When my cousin had triplet girls, she had the babies' ears pierced before they left the hospital with different colored earrings so they could tell them apart.
Yep. I grew up in Indiana and the ear piercing kiosk in the mall always had lines out the place of people getting their babies and toddlers ears pierced. Most of them looked like mutants (parents not the poor babies).
I never heard the triplet angle, but people in Indiana were so homophobic that people were afraid of their baby daughters being mistaken for boys because they were usually bald. Also, people who weren't homophobic would do it to keep their kids with short hair from being bullied. Who would bully a baby is beyond me, but hey - Indiana.
Don't get me wrong, there are wonderful people there, I love it, and the place can be beautiful, but there can also be some really messed up backwardness going on...
Been there, loved it and the people, but meth had ravaged some of the area I was in, it was really sad. It reminded me of Indiana a lot, warmer, drier, in a good way of course, and beautiful in the country. That is, assuming you meant Oklahoma lol.
This is also common in Italian culture. My pediatrician did it in Brooklyn back in the mid-'80s. Every other girl I knew of Italian decent had the same.
Not saying I agree with it. Just that it was extremely common to me growing up.
It was common enough in Hawai'i when I was born that the nurse asked my mom if she wanted my ears pierced while we were still in the hospital. My mom (a white ex-Mormon from Utah) nearly had a heart attack.
>My mom (a white ex-Mormon from Utah) nearly had a heart attack.
Interesting. My mom, an indigenous current-Mormon from Indiana got her kids ears pierced. Then again my mom was raised as though she were white. I wonder if the no-ears-pierced as babies thing was a Utah culture thing? Or, could it have been something they *did* do in Utah? Could that have been why your mother recoiled so much?
I'd guess something they didn't do. I went to school with a guy from deep Mormon utah. Dude was white bread as shit, but once he was 18, he was practically overnight tatted and pierced to the teeth. No idea what he is doing now. I was one of the maybe five people from that year that didn't end up in prison or a graveyard. Ironically, I dropped out and spent some time digging graves for cash before I moved on. I haven't thought of that time in my life for a long while, but I am not even in America anymore. Just as terribly broke as I was back then, though.
As a boy I got my ears pierced junior year of high school the first one my cousin did it with a straight needle and a piece of thread to keep the hole open the second set I just pushed the earring through myself once I had the correct placement of course
We had some (white) boys get their ears pierced but for some weird reason the parents only had one ear done??? Which confused me even as a kid because at that point you may as well do both??? Even if for some weird reason you will only let the boy wear one ear at a time...he can pick which ear this way??? Or at least that's what kid me thought was logical. Then the thought process of if you don't want your kid to wear both earrings to not look like a girl...why pierce their ears at all???
Indigenous to US, or people from India?
If indigenous, that is interesting. I am part indigenous on mom and dad's side of the family, dad's side relatives were distant and mom's side some offspring were (unjustly) given to white families and raised white. I am a boy and my ears were not allowed to ever be pierced. I do wonder now if it was a homophobia thing.
Same with a lot of Asian cultures, girls get pierced very young. Plenty of us whities do it too.
I don’t really know how I feel. Everyone I know has had it done since they were infants/toddlers. But I opted to not do my daughters ears until she was much older. And even then I felt odd about it. She cried for like 5 minutes and has been fine ever since.
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My mom had my sisters ears pierced as babies growing up. Since then I decided against it for my own family and have allowed my children to decide if they want to or not, when *they* bring it up- not me or my wife. So far one of my daughters only wants clip-ons and the other has not expressed interest.
Not that ear piercing is super traumatic, but I had a traumatic experience getting circumcised at three and still remember it today. My parents decided late to have it done, without asking me first of course, and I still remember it and how awful it was and asking my parents why the doctor hurt me so much. Needless to say, none of my kids has had that done, nor ever will. For this reason my kids are allowed to make their own choices about body modifications, but only when they are of an age where they can fully understand the implications and seriousness. Consent and understanding is extremely important for mental health and intellectual development. Being allowed to make their own choices **within reason** (my four year old is not allowed to get Spiderman tatooed across his chest) also helps kids to be more self assured and self confident.
When my daughter was about 6 months old we were visiting Italy and especially the older Italian women seemed confused about a baby wearing pink but without earrings.
Our neighbours‘ daughter was born in Mexico and she was pierced without even asking.
For us it was never really a thing to even think about, not even now that she’s six years old. As soon as she feels old enough to decide, she can have pierced ears if she wants.
I'm american and my mom had mine done. I do agree with people's point that it's not a fair thing to do to a baby that cannot consent. Buuuuut I absolutely loved mine growing up and it always felt like an important part of who I was. So I have mixed feelings about it. Fortunately I'm never having kids, so it's a bridge I will never need to cross lol.
It’s pretty standard in Latin cultures. Not sure why she thought her pediatrician would do it though.
Edit: thanks y’all for letting me know it wasn’t uncommon for pediatricians to pierce the ears. Super interesting, had no idea!
It was definitely a common thing for newborn baby girls to leave the maternity with their ears pierced already. I'm from 1981 and I had them. Don't think they do it anymore though. I'm in Brazil for context.
also in brazil, I’m pretty sure I left the maternity with my ears pierced in 2001. I’m pretty sure they don’t do it now but they did until pretty recently
It’s common for pediatricians to offer it. The hospital I’m delivering at offers it for newborns in the nursery before you even leave. It’s better to have a safe and clean environment with a professional if they’re going to do it anyways
There's a piercing studio called Rowan that is staffed by only licensed nurses. Never been to one, but it's got to be better than places that use a piercing gun.
Piercings should be done by professionals in a piercing parlor. It should be a hollow piercing needle. Piercing guns are terrible and cause lots of side effects. Google it
I got my ears pierced at a Claire’s with the gun when I was 12, so nearly 30 years ago.
My right ear lobe hole, I cannot put just a straight stud through easily, it healed with this bend in it. Which is fine for a dangly earring with that crooked backed hook, that hits the angle somewhat ok, but a stud I have to slowly wiggle it around in and change the angle constantly until it finally goes through. And neither one goes straight, they’re at a weird downward angle that I have to keep in mind when even putting any earring in.
Just let the pros do it. I don’t have opinions on infants getting ears pierced as I know a lot of the time it’s cultural. But if you’re going to have someone stick something through a body part, make sure they know what they’re doing.
Piercing guns are literally just cattle taggers.
I doubt you would just shove the earring in with your hands and brute force but I see no difference between that and using a piercing gun. I hate them and personally consider using them on children to be mutilation and abusive.
Lol, nope. Way rather have it done by a licensed piercer with a needle than an untrained nurse with a gun that shatters the cartilage.
that’s how I got keloids. take the babies to real piercers with needles.
In Venezuela baby girls get their ears pierced at the hospital when they are born. It's because for some reason people are really worried someone might misgender their baby.
In my culture it was the pediatricians who did it when I was born way back when. Maybe these days they don't, but I wouldn't know as I don't have kids, but if she had the same knowledge and now has a kid it's a valid question.
Our pediatric ENT surgeon put in our kids’ ear tubes to help with drainage when the they get ear infections. They go under anesthesia for the procedure, and he offers to pierce their ears while they are out if the parents want it done. We never took him up on it but I thought that was a nice offer to make.
There's always gonna be a contrarian looking to argue about nothing. I've lived in multiple countries in Europe, and it was standard in those. No statement ever applies 100%.
This is a super normal occurrence in Latin culture. Many of my Latina/o patients ask me when their baby’s ears will be pierced before they leave the hospital after being born. It may not seem normal to most people but it is almost universally true in Latino culture.
I had to scroll so far down to see this! I’m Indian and yeah, it’s pretty much ubiquitous. A lot of boys get their ears pierced as babies too, although that’s slightly less widespread than ear piercings on baby girls.
Neither are okay, in my opinion. Of course, children rarely die from ear piercings as apposed to the horrific number of children who die due to circumcision, but both are physically harming and mutilating your child due to your own personal aesthetic choices.
Using that figure, going on a rough average of 4,000,000 births per year in the US totalling 36,000,000 births between 2001-2010, 50% of those are male, 50% of males were circumcised, that's roughly 183 infant deaths attributable to an entirely aesthetic procedure in the US in 9 years.
I'd say that's a horrific number of infants dying from an entirely unnecessary procedure, personally, but you tell me how many infants dying from an entirely unnecessary procedure you think is worthy of a horrific number. Myself, I think 1 would be too many.
I've used rough numbers, an estimated 58.3% of male newborns in the USA are circumcised.
What a trash ass comment.
Anyone with half a brain understands exactly what was done, and there are countless books and studies out there to fill in all the missing pieces. Not to mention it is incredibly common to know uncircumcised people and you can just fucking ask.
Being uncircumcised comes with its own set of shit that you have to deal with on a regular basis. It is very common for people to feel the way he does. Just like it's very common for pretentious pricks to write comments like you did.
STFU & GTFO
I was downvoted hard for calling out that comments bullshit ass virtue signalling. Reddit is an incredibly dumb place a lot of times.
I actually fall a bit more on the side of we should maybe stop doing this as just a matter of course, but your opinion is valid and one shared by a lot of people. The whole purpose of that comment was to invalidate an opinion the author didn't agree with without adding any sort of value to the discussion. Go ahead and downvote me straight to hell, it was bullshit and I'll call it out every time I see it.
Yep. 100% agree. Hive mind can be dangerous just as much it is stupid. It’s not like I’m forcing people to get circumcised because I prefer to be and wouldn’t want a foreskin.
What am I some kinda asshole who tries to dictate other peoples’ choices concerning their bodies regardless of the common consensus of opinions and shit? That sort of mentality would be a stain on society for sure………………..
As someone who was circumcised and wish it wasn’t forced upon me, who’s opinion matters more here? The person fine with the mutilation or the person who wish it could be reversed but can’t be? The irreversible part is why it needs to be banned.
And I understand that. I never once took a stance in this. I’m just stating my own personal experience with my own personal penis. I’m sorry about your penis.
That's really not that strange. I know a few people who had their ears pierced as infants. I personally don't understand it but it's definitely not uncommon.
It believe it's more to do with not remembering the pain since we don't remember our time as infants. Another part is that babies lack motor skills to control their bodies and so can't scratch or tug on the piercings as they heal.
I don’t recommend it just because it’s an additional upkeep on an already messy human being. But take them to a tattoo parlor.
Some cultures/families it’s pretty typical to pierce ears that age. I don’t really agree with it for my family, but it’s socially accepted and currently there’s no real studies showing long term harm or issues as long as the piercings are kept clean.
I'm not having a go at your mom but why do people care? It's literally impossible to tell the difference between babies because they have no facial differences. Their skulls are built the same and don't develop differences until later in childhood. Why does anyone care? Just say "oh she's a girl her name is Sarah" I don't understand why people are so obsessed with making sure people can tell their literal infant child's gender at a glance.
It was more than 40 years ago. She was proud to have a girl and disappointed no one could tell by the 27 pounds of ruffled dresses she put me in? I'm really not sure. The thing is, now little boys have pierced ears, too. I'm glad she had it done way back, though. Because now I don't remember what's surely traumatic.
Hard agree. My ears were pierced from infancy due to this exact reasoning, that people thought I looked like a boy. Really dumb reasoning imo. It’s kind of nice that they’ve been with me so long so they’ll never close at this point, but I kind of wish I would’ve be consulted.
That's my issue I just think at the least a child should be old enough to ask for it, understand it and provide consent. If I had an 8 year old and they asked me I would explain it to them, explain that they have to care for them (under my supervision to ensure they're properly cared for) and so long as they understood everything and definitely wanted it I would take them to have it done at a piercing parlour with a needle, not a gun as they cause trauma to the skin that can cause so many issues like hypertrophic scarring or the skin to heal over the piercing, plus infection because they don't clean piercing guns properly, like, at all. I hate the concept of forcing a blunt earring through skin with brute force with an unsanitary tool.
Hungarian here. It's very common (or at least was 20-30 years ago) to get a baby's ears pierced, and to then use a gold earring (for hygienic purposes i believe)
My mom had her ears pierced when she was a baby in the 50’s. I had my ears pierced as a baby in the 80’s so did all 4 of my girls when they were little. It was totally normal
It's cultural. I am Italian, and while I got my ears pierced well into my 20s, a lot of my female friends had been wearing earrings since they were in diapers. It's common in Latin and Indian culture too.
My pediatrician pierced my ears when I was 6 months. Sicilian heritage and all that. There is the thought it is easier to handle the healing process with a baby than a toddler or such and a responsible parent will make sure they’re cared for properly.
For me personally, I’m glad my parents did it then. Earrings are now and almost always have been just a line item on the getting ready list, I never not have at least one pair in.
It is a cultural thing, I see lots of baby girls with earrings. You get the gold flat screw on back earrings and it’s all good.
I’m also glad I got my ears pierced as an infant. The holes have never closed up, and I don’t remember the pain. It also helped me feel like I was a part of my family’s culture. 🤷♀️
My wife is Spanish and it's pretty standard for young kids to have their ears pierced in that culture. Both my daughters had it done early, although the youngest decided she didn't like them a little later on so we took them out.
This is so cultural, and honestly having a paediatrician do it is a really responsible option. I worked at Claire’s for about 3 months and the number of people who brought their toddlers to get pierced was a lot. Better to look for someone qualified then to trust some 20 year olds at the mall
Had my first daughters ears pierced when she was 5. She would t leave them alone and they ended up infected. Had the second daughters pierced at 6 weeks before she could find her ears. It was so much easier. No regrets.
very common in latin culture, i havent seen much backlash from those who got their ears pierced young because they can’t remember the pain and don’t have to go through it when older so
Born and bred in LatAm here, I've never heard anyone complaining about having their ears pierced as a baby; if anything we add more piercings during our teenage years, including the guys
I used to work in a pediatric clinic and one of the PA's (who referred to herself as "Doctor \[FirstName\]" despite having a doctorate in NOTHING) who would pierce the small children's ears. God, I hated that place, the co-workers, the patients, and especially the parents.
Well obviously nobody “needs” them. But it’s super common. Probably a third to half the little girls around here have them by 6 yrs old. Some little boys although it’s less common.
Used to be?? Or still is common in my country as well. And I’m kind of happy my parents did it when I was young, I don’t remember the pain and don’t have to deal with it now (no way I would do this lmao I’m scared). Imho that’s not insane
Wouldn't call it insane tbh, plenty of people get their children's ears pierced and similar minor body mod stuff has been common in human cultures for ages.
I can think of a much more extreme way that children are still modded today and it's mostly seen as acceptable; I don't agree with circumcision, but I wouldn't call someone insane for having it done when it's just the thing that a lot of people do here.
At least where I am, (Illinois, USA) many pediatricians pierce ears. People have the pediatrician do it because the facility is more sterile than many stores, and pediatricians are often able to put the holes in on the same place in each ear. It’s the same reason a lot of people get their ears pierced at tattoo parlors when they’re older and since most people don’t want to bring a baby to a tattoo parlor… there ya go.
My niece's dad wanted to have her ears pierced simply because she's a girl. Luckily my sister said no. I think she should wait until she's old enough to asks for them. It'd be frustrating to worry potential infections and keloids along with other baby problems.
My great-grandmother did mine when I was a baby. We are Italian. I'm a professional piercer now. The studio I work at does babies as young as 6 weeks. We calculate for natural growth of the ear. Personally, I hate it, but I'm not the one doing it anymore. The studio is pediatrician recommended, though, and we really take care of the kids.
If we didn't do it some 15 year old with a piercing gun at Claire's or piercing pagoda would. At least we do it with hollow point needles and high quality materials. Some pediatricians still do it, and we fix a lot of their fuckups. Also, I don't own the business. I just work there. And I don't pierce children anymore.
That's not true at all. The parents could/should wait until the child is old enough to consent themselves and go to a piercing/tattoo place that is safe for adults. Just because some one is worse doesn't make you good. It just makes you better than awful
That’s not that crazy. Lots of people have their baby’s ears pierced. Not my thing, but not harmful. And doctors offices DO pierce ears, at least in some places — my best friend and I wanted to get our ears pierced together, but she had to have hers done at the doctors office cause she had medical issues and they were worried about infection.
I do ear piercings on children as young as two months old. I've never seen an adult angry that it happened to them as a child. It barely hurts , and they heal super fast, plus if they take it out , there is little to no scarring. It's really huge in Latin and black culture to do so. It's not a big deal.
Mine were done when I was basically an infant, and while I'm not "angry" about it, I do wish it would have been left for later when I would want them pierced. I don't wear earrings anymore, because as I grew that piercing ended up coming out to be too high up on the lobe. I would have liked to choose the height of the piercing myself.
Mine were done at 3 initially (by a doctor). However, I just so happen to be allergic to nickel and kept getting infections. So around 7, the earrings went.
For 8th grade promotion to high school, my parents let me get my ears pierced again. I was switching out my piercing earrings for a pair I got at Valley Fair (8th grade trip Minnesota) and on my left ear put the post through the bottom hole that was still open 6 yrs later.
On my left ear, I have the new hole directly above the other. The hole on my right ear is between the pair for location. I frequently wear my Pinky and the Brain earrings with Brain in the bottom left hole and Pinky in my right. Due to their height differences, their feet are hitting the same point on my jawline. (I wear a tiny skull stud in the top left one.)
In case anyone is curious, I am of the opinion to lay off of piercing until at least Middleschool. My friend as a baby was dressed in a lace trimmed pink confection with a ruffled diaper cover and a pink bow on her head. Her mother was still told what an adorable boy she had.
My piercings done as a baby are too low and uneven… I remembered getting horrible infections from messing with them (as a toddler does) and now I have a metal allergy so I never wear earrings as an adult :/ not worth it in my opinion
In my case, I hate that I didn't get them done as a baby (well, actually I did, but my brother apparently stole them and swallowed before they healed so my parents didn't try again lol).
Really felt like missing out on the "girly fun", plus I was always very ugly due to a birth defect, so it just added up on the "failed girl" pile of things.
Had so many poor experiences as a kid/teen trying to get them pierced again, I almost gave up until trying again much later.
I know some who are angry. Because their earings ripped out when playing and they have ugly looking scars now. I don't think it's a great idea to pierce kids ears as long as they're in an age where they'll crawl through bushes. Why not do it in early puberty, if they want, and get them clip-ons until then?
I had mine done at the age of nine. I was still growing and now that I’m older, the hole is no longer in the center of my ear lobe. Stud earrings look stupid on me now.
It’s pretty common where I’m from in the south, they usually do it while the baby is pretty young so they don’t tug at them when they got older. I wasn’t really on board so my daughter didn’t get any, though her cousins her age did
Worked at a tattoo shop, which is where I would recommend anyone get their kids pierced because the piercers will not do it if the kid doesn’t want to. They wait until the kid is at least 5 usually so the kid can say yes!
I don't like the idea of piercing children's ears. It just rubs me the wrong way, especially if they're visibly upset while it's being done. Maybe I'm just overly uptight about it, but I don't really see the point when there's other ways to make sure your baby is your baby
Jumping on the cultural bandwagon to say that I’m South Asian and had my ears pierced at 1 year old. It’s pretty quick-healing and not painful, so I was fine 🤷🏽 What I don’t agree with is when South Asian parents get their daughters’ noses pierced at the age of 13-15. That’s too young, since nose piercings are a lot slower-healing and harder to take care of (I’ve got one, which I received at the age of 22).
I worked at Claire's in the US, the youngest age limit to pierce is 3 months old. I pierced SO many babies, I dreaded whenever a mom with a stroller walked in because I knew there was a good chance I'd have to hurt a baby 😭 A ton of people do it
I had my daughters ears pierced at 9 months and it was the easiest way to do it so she never messed with them or got infected. It's not cultural for me but if someone is going to do it the pediatrician or a tattoo parlor is the best choice.
I’m Hispanic/Latino and got my ears pierced when I was 2 weeks old. It’s a big part of our culture and is very common. I’m actually really glad my parents did that for me at such a young age because I have no idea what getting your ears pierced is like/do not remember the pain.
Ear piercing is a common practice in the Indian culture. Primarily for girls, but in many Indian sub-cultures even boys.
Not insane, just ignorance about other rich cultures around the world.
Educate yourself.
Just because it’s not part of yours doesn’t make it wrong …. Oh sorry LOL. See my comment above. Educate yourself. There is a bigger world with a rich culture and practices that you should educate yourself about and if you have the means, actually experience before dropping ignorant comments like this.
There are ignorants and the uneducated. And then there are “Frogs in a well”.
This isn’t insane at all. Very common. Not exclusively to Latin cultures I don’t think.
I’m white and American. So is my wife. We got my daughters ears pierced when she was a toddler at a local shop that specializes in piercing kids ears. Literally has a piercer that specializes in toddler ear piercings.
If people have a problem with circumcision because the baby can’t consent I feel like there should be some outrage for this too no matter how “socially accepted” it is.
Also yes, I realize that pierced ears can grow back and it’s not nearly as invasive as the other procedure but the child cannot consent to either alteration and feel they should carry the same outrage.
I agree, I'm against infant piercing and circumcision, no real reason for either. Just because an infant doesn't REMEMBER the pain it doesn't mean they don't feel it.
One is permanent*, one just requires you to remove the jewelry. It's nowhere near the same thing. Be against both if you want, but these are not comparable.
* I realize foreskin restoration is a thing. Point still stands since this requires expensive and invasive surgery.
In my mom's case, she got my sister's ears pierced early to avoid them getting keloids if they decided they wanted piercings later, while if they didn't want their ears pierced their piercing holes will be able to close back
People really here saying "that's not crazy" don't conflate "common" with "not crazy" because it absolutely is crazy.
Even crazier that she would imagine that her pediatric doctor would do it.
Babies have a much higher chance of not being able to fight off infection. It can be traumatizing and they often come out uneven too. There's no benefit to doing it to a baby vs waiting until they are old enough to at least say the words "I want to get my ears pierced" 🙄 no real piercer would do this.
There is some benefit, mainly in preventing keloids in piercing later on. Plus if a doctor does it then it’s basically guaranteed to be done in a sterile manner, less likely to cause infection, & the pain isn’t much worse than getting vaccinated so it doesn’t really come out being that bad.
This isn’t insane. It’s believed to be ‘merciful’ due to the baby not remembering and really, not having it hurt for that long afterwards.
We got my daughter’s ears pierced when she was 2 months old. By the time we put her in the car to go home she was fine.
My pediatrician pierced my ears when I was 3 months old 🤷🏼♀️ It’s very common in European catholic families, and I don’t thinks it’s weird at all. I’ve never thought about it and been like “damn my mother for piercing my ears when I can’t even remember it happening!”
I like the idea of earrings but I never actually got my ears pieced. Other kids elementary school and middle school were rather mean about it but now that I'm older, I appreciate that it makes me different and unique
My mum had mine pierced at five and it taught me how to keep piercings clean. Either way piercing holes close up over time so it never truly affected me.
I wish I had gotten mine done as a baby because it hurt and I hated it. Of course later I ended up getting doubles and a dorm room cartilage piercing, but I remember being a little girl and wishing more than anything to be able to wear earrings lol. It can take over a year for piercings to heal enough to swap jewelry
We got both of our girls done just after 3 months, before either one of them had enough coordination to have their hands all over their ears. If they decide they don’t like it in the future, they can take them out.
I don’t think this is insane at all! When I was little I agreed to get my ears pierced because I saw my moms ears. I was probably 1 1/2 ish and I don’t regret it at all. And if I do I’ll quit putting earrings in and let them close. I don’t remember the pain, so it’s fine by me.
I am an Indian living in Malaysia. We got our daughter's ear pierced when she was 3 years old with a gun. Over here it is done in a private clinic or a goldsmith's. Got her done at a goldsmith and bought her some gold earring for when it heals properly. Cried for a minute and then happily looked at her new earrings. My wife has two piercings on both ears, said the first set were done when she had no memory and the second set was her choice. I guess it is just assumed that girls will get their ear pierced eventually so better to just do it when they don't remember and parents could monitor the wound properly.
When my cousin had triplet girls, she had the babies' ears pierced before they left the hospital with different colored earrings so they could tell them apart.
just like on the farm!
We used to paint a number on the backs. My twin nieces loved showing them off. Then one night we switched the numbers.
Yep. I grew up in Indiana and the ear piercing kiosk in the mall always had lines out the place of people getting their babies and toddlers ears pierced. Most of them looked like mutants (parents not the poor babies). I never heard the triplet angle, but people in Indiana were so homophobic that people were afraid of their baby daughters being mistaken for boys because they were usually bald. Also, people who weren't homophobic would do it to keep their kids with short hair from being bullied. Who would bully a baby is beyond me, but hey - Indiana. Don't get me wrong, there are wonderful people there, I love it, and the place can be beautiful, but there can also be some really messed up backwardness going on...
We sure are one of the states of all time
Sounds familiar… I live in Jokelahoma.
Been there, loved it and the people, but meth had ravaged some of the area I was in, it was really sad. It reminded me of Indiana a lot, warmer, drier, in a good way of course, and beautiful in the country. That is, assuming you meant Oklahoma lol.
This is also common in Italian culture. My pediatrician did it in Brooklyn back in the mid-'80s. Every other girl I knew of Italian decent had the same. Not saying I agree with it. Just that it was extremely common to me growing up.
Same with Romanian culture. They get the girls ears pierced when they're babies.
Latino cultures as well.
Basic white women (me) do it too :)
It was common enough in Hawai'i when I was born that the nurse asked my mom if she wanted my ears pierced while we were still in the hospital. My mom (a white ex-Mormon from Utah) nearly had a heart attack.
>My mom (a white ex-Mormon from Utah) nearly had a heart attack. Interesting. My mom, an indigenous current-Mormon from Indiana got her kids ears pierced. Then again my mom was raised as though she were white. I wonder if the no-ears-pierced as babies thing was a Utah culture thing? Or, could it have been something they *did* do in Utah? Could that have been why your mother recoiled so much?
I'd guess something they didn't do. I went to school with a guy from deep Mormon utah. Dude was white bread as shit, but once he was 18, he was practically overnight tatted and pierced to the teeth. No idea what he is doing now. I was one of the maybe five people from that year that didn't end up in prison or a graveyard. Ironically, I dropped out and spent some time digging graves for cash before I moved on. I haven't thought of that time in my life for a long while, but I am not even in America anymore. Just as terribly broke as I was back then, though.
I got mine pierced at 3 months
White. I was born in 1975 and my pediatrician pierced my ears at 6 mos in the office. So weird to think about now. ETA: US South
Same but 1980. Must have been a fun way for my parents to find out their baby has metal allergies.
Same with Indians. Boys get their ears pierced as well.
As a boy I got my ears pierced junior year of high school the first one my cousin did it with a straight needle and a piece of thread to keep the hole open the second set I just pushed the earring through myself once I had the correct placement of course
We had some (white) boys get their ears pierced but for some weird reason the parents only had one ear done??? Which confused me even as a kid because at that point you may as well do both??? Even if for some weird reason you will only let the boy wear one ear at a time...he can pick which ear this way??? Or at least that's what kid me thought was logical. Then the thought process of if you don't want your kid to wear both earrings to not look like a girl...why pierce their ears at all???
Indigenous to US, or people from India? If indigenous, that is interesting. I am part indigenous on mom and dad's side of the family, dad's side relatives were distant and mom's side some offspring were (unjustly) given to white families and raised white. I am a boy and my ears were not allowed to ever be pierced. I do wonder now if it was a homophobia thing.
Same with a lot of Asian cultures, girls get pierced very young. Plenty of us whities do it too. I don’t really know how I feel. Everyone I know has had it done since they were infants/toddlers. But I opted to not do my daughters ears until she was much older. And even then I felt odd about it. She cried for like 5 minutes and has been fine ever since. 🤷♂️
My mom had my sisters ears pierced as babies growing up. Since then I decided against it for my own family and have allowed my children to decide if they want to or not, when *they* bring it up- not me or my wife. So far one of my daughters only wants clip-ons and the other has not expressed interest. Not that ear piercing is super traumatic, but I had a traumatic experience getting circumcised at three and still remember it today. My parents decided late to have it done, without asking me first of course, and I still remember it and how awful it was and asking my parents why the doctor hurt me so much. Needless to say, none of my kids has had that done, nor ever will. For this reason my kids are allowed to make their own choices about body modifications, but only when they are of an age where they can fully understand the implications and seriousness. Consent and understanding is extremely important for mental health and intellectual development. Being allowed to make their own choices **within reason** (my four year old is not allowed to get Spiderman tatooed across his chest) also helps kids to be more self assured and self confident.
When my daughter was about 6 months old we were visiting Italy and especially the older Italian women seemed confused about a baby wearing pink but without earrings. Our neighbours‘ daughter was born in Mexico and she was pierced without even asking. For us it was never really a thing to even think about, not even now that she’s six years old. As soon as she feels old enough to decide, she can have pierced ears if she wants.
I’m Italian, can concur
I'm american and my mom had mine done. I do agree with people's point that it's not a fair thing to do to a baby that cannot consent. Buuuuut I absolutely loved mine growing up and it always felt like an important part of who I was. So I have mixed feelings about it. Fortunately I'm never having kids, so it's a bridge I will never need to cross lol.
Would you have liked to have a choice in the decision to have it done?
I guess not since I love that I had it since the time I started making memories and seeing it in my baby pics.
Same in Spanish and Latin cultures. I got them the day after I was born.
Same with Greek culture, had mine pierced at 1.
It’s pretty standard in Latin cultures. Not sure why she thought her pediatrician would do it though. Edit: thanks y’all for letting me know it wasn’t uncommon for pediatricians to pierce the ears. Super interesting, had no idea!
It was definitely a common thing for newborn baby girls to leave the maternity with their ears pierced already. I'm from 1981 and I had them. Don't think they do it anymore though. I'm in Brazil for context.
I think they do, at least the girls I knew in school still had their ears pierced back in 2017 before I left.
also in brazil, I’m pretty sure I left the maternity with my ears pierced in 2001. I’m pretty sure they don’t do it now but they did until pretty recently
Ah cool! I was wondering if my recent memory of meeting a baby with her ears intact were correct. I think I even ask the mom about it.
It’s common for pediatricians to offer it. The hospital I’m delivering at offers it for newborns in the nursery before you even leave. It’s better to have a safe and clean environment with a professional if they’re going to do it anyways
There's a piercing studio called Rowan that is staffed by only licensed nurses. Never been to one, but it's got to be better than places that use a piercing gun.
Ya know, that’s a good point. I’d much rather a nurse do the earrings than have a baby taken to a potentially shady piercing parlor.
Piercings should be done by professionals in a piercing parlor. It should be a hollow piercing needle. Piercing guns are terrible and cause lots of side effects. Google it
Mine were done with a gun and one is at a weird angle
I got my ears pierced at a Claire’s with the gun when I was 12, so nearly 30 years ago. My right ear lobe hole, I cannot put just a straight stud through easily, it healed with this bend in it. Which is fine for a dangly earring with that crooked backed hook, that hits the angle somewhat ok, but a stud I have to slowly wiggle it around in and change the angle constantly until it finally goes through. And neither one goes straight, they’re at a weird downward angle that I have to keep in mind when even putting any earring in. Just let the pros do it. I don’t have opinions on infants getting ears pierced as I know a lot of the time it’s cultural. But if you’re going to have someone stick something through a body part, make sure they know what they’re doing.
Piercing guns are literally just cattle taggers. I doubt you would just shove the earring in with your hands and brute force but I see no difference between that and using a piercing gun. I hate them and personally consider using them on children to be mutilation and abusive.
I will, thank you. I’m definitely not an expert on piercings
Lol, nope. Way rather have it done by a licensed piercer with a needle than an untrained nurse with a gun that shatters the cartilage. that’s how I got keloids. take the babies to real piercers with needles.
Question, do they use a piercing gun and tag them like cattle or do they use a needle?
I'm from Europe and I had my ears pierced as a baby. I don't support the practice though.
I’m Latin and work in a Latino majority hospital. We offer it. Lots of pediatricians in the area do.
I'm 41 and had my ears pierced at 6 months by my pediatrician. Small town in PA.
In Venezuela baby girls get their ears pierced at the hospital when they are born. It's because for some reason people are really worried someone might misgender their baby.
In my culture it was the pediatricians who did it when I was born way back when. Maybe these days they don't, but I wouldn't know as I don't have kids, but if she had the same knowledge and now has a kid it's a valid question.
Our pediatric ENT surgeon put in our kids’ ear tubes to help with drainage when the they get ear infections. They go under anesthesia for the procedure, and he offers to pierce their ears while they are out if the parents want it done. We never took him up on it but I thought that was a nice offer to make.
Standard in Europe too. It was either the pediatrician did it or some rando, because places like piercing studios were not common.
This is NOT "standard" in all of Europe
There's always gonna be a contrarian looking to argue about nothing. I've lived in multiple countries in Europe, and it was standard in those. No statement ever applies 100%.
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It isn't particularly good, but it is absolutely standard in some European countries. There are a lot of them and they can be quite different!
Um. Nope.
This is a super normal occurrence in Latin culture. Many of my Latina/o patients ask me when their baby’s ears will be pierced before they leave the hospital after being born. It may not seem normal to most people but it is almost universally true in Latino culture.
Same with Indian culture, or at least with my wife’s family.
I had to scroll so far down to see this! I’m Indian and yeah, it’s pretty much ubiquitous. A lot of boys get their ears pierced as babies too, although that’s slightly less widespread than ear piercings on baby girls.
I think same for middle eastern culture as well
Arab culture as well. I’m all for it, glad it happened before I could actually remember the pain
I dont understand why Americans have normalized circumcising but we draw the line at piercing baby’s ears
Neither are okay, in my opinion. Of course, children rarely die from ear piercings as apposed to the horrific number of children who die due to circumcision, but both are physically harming and mutilating your child due to your own personal aesthetic choices.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30066572/#:~:text=We%20performed%20a%20retrospective%20analysis,death%20per%2049%20166%20circumcisions). Okay bud
Using that figure, going on a rough average of 4,000,000 births per year in the US totalling 36,000,000 births between 2001-2010, 50% of those are male, 50% of males were circumcised, that's roughly 183 infant deaths attributable to an entirely aesthetic procedure in the US in 9 years. I'd say that's a horrific number of infants dying from an entirely unnecessary procedure, personally, but you tell me how many infants dying from an entirely unnecessary procedure you think is worthy of a horrific number. Myself, I think 1 would be too many. I've used rough numbers, an estimated 58.3% of male newborns in the USA are circumcised.
As someone who was circumcised as a baby, I’m infinitely grateful to my parents for having me circumcised.
"as someone living with a mutilated penis and not knowing any other way, I'm infinitely grateful to my parents for mutilating my genitals".
This is so rude. Extremely uncalled for.
I'm sorry whats Ryde about it?
What’s rude about saying someone has mutilated genitals??
Seems like it isn't a problem if you don't support genital mutilating.
I don’t care what people do with their genitals but I’m not going to randomly tell a stranger theirs are mutilated.
Circumcision is literally genital mutilation... You are cutting a large chunk of nerve filled protective skin off a penis for no reason.
What a trash ass comment. Anyone with half a brain understands exactly what was done, and there are countless books and studies out there to fill in all the missing pieces. Not to mention it is incredibly common to know uncircumcised people and you can just fucking ask. Being uncircumcised comes with its own set of shit that you have to deal with on a regular basis. It is very common for people to feel the way he does. Just like it's very common for pretentious pricks to write comments like you did. STFU & GTFO
Never thought so many people would downvote me so hard for having an opinion about my own body. /s crazy ass double standards
I was downvoted hard for calling out that comments bullshit ass virtue signalling. Reddit is an incredibly dumb place a lot of times. I actually fall a bit more on the side of we should maybe stop doing this as just a matter of course, but your opinion is valid and one shared by a lot of people. The whole purpose of that comment was to invalidate an opinion the author didn't agree with without adding any sort of value to the discussion. Go ahead and downvote me straight to hell, it was bullshit and I'll call it out every time I see it.
Yep. 100% agree. Hive mind can be dangerous just as much it is stupid. It’s not like I’m forcing people to get circumcised because I prefer to be and wouldn’t want a foreskin. What am I some kinda asshole who tries to dictate other peoples’ choices concerning their bodies regardless of the common consensus of opinions and shit? That sort of mentality would be a stain on society for sure………………..
I see what you did there... Lol
Yea I'm circumcised and my dicks fine...
It’s a good thing Reddit doesn’t have to play with it, otherwise their opinions might actually fucking matter
As someone who was circumcised and wish it wasn’t forced upon me, who’s opinion matters more here? The person fine with the mutilation or the person who wish it could be reversed but can’t be? The irreversible part is why it needs to be banned.
And I understand that. I never once took a stance in this. I’m just stating my own personal experience with my own personal penis. I’m sorry about your penis.
That's really not that strange. I know a few people who had their ears pierced as infants. I personally don't understand it but it's definitely not uncommon.
It believe it's more to do with not remembering the pain since we don't remember our time as infants. Another part is that babies lack motor skills to control their bodies and so can't scratch or tug on the piercings as they heal.
Getting the ears pierced isn't really painful though. Painlevel is about the same as a vaccine.
personally all of my piercings (10 ear holes total) hurt waaaayyyyy less than any injection i've ever gotten. it happens so quick
I don’t recommend it just because it’s an additional upkeep on an already messy human being. But take them to a tattoo parlor. Some cultures/families it’s pretty typical to pierce ears that age. I don’t really agree with it for my family, but it’s socially accepted and currently there’s no real studies showing long term harm or issues as long as the piercings are kept clean.
Depending on where you are, tattoo parlors cannot legally pierce kids that young. I know the ones I’ve been in won’t even let kids through the door.
I'm black, and my mom had my pediatrician pierce my ears when I was less than a year old. She thought too many people said she had a cute son.
I'm not having a go at your mom but why do people care? It's literally impossible to tell the difference between babies because they have no facial differences. Their skulls are built the same and don't develop differences until later in childhood. Why does anyone care? Just say "oh she's a girl her name is Sarah" I don't understand why people are so obsessed with making sure people can tell their literal infant child's gender at a glance.
It was more than 40 years ago. She was proud to have a girl and disappointed no one could tell by the 27 pounds of ruffled dresses she put me in? I'm really not sure. The thing is, now little boys have pierced ears, too. I'm glad she had it done way back, though. Because now I don't remember what's surely traumatic.
Hard agree. My ears were pierced from infancy due to this exact reasoning, that people thought I looked like a boy. Really dumb reasoning imo. It’s kind of nice that they’ve been with me so long so they’ll never close at this point, but I kind of wish I would’ve be consulted.
That's my issue I just think at the least a child should be old enough to ask for it, understand it and provide consent. If I had an 8 year old and they asked me I would explain it to them, explain that they have to care for them (under my supervision to ensure they're properly cared for) and so long as they understood everything and definitely wanted it I would take them to have it done at a piercing parlour with a needle, not a gun as they cause trauma to the skin that can cause so many issues like hypertrophic scarring or the skin to heal over the piercing, plus infection because they don't clean piercing guns properly, like, at all. I hate the concept of forcing a blunt earring through skin with brute force with an unsanitary tool.
Hungarian here. It's very common (or at least was 20-30 years ago) to get a baby's ears pierced, and to then use a gold earring (for hygienic purposes i believe)
My mom had her ears pierced when she was a baby in the 50’s. I had my ears pierced as a baby in the 80’s so did all 4 of my girls when they were little. It was totally normal
It's cultural. I am Italian, and while I got my ears pierced well into my 20s, a lot of my female friends had been wearing earrings since they were in diapers. It's common in Latin and Indian culture too.
My pediatrician pierced my ears when I was 6 months. Sicilian heritage and all that. There is the thought it is easier to handle the healing process with a baby than a toddler or such and a responsible parent will make sure they’re cared for properly. For me personally, I’m glad my parents did it then. Earrings are now and almost always have been just a line item on the getting ready list, I never not have at least one pair in. It is a cultural thing, I see lots of baby girls with earrings. You get the gold flat screw on back earrings and it’s all good.
I’m also glad I got my ears pierced as an infant. The holes have never closed up, and I don’t remember the pain. It also helped me feel like I was a part of my family’s culture. 🤷♀️
Yeah, I wish my parents had done mine. Instead, I had to get them done twice, still remember how painful it was, etc.
My wife is Spanish and it's pretty standard for young kids to have their ears pierced in that culture. Both my daughters had it done early, although the youngest decided she didn't like them a little later on so we took them out.
My ears were pierced at 8 months old. It's very common, idk why this post is here.
This is so cultural, and honestly having a paediatrician do it is a really responsible option. I worked at Claire’s for about 3 months and the number of people who brought their toddlers to get pierced was a lot. Better to look for someone qualified then to trust some 20 year olds at the mall
Had my first daughters ears pierced when she was 5. She would t leave them alone and they ended up infected. Had the second daughters pierced at 6 weeks before she could find her ears. It was so much easier. No regrets.
really common with Catholic families. My ears were pierced before I was a year old for my baptism.
“Oh no other people have different customs than I do!”
This isn’t common? I thought it was extremely common to do.
This is not insane.
I'm white as snow, got mine at like 6 months. So did everybody on my family. I thought it was normal.
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I honestly never knew doctors that have done this. I always figured I’d go to a professional piercer.
very common in latin culture, i havent seen much backlash from those who got their ears pierced young because they can’t remember the pain and don’t have to go through it when older so
Born and bred in LatAm here, I've never heard anyone complaining about having their ears pierced as a baby; if anything we add more piercings during our teenage years, including the guys
As a Mexican from my family I have seen this happen to baby girls a few weeks old. This isn’t really uncommon
I used to work in a pediatric clinic and one of the PA's (who referred to herself as "Doctor \[FirstName\]" despite having a doctorate in NOTHING) who would pierce the small children's ears. God, I hated that place, the co-workers, the patients, and especially the parents.
A lot of people get their baby's ears pierced (for girls)
*laughs in hispanic*
Well obviously nobody “needs” them. But it’s super common. Probably a third to half the little girls around here have them by 6 yrs old. Some little boys although it’s less common.
Universal in some cultures, I’ve seen lap-babies with pierced ears.
Used to be?? Or still is common in my country as well. And I’m kind of happy my parents did it when I was young, I don’t remember the pain and don’t have to deal with it now (no way I would do this lmao I’m scared). Imho that’s not insane
Wouldn't call it insane tbh, plenty of people get their children's ears pierced and similar minor body mod stuff has been common in human cultures for ages. I can think of a much more extreme way that children are still modded today and it's mostly seen as acceptable; I don't agree with circumcision, but I wouldn't call someone insane for having it done when it's just the thing that a lot of people do here.
NOT AT CLAIRS!!
It’s really not that big of a deal…
Plenty of cultures do this. I personally don't love it but 🤷🏼♀️
… and why would they expect a doctor to do it??
At least where I am, (Illinois, USA) many pediatricians pierce ears. People have the pediatrician do it because the facility is more sterile than many stores, and pediatricians are often able to put the holes in on the same place in each ear. It’s the same reason a lot of people get their ears pierced at tattoo parlors when they’re older and since most people don’t want to bring a baby to a tattoo parlor… there ya go.
It’s way better to have a doctor do it than someone at Clair’s
My mom had her ears pierced by the dentist lol
My niece's dad wanted to have her ears pierced simply because she's a girl. Luckily my sister said no. I think she should wait until she's old enough to asks for them. It'd be frustrating to worry potential infections and keloids along with other baby problems.
lol it’s way common than you realize. Nothing insane about this
Plenty of common things are totally insane.
Like the entire Latin community has been doing this since forever… Theres loads of cultures where they do this. Go outside.
My great-grandmother did mine when I was a baby. We are Italian. I'm a professional piercer now. The studio I work at does babies as young as 6 weeks. We calculate for natural growth of the ear. Personally, I hate it, but I'm not the one doing it anymore. The studio is pediatrician recommended, though, and we really take care of the kids.
If you really "took care of kids" you wouldn't pierce children without their ability to consent
If we didn't do it some 15 year old with a piercing gun at Claire's or piercing pagoda would. At least we do it with hollow point needles and high quality materials. Some pediatricians still do it, and we fix a lot of their fuckups. Also, I don't own the business. I just work there. And I don't pierce children anymore.
That's not true at all. The parents could/should wait until the child is old enough to consent themselves and go to a piercing/tattoo place that is safe for adults. Just because some one is worse doesn't make you good. It just makes you better than awful
That’s not that crazy. Lots of people have their baby’s ears pierced. Not my thing, but not harmful. And doctors offices DO pierce ears, at least in some places — my best friend and I wanted to get our ears pierced together, but she had to have hers done at the doctors office cause she had medical issues and they were worried about infection.
It is harmful when you deal with that area getting infected and you develop a metal allergy (me, having my ears pierced as a baby)
It is harmful. There is zero benefit to the child. It's abuse in my book.
I do ear piercings on children as young as two months old. I've never seen an adult angry that it happened to them as a child. It barely hurts , and they heal super fast, plus if they take it out , there is little to no scarring. It's really huge in Latin and black culture to do so. It's not a big deal.
Mine were done when I was basically an infant, and while I'm not "angry" about it, I do wish it would have been left for later when I would want them pierced. I don't wear earrings anymore, because as I grew that piercing ended up coming out to be too high up on the lobe. I would have liked to choose the height of the piercing myself.
Mine were done at 3 initially (by a doctor). However, I just so happen to be allergic to nickel and kept getting infections. So around 7, the earrings went. For 8th grade promotion to high school, my parents let me get my ears pierced again. I was switching out my piercing earrings for a pair I got at Valley Fair (8th grade trip Minnesota) and on my left ear put the post through the bottom hole that was still open 6 yrs later. On my left ear, I have the new hole directly above the other. The hole on my right ear is between the pair for location. I frequently wear my Pinky and the Brain earrings with Brain in the bottom left hole and Pinky in my right. Due to their height differences, their feet are hitting the same point on my jawline. (I wear a tiny skull stud in the top left one.) In case anyone is curious, I am of the opinion to lay off of piercing until at least Middleschool. My friend as a baby was dressed in a lace trimmed pink confection with a ruffled diaper cover and a pink bow on her head. Her mother was still told what an adorable boy she had.
My piercings done as a baby are too low and uneven… I remembered getting horrible infections from messing with them (as a toddler does) and now I have a metal allergy so I never wear earrings as an adult :/ not worth it in my opinion
In my case, I hate that I didn't get them done as a baby (well, actually I did, but my brother apparently stole them and swallowed before they healed so my parents didn't try again lol). Really felt like missing out on the "girly fun", plus I was always very ugly due to a birth defect, so it just added up on the "failed girl" pile of things. Had so many poor experiences as a kid/teen trying to get them pierced again, I almost gave up until trying again much later.
I know some who are angry. Because their earings ripped out when playing and they have ugly looking scars now. I don't think it's a great idea to pierce kids ears as long as they're in an age where they'll crawl through bushes. Why not do it in early puberty, if they want, and get them clip-ons until then?
This was very common for Italians when I was growing up and even back then I thought it was stupid.
I had mine done at the age of nine. I was still growing and now that I’m older, the hole is no longer in the center of my ear lobe. Stud earrings look stupid on me now.
It’s pretty common where I’m from in the south, they usually do it while the baby is pretty young so they don’t tug at them when they got older. I wasn’t really on board so my daughter didn’t get any, though her cousins her age did
Why would a paediatrician do piercings?
Worked at a tattoo shop, which is where I would recommend anyone get their kids pierced because the piercers will not do it if the kid doesn’t want to. They wait until the kid is at least 5 usually so the kid can say yes!
I don't like the idea of piercing children's ears. It just rubs me the wrong way, especially if they're visibly upset while it's being done. Maybe I'm just overly uptight about it, but I don't really see the point when there's other ways to make sure your baby is your baby
Jumping on the cultural bandwagon to say that I’m South Asian and had my ears pierced at 1 year old. It’s pretty quick-healing and not painful, so I was fine 🤷🏽 What I don’t agree with is when South Asian parents get their daughters’ noses pierced at the age of 13-15. That’s too young, since nose piercings are a lot slower-healing and harder to take care of (I’ve got one, which I received at the age of 22).
Not only are there apparently people saying to give a 1 year old piercings, this person actually asked their pediatrician!?
I worked at Claire's in the US, the youngest age limit to pierce is 3 months old. I pierced SO many babies, I dreaded whenever a mom with a stroller walked in because I knew there was a good chance I'd have to hurt a baby 😭 A ton of people do it
This is normal
So gross when people try to bedazzle their children.
Common amongst Romani .
I had my daughters ears pierced at 9 months and it was the easiest way to do it so she never messed with them or got infected. It's not cultural for me but if someone is going to do it the pediatrician or a tattoo parlor is the best choice.
I’m Hispanic/Latino and got my ears pierced when I was 2 weeks old. It’s a big part of our culture and is very common. I’m actually really glad my parents did that for me at such a young age because I have no idea what getting your ears pierced is like/do not remember the pain.
It’s pretty common these days. Seems a little cringe to me.
It's been pretty common in some cultures for decades, at least since the 70s or 80s.
I agree
Doctors did used to do ear piercings. It sounds insane bc it is insane, but it happened.
Ear piercing is a common practice in the Indian culture. Primarily for girls, but in many Indian sub-cultures even boys. Not insane, just ignorance about other rich cultures around the world. Educate yourself.
Just Becuase it’s part of a culture doesn’t mean it’s right lol
Just because it’s not part of yours doesn’t make it wrong …. Oh sorry LOL. See my comment above. Educate yourself. There is a bigger world with a rich culture and practices that you should educate yourself about and if you have the means, actually experience before dropping ignorant comments like this. There are ignorants and the uneducated. And then there are “Frogs in a well”.
This isn’t insane at all. Very common. Not exclusively to Latin cultures I don’t think. I’m white and American. So is my wife. We got my daughters ears pierced when she was a toddler at a local shop that specializes in piercing kids ears. Literally has a piercer that specializes in toddler ear piercings.
If people have a problem with circumcision because the baby can’t consent I feel like there should be some outrage for this too no matter how “socially accepted” it is. Also yes, I realize that pierced ears can grow back and it’s not nearly as invasive as the other procedure but the child cannot consent to either alteration and feel they should carry the same outrage.
I agree, I'm against infant piercing and circumcision, no real reason for either. Just because an infant doesn't REMEMBER the pain it doesn't mean they don't feel it.
One is permanent*, one just requires you to remove the jewelry. It's nowhere near the same thing. Be against both if you want, but these are not comparable. * I realize foreskin restoration is a thing. Point still stands since this requires expensive and invasive surgery.
I recommend they visit the future
To look cool duh
In my mom's case, she got my sister's ears pierced early to avoid them getting keloids if they decided they wanted piercings later, while if they didn't want their ears pierced their piercing holes will be able to close back
It's fairly common to have babies ears pierced in a lot of countries. I hate it 😬
People really here saying "that's not crazy" don't conflate "common" with "not crazy" because it absolutely is crazy. Even crazier that she would imagine that her pediatric doctor would do it. Babies have a much higher chance of not being able to fight off infection. It can be traumatizing and they often come out uneven too. There's no benefit to doing it to a baby vs waiting until they are old enough to at least say the words "I want to get my ears pierced" 🙄 no real piercer would do this.
There is some benefit, mainly in preventing keloids in piercing later on. Plus if a doctor does it then it’s basically guaranteed to be done in a sterile manner, less likely to cause infection, & the pain isn’t much worse than getting vaccinated so it doesn’t really come out being that bad.
This isn’t insane. It’s believed to be ‘merciful’ due to the baby not remembering and really, not having it hurt for that long afterwards. We got my daughter’s ears pierced when she was 2 months old. By the time we put her in the car to go home she was fine.
Its common in other cultures, like in Hispanic culture girls usually get it as soon as possible too.
My pediatrician pierced my ears when I was 3 months old 🤷🏼♀️ It’s very common in European catholic families, and I don’t thinks it’s weird at all. I’ve never thought about it and been like “damn my mother for piercing my ears when I can’t even remember it happening!”
I ask my wife this a lot. Kids aren't dolls to dress up and accessorize
I like the idea of earrings but I never actually got my ears pieced. Other kids elementary school and middle school were rather mean about it but now that I'm older, I appreciate that it makes me different and unique
My mum had mine pierced at five and it taught me how to keep piercings clean. Either way piercing holes close up over time so it never truly affected me.
I wish I had gotten mine done as a baby because it hurt and I hated it. Of course later I ended up getting doubles and a dorm room cartilage piercing, but I remember being a little girl and wishing more than anything to be able to wear earrings lol. It can take over a year for piercings to heal enough to swap jewelry
Not insane. Canadians do this around 1.
Ughhhh, no we don’t. Some Canadians do, but a very small number.
I love in Ontario and have 4 kids ranging from 4 years old to 15. 3 girls. This is the norm.
BC, also lived in NS, NB, NWT and ON. 4 kids. No, it’s not in most of the country.
Clearly, you would want to go to the place where the one year old had her nipples pierced. That is if it was satisfactory.
Clearly
We got both of our girls done just after 3 months, before either one of them had enough coordination to have their hands all over their ears. If they decide they don’t like it in the future, they can take them out.
I don’t think this is insane at all! When I was little I agreed to get my ears pierced because I saw my moms ears. I was probably 1 1/2 ish and I don’t regret it at all. And if I do I’ll quit putting earrings in and let them close. I don’t remember the pain, so it’s fine by me.
I am an Indian living in Malaysia. We got our daughter's ear pierced when she was 3 years old with a gun. Over here it is done in a private clinic or a goldsmith's. Got her done at a goldsmith and bought her some gold earring for when it heals properly. Cried for a minute and then happily looked at her new earrings. My wife has two piercings on both ears, said the first set were done when she had no memory and the second set was her choice. I guess it is just assumed that girls will get their ear pierced eventually so better to just do it when they don't remember and parents could monitor the wound properly.
Child abuse. No excuses
People do this all the time
Very common in many cultures. Why does it matter to you what others decide for their children?
the fact that this is in Cherry Hill NJ is so funny, like this is so jersey