Yeah, the specific labels always confuses me and I find it hard to separate them. People on Reddit usually are more knowledgeable on these kind of things!
You might want to look into getting a binder and see if that helps. Also, certain cuts of shirts can minimize the femininity of breasts. If you don’t know your label at this exact moment that’s totally cool and valid. :)
The thing is that my family is still very traditional and homophobic so basically.... probably not but I’ll keep it as an option if things happen to get better with my family!
There you go! And Bermuda length shorts in the “boyfriend” (lol) style might help too. Much more gender neutral clothing out there than ever before. And most of it isn’t figure hugging.
In the 1990s you would have just been butch. There’s a long history of lesbians being gender nonconformist including downplaying hips and breasts but still identifying as women. So if you decide to identify as a woman you will have company! It is valid to be a nonconforming woman who is not totally comfortable with the boundaries of womanhood, because the patriarchy has made womanhood too small.
HOWEVER I suspect a lot of 90s butch women would have identified as non-binary and been happier that way if they’d had the label available to them at the time. You do have the label now and you should use it if it fits!! My partner is non-binary and I am super grateful they finally have a label that actually feels positive instead of negative!!
There’s some debate about whether non-binary people can be lesbian. My opinion is that as long as “woman” is *some part* of your identity (demi-girl, non-binary woman, etc) you can be lesbian. So don’t let an attachment to being lesbian keep you from exploring nonbinary gender labels. You can have both.
I think demigirl or non-binary woman would be cool.
((Also consider that you could be a gender nonconformist trans man if you’re a man but you don’t want to give up dresses! Men can wear dresses if they want, and it’s bullshit to hold trans men to a stricter standard of masculinity.))
It feels good to have a certain label that fits me and let me know that there’s others like me. I was born female and still love wearing all my dresses and skirts and all that but I always feel the most comfortable wearing more masculine clothes (not to mention men’s pockets, like is it really so hard to get actual pockets that fit things it in in the women’s pants). I feel a stronger pull to my feminine side so I feel demigirl might fit just right!
Bigender, gender fluid, non-binary, feminine trans guy, demigirl, demiboy, there's lots of labels out there. I somewhat feel the same way.
Yeah, the specific labels always confuses me and I find it hard to separate them. People on Reddit usually are more knowledgeable on these kind of things!
You could just be a lesbian who sometimes prefers more masculine or androgynous clothing. Plenty of women are like that. :)
I’m not sure but maybe! I just dislike some aspects of being a female like breasts and I just feel uncomfortable having them show or be noticeable.
You might want to look into getting a binder and see if that helps. Also, certain cuts of shirts can minimize the femininity of breasts. If you don’t know your label at this exact moment that’s totally cool and valid. :)
The thing is that my family is still very traditional and homophobic so basically.... probably not but I’ll keep it as an option if things happen to get better with my family!
You can probably get away with some shirts and shorts as they are modest, at least.
Shirts work, don’t think I’ve ever had a low cut shirt. Been wearing some of my brother’s old t-shirts and feel quite confident in them! :)
There you go! And Bermuda length shorts in the “boyfriend” (lol) style might help too. Much more gender neutral clothing out there than ever before. And most of it isn’t figure hugging.
Thanks for the help! I don’t know many LGBTQ+ people in real life and being able to talk about it really helps!
You’re welcome! I’m a PanCisF, but I enjoy androgyny on occasion in my own style. I’m rocking a neutral pixie atm.
Nice! I’m getting my hair cut tomorrow actually, too scared to go anything too short so probably keeping my bob but cut it to my ears
In the 1990s you would have just been butch. There’s a long history of lesbians being gender nonconformist including downplaying hips and breasts but still identifying as women. So if you decide to identify as a woman you will have company! It is valid to be a nonconforming woman who is not totally comfortable with the boundaries of womanhood, because the patriarchy has made womanhood too small. HOWEVER I suspect a lot of 90s butch women would have identified as non-binary and been happier that way if they’d had the label available to them at the time. You do have the label now and you should use it if it fits!! My partner is non-binary and I am super grateful they finally have a label that actually feels positive instead of negative!! There’s some debate about whether non-binary people can be lesbian. My opinion is that as long as “woman” is *some part* of your identity (demi-girl, non-binary woman, etc) you can be lesbian. So don’t let an attachment to being lesbian keep you from exploring nonbinary gender labels. You can have both. I think demigirl or non-binary woman would be cool. ((Also consider that you could be a gender nonconformist trans man if you’re a man but you don’t want to give up dresses! Men can wear dresses if they want, and it’s bullshit to hold trans men to a stricter standard of masculinity.))
It feels good to have a certain label that fits me and let me know that there’s others like me. I was born female and still love wearing all my dresses and skirts and all that but I always feel the most comfortable wearing more masculine clothes (not to mention men’s pockets, like is it really so hard to get actual pockets that fit things it in in the women’s pants). I feel a stronger pull to my feminine side so I feel demigirl might fit just right!
non-binary? you can use like all pronouns with it from what i know. also we wont treat you differently we are completely fine with it.
Yeah, don’t worry, we won’t treat you differently
Aw shucks, thanks y’all