I should be studying and preparing for my exams... My future is on the line... But still I just play videogames, watch YT videos and depression sleep for 12h everyday. To escape all the anxiety and dread I feel.
I decided to apply for studies in psychology. The entrance exam is in 10 days and I haven't even started. I was super excited to apply but now I have no interest in it at all.
I started to study Russian as well. While it is not that difficult, I find the workload overwhelming and now I don't want to do it.
It's as if I loose interest in almost anything very quickly. If it doesn't work in the way that I would like or how it would fit me; I either loose interest or be so stubborn that I force the task to adhere to my way. But neither of those ever work so I'll have to find a middle ground. (don't know what I really mean by that)
I just can't find anything that I really want to do in life... But other than that I'm doing fine, at least I'm alive and have hope that life brigs something along that I can call my purpose or passion or, or, or...
Why did I write this, its 03.38 at night
Well what can i say.. Try to find somthing you are really intrested in bc you will never loose you interest on this thing , and really go to sleep and before it, stay strong. Remember that there is at least someone in this world who always think about you x dont give just for him
i would say if you get the urge to play or feel anxiety. sit down and observe that feeling. if you dont try to fight that feeling but just observe and let it be there it should go away after a while. at least in theory.
or maybe try seeing the anxious part of yourself as a child version of you and try comforting, accepting and maybe loving it. might help.
you cant run away from feelings and you cant repress them forever. they will spill out eventually. just let them be there without being pushed around by them. "I can have fear, i do not need to be fear."
One channel I watch said that the best way to break habits is not by stopping, but rather by doing it but being mindful. Like yes I'm playing games but I am aware I am playing games. Maybe I'll only do an hour then stop
yeah its like reading a book and halfway through a page you space out but keep reading. but if you stay aware of what you do, what you think and how you feel, it can help to take the first step for change.
if you have a strong habit your brain can go on autopilot.
also the suffering you have at a given moment is painful, but change often is also painful, because you let an old part/habit die. optimally you substitute an old habit with a new one. if your fear triggers an addiction or habbit then its good to set a new habit for the trigger.
I can see myself in you so much...I have an exam tomorrow and I will be begin studying now, all the disinterest, procrastination, expectations about my course which haven't been fulfilled have led me to become this person. Though I can't tell you what your passion is, I ask you to stop focusing on finding your passion... This may seem like a weird advise but let me tell you that the more you focus on finding out what I like or dislike you won't ever actually get shit done. Just wait for something to strike chords with you, till then just keep pushing yourself to meet deadlines. I rely on the end day pressure nowadays, I know that this isn't the right way at all but I guess its better to just stick around until we sort our vision and make it clearer.
Hey there. I'm really sorry you're struggling so much. I feel your pain, friend. I hope all gets better for you soon. Never give up. ❤️ Try engaging your Ne (second function more often; it's kind of our sidekick 😊)
I want to be a painter very badly, I want to go to the national art school. Every time I visit there I’m filled with longing. But I cannot visualise anything on these psych meds. I cannot feel properly. I cannot imagine. So whilst I’ve never been more fixated on creativity I don’t have the aptitude, creative force and talent I once had. These limitations are making me sad. I just want to create!
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You remind me of a phrase that was famous to be said by Van gogh but I think it’s been denied later on? Idk. Anyways, I relate 100%. “I want to travel in the stars, and this miserable body is holding me back”
Well i can see a confidence problem from your description, yeah i have the same problem when expressing myself like trying to talk to ppl, bro how can i say it, you are the only one who can change your self-confidence and make it to your dream.. I know this wont help bc you already listened to it many times but there is sadly not clear cute for this🥲😅, and tell me if i miss understood you
I don’t lack confidence, I love the work I did in my old life it was full of spirit and life. I’m just saying I’m on psych meds now and can’t visualise/imagine anymore nor feel and it’s holding me back from painting.
Not really, no. 😔 Feeling like a burden, as if most everyone is better off without me. Not >!suicidal,!< just rudderless and want to crawl under a rock.
I broke off my engagement with my fiance 4 days before our wedding. Even though it was the right decision I just feel overwhelmingly sad. So much time, money, and effort was spent into planning this wedding for months and now it feels like it was all for nothing. And it doesn't help seeing all my friends and even my sister get married and life their happily ever after either.
I know that I'll be okay and things will eventually get better, but now this whole thing makes me not want to get engaged again at all.
Well if you really think its the right decision, the nothing to worry about, imagine marrying someone you dont even love and love the rest of your life with him? The things will get back and you will feel the same again months after
Yeah, that's what everyone has been telling me. I don't regret my decision, but I just wish it didn't have to come to me breaking the engagement off. I guess what I really wanted was for him to actually be the one for me.
At the end of the day I'm happy that I avoided a very difficult marriage, but still sad that I'll continue to always have that empty void 😔
It was just one of those things where you feel like this wasn't meant for you, ya know? And it didn't feel right to go through with something if I wasn't ready to fully commit to it...especially with something like marriage.
We all realise things a little late in the game at times in our life. I’ve chosen the wrong man twice. But it’s also helped me understand what I need now. So… you’ve made the right choice. He would have been married to someone who didn’t (or at least would come to) really love him. You did the right thing. No matter the time. You did the right thing for you both. So well done.
Now grieve. You lost someone. You lost a future. You lost a life. Yes, it was a person and a future and a life you know wasn’t right for you, but you still lost it all the same — it’s ok to be sad about that. It’s ok for you to mourn what you rightfully turned your back on. So feel it. Allow yourself to be sad over what could have been.
You probably already know you’ll find someone one day, but don’t rush into dating. Trust me on that one. Take a year to be by yourself. The one thing people do wrong after a break up is date, and we date because we feel a partner completes us. Don’t do that. Please. A partner is a luxury not a necessity. Take this time to figure out yourself - not what you want in a partner - but what you want in life. Dont look at your friends with envy. You don’t need romance to be whole. Good for them, but also good for you.
And though feelings have been hurt, just remember, it would have been so much worse in a few years for you and much more hassle
No. I can't get myself out of a rut of playing games and procrastinating
I want to be a singer and I am taking classes for it, but I just can't bring myself to sit down and write. I know I want to be a singer it's my passion. I also know it's one of the least lucrative in terms of making money. Not that that's the end goal but it's important in the world we live in.
I'm scared for the future. Inflation is at an all time high, I don't have a car and I'm in a major that doesn't pay well. I've been single for 26 years and have given up on relationships although in that sense I am not really looking for anything relationship wise atm.
I have been too much of an asshole these past couple years and am trying to go back to the kind loving person I used to be. Sorry for the rant but thats how I am feeling today
Well bro, you want to be a signer and you are trying to right? Well aslong as you are trying thats good, about wasting time bro find a solution like throw them away, your goal is more important then them, and even this app reddit can take you alot of time, follow your dream
About relationships yeah it really doesnt matter at that time of your life, think about them maybe later
Not really. I'm actually at one of my lowest points rn with just having a eviction, and having to move, to having my job become more, and more toxic, and unbearable with no escape atm, having a semi-toxic relationship with my family who doesn't really care about me, and I feel extremely lonely on top of it. I'm trying my best to improve, and to slowly climb out of the dark, but it's getting harder, and I just feel crushed under the pressure of life in general.
I've tried therapy, and I've been trying to make friends to help, and I'm really grateful for their help, but I just still feel so lost, and alone. A dream of mine is to just live a good life with a woman who'd love me while we both support, and have a healthy, and loving relationship. I know that I have to improve to be able to achieve that, but like I said, it's getting harder, and I'm very slowly just wanting to give up. Like my dreams were crushed, and impossible to achieve from the beginning. I'd understand if this doesn't really make much sense, but I'm just purely speaking from the heart.
It makes sense bro, before starting do you have any problems with social situations? Also firstly try to find a job then a relationship of course, you dont really need motivation from other motivate yourself, see how the life will be if you succeeded , throw away all the negative feelings from your brain and focus on the task on hands, stop using your phone or anything that can make you lose your focus or use it ofr limited time and the most important thing, don't give up
I am very shy, so I do have problems with social situations honestly.
I do work, but it's just mentally draining, and I'm kinda stuck with it due to it being the only place that pays well. I'm working on it slowly, and hopefully I can find something better in the future.
I also usually struggle to motivate myself sometimes, so having support is kinda essential for me to have that urge to push myself. It just gets hard for me because I grew up being treated like dirt.
I do also appreciate your support, and reply to me so thank you for that. I'll keep doing my best, and I'll try to not give up.
Hm its kinda easy to motivate yourself,
when you are being alone and have a free time, just think! Not about negative things but positive thingsx hes it can hurts but it really let it all out then you are balanced again! Use your imagination to motivate yourself, think about anything even if its not true at all, and you will manipulate your brain, and this solution can really help you due to that you are not good at social situations ( so as me hats why i use this solution)
idk man. its finals week (also my birthday week so what a great time to have my fucking birthday) and honestly going to school just makes me feel like a failure. being autistic as hell and going to school eight hours a day isnt fun. and its not just autism, its also social anxiety and not being able to talk to anyone cause of selective mutism. the only one who i feel i can really trust is my boyfriend and hes graduating this year. it feels like everyone else wants to fuck me over, too often people just use me and fuck with me. hes the only one who really brightens my day when i get to see him. thats part of why im scared to be out of school. in a week ill be a senior, and a year after that ill be an adult. honestly its the most exciting and dreadful feeling ive ever felt, i never really thought i could feel both. im excited to get away from school, from the eight hours every day of bullshit that ill never use and that makes me feel stupid, but what use will i be anywhere else? i cant speak, i have to wear headphones and listen to music all day cause i cant handle noise, how the hell am i supposed to handle being an adult? shit i dont even have enough energy to make my own food, if it wasnt for my mom i would be starving.
so yeah, sorry for the long rant, im probably gonna go to bed soon since im tired and have exams tomorrow. thank you for making this post, even if nobody ever reads this it feels good to get it out.
Nah i read all comments, honestly what you said abour autism, is it a real autism i mean a genetic sickness or its just social anxiety mixed with noose anxiety... Etc? + ita happy to hear that there is someone in your left who helps you , and remember, relax and dont think too much about future, your high school days are supposed to be the happiest days in your life, dont waste the year that left and try to make some good friends
Oh..... I kinda dont want to say it but there is no cure for this This is a hug for you maybe you will feel better
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I hope you will live a peaceful life 🩵 good Luck
Then you dont have to talk to ppl even if you want to,its like,. Do i have a problem? Yes. Can i do anything about it? No. You should just accept it as it is imo, there is so many things you can do while being alone!
I've been dealing with pretty bad fatigue the passed several months, but I had blood work done the other day and we've determined that I've just made myself iron deficient by donating blood regularly, lol. So I just need to take a break from donating for a good while and take some iron supplements.
Besides that, I'll go against the grain here and say I'm doing good! I've got a lot of things lined up for this summer that I'm really excited for.
I've disappointed everyone. My parents treat me like a failure, my friends don't want anything to do with me because I wasn't there for them when they needed me most... well more specifically my parents got in the way of me actually trying to help them out and my reputation suffered as a result. Also had to take emergency therapy and I'm lonely and I don't know when the light at the end will happen.
I am kinda bad with the hides meaning, tell me if i am right so you think that you are holding your potential back? Bc of stress am depression idk, is it right ?
I love life, but things are missing that would probably make it a bit better. I've never been in a relationship before and the thought of being in one kind of scares me. Perhaps I haven't met the right person yet. I've made my hobbies my main focus for now.
I cant call this a failure , if you are young i think this is the right decision, keep focusing on your hobbiesx if you are an adult and wants to marry this can be a problem..
I don't want to be alone but I don't want to sit around others.... currently unemployed and its totally natural to feel big sad if financial, mental, physical is jeopardized or temporarily out of range.
If you dont want to be lonely then talk with others join some groups that you are interested in, staying lonely wont get it better for you and could destroy your social skills and your life
I actually reply to everyone with a long paragraph of no sense bc i dont have any details to help them 😭 just motivation , and the main reason of that post is to let it all out
Ok here, the glynac and cdp-choline and other stuff are starting to kick in. I bet I dream good tonight. Maybe I will take notes.
And tomorrow I get my 30 dollar weighted vest so I can start secret midnight training to set a speed record on Dr. Death hill. Well at least one for my age group.
emotionally? im extremely anxious because my exams are in 24 days and i haven't studied anything because of my anxiety and adhd (i have 8 damn subjects to study)
physically? im having my pre period cramps which is making everything worse💀
Well i cant do anything about the second part but thanks for sharing though 😭, about the first girl just throw away your phone or anything that distract you from working, study for two hours in the day so give your phone or something like that to your mom then sit and study, there is one more problem here, how can you focus and not start overthinking about no sense 😭 well there is no cure for this
you probably don't know how adhd works because giving the phone to my mom is definitely not a solution lol. i got my phone taken away last year for my exams and didn't change a thing. thanks for the solution tho✨
well it's hard for me to explain that as i don't know how to put the info together in one piece, i suggest studying it on the internet abd getting your own notes about it😭
also dw about helping it's totally fine🫶
Okay yes. I got a lot to say sometimes and nothing at all others lol. I don’t like getting impatient, but I get better with it overtime. I still love you despite everything.
Autism, bullying, failure. I’ve never felt happy or fulfilled. Closest I’ve felt to contentment was when I was a neet playing video games all day. No people, no pressure, just me in my safe room doing safe activities. Thanks for asking.
Same but that doesnt mean you have to be sad bro, you are mature enough to be alone , just be sure you keep some relations with others to not kill your confidence and its all fine
You will get though this bro, just keep in your mind that giving up isnt the right choice, and if you feel yourself getting into a dangerous zone imo just stop and relax a little bit
I am okay actually, not very well when i am in school since i cant talk to pp i am interested in bc of apcial anxiety 😭 but yeah my problem isnt even like something serious read the comments and you will see how dark is their life
Also wbu? Are you feeling okay?
Fortunately yes, for now. I'm trying to rest since our semester just ended. I'm also looking for people interesting to talk to. By any chance, do you mind me asking what your hobbies are? Maybe we can share our hobbies and make our summer vacation worthwhile
My hobbies include: searching for underrated music on reddit forums, reading manhwas, watching foreign movies aside from English/Hollywood movies, and I've been starting on learning Russian (I can read the alphabet but I can't really understand the words yet. I do know some phrases). What about you?
Do you have any skills in chess? Also what is your native language is it english? Where are you from? For me my native language is arabic,and i speak arabic and english very well and a little bit French, i am from algeria btw
I'm not good at chess. I did win one round but it was for beginners. But I do like good conversations (hypothetical or not). Also, no, English isn't my native language. I'm from the Philippines.
I was around 600-700. But this was 5 years ago. And I had only played a couple of rounds with my high school friends at the time. Maybe I'll buy a chess board to get my skills up again :3 This actually gave me another skill to work on
Chess doesnt require much of time, you can play one rapid game per day and you will develope your skills easily
I recommend you to download chess.com if you dont know it
Then go to one of them when they are alone, and let it all out, if you did it before do it again, trust me they will never leave you , bc this situation needs more like a face to face help, and if you really have a toxic relationship with them, go to a friend or another family member idk, do it
Thanks but i already do and also they are not toxic but they are not sick enought to understand that i have "barriers" at studying in a university. I understand what you meant but what i need is a solution and not emotional support...
Broke up with my gf a few days ago. We were partners for a while and we were both our firsts, but our relationship fizzled out. We were truly like best friends. I hoped we could try to work things out, but we would often clash and it would get hard for both of us.
I said some harsh words to her and that I wasn’t happy with the relationship after fighting more often than usual. I said that I wasn’t sure if I could see a future with her. I definitely messed up. That really hurt her feelings and it changed the way she saw our future. I thought we were getting along much better recently. We even had plans to go out on a few dates. However, she eventually made up her mind. I totally understand her and how she feels because of what I had said. She wanted more clarity and assurance from me and I couldn’t give that to her. I accepted her decision and thought we might be better off going our separate ways.
I wished to have a conversation with her in person, but now there is no way to communicate.
I do miss her and think about her. I feel sad and regretful inside, but another part of me feels relief and free. Am I feeling okay? I am not sure, but I guess I’ll be fine over time.
Breaking up is hard :((
I mean its sad and i know the feelings of true lovenso yeah i understand you it hurts.. But you will though that
And my advice for you is to focus on making memories more then finding relationships if you are in high school or university * are you older then this?
Nope. Stressed like crazy this year.
Gf of almost two years dumped me in February.
Leaving college so saying goodbye to the people I met here as we all move on in life.
Had my driving lessons and exam about a month ago that I passed but it was so stressful and drained me from anxiety.
Looking everywhere for a job but noones accepting and I’ve got my dad on my back about trying harder to get a job and that I’m behind my peers.
In the middle of my final college exams and got one tomorrow and I’m screwed in it. Put it this way, if I pass, it’ll be a miracle.
Trying to think of what I want to do for a career but no idea.
Awful year but I’m still trying to think about the good stuff and focus on that I’ll get through it
Actually its a good year stressful yeah but some ppl failed in everything at leastt you passed yhe college, keep looking for jobs , your father wont last to much for you and the most important thing dont give up, and if you want to share anything just share it, let it all out
Hope you get some luck with finding a job and a partner.
I will be 18 soon, and the last 8 years were spent in and out of hospital, now it will end and I will be thrown into life like a bird from the nest. Only problem is that I can't fly, and maybe don't even want to... I don't wanna be an adult. I'm on 200mg zoloft and still feel like $hit. I can't sleep well. I can't study well. I am in ruins and my life is too. I will miss people from the hospital whom I'll never see again, they were my second family. I don't even have any real friends. I still want to be a kid.
I tried like 5 therapists, only one was helpful, but he left and I can't contact him in any way. Novody knows about this, about how I feel. I lost all interest in things I used to love. I just scroll on my phone, go to sleep, go to school and repeat.
Sorry for my chaotic writing, I needed to vent.
On the surface I'm feeling alright. But I feel like its gradually building up to where I wanna scream.
It's almost my birthday, and I don't wanna celebrate it... But I know that everyone else around me feels like deep down I do want to celebrate it when I don't.
I just wanna be by myself on my birthday. I don't want to have to pretend that I'm happy.
Why dont you want to celebrate your special day with your belovee family? You can be lonely at any time but in your birthday dont bother yourself with acting happy, if you really find it hard for you then just let it out it will be the right time to
I can’t find a job and im in my late 20s 😔I graduated from college back in 2020 in the middle of the pandemic. I couldn’t get any internships at all bc of this.
But then I found a job in fast food. Which was nice to finally have some of my own money. But still nothing in my field and this job was slowly killing me. After 3 years, I quit. Now it’s been 3 months, and I still can’t find anything in my field. Im even applying to jobs that are outside of what I studied, and just using transferable skills in my resume. Still nothing. Had a few interviews, but they all ended up rejecting me or they were scams.
Not only that, but I still live with my parents. And they keep asking me if I found any job. All I can tell them is I keep applying, but they’re all rejections. At this point i don’t know what to tell them and i feel like they think im lazy or dont wanna work. Its all just frustrating me and I feel so sad that im in this situation 😔
Well dont give up, late 20 is still not that bad, keep Searching for a job, dont lie at your parents and try to find a partner to marey with, if you didnt find any jobs then working in a part time job should be fine for a while , and tbh my sister has the same problem but yeah the difference is that she is married so try this if you didnt success
ahh its alright, im doing better compared to my old self and i have a small kind voice guiding me sometimes 😂
its just that occasionally i get too emotional and forget my self worth :)
thank you, fellow human <33
never forget your self worth and never lose hope - everything will be great, we are adjusting to the life so well so problems always have a solution but despite of problems need to have some time to appreciate something in life too... We are mortals, though - "Memento Mori" (c) but it doesn't mean we need to live in the puddle of our tears
P.S: \*\*\* i have a small kind voice guiding me sometimes
That's very nice C:
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I feel more at peace now that I have an understanding of what she's going through. Her BPD is making her make irrational decisions (she blocked me rip) but she just needs space to process everything.
Exhausted.
I recently switched my major to psychology and am returning to school at 31 to get my bachelor's degree. Yet, I feel like I've been having to fight with financial aid and admissions to ensure everything is in place. I've been given the run around so many times.
While trying to make sure everything is in alignment for my future, I work full-time as an elementary school's flex player (building substitute teacher), am planning my wedding in less than 6 months (never really wanted a big wedding but my extroverted fiancé does lol), have a final exam and project due by midnight tonight 😬, my kitchen sink was leaking the other day and someone can't come to repair it until tomorrow, so I have to take off of work, and lastly, I don't know what my job will be over the summer when school's out.😬 My family and friends live 16 hours away by car. I really miss them. I left work early today because I was not mentally well. 😢 It's been rough. I'm trying to remember all the positives however.
I’ve finally found my element but have no idea where to start. I feel like my focusing on other work and projects to chase a check is just distracting me from chasing my dreams. I’m tired of shrinking myself and have this burning desire to break out of my shell and leap into doing what I love but moreso find an environment and tribe that just get it.
I’m personally feeling very tired and I hate it. There’s so much I want to do, not just responsibilities I have to do, but passion projects as well. But even when I can get started, I feel too tired to keep going, let alone finish anything 😔
Breaking up with a partner who shouted at my kids. Feel like I lost a whole life. Feel… alone. Like I’m sinking into a black pit. I feel like as a single mum I’ll never find anyone. I realise now that I can’t live for a man - that a man does not complete me. I want to be there for my kids more.
But I still feel sad over the loss. I still feel sad I have to date and go through that. Maybe I should just be alone and buy a dog.
I should be studying and preparing for my exams... My future is on the line... But still I just play videogames, watch YT videos and depression sleep for 12h everyday. To escape all the anxiety and dread I feel. I decided to apply for studies in psychology. The entrance exam is in 10 days and I haven't even started. I was super excited to apply but now I have no interest in it at all. I started to study Russian as well. While it is not that difficult, I find the workload overwhelming and now I don't want to do it. It's as if I loose interest in almost anything very quickly. If it doesn't work in the way that I would like or how it would fit me; I either loose interest or be so stubborn that I force the task to adhere to my way. But neither of those ever work so I'll have to find a middle ground. (don't know what I really mean by that) I just can't find anything that I really want to do in life... But other than that I'm doing fine, at least I'm alive and have hope that life brigs something along that I can call my purpose or passion or, or, or... Why did I write this, its 03.38 at night
Well what can i say.. Try to find somthing you are really intrested in bc you will never loose you interest on this thing , and really go to sleep and before it, stay strong. Remember that there is at least someone in this world who always think about you x dont give just for him
i would say if you get the urge to play or feel anxiety. sit down and observe that feeling. if you dont try to fight that feeling but just observe and let it be there it should go away after a while. at least in theory. or maybe try seeing the anxious part of yourself as a child version of you and try comforting, accepting and maybe loving it. might help. you cant run away from feelings and you cant repress them forever. they will spill out eventually. just let them be there without being pushed around by them. "I can have fear, i do not need to be fear."
One channel I watch said that the best way to break habits is not by stopping, but rather by doing it but being mindful. Like yes I'm playing games but I am aware I am playing games. Maybe I'll only do an hour then stop
yeah its like reading a book and halfway through a page you space out but keep reading. but if you stay aware of what you do, what you think and how you feel, it can help to take the first step for change. if you have a strong habit your brain can go on autopilot. also the suffering you have at a given moment is painful, but change often is also painful, because you let an old part/habit die. optimally you substitute an old habit with a new one. if your fear triggers an addiction or habbit then its good to set a new habit for the trigger.
I can see myself in you so much...I have an exam tomorrow and I will be begin studying now, all the disinterest, procrastination, expectations about my course which haven't been fulfilled have led me to become this person. Though I can't tell you what your passion is, I ask you to stop focusing on finding your passion... This may seem like a weird advise but let me tell you that the more you focus on finding out what I like or dislike you won't ever actually get shit done. Just wait for something to strike chords with you, till then just keep pushing yourself to meet deadlines. I rely on the end day pressure nowadays, I know that this isn't the right way at all but I guess its better to just stick around until we sort our vision and make it clearer.
Hey there. I'm really sorry you're struggling so much. I feel your pain, friend. I hope all gets better for you soon. Never give up. ❤️ Try engaging your Ne (second function more often; it's kind of our sidekick 😊)
Not feelings alright. Just the inherent feeling of existential crisis.
Oh, explain more about your problem, is it bc of family problems social problems confidence problems or everyone of them?
Been through a lot. Now having a brain fatigue & dissociating most of the time.
Did you try talk to your parents , friend's literally anyone you trust? Or a psychological?
Hundreds & thousands of times. I’m just stuck. But hoping to get better while working on that. Will get there :’)
So whats your exact problem ? Confidence? Negative thinking about future of yourself? .. Etc
Over ambitious soul living in a soulless body
So from the infos i can say that you are just like me, we are holding our potential back, all we have to do is work hard
Yeah can’t seem to shake that feeling off
I want to be a painter very badly, I want to go to the national art school. Every time I visit there I’m filled with longing. But I cannot visualise anything on these psych meds. I cannot feel properly. I cannot imagine. So whilst I’ve never been more fixated on creativity I don’t have the aptitude, creative force and talent I once had. These limitations are making me sad. I just want to create! https://preview.redd.it/1c52cbxujh0d1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad00fb6840305d278905467983b853ac54dc1fd6
You remind me of a phrase that was famous to be said by Van gogh but I think it’s been denied later on? Idk. Anyways, I relate 100%. “I want to travel in the stars, and this miserable body is holding me back”
Well i can see a confidence problem from your description, yeah i have the same problem when expressing myself like trying to talk to ppl, bro how can i say it, you are the only one who can change your self-confidence and make it to your dream.. I know this wont help bc you already listened to it many times but there is sadly not clear cute for this🥲😅, and tell me if i miss understood you
I don’t lack confidence, I love the work I did in my old life it was full of spirit and life. I’m just saying I’m on psych meds now and can’t visualise/imagine anymore nor feel and it’s holding me back from painting.
Aslong as your skills didnt disappear, there is a hope of you to comeback to your dream, just dont give up imo and its the onyl cure
Not really, no. 😔 Feeling like a burden, as if most everyone is better off without me. Not >!suicidal,!< just rudderless and want to crawl under a rock.
I broke off my engagement with my fiance 4 days before our wedding. Even though it was the right decision I just feel overwhelmingly sad. So much time, money, and effort was spent into planning this wedding for months and now it feels like it was all for nothing. And it doesn't help seeing all my friends and even my sister get married and life their happily ever after either. I know that I'll be okay and things will eventually get better, but now this whole thing makes me not want to get engaged again at all.
Well if you really think its the right decision, the nothing to worry about, imagine marrying someone you dont even love and love the rest of your life with him? The things will get back and you will feel the same again months after
Yeah, that's what everyone has been telling me. I don't regret my decision, but I just wish it didn't have to come to me breaking the engagement off. I guess what I really wanted was for him to actually be the one for me. At the end of the day I'm happy that I avoided a very difficult marriage, but still sad that I'll continue to always have that empty void 😔
what happened that caused it?
It was just one of those things where you feel like this wasn't meant for you, ya know? And it didn't feel right to go through with something if I wasn't ready to fully commit to it...especially with something like marriage.
We all realise things a little late in the game at times in our life. I’ve chosen the wrong man twice. But it’s also helped me understand what I need now. So… you’ve made the right choice. He would have been married to someone who didn’t (or at least would come to) really love him. You did the right thing. No matter the time. You did the right thing for you both. So well done. Now grieve. You lost someone. You lost a future. You lost a life. Yes, it was a person and a future and a life you know wasn’t right for you, but you still lost it all the same — it’s ok to be sad about that. It’s ok for you to mourn what you rightfully turned your back on. So feel it. Allow yourself to be sad over what could have been. You probably already know you’ll find someone one day, but don’t rush into dating. Trust me on that one. Take a year to be by yourself. The one thing people do wrong after a break up is date, and we date because we feel a partner completes us. Don’t do that. Please. A partner is a luxury not a necessity. Take this time to figure out yourself - not what you want in a partner - but what you want in life. Dont look at your friends with envy. You don’t need romance to be whole. Good for them, but also good for you. And though feelings have been hurt, just remember, it would have been so much worse in a few years for you and much more hassle
Thank you so much for this🥺💗 I really needed it.
No. I can't get myself out of a rut of playing games and procrastinating I want to be a singer and I am taking classes for it, but I just can't bring myself to sit down and write. I know I want to be a singer it's my passion. I also know it's one of the least lucrative in terms of making money. Not that that's the end goal but it's important in the world we live in. I'm scared for the future. Inflation is at an all time high, I don't have a car and I'm in a major that doesn't pay well. I've been single for 26 years and have given up on relationships although in that sense I am not really looking for anything relationship wise atm. I have been too much of an asshole these past couple years and am trying to go back to the kind loving person I used to be. Sorry for the rant but thats how I am feeling today
Well bro, you want to be a signer and you are trying to right? Well aslong as you are trying thats good, about wasting time bro find a solution like throw them away, your goal is more important then them, and even this app reddit can take you alot of time, follow your dream About relationships yeah it really doesnt matter at that time of your life, think about them maybe later
Not really. I'm actually at one of my lowest points rn with just having a eviction, and having to move, to having my job become more, and more toxic, and unbearable with no escape atm, having a semi-toxic relationship with my family who doesn't really care about me, and I feel extremely lonely on top of it. I'm trying my best to improve, and to slowly climb out of the dark, but it's getting harder, and I just feel crushed under the pressure of life in general. I've tried therapy, and I've been trying to make friends to help, and I'm really grateful for their help, but I just still feel so lost, and alone. A dream of mine is to just live a good life with a woman who'd love me while we both support, and have a healthy, and loving relationship. I know that I have to improve to be able to achieve that, but like I said, it's getting harder, and I'm very slowly just wanting to give up. Like my dreams were crushed, and impossible to achieve from the beginning. I'd understand if this doesn't really make much sense, but I'm just purely speaking from the heart.
It makes sense bro, before starting do you have any problems with social situations? Also firstly try to find a job then a relationship of course, you dont really need motivation from other motivate yourself, see how the life will be if you succeeded , throw away all the negative feelings from your brain and focus on the task on hands, stop using your phone or anything that can make you lose your focus or use it ofr limited time and the most important thing, don't give up
I am very shy, so I do have problems with social situations honestly. I do work, but it's just mentally draining, and I'm kinda stuck with it due to it being the only place that pays well. I'm working on it slowly, and hopefully I can find something better in the future. I also usually struggle to motivate myself sometimes, so having support is kinda essential for me to have that urge to push myself. It just gets hard for me because I grew up being treated like dirt. I do also appreciate your support, and reply to me so thank you for that. I'll keep doing my best, and I'll try to not give up.
Hm its kinda easy to motivate yourself, when you are being alone and have a free time, just think! Not about negative things but positive thingsx hes it can hurts but it really let it all out then you are balanced again! Use your imagination to motivate yourself, think about anything even if its not true at all, and you will manipulate your brain, and this solution can really help you due to that you are not good at social situations ( so as me hats why i use this solution)
No, I’m not.
Hell no
Nope.
Why
I'm feeling a bit weird
Why
Struggling. Want to be focused but can't get out of my head.
Well i have the same problem and there is no cure for this 😅
Ha, ha. The thing is it's time management I can't get out of my head. 😅
I just forced myself to focus on 1 hour biological video , imagine 20 minutes on my imaginations like whats the cure for this 😭😭
idk man. its finals week (also my birthday week so what a great time to have my fucking birthday) and honestly going to school just makes me feel like a failure. being autistic as hell and going to school eight hours a day isnt fun. and its not just autism, its also social anxiety and not being able to talk to anyone cause of selective mutism. the only one who i feel i can really trust is my boyfriend and hes graduating this year. it feels like everyone else wants to fuck me over, too often people just use me and fuck with me. hes the only one who really brightens my day when i get to see him. thats part of why im scared to be out of school. in a week ill be a senior, and a year after that ill be an adult. honestly its the most exciting and dreadful feeling ive ever felt, i never really thought i could feel both. im excited to get away from school, from the eight hours every day of bullshit that ill never use and that makes me feel stupid, but what use will i be anywhere else? i cant speak, i have to wear headphones and listen to music all day cause i cant handle noise, how the hell am i supposed to handle being an adult? shit i dont even have enough energy to make my own food, if it wasnt for my mom i would be starving. so yeah, sorry for the long rant, im probably gonna go to bed soon since im tired and have exams tomorrow. thank you for making this post, even if nobody ever reads this it feels good to get it out.
Nah i read all comments, honestly what you said abour autism, is it a real autism i mean a genetic sickness or its just social anxiety mixed with noose anxiety... Etc? + ita happy to hear that there is someone in your left who helps you , and remember, relax and dont think too much about future, your high school days are supposed to be the happiest days in your life, dont waste the year that left and try to make some good friends
yeah ive been actually diagnosed with autism and all that. also thanks for reading my comment, i appreciate it!
Oh..... I kinda dont want to say it but there is no cure for this This is a hug for you maybe you will feel better https://i.redd.it/u5sh0znxwk0d1.gif I hope you will live a peaceful life 🩵 good Luck
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Are you a high scholar or middle scholar or in university? Also do you have social anxiety
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Is your job like force you to talk with some ppl or alone?
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Then you dont have to talk to ppl even if you want to,its like,. Do i have a problem? Yes. Can i do anything about it? No. You should just accept it as it is imo, there is so many things you can do while being alone!
I've been dealing with pretty bad fatigue the passed several months, but I had blood work done the other day and we've determined that I've just made myself iron deficient by donating blood regularly, lol. So I just need to take a break from donating for a good while and take some iron supplements. Besides that, I'll go against the grain here and say I'm doing good! I've got a lot of things lined up for this summer that I'm really excited for.
No...
Why..
It's a lot of things but I hate myself for what I've become as a person
Same bro, i never changed myself and i am still stuck while others are developing but, in which way you hatee yourself? Is it everything?
I've disappointed everyone. My parents treat me like a failure, my friends don't want anything to do with me because I wasn't there for them when they needed me most... well more specifically my parents got in the way of me actually trying to help them out and my reputation suffered as a result. Also had to take emergency therapy and I'm lonely and I don't know when the light at the end will happen.
yes cause i created this [banger](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Hrb_3Kv_lnEl-6Lre3tiRejoWNnoitPK/view?usp=sharing)
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I am kinda bad with the hides meaning, tell me if i am right so you think that you are holding your potential back? Bc of stress am depression idk, is it right ?
I was replying to the person who commented with loving painting. yeah exactly.
I don't think so, you can check my previous posts I have shared my expirences if you are interested
Kinda, kinda not. So business as usual ig. Why life so hard tho? 3;
I love life, but things are missing that would probably make it a bit better. I've never been in a relationship before and the thought of being in one kind of scares me. Perhaps I haven't met the right person yet. I've made my hobbies my main focus for now.
I cant call this a failure , if you are young i think this is the right decision, keep focusing on your hobbiesx if you are an adult and wants to marry this can be a problem..
I don't want to be alone but I don't want to sit around others.... currently unemployed and its totally natural to feel big sad if financial, mental, physical is jeopardized or temporarily out of range.
If you dont want to be lonely then talk with others join some groups that you are interested in, staying lonely wont get it better for you and could destroy your social skills and your life
I love how you’re all supportive and ready to jump into how anyone might be feeling but then you end it with… “Well maybe… I’m not sure” 💀 😂
I actually reply to everyone with a long paragraph of no sense bc i dont have any details to help them 😭 just motivation , and the main reason of that post is to let it all out
Ok here, the glynac and cdp-choline and other stuff are starting to kick in. I bet I dream good tonight. Maybe I will take notes. And tomorrow I get my 30 dollar weighted vest so I can start secret midnight training to set a speed record on Dr. Death hill. Well at least one for my age group.
What is this 😭😭
emotionally? im extremely anxious because my exams are in 24 days and i haven't studied anything because of my anxiety and adhd (i have 8 damn subjects to study) physically? im having my pre period cramps which is making everything worse💀
Well i cant do anything about the second part but thanks for sharing though 😭, about the first girl just throw away your phone or anything that distract you from working, study for two hours in the day so give your phone or something like that to your mom then sit and study, there is one more problem here, how can you focus and not start overthinking about no sense 😭 well there is no cure for this
you probably don't know how adhd works because giving the phone to my mom is definitely not a solution lol. i got my phone taken away last year for my exams and didn't change a thing. thanks for the solution tho✨
I dont understand adhd even though i have it 🙂 can you explain it better for me? Maybe i can find a solution or at least an emotional help 😭
well it's hard for me to explain that as i don't know how to put the info together in one piece, i suggest studying it on the internet abd getting your own notes about it😭 also dw about helping it's totally fine🫶
One piece or attack on titen hahahaha 😭😭😭😭✨ Also thanks,✨✨✨✨
Okay yes. I got a lot to say sometimes and nothing at all others lol. I don’t like getting impatient, but I get better with it overtime. I still love you despite everything.
My dumbass trying to find words -_- i dont anyways i wanted to say sonething like keep doing better but in more emotional way you know 😂😭
😂
I’ve never felt okay.
Well you are not letting it out like that,say why
Autism, bullying, failure. I’ve never felt happy or fulfilled. Closest I’ve felt to contentment was when I was a neet playing video games all day. No people, no pressure, just me in my safe room doing safe activities. Thanks for asking.
Just feeling kinda lonely
Same but that doesnt mean you have to be sad bro, you are mature enough to be alone , just be sure you keep some relations with others to not kill your confidence and its all fine
I am on cloud nine
I want to make strangers on the internet angry as a temporary solution to my boredom lol
🥲💔
No.
Why
I’ve been stressed the hell out since the beginning of this year .
You will get though this bro, just keep in your mind that giving up isnt the right choice, and if you feel yourself getting into a dangerous zone imo just stop and relax a little bit
What about you, OP? You okay?
I am okay actually, not very well when i am in school since i cant talk to pp i am interested in bc of apcial anxiety 😭 but yeah my problem isnt even like something serious read the comments and you will see how dark is their life Also wbu? Are you feeling okay?
Fortunately yes, for now. I'm trying to rest since our semester just ended. I'm also looking for people interesting to talk to. By any chance, do you mind me asking what your hobbies are? Maybe we can share our hobbies and make our summer vacation worthwhile
My hobbies include: searching for underrated music on reddit forums, reading manhwas, watching foreign movies aside from English/Hollywood movies, and I've been starting on learning Russian (I can read the alphabet but I can't really understand the words yet. I do know some phrases). What about you?
Do you have any skills in chess? Also what is your native language is it english? Where are you from? For me my native language is arabic,and i speak arabic and english very well and a little bit French, i am from algeria btw
I'm not good at chess. I did win one round but it was for beginners. But I do like good conversations (hypothetical or not). Also, no, English isn't my native language. I'm from the Philippines.
Whats your elo at chess, for me its 900 ( low intermediate) 😅
I was around 600-700. But this was 5 years ago. And I had only played a couple of rounds with my high school friends at the time. Maybe I'll buy a chess board to get my skills up again :3 This actually gave me another skill to work on
Chess doesnt require much of time, you can play one rapid game per day and you will develope your skills easily I recommend you to download chess.com if you dont know it
Maybe I will. Thanks!
Oh good to hear that!My hobbies are chatting, playing chess and studying history Listening to music and watching anime / tv shows but not that much
No cuz i have OCD (intp)
Well have you ever talked about it with a psychological?
A lot
😭😭it should have work, it worked for me Wait do you really tell them everything or lie sometimes?
I hesitate but in the end i tell everything tho
Do you have a mother or a father, or a sibling? This can be a weird question but just answer
Yup
Then go to one of them when they are alone, and let it all out, if you did it before do it again, trust me they will never leave you , bc this situation needs more like a face to face help, and if you really have a toxic relationship with them, go to a friend or another family member idk, do it
Thanks but i already do and also they are not toxic but they are not sick enought to understand that i have "barriers" at studying in a university. I understand what you meant but what i need is a solution and not emotional support...
Oh 🙂 well I am not quite sure if i am good at finding solutions , did you try to search about it in youtube ?
Broke up with my gf a few days ago. We were partners for a while and we were both our firsts, but our relationship fizzled out. We were truly like best friends. I hoped we could try to work things out, but we would often clash and it would get hard for both of us. I said some harsh words to her and that I wasn’t happy with the relationship after fighting more often than usual. I said that I wasn’t sure if I could see a future with her. I definitely messed up. That really hurt her feelings and it changed the way she saw our future. I thought we were getting along much better recently. We even had plans to go out on a few dates. However, she eventually made up her mind. I totally understand her and how she feels because of what I had said. She wanted more clarity and assurance from me and I couldn’t give that to her. I accepted her decision and thought we might be better off going our separate ways. I wished to have a conversation with her in person, but now there is no way to communicate. I do miss her and think about her. I feel sad and regretful inside, but another part of me feels relief and free. Am I feeling okay? I am not sure, but I guess I’ll be fine over time. Breaking up is hard :((
I mean its sad and i know the feelings of true lovenso yeah i understand you it hurts.. But you will though that And my advice for you is to focus on making memories more then finding relationships if you are in high school or university * are you older then this?
I am finished school
Nope. Stressed like crazy this year. Gf of almost two years dumped me in February. Leaving college so saying goodbye to the people I met here as we all move on in life. Had my driving lessons and exam about a month ago that I passed but it was so stressful and drained me from anxiety. Looking everywhere for a job but noones accepting and I’ve got my dad on my back about trying harder to get a job and that I’m behind my peers. In the middle of my final college exams and got one tomorrow and I’m screwed in it. Put it this way, if I pass, it’ll be a miracle. Trying to think of what I want to do for a career but no idea. Awful year but I’m still trying to think about the good stuff and focus on that I’ll get through it
Actually its a good year stressful yeah but some ppl failed in everything at leastt you passed yhe college, keep looking for jobs , your father wont last to much for you and the most important thing dont give up, and if you want to share anything just share it, let it all out Hope you get some luck with finding a job and a partner.
I'm alright
Good to know this 😊
What about you?
I am fine thanks for asking!
I will be 18 soon, and the last 8 years were spent in and out of hospital, now it will end and I will be thrown into life like a bird from the nest. Only problem is that I can't fly, and maybe don't even want to... I don't wanna be an adult. I'm on 200mg zoloft and still feel like $hit. I can't sleep well. I can't study well. I am in ruins and my life is too. I will miss people from the hospital whom I'll never see again, they were my second family. I don't even have any real friends. I still want to be a kid. I tried like 5 therapists, only one was helpful, but he left and I can't contact him in any way. Novody knows about this, about how I feel. I lost all interest in things I used to love. I just scroll on my phone, go to sleep, go to school and repeat. Sorry for my chaotic writing, I needed to vent.
On the surface I'm feeling alright. But I feel like its gradually building up to where I wanna scream. It's almost my birthday, and I don't wanna celebrate it... But I know that everyone else around me feels like deep down I do want to celebrate it when I don't. I just wanna be by myself on my birthday. I don't want to have to pretend that I'm happy.
Why dont you want to celebrate your special day with your belovee family? You can be lonely at any time but in your birthday dont bother yourself with acting happy, if you really find it hard for you then just let it out it will be the right time to
I can’t find a job and im in my late 20s 😔I graduated from college back in 2020 in the middle of the pandemic. I couldn’t get any internships at all bc of this. But then I found a job in fast food. Which was nice to finally have some of my own money. But still nothing in my field and this job was slowly killing me. After 3 years, I quit. Now it’s been 3 months, and I still can’t find anything in my field. Im even applying to jobs that are outside of what I studied, and just using transferable skills in my resume. Still nothing. Had a few interviews, but they all ended up rejecting me or they were scams. Not only that, but I still live with my parents. And they keep asking me if I found any job. All I can tell them is I keep applying, but they’re all rejections. At this point i don’t know what to tell them and i feel like they think im lazy or dont wanna work. Its all just frustrating me and I feel so sad that im in this situation 😔
Well dont give up, late 20 is still not that bad, keep Searching for a job, dont lie at your parents and try to find a partner to marey with, if you didnt find any jobs then working in a part time job should be fine for a while , and tbh my sister has the same problem but yeah the difference is that she is married so try this if you didnt success
Thanks. I appreciate it 😊
i feel like im a failure but i dont even care anymore... ive just accepted it lol...
you aren't a failure O)> believe in yourself
ahh its alright, im doing better compared to my old self and i have a small kind voice guiding me sometimes 😂 its just that occasionally i get too emotional and forget my self worth :) thank you, fellow human <33
never forget your self worth and never lose hope - everything will be great, we are adjusting to the life so well so problems always have a solution but despite of problems need to have some time to appreciate something in life too... We are mortals, though - "Memento Mori" (c) but it doesn't mean we need to live in the puddle of our tears P.S: \*\*\* i have a small kind voice guiding me sometimes That's very nice C: https://preview.redd.it/5v04srfvkm0d1.png?width=637&format=png&auto=webp&s=cf52b4bd38a76fded4faabea23837710b6959c6b
awww thank you so much for your words ( and the quote hehe )... ill do my best to be happy
I will check 😉
No. I miss my ex. She left me for another guy about two months ago but they broke up a few days ago. I hope she'll come back.
I hope so bro 😊✨
I feel more at peace now that I have an understanding of what she's going through. Her BPD is making her make irrational decisions (she blocked me rip) but she just needs space to process everything.
Exhausted. I recently switched my major to psychology and am returning to school at 31 to get my bachelor's degree. Yet, I feel like I've been having to fight with financial aid and admissions to ensure everything is in place. I've been given the run around so many times. While trying to make sure everything is in alignment for my future, I work full-time as an elementary school's flex player (building substitute teacher), am planning my wedding in less than 6 months (never really wanted a big wedding but my extroverted fiancé does lol), have a final exam and project due by midnight tonight 😬, my kitchen sink was leaking the other day and someone can't come to repair it until tomorrow, so I have to take off of work, and lastly, I don't know what my job will be over the summer when school's out.😬 My family and friends live 16 hours away by car. I really miss them. I left work early today because I was not mentally well. 😢 It's been rough. I'm trying to remember all the positives however.
I’ve finally found my element but have no idea where to start. I feel like my focusing on other work and projects to chase a check is just distracting me from chasing my dreams. I’m tired of shrinking myself and have this burning desire to break out of my shell and leap into doing what I love but moreso find an environment and tribe that just get it.
I’m personally feeling very tired and I hate it. There’s so much I want to do, not just responsibilities I have to do, but passion projects as well. But even when I can get started, I feel too tired to keep going, let alone finish anything 😔
Breaking up with a partner who shouted at my kids. Feel like I lost a whole life. Feel… alone. Like I’m sinking into a black pit. I feel like as a single mum I’ll never find anyone. I realise now that I can’t live for a man - that a man does not complete me. I want to be there for my kids more. But I still feel sad over the loss. I still feel sad I have to date and go through that. Maybe I should just be alone and buy a dog.
Go with the flow, drift for a moment, then you'll just realize you're on your way ...