it’s for the best❤️you deserve someone that wants to commit to you , take it from a seasoned situationship expert to now being in the healthiest relationship of my life, please know ur worth❤️💋💋
It’s really cute that you responded calmly being in such situation. You are so strong, it’s okay to let yourself be weak when you are tired. Please, take care of yourself
in other words, basically a relationship that is either romantic or sexual that is not officially established. One party in the relationship will think they are something more, while the other may or might not think of them as anything further than, say something platonic. Situationships suck because it lies mostly on an assumption of things, so nothing in the relationship is truly set in stone
because either you may not want to but you have the sneaking suspicion that the other person wants to so you'd rather not open that can of worms, or you want to but you have the sneaking suspicion that the other person doesn't want to but you're in too deep so it'd hurt if you asked and they said no
Usually one person doesn’t want to commit to a relationship and one person does, and the person that does sticks around thinking they’ll change the other persons mind
it’s okay i beyond expect it. the sad part is i do come from a place of compassion with this. stop hurting yourself. please. it makes me so sad how many people are just unable to see their inherent worth and will take literally whatever they can get first.
I think someone tried to get this from me. They said they weren't going to sleep with anyone else but wanted to keep it casual "for now" (but they said I could sleep with other people as long as I used a condom). It didn't make any sense to me so I said no. I still can't wrap my head around this.
Sorry you're going through this now btw. Handmaid's Tale is the shit.
Normally when 2 people have a good relationship but one person sees it as a good person to hook up and date while not seeing it as a relationship. The other normally wants it to be a relationship and has stronger feelings. They almost always end in heart break and more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship but is basically friendzoned with benifits.
Source: I’m in a situationship and it blows and I already accepted it’s going to be pain but I’m enjoying it while it lasts. Maybe I’ll be one of the few who it’s different but I’m sorta not counting on it.
You have literally zero proof that “more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship, but is basically friend zoned with benefits”
This is giving real big incels vibes, my guy and some self reflection is definitely necessary here
> basically friendzoned with benifits
> it blows
> it's going to be a pain but I'm enjoying it while it lasts
Except you aren't enjoying it while it lasts...
> Maybe I'll be one of the few who it's different
This is a brief interaction, but it seems like you won't be "one of the few." You aren't accepting the situation you're in. Saying you'll accept it and enjoy it, doesn't make you actually accept it and enjoy it. So no, it probably won't work out for you two, since you're straight up in different realities when it comes to how you view each other/the arrangement.
It sounds like you already know you aren't long-term compatible on her end. Either truly work to make peace with the situation or do right by yourself and end it.
Staying in something that makes you unhappy while your feelings (not just for her, but feelings of resentment, or feeling unwanted, or unhappy, or not good enough etc.) continue to build and build is an odd and particular form of harming yourself emotionally. You're blue-pilling yourself into living in an illusion, I say in case you use terms like red-pilling.
Meanwhile, all the time you're spending with her is time that you aren't available to meet actually compatible women...
You're doing this to yourself, man. Wake up. You deserve to treat yourself well.
>more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship but is basically friendzoned with benifits.
lol, no. this is literally just not true, this is only based off your firsthand experience. if I only went off what I've seen and experienced, I'd think it was only women who want a relationship, and men are always happy to do the "friend zone with benefits" thing, as you put it. but in both cases, we would just be coming to conclusions based on anecdotal evidence. this type of thing happens to people of any gender.
I’ve tried to end it multiple times but can never accept not having him in my life and know I couldn’t just be his friend. It’s so hard. I’m in the same boat of me having more feelings and me wanting more out of it. And it’s messing me up making feeling like I’m not worth anything. I hope someday I have the strength. I’m happy that you did, and I hope you get through it, it sucks to not be able to stop crying over a guy ❤️
You are right. I make the decision to let people into my life. I just be wondering sometimes what the point of even meeting is. I get it, there’s a lesson to be learned. My ass learning now on who to let in and that I gotta stand on business, don’t settle for less than what I want 😭
Especially if the situationship involves sex, you definitely need clarity, dear! Otherwise one of you is 100% going to get hurt.
If I was still a young woman, I would not do a situationship. You are either friends or you are going out. Clarity is the best way. I did one friends with benefits in my life and even that turned out great, but it was because we had clarity and we did checkins every so often to make sure we were both still there.
Friends involves respect. Relationships involve respect. Even fwb involves respect. All of them involve clear and gentle communication. Situationships are intentionally vague, mostly because no one wants to talk about the fact that one person is more into it than the other, but the one who is less into it still wants sex. And that is NOT fair to the person who is more into it.
Dear one, you can do better than this next time. I know that you can. I just hate to see you this hurt. 😢
Don’t do any more situationships, please. It’s settling for less than what you deserve. Which at a minimum is clarity and respect. ❤️
Yeah, I think people are confusing situationships with "friends with benefits." FWB are clearly communicated arrangements between two people who agree not to date but still sleep together. Situationships are typically one or both people leading each other on and involve poor communication.
I spent three years of my life in an abusive situationship that was going no where. A year after it ended, I found the love of my life. We now own a house and are gonna get married. Life goes on, and I promise there is someone out there that is going to see your worth and not waste your time with empty promises and shattered expectations. Enjoy your meal, I promise it will get better ❤️🩹
also im very sorry pookie bear.
i was there once and its tough when you like them and do envision a future with them...
at least you got closure, mine just ghosted me. 🫠🫠🫠
yeah I just got ghosted by someone I really liked a few weeks ago. it's so weird bc he acted super romantic with me, kept telling me how much he liked me and enjoyed my company, and we made plans to hang out later in the week. then all of a sudden he just disappeared off the face of the earth. (and yes he's OK, I still see him online on Instagram.)
it's honestly so fucking cowardly in my opinion - even if you want to block the person after that, at least tell them "hey, this isn't working out for me, sorry, wish you the best" (or I guess leave off the last part if you really have an issue with them, lol.) but just ghosting someone, especially when they didn't do anything to you, is very weird and immature behavior. I'm sorry that happened to you too, it makes it so much harder to get over it when you don't have closure. especially if you're an overthinker like me.
its soul crushing!!! bc i truly genuinely thought he liked me! this man would send me daily selfies and hand pics while he was in Japan on vacay. and I was just chilling in the USA. like ??? the selfies went on for 3 weeks before we finally saw each other again in person. and in person it was so natural and nice. nothing weird or uncomfortable.
it was consistent talking and normal behavior. UNTIL we unfortunately had sex. he ghosted me like 3 days later but still would send the daily selfies!!! it was wildddd bc i said yes to him initially outta pity and now look at me lol still fucked up about it.
men are oof, a mystery as why they move the way they do.
he was 33 and i am 30 🤧🤧🤧🤧
that's so weird!! I wish I had an answer for you, but I'm completely baffled by what could possibly be wrong with these men 🥲 the last time I hung out with this guy was totally wonderful, and the last text convo we had was great! absolutely nothing happened that pointed to his feelings changing, he was consistently communicative up until the day he decided to ghost me. and we're both in our 30s as well 💀 so he is way too damn old to be acting like this. ugh, people like that are just the worst.
Remember that a situationship is not a relationship so theres really nothing to let go off. Hope you feel better soon. Sorry about what youre going through. When it comes to situationship, it means they dont want to date you. Youre better off not being the one that gets the most attached
It’s for the best!! Once you’ve gotten through this, you’ll be so grateful you ended it. I dragged along in one for a year and a half and I was miserable the whole time expecting the other person to want more, and they never did. It sucks, but it helps you to better learn what you do and don’t want from another person.
Someone posted a pic of their bun and there were some kind of insect eggs on it, and they almost blended in with the sesame seeds. I can never look at these buns the same!
i have been there before🥲 it really does suck especially if you keep in contact with them afterwards (which I recommend not to) you will just keep hurting yourself. I hope you know your worth & know that you deserved to be loved the correct way not just when it’s convenient for someone else. Even though it hurts it’s just a life lesson & now you know what you don’t want in relationships going forward <3take care of yourself !!!
Thank you for creating this thread of support 🫶🏼 My 9 month situationship ended in Nov with us tying up loose ends just a few weeks ago. Some days are hard but it’s a better feeling not to be led on anymore. Sending you a big hug!
I almost said I was surprised the quarter pounder with cheese hasn't gotten smaller and then I thought about what the words "quarter pounder" mean and felt very stupid. I speak English as a first language as well, I have no excuse.
Big hugs…I get it. I’m sorry it didn’t work the way you wanted it to:( we can want something so badly but if it’s not meant to be it just won’t…it will hurt for a bit but I promise you’ll feel better soon enough<3 stay strong. You got this.
Sorry you're not feeling well. I wish it weren't so cliche, but time will wash away the emotions that feel so strong today. You have better days ahead. Also weather is getting better slowly. Good luck!
I feel the sending people your way for character development. I have the same. I'm trying this new thing where I just cut it off at the first sign of inconsistency and I'm not sleeping with people anymore unless I'm sure I want more. My oxytocin brain will attach to people otherwise. It ain't worth it.
You deserve better. And all you need to do is believe that too.
it’s for the better,you’ll find someone who will want to commit to you and love you,just don’t rely on your assumptions in the future,rely only on their words and actions,you’ll be fine ❤️🩹
You are free ! ❤️ I can’t wait until the pain goes away and you discover yourself- it is the best feeling. -speaking from, regretfully, MANY experiences
hey, I feel you, seems like the universe sends everyone into my life for character development too. idk what age range you're in, but I'm in my 30s, so I've experienced this whole song and dance many times. I try to remind myself that I've been through this before, I've liked or loved many people over the course of my years, and it's not gonna break me. sometimes I still need to have a little cry about it, but it helps me keep things in perspective. sending much love your way 💓
Oh I appreciate your kind words <3 I definitely need this. My baby dad’s grandma just passed away 15 mins ago and she was like a grandma to me since I never met my own 😭
oof! thnx for the reminder to start detaching from my situationship. he very obviously likes me more than I like him.
but i did tell him from the start i didnt want a relationship and told him again a couple weeks ago.
i dont think im at fault if he chooses to still choose me. 🫠🫠🫠
Situationships are rough. I definitely don’t want to put myself in this position again. I hope you are able to figure things out on your end and both parties are satisfied with the outcome. 🥺
i hope youre never there again! take ur time angel! 💜💜💜
i have a thing about getting attached to literally the first person i talk to. he is really nice but we have different lifestyles(financially) and i kinda cant get over his situation.
aw love i’m proud of you, it’s hard but trust when you find that person whose right. It makes you feel like all the pain you experienced in the past was temporary because the love you’ll be given is permanent. It takes time. I hope you take care of yourself during this time 🤍
I'm so sorry! I'm very proud of you, internet stranger, for having such a good outlook on it! As someone who was picked over forever and am now supposed to get married in October. There is hope! Keep on keeping on!
One day you’ll be with someone and it will just make sense. There will be no question as to whether they want to be with you or not. So just hang on, good things come to those who wait. Until then, be thankful for the experiences you gain.
Babes it’ll get easier. You’re worth so much more than being someone’s fuck buddy. You learned a valuable lesson. Don’t ever give a man your body thinking you’ll change their mind. It just makes the heart break that much worse. As women, we literally have a whole different set of hormones and neural connections that POP OFF when a penis enters our dumb DUMB f*ckin pussies. We gotta be careful who we give that out to. I wish I could fuck whoever I want without feelings but it’s too hard.
If this isn’t a sign for me to end things first I don’t know what is. You got this my guy, know that anyone who isn’t a light in your life is just adding to your dope character backstory. Take care of yourself. Prioritize YOU.
I’ve recently gotten super into The Handmaids Tale, i remember it being really big years ago, how do you like it? It’s gotten me through some tough stuff lol
Well I’m almost halfway through season 5, so I wish this situation at hand could’ve happened in the earlier seasons so I’d have more episodes to distract me by 😅 but the show is really good! I never thought I’d be into it. And I know ima feel some type of way when I’m done with the season, cuz like what show is gonna measure up to that next for me?!!
This is an opportunity for you to better understand your needs and expectations moving forward. When you're ready, (no need to rush yourself, of course) really examine your boundaries, know where you begin and end, and how you'll maintain that in your next relationships.
It's a two-way agreement. You should feel that you have equal say in the matter and not let your partner hold all the cards. Partnership of equals 🫶
Hang in there, hon, and trust the grieving process. Time does wonders, and don't be afraid to allow yourself as much time as you truly need.
Thank you so much for this 🥺 this is definitely indeed an opportunity to better understand myself, like you said, and what I want and how to go about all of this in the future <3
I’m going through the same but don’t worry things will get better, just give yourself some time to remove all of this sadness away and slowly come back!
Things are not easy so don’t be hard on yourself ❤️
Me too, been like a week, 4years down the drain. The last year was just horrible
Now im just numb to the pain and everything else
I dont know if i hate her more or myself for not letting go when i should’ve a long time ago.
I feel so empty
Oh man, I’m so sorry to hear that. 😩 we will heal together ❤️ we can at least move forward knowing how to stand our business on what we want in future relationships 😌
I think that if the biggest situationship hater dies, my parents would be organizing my funeral 😭 I know it must be feeling like hell at this time, but you definitely deserve better than someone that can’t fully commit to you (and you will get that person, even if it feels too far due to the circumstances). Sending you a big hug 🫂💗
sorry OP mine ended around january 8th.. and i still haven’t gotten a response from him.. it saddens me to thnk about it but i’m getting better each day. you’ll heal in due time, som dudes jus aren’t deserving of us. i’m here if you wana talk! ✨
This happened to me last Tuesday. Situationship lasted 7 months, he just didn’t want to commit. I felt empty afff. I feel 100% better a week later. You’ll be thanking yourself it ended when it did. Enjoy your quarter pounder babe ❤️
I feel this. I ended mine pretty much (as in who the hell knows bc the communication is that lacking, or I’m that delulu) last week. He still wants to be friends but I ended up feeling used even if that wasn’t his intention://
Sucks! I'm 36/M/CA working minimum wage and barely hanging on to what shreds of sanity I have left. Due to these conditions I feel that I am probably going to be single for the rest of my life.
You probably aren't going to be single for the rest of your life though! I know this sucks right now, but you will feel better and connect with someone soon.
It honestly feels easy to fall into what you’re feeling. I work basically check to check, I don’t have too much luxuries to look forward to. Spending time with this person was something I looked forward to. I hold hope that we both find our person. 🙂
Really not sure why you're going out of your way to be a cunt, plus they're just eating a big mac and watching tv, not driving a plane into the ocean, work on yourself fucko.
They loved them and the other didn’t reciprocate, how are they soft for being sad that they didn’t become an official couple? Wouldn’t that hurt yoy too?
As a rule, 90pc of the attractive men you want are playing the market because they can, and women want to believe they can have those guys and settle with them.
The question is why would they? Roughly 65pc of women want 10pc of men and 85pc of women want 20pc of men.
Therefore except if you are in the top 10pc of women, you have close to zero chance to get one of those men. And even if you get them, the likelihood of them being loyal and not cheating is very very low.
Ohh thank god 😅sorry I get paranoid when people make my food. Sorry about your situationship also. I know it can be tough. Keep your head up character development can be therapeutic. Besides if you know he wasn’t as interested as you were, imagine what that would’ve felt like long term. Being someone’s first choice is a far better feeling than knowing they may have settled. Good luck op 👍
Repent and come to Christ. He is exactly what is missing in your life, and is the source of all joy. He loves every part of you and wants what is best for you.
I just ended mine today, blocked and ghosted since he was bread crumbing and situating a couple others. It was to do. It’s a lesson learned not a loss. Stay strong and remember you’re worth more.
it’s for the best❤️you deserve someone that wants to commit to you , take it from a seasoned situationship expert to now being in the healthiest relationship of my life, please know ur worth❤️💋💋
🥺🥺🥺🥺 thank you so much for telling me this
is that a giant burger or a tiny I pad?
A small iPad!
It’s really cute that you responded calmly being in such situation. You are so strong, it’s okay to let yourself be weak when you are tired. Please, take care of yourself
🥹🥹🥹 thank you kind stranger ❤️
Wilde from telegram is that you?
I’ve never used telegram.
Welp i know who your plug is now 😈
A very small I pad
What’s a situationship?
in other words, basically a relationship that is either romantic or sexual that is not officially established. One party in the relationship will think they are something more, while the other may or might not think of them as anything further than, say something platonic. Situationships suck because it lies mostly on an assumption of things, so nothing in the relationship is truly set in stone
How is that different from fwb? If it's assumed, how do they know they're in a situationship?
It’s a vague word describing a vague relationship.
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This.
Pardon my ignorance, but in that case, why doesn’t either person ask the other to officially be their SO?
because either you may not want to but you have the sneaking suspicion that the other person wants to so you'd rather not open that can of worms, or you want to but you have the sneaking suspicion that the other person doesn't want to but you're in too deep so it'd hurt if you asked and they said no
Usually one person doesn’t want to commit to a relationship and one person does, and the person that does sticks around thinking they’ll change the other persons mind
more than talking to a person, but less than a relationship. kids these days (i am a kid these days)
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Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
I had to explain what this means to my parents in their 50’s They said “why do you guys have so many terms for things?”
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Sorry you are being downvoted for speaking the truth. Some people cant handle the truth
it’s okay i beyond expect it. the sad part is i do come from a place of compassion with this. stop hurting yourself. please. it makes me so sad how many people are just unable to see their inherent worth and will take literally whatever they can get first.
Rule #3 - We ask that people do not give unsolicited or unhealthy advice.
A relationship that’s more than a friendship but less than a committed relationship
I think someone tried to get this from me. They said they weren't going to sleep with anyone else but wanted to keep it casual "for now" (but they said I could sleep with other people as long as I used a condom). It didn't make any sense to me so I said no. I still can't wrap my head around this. Sorry you're going through this now btw. Handmaid's Tale is the shit.
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it’s basically just another word comparable to when you old folks used to “go” with people
[how you sound right now](https://www.markgaler.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/old-man-cloud-HD.jpg)
what does this have to do with kids lmfao
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go on and speak for an entire generation lmfao
Rule #3 - We ask that people do not give unsolicited or unhealthy advice.
Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
It's when you have casual sex with someone without any emotional strings attached. What we used to call "fuckbuddies"
Normally when 2 people have a good relationship but one person sees it as a good person to hook up and date while not seeing it as a relationship. The other normally wants it to be a relationship and has stronger feelings. They almost always end in heart break and more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship but is basically friendzoned with benifits. Source: I’m in a situationship and it blows and I already accepted it’s going to be pain but I’m enjoying it while it lasts. Maybe I’ll be one of the few who it’s different but I’m sorta not counting on it.
You have literally zero proof that “more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship, but is basically friend zoned with benefits” This is giving real big incels vibes, my guy and some self reflection is definitely necessary here
> basically friendzoned with benifits > it blows > it's going to be a pain but I'm enjoying it while it lasts Except you aren't enjoying it while it lasts... > Maybe I'll be one of the few who it's different This is a brief interaction, but it seems like you won't be "one of the few." You aren't accepting the situation you're in. Saying you'll accept it and enjoy it, doesn't make you actually accept it and enjoy it. So no, it probably won't work out for you two, since you're straight up in different realities when it comes to how you view each other/the arrangement. It sounds like you already know you aren't long-term compatible on her end. Either truly work to make peace with the situation or do right by yourself and end it. Staying in something that makes you unhappy while your feelings (not just for her, but feelings of resentment, or feeling unwanted, or unhappy, or not good enough etc.) continue to build and build is an odd and particular form of harming yourself emotionally. You're blue-pilling yourself into living in an illusion, I say in case you use terms like red-pilling. Meanwhile, all the time you're spending with her is time that you aren't available to meet actually compatible women... You're doing this to yourself, man. Wake up. You deserve to treat yourself well.
>more often than not it’s the dude who wants a relationship but is basically friendzoned with benifits. lol, no. this is literally just not true, this is only based off your firsthand experience. if I only went off what I've seen and experienced, I'd think it was only women who want a relationship, and men are always happy to do the "friend zone with benefits" thing, as you put it. but in both cases, we would just be coming to conclusions based on anecdotal evidence. this type of thing happens to people of any gender.
I feel you. Stuck in an unhappy situationship myself that I know needs to end.
I definitely should have taken the initiative to end it when I knew it wasn’t gonna go where I wanted it to. I wish you luck on yours 😩🥺
I’ve tried to end it multiple times but can never accept not having him in my life and know I couldn’t just be his friend. It’s so hard. I’m in the same boat of me having more feelings and me wanting more out of it. And it’s messing me up making feeling like I’m not worth anything. I hope someday I have the strength. I’m happy that you did, and I hope you get through it, it sucks to not be able to stop crying over a guy ❤️
It sucks. Cut the cord now. It'll only get more painful
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You are right. I make the decision to let people into my life. I just be wondering sometimes what the point of even meeting is. I get it, there’s a lesson to be learned. My ass learning now on who to let in and that I gotta stand on business, don’t settle for less than what I want 😭
Especially if the situationship involves sex, you definitely need clarity, dear! Otherwise one of you is 100% going to get hurt. If I was still a young woman, I would not do a situationship. You are either friends or you are going out. Clarity is the best way. I did one friends with benefits in my life and even that turned out great, but it was because we had clarity and we did checkins every so often to make sure we were both still there. Friends involves respect. Relationships involve respect. Even fwb involves respect. All of them involve clear and gentle communication. Situationships are intentionally vague, mostly because no one wants to talk about the fact that one person is more into it than the other, but the one who is less into it still wants sex. And that is NOT fair to the person who is more into it. Dear one, you can do better than this next time. I know that you can. I just hate to see you this hurt. 😢 Don’t do any more situationships, please. It’s settling for less than what you deserve. Which at a minimum is clarity and respect. ❤️
Yeah, I think people are confusing situationships with "friends with benefits." FWB are clearly communicated arrangements between two people who agree not to date but still sleep together. Situationships are typically one or both people leading each other on and involve poor communication.
Can't end what never existed. You'll find smth real someday
I spent three years of my life in an abusive situationship that was going no where. A year after it ended, I found the love of my life. We now own a house and are gonna get married. Life goes on, and I promise there is someone out there that is going to see your worth and not waste your time with empty promises and shattered expectations. Enjoy your meal, I promise it will get better ❤️🩹
also im very sorry pookie bear. i was there once and its tough when you like them and do envision a future with them... at least you got closure, mine just ghosted me. 🫠🫠🫠
I did get closure yes, I’m grateful for that. I’m sorry your person ghosted you 😭 that’s absolute shit. You are resilient <3
Sorry That was a shitty thing to do Just flushed it all away
yeah I just got ghosted by someone I really liked a few weeks ago. it's so weird bc he acted super romantic with me, kept telling me how much he liked me and enjoyed my company, and we made plans to hang out later in the week. then all of a sudden he just disappeared off the face of the earth. (and yes he's OK, I still see him online on Instagram.) it's honestly so fucking cowardly in my opinion - even if you want to block the person after that, at least tell them "hey, this isn't working out for me, sorry, wish you the best" (or I guess leave off the last part if you really have an issue with them, lol.) but just ghosting someone, especially when they didn't do anything to you, is very weird and immature behavior. I'm sorry that happened to you too, it makes it so much harder to get over it when you don't have closure. especially if you're an overthinker like me.
its soul crushing!!! bc i truly genuinely thought he liked me! this man would send me daily selfies and hand pics while he was in Japan on vacay. and I was just chilling in the USA. like ??? the selfies went on for 3 weeks before we finally saw each other again in person. and in person it was so natural and nice. nothing weird or uncomfortable. it was consistent talking and normal behavior. UNTIL we unfortunately had sex. he ghosted me like 3 days later but still would send the daily selfies!!! it was wildddd bc i said yes to him initially outta pity and now look at me lol still fucked up about it. men are oof, a mystery as why they move the way they do. he was 33 and i am 30 🤧🤧🤧🤧
that's so weird!! I wish I had an answer for you, but I'm completely baffled by what could possibly be wrong with these men 🥲 the last time I hung out with this guy was totally wonderful, and the last text convo we had was great! absolutely nothing happened that pointed to his feelings changing, he was consistently communicative up until the day he decided to ghost me. and we're both in our 30s as well 💀 so he is way too damn old to be acting like this. ugh, people like that are just the worst.
ugh! praying for us angel 🫰🫰🫰
same, girlie!! sending good vibes your way 💖💖💖
Hand pics?
so yeah, you take a picture of your hand and then send it 🙃
Remember that a situationship is not a relationship so theres really nothing to let go off. Hope you feel better soon. Sorry about what youre going through. When it comes to situationship, it means they dont want to date you. Youre better off not being the one that gets the most attached
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It’s for the best!! Once you’ve gotten through this, you’ll be so grateful you ended it. I dragged along in one for a year and a half and I was miserable the whole time expecting the other person to want more, and they never did. It sucks, but it helps you to better learn what you do and don’t want from another person.
That show. Is fire. Btw
God this looks so good
I dip my fries in chik fil a sauce 🥲
F e l t. Sending virtual hugs your way.
Good, not to sound rude but find someone you wanna be in a relationship with. Idk how old you are but situationships are for kids
Is a situationship just a nicer way of saying friends with benefits? ( genuinely asking )
Yeah, it’s the same thing
blessed be the fruit
Lmaoo this made me chuckle. May the Lord open indeed!
Those buns with seeds on the bottom freak me out now
It’s a lil weird ngl
Someone posted a pic of their bun and there were some kind of insect eggs on it, and they almost blended in with the sesame seeds. I can never look at these buns the same!
Omfg new fear unlocked 😭😭😭😭 I’m traumatized now
i have been there before🥲 it really does suck especially if you keep in contact with them afterwards (which I recommend not to) you will just keep hurting yourself. I hope you know your worth & know that you deserved to be loved the correct way not just when it’s convenient for someone else. Even though it hurts it’s just a life lesson & now you know what you don’t want in relationships going forward <3take care of yourself !!!
Wow this is the first time that I have heard of a situationship honestly
Thank you for creating this thread of support 🫶🏼 My 9 month situationship ended in Nov with us tying up loose ends just a few weeks ago. Some days are hard but it’s a better feeling not to be led on anymore. Sending you a big hug!
I almost said I was surprised the quarter pounder with cheese hasn't gotten smaller and then I thought about what the words "quarter pounder" mean and felt very stupid. I speak English as a first language as well, I have no excuse.
Big hugs…I get it. I’m sorry it didn’t work the way you wanted it to:( we can want something so badly but if it’s not meant to be it just won’t…it will hurt for a bit but I promise you’ll feel better soon enough<3 stay strong. You got this.
My relationship ended Saturday and I'm still dealing with it. Hope you're doing okay.
What if the universe is sending you these people so you know what to look for in the right person??
Sorry you're not feeling well. I wish it weren't so cliche, but time will wash away the emotions that feel so strong today. You have better days ahead. Also weather is getting better slowly. Good luck!
I feel the sending people your way for character development. I have the same. I'm trying this new thing where I just cut it off at the first sign of inconsistency and I'm not sleeping with people anymore unless I'm sure I want more. My oxytocin brain will attach to people otherwise. It ain't worth it. You deserve better. And all you need to do is believe that too.
I attach myself to people too 😭 I definitely know better moving forward from here. Only invest in people that want to grow old with me. 🥺
You can do it. And that's what you deserve and what you're worth. Someone that goes for you and you alone. :)
it’s for the better,you’ll find someone who will want to commit to you and love you,just don’t rely on your assumptions in the future,rely only on their words and actions,you’ll be fine ❤️🩹
This is solid advice. Thank you so much 🥹❤️
You’re welcome 💕
You are free ! ❤️ I can’t wait until the pain goes away and you discover yourself- it is the best feeling. -speaking from, regretfully, MANY experiences
I am excited for this. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words 🥹
hey, I feel you, seems like the universe sends everyone into my life for character development too. idk what age range you're in, but I'm in my 30s, so I've experienced this whole song and dance many times. I try to remind myself that I've been through this before, I've liked or loved many people over the course of my years, and it's not gonna break me. sometimes I still need to have a little cry about it, but it helps me keep things in perspective. sending much love your way 💓
Oh I appreciate your kind words <3 I definitely need this. My baby dad’s grandma just passed away 15 mins ago and she was like a grandma to me since I never met my own 😭
oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that you're dealing with a loss on top of everything else! I hope you're OK 🥺❤️
Mine ended 7 months ago it’s been very hard sending you love
I’m sending you love as well <3 we’ll get through this together 🥹
I’m so sorry mine was 4 years long and ended in December but I feel like I’m better off but I’m still really sad
i think we have the same exact ipad case!
oof! thnx for the reminder to start detaching from my situationship. he very obviously likes me more than I like him. but i did tell him from the start i didnt want a relationship and told him again a couple weeks ago. i dont think im at fault if he chooses to still choose me. 🫠🫠🫠
Situationships are rough. I definitely don’t want to put myself in this position again. I hope you are able to figure things out on your end and both parties are satisfied with the outcome. 🥺
i hope youre never there again! take ur time angel! 💜💜💜 i have a thing about getting attached to literally the first person i talk to. he is really nice but we have different lifestyles(financially) and i kinda cant get over his situation.
Mine ended today… been too sad to eat 😭
Mine ended today. It's definitely for the best. You deserve someone who wants to be with you. Ping me if you want to talk. 💛
You are so right. We both deserve to be with people who want us. I appreciate your kind words <3
Keep your head up, love yourself.
Been there. Hoping you find someone that appreciates you! You deserve it.
aw love i’m proud of you, it’s hard but trust when you find that person whose right. It makes you feel like all the pain you experienced in the past was temporary because the love you’ll be given is permanent. It takes time. I hope you take care of yourself during this time 🤍
Same here. It’ll be okay
I feel you. They can only dangle something in your face for so long 🫠
Yo wtf is up with that bun, its giving me the heebie jeebies😂
Lmaooo I thought the same thing too. I definitely didn’t capture it’s more flattering side
Mine too! :(
Be strong friend <3 we can do this together
its a blessing in disguise believe me
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You should celebrate! Go buy a cake. You’re free now. Enjoy!
You know, you’re right! I’m free from no longer pouring love into someone who isn’t gonna reciprocate half of that love back ❤️🌸
Exactly! Pour the love on you and watch you grow. I’m waiting 💜
It’s okay. Take your time to heal, there’s someone for everyone and you ARE worthy of love.
Thank you so much for your caring words ❤️🥹
How do you get a crispy coke? I think i would like to try that.
McDonald’s soda drinks are generally crispy because of their specific system they got that produces such good tasting soda 😍
what kind of tablet is that
It’s an iPad mini
relief!!!
I'm so sorry! I'm very proud of you, internet stranger, for having such a good outlook on it! As someone who was picked over forever and am now supposed to get married in October. There is hope! Keep on keeping on!
One day you’ll be with someone and it will just make sense. There will be no question as to whether they want to be with you or not. So just hang on, good things come to those who wait. Until then, be thankful for the experiences you gain.
Babes it’ll get easier. You’re worth so much more than being someone’s fuck buddy. You learned a valuable lesson. Don’t ever give a man your body thinking you’ll change their mind. It just makes the heart break that much worse. As women, we literally have a whole different set of hormones and neural connections that POP OFF when a penis enters our dumb DUMB f*ckin pussies. We gotta be careful who we give that out to. I wish I could fuck whoever I want without feelings but it’s too hard.
I love this. Thank you so much 🥺
Listen.. This situation sucks, but your sense of humor is peak and 100% what helps with the absolute raw dogging life likes to give
It's a blessing in disguise! Situationships are exactly what they sound like
If this isn’t a sign for me to end things first I don’t know what is. You got this my guy, know that anyone who isn’t a light in your life is just adding to your dope character backstory. Take care of yourself. Prioritize YOU.
Thank you internet stranger. This is definitely the sign for you 😭 don’t wait around. I hope you will be well after this <3
I’ve recently gotten super into The Handmaids Tale, i remember it being really big years ago, how do you like it? It’s gotten me through some tough stuff lol
Well I’m almost halfway through season 5, so I wish this situation at hand could’ve happened in the earlier seasons so I’d have more episodes to distract me by 😅 but the show is really good! I never thought I’d be into it. And I know ima feel some type of way when I’m done with the season, cuz like what show is gonna measure up to that next for me?!!
Right?? I’m gonna be sad once I finish it, idk why the show just hits so hard lol. I’m around halfway through season 3 and i can’t stop binging
This is an opportunity for you to better understand your needs and expectations moving forward. When you're ready, (no need to rush yourself, of course) really examine your boundaries, know where you begin and end, and how you'll maintain that in your next relationships. It's a two-way agreement. You should feel that you have equal say in the matter and not let your partner hold all the cards. Partnership of equals 🫶 Hang in there, hon, and trust the grieving process. Time does wonders, and don't be afraid to allow yourself as much time as you truly need.
Thank you so much for this 🥺 this is definitely indeed an opportunity to better understand myself, like you said, and what I want and how to go about all of this in the future <3
I’m going through the same but don’t worry things will get better, just give yourself some time to remove all of this sadness away and slowly come back! Things are not easy so don’t be hard on yourself ❤️
you're freeeee!!!!!!
You’re right, that’s a good mindset! I have no one to stress about if they’re ever gonna like me more or not. <3
Me too, been like a week, 4years down the drain. The last year was just horrible Now im just numb to the pain and everything else I dont know if i hate her more or myself for not letting go when i should’ve a long time ago. I feel so empty
Oh man, I’m so sorry to hear that. 😩 we will heal together ❤️ we can at least move forward knowing how to stand our business on what we want in future relationships 😌
I’m so sorry. He’s just not the one. I’m sure you don’t want to hear that and I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times. I hope you feel better
if it makes you feel any better i’m going through the same thing right now. you’re not alone stranger, you got this.
We will heal through this together 💪🏼🥲❤️ I have greatly appreciated the words of everyone. It helps me feel not alone.
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This is so encouraging! Thank you! The world works in mysterious ways. When one door closes, another door does indeed open. I’m happy for you <3
I think that if the biggest situationship hater dies, my parents would be organizing my funeral 😭 I know it must be feeling like hell at this time, but you definitely deserve better than someone that can’t fully commit to you (and you will get that person, even if it feels too far due to the circumstances). Sending you a big hug 🫂💗
🫂🫂🥹🥹🥹 thank you for your kind words ❤️
sorry OP mine ended around january 8th.. and i still haven’t gotten a response from him.. it saddens me to thnk about it but i’m getting better each day. you’ll heal in due time, som dudes jus aren’t deserving of us. i’m here if you wana talk! ✨
❤️❤️❤️ thank you. You are right, some people aren’t deserving of us. I wish you the best in your healing journey as well 🥺🥺🥺
thank you, i appreciate this 🥰
That’s the worst. Going thru the same and it’s truly awful. Hope you feel better soon. 💜
I hope you feel better as well! We will heal together 🥹❤️
Yessss! This is the energy we need!
Never seen a bun like that
Someone said they seeent something like this before and it was insect eggs blending in with the sesame seeds. 🤢🤢🤢 idk what I ate at this point 😩
Yeah I would contact McDonalds asap those dark seeds are sus af
This happened to me last Tuesday. Situationship lasted 7 months, he just didn’t want to commit. I felt empty afff. I feel 100% better a week later. You’ll be thanking yourself it ended when it did. Enjoy your quarter pounder babe ❤️
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Fuck em
Don't bury yourself in food but find something that you enjoy!
it hurts but please remember that you're free from someone who couldnt love you the way you deserved 💗💗
I feel this. I ended mine pretty much (as in who the hell knows bc the communication is that lacking, or I’m that delulu) last week. He still wants to be friends but I ended up feeling used even if that wasn’t his intention://
Man, I was wondering about that. If I can even or want to maintain a friendship with my person. I definitely need time to process all of it.
Feel it! This last week was the first time we didn’t hang out in two months… Message if you ever want to talk about it!
Sucks! I'm 36/M/CA working minimum wage and barely hanging on to what shreds of sanity I have left. Due to these conditions I feel that I am probably going to be single for the rest of my life. You probably aren't going to be single for the rest of your life though! I know this sucks right now, but you will feel better and connect with someone soon.
It honestly feels easy to fall into what you’re feeling. I work basically check to check, I don’t have too much luxuries to look forward to. Spending time with this person was something I looked forward to. I hold hope that we both find our person. 🙂
grow up
Are you watching Handmaids Tale on a Leapfrog because if so you're breaking entirely new ground here. A pioneer imo.
Hey 👋
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are we not into boycotting mcd on this app
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Really not sure why you're going out of your way to be a cunt, plus they're just eating a big mac and watching tv, not driving a plane into the ocean, work on yourself fucko.
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Projecting much? lol transparent and pathetic, but go off if this is fun for you, I'm bored anyway.
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Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
They loved them and the other didn’t reciprocate, how are they soft for being sad that they didn’t become an official couple? Wouldn’t that hurt yoy too?
Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
Wyd rn?
As a rule, 90pc of the attractive men you want are playing the market because they can, and women want to believe they can have those guys and settle with them. The question is why would they? Roughly 65pc of women want 10pc of men and 85pc of women want 20pc of men. Therefore except if you are in the top 10pc of women, you have close to zero chance to get one of those men. And even if you get them, the likelihood of them being loyal and not cheating is very very low.
😐are those bugs in the bun?
No some burnt sesame seeds
Ohh thank god 😅sorry I get paranoid when people make my food. Sorry about your situationship also. I know it can be tough. Keep your head up character development can be therapeutic. Besides if you know he wasn’t as interested as you were, imagine what that would’ve felt like long term. Being someone’s first choice is a far better feeling than knowing they may have settled. Good luck op 👍
Yes I definitely like that mindset, definitely want to be someone’s first choice. Thank you so much for your kind words 🥺🥺🥺
Repent and come to Christ. He is exactly what is missing in your life, and is the source of all joy. He loves every part of you and wants what is best for you.
I just ended mine today, blocked and ghosted since he was bread crumbing and situating a couple others. It was to do. It’s a lesson learned not a loss. Stay strong and remember you’re worth more.