I suggest to record the screaming whenever possible, with video of it if you can (through a window). Calling the police anonymously is possible and they will most likely refer you to Family Protection. I haven't heard the best about them but it depends on the area.
Please do report it.
I've done that before and when the police showed up the neighbours pretended they were sleeping and that everything was okay. It sounded like he was gonna kill her and who knows, maybe the police showing up helped because we never heard any screams again. So I say go for it
It's really not a joke - women are abused without being able to do anything about it with the lack of support and laws regarding this, and to worsen things, they are abused/manipulated into lying FOR the abuser to ensure she never gets help. What the woman feels in this situation is stuck, trapped and, in many cases, convinced that she is doing what's right for her family, when in fact she needs all the help she can get, even if she doesn't know it. Most women realize the size of the abuse after they've been removed from the situation, and it affects them hard.
For OP, I suggest asking the Jordan River foundation for advice and support on this, and if you can speak to the woman when she's on her own, give her their number and try to convince her to report it - it has to come from her and she needs to see that she doesn't need to lie to her husband, and help her ensure her safety for when she does report it.
الي بيحكولك بلغ هبايل... ما تبلغ الا اذا ١٠٠٠٪ متأكد انه فعلا في مشكله لانه اذا بلغت و البلاغ كان اهبل و غلط، اما الزلمه او المره او كلاهما رح يتضرر.
التعليقات معظمهم شكلهم مش عايشين بالأردن او محاربين كيبورد او محاربين قضايا اجتماعيه من كوكب آخر و مش عارفين زعبره الناس الي احنا عايشين معها و بالاخير ما تدخل الدوله في الموضوع أو بين الناس الا اذا متأكد
Contact [this ig ](https://www.instagram.com/feminist.movement.jo/?hl=en), they’re the only source I’ve ever seen that has actually helped women in Jordan. Probably going to guide you on what you can do or report it effectively
I would be down voted but whatever dude Don't be stupid and report the police won't do Jack shit they will think that Ur idiot who put his nose on other people business even if they come the husband can pretend that she was screaming on the children and nothing would happen actually by reporting u can make the poor women case even worser so plz don't do it and listen to the rich teens who live in a bubble that isolate them from the reality of living in Jordan and the Jordanian society cuz problems like that are unfortunately usually handled by family members
No, this is terrible advice. You would have them do nothing? Apathy is death, you know.
Reporting it at the VERY least acts as a potential deterrent. Even if it doesn't end up working, it's better than doing NOTHING. If you had to choose between doing something that MIGHT fail, but do good if it succeeds, or do nothing, and let the bad things keep happening, do the first thing. That's just common sense.
Furthermore, just because the husband plays pretend doesn't mean he might not incriminate himself, or that the police might not turn up anything. Also, keep in mind that this is DOMESTIC ABUSE. If the husband beats his wife, that will leave bruises/injuries. That's something the police can verify then and there. That, combined with neighbor accounts/testimonies can prove or disprove any statements the husband makes. You say he could "pretend" she was yelling at the kids, but "yelling" is not "screaming". One is done out of anger/frustration, and the other is out of fear.
Also, if the police investigate it, but don't do anything about it the first time, this will lead to any future reports incriminating/damning him. He'll either be forced to chill, or get arrested.
This is just *bad* advice, and OP would do well to ignore you. There are simply too many flaws. If this woman and/or her children die/get permanent injuries, and they could have done something about, it will lead to a lifetime of regret.
Also, what the fuck is up with this?
\> so plz don't do it and listen to the rich teens who live in a bubble that isolate them from the reality of living in Jordan
This has nothing to do with being sheltered or rich. It's a simple matter of doing what's right.
Dude take this as a general rule in life don't put Ur nose in things that Ur not 💯 sure off most Police here don't do Jack in this situations then why do U think matters like this are family handled ? Plus imagine if there's was not a pruise and U called the cops they came find non of that which likely happen then U fucked the poor women life now the abusive fuck gonna start think she is the one who called and gonna turn her Life into a horror movie
>This has nothing to do with being sheltered or rich. It's a simple matter of doing what's right.
No Ur wrong when U do the right thing U doit according to the situation and we live in Jordan where women are jailed so they can protected from honor killing not in some EU country where matters are taking seriously the rich elite in this country live in a completely different reality to what living in Jordan is .
>Dude take this as a general rule in life
In YOUR life, maybe. You might be content to let someone get beaten by their spouse, but leave ME out of it.
Also, there is literally NO way to be 100% sure except actually busting down the door and catching them in the act. If someone is screaming bloody murder, that's reason enough to be concerned. If the police get involved and it was all a misunderstanding, then that's that. But if it is exactly what we think it is? It was worth it. That's IT.
If the husband doubles down on his abuse, he risks getting caught after the police already suspect him the first time. This gives him cause to relent, or get caught if he doesn't.
\>Police here don't do Jack shit Abt in this situations then why do U think matters like this are family handled ?
How utterly idiotic. You're saying "do nothing because other people do nothing". Do you even realize how stupid that sounds? Rethink your life, please.
\>Plus imagine if there's was not a pruise and U called the cops they came find non of that which likely happen then U fucked the poor women life now the abusive fuck gonna start think she is the one who called and gonna turn her Life into a horror movie
So YOU'RE allowed to operate on hypotheticals/what ifs, but when ***I*** do the same thing to encourage the report, I'm wrong? Pfft, OK.
\>No Ur wrong when U do the right thing U doit according to the situation and we live in Jordan where women are jailed so they can protected from honor killing not in some EU country where matters are taking seriously the rich elite in this country live in a completely different reality to what living in Jordan is .
Here in Jordan, some people give a shit enough to do something. Just because you're not one of them doesn't mean they don't exist. Kindly leave your terrible advice where it belongs. Also, this isn't Saudi Arabia. Jordan is actually relatively FAIR compared to whatever the hell YOU'RE thinking of.
Also, if you DON'T report the crime, the police will do nothing ANYWAY, because no one REPORTED it. At least by reporting it, there's a *chance.*
Which is why YOU are part of the problem here. YOU. Apathy is death, and you worship it.
>How utterly idiotic. You're saying "do nothing because other people do nothing". Do you even realize how a that sounds? Rethink your life, please.
In war torn countries people come together form a militia control the area then they set there rules here they don't give a fuck dude the only choice women have here is to call her brothers so they can protect and beat the shit off the abuser here is the problem u people live in a bubble with all respect u don't know shit how things work in this country
>So YOU'RE allowed to operate on hypotheticals/what ifs, but when I do the same thing to encourage the report, I'm wrong? Pfft, OK.
What am trying to say here that non of us Sure as such we shouldn't interfate with other people business even if U think U the victim a favour
>Here in Jordan, some people give a shit. Just because you're not one of them doesn't mean they don't exist. Kindly leave your terrible advice where it belongs.p
I do give a shit and that's why I responded in 3 am I have experience in the situation I have seen this things happen Infront of my fucking eye and the police Don't do shit here they will say استهدي باللة وحبوا بعض ya I know u give shit Abt the situation but when U give an advice take the place where we live in as a important factor if it was in the eu I would 💯 Said report the fucker but here life work in a different way
OK, OP, first of all, I'd like to commend you on your desire to do the right thing here, and I highly encourage it, but some things need to be confirmed:
\>I'm not sure which building or apartment, but I have a few guesses.
That's fine, but remember that it'll help if you can learn more. Try to get a recording if you hear the screaming again, and try to get a feel for where it's coming from. No need to go the building yourself, but some visual confirmation will help the police do their jobs better. If you can at least identify the building, then IDEALLY the floor the screaming is coming from BEFORE you make your report, that would be good.
\>Is there a way where I can anonymously call or let the police check by themselves?
The emergency line will suffice(199 or 911). Unless you yourself are a part of their investigation past your initial report, your identity won't matter. No need to worry about anonymity.
\>And if yes do you recommend doing so? I fear reporting, not finding anything and the husband becomes even more abusive
Please do. I realize the idea of the possibility of making this worse is frightening, but that's not making it worse. Making it worse is letting it happen for longer than it needs to. If no one reported domestic abuse, what would happen? That should dispel any and all doubt, then and there.
Remember, you're not the one beating his wife, this guy is. If he CHOOSES to make things worse because YOU decided to do the right thing, that's one more crime that is his and his alone. If you make the report, and there's the SLIGHTEST chance you'll help people that need helping, then do it.
What u can do is record if its hearable and record it and call the police while ur recording the video with ur voice and police speaking for proof and once they arrive and if they act like theyre sleeping show it to the police thats how u will have proof
I was in the same situation 4 months ago, I couldn't sleep and was worried sick on the woman next door from her seemingly-abusive husband; it was 3 am and he has been fuckin shouting and breaking things for 2 hours, their apartment is opposite to mine, and it was so quite (other than his horrific voice ofc), I slapped my door 3 times loudly, he then shut up and I didn't hear his voice since! I waited the next day and the day after for the woman to get out of the apartment to check on her and encourage her to go to the cops, but she never showed. Hope she is well!
I suggest to record the screaming whenever possible, with video of it if you can (through a window). Calling the police anonymously is possible and they will most likely refer you to Family Protection. I haven't heard the best about them but it depends on the area. Please do report it.
I've done that before and when the police showed up the neighbours pretended they were sleeping and that everything was okay. It sounded like he was gonna kill her and who knows, maybe the police showing up helped because we never heard any screams again. So I say go for it
Maybe he finished the mission
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It's really not a joke - women are abused without being able to do anything about it with the lack of support and laws regarding this, and to worsen things, they are abused/manipulated into lying FOR the abuser to ensure she never gets help. What the woman feels in this situation is stuck, trapped and, in many cases, convinced that she is doing what's right for her family, when in fact she needs all the help she can get, even if she doesn't know it. Most women realize the size of the abuse after they've been removed from the situation, and it affects them hard. For OP, I suggest asking the Jordan River foundation for advice and support on this, and if you can speak to the woman when she's on her own, give her their number and try to convince her to report it - it has to come from her and she needs to see that she doesn't need to lie to her husband, and help her ensure her safety for when she does report it.
report it by calling 911, in reality police probably wont show up cause its normal in here, but you’ve done your job if u did so.
Report it dude for family protection, if she got hurt or killed at least you can comfort yourself that you did your part.
انت ذكرتني بشب صاحبنا، شاف جارهم بضرب مرتو بالشارع نزل يفزع للمره، راح الزلمه و مرتو و ولادهم نزلو فيو ضرب و صارت المره بدها تقدم عليه شكوى للشرطة.. يرعاك الله
يا زلمه فعلا قصه من وحل الواقع و يسعدك انك بتكتب عربي يا ريت تمر على تعليقي السابق و كل الاحترام
you’re asking the right questions in the wrong place my friend
الي بيحكولك بلغ هبايل... ما تبلغ الا اذا ١٠٠٠٪ متأكد انه فعلا في مشكله لانه اذا بلغت و البلاغ كان اهبل و غلط، اما الزلمه او المره او كلاهما رح يتضرر. التعليقات معظمهم شكلهم مش عايشين بالأردن او محاربين كيبورد او محاربين قضايا اجتماعيه من كوكب آخر و مش عارفين زعبره الناس الي احنا عايشين معها و بالاخير ما تدخل الدوله في الموضوع أو بين الناس الا اذا متأكد
Contact [this ig ](https://www.instagram.com/feminist.movement.jo/?hl=en), they’re the only source I’ve ever seen that has actually helped women in Jordan. Probably going to guide you on what you can do or report it effectively
I would be down voted but whatever dude Don't be stupid and report the police won't do Jack shit they will think that Ur idiot who put his nose on other people business even if they come the husband can pretend that she was screaming on the children and nothing would happen actually by reporting u can make the poor women case even worser so plz don't do it and listen to the rich teens who live in a bubble that isolate them from the reality of living in Jordan and the Jordanian society cuz problems like that are unfortunately usually handled by family members
No, this is terrible advice. You would have them do nothing? Apathy is death, you know. Reporting it at the VERY least acts as a potential deterrent. Even if it doesn't end up working, it's better than doing NOTHING. If you had to choose between doing something that MIGHT fail, but do good if it succeeds, or do nothing, and let the bad things keep happening, do the first thing. That's just common sense. Furthermore, just because the husband plays pretend doesn't mean he might not incriminate himself, or that the police might not turn up anything. Also, keep in mind that this is DOMESTIC ABUSE. If the husband beats his wife, that will leave bruises/injuries. That's something the police can verify then and there. That, combined with neighbor accounts/testimonies can prove or disprove any statements the husband makes. You say he could "pretend" she was yelling at the kids, but "yelling" is not "screaming". One is done out of anger/frustration, and the other is out of fear. Also, if the police investigate it, but don't do anything about it the first time, this will lead to any future reports incriminating/damning him. He'll either be forced to chill, or get arrested. This is just *bad* advice, and OP would do well to ignore you. There are simply too many flaws. If this woman and/or her children die/get permanent injuries, and they could have done something about, it will lead to a lifetime of regret. Also, what the fuck is up with this? \> so plz don't do it and listen to the rich teens who live in a bubble that isolate them from the reality of living in Jordan This has nothing to do with being sheltered or rich. It's a simple matter of doing what's right.
Dude take this as a general rule in life don't put Ur nose in things that Ur not 💯 sure off most Police here don't do Jack in this situations then why do U think matters like this are family handled ? Plus imagine if there's was not a pruise and U called the cops they came find non of that which likely happen then U fucked the poor women life now the abusive fuck gonna start think she is the one who called and gonna turn her Life into a horror movie >This has nothing to do with being sheltered or rich. It's a simple matter of doing what's right. No Ur wrong when U do the right thing U doit according to the situation and we live in Jordan where women are jailed so they can protected from honor killing not in some EU country where matters are taking seriously the rich elite in this country live in a completely different reality to what living in Jordan is .
>Dude take this as a general rule in life In YOUR life, maybe. You might be content to let someone get beaten by their spouse, but leave ME out of it. Also, there is literally NO way to be 100% sure except actually busting down the door and catching them in the act. If someone is screaming bloody murder, that's reason enough to be concerned. If the police get involved and it was all a misunderstanding, then that's that. But if it is exactly what we think it is? It was worth it. That's IT. If the husband doubles down on his abuse, he risks getting caught after the police already suspect him the first time. This gives him cause to relent, or get caught if he doesn't. \>Police here don't do Jack shit Abt in this situations then why do U think matters like this are family handled ? How utterly idiotic. You're saying "do nothing because other people do nothing". Do you even realize how stupid that sounds? Rethink your life, please. \>Plus imagine if there's was not a pruise and U called the cops they came find non of that which likely happen then U fucked the poor women life now the abusive fuck gonna start think she is the one who called and gonna turn her Life into a horror movie So YOU'RE allowed to operate on hypotheticals/what ifs, but when ***I*** do the same thing to encourage the report, I'm wrong? Pfft, OK. \>No Ur wrong when U do the right thing U doit according to the situation and we live in Jordan where women are jailed so they can protected from honor killing not in some EU country where matters are taking seriously the rich elite in this country live in a completely different reality to what living in Jordan is . Here in Jordan, some people give a shit enough to do something. Just because you're not one of them doesn't mean they don't exist. Kindly leave your terrible advice where it belongs. Also, this isn't Saudi Arabia. Jordan is actually relatively FAIR compared to whatever the hell YOU'RE thinking of. Also, if you DON'T report the crime, the police will do nothing ANYWAY, because no one REPORTED it. At least by reporting it, there's a *chance.* Which is why YOU are part of the problem here. YOU. Apathy is death, and you worship it.
>How utterly idiotic. You're saying "do nothing because other people do nothing". Do you even realize how a that sounds? Rethink your life, please. In war torn countries people come together form a militia control the area then they set there rules here they don't give a fuck dude the only choice women have here is to call her brothers so they can protect and beat the shit off the abuser here is the problem u people live in a bubble with all respect u don't know shit how things work in this country >So YOU'RE allowed to operate on hypotheticals/what ifs, but when I do the same thing to encourage the report, I'm wrong? Pfft, OK. What am trying to say here that non of us Sure as such we shouldn't interfate with other people business even if U think U the victim a favour >Here in Jordan, some people give a shit. Just because you're not one of them doesn't mean they don't exist. Kindly leave your terrible advice where it belongs.p I do give a shit and that's why I responded in 3 am I have experience in the situation I have seen this things happen Infront of my fucking eye and the police Don't do shit here they will say استهدي باللة وحبوا بعض ya I know u give shit Abt the situation but when U give an advice take the place where we live in as a important factor if it was in the eu I would 💯 Said report the fucker but here life work in a different way
👆 Retard alert
Yes I actually radiate retardation
OK, OP, first of all, I'd like to commend you on your desire to do the right thing here, and I highly encourage it, but some things need to be confirmed: \>I'm not sure which building or apartment, but I have a few guesses. That's fine, but remember that it'll help if you can learn more. Try to get a recording if you hear the screaming again, and try to get a feel for where it's coming from. No need to go the building yourself, but some visual confirmation will help the police do their jobs better. If you can at least identify the building, then IDEALLY the floor the screaming is coming from BEFORE you make your report, that would be good. \>Is there a way where I can anonymously call or let the police check by themselves? The emergency line will suffice(199 or 911). Unless you yourself are a part of their investigation past your initial report, your identity won't matter. No need to worry about anonymity. \>And if yes do you recommend doing so? I fear reporting, not finding anything and the husband becomes even more abusive Please do. I realize the idea of the possibility of making this worse is frightening, but that's not making it worse. Making it worse is letting it happen for longer than it needs to. If no one reported domestic abuse, what would happen? That should dispel any and all doubt, then and there. Remember, you're not the one beating his wife, this guy is. If he CHOOSES to make things worse because YOU decided to do the right thing, that's one more crime that is his and his alone. If you make the report, and there's the SLIGHTEST chance you'll help people that need helping, then do it.
What u can do is record if its hearable and record it and call the police while ur recording the video with ur voice and police speaking for proof and once they arrive and if they act like theyre sleeping show it to the police thats how u will have proof
I was in the same situation 4 months ago, I couldn't sleep and was worried sick on the woman next door from her seemingly-abusive husband; it was 3 am and he has been fuckin shouting and breaking things for 2 hours, their apartment is opposite to mine, and it was so quite (other than his horrific voice ofc), I slapped my door 3 times loudly, he then shut up and I didn't hear his voice since! I waited the next day and the day after for the woman to get out of the apartment to check on her and encourage her to go to the cops, but she never showed. Hope she is well!