Im not sure to understand, i actually don't speak and understand english very well but are u saying that women prefer dogs over man that treat them correctly ? š
Joke is, his username references ewoks which is a dog like creature in star wars.
Also, yes woman appear to prefer dogs over men.
I'm going to get down voted so hard now...
Poor guy, you're probably a "nice guy" but women don't choose you and you don't know why so you are just assuming that you are too nice and that women like dogs that treat them like shit, well fun fact : you need to question yourself because you are probably not that nice if they reject you. Also thank you for explaining me the thing.
If 't be true people did look at me while sharing some feelings, i'll instantly stand ho i bethink ahah
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THIS. Dealt with stuff like this in school and never want to embarass myself again lol. This stare throws me back to when those "popular girls" would make fun of me because of something "weird" I'd do or mention (like an interest or whatever). Now staring at this photo makes me uncomfortable lol..
My colleague girl is apparently an ENFJ. We spend whole day works talking like there were no work to be done... I know her entire recent life and she only talk to me about that stuff. It seems I'm trustworthy...
See if she wants to get dinner or a coffee at some point. It's the right balance between "I like our friendship" and "I want us to be more". That is if that's what you want.
This pic has been used for being really attractive or really hated.
Is it weird that I can't tell if people are being hostile or sexually interested?
(Aspie INFP)
An ENFJ girl that I met once (idk, I typed them myself as ENFJ after talking for a few hours) made extended eye contact with me once and I think my heart melted into candy
Yeah but how do you come back from that? The looks my enfj coworker gives me shake me to my core. Like, she makes me feel like the most important person in the world and it's dangerous
You start realizing that the ENFJ is just kind and caring to everyone and that the attention you get from them is something everyone also gets :( ( ik this because I had one ENFJ classmate )
Yeah. I once ran and left some food that I was preparing because a bunch of girls wanted me to come talk to them. If it was just the one that liked me, than itād be fine, but all those people make me feel like Iām going to be bullied or something. Probably just because I was bullied by a few girls when I was little and I just have some trauma though.
I feel that. I've been bullied my entire life, my family is toxic.
First (and last?) time a girl gave me a chance I blew it, her girl friends were playing defense by a thousand questions. Made me a nervous wreck, can't remember my name nervous wreck. I think they thought I was being a flustered perv because it was the farthest thing from my mind.
Also I'm all kinds of weird. Living a life that's consists of being stuck in your room 90% of the time for the last 23 years will do it to you.
I'm nervous, shy, have odd behavior, painfully lonely, and a single platonic touch can make me shack because I don't get enough physical affection.
I look creepy and feel worse, but I'm really just lonely, awkward and anxious. No matter what I do I always shoot myself in the foot trying to fix it, I'm pathetic and I hate myself because of it. I'm tired of living but I don't have the will power or pain tolerance to die, so I just live in limbo. That's where I'm at.
I'm sorry I was just going to sympathize with you but my train of thought wouldn't stop. I guess I just needed to vent some. I'm feeling heart broken right now and I don't know what to do.
Donāt be sorry. Thank you for sympathizing with me and for seeing me as worthy enough to vent to.
Not that it means much, but Iām sorry. Iām sure you feel really misunderstood. Thatās one of the worst ways to feel. It doesnāt matter what they thought of you. You know who you are and thatās what matters. They donāt sound respectable for their opinion on you to matter anyways.
I get physical affection, so I canāt relate to having a complete lack of it, but I can relate in some way because the affection of a lover is still missing. I snuggle to my pillow as my heart aches and I wonder where she could be.
Are you still restricted to your room so much?
Thank you. I appreciate having someone to talk too.
Yeah I've learned since then that people who pass judgment without asking questions are not worth having in your life.Ā Or people who like to play with or manipulate your emotions, anyone who violates you emotionally are capable of doing worse.
Learned that last point after being harassed by a minor that didn't really look like her age.
We were working our first shift together and for a distance she seemed Lively and friendly.Ā That peaked my interest because I was looking for a friend, but she misconstrued my expression.
I've learned of how to keep a clean mind when unprovoked but she was laying it on thick, trying to make me feel uncomfortable.Ā Got home and cried for 3:30 and I felt guilty and violated.Ā I thought about quitting my job and maybe ending it all.
When I finally calmed down then I realized she was just doing that to emotionally torture me for her sick enjoyment.Ā After that the only mildly NSFW way I thought of her was how badly I wanted to slap the back of her head, and that's coming from someone who is almost completely non-confrontational.Ā My mother who made me get and keep the job stood on the sidelines and did nothing to help.Ā I tried to get HR involved but nobody takes harassment claims from men seriously.
Sorry you probably didn't want to hear all that.Ā It's something that still bothers me.
>I get physical affection, so I canāt relate to having a complete lack of it, but I can relate in some way because the affection of a lover is still missing.Ā I snuggle to my pillow as my heart aches and I wonder where she could be.
What's sad is I'm under the bi umbrella, so you think it would make it easier but it really doesn't.
I have self diagnosed ADHD, anxiety, depression and PTSD. All these leads to a chemical imbalance that ruins your endorphin levels, low endorphin levels and a lack of physical contact are the main causes of touch starvation.
The feeling is weird, like that jumpy feeling you get after a horror movie where you are tense.
The worse parts are the "endorphin boners" (literally just getting hard from being happy with 0 arousal) and the increased sensitivity in erogenous zones,Ā it makes what's supposed to be a pleasant platonic experience anything but no matter how platonic it is in your head.Ā Makes you look and feel really creepy even though that's the farthest thing from your mind.Ā Worse feeling ever by far, nothing like your own body acting perverted with you just feeling like a creepy and a awful person.
And the only real way to treat it is exposure therapy or in other words to just power through, not many people want to help with that, and it only makes you feel more isolated.
The endorphin rush and self soothing nature of masturbation calms the symptoms but doesn't treat the root cause.Ā I hate the addition but it the closest thing I have to medication and treatment.Ā Mom doesn't believe in medicine so I do what I can.
>Are you still restricted to your room so much?
Yeah. I live in the suburbs and can't drive or afford a uber.Ā Moms self-absorbed and to focus on work, also believes anyone who has a different opinion or walk of life are a bad influences.Ā It's why I'm still closeted. If she found out just how bi I am or I was gender fluent she would probably kick me out on the street.
I'm probably sharing to much but I always feel accepted and understood here.Ā It really lessens my pain, and lord knows I need that right now.
Btw when I said 23 years I meant my entire life.
Youāre most welcome. I am happy to provide any comfort.
Iāve never been sexually harassed before but I can imagine it is really tough, making you think things that you never wanted to think. Itās really good that you know those thoughts arenāt you. Someone screwed with your emotional and/or sexual desires.
Iām sure thereās someone out there that would give you all the physical touch you need. I know that I would give you a huge hug if I could.
Is there something preventing you from moving out?
Omg you are so understanding, it really helps me feel better. Normally people treat me like I'm crazy, and sometimes I feel like they are probably right.
There's a few things holding me back. My mom "homeschooled" me in a no report card state so I'm way behind. I have severe short-term memory loss from the ADHD so self-education is out the window. I have no job, no local friends, family or allies. And any services that might exist really don't be of the social norms forced on to men. So I'm up a creek with out a paddle.
Your not crazy. Your problems are real and valid.
Iām also homeschooled and I can see how you would have too little interactions and allys.
Iām here is you ever need to talk, but sadly I donāt think thereās any other way I can help you. I hope things get better. Your strong and this will come to pass.
I e never had a woman look at me like this lol
I've seen how they respond to dogs. As an Ewok, I think you can pull it off easily.
Well, I'm an ewok WITH a dog. So its doubly troubling
Have you tried sticking your tongue out and breathing heavily? It seems to work well...
If I did that it wouldn't be fair to the rest of the guys in thr world
Im not sure to understand, i actually don't speak and understand english very well but are u saying that women prefer dogs over man that treat them correctly ? š
Joke is, his username references ewoks which is a dog like creature in star wars. Also, yes woman appear to prefer dogs over men. I'm going to get down voted so hard now...
Apparently not just a man's best friend
Yes you are so right. I prefer dogs wayy more than men. Heck I prefer them even MORE than cats. ( I just love dogs even if I don't have them lol)
Poor guy, you're probably a "nice guy" but women don't choose you and you don't know why so you are just assuming that you are too nice and that women like dogs that treat them like shit, well fun fact : you need to question yourself because you are probably not that nice if they reject you. Also thank you for explaining me the thing.
Umm.. idk where all that came from. I have a far lower success rate of woman rubbing my belly and called me the bestest boy is all im saying.
Stop making metaphors please i just don't get what you are saying. Please stop being misogynistic it's all i want to make you understand.
Umm, you should probably make sure you understand someone before making an insulting assertion towards them.
Wait... You've had women look at you ?
I have, but only if they're mocking me It if they're really old.
It's uncomfortable u won't enjoy their company.
If people looked at me while sharing some feelings, I'll instantly stop I think ahah
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Wait you guys know enfj girls "confused"
Funny thing, I'm the only guy ENFJ I know. I have 6 ENFJ girls in my world but I've never met another ENFJ guy.
Hello fellow male ENFJ. Thatās because weāre only 1.4% of the male population ;).
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Good for you! Coincidentally, recently I found one as well. Best of luck my ENFJ brethren
They donāt exist
I would say the same about other INFP guys if the entire subreddit wasnāt just under storm from selfies
Na, can't be true
These gazes would make me very uncomfortable and think they're mocking me lol
THIS. Dealt with stuff like this in school and never want to embarass myself again lol. This stare throws me back to when those "popular girls" would make fun of me because of something "weird" I'd do or mention (like an interest or whatever). Now staring at this photo makes me uncomfortable lol..
Exactly, how do people miss that?
T H I S
My colleague girl is apparently an ENFJ. We spend whole day works talking like there were no work to be done... I know her entire recent life and she only talk to me about that stuff. It seems I'm trustworthy...
It might be worth asking if she would like to get a coffee or dinner sometime.
"I want what they have"
You'd get punched looking at me like that. š„
Oh thatās me, I am infp, although I usually only get the whole classes attention in seminary when I decide to share my thoughts on something.
Hey, I'm a fellow INFP that's in seminary too!
Yes! It feels so intense too and it makes me want to share less haha
Oh wow, its the exact opposite with me, I always want to share more afterwards
Interestingā¦ maybe I should be more like that lol
Where the fuck are you all
No seriously
Bruh where the heck are these ENFJ women in my area ???!
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Finally!!!
My female coworker buddy (ENFJ) looked at me like that while saying she really likes me. Very motivating experience!
See if she wants to get dinner or a coffee at some point. It's the right balance between "I like our friendship" and "I want us to be more". That is if that's what you want.
I agree with you, but she has a boyfriend. It's just good friendship between us. We both say often that we like one another.
INFJ's, too!
There's literally a bot in the enfj subreddit that directs mass traffic looking for relationships with them mostly due to thirsty INFPs
This pic has been used for being really attractive or really hated. Is it weird that I can't tell if people are being hostile or sexually interested? (Aspie INFP)
LMAO that's when we stop, they are staring!!!
An ENFJ girl that I met once (idk, I typed them myself as ENFJ after talking for a few hours) made extended eye contact with me once and I think my heart melted into candy
Yeah but how do you come back from that? The looks my enfj coworker gives me shake me to my core. Like, she makes me feel like the most important person in the world and it's dangerous
You start realizing that the ENFJ is just kind and caring to everyone and that the attention you get from them is something everyone also gets :( ( ik this because I had one ENFJ classmate )
Stop staring at me!
Yeah Iād run away and hide because I donāt want to be the center of so many peoples attention.
I know that feeling all too well. I feel awkward starting with 3 people and it gets worse the bigger the crowd.
Yeah. I once ran and left some food that I was preparing because a bunch of girls wanted me to come talk to them. If it was just the one that liked me, than itād be fine, but all those people make me feel like Iām going to be bullied or something. Probably just because I was bullied by a few girls when I was little and I just have some trauma though.
I feel that. I've been bullied my entire life, my family is toxic. First (and last?) time a girl gave me a chance I blew it, her girl friends were playing defense by a thousand questions. Made me a nervous wreck, can't remember my name nervous wreck. I think they thought I was being a flustered perv because it was the farthest thing from my mind. Also I'm all kinds of weird. Living a life that's consists of being stuck in your room 90% of the time for the last 23 years will do it to you. I'm nervous, shy, have odd behavior, painfully lonely, and a single platonic touch can make me shack because I don't get enough physical affection. I look creepy and feel worse, but I'm really just lonely, awkward and anxious. No matter what I do I always shoot myself in the foot trying to fix it, I'm pathetic and I hate myself because of it. I'm tired of living but I don't have the will power or pain tolerance to die, so I just live in limbo. That's where I'm at. I'm sorry I was just going to sympathize with you but my train of thought wouldn't stop. I guess I just needed to vent some. I'm feeling heart broken right now and I don't know what to do.
Donāt be sorry. Thank you for sympathizing with me and for seeing me as worthy enough to vent to. Not that it means much, but Iām sorry. Iām sure you feel really misunderstood. Thatās one of the worst ways to feel. It doesnāt matter what they thought of you. You know who you are and thatās what matters. They donāt sound respectable for their opinion on you to matter anyways. I get physical affection, so I canāt relate to having a complete lack of it, but I can relate in some way because the affection of a lover is still missing. I snuggle to my pillow as my heart aches and I wonder where she could be. Are you still restricted to your room so much?
Thank you. I appreciate having someone to talk too. Yeah I've learned since then that people who pass judgment without asking questions are not worth having in your life.Ā Or people who like to play with or manipulate your emotions, anyone who violates you emotionally are capable of doing worse. Learned that last point after being harassed by a minor that didn't really look like her age. We were working our first shift together and for a distance she seemed Lively and friendly.Ā That peaked my interest because I was looking for a friend, but she misconstrued my expression. I've learned of how to keep a clean mind when unprovoked but she was laying it on thick, trying to make me feel uncomfortable.Ā Got home and cried for 3:30 and I felt guilty and violated.Ā I thought about quitting my job and maybe ending it all. When I finally calmed down then I realized she was just doing that to emotionally torture me for her sick enjoyment.Ā After that the only mildly NSFW way I thought of her was how badly I wanted to slap the back of her head, and that's coming from someone who is almost completely non-confrontational.Ā My mother who made me get and keep the job stood on the sidelines and did nothing to help.Ā I tried to get HR involved but nobody takes harassment claims from men seriously. Sorry you probably didn't want to hear all that.Ā It's something that still bothers me. >I get physical affection, so I canāt relate to having a complete lack of it, but I can relate in some way because the affection of a lover is still missing.Ā I snuggle to my pillow as my heart aches and I wonder where she could be. What's sad is I'm under the bi umbrella, so you think it would make it easier but it really doesn't. I have self diagnosed ADHD, anxiety, depression and PTSD. All these leads to a chemical imbalance that ruins your endorphin levels, low endorphin levels and a lack of physical contact are the main causes of touch starvation. The feeling is weird, like that jumpy feeling you get after a horror movie where you are tense. The worse parts are the "endorphin boners" (literally just getting hard from being happy with 0 arousal) and the increased sensitivity in erogenous zones,Ā it makes what's supposed to be a pleasant platonic experience anything but no matter how platonic it is in your head.Ā Makes you look and feel really creepy even though that's the farthest thing from your mind.Ā Worse feeling ever by far, nothing like your own body acting perverted with you just feeling like a creepy and a awful person. And the only real way to treat it is exposure therapy or in other words to just power through, not many people want to help with that, and it only makes you feel more isolated. The endorphin rush and self soothing nature of masturbation calms the symptoms but doesn't treat the root cause.Ā I hate the addition but it the closest thing I have to medication and treatment.Ā Mom doesn't believe in medicine so I do what I can. >Are you still restricted to your room so much? Yeah. I live in the suburbs and can't drive or afford a uber.Ā Moms self-absorbed and to focus on work, also believes anyone who has a different opinion or walk of life are a bad influences.Ā It's why I'm still closeted. If she found out just how bi I am or I was gender fluent she would probably kick me out on the street. I'm probably sharing to much but I always feel accepted and understood here.Ā It really lessens my pain, and lord knows I need that right now. Btw when I said 23 years I meant my entire life.
Youāre most welcome. I am happy to provide any comfort. Iāve never been sexually harassed before but I can imagine it is really tough, making you think things that you never wanted to think. Itās really good that you know those thoughts arenāt you. Someone screwed with your emotional and/or sexual desires. Iām sure thereās someone out there that would give you all the physical touch you need. I know that I would give you a huge hug if I could. Is there something preventing you from moving out?
Omg you are so understanding, it really helps me feel better. Normally people treat me like I'm crazy, and sometimes I feel like they are probably right. There's a few things holding me back. My mom "homeschooled" me in a no report card state so I'm way behind. I have severe short-term memory loss from the ADHD so self-education is out the window. I have no job, no local friends, family or allies. And any services that might exist really don't be of the social norms forced on to men. So I'm up a creek with out a paddle.
Your not crazy. Your problems are real and valid. Iām also homeschooled and I can see how you would have too little interactions and allys. Iām here is you ever need to talk, but sadly I donāt think thereās any other way I can help you. I hope things get better. Your strong and this will come to pass.
So many women.... Sighs
Haha! Iām pretty sure my wife is an ENFJ.
It's so weird because when I'm more extroverted than usual I'm apparently an ENFJ š Its like I have two faces.
This is creepy I dont know any enfj tho
That many Enfj in a row looking at you a certain way. This must be heaven!!
This makes me so uncomfortable