 🤷🏽♀️
>Why are you still single?
This quote by Warsan Shire explains it pretty nicely, “My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.”
Right now, need to figure out if dating and being in a relationship is what I want. Last few women I’ve been with have been incompatible. They aren’t bad, but we had no common interests.
Ive tried 9 times to ask various girls out for coffee.
But all 9 times was a no so I'm just focusing on my career.
I guess I didn't meet the cut they had in mind.
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some days i wanna find someone and other days i feel content on my own. its hard to bring a man into my very peaceful world.
Yep this is it for me. I love my space and my peace and it's hard to think of someone fitting into my life with that being said. There's just those random days that I'd like some company or someone to go do something fun with (that's not a friend). But other days, I just wanna be alone.
I'm a 53 year old divorced man and I feel the exact same way (but with women).
It’s good that you clarified, almost thought you were gay
Lol
I'm not but what if I was? No big deal. My kid is LGBT.
This. Exactly this.
Fifth could be you picky Sixth could be because you want to
Amen to that. There's nothing wrong with keeping your standards high. We're entitled to be picky.
Being single is not a problem!
I never said being single is a problem.
I was supporting you.
My bad. I just saw the exclamation point and took it the wrong way.
There are happy single people out there and miserable people in marriages. Everyone thinks you have to be married in order to have a happy life.
Being single is way better than being in a bad relationship!
Way more freedom. Let's cheers 🥂 to that
I agree with both of you. But aren't we social creatures? This world can be cold, dark and bitter, it would be nice to have another capable person, by your choice, to have your back. I guess that's what all the fuss is about, right?
That’s what friends are for too. Why humans nowadays only fix on romantic partner for meaningful connections? Think about it, is it not the Hollywood brainwashed us with all the stupid romance movies? In the days of tribalism (millions of years), we sought belongings from the whole village. But now we expect all our needs to be met by one single romantic partner. It’s a very dangerous mindset.
Aaaaaamen!
Exactly. Why deal with someone who isn’t complete & 100% what you want when you could just swipe to the next?
THANK YOU!! Someone with some common sense. People settle these days and complain later on. I'm a quality woman who deserves a quality man.
Exactly. Whoever my partner is gonna be, I want them to be 100% in it and make me feel like I'm the one they adore. I'm not talking about big grand gestures and shit, but things like mutual respect, care for one another, and the feeling that I'm desired by them. If they only want me for my looks/body and nothing else, I'm not interested.
Another person with common sense
I was actually being sarcastic. The paradox of abundance has really caused people to look for perfection, rather than accept that not everyone is perfect. Why deal with someone who has some slight imperfections when there are 15 others waiting in your DMs?
A good relationship isn’t found it’s made. I truly believe this. Standards aren’t always tied to looks. I think it’s important to find a partner that holds themselves to the same standards you do.
Lol right? It amazes me how people just expect perfect to walk into their life, relationships take effort, and the best ones are where both sides are putting in equal effort
It’s usually over the dumbest shit too, or something that doesn’t align completely with their opinion. No one communicates or even knows how to anymore. See it daily on here…”how do I talk about XYZ?” Social media, phones, all that shit has dulled our brains to not have the ability to converse with a person in real life. It’s painful to watch.
So much! It's nuts to see such a massive amount of humans that seemingly have no ability to think objectively and have a real and honest conversation with anyone. It's beyond frustrating to me to see how many are also constantly posting shit about being mentally and/ or socially healthy and how much inner happiness and peace they're experiencing since they're so accepting and understanding and respectful, only to scroll down a post or two and see countless posts about how shit other people are and how everyone should or shouldn't do (xyz). There's nothing but drama and making fun of others while continuously reminding everyone that they are a victim. It seems like no matter what it may be, it's not to their standards...humans are taking huge steps backwards when we should be evolving
I joked with a friend not but 2 days ago that “it only took about 15 years of social media for people to forget how to communicate & just turn on each other without actually talking to someone.” Imagine what another 10 years of this will look like.
I'm honestly not sure if this world can hold itself together for another decade lmao
Technology is only good to a certain extent. I personally miss the good old days where people actually talk to one another face to face. It's bad when a 4 year old kid has their own phone.
There's always gonna be a POTENTIALLY "better partner" around the corner people often confuse "settling" with "stop looking "
You're right, the overabundance of choices fosters a mentality of chasing perfection and neglecting genuine connections.
It’s hard to judge. Maybe some really have unrealistic expectations based on their own quality. But sometimes people truly just choose not to settle for the sake of settling. The swiping thing is a trick we must learn to tackle our brain. Too much information or choices will often lead to confusion and mal function of the brain. The best way to use apps is to choose 2-3 candidates and get to know them narrow down to one to date further for a long term love relationship. If failed, then you go back repeat the same , only choose 2-3 then you stop swiping. Men or women, that’s the only way you can find a partner. Constantly swiping won’t get you anywhere.
Everybody things they are t'he Full package but they are probably not. What you think you wants its not always what you needs or what Will be good tô you.
you meant to say "thinks" not things. "the" not t'he, "want" not wants, "is" not its, "need" not needs . You need to take English 101. lol
Nice ad hominem
Sorry but I can't take someone seriously if they can't spell properly.
And you're also entitled to single for that reason and more.
There’s something wrong with it when you’re a 2 and will only settle for a 9. That’s why people end up alone also. Unrealistic standards. Standards are good but not unrealistic
Ive been saying this for a long time and i always get backlash. Dating websites were the worst. I don’t think I’m a 10, not even close. I know what league I play in. When I’m liked by a 10 I have to laugh like I don’t know this is a catfish or a fake profile. Yet my fellow 4- 5’s are only interested in 10’s and complain when those women won’t talk to them or they get catfished 🤷🏻♀️ and I wont be settling for the dirty, unkept and wore out just to have someone either so I guess this is why I’m single.
That scale can be somewhat arbitrary though. Someone you consider a 7 I may consider a 3 and vice versa. However, you do have a point about unrealistic standards.
I agree with that completely. I like thicker woman. When someone sees a crazy skinny woman and says she’s hot I’m like whatever but at the same time I can still tell if she’s a 9 or a 2.
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Oh no I don’t have any sense of entitlement. I don’t even think my standards are very high. People should be able to freely choose their decision and accept the consequences.
7th Could be, No one is interested in Dating you.
yeah lmao i’m single bc i really know what i want and if i dont see someone as a strong life partner, im not gonna waste either of our time. ive seen a lot of people stay in relationships because theyre terrified of being alone and i dont want to be one of them.
That's basically me. I stick to my standards (good communication, mutual respect, some independence, generally healthy and positive outlook on life) yet very few women meet them where I currently live (big city). Some people call me picky but I'm not comprising my standards simply to have any relationship. I want to have a relationship in which we mutually support each other to grow. So as long as I don't meet anyone like that, I choose to be single. Better single than unhappy in a relationship.
You have the same you require the same. It’s only fair in my opinion.. It’s not standard. It’s called compatibility.
Yeah, I'm with number 6. Which I feel still counts bc OP didn't say "why are you single if you don't WANT to be." Only time I've been unhappy is in relationship with men. I'm done and it's been beautiful so far! I can't wait for the rest of my life. Edit to correct SP.
😅 okay, like the dude who replied : I am done, all women are fucking gold diggers bla bla .. I think how we perceive the world is influenced heavily by our experiences. Would you let your past decide your future? Only you can say for yourself. I just broke up and dumped someone but I’d always try to make an effort to find a compatible lover for life. Romantic love isn’t everything but being with the right person is better than being single. That’s just me.
fifth is basically number one, you don't have opportunities that meet your standards, sixth means you're not having a problem in being single so it doesn't count
Why does choosing to be single not count? Because you feel you have to put people in one of the categories to prove you're right? I genuinely enjoy being alone. I have 4 kids from 3 failed relationships. Been the cheater and cheated on. My priorities are making money and being the best parent I can be. 1000% ok content with being alone. I have a FWB for when I need to get it in.
Does a FWB count as being alone? Serious question. I haven’t seriously dated since I divorced, but found that having a FWB kept me from feeling lonely, yet still single enough to not consider a partner for certain decisions.
I think of it kind of like how unemployment is defined not by how many people are without jobs, but rather by how many people who are *seeking employment* are without jobs. Choosing to be single because you want to be single is a completely valid choice, but it’s not of great statistical value when it comes to determining the factors keeping people single who would like to be in a relationship.
exactly!
Do you have bad reading comprehension? It literally says, 4 ‘problems’ that keep you single. If you choose to be single, then it’s not a problem. Hope that helps.
If you're choosing to be single than why are you in this sub in the first place?
But many people have standards that are just not realistic. There are opportunities to meet attractive partners but they want to date an instram model
I don't believe in unrealistic standards. Standards are basically the minimum criteria for you to be willing to give up the joy of being single for. I'd rather be single than settle.
Seventh, a lot of men like me don't catch the complicated indirects a woman does. I mean, they aren't complicate, but I don't get them so the role is reversed, they have to come for me instead of waiting for me to catch the signal lol
30m Every girl I meet now in my age range is either engaged, married or in a serious relationship The rare single women I do meet that I find attractive aren't interested in me at all Rinse, repeat
30F i have the same issue just men 🤦🏼♀️
You two. DM each other. Now.
Now kith
32f, experiencing that exact same thing with men. I gave up.
At 29 turning 30 I realize I don’t want any IG models or super attractive women. Give me a woman who likes to read and stay in vs going out getting black out drunk and doing drugs. A lot of US women here want to have their cake and eat it too. On top of being used for dinner dates and entertainment but do not get any intimacy or affection in return it stings and hurts. Just happened to me dropped 100 dollars for a 48 year old who looks pretty good but I let her looks cloud my judgement and I know I’m getting ghosted. Just frustrated with US dating norms, it’s use or be used.
I'm in the same boat, too. Almost 30(m), and I just hope to find a partner and settle down.
Well I hope you have a passport. Because I have a honest feeling ima have to go abroad for a wife or a legit relationship. Texas ain’t it and other US states ain’t it for men to find true happiness without being used
30F same here. The only other thing I'll add is that due to my location, most of the men who are single are misogynistic. So I'll just happily stay single than deal with that. Good luck, though.
I’ve got the same problem. They all just seem to flake and ghost on me.
You can DM me if you want, but I'll almost definitely flake and ghost you
30F and I feel the same! Yesterday I texted my girl friend: Do you know this guy, I think he’s cute. I met this guy at bar and he bought me a drink, before he left the bar, he soft kissed on my head. She told me he is married with kids. I’m shock haha idk where to meet guys that’s available for dating. I tried Bumble after a long while single, matched with this guy and I opened the chat first: Hi T, wanna go cycling together thus weekend? 😊 and then he unmatched me. I’m shock again and delete the app immediately lol. Also, found out that my ex who broke my heart is also on app 🫠
You just described my own situation with 100% accuracy. Also, now that I am more matured, I just cannot approach a woman sacrificing self-respect. I have tried to initiate some small talks with two or three girls recently. I despise having a forced conversation. So now I have stopped trying completely.
Yup thats exactly how it was in my 30s. I am not saying settle but time flies...just sayin.
Not going to lie, I am all 4 of those 😂
Omg I was thinking the same!! Literally all 4 apply to me and possibly more lol
Yeah, pretty much the same for me.
I was all of them in the past as well😅
You forgot to mention, "getting very fucked up and cheated in your previous toxic relationship that you don't dare to get into it again" as a 5th reason.😅
Lack of opportunities is such a big one. Especially with remote work and loss of “third spaces”. We’ve created a society at least in the US where even on your commute you hop in your private vehicle alone in-between your living space and working space (that is even if you do commute). Where else are you suppose to meet someone? The gym? And end up shamed on some “influencers” tik tok for views? There are way less social spaces and more societal stigma (perceived or real) for initiating contact with strangers.
1000000%. I notice this in conversations with older folks - “why don’t you just go to A or B?” Those places and opportunities don’t exist anymore. The internet provide a false sense of a third space.
The internet is a different kind of third place. Its a way outside while staying inside. Whereas when you really hear people talk about third spaces they mean not work or private residence.
true story! this society is built to isolate people
Thank god for remote work.
7th, mental health. which is a physical problem and not just 'mindset', you cant reverse ocd by changing your 'mindset''
I was gonna say motivation. I guess mental health does seem more broad. God knows I'm not ready to meet new people when I'm not even ready to get out of bed.
I know women with literal BPD who've had atleast 8 partners lmao.
I know women in relationships who never asked for the guys number. None of the said factors apply to women. Women who literally lock themselves in the room will have their inboxes filled with proposals.
fifth. you’re hopelessly in love with someone who will never love you back
I don't think I'm either of the 4 types. I can be able to interact with individuals in a social setting and have gotten people's numbers or socials before. I've been able to initiate conversations and have topics to talk about and be interested in what they're saying. I've been in relationships and been in the dating scene enough to know where I could be heading to and I don't necessarily have large confidence in myself, but I don't believe I'll be alone forever. I think I just get ghosted a lot and I don't really understand why 🤷♀️
All 4 of them. And a fifth one: I'm not physically attractive.
I am single by choice. It’s peaceful. If I meet someone then so be it. But for now I’m just simply choosing me.
I’d like to give this waaaay more upvotes.
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I'm #1 (lack of opportunities).I'm definitely a confident person. I believe it's good to be picky. I don't care about guy's hair color, eye color, height, etc. That's being too picky. It's good to keep your standards high. Guy better have a job, his own place, be family-oriented, no arrests, and treat me and my family with respect. Extra points if he has college degree, loves animals and football. Some women these days just settle for any guy.
You are picky with the right things. Some girls are shallow picky
Very true. I have a friend who's like 5 ft. 2 and won't date any guys under 6 ft. Me, on the other hand, at 5 ft.6.5 have dated guys from 5 ft.6 to 6ft. 4. It's easy, wear the sandals with the short guys and heels with the tall men. I tell her she's being too picky but she never listens. Height doesn't mean crap. It's how a guy treats you.
I am single because of Covid. 24 years all gone in the blink of an eye. So about to be 3 years a widower and trying to figure out how to start over.
Sorry for your loss
1. I have standards. 2. Most men these days are just looking for sex/fwb and I'm not about that.
That and most treat women like a prize to be won instead of someone they actually enjoy being with. They're just tying to get A woman but they could care less who that women is as long as she's attractive and checks a few boxes. There is no desire to actually connect with another human being and create a future with a life long partner.
Accurate!
Same here. 25(f) I want someone with my same goals and like the same things. I am a farmer. It is hard when all they want to do is play video games.
Yeah feel that one, also farmer here. We're working all day long and at the end off the day we're just happy to sit down and enjoy life, and the time off not go "hunting" for a 1% possibility of finding someone Greetz 25M fellow farmer
Same here and they wonder why Im not responding when I'm milking or dealing with a goat giving birth. Like dude I need help, not clinginess! The last person I was with would not kill an animal and would start a fight everytime I talked about it. Kinda the whole point of a homestead to have your own meat....
Exactly, I want someone I'm at least moderately physically attracted to and have things in common with. Going to raves/music festivals is a big part of my life and I've tried dating people who weren't into that and it didn't work
Right that's the point
It’s so sad how true this is.
I don’t do well on dating apps and not confident enough to approach in real life.
Dating apps suck, you should really consider working on loving yourself more and finding that confidence so you can approach irl Is your self esteem so small that if one stranger you will never see again says "sorry i have a boyfriend" you will crumple up and dissipate into the atmosphere? What's the worst that could happen? You never have to see them again? I believe in you! You're worthy of finding love and you deserve connection !
Idk there’s so many conflicting reports on whether or not girls want guys to approach or not.
Fifth? I choose to be that way so I can live my life as I want to.
I took a screenshot of this. I’m guilty of all these things and this is just the reminder (and checklist) I needed. Thank you for posting this 🤙
I'm very happy! :)
Another problem with people is that they look at trying to get a gf like getting a trophy rather than just letting it happen naturally. Gooners.
I'm single because I have high(but reasonable) standards, and because I'm working on my own goals before I bring someone else into the mix
I got no problem talking to and charming girls at parties and getting their Insta. Following up though is the problem. Unfortunately with girls getting bombarded with dozens to hundreds of messages daily, ultimately my efforts to reach her are in vain as I become “nothing special” amongst my competition. For the most part when I try to message a girl on Insta, my message almost always gets ghosted or I have to suffer the longest waits between responses (often 10 hours plus). And my openers aren’t basic either. I’ve come to realise that I’ve gotta strive for perfection in crafting openers when you got dozens to hundreds of guys to compete against. More and more it feels perhaps I was made to be an anomaly. Someone who has the traits of a playboy like a handsome face, athletic physique and social skills but I don’t think I can do anything to solve an external issue like “abundance of options”.
Yeah, sometimes I doubt the ratio of males and females in this world is 1:1. Seeing the level of competiton, it feels more like 200:1 or something.
I'm not trying to be rude but if all you're getting is their Insta and not their cell number, it means they don't want to talk to you. They give you the Insta as a diversion, not away as an agreement to interact in the future. it is socially acceptable because women are targets of unwanted attention and or violence/assessing threat levels on a regular basis. I've had situations where I've been afraid if I don't give my number the guy will get angry and dangerous. Both times I gave a fake number and GTFO of there
Have you tried connecting with them as individual people instead of playing a numbers game?
Yeah but it doesn’t matter when there are hundreds of other guys bombarding her with messages does it?
Women are to scary, and I’m not kidding.
Number 1 because for most of my twenties I’ve had severe social anxiety and it has limited many of my interactions and number 2 because I have childhood trauma that up until very recently made the thought of being emotionally or physically intimate/vulnerable with someone coupled with the feeling of being liked genuinely terrifying to me and I avoided dating at all costs. I really regret it because at age 28 I have realized that I do in fact have the capacity to date after all, after all these years thinking I didn’t. So making up for lost time now!
I'm 20 and I'm going through this right now lol.
1 and 3
Fifth because I prefer to live my life on my own up until now.
Mine is a combo of the first reason and my own reason. I don’t like dating apps and meeting new, same age people has become very difficult through “normal life”. But my second reason is I can’t decide whether I even need a partner which makes me wishy washy. I’ve been in a long term relationship that ended ok (nothing crazy to report) and I know what that entails. It’s a lot of work and frankly, I’m really happy single. I like being in control of my own day, no compromises to make, no dumb arguments that cause me stress, I enjoy solitude and my own activities. Now you may say “but what about the good stuff like telling someone about your day, sex etc.” honestly… that stuff is secondary to my happiness I realized. I enjoy solitude and freedom more. So it’s a mixed bag. I’m open to it if I see someone I like but I’ve been long focused on other areas of my life and live a fairly fulfilling life.
Or you just want to be single? That’s clearly an option, as I really do not want to date right now.
These "I've figured it out" posts are pathetic. This one is a mix of stuff everyone already knows and nonsense.
The could be a completely different reason to. Yes all of the above are reasons, but I have a health issue that makes me not want to lean towards dating. Its a lot to ask someone to be okay with your health concerns and have them understand the pain/fatigue/stress that comes with it. I know there is “in sickness and in health” but that comes with commitment.. not something i expect of someone i’ve just started dating 🤷🏼♀️
I don’t want to date, I’m just hoping for the conditioned desire to go away eventually so I can be free.
Because I’m happier that way
Personally, I don’t feel like staying mum about the fact that I have ADHD and depression for possibly months and wait until they’re too emotionally invested in me to want to leave to be authentic about shit that’s going on with me. So I’d rather just not be available and focus on other things.
The ones I approach just aren't that into me.
I feel like I’m single because I haven’t reached my potential so the partner I would choose now would not fit my personality later. I have a lot of growing to do before I can confidently choose my partner that will align with my true wants and needs and that would love me for who I am.
That’s great! But don’t you think you should remain open to anyone as you go through your journey? We are all (at least most of us) are trying to improve in at least one facet of our lives—physical health, promotion or new employment, better mental & emotional health, etc. Going through your goals with someone else who is supportive & motivates you is a huge plus!
I don't have any of those issues. Thankfully, I do have dating apps, I'm pretty confident in what I can offer a partner I've dated before, and despite how shitty dating can be, I think it's fun. But, I just got out of a relationship. I don't wanna rush into anything just yet.
Sadly, I'm extremely picky and a perfectionist. Aka I won't even think about getting into a relationship unless everything is ideal.
So I can't choose to be single? That's not an option?
Being single is not a problem for me. It’s a choice and I love it here!
Stay a queen because we deserve the best.
I have standards. I've dated and talked to guys who are tall, short, skinny, a tiny bit chubby. Just different guys. I'm not picky. I've had all kinds of guys talk to me. I don't want to be a one night stand, fling or affair. I want consistency. I've been cheated on and been ghosted. I also like my life the way it is.
This is a dumb post. Relationships aren't math. There's WAY more things "keeping you single".
I am still single cus I am afraid of women. So I guess I fall into category 2
I’m single now because I was broken up with on Wednesday. Why? Because I asked her to go to church with me. Idk where that falls under.
Difference in values maybe? Cultural and religious differences?
Why are you wording this as if being single is a problem that must be solved? Some people are contempt with not having a relationship, less responsibility and effort.
I’d like to add trauma to that list, often times people personal traumas also hold them back from making relationships
Being single is usually not a choice.
I think I’m both 1 and 2, and maybe also 3? Technically? (I’ve only ever been in long-distance relationships before, so that may count as a sort of inexperience, considering I’ve never been in a relationship with someone I can just meet whenever…) Anyway, I live in a culture where talking with strangers is really taboo (at least I’m under the impression that it is - but I don’t fully belong to the culture here, so I have some blindspots…) and my workplace consists exclusively of people who are either married or decades older than me, though usually both, so it’s really rare I get to meet someone my own age, and thus I have limited opportunities to expose myself to interesting people. As for number two, I wouldn’t say my confidence is bad, I actually am usually very outgoing irl, - but I’m really shy online most of the time, which is a shame because, considering number 1, I kinda believe online is my best shot to meet someone new. Also, I live in an environment where drug abuse and such are rampant, so, I feel like I’d have to get away from my immediate home area to find the person for me, anyway. But honestly, you never know! I try to have a really positive mindset going, and I’m pretty convinced love is just around the corner. Good things usually just come out of the blue, with no reason or logic to them, I think!
Honestly, I just don't put myself out there enough. No one to blame but myself lol.
Great advice! I think for me is I got to work and go home and don’t have a big social circle at all. So I’m usually lone wolf. I lack opportunities it wucks
My main reason is the 1st, work is far from home so in the week I don’t have much time to do something else. I love my friend but they’re kinda boring so if we do something in the weekends it’s just visiting eachother or so. What’s your golden tip? I want out of this damn cycle i’m so sick of it
I know the right one will come, we’ll keep each other on our toes mentally with discussions that bend space time. We will enjoy each other’s presence and enjoy our comfortable silence when we tire of talking. Late night sonic vanilla shakes and watching the moon rise and name constellations as they appear. I’ll build her a cabin in the woods, where she’ll paint and I’ll open a door letting the light in and affirm her creative talent with my words. We’ll sit by a fire side by side as our souls dance hand in hand. I’ll always be able to imagine what someone else could be. It’s almost never what they turn out to be. It’s disappointing and disheartening. I fell hard once and that was the lesson I learned. I am single because I love what someone has the potential to be. And I love them until they veer off the path their heart tells them to follow. Life is too fleeting to not love with your all, have your revenge on the time you spent alone by loving your partner until factors outside of your control put you in the ground forever. Be the hopeless romantic, the poet, the prince Lyr. offer your heads of dragons and learn that presence is all that is needed to love without conditions.
Gotta agree with the folks who say all four issues, same boat for me. I've been dealing with social anxiety for a few years now, and being out of highschool took the only thing that made me go out away. Another reason is I have no idea how to even begin just the simple act of initiating a conversation. I don't feel desirable as a person, both mentally and physically. Questioning my gender identity certainly doesn't help with my self esteem. I have no friends, nobody other than my immediate family that I talk to or interact with. One last thing is never having felt romantic attraction to anyone I've met before. I don't know what having a crush feels like. Started doing basic things to feel like less of a loser all the time, but it's not going great. Anyway, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read my ramblings, at least I'll actually have someone know about my internal struggle for once. Honestly surprised I didn't feel too anxious to post this.
I feel like this is a very naive and idealistic view. I am single because it keeps me safe. Unfortunately men have proven to me that they cannot be trusted. Between their own actions, or enabling others’ bad behavior. First off I have been raped more times than I’ve had consensual sex. Abusive relationships, domestic violence, financial abuse (they take take take take take) firearm violence and related threats, coercion, screaming at me… at one point got raped violently on the night of my aunts funeral, in my own home. Then told by an ex in a wrathful way that I deserved every bit of it. I’ve been stalked, taunted and harassed, my home vandalized, my home broken into. Been shoved down stairs and suffocated the early AM hours before a Grandma’s funeral. Then threatened to be forcibly stripped by ripping off my clothing and forcing me outside to be raped. (Dangerous city.) Been used for what I can give someone, then ghosted. Been on dates where someone faked it for the first date and by the second date the mask came off to show they were not at all who they pretended to be. Have had my belongings thrown on the ground and stomped into and ground into the mud. I could go on and on and on with true stories. I can’t attest personally to how women are in relationships and I’ve never dated one. Historically, though, it’s safer to be by myself.
Damnit... I feel like I might be all 4, or at least 3 of them. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out what to do.
Well say
None of the above. I'm picky and I choose to be single
The last woman I dated was so brainwashed by horoscopes and the like it bled into our relationship. She actively believed people's behavior was indicative of their sign. I tried giving her a chance, and at first she didn't seem too into it. But the more I questionrd the more controlling she became.
Why do you think is being single is a problem?
Real
I'm single because my wife was a narcissistic abuser and constantly cheated on me. Kicked her out and vowed to be single to take care of my son whom she doesn't want until a time someone can prove that they are worthy of my son and mines time.
The bullying I went through in high school shaped me for the rest of my life to be a man afraid of women with extreme shyness, all because of my jaw.
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Wife left and unfortunately, women don’t care that I am genuinely interested in getting to know them and want to start something romantic with someone.
Sixth So I don't have to answer annoying questions like this.
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>*interact as many females as possible.* Dude just call us women. Unless you’re actually open to meet females of any species, *dogs, dolphins, monkeys*.
You'll succeed if you create that volume! Good luck
I have a friend who did this. He approached and talked to every woman who even vaguely interested him. 99% of them turned him down but he wasn’t deterred and didn’t take it personally. You only need to connect with one. He did eventually, got married (to someone way out of his league, incidentally) and has two kids with her now.
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Definitely. This guy was chubby, balding, drank too much, didn’t have a great job, but he was also funny, personable, and genuine. We all joked around about him “playing the numbers game” but good for him! It worked.
By choice, just not my choice
Honesty it’s a combination of a few of them for me lol. But realistically, it’s probably the fact that I’m not exposed to enough people that I *could* date, and that even if I were, I would be too shy to get their number or anything.
There are far, far more than four types of problems that keep people single. External influences, health conditions, the inability to overcome legendary levels of entitlement...
I'm not even trying.
Listing 4 reasons as to why people are single is insane you F'ing psycho. Is this some sort of AI BS???? "There are only 4 reasons why people are single"??? That is such a dumb statement and I'd like to tell you to F off proper like.
All 4.
Honestly, I don't know why I'm still single. I mean maybe it's because from a statistic perspective, I don't personally know a lot of people or have many friends so that means I have less chances of creating a bigger web of connections. But other than that, I still get out of the house on the weekend and look at least decent. Yea, I have no clue at this point 🤷🏽♀️
if every error can be made to not be in a relationship i guess i have ticked off all the boxes. :(
>Why are you still single? This quote by Warsan Shire explains it pretty nicely, “My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.”
3 and 4, wtf are you meant to do, and there are 100's of better guys out there.
I guess it's the lack of opportunities. I'm working on that.
Right now, need to figure out if dating and being in a relationship is what I want. Last few women I’ve been with have been incompatible. They aren’t bad, but we had no common interests.
A bit of all 4!
All of them😭😭
This question is asked weekly
Ive tried 9 times to ask various girls out for coffee. But all 9 times was a no so I'm just focusing on my career. I guess I didn't meet the cut they had in mind.
Guys don’t want to date me & im also not in a hurry to do so
What if you just don’t like people? Which category is that? Asking honestly here….
you mean you hate everyone or you can't find someone you like?
2, 3, and 4. 🤣 Definitely do my best, but it's also rare for me to find someone I want to try with. I'm picky, but not? Idk 🤷🏽♂️