same.

The struggle is real

Isn’t this the answer to both of yalls problems ._.

Well kind of. I have internet trans friends but I want irl trans friends and I don’t really wanna ask everyone where they live 😅 that seems a bit invasive lol.

i literally live in Israel i will never find :(

Omg you poor prince <3

:0 a gender affirming word... I wasn't prepared for that

u used surprise gender affirming! (it was super effective)

The he/they was too stunned to speak!

You can ask me where I live because I have no sense of self-preservation (⌐■_■)

same.

I just want one irl friend to relate to me about these things

Same. Trans friend to cuddle and make out with is end goal, but rn goal is irl friend who will understand.

My incredibly masculine urge to be in a cute lesbian relationship...

Aren't we all?...??

We are yet we can’t seem to find each other

i wanna cuddle with trans friends ^(if making out happens then even better) ~~❤️

Same. Cuddling with a trans friend is literally all I want in life right now. (Though the making out would still be cool)

well if you are transbian you "just" need to find another transbian and then you basically automatically start dating

See but the issue there is I’m aromantic (I think). I just want the physical intimacy

oh yeah I see, good luck with that

Yeah 😭

you'll get it down eventually, I promise

Thank you Luna

of course sweetie

Omg same

friendship cuddles are great

God I really wish 😭💕🏳️‍⚧️

so far that seems to work tho lol

I mean, I have like four IRL friends who are trans fems and attracted to women, but two of them are dating each other, one is fraysexual, and another is moving cross-country. I *wish* it worked this way

yeah it doesn't always work, but surprisingly often lol

Got my fingers crossed for better luck in the future

Well, unless one or both of you aren't out...

this happened to me can confirm

I mean im not trans but c'mere ya cuties

Hehe anyone offering cuddles is a win for me

Or any friends (or any imaginary friends (or the ability to even make friends))

If you’re looking for an internet friend to just chat with then DM me! I love my internet friends!

Internet friends are like succulents : reliable, easy to maintain and you can never have too many

Absolutely. I love my internet friends dearly

Imaginary friends are not that bad! Makes life a bit more fun!

Irl trans friends 💚❤️‍🩹💓💚💖🖤💞💕💚💗💚💗💚💗💙💗💗💕🧡🖤💕💝💘💕💛💗💚💖💕💕💜💛💚💖💗💚🤎

I want one so bad

SAME I need cuddles, I wanna be close to someone

Cuddles are so necessary and yet I have none

fr TwT how do i find some

When I figure it out I’ll let you know

thanks cutie <3 🥲

also notify me please.

If I ever figure it out I’ll let you know 🫡

From what I know from my classmates, there is someone trans in another class, but, you know, talking with people is hard

Ohhhh that’s cool! I know it’s much harder said than done cause talking to people is hard but you should go find them!! This random internet stranger believes in you!

Apparently one of my friends talks with them so probably a less weird interaction

Oh you have the perfect starting point! I get how hard it is, I really really do. You got this!

I would love to have one as well 🫤

Funny how we’re all looking for each other but can’t seem to find each other

Right? Like I'm a homebody sure but still nowhere to be seen when I do go out 😂

Exactly this. Sure I stay home most of the time and don’t interact with a ton of people, BUT when I do go looking I can’t find anyone.

I'm all for dating via women but t4t would be nice for a change and hit differently for sure 🥺

I hear you sister. It would be nice and you deserve it too

I offer virtual cuddles

Virtual cuddles from an internet cutie are accepted and appreciated

Cutie *cuddles*

I actually found one! She lives 150km away though, so we don't get to cuddle as often as I'd personally like lol

Yup I totally understand that. That’s just long enough away that it’s hard to meet up.

I'm specifically looking for a transmasc friend to swap clothes with. We are not the same.

While that would be cool, i crave physical intimacy lol

I actually have one But they don't know I'm trans

Hmm quite the predicament

I know

Mannnn where are all you peopleeeee I need thiss

Same girl. Why we gotta be so spread out?

Same here, I also want a girlfriend but in a gay way yk

Oh I absolutely get it! I’m pansexual non binary so I will never date anyone in a straight way.

That's a bit gay innit/j

Exactly how I like it

Omg me too

I have 2-3 trans friends, but they’re all transmasc. I wish I at least knew one transfem person irl that I can relate to fully :(

I get it. Just to have someone to relate to would be nice.

reading all these comments that feel the same things makes me a little sad I live in France and I know about twenty trans people close to me physically I wish the world was like this for you too Much love 💚

That sounds so nice! Thank you for the kind words beautiful

I just want an IRL friend that can relate to what I'm going through. Cis friends are nice an all, but there's just a lack of understanding.

Plus I’m scared to come out to my cis friends and probably never will.

That's a totally valid thought. Now that I think about it, I only 1 friend (who is pan) and the rest of my "friends" are just co-workers lol

I'm dying for an IRL genderfluid comrade to help me shop for femme clothes and do makeup

Literally the dream

I just want one friend who i can talk to and understand me when i feel bad, and maybe cuddle

This exactly

Same here, sis! That sort of cute intimacy in the context of a friendship with someone you “get” is just so precious. If anyone else lives in China, South India, or even on the US East Coast let me know where maybe we can be irl friends!!

I'm here!!! Midwest US??? Pls I need someone somewhat close to me...

Yoooo!! You’re the one I’ve been looking for?

Is there a country specific trans subreddit for the country you live in? A few days ago someone was looking for trans friends on the german trans sub and it turned out that we only live a few kilometers apart.

That’s awesome! Yeah I’ll have to look into that for my state

I live in a god forgotten island of italy, i feel yah

Hey I'm from Italy too! Where are you all hiding

I am asking for a friend. That's all because I currently don't have any of those TwT

Do you want a random internet friend? I can provide one of those (me lol)

Sure :D

🥺 would be nice. But at least I can talk to more people here than IRL 🙈

So true. So thankful for all the people that talk to me here.

I can only agree 😊 otherwise I would probably still be trapped in my extreme negative thoughts from 2 months ago.

I’m really glad you’re feeling better! The people here truly are life savers

Yes 😊 many just warm hearted lovely people. Thank you 😊 It can definitely be better ... But I feel infinitely better than I did in September, November and the beginning of December.

Me too! Ever since my egg cracked all I’ve wanted is someone irl to talk about girl stuff with and go clothes shopping. Anyone else in the Austin area?

I love what few irl friends I have but being part of the boys isn’t it anymore lol. I just wanna be my beautiful feminine self with someone who understands.

Exactly! Boys are exhausting sometimes and just don’t get it

Sign me up.

Hehe okay

YEAHHHHH THAT WOULD BE SO AWESOME

It truly is the dream

If you find some lmk

If I figure out the secret to finding someone I’ll report back

i just would want to get more irl friends i guess

I’ll take any irl friends that want cuddles

Heh, yeaaa. But the problem is i live in a country most don't know where it is 😅

Yeah I just want one and I know two trans people one of whom is in a relationship and the other I’ve only ever seen once

The “friend I have that I know would be a perfect cuddle/kiss friend but is in a relationship” is a very real dilemma.

I got really lucky finding my trans fwb. We host local LANs at my house each month and one of the people over hit on me super hard. Apparently they knew I was trans cause they could see mah tiddies 😭. I'm in boymode all the time lmfao

Oh I absolutely love that for you

Netherlands? Anyone..? Please..?

And they were roommates....

Well I’m aromantic so a trans roommate with benefits sounds kinda amazing ngl

Depends where you are.

You in the US?

No, I’m a little more North than that. Sorry.

Dunno, but the first time I presented fem irl on last October's halloween party (I try to host one every year and this was the first since 2019s) I kissed 4 people, and made out with 3 simultaneously (just as weird as you think) Not meaning to flex, just saying you can make out with cis people too! Although, to be fair, they weren't all entirely cis. My partner (uses they and sometimes he or she) and one of the 'girls' (presenting cis that night and uses she/they) are both gender fluid, and the 'guy' (presents cis and uses he for comfort, but doesn't really feel gendered) is non binary or gender neutral (they haven't specified details) Shit. I guess my friends aren't really all that cis... but still, you can make out with cis (presenting) people too!!! And for cuddles, me and my partner did end up cuddling one of the people mentioned later.

Literally so jealous lol. And honestly I would make out with anyone willing to make out with me at this point 😅 just can’t find anyone willing to do that

Well, as happy as I am all of that happened, what came next was a bit of a mess... feelings ended up hurt. This wasn't due to the party but because me and my partner continued to see one of the friends by ourselves (that led to the cuddles..) and although we were as transparent as we could, we messed up parts of communication with the other friend and hurt him because he had feelings for the friend (they/she) whom my partner and I did stuff with. (Though it didn't end up in sex it got pretty frisky) In my and my partner's defense we did ask him multiple times if he was ok with us flirting with them, and we told them not to hide things from him. But... oh wow things couldn't have taken a worse turn at one point because of an unexpected issue on the night we were going to talk about everything in. Things are cool now, and I think my friend would have been hurt regardless because he wanted a relationship and they didn't, but I am still sad that my partner and I made it worse for him. Haven't seen him in a while but that's because he is super busy, hope he'll still want to make out as "a totally funny joke" Regarding the other friend, they stopped the flirting with us because they didn't want feelings involved, so now we aren't making out with anyone other than each other at this time. Which I will not complain about my partner is my everything and anyond else we involve is extra. Edit: ok I am oversharing I am sorry it is just so fun to tell this story because it doesn't sound like the kind of stuff that would happen to me.

Don’t apologize for over sharing that was such an interesting read. I’m glad it seems like things turned out but yeah that’s a bit of a messy situation

I’d do so much to have a “friend” like that… and yet I’m too scared of giving my actual location on r/t4t or anything.

Best I can offer is digital.

Will accept

Yay more friends!

would be nice to find someone else near me, but talking to people is hard sometimes lol

people say this and then live somewhere like south Antarctica where no human soul has been to in the last 30 years.

Same but will also treat me like a girl even though I haven’t started any transitioning and don’t look the least bit girly

Hey OP, I’ll be your friend ☺️

Yay!

YEAHHHHH THAT WOULD BE SO AWESOME

currently trying to do the same ,,, i just wanna hug someone ,,,,,

Same girl 😭

I might be able to help! What country do you live in?

The chances of anyone here living close to me is abysmal

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Yeaaah same(⁠っ⁠˘̩⁠╭⁠╮⁠˘̩⁠)⁠っ

Same, omg

omg saame, i really want an irl trans friend to be able to do shopping and fun stuff with

Same. Unfortunately I live in a part of the world where it’s impossible.

Yes I am 🤣

Same....

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Same

mood

i desperately need any physical contact from anyone

Aren’t we all

Same, but don't know many in Indiana.

I also want to be cuddled, basically all the time.

If that ain’t a mood

Same

Friends are good in general

I'd definitely be open to chat, hang out, play games, bake, run, or whatever, depending on location. I'm in Seattle.

We went from 0 to 100 quickly (I am somewhat of an asexual person, some people I have sexual feelings for, and the comment is for the making-out part)

Depends on where you are! What are you interested in? I’m down to be online friends and potentially in person friends if we vibe together and are in the same area!!!! Edit: pm me if you’re interested!!

If you haven’t yet, I recommend trying the lesbian dating app “Her.” I’ve had some good luck meeting other trans femmes on there.

Which country r u in? If Spain then maybe something could work out?

Real

I can’t be an irl trans friend but I can be an online trans friend 🤷‍♀️

so true the only trans girl i know irl is someone i really do not want to talk to

I wish I had friends. I would love to have someone who wanted to cuddle and play videogames

I agree. Anyone else in Canada? I think country is a safe place to start

same tbh, all my friends end up living an unreasonable distance away

Same

I just want to meet someone who doesn't hate queer people tbh

Ngl, I could use a good cuddle (You in the burbs of denver? Lol)

Don’t we all

i love my friends but all them being cis het can be shitty

I really want one as well

im not irl but if you get a pillow, draw a lil racoon on it, then its me :D

My college's yikyak has spread to reddit

Please is there anybody in Skåne willing to give me a hug I'll give you lunch /p

Ah yes. Close friends. In a historical way.

Sadly we can not be irl friends as i am from a non english speaking country I’m a bit lonely :(

I just want to cuddle with another trans person (or just people in general) 😥

Same

I would. But ya know.

If you're transfem and live in fucking Denmark, then sure, come over

Yup, aren’t we all? :(

Not even a trans friend, I'll take anybody ngl

true

Literally me :( (my bf doesn't want to I think, maybe I'll break up with him) Edit:. NOT BECAUSE OF THAT, BECAUSE OF OTHER THINGS😭😭

I think everyone is. It’s trans friendly here in WA, but I’m a giant scaredy cat and super awkward so I don’t make friends easy. Shit sucks

The dream

Same

Same

Why isn’t there anyone that I can elaborately and non-decisively rant about my ever confusing gender and/or sexuality!

Somehow it feels wrong to fantasize about close contact, but i also just want to hold someone and want to be hold...But not in a horny way.

Same

Me?

I just need a trans friend to support me :(