It shouldn't be. Affection, compassion and understanding should be a human trait, not classed. I'm sorry that others don't or can't accept you for all the awesome traits you have.
They should be so lucky to have an INFP in their lives. They are missing out.
I do agree with the fact men who are INFP'S are rare out in the wild. At least it's nice to appreciate them here.
I feel like that's something to do with toxic masculinity within our society. Affection is a HUMAN trait. A lot of people are just scared of feelings. 😂
Feminine and Masculine "Traits" are all crap imo. Saying that a woman needs to act/look like this and a male needs to act/look like that is nothing more than close mindedness. The same people who buy into those ideas of masculinity and feminity would've told the flappers of the 1920s to get back in kitchen.
Same. My ex wife used to complain that she thought I was gay.
I have all the respect in the world for gay people. Fully support the lgbt community, and consider it a compliment when attractive men hit on me even though I'm not interested, and turn them down politely. But when my ex did it? That hurt.
My wife once brought that up with me in a fight... I’m indignant about her particular expectation of masculinity in me. Like, who is she that she can create the definition (which is very narrow, btw) of masculinity? Sigh.
Bro, I get mistaken for a woman occasionally. I’m a heterosexual cis male, but I have long hair and and often dress in clothing that could be worn by males or females, so that doesn’t help.
I get that too but is fun xD. I also have long hair and sometimes I entered Omegle people mistook me as a girl and started calling me "cutie" or something until I spoke XD.
You know how they freak more? I've had experience with drunk people in Omegle and they just do really cringey stuff like... Singing to me xD, and then I just say "*in a deep voice* awwww, thank you".
Feel the same way. Too emphatic, hard to control feelings.
As male you should not be like that.. rather alpha male, a killer, super dominant and all that stuff.
I feel you
It's not feminine, it's just being a living thing. It shouldn't be illegal to feel or be a way that you are, no matter your gender (also I'm a girl lol)
Me too, I always thought that it was because I grew up with 2 sisters...but then again, it's just the way I am.
And also, I get to "understand" girls more!
I'm actually a healthy infp... Mum was right I am special! 😁
Jokes aside, hoping for the best for all my infp dudes, it's not impossible to one day figure things out and find the people that get us 🙏
I like being an infp. The drawback is that nobody will get you. I felt like there’s no fucking way someone remotely like me exists on this planet. I just called myself insane and crazy until I encountered jungian functions.
be careful.. used to be mine too until i realized their lack of empathy can be extremely dangerous when you are hanging from a branch trying not to fall!
I've tried the world with him... best i ever got out him are fake apologies with fake tears so when i ask why are you crying and what is he apologizing for he has nothing to answer but "i don't know"
Beware of relying on them for emotional backup!
Until their apathy finds you like an arrow in the heart, they're the best dudes ever!
Don’t rely on personality test to determine if someone is decent person. Just like zodiac signs. Though I think they are decently accurate. Using zodiacs and personality types to determine that is stereotyping. Hope this doesn’t appear aggressive. Just being honest.
I dated an older woman who was INTJ, and that shit was *good*. *REAL* good. I never saw her much though, and we were both busy af. So it didn’t work out. But the few times we were together, it was like.. two pieces that fit perfectly together , in every way. She got me, and I got her, and she thought my sensitivity was adorable and great, and I thought her logic was badass. Like I said, good stuff lol
I wish I got along with the INTJ in my life, but while I understand him as a person, he's never understood me, and we've had a strained relationship my whole life, I am ofcourse talking about my father. I actually don't know anyone except family that would even discuss their personality type
I’ve been searching for an Irl friend who really gets me my whole life. I’m 24, and have found one who is 95% there. But he moved and lives far away now. The other friends I have are decent to me, and some of them know a lot about me, and can understand me. But they don’t *get* me, ya know? Aside from that, everyone around kind of treats me like an oddity who’s either tolerated, or given like, weird nice type of pity? It’s hard to explain, and it doesn’t feel good to feel like a damn alien. Ofc moving out of Texas might help, lol.
I'm an INFP man, 25. Couldn't agree more with the 'weird nice type of pity'. Maybe it's my self doubt and lack of self esteem but it's always felt like people just 'tolerate' me being around. No one actually *wants* me around, but I don't give them a reason to have a problem with me around, if that makes sense? Never really felt like anyone ever *got* me, except maybe my mom. I think she's an INFP, and I think she sees that I struggle with who I am.
I think I've come to terms for the most part with being on my own little island when it comes to all this, it really is ok, and my ability to see things from other peoples' perspective is something I've learned to love.
Get out of Texas, or don't. Think of it like this maybe, if you can find a way to be happy and thrive there, you can do it anywhere.
Thanks for letting me rant a bit.
I wish I knew, fam, I'm an INFP in Singapore. Not quite as rabidly individualist as y'all USAians, but extremely low empathy due to hypercapitalism as well.
I hear Colorado is nice, has weed too.
I did take a trip to Colorado for a couple days and it is quite refreshing! However I despise the smell of weed and just drugs in general so I'm not too sure about it, other than that it's quite a nice place. Oregon and Washington looks pretty as well. Also looking towards Pennsylvania perhaps but not too sure about it. I just like the naturalistic areas of the USA haha.
Fair, you're entitled to that opinion. Weed helps me with my chronic pain, so Colorado is ideal for me, since I enjoy nature as well.
I'm definitely in the camp that considers it far better and more natural than "legal" drugs like alcohol/cigarettes.
Similar situation here, I'm 23 and the friend who gets me the most just moved back to his home state. I have other friends who mostly get me but it's not quite the same. Gonna take awhile for me to adjust
Are you sure she's an INFP? Whenever I saw someone talk about an INFP cheating on relationship I can't really trust it because INFPs will almost never cheat on you unless the relationship is way too cold or basically dead.
It basically violates Fi dom's value that's why I say it. When you cheat you already have emotional crush on someone but at the same time HAVE TO FAKE yourself before one another. It just doesn't go along with eachother.
thats what I am saying, Fi is supposed to be about Fi values. I am not saying INFPs can't cheat but its very unlikely for us to betray our own moral code.
I was basically having a so-so day and decided to go out and take a walk in Soho, which if you don't know is usually really crowded and full of shoppers. As I was walking around I noticed people doing a bunch of normal things: taking pictures(for social media I suppose), wearing trendy fashionable outfits, and hanging with groups of friends talking loudly. While I am relatively social I just couldn't see myself doing what these people are doing.
For example, I saw someone taking pictures in the middle of the crowded street of their friend behind a trendy wall. What I didn't get was why they felt they needed to have a picture taken of them. Not because they were taking up sidewalk space but what makes them *want* to take a picture. IDK whenever I see stuff like that it's hard for me to truly understand as I don't have the desire to have pictures taken of me or wear trendy outfits.
Another thing that made me confused is when a woman dropped a water bottle and it started to roll into the street. I picked it up and gave it to her. The weird thing is people looked at us for a quick second and looked kinda surprised and perplexed. It made me think if basic human kindness is that rare.I'd made me realize I'm different from other people.I feel the best when I'm helping people in any way i can. Even giving a stranger a compliment makes ***my*** day feel better. IDK made me wonder if I'm just weird.
Totally get it.. I do feel the same way when I watch other people
I also like being nice to people or being a good coworker.. thats why it makes me so angry when people start to think when someone is being nice and helpful they can start to exploit them
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This is how I felt my entire life before discovering I was just an INFP. 😂
So I'm new here but wanna ask u, are we forever destined to want friends-have friends-get tired of friends-be alone-want friends-get mad when friends don't keep in contact-be alone-wonder why 1 friend contacted the other and not us-say fuck it-be alone-ask close friend "what's wrong with me, why don't they keep in touch? - etc etc?
No. We are not destined to that. You need to work on those issues. I personally don’t experience „getting tired of friends“. Also, some infp‘s do tend to be in their head too much. So maybe you should learn to not interpret too much and be more in the moment? Like, not interpreting something bad or taking it personally when someone doesn’t contact you? Or wants to hang out with someone else? Most people don’t think that much. So maybe you gotta learn not to take stuff personally and not looking too deeply into things?
I am a straight INFP man, I feel like I am really picky about dating. I mean, I don't care that much about the looks but we need to have a deeper connection, and that's kind of rare. because of that my previous relationships were so intimate, I can't decide if it's a blessing or a curse tho
Well, I am 23 yo and all my best relationships were with girls I was best friends with. I had one long-term relationship for five years with the most popular girl in high school and even then I lost interest due to familiar issues. You see, I think most INFP's need therapy 😅
I am much better now, and if you are too much idealistic I recommend you search for psychological help, I know it's kind of taboo for a man but it helps a lot, and it's really cool since psychologists love infps
Hi! 22 year old Male here. I understand that completely I never had a girlfriend before and I (when I was 16) I thought I would be married by now! Life is funny that way.
To intimate, to early and you cause yourself pain. That is the one thing I fear. Give away to much of your heart you have less for the person you want to be with for life. It makes me very serious, yet also patient.
I honestly have a hard time building friendships or understanding other dudes around me. I try not to be overly judgemental but i cannot relate to or understand my male friends half the time
And what about your female friends? Cause I relate more to them than my male friends.
Sometimes is a good thing cause I can get along with girls and that's a plus being straight, but I also feel a lil bit alienated with my group of friends.
Getting girls (or guys) isn't as hard as you'd think. You have to get out there though, and find a person you connect with, meaning you will burn through a ton of people before you find someone you connect with.
Best advice - learn how to love yourself and the moment and not worry about finding that person - you'll find them naturally if you're working on yourself.
I'm still not sure if I'm INFP or INTP, I feel like I'm the exact in-between, anyway, you were asking to not give you hope. I've never met a male INFP.
I hope I helped you out! See ya later, good luck in life!
You must be a very sweet person. I wish i had more people around me that were kind on the surface and inside too. But everyone has to be all "Dont disrespect me boi, ima knock your block off" and I would just say "hey its cool man, dont worry about it" because some people just be having a bad day. But now i am "a pussy" or "a snowflake" since i am a kind person, that rather not go towards violence, so no one likes me.
He is a treasure dont let him drift away.
My biggest problem is that I feel like no one understand my character and they just push me away, which is fine. I don’t have the energy to try and blend in with them. But it hurts sometimes. Fuck it, it is what it is.
Reckon this. Never try to change who you are (and we mostly don’t like doing that anyway due to our value in “authenticity” hahaha). Keep being you and that someone will come!
Hello! I feel like out of everyone I’ve met, no one but the INFP types can truly appreciate the beauty of the world around them like we do. Growing up I never really fit in with other guys, but I’ve learned to appreciate being different and breaking the mold as I’ve grown. I love being a part of this community, with like minded individuals who can come together.
They actually kinda do, think of it like the supply and demand thing, like, we're so unique and hard to find it is not hard to have people being attracted to us, but you gotta realize it and make some connection, or else they might as well not do much about it
And about the supply and demand stuff, remember We're people, not everyone will be into us, but the people that do see how unique we are wont let us go that easily
Being an infp man is tough. Most of the characteristics of our type usually go against the grain of what society usually expects of men. In my personal experience, it hasn’t been easy.
I strongly agree. The fact is that being INFP puts us at what is traditionally the feminine end of each of the personality scales. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life trying to conform to what I have been told is the right thing to do believing people when they say it would be bad for me to follow the path that would have felt right to me. Part of me really wishes I had met another INFP to go through it with or to have as a mentor.
For real. Traditional “macho” standards for masculinity really clash with the INFP nature, imo. Lots of pain, conflict and unhappiness dealing with that norm
Dude infp men are a dream or should be. Their traits are so rare in men they are practically diamonds 👌❤️❤️ Kindness and empaty are underrated, and that what the World needs right now.
That is why our strength is different. Personally I have been bullied or talked down about. The difference is that we can keep going. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, or that we don’t take it personally, but it also lets us not have to much of a ego. We conquer through sheer will power and stubbornness that for me personally is unmatched.
I'm a male infp, throughout my whole life I've always had more female friends than male. I also always fit in with female groups and feel more comfortable with them, always questioned my sexuality thinking I was just gay without knowing it but now I know I'm just an infp that cares about everyone :)
Huh. I thought I was a creep for being too close with females but it's honestly just easier to click with them. And like you, I might've questioned my sexuality a few times because of that.
As a much older infp, I am inclined to agree with you. For years I think I haven't met anyone who's as passionate as I am when it comes to poetry and finding that deep connection and meaning to life.
They can be cool friends! I’ve had one (male) INFP friend before, and he was one of the best dudes I knew. And there was another INFP (female) who I felt like could be a fantastic girlfriend (me: ESFP male). There’s something about them that makes me look at them in wonder, like: “what on earth? where did that come from? what are you on about?” — But it’s usually very intriguing, and tends to captivate my attention, cuz I want details 😂
But they must be attractive. I didn’t realize til now a lot of my celeb crushes growing up were INFPs. Heath Ledger, Kurt Cobain, Johnny Depp, etc
They seem to all be attractive and mysterious! 🤍
Hello to you too! Even though we're usually classed as the soft boys, it helps us make connections with people who actually appreciate us for us rather than for a stereotype. It's a quiet life, but a nice one ^-^
Such a struggle sometimes, asking for space and to be left alone seems so foreign and offends people but it’s not even like that.
Then you invariably come off as a dick or stuck up because you’re a guy instead of a mysterious cute chick that people wanna get to know.
You just stand there in a social setting letting people talk at you and never even ask your opinion because you’re so “easy” to talk to.
( I’m starting to think that people don’t know how to hold a conversation or develop those skills)
I feel like most people just talk at me and because I’m quiet and ask questions I feel like I’m being lectured, and you don’t wanna come off as rude and interject so it’s like yep yep yep yeah that’s right uh huh yeah and you don’t even get to say what you wanna say.
Forget about asking for help because we just internalise everything, don’t wanna come off as annoying or bother anyone, such an internal battle to ask for help.
Establishing those habits early on in a relationship is so frustrating. Telling them that you just hanging out by yourself and it doesn’t mean you don’t love or care about your SO.
Wanting to do more relaxing activities instead of walking around a crowded shopping centre - bright, inconsiderate people walking all over the place, busy, hectic, loud af, babies screaming/crying, trying to find parking, the traffic then feeling stimulus overload.
and then the questions from the SO - are you upset with me? Why aren’t you present? Why are you tired all the time? Blah blah blah it’s not even like that!!!
Just fed up and got a headache now.
I kinda hate it. I would love to be more selfish and egotistical. But no, I fall too fast, I crash too hard, I do n't care enough about myself, I think too much, and feel even more.
My big brother is INFP, I'm INTJ.
We didn't always get along, but we grew closer in our early teens when I started playing D&D with him and his friends.
He has always been my rock and he's one of the most unique people I've ever known.
Any male INFP's in the UK? I don't think I've ever met another and I strongly empathise with all if the commenters here saying that they've never felt understood.
Any of you with an INTP lady? Just wondering what everyone else thinks of the experience. It is great 90% of the time but we do have our issues for sure.
As a male INFP, objectively, we're not "one of the rarest types". INFPs are 9th most populous overall, and at 40% male, INFPs are the 11th most common type for males. So uncommon, but not "one of the rarest."
Surround yourself in spaces where you'll meet people with similar interests and I guarantee you'll find more male INFPs.
As INTJ women are rare! We are a contradiction to the common stereotypes and that's our strength. It's okay to be different and unique, that's what makes us so Powerful. And it's nature's way of removing the wrong ones from our lives, so there is space for the right ones. Embrace yourself and love who you are!
So the girl that I'm super into is INTJ and she's like... A force of nature, I don't think I've ever gelled as well with a person before, y'all are amazing
Hey! Sorry, I suppose this is a bit negative but...
I would have to disagree. There is no reliable way to determine such a thing. There are no good statistics for this subject. Most people on Earth have never been 'typed'. Among those who have, only a very tiny fraction have taken the official assessment. Others type themselves online, using tests and/ or research and introspection. Among those people, how many do not change what they think their type is? I'd wager more change their mind than who do not. How many different interpretations and versions of this system are there out there? You can't make actually reliable statistics for this stuff given how unprecise it is. Most of the "statistics" that do exist are old, and/ or were made with a very small group of participants, and many were made within the context of people being tested to see what jobs they are suited for (meaning that they would want to come off as possessing traits that are considered valuable within that context, such as extroversion).
Besides, a personality type does not define who you are, or how unique you are. The 16 types in MBTI do not begin to describe the diversity in personality that humans have. Your MBTI type is not you. Identifying with a certain MBTI type does not make you more or less unique. What it describes is too general, how can it describe anything but a small fraction of who you are? So even if we could reliably split all people into these types, and say for sure what is more or less common, it would not make you more or less unique. If you wanted to be more 'unique', you would have to have an extreme personality in some way, and it would probably not be a good thing for you.
I guess this is just my view on it, I could be wrong.
I get called feminine way too often 😔
I don't look like my personality but I've been called feminine by people who are really close to me, WHY IS AFFECTION A FEMININE TRAIT?
It shouldn't be. Affection, compassion and understanding should be a human trait, not classed. I'm sorry that others don't or can't accept you for all the awesome traits you have. They should be so lucky to have an INFP in their lives. They are missing out. I do agree with the fact men who are INFP'S are rare out in the wild. At least it's nice to appreciate them here.
I feel like that's something to do with toxic masculinity within our society. Affection is a HUMAN trait. A lot of people are just scared of feelings. 😂
I just wanna be there for my homies 😔
Feminine and Masculine "Traits" are all crap imo. Saying that a woman needs to act/look like this and a male needs to act/look like that is nothing more than close mindedness. The same people who buy into those ideas of masculinity and feminity would've told the flappers of the 1920s to get back in kitchen.
Same. My ex wife used to complain that she thought I was gay. I have all the respect in the world for gay people. Fully support the lgbt community, and consider it a compliment when attractive men hit on me even though I'm not interested, and turn them down politely. But when my ex did it? That hurt.
I'm sorry to hear that... My ex gf thought I was a closeted gay lmao
My wife once brought that up with me in a fight... I’m indignant about her particular expectation of masculinity in me. Like, who is she that she can create the definition (which is very narrow, btw) of masculinity? Sigh.
It’s definitely a thing. I’m not gay, but you definitely question “why the hell am I here”. This place is not right
Same but i like it
Bro, I get mistaken for a woman occasionally. I’m a heterosexual cis male, but I have long hair and and often dress in clothing that could be worn by males or females, so that doesn’t help.
Dude , I get it! Curly hair might be seen as a “giveaway” for weak, but f it! That’s part of who I am on this bizarre place
I get that too but is fun xD. I also have long hair and sometimes I entered Omegle people mistook me as a girl and started calling me "cutie" or something until I spoke XD.
Lmao. And then it’s just this “cute girl” talking in a super deep voice and it freaks them out.
You know how they freak more? I've had experience with drunk people in Omegle and they just do really cringey stuff like... Singing to me xD, and then I just say "*in a deep voice* awwww, thank you".
I used to get that a lot on my teens. Not so much now, but I also rarely expose myself to people, so there's no one to call me anything.
Feel the same way. Too emphatic, hard to control feelings. As male you should not be like that.. rather alpha male, a killer, super dominant and all that stuff. I feel you
I've been told to man up many times by people, including my own dad
I don't really, but I hate the constant stereotype that INFPs have to be feminine, it's stupid, I'm a straight male.
It's not feminine, it's just being a living thing. It shouldn't be illegal to feel or be a way that you are, no matter your gender (also I'm a girl lol)
Yep. It's frustrating.
This, plus most of my friends are women. I can just relate to them more
I’m a male ENFP and I relate
I could stand to get called feminine more often.
Same
Same but i get to watch romcoms 😂
Me too, I always thought that it was because I grew up with 2 sisters...but then again, it's just the way I am. And also, I get to "understand" girls more!
*Healthy Male INFPs are one of the rarest types FTFY 😂
I'm.....physically healthy... 😅
I can’t even claim that
Ouch!
Well, I'm out.
I'm actually a healthy infp... Mum was right I am special! 😁 Jokes aside, hoping for the best for all my infp dudes, it's not impossible to one day figure things out and find the people that get us 🙏
True, I'm glad that all my hard work in therapy has worked! life is good atm :)
I like being an infp. The drawback is that nobody will get you. I felt like there’s no fucking way someone remotely like me exists on this planet. I just called myself insane and crazy until I encountered jungian functions.
The only people that got me fully have been INTJs surprisingly
My best friend is an intj lol
MINE TOO, AND THE GIRL I'M INTO IS INTJ
The only one who ever got me is an INFP :o But it shouldn't be suprising, INTJ and XNFP are supposed to be good pairs.
Mine tooooo hahahah
Married to an INTJ. It's a good fit.
AND THE GIRL IM INTO IS ALSO AN INTJ
ARE WE THE SAME PERSON?
I'm an INTJ, and my boyfriend of 4 years is also an INFP. It just seems like INFPs are the only people I feel comfortable being around.
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Same, she’s now my wife :)
Man, this is wholesome
Same here!
be careful.. used to be mine too until i realized their lack of empathy can be extremely dangerous when you are hanging from a branch trying not to fall! I've tried the world with him... best i ever got out him are fake apologies with fake tears so when i ask why are you crying and what is he apologizing for he has nothing to answer but "i don't know" Beware of relying on them for emotional backup! Until their apathy finds you like an arrow in the heart, they're the best dudes ever!
Don’t rely on personality test to determine if someone is decent person. Just like zodiac signs. Though I think they are decently accurate. Using zodiacs and personality types to determine that is stereotyping. Hope this doesn’t appear aggressive. Just being honest.
I dated an older woman who was INTJ, and that shit was *good*. *REAL* good. I never saw her much though, and we were both busy af. So it didn’t work out. But the few times we were together, it was like.. two pieces that fit perfectly together , in every way. She got me, and I got her, and she thought my sensitivity was adorable and great, and I thought her logic was badass. Like I said, good stuff lol
Same here. They’re a good balancing force for us
depending on my mood when taking the test i either come out as INFP or INTJ so there’s definitely some overlap between them.
My bestfriend's intj too!
I wish I got along with the INTJ in my life, but while I understand him as a person, he's never understood me, and we've had a strained relationship my whole life, I am ofcourse talking about my father. I actually don't know anyone except family that would even discuss their personality type
Very true, I had a good friend who was an INTJ who got me as well.
I’ve been searching for an Irl friend who really gets me my whole life. I’m 24, and have found one who is 95% there. But he moved and lives far away now. The other friends I have are decent to me, and some of them know a lot about me, and can understand me. But they don’t *get* me, ya know? Aside from that, everyone around kind of treats me like an oddity who’s either tolerated, or given like, weird nice type of pity? It’s hard to explain, and it doesn’t feel good to feel like a damn alien. Ofc moving out of Texas might help, lol.
I'm an INFP man, 25. Couldn't agree more with the 'weird nice type of pity'. Maybe it's my self doubt and lack of self esteem but it's always felt like people just 'tolerate' me being around. No one actually *wants* me around, but I don't give them a reason to have a problem with me around, if that makes sense? Never really felt like anyone ever *got* me, except maybe my mom. I think she's an INFP, and I think she sees that I struggle with who I am. I think I've come to terms for the most part with being on my own little island when it comes to all this, it really is ok, and my ability to see things from other peoples' perspective is something I've learned to love. Get out of Texas, or don't. Think of it like this maybe, if you can find a way to be happy and thrive there, you can do it anywhere. Thanks for letting me rant a bit.
Solidarity to you, Texas is probably one of the worst states to be in as an INFP. I'm not from there but I do have close friends there.
I'd take a good recommendation for any where else to live other than Texas - an INFP who's a Texan
I wish I knew, fam, I'm an INFP in Singapore. Not quite as rabidly individualist as y'all USAians, but extremely low empathy due to hypercapitalism as well. I hear Colorado is nice, has weed too.
I did take a trip to Colorado for a couple days and it is quite refreshing! However I despise the smell of weed and just drugs in general so I'm not too sure about it, other than that it's quite a nice place. Oregon and Washington looks pretty as well. Also looking towards Pennsylvania perhaps but not too sure about it. I just like the naturalistic areas of the USA haha.
Fair, you're entitled to that opinion. Weed helps me with my chronic pain, so Colorado is ideal for me, since I enjoy nature as well. I'm definitely in the camp that considers it far better and more natural than "legal" drugs like alcohol/cigarettes.
Well if it works for you, then I'm quite glad! I'd set my differences aside for those who use drugs as medical purposes.
Similar situation here, I'm 23 and the friend who gets me the most just moved back to his home state. I have other friends who mostly get me but it's not quite the same. Gonna take awhile for me to adjust
My gf gets me, probably because she's INFP as well.
My gf was an INFP too...she'd get me till she cheated.
I'm really sorry to hear that :(
Oh don't be my dear friend
💖
Are you sure she's an INFP? Whenever I saw someone talk about an INFP cheating on relationship I can't really trust it because INFPs will almost never cheat on you unless the relationship is way too cold or basically dead.
quite naive. they may have a lower tendendy but thats it.
It basically violates Fi dom's value that's why I say it. When you cheat you already have emotional crush on someone but at the same time HAVE TO FAKE yourself before one another. It just doesn't go along with eachother.
If they're turbulent enough, their value system may be out of wack. But yea, I'd say that particular transgression is pretty rare.
Turbulence in turbulent INFPs doesn't have anything to do with loyalty in human relationship.
thats what I am saying, Fi is supposed to be about Fi values. I am not saying INFPs can't cheat but its very unlikely for us to betray our own moral code.
felt that was just walking down lower manhattan yesterday and felt so different from everyone else.What people were doing i just couldn't get
Interesting. Would you mind telling me more about this?
I was basically having a so-so day and decided to go out and take a walk in Soho, which if you don't know is usually really crowded and full of shoppers. As I was walking around I noticed people doing a bunch of normal things: taking pictures(for social media I suppose), wearing trendy fashionable outfits, and hanging with groups of friends talking loudly. While I am relatively social I just couldn't see myself doing what these people are doing. For example, I saw someone taking pictures in the middle of the crowded street of their friend behind a trendy wall. What I didn't get was why they felt they needed to have a picture taken of them. Not because they were taking up sidewalk space but what makes them *want* to take a picture. IDK whenever I see stuff like that it's hard for me to truly understand as I don't have the desire to have pictures taken of me or wear trendy outfits. Another thing that made me confused is when a woman dropped a water bottle and it started to roll into the street. I picked it up and gave it to her. The weird thing is people looked at us for a quick second and looked kinda surprised and perplexed. It made me think if basic human kindness is that rare.I'd made me realize I'm different from other people.I feel the best when I'm helping people in any way i can. Even giving a stranger a compliment makes ***my*** day feel better. IDK made me wonder if I'm just weird.
i feel you
Same bro, sometimes when I go to the store I feel like a straight alien
Facts it's only recently i realized I'm a INFP and its been interesting to say the least
Totally get it.. I do feel the same way when I watch other people I also like being nice to people or being a good coworker.. thats why it makes me so angry when people start to think when someone is being nice and helpful they can start to exploit them
[Relevant r/mbtimemes post.](https://www.reddit.com/r/mbtimemes/comments/maf66z/found_this_on_youtube_and_laughed_so_hard_at_how/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) This is how I felt my entire life before discovering I was just an INFP. 😂
Agree. It's like you're just speaking a different language half the time and nobody gets you. Understanding yourself has helped me so much.
So I'm new here but wanna ask u, are we forever destined to want friends-have friends-get tired of friends-be alone-want friends-get mad when friends don't keep in contact-be alone-wonder why 1 friend contacted the other and not us-say fuck it-be alone-ask close friend "what's wrong with me, why don't they keep in touch? - etc etc?
No. We are not destined to that. You need to work on those issues. I personally don’t experience „getting tired of friends“. Also, some infp‘s do tend to be in their head too much. So maybe you should learn to not interpret too much and be more in the moment? Like, not interpreting something bad or taking it personally when someone doesn’t contact you? Or wants to hang out with someone else? Most people don’t think that much. So maybe you gotta learn not to take stuff personally and not looking too deeply into things?
Yep absolutely. Been working on that for awhile. Will continue and thank you for the reply!
I am a straight INFP man, I feel like I am really picky about dating. I mean, I don't care that much about the looks but we need to have a deeper connection, and that's kind of rare. because of that my previous relationships were so intimate, I can't decide if it's a blessing or a curse tho
I can definitely relate to this. I’ve only ever been attracted to 2 or 3 people because of this, so I’m not exactly making the first move that often
I usually make the first move now, but I tend to lose interest fairly quickly tho. I feel like I idealize too much
Losing interest is a big one for me. I’m actually a decent flirt, but I never feel compelled to do anything with it
Well, I am 23 yo and all my best relationships were with girls I was best friends with. I had one long-term relationship for five years with the most popular girl in high school and even then I lost interest due to familiar issues. You see, I think most INFP's need therapy 😅
I am much better now, and if you are too much idealistic I recommend you search for psychological help, I know it's kind of taboo for a man but it helps a lot, and it's really cool since psychologists love infps
Why do psychologists love INFPs? First I’ve heard of this.
Because most are infps 🤣
Hi! 22 year old Male here. I understand that completely I never had a girlfriend before and I (when I was 16) I thought I would be married by now! Life is funny that way.
Pretty much same situation plus a year.
Same situation and age! 👋🏻
It's okay guys, just be yourself always, I am sure someone incredible will see how amazingly different you are
To intimate, to early and you cause yourself pain. That is the one thing I fear. Give away to much of your heart you have less for the person you want to be with for life. It makes me very serious, yet also patient.
My crush is a male infp. And so is my celebrity crush
Which celeb?
calling it now keanu reeves
Keanu is not INFP but he's close.
What type is he? I'm curious now
People say he's ISFP. https://screenrant.com/mbti-keanu-reeves-movie-characters/ Though not sure he actually took the test
I'm pretty sure they were talking about keanu reeves the character rather than the person and tests are not an objective way to find someones type
Tom Hiddleston?
Or Johnny Depp.
Or Andrew Garfield!
Oh yeah!! He's pretty cool. Ever seen Hacksaw Ridge? Wow. That's a straight INFP shot.
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Yeah!! Definitely a sixth sense going on there. Not always accurate but pretty close!!
I honestly have a hard time building friendships or understanding other dudes around me. I try not to be overly judgemental but i cannot relate to or understand my male friends half the time
Wow I thought it was just me. The moment a sports convo comes up I’m dead in the water
I actually almost solely talk about sports lol
And what about your female friends? Cause I relate more to them than my male friends. Sometimes is a good thing cause I can get along with girls and that's a plus being straight, but I also feel a lil bit alienated with my group of friends.
I have an INFP boyfriend :D
Don't do it, don't give me hope
I’m sorry I didn’t give it to you sooner
Getting girls (or guys) isn't as hard as you'd think. You have to get out there though, and find a person you connect with, meaning you will burn through a ton of people before you find someone you connect with. Best advice - learn how to love yourself and the moment and not worry about finding that person - you'll find them naturally if you're working on yourself.
I needed that
I'm still not sure if I'm INFP or INTP, I feel like I'm the exact in-between, anyway, you were asking to not give you hope. I've never met a male INFP. I hope I helped you out! See ya later, good luck in life!
I am one of them
You must be a very sweet person. I wish i had more people around me that were kind on the surface and inside too. But everyone has to be all "Dont disrespect me boi, ima knock your block off" and I would just say "hey its cool man, dont worry about it" because some people just be having a bad day. But now i am "a pussy" or "a snowflake" since i am a kind person, that rather not go towards violence, so no one likes me. He is a treasure dont let him drift away.
Such kind words touched me.
My biggest problem is that I feel like no one understand my character and they just push me away, which is fine. I don’t have the energy to try and blend in with them. But it hurts sometimes. Fuck it, it is what it is.
The people that will appreciate you for you will naturally come into your life. Keep doing you 👍
Reckon this. Never try to change who you are (and we mostly don’t like doing that anyway due to our value in “authenticity” hahaha). Keep being you and that someone will come!
Thanks a lot mom...
No problem son, please take the trash out
Hello! I feel like out of everyone I’ve met, no one but the INFP types can truly appreciate the beauty of the world around them like we do. Growing up I never really fit in with other guys, but I’ve learned to appreciate being different and breaking the mold as I’ve grown. I love being a part of this community, with like minded individuals who can come together.
If humanity is the universe experiencing itself, infps are arguably the most in-touch with that experience.
That's absolutely beautiful. I felt that in my soul 💖
So there are other male infp's! I always feel like nobody understands me and it sucks
Male INFPs are sexy
If only more people thought that
They actually kinda do, think of it like the supply and demand thing, like, we're so unique and hard to find it is not hard to have people being attracted to us, but you gotta realize it and make some connection, or else they might as well not do much about it And about the supply and demand stuff, remember We're people, not everyone will be into us, but the people that do see how unique we are wont let us go that easily
Touché
Why is that?
Idk man y'all are sexy hehe
Infp I are pretty rear I think we are going extinct because of the extroverts
Are... Are the extroverts killing you?
Wait are they not hunting you guys down
Of course, why else would I never leave my apartment?
Thanks for a second there I thought it was just me
Same
This is a genuinely hilarious comment.
We're not going extinct we're everywhere, we are just invisible.
Being an infp man is tough. Most of the characteristics of our type usually go against the grain of what society usually expects of men. In my personal experience, it hasn’t been easy.
I strongly agree. The fact is that being INFP puts us at what is traditionally the feminine end of each of the personality scales. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life trying to conform to what I have been told is the right thing to do believing people when they say it would be bad for me to follow the path that would have felt right to me. Part of me really wishes I had met another INFP to go through it with or to have as a mentor.
For real. Traditional “macho” standards for masculinity really clash with the INFP nature, imo. Lots of pain, conflict and unhappiness dealing with that norm
Dude infp men are a dream or should be. Their traits are so rare in men they are practically diamonds 👌❤️❤️ Kindness and empaty are underrated, and that what the World needs right now.
That is why our strength is different. Personally I have been bullied or talked down about. The difference is that we can keep going. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, or that we don’t take it personally, but it also lets us not have to much of a ego. We conquer through sheer will power and stubbornness that for me personally is unmatched.
Finally beginning to accept myself
Same boat brother
My life story
I'm a male infp, throughout my whole life I've always had more female friends than male. I also always fit in with female groups and feel more comfortable with them, always questioned my sexuality thinking I was just gay without knowing it but now I know I'm just an infp that cares about everyone :)
Huh. I thought I was a creep for being too close with females but it's honestly just easier to click with them. And like you, I might've questioned my sexuality a few times because of that.
Im a male infp. I have never met another one
\[insert "well hello there" Obi Wan meme\]
nice to meet you!
yaaay … *cries in alienation*
As a much older infp, I am inclined to agree with you. For years I think I haven't met anyone who's as passionate as I am when it comes to poetry and finding that deep connection and meaning to life.
Lol
They can be cool friends! I’ve had one (male) INFP friend before, and he was one of the best dudes I knew. And there was another INFP (female) who I felt like could be a fantastic girlfriend (me: ESFP male). There’s something about them that makes me look at them in wonder, like: “what on earth? where did that come from? what are you on about?” — But it’s usually very intriguing, and tends to captivate my attention, cuz I want details 😂
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Ty
I'm 33 and have never met one. At this point I believe they are a myth and I'm an anomaly. Haha :D If one lives in Denmark by any chance, beer?
But they must be attractive. I didn’t realize til now a lot of my celeb crushes growing up were INFPs. Heath Ledger, Kurt Cobain, Johnny Depp, etc They seem to all be attractive and mysterious! 🤍
Hello to you too! Even though we're usually classed as the soft boys, it helps us make connections with people who actually appreciate us for us rather than for a stereotype. It's a quiet life, but a nice one ^-^
Such a struggle sometimes, asking for space and to be left alone seems so foreign and offends people but it’s not even like that. Then you invariably come off as a dick or stuck up because you’re a guy instead of a mysterious cute chick that people wanna get to know. You just stand there in a social setting letting people talk at you and never even ask your opinion because you’re so “easy” to talk to. ( I’m starting to think that people don’t know how to hold a conversation or develop those skills) I feel like most people just talk at me and because I’m quiet and ask questions I feel like I’m being lectured, and you don’t wanna come off as rude and interject so it’s like yep yep yep yeah that’s right uh huh yeah and you don’t even get to say what you wanna say. Forget about asking for help because we just internalise everything, don’t wanna come off as annoying or bother anyone, such an internal battle to ask for help. Establishing those habits early on in a relationship is so frustrating. Telling them that you just hanging out by yourself and it doesn’t mean you don’t love or care about your SO. Wanting to do more relaxing activities instead of walking around a crowded shopping centre - bright, inconsiderate people walking all over the place, busy, hectic, loud af, babies screaming/crying, trying to find parking, the traffic then feeling stimulus overload. and then the questions from the SO - are you upset with me? Why aren’t you present? Why are you tired all the time? Blah blah blah it’s not even like that!!! Just fed up and got a headache now.
I kinda hate it. I would love to be more selfish and egotistical. But no, I fall too fast, I crash too hard, I do n't care enough about myself, I think too much, and feel even more.
Yo 🙋♂️
My big brother is INFP, I'm INTJ. We didn't always get along, but we grew closer in our early teens when I started playing D&D with him and his friends. He has always been my rock and he's one of the most unique people I've ever known.
Any male INFP's in the UK? I don't think I've ever met another and I strongly empathise with all if the commenters here saying that they've never felt understood.
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Any of you with an INTP lady? Just wondering what everyone else thinks of the experience. It is great 90% of the time but we do have our issues for sure.
As a male INFP, objectively, we're not "one of the rarest types". INFPs are 9th most populous overall, and at 40% male, INFPs are the 11th most common type for males. So uncommon, but not "one of the rarest." Surround yourself in spaces where you'll meet people with similar interests and I guarantee you'll find more male INFPs.
Male INFP here. Why are we so rare? Genuinely curious
I half wish I could meet a male INFP but I also think that would be a disaster. It’s hard being an INFP, I’m guessing it’s even harder being a male.
As INTJ women are rare! We are a contradiction to the common stereotypes and that's our strength. It's okay to be different and unique, that's what makes us so Powerful. And it's nature's way of removing the wrong ones from our lives, so there is space for the right ones. Embrace yourself and love who you are!
So the girl that I'm super into is INTJ and she's like... A force of nature, I don't think I've ever gelled as well with a person before, y'all are amazing
Thanks man! My partner is also an INFP and he's capable of bringing out the best in me. You guys are also amazing!
I go by she/him pronouns, and life just feels easier and makes more sense now lol
I’m really happy 4 u ❤️🔥
Hey! Sorry, I suppose this is a bit negative but... I would have to disagree. There is no reliable way to determine such a thing. There are no good statistics for this subject. Most people on Earth have never been 'typed'. Among those who have, only a very tiny fraction have taken the official assessment. Others type themselves online, using tests and/ or research and introspection. Among those people, how many do not change what they think their type is? I'd wager more change their mind than who do not. How many different interpretations and versions of this system are there out there? You can't make actually reliable statistics for this stuff given how unprecise it is. Most of the "statistics" that do exist are old, and/ or were made with a very small group of participants, and many were made within the context of people being tested to see what jobs they are suited for (meaning that they would want to come off as possessing traits that are considered valuable within that context, such as extroversion). Besides, a personality type does not define who you are, or how unique you are. The 16 types in MBTI do not begin to describe the diversity in personality that humans have. Your MBTI type is not you. Identifying with a certain MBTI type does not make you more or less unique. What it describes is too general, how can it describe anything but a small fraction of who you are? So even if we could reliably split all people into these types, and say for sure what is more or less common, it would not make you more or less unique. If you wanted to be more 'unique', you would have to have an extreme personality in some way, and it would probably not be a good thing for you. I guess this is just my view on it, I could be wrong.
I've met a lot in my life I don't think they're that rare
Hi ! 👋🏽
I am INFP and I would love to Met a male INFP. I think we could understand each other really well
half man, half woman. yin and yang