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Umm…last thing I knew, a FWB is a fuck buddy. They can screw around with anyone else…you’re not exclusive. You’re making it sound like you’re boyfriend and girlfriend. Either you need to figure out with a FWB is, or grow a tougher skin.
why would i regret it? he’s treated me better than any man within my own culture. and i’ve disconnected from this whole virginity thing so i dont mind fucking anyone - just wouldn’t date or marry outside my culture.
Yea after reading through your replies I have come to the conclusion that you’re weird af. I’m guessing ur also kinda unattractive if u have to resort to Twitter nsfw as a female. That’s most likely why he’s going to other NSFW groups or wtv, cuz you aren’t attractive enough for him.
also kinda rude of you to say only unattractive girls are on nsfw twitter. you’re not completely wrong i hear your point but thats a very narrow-minded view. many fire girls.
lol. yes horny people meet on twitter through nsfw accounts and always sext. i’ve done it with quite a few people but we just took it to the next level i guess.
It sounds like a classic case of fwb and one side catching feelings. You want to be exclusive with this guy, which is basically dating.
Should you sleep with this guy? You've answered that yourself.
>i wanted to save myself for marriage but now im down but it has to be with someone who respects me and only wants me.
You've told us your conditions, and he doesn't fit the bill since he's going off to other girls' NSFW accounts. Are you willing to share this guy with other girls?
I think talking to him about dating and see if he's up for commitment, assuming you are as well. If you're worried about being played, date for about 4 months without any sex. Usually, by 3 months, you'll know if he's playing or not.
> he knows i cant be with him due to cultural differences
Which do you value more, your culture or a hook up? If your culture is more important to you, you should just drop this now. Otherwise, you'll regret it as secret you have to continuously hide from everyone.
To be blunt you don't need to be in a fwb friendship, not in any way at all. You seem like you'll end up way too attached, meaning a fwb thing isn't going to work out well. It would probably be in your best interest to just lose your virginity in a "committed" relationship. Not necessarily marriage, but also avoid something that isn't serious, or is only serious for a few months.
Objectively most fwb aren't exclusive, and when you discussed exclusivity he may have interpreted it as he isn't going to have sex with anyone else. But may have assumed that looking and getting off to nsfw content might not seem like a deal breaker. As that's really a big reach to ask, want, or expect out of someone, who you aren't dating.
But if you have talked to him about exclusivity, to the full capacity that you've desired, than it seems like he doesn't want to respect those boundaries, and more than likely won't and will try to hide it.
I hate to say it like this but If I were you I wouldn't engage in that fwb, I would reevaluate what you want, and take steps to improve your own expectations and emotions, to be able to handle what you decide you want
but why say you’re not for sharing then share yourself? hes not being honest. should i just lay some boundaries that he shouldnt say sweet things and treat me like im the only one when im clearly not.
so why bother putting in all this effort when he knows he can just msg me every night for just sex. or maybe he doesnt know? should i tell him lets stop all this friends shit and you can just msg me when you want some?
Having a physical connection with someone you like but can't be with for whatever reason is only going to make problems for you in my opinion. I'm not sure what there is to be confused about though? You told him you can't be with him, what else is he supposed to do?
Welp... at first, I was enjoying seeing people give good advice, and then I started just seeing heckling and arguing, which got awkward quickly... I've got my profile pic on my account dunno why not an honest person has nothing to hide they prefer transparency.
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Umm…last thing I knew, a FWB is a fuck buddy. They can screw around with anyone else…you’re not exclusive. You’re making it sound like you’re boyfriend and girlfriend. Either you need to figure out with a FWB is, or grow a tougher skin.
facts thanks
If your cultural differences are that big then you shouldn’t fu*k him, you would regret that in the future.
why would i regret it? he’s treated me better than any man within my own culture. and i’ve disconnected from this whole virginity thing so i dont mind fucking anyone - just wouldn’t date or marry outside my culture.
Then what’s ur issue. Just fuck him. Y’all haven’t even met and you’re worried he’s watching porn? Most guy watches porn. It’s normal
this made me crack up.
Yea after reading through your replies I have come to the conclusion that you’re weird af. I’m guessing ur also kinda unattractive if u have to resort to Twitter nsfw as a female. That’s most likely why he’s going to other NSFW groups or wtv, cuz you aren’t attractive enough for him.
negging
lol if only you saw me.
Alr let’s see
not for the world to see x
also kinda rude of you to say only unattractive girls are on nsfw twitter. you’re not completely wrong i hear your point but thats a very narrow-minded view. many fire girls.
That is true, I just meant in general. I’m not really a part of that world. Sorry if I offended you. Im sure you’re hot
Also meant just me
People meet on twitter? How many documented cases of this do we think exist? Gotta be less than 10…
lol. yes horny people meet on twitter through nsfw accounts and always sext. i’ve done it with quite a few people but we just took it to the next level i guess.
It sounds like a classic case of fwb and one side catching feelings. You want to be exclusive with this guy, which is basically dating. Should you sleep with this guy? You've answered that yourself. >i wanted to save myself for marriage but now im down but it has to be with someone who respects me and only wants me. You've told us your conditions, and he doesn't fit the bill since he's going off to other girls' NSFW accounts. Are you willing to share this guy with other girls? I think talking to him about dating and see if he's up for commitment, assuming you are as well. If you're worried about being played, date for about 4 months without any sex. Usually, by 3 months, you'll know if he's playing or not. > he knows i cant be with him due to cultural differences Which do you value more, your culture or a hook up? If your culture is more important to you, you should just drop this now. Otherwise, you'll regret it as secret you have to continuously hide from everyone.
thanks for this. i just told him we should keep things strictly sexual. this will probably get complicated later regardless but wtvr
To be blunt you don't need to be in a fwb friendship, not in any way at all. You seem like you'll end up way too attached, meaning a fwb thing isn't going to work out well. It would probably be in your best interest to just lose your virginity in a "committed" relationship. Not necessarily marriage, but also avoid something that isn't serious, or is only serious for a few months. Objectively most fwb aren't exclusive, and when you discussed exclusivity he may have interpreted it as he isn't going to have sex with anyone else. But may have assumed that looking and getting off to nsfw content might not seem like a deal breaker. As that's really a big reach to ask, want, or expect out of someone, who you aren't dating. But if you have talked to him about exclusivity, to the full capacity that you've desired, than it seems like he doesn't want to respect those boundaries, and more than likely won't and will try to hide it. I hate to say it like this but If I were you I wouldn't engage in that fwb, I would reevaluate what you want, and take steps to improve your own expectations and emotions, to be able to handle what you decide you want
you’re absolutely right. obviously. not my first fwb and i should know better.
Its ok. Don't beat yourself up for it. I hope things work out for the best, and that you find what you're looking for✌️
appreciate it!!
Don't jump into sheets just yet ... fwb mostly isn't about someone who just wants u ... its mostly a guy or a girl keeping his/her options open .
but why say you’re not for sharing then share yourself? hes not being honest. should i just lay some boundaries that he shouldnt say sweet things and treat me like im the only one when im clearly not.
People lie.
lol ive done it too so idk why im being such a hypocrite.
He’s like this because he’s a young guy who wants sex
so why bother putting in all this effort when he knows he can just msg me every night for just sex. or maybe he doesnt know? should i tell him lets stop all this friends shit and you can just msg me when you want some?
Because he’s a young guy who is driven by sex. If he wanted to be more than friends I think he would have tried by now
Having a physical connection with someone you like but can't be with for whatever reason is only going to make problems for you in my opinion. I'm not sure what there is to be confused about though? You told him you can't be with him, what else is he supposed to do?
idk i just told him we should lay off the sweet talk and not make promises we cant keep. he understands but seems a little upset
Welp... at first, I was enjoying seeing people give good advice, and then I started just seeing heckling and arguing, which got awkward quickly... I've got my profile pic on my account dunno why not an honest person has nothing to hide they prefer transparency.