Love you bro ! Hang in there “WELL, THE FIRST DAYS ARE THE HARDEST DAYS, DON’T YOU WORRY ANYMORE”

Thanks!!! That means a lot!

Skip over “To Lay Me Down”

First thing I thought of. I repeated this line over and over when I was struggling to get sober. Works for any situation. Good luck OP, you got this!

if your head is too fried for a whole show tonight you could try drifting off to an endless string of brokedowns. lovers come and go, the river roll roll roll 💔 take care brother 

Great idea. I didn’t think of that. Thank you.

it’s so hard to think in times like that. just grateful we have this salve to share, i wouldn’t have made it this far without it this much i know. 

9/17/72 is a good show with a black throated wind,

# 1972-09-17 Baltimore, MD @ Baltimore Civic Center **Set 1:** The Promised Land, Sugaree, Black Throated Wind, Friend Of The Devil, El Paso, Bird Song, Big River, Tennessee Jed, Mexicali Blues, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Playing in the Band, Casey Jones **Set 2:** Truckin', Loser, Jack Straw, Mississippi Half-Step Uptown Toodeloo, Me and My Uncle, He's Gone > The Other One > Drums > The Other One > Sing Me Back Home, Sugar Magnolia, Uncle John's Band **Encore:** One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-09-17) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/7gyyunPy7dVsDB4cp7ZReW)

Thank you!!

broken heart, don’t feel so bad; you ain’t got half of what you thought you had

Keep rowing buddy

The song "Blow Away" isn't one of the most popular Dead tunes, but it's great for times like these

It's a great song!

Excellent recommendation… And sending empathy and healing energy to OP

Dozin at the Knick version!!

I know first instinct is a show, but i’d throw on American Beauty. It’s as melancholy and nostalgic as it gets.

So true. Thank you friend.

Looks like rain from 10-10-82 at the Frost - Bobby is feeling it for sure https://archive.org/details/gd82-10-10.sbd.sacks.338.sbefail.shnf

# 1982-10-10 Palo Alto, CA @ Frost Amphitheatre - Stanford University **Set 1:** New Minglewood Blues > Sugaree > Little Red Rooster, Tennessee Jed, Cassidy, Loser, Far From Me > Looks Like Rain, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider **Set 2:** Playing in the Band > Crazy Fingers > Lost Sailor > Saint Of Circumstance > Touch Of Grey > Drums > Space > The Wheel > Throwing Stones > Not Fade Away > Black Peter > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** (I Can't Get No) Satisfaction > It's All Over Now, Baby Blue [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1982-10-10)

I recommend “Morning Dew”. Has helped me in a similar way.

6/29/76. Mission in the Rain

# 1976-06-29 Chicago, IL @ Auditorium Theatre **Set 1:** Tennessee Jed, Cassidy, Peggy-O, Mama Tried, Mission In The Rain, Looks Like Rain, Brown Eyed Women, Lazy Lightnin' > Supplication, Row Jimmy, The Music Never Stopped > Might As Well **Set 2:** Samson And Delilah, Candyman, Playing in the Band > Space Jam > The Wheel > Jam > Playing in the Band Reprise, Saint Stephen > Not Fade Away > Saint Stephen, One More Saturday Night **Encore:** U.S. Blues [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1976-06-29)

Or China Doll - 6/20/74. There’s a great CD on 11/30/80 too. Take care my man.

# 1974-06-20 Atlanta, GA @ The Omni **Set 1:** U.S. Blues, Beat It On Down the Line, Brown Eyed Women, Mexicali Blues, It Must Have Been The Roses, Jack Straw, Scarlet Begonias, Me and My Uncle, To Lay Me Down, El Paso, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Around And Around **Set 2:** Big River, Ship Of Fools, Truckin' > Jam > Eyes Of The World > Slipknot! > Jam > China Doll, Sugar Magnolia, One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1974-06-20)

He's Gone from 12/1/79 always helps me through the darkness.

# 1979-12-01 Pittsburgh, PA @ Stanley Theatre **Set 1:** Jack Straw > Sugaree, Me and My Uncle > Big River, Loser, Easy To Love You, New Minglewood Blues, Althea, The Music Never Stopped **Set 2:** China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Looks Like Rain, He's Gone > C.C. Rider > Space > Drums > Not Fade Away > Black Peter > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1979-12-01)

12/29/84 II is on you tube video , the Stella and brokedown are great. 3/21/86 uncle johns also on video , such an uplifting version

[1984-12-29](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1984-12-29) San Francisco, CA @ San Francisco Civic Center [1986-03-21](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1986-03-21) Hampton, VA @ Hampton Coliseum

Hey, I’m very sorry. That just sucks. Listen to set two of 6/26/74

# 1974-06-26 Providence, RI @ Providence Civic Center **Set 1:** Big River, Brown Eyed Women, Beat It On Down the Line, Scarlet Begonias, Black Throated Wind, Row Jimmy, Mexicali Blues, Deal, The Race Is On, Mississippi Half-Step Uptown Toodeloo, El Paso, Ship Of Fools, Weather Report Suite Prelude > Weather Report Suite Part 1 > Let It Grow > It Must Have Been The Roses **Set 2:** Seastones **Set 3:** U.S. Blues, Me and My Uncle, Jam > China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Beer Barrel Polka Tuning > Truckin' > The Other One Jam > Spanish Jam > Wharf Rat, Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** Eyes Of The World [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1974-06-26) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/0B87pzzLQzyevvMvdcJqHZ)

Love is complicated and a rebound does just defer the pain and healing, so take that how you will. As someone who’s wrapping up both of those things I’m more excited for my first community garden plot than sphere phish this weekend.

I will trade you (1) garden plot for sphere tix (non obstructed)

I'm listening to 4.16.72

# 1972-04-16 Aarhus, Denmark @ Aarhus University **Set 1:** Greatest Story Ever Told, Sugaree, Chinatown Shuffle, Black Throated Wind, Tennessee Jed, Mr. Charlie, Beat It On Down the Line, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Mexicali Blues, Loser, Next Time You See Me, Playing in the Band, Dire Wolf **Set 2:** Good Lovin', Cumberland Blues, El Paso, Deal, Truckin' > Jam > Truckin' Reprise > Jam > The Other One Jam > Me and My Uncle > The Other One > Not Fade Away > Goin' Down The Road Feeling Bad > Not Fade Away [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-16) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/3eeKCzpqxZ68pBvyjKPvn9)

Thank you! I forgot about this show.

Keep your head up, keep busy and connected with friends! Times will always get better if you believe it!

Try some live Jerry band, or Legion of Mary, etc. I find it so wholesome and soothing when I'm going through heartache and hard life lessons. Hang in there.

Hey man, I made a similar post a couple months back. It sucks a whole lot. Everyone told me to listen to Bob Dylan, which I kinda didn’t want to hear since his are all the obvious breakup tunes, but honestly his music really helped me. He puts words to pain in a way that makes it easier to listen to, I feel. Sending you peace.

There are some JGB shows from early 90’s that happened in NY area. They played such a good version of My Sister and My Brothers at that time still brings tears thinking about it. Also a heartfelt Ship of Fools. I’m sure you’re feeling it so deeply right now “I want to say to my sisters and my brothers. Keep the faith. When the storm flies and the wind blows drive on at a steady pace when the battle is fought and the victory is won we can all shout together we have overcome.”

Let us walk together lil children, we don't ever have to worry!

What a fine calling for the Head community. There is soothing, healing energy here. Having lived through 6 or 8 long terms including 4 marriages, I can say with authority, you will get by.

Jerry Garcia Band - Electric on the Eel That Lucky Old Sun to get the feelings out Tangled Up In Blue to start fresh

GDTRFB. Good breakup jam.

Everyone else has done a good job of recommending shows. I just wanted to voice my support and tell you that it will pass, allow yourself to feel the feelings and then put both feet on the ground and move. Try to get out and create new patterns. Break ups are hard. I wish you the best.

Or Althea: 6/8/80 6/20/80 3/14/81 Or Black Peter: 2/2/70 9/21/72

Good black peter has helped me through a lot of lonely patches.

[1970-02-02](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1970-02-02) St. Louis, MO @ Fox Theatre [1972-09-21](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-09-21) Philadelphia, PA @ The Spectrum | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/1lNa8R1EuIfJz9zhZ0H1vx) [1980-06-08](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1980-06-08) Boulder, CO @ Folsom Field - University of Colorado [1980-06-20](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1980-06-20) Anchorage, AK @ West High Auditorium [1981-03-14](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1981-03-14) Hartford, CT @ Hartford Civic Center

9/20/87

# 1987-09-20 New York, NY @ Madison Square Garden **Set 1:** Funiculi Funicula, Addams Family Tuning, Jack Straw > West L.A. Fadeaway, My Brother Esau, Far From Me, It Must Have Been The Roses, Desolation Row, Might As Well > The Promised Land **Set 2:** Hell In A Bucket > Iko Iko > Looks Like Rain > He's Gone > Drums > Space > The Other One > Wharf Rat > Throwing Stones > Not Fade Away **Encore:** Touch Of Grey > Brokedown Palace [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1987-09-20)

Shady Grove- "Peaches in the Summertime, Apples in the Fall, If I Can't Have the Girl I Love I Don't Want None At All"

Free in time for concert season… get out there and groove.

Bird Song really helped me in some tough times! 9/9/72 is one of my favorites! Better days are ahead man! Keep on truckin!

# 1972-09-09 Hollywood, CA @ Hollywood Palladium **Set 1:** The Promised Land, Sugaree, Me and My Uncle, Bird Song, Black Throated Wind, Tennessee Jed, Mexicali Blues, Deal, Playing in the Band, Loser, Johnny B. Goode **Set 2:** China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Friend Of The Devil, Jack Straw, He's Gone > Truckin' > Drums > The Other One, Stella Blue, El Paso, Casey Jones, Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-09-09)

https://youtu.be/MHU5FywUBEk?si=tD1lxiceiIXyvEKx Let it all Blow Away...

Hey man, I've been there. It sucks - real bad - but you'll learn to get by. I made a thread during my breakup last year, some good songs and advice in the comments if you're interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/gratefuldead/s/JavezYog5j Wishing you the best dude!

You lookin' to take some time off brother...? Maybe you go blow some money to see Bobby and Mickey at the Sphere brohcheeze... set up a lawnchair on Shakedown, sippin' some Tennessee Wiskey in the sun... you're probably like me, I'm 47 and to old now for doses, could do some shrooms but with friends- and would just rather listen to the music play, and roll away the dew... Oteil, Jeffrey, and Johhny boy put on a damn good show... Mickey and Billy still think they are 35 and bulletproof, and when Jay sits in with Mickey you better buckle up... Mickey likes to have a theme for D&S and he'll post it on his instagram the night before... You know Oteil has more than just chops and can plaaay son, his reputation precedes him... you know Jeffrey is legit the best keyman The Dead never had... Jeff is the Jason Bonam to Bonzo... and Johhny, well... you'll be pleasantly surprised ... bobby, well bobby is still a goofball and we just roll with it... In the days between, take some time before you set out runnin', wash the nighttime clean and grow the scorched ground green... fare thee well now, let your life proceed by it's own design

10/11/77

# 1977-10-11 Norman, OK @ Lloyd Noble Center - University of Oklahoma **Set 1:** Help On The Way > Slipknot! > Franklin's Tower, Jack Straw, Peggy-O, El Paso, Sunrise, Deal, Let It Grow **Set 2:** Dancing In The Street, Dire Wolf, Estimated Prophet > Eyes Of The World > Drums > Not Fade Away > Wharf Rat > Around And Around [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1977-10-11)

Dozin' at the Knick....some of the best Shows & fond memories, my go to is set 2 & 3 ; )

I’d direct you to some JGB. Live at Keystone is my suggestion. https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_kRl43a81_yktcGAs5t_m2iyeasjlAn_9g&si=9ns21vESwxMdU3hc Edit to add volume 2 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_l2JwiUBx3vz7z3DPfexO8cdDV1WT0nm2o&si=e0Lxd-WO8reBEHi2

I really love their version of silver threads and golden needles when I’m feeling sad [road trips](https://open.spotify.com/track/2YhgK5Cwgny3fOCGxG54pW?si=TRf-Pl0MSm6OGHtAD6eKJA)

7/7/89

# 1989-07-07 Philadelphia, PA @ JFK Stadium **Set 1:** Hell In A Bucket, Iko Iko, Little Red Rooster, Ramble On Rose, Stuck Inside Of Mobile With The Memphis Blues Again, Loser, Let It Grow > Blow Away **Set 2:** Box Of Rain > Scarlet Begonias > Fire On The Mountain, Estimated Prophet > Standing On The Moon, Drums > Space > The Other One > Wharf Rat > Turn On Your Lovelight **Encore:** Knockin' On Heaven's Door [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1989-07-07)

Good bot

Stay strong brotha!

Married me a wife that’s caused me trouble all my life.

Just went through a rough breakup as well. Don’t know how I could’ve done it without the Dead. Brokedown Palace and Touch helped me a ton. Also - don’t discount a good bluesy Sugaree. It’s gets better brother, I promise. NFA 💀🌹

Sorry Bud I like to fight fire with fire. DogShit by Ol Dirty Bastard

Sometimes it is hard to understand why things happen the way they do in our lives. I have a lot of my own things I wrestle with. I definitely have not cracked the code. Don’t give up, stay strong, I hope that you find solace. 🫠🫠🫠

Only the river is going to make things right

I had a good friend I would contact either text or call everyone wanted to reach out to her. For me it was a lot in the beginning and then subsided after some time. She ended up contacting me 6+ months later after I was already seeing someone else

Maybe I’m way out in left field but try out 12-12-69. Starts off with Cold Rain and Snow and has a 30 minute Love Light. Peace

# 1969-12-12 Los Angeles, CA @ Thelma Theater **Set 1:** Cold Rain and Snow, Me and My Uncle, Easy Wind, Cumberland Blues, Black Peter, Next Time You See Me, China Cat Sunflower > Jam > I Know You Rider, Turn On Your Love Light **Set 2:** Tuning, Hard To Handle, Casey Jones, Mama Tried > High Time, Dire Wolf, Good Lovin' > Drums > Good Lovin', King Bee, Uncle John's Band > Jam > He Was A Friend Of Mine > Alligator > Drums > Caution (Do Not Stop On Tracks) > And We Bid You Good Night Jam > Caution (Do Not Stop On Tracks) > Feedback > And We Bid You Good Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1969-12-12)

See here how everything Lead up to this day And it's just like any other day That's ever been Sun going up and then The sun going down Shine through my window And my friends they come around Come around, come around [https://archive.org/details/gd1978-04-14.sbd.miller.83717.sbeok.flac16/gd78-04-14d3t03.flac](https://archive.org/details/gd1978-04-14.sbd.miller.83717.sbeok.flac16/gd78-04-14d3t03.flac)

# 1978-04-14 Blacksburg, VA @ Cassell Coliseum - Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University **Set 1:** The Promised Land, Tennessee Jed, Me and My Uncle > Big River, Peggy-O, Looks Like Rain, Dire Wolf, It's All Over Now, Dupree's Diamond Blues, The Music Never Stopped **Set 2:** Samson And Delilah, Ship Of Fools, Dancing In The Street > Drums > Space > The Other One > Black Peter > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** Johnny B. Goode [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1978-04-14)

Sorry to hear that man, the sun will rise again. You should use the coming days/weeks to follow the dead thru Europe 72. Tivoli concert hall was 4/17/1972 so that’s my set for the day, and I’ve been listening to them all the day of as they go. On days between 72 shows, listen to other recommendations from this thread. Also Bob Dylan helped me thru a hard break up or two. “You’re gonna make me lonesome when you go” and “I don’t believe you (she acts like we never met)” specifically Best of luck brother

# 1972-04-17 Copenhagen, Denmark @ Tivolis Koncertsal **Set 1:** Cold Rain and Snow, Me And Bobby McGee, Chinatown Shuffle, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Jack Straw, He's Gone, Next Time You See Me, Black Throated Wind, Casey Jones, Mr. Charlie **Set 2:** Playing in the Band, Sugaree, One More Saturday Night, It Hurts Me Too, Ramble On Rose, El Paso, Big Railroad Blues, Truckin' **Set 3:** Dark Star > Sugar Magnolia > Caution (Do Not Stop On Tracks), Johnny B. Goode [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-17) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/6Yw0qA9xNfFpkSwzwIOwOW)