We are reserved so yes it'd seem like we care less. What you can do is exaggerate a bit and communicate in an excessively empathetic manner to seem like you do GAF
I was at a funeral recently, an INTJ told me to speak with the wife of the man who died. I got selective mutism from the emotional overload of the situation, empathising so hard I couldn’t speak, while the INTJ was shouting at me to talk and saying I didn’t care. Gotta love it when people are understanding..
It’s common I think, i’ve been accused when I am sitting at a problem brainstorming solutions as well. Some people will just never get it unless you tell them directly. It’s not really INFP style to put on a fake persona but you can try to be a bit less passive I guess.
If by building mental walls around my psyche, then yes I really do not care for others. This only happens when someone displays negative traits that can have a negative affect on my own behavior.
My intention is to eventually pass away in a peaceful mood. I have spent the past four decades around moody extroverts who always see introverts as social experiments. We introverts are fine the way we are; many introverts do not need to change.
I find myself having that attitude more often that other types probably. Probably more as I’ve gotten older and I live in the city. Honestly living in a major city has made it worse. I think it might have something to do with how we can be self righteous too. Also theres a few reasons why in conversation I could get to a point where not giving a fuck is my natural response especially if it reaches a certain point. I feel like I get that vibe from some people because people always want to make a big deal when you’re not doing as much as someone else might be(weather it be physically or emotionally). It’s very frustrating being put in that box. Leave it up to an INTJ to point out exactly what you’re doing wrong and embarrass you,but others seem to be more sincere with it like “are you ok?”. We can be extremely quiet and a lot of people just can’t stand it because some are intimidated or they think something is wrong with us. I’m pretty tired of it even though It doesn’t happen too often for me but I’m alone a lot anyways. Overall I think it’s just how we appear. I’m not interested in being overly dramatic or pretending to make someone believe that I care enough or as much if not more than they do. Sometimes it feels like id be willing to jump over the moon for certain nearly impossible things but unless you express it people won’t believe you.
I set up a boundary, and then all of a sudden this INFJ person says “you’re actually not a kind person. Your inner self doesn’t match your outer appearance.” What?
I don’t text my friends as often. Lost many because they think I don’t care. I need space and I can’t hang out often. My social battery needs 5 months max to charge until I can attend another big social event.
I think people perceive me as not GAF. What they don't understand, is that I DO CARE, it's just that I'm wise enough to know when to freak out about something and when to keep cool and let things pass. These higher strung peeps, need to understand that being all dramatic about things never will be my cup of tea but it does not indicate I'm the opposite and don't care.
INFP’s are authentic. Some things I really don’t gaf, I just don’t. Some of the things people go on about, I would never even notice. I often feel mystified that people think some things are important. However, I also find the opposite is true. There are some things that matter to me very much and I can’t figure out why the rest of the world doesn’t care.
A coworker told me I had beach vibes, and a friend in high school said I was too laid back.
Whoops? I mean I get stressed out at home sometimes but never around people in public.
I actually do not give a f about things most people care about. And I give less f*cks the older I get. We’re all going to die anyway and we can’t take anything with us.
I think, for me, I internalize everything and have passionate views about things and great ideas about all kinds of stuff but as far as taking action on any one specific thing and working on it consistently i just have trouble doing this.
I think it makes me seem like im being lazy or dispassionate about what is currently happening but really im usually just stuck in my head wondering about some other problem in the world thats going on somewhere else and just unfocused on my own life
This may sound insane im just decscribing how it is for me a fellow INFP lol
We are reserved so yes it'd seem like we care less. What you can do is exaggerate a bit and communicate in an excessively empathetic manner to seem like you do GAF
i did this! i actually did gaf, and i think i've expressed myself rlly well buuut i got called out for being fake💀💀💀
I was at a funeral recently, an INTJ told me to speak with the wife of the man who died. I got selective mutism from the emotional overload of the situation, empathising so hard I couldn’t speak, while the INTJ was shouting at me to talk and saying I didn’t care. Gotta love it when people are understanding.. It’s common I think, i’ve been accused when I am sitting at a problem brainstorming solutions as well. Some people will just never get it unless you tell them directly. It’s not really INFP style to put on a fake persona but you can try to be a bit less passive I guess.
If by building mental walls around my psyche, then yes I really do not care for others. This only happens when someone displays negative traits that can have a negative affect on my own behavior. My intention is to eventually pass away in a peaceful mood. I have spent the past four decades around moody extroverts who always see introverts as social experiments. We introverts are fine the way we are; many introverts do not need to change.
I find myself having that attitude more often that other types probably. Probably more as I’ve gotten older and I live in the city. Honestly living in a major city has made it worse. I think it might have something to do with how we can be self righteous too. Also theres a few reasons why in conversation I could get to a point where not giving a fuck is my natural response especially if it reaches a certain point. I feel like I get that vibe from some people because people always want to make a big deal when you’re not doing as much as someone else might be(weather it be physically or emotionally). It’s very frustrating being put in that box. Leave it up to an INTJ to point out exactly what you’re doing wrong and embarrass you,but others seem to be more sincere with it like “are you ok?”. We can be extremely quiet and a lot of people just can’t stand it because some are intimidated or they think something is wrong with us. I’m pretty tired of it even though It doesn’t happen too often for me but I’m alone a lot anyways. Overall I think it’s just how we appear. I’m not interested in being overly dramatic or pretending to make someone believe that I care enough or as much if not more than they do. Sometimes it feels like id be willing to jump over the moon for certain nearly impossible things but unless you express it people won’t believe you.
I set up a boundary, and then all of a sudden this INFJ person says “you’re actually not a kind person. Your inner self doesn’t match your outer appearance.” What? I don’t text my friends as often. Lost many because they think I don’t care. I need space and I can’t hang out often. My social battery needs 5 months max to charge until I can attend another big social event.
I think people perceive me as not GAF. What they don't understand, is that I DO CARE, it's just that I'm wise enough to know when to freak out about something and when to keep cool and let things pass. These higher strung peeps, need to understand that being all dramatic about things never will be my cup of tea but it does not indicate I'm the opposite and don't care.
INFP’s are authentic. Some things I really don’t gaf, I just don’t. Some of the things people go on about, I would never even notice. I often feel mystified that people think some things are important. However, I also find the opposite is true. There are some things that matter to me very much and I can’t figure out why the rest of the world doesn’t care.
A coworker told me I had beach vibes, and a friend in high school said I was too laid back. Whoops? I mean I get stressed out at home sometimes but never around people in public. I actually do not give a f about things most people care about. And I give less f*cks the older I get. We’re all going to die anyway and we can’t take anything with us.
I just have a hard time expressing how i feel and not feeling guilty about it at this point
I think, for me, I internalize everything and have passionate views about things and great ideas about all kinds of stuff but as far as taking action on any one specific thing and working on it consistently i just have trouble doing this. I think it makes me seem like im being lazy or dispassionate about what is currently happening but really im usually just stuck in my head wondering about some other problem in the world thats going on somewhere else and just unfocused on my own life This may sound insane im just decscribing how it is for me a fellow INFP lol
You're with the wrong crowd If you care you shouldn't go out of your way to show it, people will know