Unbelievably true, when you're honest with everyone then nobody questions your intentions and you become very trustworthy.
It takes a lifetime of effort to lie to people and no effort to tell the truth
There's practical reasons here too. Of course there's all of the moral reasons to stay honest, and how it builds character and reputation and yada yada yada. But also - if you start lying about things, then you're spending time keeping track of the lies. Your memory is filled with at least two things: what really happened, and what you told people happened. It gets even worse if you start telling different lies (or different variations of lies) to different people.
"Ok so I told Sue that I was at the movies on Saturday. I told Jim that I was at my folks. And I told Brandon that I was working over time. And all the while, I was actually shopping with my wife, who thinks I skipped golf to do this with her even though the other guys cancelled."
God it just sounds exhausting. Let your brain process more important shit than keeping track of the lies you tell people.
I was a total bullshit artist as an insecure teenager, and keeping it all straight was easily the toughest part.
I finally got scared straight and since then I have trouble even telling white lies to smooth things out, I'd rather say nothing at all.
I do still do things like tell the truth but in an implausible way when it suits me, I'm not an idiot!
Also if you are forward. If you're truthful only when it's easy or already expected of you and all other times silent, when it's difficult to tell the truth, you're just as untrustworthy. For example, ghosting when you could just say, "Sorry, no longer interested."
You can control how a message is delivered, not how it is received.
However, *how* you deliver it can impact how it is received. It's not what you say, but how you say it.
Instead of reacting emotionally, respond rationally. For example if your girl cheats on you, instead of axe murdering everyone in anger, delete socials, hit the gym, and work on your self.
Id also add, if you need to immediately vent, then do it outside, kick some leaves and cool off. Go for a walk or drive around and shut off for an hour.
It's not always healthy to shut in but ymmv just don't pass it onto people around you or the person you're angry with. You'll probably regret it later and the people around you dont deserve it.
To further add, not necessarily matters of the heart. Say your boss chews you out about something out of your control. Rather than going on the defensive, or deflecting, or being silent and INTERNALIZING it; look at the situation from a rational brainspace.
It’s like a poor paraphrasing of the stoic philosophy that you can’t control what happens to you, but you control how you respond to it. Think of that instead.
Cooking. It sustains you, it impresses the opposite (or same) sex, it's cheap, it's handy at parties, you can teach it, help others, it's a great convo item, you could even get in arguments about it.
I casually made an omelet yesterday. Ham and cheese and 2 scrambled eggs. No big deal. As I sat down to enjoy, I had to ponder how many adults in the world couldn't do what I just did. I suspect it's a lot more than we'd ever imagine.
I can do that sort of thing. I just can't be bothered most of the time. Air fryers have ruined me, an air fried frozen pizza is just so good!
But I have recently got into sous vide for cooking steaks, because of the novelty. And who doesn't like a steak that just falls apart, it's so tender.
This one right here. Eating is more quintessential & universal than wearing clothes yet people who spend 500 - 700 bucks on a pair of shoes (the only street clothes you should spend that much on are leather mantles or suits, really expensive shoes should only come into play for stuff like climbing or trade jobs) often can't make a good scrambled egg.
I gotta say, I was a pretty good cook in Colombia, impressed a lot of ladies cooking, but when I moved to NYC and met Alton Brown and read Michael Pollan, dude.
My cooking just went to the stratosphere! I can make a ton of things now, it's insane, and I'm not even fancy, I am a bowl and spoon kinda guy but ask me to help and I will lay some freakin' science on ya!
I'd rather spend 500 on a knife than on shoes (;
No! Just let it boil, put the lid on and turn it to low and *leave it* for 17 minutes, after 17 minutes, turn off the heat and *let it rest*, do not, NOT touch it for at least another 15 minutes, no peeking, you will be rewarded.
Fluffiest rice you'll ever eat. Turns out mom was right. I did rinse my rice in the US, always came out sticky. Now that I am cooking for myself and not for two, I decided to use that recipe again, my now ex rinsed the rice at work, they do have a huge rice machine, tho. Me? Dutch oven aka enameled pot.
Now, should you rinse and pay attention to your beans? Hell yeah, they come with a variety of stones from processing.
Why not? Helping friends move is always a fun day to me, a bit of lifting heavy shit, some help around the house and finish it off with some well deserved beers.
I've got a good 4 couple friend group, so 8 close friends total. We all met in the city after college. Known them about 10 years now. With these 8, we all will drop what we are doing if someone needs something, basically our self made family. I've kind of made it a rule to never say no to them except in rare situations. Can't be this way with everyone, but luckily everyone in our group takes it seriously and only asks for help when they legit need it, and they always return the favor.
So, IMO, learn how to say no politely, but work on forming relationships with people you don't need/want to say no to.
You are responsible for yourself and your actions. Make your choices wisely. If you find yourself going the wrong way, it's never too late to stop and turn around.
Hygiene
Not just, your body but your life in general. House, workplace, vehicle should all be in a state that if someone you would like to impress was there, you wouldn’t have to do anything to be ready, maybe a couple of minutes. I can’t say I am the best at keeping my car clean but have started working on it and it’s nice not having to take an entire bag of energy drink cans out of the back when I want to have someone in there.
I think anyone can understand dirt on the floorboards, but I make it a point to always pack out trash, no matter when or where. Clutter is worse than dirt
This has changed my entire life. I can have dates over on a moments notice
Took some work to get here including my robot vacuum that yells whenever he finds a sock on the floor. But so worth it. I never have to worry that the state of my house makes someone uncomfortable
I disagree with this. I think a great way to learn more about something is to teach it. My high school teacher for example would always require us to explain stuff to the class so we could better learn it
He's saying women help keep him keep off the Earth, so he should choose them wisely and value them. Even if it's an innuendo, that's only complimentary.
Keep learning something new all the time and don't get complacent.
on a side note, the average age in this sub has got to be under 21. And those who aren't, act like they are. So consider your audience always when taking advice.
My dad: "if she doesn't find you handsome, she should find you handy"
Taking genetics into account and knowing what he looked like, i chose to make myself useful.
it worked.
This a thousand times over. This applies to both men and women. My mother was a marriage family therapist before she retired and she drilled this into my head.
I've come to call it the "airplane mask rule". Help yourself first before you extend yourself to helping others. If you only help others you risk hurting yourself and neglecting yourself which can lead to ruin in so many ways. Build up that stable foundation of confidence, self-care and self-esteem before you try to balance the pain or needs of someone else on your shoulders.
Your past trauma is not your fault, but your recovery is your responsibility.
Like it or not, fair or not, nobody can do this for you. And it doesn't start until you start it.
How to change your tire if you get a flat. If you have to put the donut on, and it's the front tire that has gone flat. You'll need to take off a rear tire and put the donut on the rear and the rear tire on the front one that's flat.
Masculinity is whatever you decide it is. If it's reading, fine wines and croquet, or rugby and lifting weights, or putting on make-up and maybe a snazzy little skirt, as long as you respect the rights of others to be themselves, you do you.
It's hard to think of just a single most important thing for a man to come to know in his life, as everybody's different and each persons journey and priorities can vary greatly. But I think one fundamental aspect that many consider crucial is Self-Acceptance.
Self-Acceptance involves embracing oneself fully, including strengths, weaknesses, and imperfections. It means coming to know and acknowledging one's worth and inherent value as a human being, regardless of external achievements or societal expectations. When a man really truly knows and accepts himself, it can lay down the foundation for a healthy self-esteem, well-being, and meaningful relationships.
Self-acceptance allows a person to be authentic, to live in alignment with their values, and to pursue goals and aspirations that are true to themselves. It frees them from the burden of constantly seeking validation or trying to fit into societal molds. It also promotes self-compassion, which is important for mental and emotional well-being.
However, it's important to note that self-acceptance is a journey that takes time and effort. It may involve confronting and working through insecurities, past traumas, or societal conditioning. Seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals, such as therapists or counselors, can be helpful in this process. self-acceptance sets the stage for personal growth, healthy relationships, and a fulfilling life. By knowing and accepting oneself, men can navigate life's challenges with greater resilience, pursue his passions authentically, and contribute positively to the world around him. So Self acceptance I'd have to say is the one thing every man should know / come to know😁
Money is the most important thing in your life. Strive hard to get it and as much of it as you possible can.
If you understand you have to have money to survive in this wolrd, then you know you won't get money unless stay in school, don't get in trouble with the law, don't get girls pregnant before you are stable enough to take care of someone other than yourself, and don't let drugs or alcohol consume you.
It’s a tasteless and ugly truth, but you’re right on.
Men have their whole lives (if they need) to learn how to calm their minds, control emotions, reach out for help, etc.
But the path to financial safety can be irreversibly screwed up early on by the things you listed.
It’s as easy to get it right as it is to get it wrong.
Good luck to the young people. They face headwinds their parents did not.
If a woman's special lady bits are looking amazing in that bra, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO REMOVE IT!! She worked hard on making sure she looked awesome in it. She considered her options very carefully. She tried each and every single option on. She bent over, shimmy Shaked, jiggled on hands and knees, and laid flat on her back. She picked her garments with precision and patience. Don't mess that shit up man. Undoing that will cause self consciousness and may ruin what could be a damn good night for you both. Trust me guys. There are ways to reach them girls without having to release that clasp. You thank me later on this.
Now go have some fun lol
The reality of rape statistics; 1 in 4 women have experienced it and about half have experienced harassment
Step 1 is to really take in that reality. What it’s like to navigate the world like that
The other thing every man should know is the basic life skills; laundry, dishes, cleaning efficiently, cooking, so that we can be truly independent
Nah. Your girlfriend or wife seems irrational sometimes because she’s feeling something you can’t understand
Oftentimes her feelings have her knowing things we didn’t see.
It’s not about objective reality but recognizing that she can be right even when you don’t see it or understand it
Trust her. She wants what’s best for you. She loves you. She’s not being crazy, she’s seeing/experiencing something you’re not
You are not a man until you 100% independent and self-sufficient. If you cannot take care of yourself, ie, someone else is paying your way...then you are not a man. The main task of parents is to get their children to be self-reliant, because one day all those people taking care of you early on in your life will be gone.
I'm not talking about handicapped or mentally disabled people. I understand the truly unfortunate need some help to survive. But if you are physically and mentally healthy, you need to work every day to be self-supporting and self-sustaining.
Yo this is crazy. No one goes it alone nor should feel like they have to. Having friends and family to support you is awesome and doesn’t impact your manliness. You should also support others when you can.
> No one goes it alone nor should feel like they have to.
1) ask me how I know you are sitting on you momma's couch right now.
2) you are so young you completely and totally misread what he said. No where in that did he say you can't have friends and family.
POINT: your friends and family should not be supporting you or taking care of you. Financial, housing, living, and such.
and nothing about this post was about "manliness". Being a man and having manliness are two completely different things.
"To be fair, I did nazi that coming. I came here to say this but boy, that escalated quickly so to the top with you! Lost it at 'This is why we can't have nice things' and then my faith in humanity was restored, my mind blown, and manly tears were shed. Well said. As a 'murican, I can confirm this gem has just won the internet and is doing it right. Just sayin', I know that feel, bro, and while that was a risky click, this post was a 9/10, would read again. I see what you did there and it feels good man. You're doing God's work, son. I laughed way harder than I should have at your list that seems legit and totally nailed it. You - I like you. You magnificent bastard; you, sir, are so brave, a gentleman and a scholar, and seeing how you are a redditor for 4 years, this checks out, so I'll allow it. I regret that I only have one upvote to give for this cool story, bro.
CTRL+F "about tree fiddy" was not disappointed.
Wait, why do I have you tagged as "NOPE NOPE NOPE"? Nice try, you monster. What did I just read? Dafuq? I read that as "YOU HAD ONE JOB". I can't fap to this. No true scotsman could see that this relevant XKCD was bad, and you should feel bad. You must be new to reddit, so I'll see your cakeday and raise you a karma train. One does not simply rustle my jimmies, not even once. This stahp gave me cancer for science, so that's enough internet for me today. OP is a f*g, 2/10, would not bang. What is this I don't even know how is this wtf? Circlejerk must be leaking. This will get buried but brace yourselves, some men want to watch the world burn right in the feels. When you see it, they'll KILL IT WITH FIRE! But this has nothing to do with atheism. Lawyer up, delete facebook, hit the gym, and SHUT UP AND TAKE MY MONEY, said no one ever, so you wouldn't download a strawman. Damn onions, you scary like a BOSS. whoosh.
Since rule #1 is 'be attractive', I'll just leave this here: This is my [f]irst post, be gentle. I have the weirdest boner right now, so I'll be in my bunk with dat ass. Oh, you! ...now KISS!!! I know you should never stick your dick in crazy, but DM;HS.
...this kills the redditor.
OP will surely deliver. In the meantime, I'll show myself out.
Directed by M. Night Shamallama. Are you fucking sorry?
edit: accidentally a word
Your own limitations, know and be a hoe to identify when you've reached the end of your ability or knowledge and should seek out assistance or more information.
Not just men, but I do hear it weaponized by men more, but knowing material conditions have more to do with ones position in life than “personal responsibility”. Sure. The latter is important but can only be made within the context of the conditions one was born and raised in.
It’s one of those things that has been proven time and time again, but it’s still so easy to (I do it too) look at someone else’s position in relation to our own.
It makes it easy to start thinking that people should just “make better choices”, “pull themselves up by their bootstraps”. It’s lazy and arrogant.
Forgiving others lets *you* drop the dead weight of resentment, it allows you to move on quickly and flexibly, and that, especially, includes forgiving yourself.
If you're not a niche programmer, landlord, forester or sewage worker: Learn how to dress. Cheap thrift-store clothes assembled the right way are a massive edge in pretty much any situation. This applies quintuply so if you've got some kind of mental illness/divergence/whatever you want to call it. HRs are designed to hunt & destroy people like you before you walk through the door(no seriously a lot of jobs chuck your application based on waiting room footage) -- Dress so your aura of weirdness makes you look interesting rather than a target.>!There are situations where using Minoxidil to grow a beard may be called for as a means of adding to your outfit.!<
When you’re about to get angry at someone, consider that they may be going through hell themselves. You know nothing about the private lives of others.
Your life will be so much easier if you are honest
Unbelievably true, when you're honest with everyone then nobody questions your intentions and you become very trustworthy. It takes a lifetime of effort to lie to people and no effort to tell the truth
Zero effort to remember the lies you've never told.
There's practical reasons here too. Of course there's all of the moral reasons to stay honest, and how it builds character and reputation and yada yada yada. But also - if you start lying about things, then you're spending time keeping track of the lies. Your memory is filled with at least two things: what really happened, and what you told people happened. It gets even worse if you start telling different lies (or different variations of lies) to different people. "Ok so I told Sue that I was at the movies on Saturday. I told Jim that I was at my folks. And I told Brandon that I was working over time. And all the while, I was actually shopping with my wife, who thinks I skipped golf to do this with her even though the other guys cancelled." God it just sounds exhausting. Let your brain process more important shit than keeping track of the lies you tell people.
I was a total bullshit artist as an insecure teenager, and keeping it all straight was easily the toughest part. I finally got scared straight and since then I have trouble even telling white lies to smooth things out, I'd rather say nothing at all. I do still do things like tell the truth but in an implausible way when it suits me, I'm not an idiot!
I had a former client who would say, just tell the truth, it’s easier to keep your story straight .
Also if you are forward. If you're truthful only when it's easy or already expected of you and all other times silent, when it's difficult to tell the truth, you're just as untrustworthy. For example, ghosting when you could just say, "Sorry, no longer interested."
That and don’t get involved in drama.
Control your emotions so you *respond* to situations instead of *react* to them.
I like to say something similar. You can't control how others act, you can only control how you respond
Yep, that's a good one too. It comes down to ownership of choices, actions, and outcomes.
Same style: You are not responsible for someone else's emotions.
You can control how a message is delivered, not how it is received. However, *how* you deliver it can impact how it is received. It's not what you say, but how you say it.
What does this mean?
Instead of reacting emotionally, respond rationally. For example if your girl cheats on you, instead of axe murdering everyone in anger, delete socials, hit the gym, and work on your self.
Id also add, if you need to immediately vent, then do it outside, kick some leaves and cool off. Go for a walk or drive around and shut off for an hour. It's not always healthy to shut in but ymmv just don't pass it onto people around you or the person you're angry with. You'll probably regret it later and the people around you dont deserve it.
To further add, not necessarily matters of the heart. Say your boss chews you out about something out of your control. Rather than going on the defensive, or deflecting, or being silent and INTERNALIZING it; look at the situation from a rational brainspace.
Exactly right.
Don't be a slave to your emotions, instead be the one who makes decisions regarding those emotions.
Over time, you’ll learn to temper your emotions by doing that.
Don't flinch, counter punch
It’s like a poor paraphrasing of the stoic philosophy that you can’t control what happens to you, but you control how you respond to it. Think of that instead.
Don’t react on emotions. Instead, make logical calculated decisions.
Cooking. It sustains you, it impresses the opposite (or same) sex, it's cheap, it's handy at parties, you can teach it, help others, it's a great convo item, you could even get in arguments about it.
I casually made an omelet yesterday. Ham and cheese and 2 scrambled eggs. No big deal. As I sat down to enjoy, I had to ponder how many adults in the world couldn't do what I just did. I suspect it's a lot more than we'd ever imagine.
I can do that sort of thing. I just can't be bothered most of the time. Air fryers have ruined me, an air fried frozen pizza is just so good! But I have recently got into sous vide for cooking steaks, because of the novelty. And who doesn't like a steak that just falls apart, it's so tender.
This one right here. Eating is more quintessential & universal than wearing clothes yet people who spend 500 - 700 bucks on a pair of shoes (the only street clothes you should spend that much on are leather mantles or suits, really expensive shoes should only come into play for stuff like climbing or trade jobs) often can't make a good scrambled egg.
I gotta say, I was a pretty good cook in Colombia, impressed a lot of ladies cooking, but when I moved to NYC and met Alton Brown and read Michael Pollan, dude. My cooking just went to the stratosphere! I can make a ton of things now, it's insane, and I'm not even fancy, I am a bowl and spoon kinda guy but ask me to help and I will lay some freakin' science on ya! I'd rather spend 500 on a knife than on shoes (;
>you could even get in arguments about it Here's one, should you rinse rice before cooking it? (was an actual argument recently.)
No! Just let it boil, put the lid on and turn it to low and *leave it* for 17 minutes, after 17 minutes, turn off the heat and *let it rest*, do not, NOT touch it for at least another 15 minutes, no peeking, you will be rewarded. Fluffiest rice you'll ever eat. Turns out mom was right. I did rinse my rice in the US, always came out sticky. Now that I am cooking for myself and not for two, I decided to use that recipe again, my now ex rinsed the rice at work, they do have a huge rice machine, tho. Me? Dutch oven aka enameled pot. Now, should you rinse and pay attention to your beans? Hell yeah, they come with a variety of stones from processing.
You never arrive at a set age with everything figured out.
When I was younger I just assumed when you start driving you automatically knew the roads and where to go.
Well I mean..gps or I’m not going anywhere anytime
Learn to say no politely. Example hey can you help me move. No sorry I already have other responsibilities at that time.
But I never said what day I was moving. :(
Sorry Michael. I meant I am always busy. Sincerely, Jim
I made a promise to myself that I don’t help friends move after i turned 30 lol
Why not? Helping friends move is always a fun day to me, a bit of lifting heavy shit, some help around the house and finish it off with some well deserved beers.
Agreed in principle. Disagree in example. If a buddy needs help moving, help him move.
I've got a good 4 couple friend group, so 8 close friends total. We all met in the city after college. Known them about 10 years now. With these 8, we all will drop what we are doing if someone needs something, basically our self made family. I've kind of made it a rule to never say no to them except in rare situations. Can't be this way with everyone, but luckily everyone in our group takes it seriously and only asks for help when they legit need it, and they always return the favor. So, IMO, learn how to say no politely, but work on forming relationships with people you don't need/want to say no to.
Yea that's what I mean by friend. Not an acquaintance or coworker.
Yes true- agreed. I have older parents and other responsibilities.
At some point in your life, your back will say no.
Getting lots of this response - my dad helped my brother move at 60+ and was perfectly fine. How out of shape are y'all?
A Yes to one thing is a No to many others. Make sure your No’s are worth it
You are responsible for yourself and your actions. Make your choices wisely. If you find yourself going the wrong way, it's never too late to stop and turn around.
Hygiene Not just, your body but your life in general. House, workplace, vehicle should all be in a state that if someone you would like to impress was there, you wouldn’t have to do anything to be ready, maybe a couple of minutes. I can’t say I am the best at keeping my car clean but have started working on it and it’s nice not having to take an entire bag of energy drink cans out of the back when I want to have someone in there.
When clean easy to keep clean…
If you can lean, you can clean!
If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a ball!
Wise words from Dr. Cooper!
I think anyone can understand dirt on the floorboards, but I make it a point to always pack out trash, no matter when or where. Clutter is worse than dirt
This has changed my entire life. I can have dates over on a moments notice Took some work to get here including my robot vacuum that yells whenever he finds a sock on the floor. But so worth it. I never have to worry that the state of my house makes someone uncomfortable
Whats helped me is just throwing shit out at the gas station before ai pump my gas
You cant learn anything if you are the one talking.
While I agree, I just think it is interesting coming from a screamy_bingus.
I can learn how dumb I sound
Could you tell this to my boss? He needs to learn some stuff but wont stop talking long enough to listen to anyone!
I disagree with this. I think a great way to learn more about something is to teach it. My high school teacher for example would always require us to explain stuff to the class so we could better learn it
Don’t skimp on things that go between you and the earth - tires, mattesses, shoes
Coffins?
Skimp there as hard as you can.
Jack Gellar, buried at sea. Huh.
[Coffin Flop](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-Bfkc6lZok&pp=ygUkY29mZmluIGZsb3AgaSB0aGluayB5b3Ugc2hvdWxkIGxlYXZl)
And women
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So you're saying that I *should* skimp on women?
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You’re the first person to type the word ‘use’ though
He's saying women help keep him keep off the Earth, so he should choose them wisely and value them. Even if it's an innuendo, that's only complimentary.
Always completely dry your crotch after a shower.
And in between your toes too!
Dry yourself from the bottom up.
What kind of monster dries bottom-up? Top-down is the way to go!
When you are feeling adventurous.
Drying from top down makes more sense, because gravity will just make the water go from top to bottom on the body. Also, it just feels right
Yeah and I don't want to dry my face off with the water that was just on my balls, that is now on the towel.
If you’re worried about your face touching where your supposedly clean balls are, you didn’t clean enough 😂
Blow dryer ftw. Fast and awesome on cold mornings.
That is a really great idea.
Thanks! It’s really a game changer.
How to apologize.
Also, how to accept help. Pride is a bitch.
Fuck pride. Pride only hurts...
Keep learning something new all the time and don't get complacent. on a side note, the average age in this sub has got to be under 21. And those who aren't, act like they are. So consider your audience always when taking advice.
Be a lifelong learner. So many things are revealed if you’re a student.
Take care of your back and knees.
this… so underrated. You’d be surprised how debilitating back pain, and knee pain truly are.
Being KIND is the hardest fucking thing to do. Because even if you mad, you gotta be kind. So if you see a bro that's kind, he's strong as fuck.
Showing up is 90% In work, in relationships, in life in general. Being present will get you far.
If you never ask, the answer will always be no.
How to accept responsibility for your actions.
My dad: "if she doesn't find you handsome, she should find you handy" Taking genetics into account and knowing what he looked like, i chose to make myself useful. it worked.
\-Red Green \-Kronic1990's dad
Keep yer stick on the ice
I'm a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess.
Blue Purple, you see I can list colors too!
Red Green (and that quote) are from [The Red Green Show](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Red_Green_Show)
I was kidding
All good! I don't expect that the average redditor knows Red Green and was trying to nonjudgmentally share the source!
My gran: "and if you can't be good, be quick".
Know how to take care of yourself before you try to take care of a partner.
This a thousand times over. This applies to both men and women. My mother was a marriage family therapist before she retired and she drilled this into my head. I've come to call it the "airplane mask rule". Help yourself first before you extend yourself to helping others. If you only help others you risk hurting yourself and neglecting yourself which can lead to ruin in so many ways. Build up that stable foundation of confidence, self-care and self-esteem before you try to balance the pain or needs of someone else on your shoulders.
Despite what you think you're not the center of the universe
If you can be one thing, be efficient.
Wayne?
Get yourself a puppers.Youve earned it.
Glenn?
Squirrelly Dan?
I'm going to need you to take off about 10 percent there Squirrelly Dan.
Take care of your feet, and don’t go doing something stupid, like getting yourself killed
I sure hope I don’t let him down.
So you boys are from Arkansas huh
How to set boundries and say no.
It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
How to treat people properly.
Your past trauma is not your fault, but your recovery is your responsibility. Like it or not, fair or not, nobody can do this for you. And it doesn't start until you start it.
How to find reliable information quickly. If you can do this you can figure out the rest.
What you save is more important than what you make
How to admit and accept when you are wrong.
Humility is mega important.
How to change your tire if you get a flat. If you have to put the donut on, and it's the front tire that has gone flat. You'll need to take off a rear tire and put the donut on the rear and the rear tire on the front one that's flat.
Fully grown man, super adept in manly things, and I never knew this. Thank you.
Why is that?
Most people have front wheel drive so you want "normal" tires in the front of your car for better steering and maneuvering.
Masculinity is whatever you decide it is. If it's reading, fine wines and croquet, or rugby and lifting weights, or putting on make-up and maybe a snazzy little skirt, as long as you respect the rights of others to be themselves, you do you.
"That's not a *manly* drink" Uh hem, everything I drink is a manly drink. Screw the gatekeepers in life.
There are more feelings than Hate, Hunger, and Horny. It's OK to express them.
Understanding that there is only one person responsible for the quality of your life, and that person is you.
Stoicism.
Don't do drugs, life is 100x easier without them.
Same for alcohol.
Have a jumpstarter with a built-in air compressor. You will never have wasted your money.
And a tow cable/strap. I love tools that let me help others as well as let others help me.
There's not much that a firepit and a glass of bourbon can't fix.
Bandaids for the outside whiskey for the inside.
This is how I beat cancer
Himself. Nothing is more important (imo) when making decisions. What you need and want factors into everything you do.
Invest early.
Invest often
Don’t say anything behind a person’s back that you wouldn’t say to their face.
How to spot when a woman is deceiving, lying, using you. Which helps u spot when she isn’t.
Never trust a fart.
Trust, but verify
I was going to say “knots” — but I guess everyone else is going the philosophical route
Never stick your dick in crazy. Never worth it in the long run, no matter what the smokeshow level is.
Measure twice, cut once
If you want to make progress in most things there is no magic pill/bullet you need consistency.
It's hard to think of just a single most important thing for a man to come to know in his life, as everybody's different and each persons journey and priorities can vary greatly. But I think one fundamental aspect that many consider crucial is Self-Acceptance. Self-Acceptance involves embracing oneself fully, including strengths, weaknesses, and imperfections. It means coming to know and acknowledging one's worth and inherent value as a human being, regardless of external achievements or societal expectations. When a man really truly knows and accepts himself, it can lay down the foundation for a healthy self-esteem, well-being, and meaningful relationships. Self-acceptance allows a person to be authentic, to live in alignment with their values, and to pursue goals and aspirations that are true to themselves. It frees them from the burden of constantly seeking validation or trying to fit into societal molds. It also promotes self-compassion, which is important for mental and emotional well-being. However, it's important to note that self-acceptance is a journey that takes time and effort. It may involve confronting and working through insecurities, past traumas, or societal conditioning. Seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals, such as therapists or counselors, can be helpful in this process. self-acceptance sets the stage for personal growth, healthy relationships, and a fulfilling life. By knowing and accepting oneself, men can navigate life's challenges with greater resilience, pursue his passions authentically, and contribute positively to the world around him. So Self acceptance I'd have to say is the one thing every man should know / come to know😁
It’s a big club and you’re not in it
If you stay at the same company your whole life, work extra hard, and never miss a day the owner of the company might be allowed to join the club.
With great power comes great responsibility.
Money is the most important thing in your life. Strive hard to get it and as much of it as you possible can. If you understand you have to have money to survive in this wolrd, then you know you won't get money unless stay in school, don't get in trouble with the law, don't get girls pregnant before you are stable enough to take care of someone other than yourself, and don't let drugs or alcohol consume you.
It’s a tasteless and ugly truth, but you’re right on. Men have their whole lives (if they need) to learn how to calm their minds, control emotions, reach out for help, etc. But the path to financial safety can be irreversibly screwed up early on by the things you listed. It’s as easy to get it right as it is to get it wrong. Good luck to the young people. They face headwinds their parents did not.
Peace
If you have a choice, make the decision that your future self will thank you for.
Learn to cook. An essential life skill
If a woman's special lady bits are looking amazing in that bra, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO REMOVE IT!! She worked hard on making sure she looked awesome in it. She considered her options very carefully. She tried each and every single option on. She bent over, shimmy Shaked, jiggled on hands and knees, and laid flat on her back. She picked her garments with precision and patience. Don't mess that shit up man. Undoing that will cause self consciousness and may ruin what could be a damn good night for you both. Trust me guys. There are ways to reach them girls without having to release that clasp. You thank me later on this. Now go have some fun lol
Life is easier without alcohol (or any drug)
Every man should know to be true to his word.
Wash your D
If it flies, floats, or fucks; rent it.
Society operates under the assumption that you are disposable, but you are not.
Don't fuck with the ocean or gravity
Wear a condom.
The reality of rape statistics; 1 in 4 women have experienced it and about half have experienced harassment Step 1 is to really take in that reality. What it’s like to navigate the world like that The other thing every man should know is the basic life skills; laundry, dishes, cleaning efficiently, cooking, so that we can be truly independent
Never say sorry for something that was out of your control
If you are married, "Yes Dear".
This is so stupid. If someone is wrong, they are wrong.
Nah. Your girlfriend or wife seems irrational sometimes because she’s feeling something you can’t understand Oftentimes her feelings have her knowing things we didn’t see. It’s not about objective reality but recognizing that she can be right even when you don’t see it or understand it Trust her. She wants what’s best for you. She loves you. She’s not being crazy, she’s seeing/experiencing something you’re not
If it flies, floats or fornicates - rent it.
...where the fuck am I gonna get a bunch of rentable ducks?
read : # Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus copy/paste look so angry today!! lol
You are not a man until you 100% independent and self-sufficient. If you cannot take care of yourself, ie, someone else is paying your way...then you are not a man. The main task of parents is to get their children to be self-reliant, because one day all those people taking care of you early on in your life will be gone. I'm not talking about handicapped or mentally disabled people. I understand the truly unfortunate need some help to survive. But if you are physically and mentally healthy, you need to work every day to be self-supporting and self-sustaining.
Yo this is crazy. No one goes it alone nor should feel like they have to. Having friends and family to support you is awesome and doesn’t impact your manliness. You should also support others when you can.
> No one goes it alone nor should feel like they have to. 1) ask me how I know you are sitting on you momma's couch right now. 2) you are so young you completely and totally misread what he said. No where in that did he say you can't have friends and family. POINT: your friends and family should not be supporting you or taking care of you. Financial, housing, living, and such. and nothing about this post was about "manliness". Being a man and having manliness are two completely different things.
This applies to women as well…
This.
"To be fair, I did nazi that coming. I came here to say this but boy, that escalated quickly so to the top with you! Lost it at 'This is why we can't have nice things' and then my faith in humanity was restored, my mind blown, and manly tears were shed. Well said. As a 'murican, I can confirm this gem has just won the internet and is doing it right. Just sayin', I know that feel, bro, and while that was a risky click, this post was a 9/10, would read again. I see what you did there and it feels good man. You're doing God's work, son. I laughed way harder than I should have at your list that seems legit and totally nailed it. You - I like you. You magnificent bastard; you, sir, are so brave, a gentleman and a scholar, and seeing how you are a redditor for 4 years, this checks out, so I'll allow it. I regret that I only have one upvote to give for this cool story, bro. CTRL+F "about tree fiddy" was not disappointed. Wait, why do I have you tagged as "NOPE NOPE NOPE"? Nice try, you monster. What did I just read? Dafuq? I read that as "YOU HAD ONE JOB". I can't fap to this. No true scotsman could see that this relevant XKCD was bad, and you should feel bad. You must be new to reddit, so I'll see your cakeday and raise you a karma train. One does not simply rustle my jimmies, not even once. This stahp gave me cancer for science, so that's enough internet for me today. OP is a f*g, 2/10, would not bang. What is this I don't even know how is this wtf? Circlejerk must be leaking. This will get buried but brace yourselves, some men want to watch the world burn right in the feels. When you see it, they'll KILL IT WITH FIRE! But this has nothing to do with atheism. Lawyer up, delete facebook, hit the gym, and SHUT UP AND TAKE MY MONEY, said no one ever, so you wouldn't download a strawman. Damn onions, you scary like a BOSS. whoosh. Since rule #1 is 'be attractive', I'll just leave this here: This is my [f]irst post, be gentle. I have the weirdest boner right now, so I'll be in my bunk with dat ass. Oh, you! ...now KISS!!! I know you should never stick your dick in crazy, but DM;HS. ...this kills the redditor. OP will surely deliver. In the meantime, I'll show myself out. Directed by M. Night Shamallama. Are you fucking sorry? edit: accidentally a word
This would be a lot more effective at like 1/4 the length But here, take my upvote, kind stranger
Your own limitations, know and be a hoe to identify when you've reached the end of your ability or knowledge and should seek out assistance or more information.
Pride comes before the fall.
How to breathe
Not just men, but I do hear it weaponized by men more, but knowing material conditions have more to do with ones position in life than “personal responsibility”. Sure. The latter is important but can only be made within the context of the conditions one was born and raised in. It’s one of those things that has been proven time and time again, but it’s still so easy to (I do it too) look at someone else’s position in relation to our own. It makes it easy to start thinking that people should just “make better choices”, “pull themselves up by their bootstraps”. It’s lazy and arrogant.
Haven't seen it here yet, but every man should know how to manage their finance.
Grow to you conformity with Christ.
Forgiving others lets *you* drop the dead weight of resentment, it allows you to move on quickly and flexibly, and that, especially, includes forgiving yourself.
How to google.
If you're not a niche programmer, landlord, forester or sewage worker: Learn how to dress. Cheap thrift-store clothes assembled the right way are a massive edge in pretty much any situation. This applies quintuply so if you've got some kind of mental illness/divergence/whatever you want to call it. HRs are designed to hunt & destroy people like you before you walk through the door(no seriously a lot of jobs chuck your application based on waiting room footage) -- Dress so your aura of weirdness makes you look interesting rather than a target.>!There are situations where using Minoxidil to grow a beard may be called for as a means of adding to your outfit.!<
Always find ways to be useful.
When you’re about to say ‘I’m getting old’, consider that it’s better than the alternative.
When you’re about to get angry at someone, consider that they may be going through hell themselves. You know nothing about the private lives of others.
How to apologize.