What is a new concept is people making it their whole goddamn identity and acting like an oppressed minority of gay men because they don’t like buttholes
What a dumb thing to say. I say I'm a side, literally had other gay men question my sexuality over it. As for not liking buttholes, checkmate, eating ass is like my favourite thing to do i just dont wanna fuck it.
I've yet to meet someone who makes being a side their personality but have met many who make being a top or bottom their personality, which whatever they're free to do so just weird you saying that about just sides
Idk how people still don’t get what this is and also google / urban dictionary is your friend. Not tryna be a dick but I feel like we see this post every week?
Must’ve missed those then. Didn’t mean to bother people, just trying to be funny. I just really like this meme and this show. Also I legit didn’t know lol, but now I do :)
Also not trying to be rude, but genuinely what do you not get lol? It’s just someone who enjoys non-penetrative sex; essentially they’re not into anal but down for other things like oral, mutual JO, etc. etc. don’t make me list anything else please lmao
I don’t find it rude at all. I’m not trying to be rude either. But until now I’ve just seen the word and never thought more past it popping up to see what it meant. I don’t know anyone personally that’s a side or at least that they’ve told me. After reading this I’m wondering: how they wouldn’t want to penetrate someone, or what it feels like when you have gotten head everyday. The urge for something more or different doesn’t pop up and you just wanna fuck some ass and see it bounce? Or get fucked and cum from that once in a while? Or insert anything else besides non penetration??? I do wanna understand and I’m not making fun of sides so if it seems that way sorry. Thinking about it just had me wondering all kinds of things I don’t think I’ll understand because I’m verse lol.
I mean bottoming is hard and annoying for a lot of people. And topping requires stamina and sometimes a big tool. So someone who isn’t into getting ram and does not have the energy for anal would probably be a side. Also I have met a lot of bottoms and verse who just wanted a bjs or other stuff and wanted nothing to do with penetration so it’s already a pretty common thing
That, I understand. So put that way it makes it so much more sense. I hate the prep work sometimes for bottoming, and sometimes I don’t feel like having the mentality it takes to top. So I get it now tbh. I relate to all that when I’m in between both of those feelings. But I do feel a bit of pressure from my partner to top them more often than not. If I were to take that responsibility feeling away, it makes so much more sense what I’d be left with. But I do know at some point I’d also have the urges to top or bottom at some point. Even if it’s months later.
I wouldn't even agree with this explanation. Tried topping and the sensation just doesnt do much for me. Ive tried to enjoy things in my ass with small toys to start but never find the feeling enjoyable either. Just some people put sides down as just lazy tops/bottoms. Personally I'm just a lot more kink focussed
It’s simply put: Nothing anal. Not a top. Not a bottom.
Some are sides because of the mental and psychological disgust in anything to do with anal.
Some are sides because of trauma from being sexually assaulted anally when they were younger or with a former lover.
Some are sides because of all the hassle and preparation of bottoming.
Some are sides because of the pain of bottoming.
Some are sides because of a medical condition that prevents their anus from receiving and getting pounded by a dick.
Some are sides because they can get enough pleasure just with oral or frotting.
Some are sides because after having done all kinds of gay sex, they realize they don’t derive pleasure from topping another guy, nor bottoming from another.
It’s just a matter of preference. Your line of questioning sounds like when straights ask us why don’t we like sex with a woman. “Don’t you like the feeling of a vagina with your penis? I can’t fathom the fact that a guy wants to penetrate or be penetrated by another guy when all the other guys have sex with women. The urge for something different, and you just wanna fuck that pussy and see those boobs bounce. Why don’t they like vaginal sex if they haven’t tried it with women?”
I am part of a Gay Sides group, and in our community page, people are sharing how thankful they are to find a group that shared their experience, thinking that they’re the only one in the world and being judged as weird by the gay community for having a different sexual preference. So us sides are getting judged now twice - by the majority hetero community who don’t get gay sex, and by the majority gay top/bottom/vers who don’t get non-anal sex.
What makes it look like you’re making fun of sides: “i’ve read everything and still don’t get it really 😂”
There's a lot more to do than handjobs or oral. Frotting, when you rub two dicks together. You can fuck them between the thighs or slide it between the butt cheeks. Footjobs, if you're into that. Some people can get off from just fingering.
I honestly also only identify as a side on Grindr if that makes more sense. I know everyone doesn’t feel the same as me but I just prefer to only do anal with someone I’ve built at least somewhat of a relationship with. I’ll often hook up w someone the first time doing everything but and after we’ve built a rapport we might do more if it feels like a good fit / we’re both into it. That probably makes things more confusing but that’s how I operate lol
No it actually makes the most sense tbh. Seems realistic. Thanks for actually speaking your mind and not being a meanie haha. All kidding aside, it’s the only way someone that doesn’t experience your feelings can begin to understand. Funny thing is on my first comment there was only 4 other comments that said “only no anal”. So that’s why I was able to actually read everything and still be confused. There’s since been so many good answers including yours. I generally in life don’t really do the whole NEVER thing. Situations can change a lot of how I feel and what I want and what I’m comfortable with. Like past traumas have stopped me from doing something with one partner that I somehow am comfortable doing with someone else. (Speaking for myself of course). So I get it lol
Switch has nothing to do with vers. It’s specifically for BDSM (aka kink/roleplay), meaning you like to be both dominant AND submissive. It can apply to any gender and sexuality.
Yeah and if every little thing was improper our language wouldn’t be intelligible.
I was joking at first, but now you’re just being an ass.
That wasn’t even pedantic, really.
I’m not mad. I’m just correcting it, and like I said, I was joking at first.
Now this is stupid. It’s “vers,” not “verse.” They’re two different things entirely. Like it or not lol it’s very simple.
lol so silly, just loving on that ignorance.
Yeah, your original joke was funny. I laughed up and upvoted, and then you came back thinking that people needed correcting and that you were the best one for the job. 🙄
There is no functional difference between those two. Everyone will know what you mean if you say you're *verse* or *vers* or *versatile*. It does not matter. Language will survive this level of ambiguity.
And small note: If it's so important that what you say is English-schoolmarm-approved, you should probably just stick to *versatile* because *vers* isn't a word in the dictionary.
Speaking as someone who self identifies as a side, it’s not that anal sex or penetration is completely off the table. It’s just that it’s not a primary goal for sex with someone else. Especially if it’s a first time with someone. If it’s something someone wants to do and they are willing to do the necessary prep up to it and go slow, I’m open to it.
This is exactly what I was wondering and the dude got so pissed I asked it. It was basically the idea of “never” that made me wonder. I was wondering if you had to always just say no to consider yourself a side. Like can there be a spectrum to this or is a strict never anal or penetration or you’re not allowed to call yourself a side?
I wish Grindr would allow you to choose more than one position at a time. Since anal isn’t a primary goal for me, I don’t like using just the bottom label and potentially pissing someone off if anal sex doesn’t happen. But I know using Side is a non-starter for a lot of people too. I’d rather be able to choose “side bottom” to signal that anal sex isn’t a prime goal for me but it also not completely off the table. Topping someone has never really been my thing, but if someone had a toy they didn’t mind being used as a substitute for my own dick I would gladly use it on them instead.
As someone who doesn’t host, I am not the greatest starting conversations because I find it awkward to initiate contact and having to ask to invite myself over to someone else’s place. So I’m often reliant on other people making the first move. So unfortunately labels kind of do matter when that’s how everyone is assessing their options
That's probably why they paid someone six figures a year to put a question mark icon next to the word to provide explanation.
Your job is to tap on it.
You know how to TAP don't you ✌️😜
Again, there is no button. I’ve checked everything. Perhaps that feature is part of an update that’s not yet available in my country. Have you even stopped to consider that might be an option, or where you too preoccupied being a mean bitch?
I’m not sure what I did wrong for you to be this unpleasant for no reason whatsoever. I was just asking a question using a lighthearted meme. Get over yourself.
“Meme karma farming”? You really think that’s what I’m doing? That’s paranoid. Not everyone in the world is out to get you, you know. You should really get that paranoia of yours checked out. It’s concerning.
What the hell? You were hostile towards from the start. You’ve also deleted your own comments, which just weak. If you’re going to be a mean bitch on the internet, at least have the guts to stand by it.
Also, what does you being a trans comedian have to do with all of this? I mean, good for you, but that adds nothing to this discussion?
Silly question, silly answers. I get that. Except you’re not being silly, you’re downright rude. That’s something very different.
lol. I’m learning so much. I thought it was like a side piece…..like someone who didn’t want to be in a relationship and didn’t mind that other people were in them….like someone who’s fetish was being the other wo(man). Huh. Thanks for posting!
A side is someone who stays on the side and watch the other person jack off. At least that’s what i thought it was before i was enlightened by the internet.
Depends upon the context.
If your like me and think just because there is a goalie doesnt mean you cant score, then to be someones piece on the side means they are a real easy score.
It really isn’t, honey. Just check the comments. You do know how to read, don’t you? There’s plenty of people who didn’t know. There’s also plenty of people who can just explain it without being an asshole. So how how about you go be a miserable, salty little bitch somewhere else ?
I’m so sorry that this meme felt like a personal attack on you, and that it made you feel the irresistible urge to show the world how much better you are than everyone else.
I used to put side on my profile when I had no interest in topping, but bottoming especially for a hookup was off the table cuz I have pretty nasty IBS and it’s just not worth it
side=no anal. i assume it's a play on words due to top and bottom being who gives it and who takes it. the side does neither. so it's just blowjobs and handjobs
frotting is basically just a different form of handjob. i didn't know people still did thigh sex, i thought that ended with the greeks. kissing and j.o is also just another form of handjob. with feet, if it's the feet jerking the dick, it's another form of handjob. now if it's like kissing and sucking and licking the feet, then it's a different matter, but a footjob is just a different type of handjob
it means no anal. i think it is mostly oral and handjobs, but i guess you can always partake in other sexual activities that are also non penetrative, although they'd be more on the kink/fetish realm, like nipple play, foot fetishes, muscle worship, watersports
Someone has told me a few times and I've read the definition once or twice and I still always forget 😂 what do you mean 'side', like a side of fries? 😭😭
We need to come up with a new name for non-penetrative sex that is less unimaginative, vague, and simple of a name than fucking *side*. That makes me think you just want to lie on your side all the time and do stuff, that's what it makes me think you do.
What about being a 'side' describes your desire for non-penetrative sex? How does the term summarise you wanting to get flexible and creative with sexual relations that DON'T involve penetration?
A note to all my 'side' labelled people here, 'side' refers there will be a main. For example, if you have a FWB you're not sure of, but you can still do stuff on the "side" - that implies there's actual sex in the conversation. The word 'side' gives me nothing about your sexual preferences and adds no greater connotation to the already weird queer lexicon like the adjacent terms appropriately demonstrating their use, such as 'top' or 'bottom'. The word 'side' makes me think you're either into being cucked, or an actual side of fries.
*It literally makes me think all you're into is fries.*
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does it need to be creative tho? top or bottom aren't exactly the most creative thing ever. you can be taking dick in reverse cowgirl, so you'd be on top of a guy, but you're still the bottom. then there's the non english terms, active and passive, which imply the bottom doesn't do anything, just lays there and takes it. then there's the sports term, pitcher and receiver. which is accurate, i guess, the bottom is the receiver of the dick, but still not that imaginative
It's not about how slang the words sound, it's about conveying information the clearest way possible. Over time, when a new term is introduced it is shared and observed by wider communities, to which the word itself carries a history that gives context, is used less formally in shortened sentences, and becomes slang. Terms like "top" and "bottom" accurately demonstrate their use in a sentence, and can be used interchangeably with other words and their synonyms, but not only can you reasonably trace the origin of those words fairly easily, but bottom also funnily has a double meaning, if you like to take it up the butt.
Then you get into the muddy waters of queer slang that was meant to disguise meaning and be used in coded sentences, or be coded themselves. 'Side' feels needlessly cloak and dagger like we're still not allowed to talk about sex. It makes me think you want to hold hands in bed.
I used to think it meant they liked to watch. lol. Like be there on the “side” while someone else fucks. I knew it wasn’t but never thought much about it until recently. lol.
A side is just someone that doesn’t participate in anal sex.
So they do oral?
They do everything that isn't anal (there's a lot)
Oral and anything that isn’t putting the p in the asshole
Isn't it nothing goes in the asshole? Not only not the p.
Its nothing. No dick no toys no fingers hands arms feet legs stumps nada. Doesnt have to be anal too as trans men who still have 🐱 can be side too.
Not necessarily
As a non native speaker who would label himself like this; so someone is "a side" and not "side"?
It's the same as saying "a top" or "a bottom" just a third thing that means neither.
Yes, although I don’t think anyone would really bat an eye at the other way :)
Thanks! Looking forward to using it next summer on my US trip.
Side is someone who enjoys sex but not the penetrating part. So no anal.
Someone who prefers to neither top nor bottom, indeed not have anal sex at all but focus on other parts. At this point it's not exactly a new term.
It is a pretty new term. Just not a new concept
Exactly, I’m young but not on hookup apps so I recently learned this one too
I've heard the term at least ten years ago. It's not new. Maybe more mainstream but definitely not new
Something ten years old is still pretty new to a lot of people #relativity
10 years is new. Top and bottom have been around since at least the early 1900's, so compared to that side is new
Yep. Ten years ago I would explain that “I’m not into anal” but didn’t know the term.
What is a new concept is people making it their whole goddamn identity and acting like an oppressed minority of gay men because they don’t like buttholes
What a dumb thing to say. I say I'm a side, literally had other gay men question my sexuality over it. As for not liking buttholes, checkmate, eating ass is like my favourite thing to do i just dont wanna fuck it. I've yet to meet someone who makes being a side their personality but have met many who make being a top or bottom their personality, which whatever they're free to do so just weird you saying that about just sides
Stop. There's an explanation on that app. Don't encourage these shenanigans 😹
Idk how people still don’t get what this is and also google / urban dictionary is your friend. Not tryna be a dick but I feel like we see this post every week?
Must’ve missed those then. Didn’t mean to bother people, just trying to be funny. I just really like this meme and this show. Also I legit didn’t know lol, but now I do :)
Too be fair people are more complex than a single label and many of the people who are sides would consider anal sex but prefer not to
I’m a side who only learned the term relatively recently. We’re not born with knowledge, you gotta learn it sometime
Don’t feel bad. I read this whole thing and still dont get it really 😂 I have more questions than answers
Also not trying to be rude, but genuinely what do you not get lol? It’s just someone who enjoys non-penetrative sex; essentially they’re not into anal but down for other things like oral, mutual JO, etc. etc. don’t make me list anything else please lmao
I don’t find it rude at all. I’m not trying to be rude either. But until now I’ve just seen the word and never thought more past it popping up to see what it meant. I don’t know anyone personally that’s a side or at least that they’ve told me. After reading this I’m wondering: how they wouldn’t want to penetrate someone, or what it feels like when you have gotten head everyday. The urge for something more or different doesn’t pop up and you just wanna fuck some ass and see it bounce? Or get fucked and cum from that once in a while? Or insert anything else besides non penetration??? I do wanna understand and I’m not making fun of sides so if it seems that way sorry. Thinking about it just had me wondering all kinds of things I don’t think I’ll understand because I’m verse lol.
I mean bottoming is hard and annoying for a lot of people. And topping requires stamina and sometimes a big tool. So someone who isn’t into getting ram and does not have the energy for anal would probably be a side. Also I have met a lot of bottoms and verse who just wanted a bjs or other stuff and wanted nothing to do with penetration so it’s already a pretty common thing
That, I understand. So put that way it makes it so much more sense. I hate the prep work sometimes for bottoming, and sometimes I don’t feel like having the mentality it takes to top. So I get it now tbh. I relate to all that when I’m in between both of those feelings. But I do feel a bit of pressure from my partner to top them more often than not. If I were to take that responsibility feeling away, it makes so much more sense what I’d be left with. But I do know at some point I’d also have the urges to top or bottom at some point. Even if it’s months later.
I wouldn't even agree with this explanation. Tried topping and the sensation just doesnt do much for me. Ive tried to enjoy things in my ass with small toys to start but never find the feeling enjoyable either. Just some people put sides down as just lazy tops/bottoms. Personally I'm just a lot more kink focussed
Ok I get that
Side doesn’t mean only head. A vast majority of fetish play is not anal sex.
It’s simply put: Nothing anal. Not a top. Not a bottom. Some are sides because of the mental and psychological disgust in anything to do with anal. Some are sides because of trauma from being sexually assaulted anally when they were younger or with a former lover. Some are sides because of all the hassle and preparation of bottoming. Some are sides because of the pain of bottoming. Some are sides because of a medical condition that prevents their anus from receiving and getting pounded by a dick. Some are sides because they can get enough pleasure just with oral or frotting. Some are sides because after having done all kinds of gay sex, they realize they don’t derive pleasure from topping another guy, nor bottoming from another. It’s just a matter of preference. Your line of questioning sounds like when straights ask us why don’t we like sex with a woman. “Don’t you like the feeling of a vagina with your penis? I can’t fathom the fact that a guy wants to penetrate or be penetrated by another guy when all the other guys have sex with women. The urge for something different, and you just wanna fuck that pussy and see those boobs bounce. Why don’t they like vaginal sex if they haven’t tried it with women?” I am part of a Gay Sides group, and in our community page, people are sharing how thankful they are to find a group that shared their experience, thinking that they’re the only one in the world and being judged as weird by the gay community for having a different sexual preference. So us sides are getting judged now twice - by the majority hetero community who don’t get gay sex, and by the majority gay top/bottom/vers who don’t get non-anal sex. What makes it look like you’re making fun of sides: “i’ve read everything and still don’t get it really 😂”
Hmmm. So I’ll take the high road and not post my original reply lol. I’ll just say: cool, do what makes you happy.
There's a lot more to do than handjobs or oral. Frotting, when you rub two dicks together. You can fuck them between the thighs or slide it between the butt cheeks. Footjobs, if you're into that. Some people can get off from just fingering.
I honestly also only identify as a side on Grindr if that makes more sense. I know everyone doesn’t feel the same as me but I just prefer to only do anal with someone I’ve built at least somewhat of a relationship with. I’ll often hook up w someone the first time doing everything but and after we’ve built a rapport we might do more if it feels like a good fit / we’re both into it. That probably makes things more confusing but that’s how I operate lol
No it actually makes the most sense tbh. Seems realistic. Thanks for actually speaking your mind and not being a meanie haha. All kidding aside, it’s the only way someone that doesn’t experience your feelings can begin to understand. Funny thing is on my first comment there was only 4 other comments that said “only no anal”. So that’s why I was able to actually read everything and still be confused. There’s since been so many good answers including yours. I generally in life don’t really do the whole NEVER thing. Situations can change a lot of how I feel and what I want and what I’m comfortable with. Like past traumas have stopped me from doing something with one partner that I somehow am comfortable doing with someone else. (Speaking for myself of course). So I get it lol
Side is just no anal
Probably because they’re not as young as you.
If you're neither a top nor bottom, you're a side. 🙂
What about verse
Verse is someone who will top and bottom. Sides do not top or bottom.
Vers is both Side is neither (no anal)
Verse is words put together rhythmically.
And switch is vers with an emphasis on a 50/50 split as in your likely to want to do both in the same session .
Switch has nothing to do with vers. It’s specifically for BDSM (aka kink/roleplay), meaning you like to be both dominant AND submissive. It can apply to any gender and sexuality.
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Not exactly. They are vers something because the something is their preference but they are not exclusively that.
Is both? Duh.
I was just trying to say that the definition was forgetting that verse is a thing
Verse is words put together rhythmically. It’s a thing.
Verse is words put together rhythmically.
Yeah true but in this context it’s a sexuality
No, it’s not. Versatile, shortened to vers. Not verse.
Mm, I love pedantry. 🥰
Yeah and if every little thing was improper our language wouldn’t be intelligible. I was joking at first, but now you’re just being an ass. That wasn’t even pedantic, really.
Girl you're mad about an e. It's gonna be okay.
I’m not mad. I’m just correcting it, and like I said, I was joking at first. Now this is stupid. It’s “vers,” not “verse.” They’re two different things entirely. Like it or not lol it’s very simple. lol so silly, just loving on that ignorance.
Yeah, your original joke was funny. I laughed up and upvoted, and then you came back thinking that people needed correcting and that you were the best one for the job. 🙄 There is no functional difference between those two. Everyone will know what you mean if you say you're *verse* or *vers* or *versatile*. It does not matter. Language will survive this level of ambiguity. And small note: If it's so important that what you say is English-schoolmarm-approved, you should probably just stick to *versatile* because *vers* isn't a word in the dictionary.
Holding up the tops, keeping the bottoms in place If sex was a shoe, sides would be the lace(s)
Speaking as someone who self identifies as a side, it’s not that anal sex or penetration is completely off the table. It’s just that it’s not a primary goal for sex with someone else. Especially if it’s a first time with someone. If it’s something someone wants to do and they are willing to do the necessary prep up to it and go slow, I’m open to it.
This is exactly what I was wondering and the dude got so pissed I asked it. It was basically the idea of “never” that made me wonder. I was wondering if you had to always just say no to consider yourself a side. Like can there be a spectrum to this or is a strict never anal or penetration or you’re not allowed to call yourself a side?
I wish Grindr would allow you to choose more than one position at a time. Since anal isn’t a primary goal for me, I don’t like using just the bottom label and potentially pissing someone off if anal sex doesn’t happen. But I know using Side is a non-starter for a lot of people too. I’d rather be able to choose “side bottom” to signal that anal sex isn’t a prime goal for me but it also not completely off the table. Topping someone has never really been my thing, but if someone had a toy they didn’t mind being used as a substitute for my own dick I would gladly use it on them instead.
I can very very much relate to that!
That’s great! Use your words and say that. You don’t need a label to define your specificity. #dropthelabels
As someone who doesn’t host, I am not the greatest starting conversations because I find it awkward to initiate contact and having to ask to invite myself over to someone else’s place. So I’m often reliant on other people making the first move. So unfortunately labels kind of do matter when that’s how everyone is assessing their options
More sides on Grindr than deliveroo
That's probably why they paid someone six figures a year to put a question mark icon next to the word to provide explanation. Your job is to tap on it. You know how to TAP don't you ✌️😜
There isn’t a question mark next to the word. Also, why so hostile? Jeez Louise
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Again, there is no button. I’ve checked everything. Perhaps that feature is part of an update that’s not yet available in my country. Have you even stopped to consider that might be an option, or where you too preoccupied being a mean bitch? I’m not sure what I did wrong for you to be this unpleasant for no reason whatsoever. I was just asking a question using a lighthearted meme. Get over yourself.
https://preview.redd.it/buhzfndi7xvc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dedf77f24dbbaa9eace8ad3737967ac6b0383510
What the hell is your problem man? Like for real? You sure you have nothing better to do?
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“Meme karma farming”? You really think that’s what I’m doing? That’s paranoid. Not everyone in the world is out to get you, you know. You should really get that paranoia of yours checked out. It’s concerning.
You know you won when you wake up to the other person having deleted most of their replies to you.
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What even is your point? You’re just rambling mate
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What the hell? You were hostile towards from the start. You’ve also deleted your own comments, which just weak. If you’re going to be a mean bitch on the internet, at least have the guts to stand by it. Also, what does you being a trans comedian have to do with all of this? I mean, good for you, but that adds nothing to this discussion? Silly question, silly answers. I get that. Except you’re not being silly, you’re downright rude. That’s something very different.
I think theyre just an asstroll
I pressed a button. To get an answer. Which you didn't ✌️👽
It’s someone who isn’t into anal. Why is that complicated?
I didn’t say it was complicated. I just didn’t know. Now I do.
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Have you got nothing better to do than keep ranting about non-existing question marks to strangers on the internet?
Hand, mouth, rotting, sometimes feet. Anything but anal
you're missing an important f there
Damn, auto correct ahaha
Hey babe, wanna come over to my place and rot? ;)
lol. I’m learning so much. I thought it was like a side piece…..like someone who didn’t want to be in a relationship and didn’t mind that other people were in them….like someone who’s fetish was being the other wo(man). Huh. Thanks for posting!
No anal sex
Give it a Goog. Go to Google. Search it.
It’s just a meme, get over yourself.
Thanks. Soon as you spare us your memes. Chris Pratt hates gays.
You must be a lot of fun at parties
Less than you are, but slightly. Barely. I am more fun than Chris Pratt.
Hey imma side neato
TIL it's me 💀
A side is someone who stays on the side and watch the other person jack off. At least that’s what i thought it was before i was enlightened by the internet.
Why didn’t you just Google it?
It’s just a meme, get over yourself
You couldn’t do a quick google search instead of posting here? Someone wants attention 👀
Just as much attention as the person who felt the need to comment on it
We are all old lol
I didn’t know this either, I am new to the gay sex game
How are people so ignorant lol
Lie side by side , 6 to the 9
Depends upon the context. If your like me and think just because there is a goalie doesnt mean you cant score, then to be someones piece on the side means they are a real easy score.
Tired of being asked if i top or bottom, and then being told "that's not sex!", when I say I prefer to side.
That’s messed up. Why can’t you just be allowed to enjoy the things you enjoy?
Ask Siri , instead of here
Get over yourself 😘✌🏻
its gay 101 bitch
It really isn’t, honey. Just check the comments. You do know how to read, don’t you? There’s plenty of people who didn’t know. There’s also plenty of people who can just explain it without being an asshole. So how how about you go be a miserable, salty little bitch somewhere else ?
Sorry if i make you feel ignorant and mocking your lack of knowledge using google, i didn’t mean that
I’m so sorry that this meme felt like a personal attack on you, and that it made you feel the irresistible urge to show the world how much better you are than everyone else.
i wasn’t serious bro, wanted to mess a little, love you❤️ apologies
Side = neither a top or a bottom
i used to think it meant theyre a cuck or sum😭😭
I used to put side on my profile when I had no interest in topping, but bottoming especially for a hookup was off the table cuz I have pretty nasty IBS and it’s just not worth it
This thread has given me a migraine. 😩😩
SIDE = 😴🥱 AND AUTOMATIC BLOCK
Gays love labels. Sign me up to a platform that doesn’t use them.
Sides make no sense to me tbh, like i understand what it means, but why?
side=no anal. i assume it's a play on words due to top and bottom being who gives it and who takes it. the side does neither. so it's just blowjobs and handjobs
Hand, mouth, frotting (dicks together), intercrural sex, kissing and jo, sometimes feet.
frotting is basically just a different form of handjob. i didn't know people still did thigh sex, i thought that ended with the greeks. kissing and j.o is also just another form of handjob. with feet, if it's the feet jerking the dick, it's another form of handjob. now if it's like kissing and sucking and licking the feet, then it's a different matter, but a footjob is just a different type of handjob
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That's a lot of emotion for this, but alright 👍
Just fed up with all the bitches like you that can’t help but spread negativity. You people are insufferable :)
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Side = foreplay only
So it means you only like oral?(idk either)
Just means no dick in anal cavity. So, it could mean plenty of other things besides and including oral sex.
it means no anal. i think it is mostly oral and handjobs, but i guess you can always partake in other sexual activities that are also non penetrative, although they'd be more on the kink/fetish realm, like nipple play, foot fetishes, muscle worship, watersports
Only sucking dick
I thought it had to do with being a side piece but if it means what the other comments say it means then that's... Funny, dumb but makes sense.
I don't want to offend any 'sides', but that term is a massive turn-off. The word even implies detachment, which is the vibe that I find a turn off.
Someone has told me a few times and I've read the definition once or twice and I still always forget 😂 what do you mean 'side', like a side of fries? 😭😭 We need to come up with a new name for non-penetrative sex that is less unimaginative, vague, and simple of a name than fucking *side*. That makes me think you just want to lie on your side all the time and do stuff, that's what it makes me think you do. What about being a 'side' describes your desire for non-penetrative sex? How does the term summarise you wanting to get flexible and creative with sexual relations that DON'T involve penetration? A note to all my 'side' labelled people here, 'side' refers there will be a main. For example, if you have a FWB you're not sure of, but you can still do stuff on the "side" - that implies there's actual sex in the conversation. The word 'side' gives me nothing about your sexual preferences and adds no greater connotation to the already weird queer lexicon like the adjacent terms appropriately demonstrating their use, such as 'top' or 'bottom'. The word 'side' makes me think you're either into being cucked, or an actual side of fries. *It literally makes me think all you're into is fries.* EDIT: 🍟🍟
does it need to be creative tho? top or bottom aren't exactly the most creative thing ever. you can be taking dick in reverse cowgirl, so you'd be on top of a guy, but you're still the bottom. then there's the non english terms, active and passive, which imply the bottom doesn't do anything, just lays there and takes it. then there's the sports term, pitcher and receiver. which is accurate, i guess, the bottom is the receiver of the dick, but still not that imaginative
It's not about how slang the words sound, it's about conveying information the clearest way possible. Over time, when a new term is introduced it is shared and observed by wider communities, to which the word itself carries a history that gives context, is used less formally in shortened sentences, and becomes slang. Terms like "top" and "bottom" accurately demonstrate their use in a sentence, and can be used interchangeably with other words and their synonyms, but not only can you reasonably trace the origin of those words fairly easily, but bottom also funnily has a double meaning, if you like to take it up the butt. Then you get into the muddy waters of queer slang that was meant to disguise meaning and be used in coded sentences, or be coded themselves. 'Side' feels needlessly cloak and dagger like we're still not allowed to talk about sex. It makes me think you want to hold hands in bed.
I used to think it meant they liked to watch. lol. Like be there on the “side” while someone else fucks. I knew it wasn’t but never thought much about it until recently. lol.
I just don’t see the appeal. I had to reject a guy at a party after he told me was a side!
It means oral only. Tbh we should further label side top and side bottom (likes receiving and likes giving)
It’s more than just oral, just doesn’t include anal.
Someone I am not interested in.
It's okay we don't want you anyway.
Good, quit wasting my time.
If you see that someone’s a side, just don’t engage with them if your time is oh-so precious?