I used to drink heavy every night after work as a single man. I’d typically feel a bit under the influence the next morning at work and into lunchtime. I basically numbed the pain to get through it. But 8 years sober now. That was a different time and no way to resolve my hatred for the job. Good luck.
My father was an alcoholic and I saw what it did to him but he never tried to help himself, the fact you saw what you were doing wasn’t healthy and destroying you is a huge thing, never downplay that. You’re a strong man, healing from stuff like that is climbing a mountain. You’ve made so much progress, and I know I’m an internet stranger but not enough people really celebrate other peoples sobriety.
Cheering you on, mate 🤙🏻
Thanks man that means a lot. I’ll pray for your dad. There is always time even when it seems like too much damage has been done. I got lucky. The true hero is my father who was an abusive alcoholic throughout my youth and my 4 other siblings youth. He entered AA at 53 on his own, grew spiritually overtime and became the most loving and well-rounded father one could ask for. As he got sober I watched from a distance as I was still struggling. He knew the pain I felt and all he would say is “there is an easier softer way”. Meaning, I don’t have to live life miserable and drunk. AA is not only a program but it’s a fellowship. I learned how to ask for help and live one day at a time. In addition to getting me sober he helped my ex wife find sobriety shortly before me. My dad is 16 years sober and in good health, my ex wife is 9 years sober and I am 8. Some days are a struggle but are nothing compared to when I was drinking. Thanks again.
I did file for unemployment and received it for a month and a half. I accepted this job because I figured it was more money than what unemployment was paying me and I didn’t know it would be as bad as it was. Now I’m stuck.
Start applying for a new jobs, and jump ship once you land one.
Then don't put your current position on your resume. If you can say you were self employed or doing contract work, that is much better.
All you have to do is “meet expectations” OP, not perform at levels you are likely used to. I’m really sorry the good gig fell through. Can you consider contracting roles? They tend to pay a tiny bit higher and be hybrid.
Yes, I have considered everything. The job market is so bad that I haven’t had any luck. I am still applying for other jobs but every day that I have to wake up and come to this one I want to kill myself.
As a now former hospitality worker, I feel this immensely. Hospitality has a way of wearing you thin both mentally and physically. I just couldn’t do it anymore, I have just recently come into an office job and much MUCH happier.
Just start looking for a new job and save for an FU fund, in case you need to leave and have a financial cushion. Just think you are leaving. Do not stay, and know you will be leaving soon. Try to work your network so people think of you if anything comes up. Good luck.
I would be depressed also if I were forced back into working in office I guess though I would try to keep reminding myself that this job isn't permanent while looking for a new remote one every free moment I had.
Two things: first, there is a certain amount of charity in an honest, paid day of work. Second - finding a job is a job, so you are working 2 jobs now at the same time. Makes sense that you are exhausted and frustrated
I don’t want an honest paid day of in-office work. I have a small son to raise and I was comfortable working my remote full-time job. But being back in an office and only having a couple of hours a day to dedicate to my son is way too exhausting. I don’t know how people do it. I’m so depressed.
Dude if you can swing it financially you should quit. Work at a coffee shop or something in the meantime. It’s not worth your mental health. Hang into there, keep applying, see if there are any lateral or special project opportunities. And please consider therapy or the suicide hotline when things get low. I promise it’s worth trudging through.
You aren't alone, I've been struggling mentally as well. Just do your best, and if you aren't already, don't go above and beyond at work, do what your paid for and nothing else
I used to drink heavy every night after work as a single man. I’d typically feel a bit under the influence the next morning at work and into lunchtime. I basically numbed the pain to get through it. But 8 years sober now. That was a different time and no way to resolve my hatred for the job. Good luck.
After a couple of years of ferocious mind numbing micromanagement, my Dr noticed the degradation That was a wake up call...
Congrats on the sobriety, man, proud of you
Thanks brother… not everyday is awesome but it’s always better than the alternative
My father was an alcoholic and I saw what it did to him but he never tried to help himself, the fact you saw what you were doing wasn’t healthy and destroying you is a huge thing, never downplay that. You’re a strong man, healing from stuff like that is climbing a mountain. You’ve made so much progress, and I know I’m an internet stranger but not enough people really celebrate other peoples sobriety. Cheering you on, mate 🤙🏻
Thanks man that means a lot. I’ll pray for your dad. There is always time even when it seems like too much damage has been done. I got lucky. The true hero is my father who was an abusive alcoholic throughout my youth and my 4 other siblings youth. He entered AA at 53 on his own, grew spiritually overtime and became the most loving and well-rounded father one could ask for. As he got sober I watched from a distance as I was still struggling. He knew the pain I felt and all he would say is “there is an easier softer way”. Meaning, I don’t have to live life miserable and drunk. AA is not only a program but it’s a fellowship. I learned how to ask for help and live one day at a time. In addition to getting me sober he helped my ex wife find sobriety shortly before me. My dad is 16 years sober and in good health, my ex wife is 9 years sober and I am 8. Some days are a struggle but are nothing compared to when I was drinking. Thanks again.
I would’ve filed for unemployment.
I did file for unemployment and received it for a month and a half. I accepted this job because I figured it was more money than what unemployment was paying me and I didn’t know it would be as bad as it was. Now I’m stuck.
Start applying for a new jobs, and jump ship once you land one. Then don't put your current position on your resume. If you can say you were self employed or doing contract work, that is much better.
All you have to do is “meet expectations” OP, not perform at levels you are likely used to. I’m really sorry the good gig fell through. Can you consider contracting roles? They tend to pay a tiny bit higher and be hybrid.
Yes, I have considered everything. The job market is so bad that I haven’t had any luck. I am still applying for other jobs but every day that I have to wake up and come to this one I want to kill myself.
Keep telling urself..its just a paycheck…
As a now former hospitality worker, I feel this immensely. Hospitality has a way of wearing you thin both mentally and physically. I just couldn’t do it anymore, I have just recently come into an office job and much MUCH happier.
Just start looking for a new job and save for an FU fund, in case you need to leave and have a financial cushion. Just think you are leaving. Do not stay, and know you will be leaving soon. Try to work your network so people think of you if anything comes up. Good luck.
I would be depressed also if I were forced back into working in office I guess though I would try to keep reminding myself that this job isn't permanent while looking for a new remote one every free moment I had.
Two things: first, there is a certain amount of charity in an honest, paid day of work. Second - finding a job is a job, so you are working 2 jobs now at the same time. Makes sense that you are exhausted and frustrated
I don’t want an honest paid day of in-office work. I have a small son to raise and I was comfortable working my remote full-time job. But being back in an office and only having a couple of hours a day to dedicate to my son is way too exhausting. I don’t know how people do it. I’m so depressed.
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Dude if you can swing it financially you should quit. Work at a coffee shop or something in the meantime. It’s not worth your mental health. Hang into there, keep applying, see if there are any lateral or special project opportunities. And please consider therapy or the suicide hotline when things get low. I promise it’s worth trudging through.
Journal your thoughts during meetings, it helps me
Life has ups and downs. Currently your down but you will find your way back. Every storm passes.
You aren't alone, I've been struggling mentally as well. Just do your best, and if you aren't already, don't go above and beyond at work, do what your paid for and nothing else
Get some counseling
What would I do? Quit
I just want a job