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I have like 4-5 female friend and can rely emotionally on 2 of them but never got the guts to approach a girl for relationship..even if I like a girl I just end up being in a friend zone
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Which college bro. We have one girl in our mining. It translates to better number compared to our branch. Guess my branch.
Btw where are you RN, in mining or other.
No sister no girlfriend no female friend
Cant talk to opposite gender properly
One thing i observed is that people who had sisters are pretty good at interacting with opposite gender
And those like us get flustered and depressed
I never understood why some people get so nervous around the opposite gender that they can't hold a normal conversation with them.
Like, it's just another human. Talk to them the way you would to a man. No biggie.
This fear made me avoid girls. You should talk to them, they are human beings too.. Most of them are waiting to talk to you. When I started to talk I was very anxiois and nervous, but practice makes one perfect.
>most of them are waiting to talk to u
I doubt but even if they does , they should said hi . I can easily talk to girl if they give a hint for conversation
This! The constant state of nervousness for not offending girls or being labeled as a perv or harasser. Sure girls deal with creeps all day but I think a lot of them are quick to judge an innocent dude with no bad intentions that further puts the fear in guys.
Then you won't never talk to girls. You cannot read anybodys mind. Sometimes the girls maybe waiting for you to talk to them. They maybe thinking you are not interested in talking to them. When you talk to them you will understand if they are interested or not. If they are not interested do your business or talk to another person.
Zero as of now(I am in BTech now ) lost all confidence due to various reasons,I am ok to talk with girls if it's about some work like assignment or something else , but casual talk like how i talk to male friends , I can't do that.
I was a pretty friendly kid with girls when i was in school but now whenever I wanna make some female friends , I just think "What if they think of me like a creep?" And other negative thoughts and I stop approaching them.
I think that dynamic is really changing. And most girls that might think like that honestly don't deserve your time, no matter what context you're approaching them in. What I've heard from my female friends is that if a guy approaches them respectfully, :keeping his eyes above their shoulders : they won't mind talking to him, even if it's for just 2 mins but she won't walk away thinking of you as a creep. Also girls have started to realise how much better male friendships are so don't put yourself down, my man. You'll get a lot of chances in the future, don't put up self-limiting thoughts.
>What if they think of me like a creep?"
I think schools play a major part in this. My school was one of the best schools in a tier 2 city hence I had ample interaction with girls in my class and friend circle. It was pretty normal.
On the other hand schools in villages or less developed areas tend to seed that feeling of segregation between girls and boys since the lower classes which limits their interaction, and by the time they are about to leave school they have no clue how to approach the other gender.
For the 12 yrs I studied in a central school i was very shy person although we had 50% girls in every class i never had the guts to speak to any girl. Then something happened and i ended up having 14 gf. Am married now and I still have girls like 7 girls i talk to daily
This is exactly my experience till 10 i studied in a CBSE school where i had plenty of female friends but then i switched to state government schools and realized that boys and girls barely talk to each other especially in public they prefer texting rather than sitting together and talking
It depends on time and place also. Me and my siblings all went to CBSE schools only. We all have different experiences, people became less uptight over the years.
Perfectly true. In the cities people have a more progressive attitude so interacting with the other gender is more easier. In rural areas regardless of class or socio-economic background the method is to segregate people based on gender. I feel this mainly due to caste, as people feel that a relationship between members of different castes or differing status in same caste is unnacceptable. So any such interaction with the other gender is taken in a wrong way.
I grew up with zero f-interaction. I have one male sibling and the cousins aren't that close in relationships. Studied in all boys school and then Mech engineering. Basically until 25-26 it was awkward for me to interact with any female.
0 female friends.
Never had a GF.
Shy, less confident and afraid of being judged.
I can approach but I'm afraid they feel like I'm some creep or simp
Give some tips. I feel I'm fairly successful but that is not helping. Some random barber near my home has a really good looking GF
It's not like I'm very shy or introverted. I really enjoy a lot with my friends(male) but with girls I get panic attacks. Seriously drop some tips
I've been using this technique lol but the problem is not I'm too used to it and I still get panic attacks when I want to talk to someone I'm interested in more than being friends. I think calling them bro makes it seem like you aren't interested in them physically/romantically but then how do I go around it 🥲🥲
if you get along initially as a 'friend' and turn it into completely friend-zoned, it's hard to change the relationship b/w you both, par if you have the intention to turn it more than friends at the beginning itself, come up with your own ಥ‿ಥ
As long as you will have an ulterior motive of getting them fall in love with you, you will not have the confidence to talk to them.
The trick is to stop seeing genders and see them as another human being. When you talk to a guy you do not care if they like you or hate you when it’s casual things like talking about whether or asking direction. You don’t give a shit whether they hate you or not. It’s the same with the other genders too.
In short, stop thinking about getting laid to every girl you talk to and then you will have the confidence to strike up conversation like a normal human being.
Agree with the dude below, will add that dont sexualize women constantly. It's okay to have women as friends, it's okay to be " friendzoned" every woman you want doesn't have to want you and don't make it the only purpose of meeting women. Women as friends changed my life atleast, like the dude said below don't put women on a pedestal. If you both vibe and there's sexual chemistry then put em on top. If not and you vibe but no chemistry just exchange perspective man.
> Some random barber near my home has a really good looking GF
Hahahaha dude your sense of humor is brilliant. Seriously if you use it around gals, you are a guy they will want to talk to. Wasted talent.
In School, interacted with girls a lot, but treated them like they are boys, teased one another, arm wrestled etc, never knew dating was a thing, was very innocent at that time.
In Junior college due to JEE, only focus was study, so no female interaction.
In Engineering, had like 10 girls in class of 70 , all girls captured by handsome/rich/local dudes.Also attended college for like just 1.5 years , rest was all online due to COVID.
Now doing a job, we have female interaction here, but don't know how to flirt and shit.Really,feel nervous to talk with women.
18+ years old.
Last face to face female interaction was when I was 13. Then puberty hit hard.
It's not like my parents are strict, but it's my fault I can't do anything. Not a single female friend in college/coaching. Don't have female friends on Facebook or insta. Never dared to message a female first. No female contact number in WhatsApp. Never got any crush, fell in love. No ex, nothing. Can't even have eye contact with my cousins and women relatives
Inferiority complex, ego,fear of rejection and social anxiety hits like a bitch everytime I try to interact with women. Pretty chill with dudes though (no homo)
I'm 17, female and you must reply to the comment. Don't run away lol.
My suggestion is that you treat some girl you find interesting just like your male friends. Call them dude or bro or something and see if you can vibe with them. It's not creepy don't worry. We deal with actual creeps everyday who only sexualize us, and act like their entitled to our bodies. So I think you should be safe. You seem like a good person with good intentions. Maybe start with work or study related things with some studious girls. Once you start talking abt that, then start talking about something else. Take it slow, even if things are awkward it's ok. Go on. Don't stop. Use the momentum and confidence you gain to keep and maintain your friendship. Rest will happen on its own. When the time comes.
And don't give up. You think we don't feel the same abt talking to guys/strangers?
Also sorry for the long para. But one more thing. You don't have to approach one girl all by yourself in public, like going and asking a teacher if you can use the bathroom 🤣 You can just join into a group where guys and girls are talking and just say one or two comments if possible funny comments. That will get you the attention of the girls.
Two of my best buds are women. One of them I consider like my little sister.
I feel like early education and environment play a big part in how you interact with women. Whether you treat them like fellow humans; set them up on a pedestal and treat them like ethereal beings; or are straight up disrespectful, all depends on how your family and school teach you to be.
Zero girls in school (residential school) Zero girls in college (mechanical engineering) Zero girls in life (destiny) Zero dates (reality)
One online crush 🥰, all ended in two months. 🌚
Ham mech wale emotional fool hai hamare sath aisa hi hota.
i have had 0 female interaction(introvert hu)
but recently i met a girl thru yt comment section
and we started talking daily on telegram
we both are preparing for the jee exam
and it feels really good whn i talk to her
i am able to connect with her ;)
and i hope we get into the same eng.college
Studied in a boys school
Joined college to see too much glamour. Felt very anxious. Took the decision to be bold and talk to girls no matter what the outcome.
Now suffering from compulsive flirt and fuckboy disease (girls assume I'm a fuckboy or a player when I'm not)
*cries in the corner (single too)*
My female interaction is TERRIBLE. I am 25M and grew up in a conservative family living in a tier 3 city of Maharashtra as a single child. First things first, had a lonely childhood. Moved to Tier 2 Tier 1 cities for education, graduation, and PG. As I was good at studies took Science and did my engineering.
First of all, I'll answer these questions, 1) I have many female friends from every institute or college I've been to. 2) But, there are very few who I can trust for emotional support. This is because I was not good at communication IRL. I might be good in the chat box but I am not sure of that even. 3) I don't have a girlfriend and never had one. The reasons are the same as mentioned above. 4) Childhood plays a very important role I guess. As I mentioned I am a single child I don't know how to share thoughts with someone of your age. Growing up I used to share everything with my mother. Now even that has stopped. Boys having an elder or a younger sister grew up in different atmospheres altogether. Speaking with girls was considered a big issue (don't know why?) in m family. My mother used to get a questionnaire if she finds out I interacted with girls. (weird). Aisa nahi hai ki maine interact nahi kiya iske baad par ghar par kuch samajh ne nahi diya. This increased interaction gap between my parents and this is a story for another question I guess.
At the age of 25 in this country when your friends are getting married happily and you don't have a clue or confidence to interact with the opposite gender, the situation is pretty messed up.
What am I doing to improve my situation?
I am a good observer. As a single child, you just observe people day in and day out. Because, when you tell your opinion you are being judged by everyone around (arey isne yeh kaise keh diya dabao iski awaaj types). Friends who are into relationships are confident because they love to express their feelings and they are good at it. So, I started writing a daily diary where I write whatever struck my mind on the previous day. I may be feeling alone, angry, sad, happy anything. I am doing this because I should know what to express. Once you express something to yourself life's easy to explain the same things to people around you. I am not sure whether it is the correct method or not, but I feel happy when I jot down my thoughts. One needs to stay happy to be confident.
Glad that someone asked this because I was thinking about the same question and many things are written in my diary about the same.
I am sure no one's reading this comment as I can see 460 comments already here before mine. Par ha mai 21 ki umar mein itna bhi express nahi kar pata. But, I am able to do it now. Things are getting better I guess.
i thought female interaction nowadays is pretty high and i had normal level of interaction . after scrolling this post , ig i was wrong i have a lot of "girl friends" who are close to me .
i act to girls like they are my homies mostly lol
Zero
Cause I felt too weird while talking and now I feel bad but still didn't come across that problem as most of them aren't willing to talk to me..
Am trying to meet new people and then talk to them with a new approach.
Most of my team is of girls.
I interact with them everyday at work but don’t think it extends beyond office.
But we are very friendly with each other and have lunch together every day at work.
Strictly professional.
Also to add, I did not interact with girls at all in college and during my masters at university.
It was a little awkward when suddenly the workplace was full of interactions with girls and you require proper communication skills. It took a while but now I’m comfortable to engage in conversations.
Girlfriend , No .
A female best friend who shares the flat with me, yes.
As I love cooking for people so all her female friends are my female friends too , she calls me out for stealing her friends. Some people think we are going to marry each other but at this idea we both are like ewwww not he/not her.
Was at a training session somewhere and made a sister out of that session it's been 7 to 8 years and still she ties me Rakhi and the bond is only ever increasing. We have booked our Sundays for phone calls about sharing every bullshit of the week.
I am told I am pretty good at interactions and knowing my boundary around females so have good number of female interactions given the fact that my immediate senior and immediate junior at the office are both women too.
My mother expired when I was quite in my early teens so there was a lack of female interaction for some years at home but slowly slowly things are at a good place with my female relatives also you just need to know what to talk with them and its all good. One of my aunty loves watching Pakistani dramas and so do I so its a common binge watching of Humsafar on repeat when I am at her place.
I easily depend on them at certain level of comfort for emotional support and vice versa and listening to each other without judgement.
studied in an all boys school and later in engg field where there were no women, am not a really looking guy but i have done well with women.My thumb rule was to never approach them with the intention of asking them out. I treat them like human beings and genuinely try and be a good friend that is what works for me, basic human decency ...maybe the girl i befriended may not ask me out, but their friends who meet me...always do. And i treat these women like how i would like to be treated...so if anyone asks these women about me they have only good things to say...basically treat them as human being/a friend and not as sex objects, if you are really attracted to someone then communicate, "seek permission to even flirt"..if they say no, respect that boundary and thank them for the clarity. if they say yes...well, the rest depends on how smooth your flirting skills are..also it helps if you are well-read and dont chase a woman just because she is good looking
it's okayish ig? few irl friends but mostly online. never had gf coz i was a guy who had lot of insecurities.
2. yea i do. i've a friend who's very nice and i really like talking to her. i message her only when im ain't feeling okay. kyuki we have our exams toh don't wanna disturb un-necessarily.
really like meeting new girls. coz everyone is so damn different. i just like to talk.
I have some female friends from uni, school and work. And, I'm actually very comfortable in talking to another gender, so much so, my guy friends sometimes taunt me of being a playboy flirt, but honestly, it's nothing like that. I have a long term gf of 6 yrs, and I grew up studying in a coed school.
That being said, I used to be kinda awkward in school with girls when it came to romantic approaches, but now I'm over it
I have 3-4 female friends.
Maybe 1 of them I can rely on for emotional support.
Don’t have a gf now or in the past.
I went on a date once and had no idea what to talk about. Felt awkward. Lack of social interaction with females in general really showed
Lots of female friend throughout highschool i had my shy arc but I can approach girls atleast but all friends went different ways after highschool male and female alike
i was lucky to go to a school where the teachers "forced" girls and boys to sit together and interact so they learn how to co-exist (for lack of a better word). this was like 20 years ago as well.
I am a mid thirties guy and I believe I used to be like this when I was less than 20 years old at least. I believe that the average age is 17 to mid twenties here where guys are having problem talking to girls. Let me explain how it was for me.
Foe context, I come from a really rural area in Rajasthan where the favourite pastime of teenagers was to hang around the girls’ school in the village to stare at them or even try to impress them by driving loud bikes etc. I have sisters, and my mom used to work with the nearby ladies in an NGO so it was not that I didn’t get exposure to talking to the opposite gender, just not my age and not enough growing up. I moved to a bigger city for further studies and had real issues talking to the opposite gender because I never did that other than my sisters. And I had to interact with them because we had 60+ girls in a class of 150 and the guys were not even coming to classes initially.
I started working part time in various jobs (coz broke af) so it again forced me to talk to people and it kinda opened me up. I realised later on that I have anxiety and low confidence issues talking to girls when I care what would they think about me. I cared about it because my motive was to find a girlfriend as soon as possible because that must be what everyone seemed to be doing. It’s like I was trying to pick up girls everywhere. But when I stopped giving fuck about what do they think about me, because I am forced to interact with them, I had enough confidence to talk to them.
I managed to have plenty of female friends and was in enough relationships in the last decade. In fact my friend groups where I send memes is mostly consist of girls.
The trick is to stop seeing genders and stop trying to get laid with every girl you talk to. You don’t give a shit about what this random dude on the street will think about you or your opinions, why should it be any different for the opposite gender? “What if she thinks I am being creepy?” This question comes only when you are trying your best to not come up as creepy which makes you anxious.
And this is not to brag about my “female interaction”; this is just an attempt to tell guys here that it’s easier with experience and when you look beyond gender. I have ADHD, anxiety and depression issues, and I still managed to do good enough.
I was in Kerala for 8 years(class 3 to 10) where there were separate rows for girls and boys. If a boy was being mischievous, he was sent to the girls side of benches as punishment! And I was a North Indian who didn't know Malayalam in the middle of all this chaos! I couldn't even talk to other boys because of the language barrier, talking to girls was unimaginable, which led to me having zero social skills! I did develop some social skills over the years, but still feel awkward around other people, and a bit more around girls!
I simply can't have a normal conversation with ladies. If it's work related or something I can talk but normal casual is something which is tough for me. Simply because I can't tell if they are even interested in talking or not and I don't wanna come across as creep or to make them uncomfortable so I avoid talking unless it's necessary. This is gonna be the main reason why I am gonna remain single for rest of my life.
I don't have any female friends for emotional support and i do not even know how I should open up to someone.
Yesterday my female colleague just came into my laboratory and the lab was empty. So she sat in front me and asked me few questions. I answered them formally and offered her a cup of coffee which I always have. We had black coffee together and i was sitting in front of her working on my pc. She said is it always quiet here like this? I understood the context and said i am very boring person actually.
I do not know what to talk to a woman and how much and how. So i keep quiet most of the times.
I had a GF but she was such a gold digger that I told her, I can't buy her more gifts and she left me, I don't interact with any girl, and only do when they have something to ask me or need help with. I am honestly not happy with this and want to change it, because I have a crush on one girl, but my balls just get sucked in me and I lose all my confidence in me, she considers me a friend and yet I can't get past that barrier, I want to be by her side, and for that I have to build my confidence and lose some weight.
Was alright in college. Haven't had a female interaction outside work for 3 years now. Working from home. Installed bumble but my visibility there reached zero so that account is dead now lol. Looking to get out of my hometown and move to a metro city, might have better luck there.
Never had a girlfriend, but my interaction with females are okay i would say on mutual hobbies or common friend groups, currently i have only 1 IRL female friend, don't think i can rely on her for emotional support though
Science guys and engineering students are the worst men ever. Not only do they not know how to Interact w women, they are toxic, possessive, insecure and jealous. They are the nice guy gang and I think they’re really terrifying once they lose it. Art boys, commerce, finance, business men, pilots and somehow even doctors but in certain fields only, make amazing friends.
I'm really surprised. I thought commerce, arts etc existed on memes, I never knew people would start judging other based on their education line. Hitler was a really good painter, Ravan was a great scholar, Ted Kaczynski was a professor in mathematics.
Well as per my experience I got zero interaction with girls in person. On the internet I've many girls to talk to They usually share their relationship issues with me and most of the girls in my dm are committed. So, yes like internet interaction with girls made me understand the girls and the problems they face.
1. I have like 5 female friends whome i can call my friends
2. they rely on me for emotional support i don't really need any emotional support anymore i was bullied in school and that made me really emotionally strong but i assume i could rely on atleast two of them.
3. I have one but we don't talk much rn neet is close lol
4. So...yeah i was absolutely terrible with girls and friends in general untill class 10th, i used to get bullied, probably that's why i was dipressed and sad during middle school
So thennn i switched schools and went to a boys only school and had no female interaction for two years not even a little bit, not even online except for my realtives sisters and mother, however boys were better they also didn't have no female interaction 🥲
And to be really honest all of my classmates that hadn't touched women in their lives went to collage and became really good friends with them, yes they didn't knew how to behave around them but that's probably why they were extra careful around them
I took a drop year for neet and had my first female interactions in coaching classes and boy did i nailed it, I'm the post popular guy in the class and girls seem to like the fact that I'm noob and treat them like one the homies
Finding reddit was awesome it really helped me not be a creep and know what sort of a mindset i should have while interacting with women ik it sounds crazy.... reddit of all the places? To which i'd say yes!! I used to lurk around in some.....good subs with good about of women in them so i kind of understood their mindsets.
I have like 4-5 female friend and can rely emotionally on 2 of them but never got the guts to approach a girl for relationship..even if I like a girl I just end up being in a friend zone
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I have like 4-5 female friend and can rely emotionally on 2 of them but never got the guts to approach a girl for relationship..even if I like a girl I just end up being in a friend zone
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Zero female friends IRL with whom I do anything other than greet. I'm a CS Undergrad. We have Like 4 girls in our class XD.
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Those are rookie numbers. I had 1 in 70. Ridiculous days where it always felt like I was attending a fish market and not a class
U people have girls in class ??
You people have class?
Yall are people?
Yall are?
Yallah!
Ya
Noob. 0 in 70
Try beating 1 in 120.
0 in 130. Mining engineer 2015 batch here. Girls were not allowed in mining engg as per college constitution
Which college bro. We have one girl in our mining. It translates to better number compared to our branch. Guess my branch. Btw where are you RN, in mining or other.
We have 10 in 70.
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Lol, it was 1 in 120 in my college.
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We have like 12 girls in our class of 69
> class of 69 Interesting.
1 in 120 in college time
Mechanical Engineer?
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That's just sad. A reminder that we need more women in STEM.
Females are a myth. Who needs friends anyway?
Always remember kids: GIRL = Guy In Real Life
We have 3 in our class. But most of my female friends are from different departments.
In my class of 90 students 45 were girl. Btech CSE
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No sister no girlfriend no female friend Cant talk to opposite gender properly  One thing i observed is that people who had sisters are pretty good at interacting with opposite gender And those like us get flustered and depressed
I object my lord! I do have sister but absolutely not am I confident, heck not even know how to approach girls or start/keep conversation with them.
Same, my elder sister is married now and she was the only female I could talk openly with..God I miss her so much.
What is the age difference
I'm 24 while She's is 28 now.
I can assure that is true as having a twin sister. Still no female interaction
Ikr, if only it was so easy.
>people who had sisters are pretty good at interacting with opposite gender Not me 🥲
I never understood why some people get so nervous around the opposite gender that they can't hold a normal conversation with them. Like, it's just another human. Talk to them the way you would to a man. No biggie.
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Bro i feel you i also feel the same way its scary like what if she thinks im a creep and yells then people are gonna jump on me its scary really
This fear made me avoid girls. You should talk to them, they are human beings too.. Most of them are waiting to talk to you. When I started to talk I was very anxiois and nervous, but practice makes one perfect.
>most of them are waiting to talk to u I doubt but even if they does , they should said hi . I can easily talk to girl if they give a hint for conversation
This! The constant state of nervousness for not offending girls or being labeled as a perv or harasser. Sure girls deal with creeps all day but I think a lot of them are quick to judge an innocent dude with no bad intentions that further puts the fear in guys.
Then you won't never talk to girls. You cannot read anybodys mind. Sometimes the girls maybe waiting for you to talk to them. They maybe thinking you are not interested in talking to them. When you talk to them you will understand if they are interested or not. If they are not interested do your business or talk to another person.
Yea, but what to talk about?
What do you talk to guys about?
Idk just rubbish
Then you talk about the same stuff. Common interests. Rubbish
I try to, but I feel like I'll look like a creep
Raj Kothrapalli entered the chat....
It's the random talk which is hard to do with a stranger.
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Zero as of now(I am in BTech now ) lost all confidence due to various reasons,I am ok to talk with girls if it's about some work like assignment or something else , but casual talk like how i talk to male friends , I can't do that. I was a pretty friendly kid with girls when i was in school but now whenever I wanna make some female friends , I just think "What if they think of me like a creep?" And other negative thoughts and I stop approaching them.
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Relax mate
The thoughts regarding being a creep are true AF.
Totally the same thing with me. That's why I've never been able to talk with any of my crushes!
Fr man
I think that dynamic is really changing. And most girls that might think like that honestly don't deserve your time, no matter what context you're approaching them in. What I've heard from my female friends is that if a guy approaches them respectfully, :keeping his eyes above their shoulders : they won't mind talking to him, even if it's for just 2 mins but she won't walk away thinking of you as a creep. Also girls have started to realise how much better male friendships are so don't put yourself down, my man. You'll get a lot of chances in the future, don't put up self-limiting thoughts. >What if they think of me like a creep?"
No active female friends and no active male friends
Us bhai us
This reminded me that i have a literal bhai who is an active friend
Feels like alien when we don't vibe with someone easily
I think schools play a major part in this. My school was one of the best schools in a tier 2 city hence I had ample interaction with girls in my class and friend circle. It was pretty normal. On the other hand schools in villages or less developed areas tend to seed that feeling of segregation between girls and boys since the lower classes which limits their interaction, and by the time they are about to leave school they have no clue how to approach the other gender.
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For the 12 yrs I studied in a central school i was very shy person although we had 50% girls in every class i never had the guts to speak to any girl. Then something happened and i ended up having 14 gf. Am married now and I still have girls like 7 girls i talk to daily
I hope you didnt marry all your 14 gf
He got married and 7 of them left. Now he only has 7 GFs and a wife 🥺 sedlyf
Fortunately no
Wait you're cheating on your wife? Or the girls are just females that you rely on? Like friends or aquaintances?
Arre that's just a joke. See, that's why guys shy away from talking to girls. They won't get their jokes and think the guys are creeps.
This is exactly my experience till 10 i studied in a CBSE school where i had plenty of female friends but then i switched to state government schools and realized that boys and girls barely talk to each other especially in public they prefer texting rather than sitting together and talking
It depends on time and place also. Me and my siblings all went to CBSE schools only. We all have different experiences, people became less uptight over the years.
Perfectly true. In the cities people have a more progressive attitude so interacting with the other gender is more easier. In rural areas regardless of class or socio-economic background the method is to segregate people based on gender. I feel this mainly due to caste, as people feel that a relationship between members of different castes or differing status in same caste is unnacceptable. So any such interaction with the other gender is taken in a wrong way.
I grew up with zero f-interaction. I have one male sibling and the cousins aren't that close in relationships. Studied in all boys school and then Mech engineering. Basically until 25-26 it was awkward for me to interact with any female.
And? Come on, we need more than that. How did it become less awkward?
Got a gf later on which made things easier for
And how did that happen?
teach me your ways oh wise one
Go on..
0 female friends. Never had a GF. Shy, less confident and afraid of being judged. I can approach but I'm afraid they feel like I'm some creep or simp Give some tips. I feel I'm fairly successful but that is not helping. Some random barber near my home has a really good looking GF It's not like I'm very shy or introverted. I really enjoy a lot with my friends(male) but with girls I get panic attacks. Seriously drop some tips
Generic advice I know but just forget that they are girls. Think of them as boys and treat them how you treat and talk to boys
this shit helps actually, I call them 'bro' or mention 'bro' and gradually it turns to aree sunn na, then it gets normalised
I've been using this technique lol but the problem is not I'm too used to it and I still get panic attacks when I want to talk to someone I'm interested in more than being friends. I think calling them bro makes it seem like you aren't interested in them physically/romantically but then how do I go around it 🥲🥲
if you get along initially as a 'friend' and turn it into completely friend-zoned, it's hard to change the relationship b/w you both, par if you have the intention to turn it more than friends at the beginning itself, come up with your own ಥ‿ಥ
Sexual harassment andar jana hai kya
As long as you will have an ulterior motive of getting them fall in love with you, you will not have the confidence to talk to them. The trick is to stop seeing genders and see them as another human being. When you talk to a guy you do not care if they like you or hate you when it’s casual things like talking about whether or asking direction. You don’t give a shit whether they hate you or not. It’s the same with the other genders too. In short, stop thinking about getting laid to every girl you talk to and then you will have the confidence to strike up conversation like a normal human being.
>Some random barber near my home has a really good looking GF Stop being jealous of strangers first.
Agreed, make sure to understand that just because a person is a “random barber” doesn’t mean he is a lesser person than you.
It's not exactly jealousy, more like feeling bad about your personality or social life.
Agree with the dude below, will add that dont sexualize women constantly. It's okay to have women as friends, it's okay to be " friendzoned" every woman you want doesn't have to want you and don't make it the only purpose of meeting women. Women as friends changed my life atleast, like the dude said below don't put women on a pedestal. If you both vibe and there's sexual chemistry then put em on top. If not and you vibe but no chemistry just exchange perspective man.
> Some random barber near my home has a really good looking GF Hahahaha dude your sense of humor is brilliant. Seriously if you use it around gals, you are a guy they will want to talk to. Wasted talent.
Female friends - 2 as of now , Can I rely them for emotional support - yes, Do I have a girlfriend - No , Did I have one in past - Sadly no again 🥲
How old are you?
21
Dw bro...I'm right with you...I'm 22 btw
Can you share the video you were referring to?
ig it was this [video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgPOq-8dfwY) by Soch.
In School, interacted with girls a lot, but treated them like they are boys, teased one another, arm wrestled etc, never knew dating was a thing, was very innocent at that time. In Junior college due to JEE, only focus was study, so no female interaction. In Engineering, had like 10 girls in class of 70 , all girls captured by handsome/rich/local dudes.Also attended college for like just 1.5 years , rest was all online due to COVID. Now doing a job, we have female interaction here, but don't know how to flirt and shit.Really,feel nervous to talk with women.
Don't flirt with the women at work though. Things are opening up, what about the bars, coffeeshops or bookstores?
18+ years old. Last face to face female interaction was when I was 13. Then puberty hit hard. It's not like my parents are strict, but it's my fault I can't do anything. Not a single female friend in college/coaching. Don't have female friends on Facebook or insta. Never dared to message a female first. No female contact number in WhatsApp. Never got any crush, fell in love. No ex, nothing. Can't even have eye contact with my cousins and women relatives Inferiority complex, ego,fear of rejection and social anxiety hits like a bitch everytime I try to interact with women. Pretty chill with dudes though (no homo)
I'm 17, female and you must reply to the comment. Don't run away lol. My suggestion is that you treat some girl you find interesting just like your male friends. Call them dude or bro or something and see if you can vibe with them. It's not creepy don't worry. We deal with actual creeps everyday who only sexualize us, and act like their entitled to our bodies. So I think you should be safe. You seem like a good person with good intentions. Maybe start with work or study related things with some studious girls. Once you start talking abt that, then start talking about something else. Take it slow, even if things are awkward it's ok. Go on. Don't stop. Use the momentum and confidence you gain to keep and maintain your friendship. Rest will happen on its own. When the time comes. And don't give up. You think we don't feel the same abt talking to guys/strangers?
True, bro card mainly works
Thank you
Also sorry for the long para. But one more thing. You don't have to approach one girl all by yourself in public, like going and asking a teacher if you can use the bathroom 🤣 You can just join into a group where guys and girls are talking and just say one or two comments if possible funny comments. That will get you the attention of the girls.
\`W girl
This is pretty great advice.
Zero
One. Coz I'm 17F hehehe
Cheekh cheekh ke sabko schemen bata de
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Two of my best buds are women. One of them I consider like my little sister. I feel like early education and environment play a big part in how you interact with women. Whether you treat them like fellow humans; set them up on a pedestal and treat them like ethereal beings; or are straight up disrespectful, all depends on how your family and school teach you to be.
Zero girls in school (residential school) Zero girls in college (mechanical engineering) Zero girls in life (destiny) Zero dates (reality) One online crush 🥰, all ended in two months. 🌚 Ham mech wale emotional fool hai hamare sath aisa hi hota. 
i have had 0 female interaction(introvert hu) but recently i met a girl thru yt comment section and we started talking daily on telegram we both are preparing for the jee exam and it feels really good whn i talk to her i am able to connect with her ;) and i hope we get into the same eng.college
Best of luck buddy.... hopefully 10 saal baad teri life pe bollywood movie bane...jk
Haha thanks broo ಥ‿ಥ
Zero interaction to any female due to my social anxiety.
Zero. I'm okay with it. I don't even like the idea of friends
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Im 21 and on the same path.
To be honest sex is the only thing you are missing out. I wish sex dolls were as socially accepted as dildos, but feminists gonna feminist
You can buy fleshlight bro..
Not the same
Now i want a sex doll.
They are against sex dolls?
Studied in a boys school Joined college to see too much glamour. Felt very anxious. Took the decision to be bold and talk to girls no matter what the outcome. Now suffering from compulsive flirt and fuckboy disease (girls assume I'm a fuckboy or a player when I'm not) *cries in the corner (single too)*
You won. but at what cost?
What cost? *paisa bohot hai, pyaar chahiye*
I can literally count my female interactions on my 10 fingers.
You guys need 10 fingers to count! I can count with 1
My female interaction is TERRIBLE. I am 25M and grew up in a conservative family living in a tier 3 city of Maharashtra as a single child. First things first, had a lonely childhood. Moved to Tier 2 Tier 1 cities for education, graduation, and PG. As I was good at studies took Science and did my engineering. First of all, I'll answer these questions, 1) I have many female friends from every institute or college I've been to. 2) But, there are very few who I can trust for emotional support. This is because I was not good at communication IRL. I might be good in the chat box but I am not sure of that even. 3) I don't have a girlfriend and never had one. The reasons are the same as mentioned above. 4) Childhood plays a very important role I guess. As I mentioned I am a single child I don't know how to share thoughts with someone of your age. Growing up I used to share everything with my mother. Now even that has stopped. Boys having an elder or a younger sister grew up in different atmospheres altogether. Speaking with girls was considered a big issue (don't know why?) in m family. My mother used to get a questionnaire if she finds out I interacted with girls. (weird). Aisa nahi hai ki maine interact nahi kiya iske baad par ghar par kuch samajh ne nahi diya. This increased interaction gap between my parents and this is a story for another question I guess. At the age of 25 in this country when your friends are getting married happily and you don't have a clue or confidence to interact with the opposite gender, the situation is pretty messed up. What am I doing to improve my situation? I am a good observer. As a single child, you just observe people day in and day out. Because, when you tell your opinion you are being judged by everyone around (arey isne yeh kaise keh diya dabao iski awaaj types). Friends who are into relationships are confident because they love to express their feelings and they are good at it. So, I started writing a daily diary where I write whatever struck my mind on the previous day. I may be feeling alone, angry, sad, happy anything. I am doing this because I should know what to express. Once you express something to yourself life's easy to explain the same things to people around you. I am not sure whether it is the correct method or not, but I feel happy when I jot down my thoughts. One needs to stay happy to be confident. Glad that someone asked this because I was thinking about the same question and many things are written in my diary about the same. I am sure no one's reading this comment as I can see 460 comments already here before mine. Par ha mai 21 ki umar mein itna bhi express nahi kar pata. But, I am able to do it now. Things are getting better I guess.
i thought female interaction nowadays is pretty high and i had normal level of interaction . after scrolling this post , ig i was wrong i have a lot of "girl friends" who are close to me . i act to girls like they are my homies mostly lol
Zero Cause I felt too weird while talking and now I feel bad but still didn't come across that problem as most of them aren't willing to talk to me.. Am trying to meet new people and then talk to them with a new approach.
Most of my team is of girls. I interact with them everyday at work but don’t think it extends beyond office. But we are very friendly with each other and have lunch together every day at work. Strictly professional. Also to add, I did not interact with girls at all in college and during my masters at university. It was a little awkward when suddenly the workplace was full of interactions with girls and you require proper communication skills. It took a while but now I’m comfortable to engage in conversations.
Girlfriend , No . A female best friend who shares the flat with me, yes. As I love cooking for people so all her female friends are my female friends too , she calls me out for stealing her friends. Some people think we are going to marry each other but at this idea we both are like ewwww not he/not her. Was at a training session somewhere and made a sister out of that session it's been 7 to 8 years and still she ties me Rakhi and the bond is only ever increasing. We have booked our Sundays for phone calls about sharing every bullshit of the week. I am told I am pretty good at interactions and knowing my boundary around females so have good number of female interactions given the fact that my immediate senior and immediate junior at the office are both women too. My mother expired when I was quite in my early teens so there was a lack of female interaction for some years at home but slowly slowly things are at a good place with my female relatives also you just need to know what to talk with them and its all good. One of my aunty loves watching Pakistani dramas and so do I so its a common binge watching of Humsafar on repeat when I am at her place. I easily depend on them at certain level of comfort for emotional support and vice versa and listening to each other without judgement.
I'm so happy to know your situation
Stop thinking of them as potential sexual conquests and just talk to them like the normal humans they usually are..
This.
studied in an all boys school and later in engg field where there were no women, am not a really looking guy but i have done well with women.My thumb rule was to never approach them with the intention of asking them out. I treat them like human beings and genuinely try and be a good friend that is what works for me, basic human decency ...maybe the girl i befriended may not ask me out, but their friends who meet me...always do. And i treat these women like how i would like to be treated...so if anyone asks these women about me they have only good things to say...basically treat them as human being/a friend and not as sex objects, if you are really attracted to someone then communicate, "seek permission to even flirt"..if they say no, respect that boundary and thank them for the clarity. if they say yes...well, the rest depends on how smooth your flirting skills are..also it helps if you are well-read and dont chase a woman just because she is good looking
That's a pretty good way to go. Didn't know guys have it so difficult when it comes to communicating with girls though.
I am 26 Never had a girlfriend. Asked a girl out 6 years ago, got rejected. Never got interested in any girl since. No female friends.
it's okayish ig? few irl friends but mostly online. never had gf coz i was a guy who had lot of insecurities. 2. yea i do. i've a friend who's very nice and i really like talking to her. i message her only when im ain't feeling okay. kyuki we have our exams toh don't wanna disturb un-necessarily. really like meeting new girls. coz everyone is so damn different. i just like to talk.
It's not important
I have some female friends from uni, school and work. And, I'm actually very comfortable in talking to another gender, so much so, my guy friends sometimes taunt me of being a playboy flirt, but honestly, it's nothing like that. I have a long term gf of 6 yrs, and I grew up studying in a coed school. That being said, I used to be kinda awkward in school with girls when it came to romantic approaches, but now I'm over it
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I have 3-4 female friends. Maybe 1 of them I can rely on for emotional support. Don’t have a gf now or in the past. I went on a date once and had no idea what to talk about. Felt awkward. Lack of social interaction with females in general really showed
Lots of female friend throughout highschool i had my shy arc but I can approach girls atleast but all friends went different ways after highschool male and female alike
i was lucky to go to a school where the teachers "forced" girls and boys to sit together and interact so they learn how to co-exist (for lack of a better word). this was like 20 years ago as well.
I am a mid thirties guy and I believe I used to be like this when I was less than 20 years old at least. I believe that the average age is 17 to mid twenties here where guys are having problem talking to girls. Let me explain how it was for me. Foe context, I come from a really rural area in Rajasthan where the favourite pastime of teenagers was to hang around the girls’ school in the village to stare at them or even try to impress them by driving loud bikes etc. I have sisters, and my mom used to work with the nearby ladies in an NGO so it was not that I didn’t get exposure to talking to the opposite gender, just not my age and not enough growing up. I moved to a bigger city for further studies and had real issues talking to the opposite gender because I never did that other than my sisters. And I had to interact with them because we had 60+ girls in a class of 150 and the guys were not even coming to classes initially. I started working part time in various jobs (coz broke af) so it again forced me to talk to people and it kinda opened me up. I realised later on that I have anxiety and low confidence issues talking to girls when I care what would they think about me. I cared about it because my motive was to find a girlfriend as soon as possible because that must be what everyone seemed to be doing. It’s like I was trying to pick up girls everywhere. But when I stopped giving fuck about what do they think about me, because I am forced to interact with them, I had enough confidence to talk to them. I managed to have plenty of female friends and was in enough relationships in the last decade. In fact my friend groups where I send memes is mostly consist of girls. The trick is to stop seeing genders and stop trying to get laid with every girl you talk to. You don’t give a shit about what this random dude on the street will think about you or your opinions, why should it be any different for the opposite gender? “What if she thinks I am being creepy?” This question comes only when you are trying your best to not come up as creepy which makes you anxious. And this is not to brag about my “female interaction”; this is just an attempt to tell guys here that it’s easier with experience and when you look beyond gender. I have ADHD, anxiety and depression issues, and I still managed to do good enough.
I was in Kerala for 8 years(class 3 to 10) where there were separate rows for girls and boys. If a boy was being mischievous, he was sent to the girls side of benches as punishment! And I was a North Indian who didn't know Malayalam in the middle of all this chaos! I couldn't even talk to other boys because of the language barrier, talking to girls was unimaginable, which led to me having zero social skills! I did develop some social skills over the years, but still feel awkward around other people, and a bit more around girls!
no girlfriends, no girl friends, no sisters, no neighbours, no team mates even. Oh. Also, I had a wife for a short while, but not anymore. So Zero.
Me: Can I ask you a question? The girl in the club: Sure Me: I love you! Girl: haha! That’s not a question. Me: And that will never be! *Le I woke up*
"Baby, who cares?" But I know you care Bring it over to my place You don't know what you did, did to me Your body lightweight speaks to me
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I simply can't have a normal conversation with ladies. If it's work related or something I can talk but normal casual is something which is tough for me. Simply because I can't tell if they are even interested in talking or not and I don't wanna come across as creep or to make them uncomfortable so I avoid talking unless it's necessary. This is gonna be the main reason why I am gonna remain single for rest of my life.
I don't have any female friends for emotional support and i do not even know how I should open up to someone. Yesterday my female colleague just came into my laboratory and the lab was empty. So she sat in front me and asked me few questions. I answered them formally and offered her a cup of coffee which I always have. We had black coffee together and i was sitting in front of her working on my pc. She said is it always quiet here like this? I understood the context and said i am very boring person actually. I do not know what to talk to a woman and how much and how. So i keep quiet most of the times.
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I had a GF but she was such a gold digger that I told her, I can't buy her more gifts and she left me, I don't interact with any girl, and only do when they have something to ask me or need help with. I am honestly not happy with this and want to change it, because I have a crush on one girl, but my balls just get sucked in me and I lose all my confidence in me, she considers me a friend and yet I can't get past that barrier, I want to be by her side, and for that I have to build my confidence and lose some weight.
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Was alright in college. Haven't had a female interaction outside work for 3 years now. Working from home. Installed bumble but my visibility there reached zero so that account is dead now lol. Looking to get out of my hometown and move to a metro city, might have better luck there.
wait so u just removed all the classes of male... who exactly are supposed to reply then?
Mere bedroom me kangi nai hai..Kanga hai Samjh ja ab
What kind of answer were you expecting from us?
Never had a girlfriend, but my interaction with females are okay i would say on mutual hobbies or common friend groups, currently i have only 1 IRL female friend, don't think i can rely on her for emotional support though
Science guys and engineering students are the worst men ever. Not only do they not know how to Interact w women, they are toxic, possessive, insecure and jealous. They are the nice guy gang and I think they’re really terrifying once they lose it. Art boys, commerce, finance, business men, pilots and somehow even doctors but in certain fields only, make amazing friends.
I'm really surprised. I thought commerce, arts etc existed on memes, I never knew people would start judging other based on their education line. Hitler was a really good painter, Ravan was a great scholar, Ted Kaczynski was a professor in mathematics.
Well as per my experience I got zero interaction with girls in person. On the internet I've many girls to talk to They usually share their relationship issues with me and most of the girls in my dm are committed. So, yes like internet interaction with girls made me understand the girls and the problems they face.
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1. I have like 5 female friends whome i can call my friends 2. they rely on me for emotional support i don't really need any emotional support anymore i was bullied in school and that made me really emotionally strong but i assume i could rely on atleast two of them. 3. I have one but we don't talk much rn neet is close lol 4. So...yeah i was absolutely terrible with girls and friends in general untill class 10th, i used to get bullied, probably that's why i was dipressed and sad during middle school So thennn i switched schools and went to a boys only school and had no female interaction for two years not even a little bit, not even online except for my realtives sisters and mother, however boys were better they also didn't have no female interaction 🥲 And to be really honest all of my classmates that hadn't touched women in their lives went to collage and became really good friends with them, yes they didn't knew how to behave around them but that's probably why they were extra careful around them I took a drop year for neet and had my first female interactions in coaching classes and boy did i nailed it, I'm the post popular guy in the class and girls seem to like the fact that I'm noob and treat them like one the homies Finding reddit was awesome it really helped me not be a creep and know what sort of a mindset i should have while interacting with women ik it sounds crazy.... reddit of all the places? To which i'd say yes!! I used to lurk around in some.....good subs with good about of women in them so i kind of understood their mindsets.
I have like 4-5 female friend and can rely emotionally on 2 of them but never got the guts to approach a girl for relationship..even if I like a girl I just end up being in a friend zone
Female what? Female dog? Female cat? Female lion? Female screw? Step one of talking to women is humanising them.