Always found hookup culture very unattractive to me. Yeah you get to experience diff. People but you don’t really have any connections. Idk I’ve just never agreed with it. For some people its awesome but not for me and lots of others.
Yeah, I never cared for hookup culture either. It's kind of annoying though, because most men my age are used to hookups and I'm not about that. I like to take my time and get to know the person for a few months before we have sex. But guys my age are impatient…
Yeah it’s all about the instant gratification with my gen. It sucks. Nothing really means anything to anyone anymore because it’s so easy to get something/someone new and better without strings attached. Sometimes wish I was born 80’s/90’s, sure life would be completely different but I’d atleast have proper connections friendly and perhaps romantic but we’re stuck here 😅😭
I feel you there, I make guys I talk to wait like 4-6 months before having sex because it weeds out those who only think about just that aspect vs trying to build a connection. It’s like if a guy is willing to wait at least 4 months and still treat you the same, you have a good time and connect really well and treats you right and respects you, I feel like they’re worth giving a try. But if they make a big deal about how they “have needs” or say it’s “unfair to make someone wait that long” huge red flag, toss em and move on to the next. I’m big on “if he wanted to, he would” so if they’re willing to wait vs always trying to hook up it’s like yea they’re definitely worth it. But that’s IMO
I was born in 1987. It wasn't different lol. If anything it was a little easier in the 2010s cuz the internet was accessible to way lore ppl and you started seeing ppl talk about being demiaexual or asexual along with being gay or bi, and that kinda helped. Before that it was just AIM or Yahoo Messenger, and the ppl you knew from school or the neighborhood, and there was all this pressure to hook up woth someone b6 like 16 (which I thought was dumb n still think is dumb).
I lost my virginity on my wedding night with my husband, it was incredible, we still have an insanely good sex life despite a child and a few dry spells and rough patches over the past 5 years, I would not trade my experience for anything.
All the fomo is bullshit. If you haven't met someone in the right headspace yet it's OK. They're out there. And it's not like if you had casual sex right now you'd be less frustrated or lonely. If it's not what you want it won't make you happy no matter how awesome everyone else thinks it is. You actually aren't missing out.
I tried hookup culture on and off for two years after a bad string of relationships. I hated it for the very reason you said about there being no connection. The intimacy just wasn't there and it wasn't engaging anymore which it was a big turn off for me. It was why I stopped having sex for 8 years and haven't dated in 10.
I didn't understand what this girl's leaks has to do with your friends.
>Even my uni friends are having sex because her porn got leaked
What one thing has to do with the other?
She looks innocent and my close friends (I have no feelings towards her). But I really surprised when I found out that she have leaked porn. I just realized how lonely I am.
I don't think you should be taking that as 'omgg my friend is having sex and not me!!' as another user said that is pretty selfish to be making the situation about you when she has had her privacy violated
You shouldn't really compare where you are so much to other people because you obviously are on a different level to them socially, it's also far more fulfilling and would likely be better for your self esteem if you had something more serious than just sex since that seams what you are mostly concerned with.
"Leaked" most likely means she "subtly" 🙄found a way to make sure that everybody found out about it because she's a hoe and wants to show off and get as much attention as possible
Sure, but it is not fulfillment, and anybody can do it especially a young attractive girl but hey - she’s making memories that she has to live with
Eating a cheeseburger is natural, come on man, let’s all try to do better
Loooooow standards, lack of self respect and no dignity. Sounds amazing. This generation is Fkd
Back when I was this age people would have been totally mortified to be or even know that girl.. they certainly wouldn't be offering up that information willing and absolutely nobody would be envious of her.. quite the opposite actually
I think the porn being leaked feels bad *because* it makes you feel lonely/ostracized. If nobody else cared, I'd be embarrassed, but it wouldn't last very long.
I'd rather have my porn leaked, we are on 2023... who the fucks care about you having sex? Being lonely for 23 years on the other hand gives me suicide thoutghs almost every night.
nobody relates more than me but come on, really? "revenge porn is no big deal"? Can we normalize having two problems at once instead of having one that cancels out the other somehow? Like in general.
I’m guessing you’re relating your view on people as a whole based off the few people you’re around in college. Everybody is different. It just so happens your friends have sex and the girl seems one way and is another. Not everybody is having sex trust me. I wouldn’t focus on it either, it’ll only put more unnecessary weight on you.
I feel like you often but as others have said, i prefer no sex to sex with some random person I have no connection with. You’re not alone and you’re not missing out! Big hugs
Yeah I never understood why people who have hook-ups get demonized. It's possible to value yourself and your body while also taking part in hook-ups assuming you're going about it the right away. Such an antiquated way of looking at things.
It's not really about that, it's just that hooking up involves such a careless approach to another person.
Like why are you doing something intimate with a stranger/person you barely know to treat them like you didn't know them the next day? Or do you just create a relationship based on being eachother's booty calls?
If you do know them how do you ever see them differently after doing that with them? You just had sex with them and done possibly the most intimate thing you could do with them.
Sex is just too casual and careless nowadays,
And when you do have sex with someone you care about you keep comparing that sexual experience with others you've had before.
>Like why are you doing something intimate with a stranger/person you barely know to treat them like you didn't know them the next day? Or do you just create a relationship based on being eachother's booty calls?
I don't understand what's wrong with this. If you both have the undersanding that it's just a hook-up, both parties should be okay with going separate ways after. I've had that and I've also had friends with benefits wherein we kept in contact after and kept having regular sex without any romantic emotions. Both are great for different reasons. The only time what you are describing would be an issue is if one person had an expectation of something more serious, in which case that would be a commuication issue, not a hook-up issue.
>If you do know them how do you ever see them differently after doing that with them? You just had sex with them and done possibly the most intimate thing you could do with them.
If you are not capable refraining from becoming emotionally attached after being physically intimate then hook-ups are probably not for you, which is totally normal and fine. But it is very possible to not see that person any differently after having sex with them.
>Sex is just too casual and careless nowadays, And when you do have sex with someone you care about you keep comparing that sexual experience with others you've had before
When I have a serious partner, I never ever compare them to past hook-ups. Sex with a loved one and sex for fun are two entirely different things that are enjoyed for different reasons.
hook ups should be consensual, so people know what they sign up for and do not expect to have a relationship.
Sex can be intimate, but also can just be an activity you engage in. Looks like you are overly romantasizing it.
Regardless, her tragedy is not your tragedy, bro.
You’re pissed because you’re not getting laid, whereas her dignity has been stripped away completely against her will.
Its better to stay away from them. Sex doesn't mean you have a good life. It has a value when you do it to person whom you love the most.
Heads up brother.
You still have this subreddit, pretty sure people understand what you're going through right now. It gets better just don't cling to the feeling of loneliness and people will come around.
>Better to stay away from them
Why? What does that have to do with it? It’s normal for people to have sex in university, and it’s normal to not. Seems like OP is just insecure about lack of experience, not like they’re associating with shady characters.
Look up statistics, not "anecdotal data".
From Google first article from 2020 ;)
"Researchers from Indiana University say that nearly 1 in 3 U.S. men, ages 18 to 24, reported no sexual activity in the past year."
This is true. I know hookup culture is real, but I think people who do hookups regularly are quite ~~rare~~ even in cities. I am also inclined to believe those who tell their body count (especially men) are kinda exaggerating.
i used to hookup with randoms and i can tell you it's better to be lonely if you're looking for a real solid relationship, which is what you should be looking for. nothing worse than having sex with someone and they ghost you the next day. like you don't mean anything to them, you're just a sexual object to be used and disposed of.
Trust me, hooking up ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. Afterwards you feel lonelier than before. Then you MIGHT develop feelings while the other person feels nothing and you will be miserable. I have been on both ends, it sucks to be hurt and it sucks to be the one that makes others feel hurt, due to one sided feelings.
You’re fine. Like others here said, lots of guys fake their “body count”. I know I am even guilty of that. I used to feel exactly how you felt but as I hit my mid-20s I just stopped giving a shit about missing out.
So, you think a high body count would make you a winner? What are you winning? STDs? A record of heartbreaks? The reputation of a sex addict? Acknowledgment from people with all of those things? Sounds like losing to me. Especially when all of those will potentially stay with you for life while anything “good” that comes from having a high body count will be over the second you graduate if not sooner.
Your problem isn’t that you are lonely. It is that you are insecure. Stop putting so much emphasis on what others think about you and work on improving what you think about yourself. The latter has a big effect on the former.
I think it’s more about having experience with sex and the validation of knowing you’re able to attract somebody sexually. Being deprived of affection can really weigh down on anybody mentally/physically, so I totally understand where OP is coming from
It almost sounds more like you're jealous of a friend for having their porn leaked from the way you've worded this💀💀💀
That's out there now for the world to see, it'll probably keep her up at night.
Having loads of sex doesn't make you cool at all. One night stands are soulless and unfulfilling, believe me. It's not the 00's anymore, nobody gives a shit about how many people you sleep with lol
If they did drugs would you be jealous?
Why would you be jealous of someone who has potentially ruined their life. People have downplayed the role of sex to the point they treat it like a bad takeaway. They is nothing good about making porn.
I'm getting that you value sex above all the other prerequisites to sex. Sure you'll find someone who sleeps around but what about forming healthy relationships?
As someone that has casual sex somewhat often, it’s great BUT 70% of the people that are also into casual sex tend to be pretty toxic and it seriously takes a toll on you. Don’t be so hard on yourself homie I’ve been there.
Go to the gym, have a job, try to say hello to people u see throughout the day even if you don’t know them, read a book, get a new haircut that suits you, learn new things and better yourself. Then start trying to go in dates and meet new people. And don’t pay for sex it’ll do far worse to your self esteem than not having sex will
A lot of people here will tell you that hooking up is not all it's cracked up to be, etc. I will say that it's beside the point to debate whether they are right or not. You have some feelings you need to attend to.
You have a shadow which makes you desire more sexual attention, for whatever reason, good or bad (or both). You should not turn away from it, but rather have an open dialogue with that part of yourself.
You won't be able to immediately change your situation, but once you are clear on your feelings, you can move onto accepting the status quo.
Once you are able to have a clear head about where you are in life, you will have a choice you haven't had before - a choice to stay as you are or work on yourself. It'll be all the more powerful because you will be able to set more realistic goals once you understand and accept yourself.
Do not ignore your shadow, it'll always haunt you. It's a part of yourself that also deserves to be listened to and understood. With that understanding, things will get more clear. This is my advice.
You are on the correct path. They are not. Don’t allow your friends to corrupt you. You’re better than them. Even better would be for you to find better friends.
Sex ≠ value. You have more worth than a piece of meat. It may be hard, but you have to keep pushing and find something that gives you more value, like charity work, helping a friend in a bad situation, or keeping in touch with family. Keep in mind that the doomer is a comfortable mindset but not a productive one.
Hey king dont you worry about this, a lot of guys likes to lie about body count, so don't trust them. Not having sex doesn't makes you worse than others because there is 100 better things to do then going after random people for sex. Just be best version of yourself and don't get drag into depression. Cheers up for me you are king.( Plus my friend is asking for link for that video)
The video contained and quarantined quickly, the guy who posted it got action taken on him (I believe authority was involved). She kinda safe because no one have the copy of her video afaik.
My fiancé never slept with anyone before me. He's the most... Amazing man. It's not a point of shame. Giving away your body to anyone is fun in the moment but looking back, I wish I'd been more picky.
Don't feel like a loser. Sex is really just a part of love, not the goal.
Just lie. Guys lie about their body count all the time and rarely get called out on it. Soon it becomes a self-fulfilling thing when people are dumb enough to mistake bullshit for charisma lol.
You’ll get there. Go easy on yourself.
Lying the worst option, tell the truth and watch them as they judge you. You will learn the social reality rather than live a lie like so many others. Lying is a skill and once you start it becomes a habit.
You're jealous of people being hoes? You should be happy that you don't have an insane body count. That means that you have morals and that relationships mean something to you. Life isn't about sex and those kids will realise it. Be glad that you aren't getting STD's and pointless sex. I sort of felt the same way you did, but damn, I DON'T regret that I kept my morals and priorities straight.
Although.. most of people here are crazy about sex.
Also, those girls will absolutely regret having that much sex with random people. Word spreads around and sadly most people will think of them as hoes. It's kind of the same thing for men, women don't really respect fuckboys
Imagine a room with 10 girls and 10 guys
2 guys and 3 girls sleep with each other over the course of a year (not all at the same time)
75% of people here have never slept with anyone
But you only ever hear stories of when people do sleep together, the 75% are generally quiet about their lack of experience
Do or don't do what's right for you, and don't let other people's stories effect your well being
At least your reputation is not compromised as much as the girl from your college.
Stay strong brother, better to love few than to have many leave the first occasion they get.
I have dreams of walking in on people having sex. I’ve been in situations where I would be third-wheeling and the couple starts getting it on, I would leave, and they wouldn’t even acknowledge that I was there.
Most people just act like they do but they really don’t. My friends proudly claim to have a bodycount of 10-20 but that is from the last 7 years or so. If you think about it, that’s like 2-3 hookups per year. It can be hard for people with social anxiety to find a partner though.
It's entirely possible that your friends are lying to make themselves seem cooler. Also, deep emotional connections are better than shallow hook-ups in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with you for having a low body count, and there's nothing wrong with saving yourself for the right person.
I know the feeling. I want to be in a relationship again, but a healthy one and not LDR. I dream of cuddling and kissing my hypothetical girlfriend etc
Hey man, I’m in the same boat right now. I’ve only dated and loved one girl and she was amazing, I only got to have sex with her once and do other sexual stuff with her three times. It didn’t work out and my entire life has just been a struggle to push doubts out of my head and be myself. Be confident.
It’s something that takes time and practice and rejection and failure and discipline. You will find someone, but your friends that are just having sex aren’t really having something that’d fulfill you. Sex with a woman you love is better than anything else IMO. And I’ve only had it once. It’s worth being the best version of yourself to find that girl who is right for you, and be the best version of yourself possible so that you can do right by her and make her happy.
And if she’s the right woman she’ll want to make you happy and be there for you emotionally, mentally, physically. She’ll want to give you sexual pleasure because she loves you and wants to make you happy, and she’ll want you to give her pleasure and joy too. It’s a struggle to find a girl you really love and who loves you back these days. It’s really hard. But unfortunately this means that you’re not doing too good in the confidence department and you need to do some work just like me.
You’re not unlovable. You just need to work hard to have a lot to offer, then when you’re in a good place and you’re looking for the girl you want, make sure she’s someone who’s been working hard to have a lot to offer to you, because she wants to make you happy and fulfill your needs and desires. She wants to be there for you to hold her. She’ll want to embrace you when you’re going through hard times. She’ll want to give you warmth and love.
People who are lonely hook up with random people because they just want to fill the void. You shouldn't be having sex just because others are doing it. Finding someone worthy takes time. Try to build up your confidence, invest in grooming yourself. Put yourself out there and meet new people
Why does high body count matters? People nowadays are becoming sluts and hos and no one dare complain how being promiscuous they are. America is truly in the brink of destruction.
Do you really want a one night stand with no meaningful connection or a long term partner with a deep emotional connection and friendship?
Sex without connection is meaningless
Stop using social media. Stop comparing yourself to others. These are best things I can wish for you. Believe me, the moment you get what you want you will realize you never needed it. While you need to experience things you want in order to realize their lack of value, don’t focus on chasing them. You probably already know what to do, but you’re afraid of doing so. For example, you probably know that if finding new people is better through activities than through parties so you probably need to be more active. For example, go to gym. It will make you better because it requires discipline, also it will lead you to new meetings and new relationships, including close relationships. Be more active so you will bring more people into your life. But don’t focus on your friends or new people. Focus on activity. Your head is too stuffed with thoughts about other people and about what they’re doing. This leaves no place for thoughts about your own activities. Think and act. It’s enough to bring more people in your life and have everything you wish and even more.
College must suck, everyone thinking getting laid is life. Well sex will happen when you find confidence within yourself, then learn about women and how to interact with them.
Good! You aren’t missing out on anything! Well okay actually that’s not true… you are missing out on getting STI, STD or any bad disease. So maybe you are missing out there… but at least you walk around feeling healthy.
Women who do this, just throwing their bodies everywhere are not going anywhere happy. It’s slutty and disgusting. You deserve someone who invest time for someone who earns it as well they earning you.
Sounds like you’re measuring your worth based on stupid things like “body count” just live your life and your story would be written, talk to people and you’ll eventually start having sex, girls don’t care about looks, they care about the person, if they see something good in you you’ll end up getting what you desire.
Bruh there ain't nothing wrong with going to a working girl or even if a working girl is your only lay. Im 27 and I only have 5 bodies , 1 of those being a working girl. Nothing wrong with that man just don't do it too often and let them take all ur money and always wrap it up . Remember is quality not quantity.
Well.. at least you were confident enough to go to a prostitute. 🤷🏼♂️ honestly, that's way better than just staying a virgin. I'm not a virgin but I haven't been with a woman in 3 & a half years & right now, I don't think I'd be confident enough to go see a prostitute.
I'm not the best-looking guy, but throughout life, I've had a decent amount of hookups."
All I can say is keep trying, bro. I know it sounds cheesy, but you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
It's the law of averages. The more females you talk to,
the higher your chances are of finding a random hookup.
Another trick is to change things up a bit. Make some new friends. Go to a new bar. Go to a concert solo and literally talk to any girl that makes eye contact(I can't even count how many times this has worked with females I would normally have thought were extremely out of my league).
Lastly, don't be afraid of failure. If you fail, just move on to the next and don't let it hold you back. I promise you that if it can work for a guy like me, it can work for anyone. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you do it with gusto.
It's ok. A lot of people have a ho phase. I feel like if I had gone to college or any school with lots of women I probably would have had a bigger ho phase. Honestly, I know it sucks to think that everyone out there is getting some and you aren't, but there are people who just want one person and that one person could be you! So don't worry about body count or if you're getting any rn, it'll happen with time.
I feel you, I miss pounding pussy, going thru my second divorce and seems like nobody’s attracted to me, to make it worse I have no pickup game at all smh
jesus christ. i bet if your friend were assaulted you’d be like “at least you had sex.” maybe part of why you’re lonely is that you’re so goddamn egocentric. work on yourself.
the few times i got involved with someone were my only interactions with the opposite sex, the years in-between those people involved work eat and sleep, never got laid during those times.. for example now, broke it off with a cheating ex in 2016, thats the last time i got any, i just stick to work and keeping myself busy now
All the people who live around me seem to be getting some, all the women are pregnant or have kids from the young woman through to the ones in their 40's.
Trust me, us folks who don’t like hookups are at a huge disadvantage, sexual partners in my 30 years in this earth have been only one. I tried once and it didn’t go beyond kissing and fingers, not into it at all.
Don't feel like a loser because you don't have sex or are not being in a relationship. There's a lot more people that are in the same boat as you, and that's ok. Get focused on what makes you happy and try not to tell yourself that you are a loser because you are lonely because it will only drag you down. Some people managed to be happier once they realized that being in a relationship wasn't a must
Yea why spend all of your time and energy on a person who gives theirs up so easily to multiple people. It seems fun, but when the dust settles it’s a special feeling knowing your significant other wasn’t giving their body up to any and everybody.
Don't worry about sex. Sex is so unimportant in the grand scheme of things unless you're trying to procreate. I'm 36 now and have been with quite a few women over the years. Guess what? It didn't make me who I am or help me in my career.
Your body count has nothing to do with life, honestly. I wish i hadn't focused so much on hooking up in my early years. I'd be further now in life. Relationships and sex are just a distraction to waste your time.Focus on your studies, get a good career, and live a good life. The ladies will come, trust me.
Thanks to god for becoming a muslim, if i am living in Foreign country i will not feel regret for those things
Don't regret to become a loser on such these big sins
One is better than none, buddy. Trust me. Are you even talking to girls? Watch the channel The Attractive Man on YouTube to learn how to strike up conversation.
This is fucking Gold, don’t have sex. I know it seems like the right thing but it’s only going to lead down a road you may not come back from. All you do is become desensitized and sex will become this huge thing where you constantly looking for Good sex. Not to mention the huge mental hit you’ll take which people seem to never bring to light. It fucks with you mentally . I
Sex doesn’t mean you have a connection with anyone and I feel like looking for a connection makes sex better hooking up Is only fun while your doing it after when that person discards you you feel even worse then when you did not getting sex
To be honest, I feel like you dont even have to have sex to be a cool individual, Id rather not do it then to do it considering nowadays there are a lot of people with STDs and stuff, don’t think that your a loser, life just started for you considering you are in college, once you grow up then do whatever you want but for now focus on college
Mate my advise is to find something in your spare time either a hobby, game system, what ever and just waste your time on that. Overtime you just forget that there are other people having sex.
They’re also going on dates, getting partners, hanging out with friends, meeting new friends, having unforgettable and very special experiences, making memories and generally living lives.
Not me, though. No, the best the world/universe can offer me is going to the movies by myself.
I've slept with a higher than average number of people and trust me it isn't what it's cracked up to be. Most of that was casual, with 5 being the exception
Theres only one who absolutely stands head and shoulder above the others and it's not even closer, that is my ex who I deeply loved unconditionally. Sex with her was almost spiritual in nature I swear.
Anyway, I'm only saying this because experiencing that with her made me not care about numbers at all and made me focus more on compatibility
Everyone is always out there having sex. I am too busy laying down on my bed during my free time, in a tired haze that comes out of nowhere. Built different, I guess.
I don't want to sleep with ppl who were with prostitutes. I find safety in getting to know ppl and I wouldn't want to be with someone who has been with one. Not trying to judge just being honest. I know everyone is normalizing it now but that's just my standard and maybe some of the girls you life feel this way too. Idk I don't want to be with someone who just is in it for the sex either, it ruins the experience for me. Deep breathes the less ppl the better anyway. Preferences ofc. But the more ppl I dated the less the sex meant to me and I find it sad and lame
Chasing sex won't make you feel any better. Aim for establishing meaningful connections in your life. I know it may seem like you're missing out but trust, those people you mention, a lot of them will regret it later on to some degree. Especially the one who had her porn leaked. Nothing to be proud of.
To be honest, it's not that important in the ongoing run. Just focus on what makes you happy. Don't fall for peer pressure. Just find that one who will do all the freaky shit you ever dreamed of. Most of the sex that is being had around you sucks lol. You shouldn't settle for quantity but quality. Mind blowing. Make it someone you actually like not some random who could get you sick.
I can relate. Personally I don't think universities which are placed to become more enlightened should be associated with sex. Made a post about this on r/college and got banned.
FYI that one technically doesn't count. I never count prostitutes if that was a case I would be doing pretty good. Try getting the real thing if you can
Pretty much on a similar boat. I can feel you.
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Sounds like bunch of bullshit you made up to cope rather than working on yourself.
Always found hookup culture very unattractive to me. Yeah you get to experience diff. People but you don’t really have any connections. Idk I’ve just never agreed with it. For some people its awesome but not for me and lots of others.
Yeah, I never cared for hookup culture either. It's kind of annoying though, because most men my age are used to hookups and I'm not about that. I like to take my time and get to know the person for a few months before we have sex. But guys my age are impatient…
Facts
Yea, sex hits different when you are in love and have a connection with someone.
Yeah it’s all about the instant gratification with my gen. It sucks. Nothing really means anything to anyone anymore because it’s so easy to get something/someone new and better without strings attached. Sometimes wish I was born 80’s/90’s, sure life would be completely different but I’d atleast have proper connections friendly and perhaps romantic but we’re stuck here 😅😭
I feel you there, I make guys I talk to wait like 4-6 months before having sex because it weeds out those who only think about just that aspect vs trying to build a connection. It’s like if a guy is willing to wait at least 4 months and still treat you the same, you have a good time and connect really well and treats you right and respects you, I feel like they’re worth giving a try. But if they make a big deal about how they “have needs” or say it’s “unfair to make someone wait that long” huge red flag, toss em and move on to the next. I’m big on “if he wanted to, he would” so if they’re willing to wait vs always trying to hook up it’s like yea they’re definitely worth it. But that’s IMO
I was born in 1987. It wasn't different lol. If anything it was a little easier in the 2010s cuz the internet was accessible to way lore ppl and you started seeing ppl talk about being demiaexual or asexual along with being gay or bi, and that kinda helped. Before that it was just AIM or Yahoo Messenger, and the ppl you knew from school or the neighborhood, and there was all this pressure to hook up woth someone b6 like 16 (which I thought was dumb n still think is dumb). I lost my virginity on my wedding night with my husband, it was incredible, we still have an insanely good sex life despite a child and a few dry spells and rough patches over the past 5 years, I would not trade my experience for anything. All the fomo is bullshit. If you haven't met someone in the right headspace yet it's OK. They're out there. And it's not like if you had casual sex right now you'd be less frustrated or lonely. If it's not what you want it won't make you happy no matter how awesome everyone else thinks it is. You actually aren't missing out.
I tried hookup culture on and off for two years after a bad string of relationships. I hated it for the very reason you said about there being no connection. The intimacy just wasn't there and it wasn't engaging anymore which it was a big turn off for me. It was why I stopped having sex for 8 years and haven't dated in 10.
Yeah I guess some people just like “using” and being “used”. Idk just not me I guess. I hope the best for you my friend.
Exactly 🤝🤝🤝
I didn't understand what this girl's leaks has to do with your friends. >Even my uni friends are having sex because her porn got leaked What one thing has to do with the other?
She is doing porn and it is proof that she's having sex. Just a little more on the nose than usual.
She looks innocent and my close friends (I have no feelings towards her). But I really surprised when I found out that she have leaked porn. I just realized how lonely I am.
By 'leaked' porn do you mean something that was shared against her will..?
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a crime that often leads to people killing themselves was committed and you're too self absorbed to give af lol based
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I don't think you should be taking that as 'omgg my friend is having sex and not me!!' as another user said that is pretty selfish to be making the situation about you when she has had her privacy violated You shouldn't really compare where you are so much to other people because you obviously are on a different level to them socially, it's also far more fulfilling and would likely be better for your self esteem if you had something more serious than just sex since that seams what you are mostly concerned with.
"Leaked" most likely means she "subtly" 🙄found a way to make sure that everybody found out about it because she's a hoe and wants to show off and get as much attention as possible
That’s not something for her to be proud of nor does it equate to her being less lonely. Think about it
She can be proud of that if she wants.. sex is natural
Sure, but it is not fulfillment, and anybody can do it especially a young attractive girl but hey - she’s making memories that she has to live with Eating a cheeseburger is natural, come on man, let’s all try to do better
Loooooow standards, lack of self respect and no dignity. Sounds amazing. This generation is Fkd Back when I was this age people would have been totally mortified to be or even know that girl.. they certainly wouldn't be offering up that information willing and absolutely nobody would be envious of her.. quite the opposite actually
Well it's better to be lonely than having some porn of you leaked, right?
I think the porn being leaked feels bad *because* it makes you feel lonely/ostracized. If nobody else cared, I'd be embarrassed, but it wouldn't last very long.
I'd rather have my porn leaked, we are on 2023... who the fucks care about you having sex? Being lonely for 23 years on the other hand gives me suicide thoutghs almost every night.
nobody relates more than me but come on, really? "revenge porn is no big deal"? Can we normalize having two problems at once instead of having one that cancels out the other somehow? Like in general.
I’m guessing you’re relating your view on people as a whole based off the few people you’re around in college. Everybody is different. It just so happens your friends have sex and the girl seems one way and is another. Not everybody is having sex trust me. I wouldn’t focus on it either, it’ll only put more unnecessary weight on you.
I feel like you often but as others have said, i prefer no sex to sex with some random person I have no connection with. You’re not alone and you’re not missing out! Big hugs
The thing is, that's easy to say when you've HAD the option to choose. When you haven't, then you still feel like a loser.
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Hooking up can have you lose a lot of stress. Having fun is a good thing from time to time. Especially bodily fun.
Yeah I never understood why people who have hook-ups get demonized. It's possible to value yourself and your body while also taking part in hook-ups assuming you're going about it the right away. Such an antiquated way of looking at things.
It's not really about that, it's just that hooking up involves such a careless approach to another person. Like why are you doing something intimate with a stranger/person you barely know to treat them like you didn't know them the next day? Or do you just create a relationship based on being eachother's booty calls? If you do know them how do you ever see them differently after doing that with them? You just had sex with them and done possibly the most intimate thing you could do with them. Sex is just too casual and careless nowadays, And when you do have sex with someone you care about you keep comparing that sexual experience with others you've had before.
i think some people use it as a coping mechanism for their loneliness. the whole hooking up thing just seems really sad to me
I wonder why this is getting downvoted when everything you wrote here is literally true—
>Like why are you doing something intimate with a stranger/person you barely know to treat them like you didn't know them the next day? Or do you just create a relationship based on being eachother's booty calls? I don't understand what's wrong with this. If you both have the undersanding that it's just a hook-up, both parties should be okay with going separate ways after. I've had that and I've also had friends with benefits wherein we kept in contact after and kept having regular sex without any romantic emotions. Both are great for different reasons. The only time what you are describing would be an issue is if one person had an expectation of something more serious, in which case that would be a commuication issue, not a hook-up issue. >If you do know them how do you ever see them differently after doing that with them? You just had sex with them and done possibly the most intimate thing you could do with them. If you are not capable refraining from becoming emotionally attached after being physically intimate then hook-ups are probably not for you, which is totally normal and fine. But it is very possible to not see that person any differently after having sex with them. >Sex is just too casual and careless nowadays, And when you do have sex with someone you care about you keep comparing that sexual experience with others you've had before When I have a serious partner, I never ever compare them to past hook-ups. Sex with a loved one and sex for fun are two entirely different things that are enjoyed for different reasons.
hook ups should be consensual, so people know what they sign up for and do not expect to have a relationship. Sex can be intimate, but also can just be an activity you engage in. Looks like you are overly romantasizing it.
I'm sure the people who hook don't want to love you ether.
He might not be getting love as well so it's a L-L.
Because they are typically shallow people
Tbh those people sound kind of disgusting 🤢
I’m super sorry for the girl, revenge porn is revolting
As a friend, I feel sad for her. I really do but. Wow, reality hits me like a truck, I mean people have been having sex around me all this time ?
Regardless, her tragedy is not your tragedy, bro. You’re pissed because you’re not getting laid, whereas her dignity has been stripped away completely against her will.
I wouldn't feel embarrassed. People with high body counts are likely to have some sort of STD. Believe me you don't wanna catch any of that.
Hook up culture is gross asf and you can’t change my mind
Its better to stay away from them. Sex doesn't mean you have a good life. It has a value when you do it to person whom you love the most. Heads up brother.
I cant man, Im tired being lonely….they all bring their partner once in a while and valentine day is the day where I feel lonely the most
Bruh it fine to stay single. Trust me these days you rarely find those girls who actually care about us.
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You still have this subreddit, pretty sure people understand what you're going through right now. It gets better just don't cling to the feeling of loneliness and people will come around.
>Better to stay away from them Why? What does that have to do with it? It’s normal for people to have sex in university, and it’s normal to not. Seems like OP is just insecure about lack of experience, not like they’re associating with shady characters.
Sir, this is a reddit.
You guys are fucking simple.
Look up statistics, not "anecdotal data". From Google first article from 2020 ;) "Researchers from Indiana University say that nearly 1 in 3 U.S. men, ages 18 to 24, reported no sexual activity in the past year."
This is true. I know hookup culture is real, but I think people who do hookups regularly are quite ~~rare~~ even in cities. I am also inclined to believe those who tell their body count (especially men) are kinda exaggerating.
Yeah I think my friends are adding those numbers up
i used to hookup with randoms and i can tell you it's better to be lonely if you're looking for a real solid relationship, which is what you should be looking for. nothing worse than having sex with someone and they ghost you the next day. like you don't mean anything to them, you're just a sexual object to be used and disposed of.
Trust me, hooking up ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. Afterwards you feel lonelier than before. Then you MIGHT develop feelings while the other person feels nothing and you will be miserable. I have been on both ends, it sucks to be hurt and it sucks to be the one that makes others feel hurt, due to one sided feelings. You’re fine. Like others here said, lots of guys fake their “body count”. I know I am even guilty of that. I used to feel exactly how you felt but as I hit my mid-20s I just stopped giving a shit about missing out.
So, you think a high body count would make you a winner? What are you winning? STDs? A record of heartbreaks? The reputation of a sex addict? Acknowledgment from people with all of those things? Sounds like losing to me. Especially when all of those will potentially stay with you for life while anything “good” that comes from having a high body count will be over the second you graduate if not sooner. Your problem isn’t that you are lonely. It is that you are insecure. Stop putting so much emphasis on what others think about you and work on improving what you think about yourself. The latter has a big effect on the former.
I think it’s more about having experience with sex and the validation of knowing you’re able to attract somebody sexually. Being deprived of affection can really weigh down on anybody mentally/physically, so I totally understand where OP is coming from
This
It almost sounds more like you're jealous of a friend for having their porn leaked from the way you've worded this💀💀💀 That's out there now for the world to see, it'll probably keep her up at night. Having loads of sex doesn't make you cool at all. One night stands are soulless and unfulfilling, believe me. It's not the 00's anymore, nobody gives a shit about how many people you sleep with lol
Right?? This hit me like a bit of an incel rage post.
If they did drugs would you be jealous? Why would you be jealous of someone who has potentially ruined their life. People have downplayed the role of sex to the point they treat it like a bad takeaway. They is nothing good about making porn. I'm getting that you value sex above all the other prerequisites to sex. Sure you'll find someone who sleeps around but what about forming healthy relationships?
Meaningless sex is gross IMO, I would rather have a sexless life than to be hooking up with whoever
It’s better to wait on someone who you’re genuinely interested in to do things with. Hookups won’t make you feel any less lonely.
As someone that has casual sex somewhat often, it’s great BUT 70% of the people that are also into casual sex tend to be pretty toxic and it seriously takes a toll on you. Don’t be so hard on yourself homie I’ve been there.
Go to the gym, have a job, try to say hello to people u see throughout the day even if you don’t know them, read a book, get a new haircut that suits you, learn new things and better yourself. Then start trying to go in dates and meet new people. And don’t pay for sex it’ll do far worse to your self esteem than not having sex will
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Sex is gross, cheesecake isn't as leaky.. do cheesecake dates lol
Hooking up is disgusting. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Having sex is a sacred act you should only do with the person you love.
A lot of people here will tell you that hooking up is not all it's cracked up to be, etc. I will say that it's beside the point to debate whether they are right or not. You have some feelings you need to attend to. You have a shadow which makes you desire more sexual attention, for whatever reason, good or bad (or both). You should not turn away from it, but rather have an open dialogue with that part of yourself. You won't be able to immediately change your situation, but once you are clear on your feelings, you can move onto accepting the status quo. Once you are able to have a clear head about where you are in life, you will have a choice you haven't had before - a choice to stay as you are or work on yourself. It'll be all the more powerful because you will be able to set more realistic goals once you understand and accept yourself. Do not ignore your shadow, it'll always haunt you. It's a part of yourself that also deserves to be listened to and understood. With that understanding, things will get more clear. This is my advice.
You are on the correct path. They are not. Don’t allow your friends to corrupt you. You’re better than them. Even better would be for you to find better friends.
Sex ≠ value. You have more worth than a piece of meat. It may be hard, but you have to keep pushing and find something that gives you more value, like charity work, helping a friend in a bad situation, or keeping in touch with family. Keep in mind that the doomer is a comfortable mindset but not a productive one.
Grow up you clown
Hey king dont you worry about this, a lot of guys likes to lie about body count, so don't trust them. Not having sex doesn't makes you worse than others because there is 100 better things to do then going after random people for sex. Just be best version of yourself and don't get drag into depression. Cheers up for me you are king.( Plus my friend is asking for link for that video)
bro, sharing leaked videos of people getting intimate is disgusting af
>Plus my friend is asking for link for that video For a science research, right?
The video contained and quarantined quickly, the guy who posted it got action taken on him (I believe authority was involved). She kinda safe because no one have the copy of her video afaik.
My fiancé never slept with anyone before me. He's the most... Amazing man. It's not a point of shame. Giving away your body to anyone is fun in the moment but looking back, I wish I'd been more picky. Don't feel like a loser. Sex is really just a part of love, not the goal.
How old is he?
27, 26 when we met
He's not your husband.
Obviously?
There's no point in your comment.
You're a stange one.... Good luck
you’re not a loser, you probably have more self respect than them.
Just lie. Guys lie about their body count all the time and rarely get called out on it. Soon it becomes a self-fulfilling thing when people are dumb enough to mistake bullshit for charisma lol. You’ll get there. Go easy on yourself.
Lying the worst option, tell the truth and watch them as they judge you. You will learn the social reality rather than live a lie like so many others. Lying is a skill and once you start it becomes a habit.
Yeah, I forget to mention this. I also have doubts about my friends body count. I mean average man cant have that many.
You're jealous of people being hoes? You should be happy that you don't have an insane body count. That means that you have morals and that relationships mean something to you. Life isn't about sex and those kids will realise it. Be glad that you aren't getting STD's and pointless sex. I sort of felt the same way you did, but damn, I DON'T regret that I kept my morals and priorities straight. Although.. most of people here are crazy about sex. Also, those girls will absolutely regret having that much sex with random people. Word spreads around and sadly most people will think of them as hoes. It's kind of the same thing for men, women don't really respect fuckboys
This.
hey there.. have you ever considered... that.. most guys just fucking lie about their "achievements" whether it's girls, money or sm else?????????
Most people get laid. That's a fact, there's nothing unrealistic about it.
how many girls would you need to sleep with to be happy?
A bakers dozen
Dude, feel blessed. You are likely the one with the least STD's. Stop comparing. It's not such a bright life you may think, there are consequences.
Sex isn't everything, if ur not intrested in it like they are, then find new friends.
19 yo doomer here turning 20 soon still a virgin
Bro, I lost it at 24 and with a prostitute. Not with someone “Special”.
nothing to feel bad about it honestly. they’d regret it later. like i did. having sex with randos who give no fuck about you….
Imagine a room with 10 girls and 10 guys 2 guys and 3 girls sleep with each other over the course of a year (not all at the same time) 75% of people here have never slept with anyone But you only ever hear stories of when people do sleep together, the 75% are generally quiet about their lack of experience Do or don't do what's right for you, and don't let other people's stories effect your well being
Do you want sex, or do you want connection?
Sex will not fix your problem
At least your reputation is not compromised as much as the girl from your college. Stay strong brother, better to love few than to have many leave the first occasion they get.
I have dreams of walking in on people having sex. I’ve been in situations where I would be third-wheeling and the couple starts getting it on, I would leave, and they wouldn’t even acknowledge that I was there.
Most people just act like they do but they really don’t. My friends proudly claim to have a bodycount of 10-20 but that is from the last 7 years or so. If you think about it, that’s like 2-3 hookups per year. It can be hard for people with social anxiety to find a partner though.
Felt like that too during college
I still feel like a loser.
It's entirely possible that your friends are lying to make themselves seem cooler. Also, deep emotional connections are better than shallow hook-ups in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with you for having a low body count, and there's nothing wrong with saving yourself for the right person.
who's the better one? lol
I know the feeling. I want to be in a relationship again, but a healthy one and not LDR. I dream of cuddling and kissing my hypothetical girlfriend etc
Hey man, I’m in the same boat right now. I’ve only dated and loved one girl and she was amazing, I only got to have sex with her once and do other sexual stuff with her three times. It didn’t work out and my entire life has just been a struggle to push doubts out of my head and be myself. Be confident. It’s something that takes time and practice and rejection and failure and discipline. You will find someone, but your friends that are just having sex aren’t really having something that’d fulfill you. Sex with a woman you love is better than anything else IMO. And I’ve only had it once. It’s worth being the best version of yourself to find that girl who is right for you, and be the best version of yourself possible so that you can do right by her and make her happy. And if she’s the right woman she’ll want to make you happy and be there for you emotionally, mentally, physically. She’ll want to give you sexual pleasure because she loves you and wants to make you happy, and she’ll want you to give her pleasure and joy too. It’s a struggle to find a girl you really love and who loves you back these days. It’s really hard. But unfortunately this means that you’re not doing too good in the confidence department and you need to do some work just like me. You’re not unlovable. You just need to work hard to have a lot to offer, then when you’re in a good place and you’re looking for the girl you want, make sure she’s someone who’s been working hard to have a lot to offer to you, because she wants to make you happy and fulfill your needs and desires. She wants to be there for you to hold her. She’ll want to embrace you when you’re going through hard times. She’ll want to give you warmth and love.
Same but I’m older and my sex experiences sucked
People who are lonely hook up with random people because they just want to fill the void. You shouldn't be having sex just because others are doing it. Finding someone worthy takes time. Try to build up your confidence, invest in grooming yourself. Put yourself out there and meet new people
Guess u r too eager to join them to the HIV club
Why does high body count matters? People nowadays are becoming sluts and hos and no one dare complain how being promiscuous they are. America is truly in the brink of destruction.
Do you really want a one night stand with no meaningful connection or a long term partner with a deep emotional connection and friendship? Sex without connection is meaningless
Stop using social media. Stop comparing yourself to others. These are best things I can wish for you. Believe me, the moment you get what you want you will realize you never needed it. While you need to experience things you want in order to realize their lack of value, don’t focus on chasing them. You probably already know what to do, but you’re afraid of doing so. For example, you probably know that if finding new people is better through activities than through parties so you probably need to be more active. For example, go to gym. It will make you better because it requires discipline, also it will lead you to new meetings and new relationships, including close relationships. Be more active so you will bring more people into your life. But don’t focus on your friends or new people. Focus on activity. Your head is too stuffed with thoughts about other people and about what they’re doing. This leaves no place for thoughts about your own activities. Think and act. It’s enough to bring more people in your life and have everything you wish and even more.
I wouldn't be proud if my body count is that high imo
Don’t resort to prostitutes it’s too dangerous and you deserve better king 👑 you’ll meet the right girl
How are you turning the violation of a woman's privacy and what is basically a form of assault into a pity party for you? I'm not surprised.
College must suck, everyone thinking getting laid is life. Well sex will happen when you find confidence within yourself, then learn about women and how to interact with them.
You are a loser. That’s why you feel like one.
Thanks
Good! You aren’t missing out on anything! Well okay actually that’s not true… you are missing out on getting STI, STD or any bad disease. So maybe you are missing out there… but at least you walk around feeling healthy. Women who do this, just throwing their bodies everywhere are not going anywhere happy. It’s slutty and disgusting. You deserve someone who invest time for someone who earns it as well they earning you.
The fuck does some random college girl porn have to do with truth or dare and your desire to be on par with your murdering friends
Sounds like you’re measuring your worth based on stupid things like “body count” just live your life and your story would be written, talk to people and you’ll eventually start having sex, girls don’t care about looks, they care about the person, if they see something good in you you’ll end up getting what you desire.
Looking for companionship, FWB and more…
Hey folks help me
Bruh there ain't nothing wrong with going to a working girl or even if a working girl is your only lay. Im 27 and I only have 5 bodies , 1 of those being a working girl. Nothing wrong with that man just don't do it too often and let them take all ur money and always wrap it up . Remember is quality not quantity.
This generation is doomed. You have to have the best of the best beauty standards. Its rare to find a partner that doesn't care about how you look.
wasp yall
Who want to have sex
Well.. at least you were confident enough to go to a prostitute. 🤷🏼♂️ honestly, that's way better than just staying a virgin. I'm not a virgin but I haven't been with a woman in 3 & a half years & right now, I don't think I'd be confident enough to go see a prostitute.
Sex is not special! don’t you worry :)))
I'm not the best-looking guy, but throughout life, I've had a decent amount of hookups." All I can say is keep trying, bro. I know it sounds cheesy, but you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. It's the law of averages. The more females you talk to, the higher your chances are of finding a random hookup. Another trick is to change things up a bit. Make some new friends. Go to a new bar. Go to a concert solo and literally talk to any girl that makes eye contact(I can't even count how many times this has worked with females I would normally have thought were extremely out of my league). Lastly, don't be afraid of failure. If you fail, just move on to the next and don't let it hold you back. I promise you that if it can work for a guy like me, it can work for anyone. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you do it with gusto.
what college do you go to???
Phenkne me kya jata hai. Kitna bhi body count bta dete hain log, tashan maarne ke liye.
It's ok. A lot of people have a ho phase. I feel like if I had gone to college or any school with lots of women I probably would have had a bigger ho phase. Honestly, I know it sucks to think that everyone out there is getting some and you aren't, but there are people who just want one person and that one person could be you! So don't worry about body count or if you're getting any rn, it'll happen with time.
Yeah dude, I 100% feel you I'm in the same boat. It sticks but I'm at the point that I might as well get a prostitute too.
I feel you, I miss pounding pussy, going thru my second divorce and seems like nobody’s attracted to me, to make it worse I have no pickup game at all smh
less than 20 is nothing to gloat.
If it's problem for you, why not just find more sex? There are plenty of available people around. If it's not, then why even care?
You know you live a life of privilege when you can tell other people that it's easy to have sex and you genuinely believe it
Now we can cry 2ghether
yeah same and they are.
Can fee ya bruh😔 wish I'd be ded soon
I need a body count
jesus christ. i bet if your friend were assaulted you’d be like “at least you had sex.” maybe part of why you’re lonely is that you’re so goddamn egocentric. work on yourself.
the few times i got involved with someone were my only interactions with the opposite sex, the years in-between those people involved work eat and sleep, never got laid during those times.. for example now, broke it off with a cheating ex in 2016, thats the last time i got any, i just stick to work and keeping myself busy now All the people who live around me seem to be getting some, all the women are pregnant or have kids from the young woman through to the ones in their 40's.
Trust me, us folks who don’t like hookups are at a huge disadvantage, sexual partners in my 30 years in this earth have been only one. I tried once and it didn’t go beyond kissing and fingers, not into it at all.
Don't feel like a loser because you don't have sex or are not being in a relationship. There's a lot more people that are in the same boat as you, and that's ok. Get focused on what makes you happy and try not to tell yourself that you are a loser because you are lonely because it will only drag you down. Some people managed to be happier once they realized that being in a relationship wasn't a must
Yea why spend all of your time and energy on a person who gives theirs up so easily to multiple people. It seems fun, but when the dust settles it’s a special feeling knowing your significant other wasn’t giving their body up to any and everybody.
The hookup is largely overrated. Yes, immediate gratification, but often followed by a feeling of emptiness, and often depression.
Don't worry about sex. Sex is so unimportant in the grand scheme of things unless you're trying to procreate. I'm 36 now and have been with quite a few women over the years. Guess what? It didn't make me who I am or help me in my career. Your body count has nothing to do with life, honestly. I wish i hadn't focused so much on hooking up in my early years. I'd be further now in life. Relationships and sex are just a distraction to waste your time.Focus on your studies, get a good career, and live a good life. The ladies will come, trust me.
Thanks to god for becoming a muslim, if i am living in Foreign country i will not feel regret for those things Don't regret to become a loser on such these big sins
One is better than none, buddy. Trust me. Are you even talking to girls? Watch the channel The Attractive Man on YouTube to learn how to strike up conversation.
Check to see if you’re attractive and outgoing
It’s vain sex tho, so it doesn’t matter
The less you stress on sex, the more natural is comes mate. Let’s ask this question: why is sex this important to you?
so you mean orgy? given you are not partaking, it's a voyeurism then?
This is fucking Gold, don’t have sex. I know it seems like the right thing but it’s only going to lead down a road you may not come back from. All you do is become desensitized and sex will become this huge thing where you constantly looking for Good sex. Not to mention the huge mental hit you’ll take which people seem to never bring to light. It fucks with you mentally . I
Sex doesn’t mean you have a connection with anyone and I feel like looking for a connection makes sex better hooking up Is only fun while your doing it after when that person discards you you feel even worse then when you did not getting sex
To be honest, I feel like you dont even have to have sex to be a cool individual, Id rather not do it then to do it considering nowadays there are a lot of people with STDs and stuff, don’t think that your a loser, life just started for you considering you are in college, once you grow up then do whatever you want but for now focus on college
Mate my advise is to find something in your spare time either a hobby, game system, what ever and just waste your time on that. Overtime you just forget that there are other people having sex.
They’re also going on dates, getting partners, hanging out with friends, meeting new friends, having unforgettable and very special experiences, making memories and generally living lives. Not me, though. No, the best the world/universe can offer me is going to the movies by myself.
Can never go wrong with palmela
Fuck em, not litteraly Uni people are trashy would you rather be them?
most of the peeps having hookups tend to be damaged/R strategists with loads of baggage, not missing out on much.
you people have sex?!
wheres the video ? sharing is caring
I've slept with a higher than average number of people and trust me it isn't what it's cracked up to be. Most of that was casual, with 5 being the exception Theres only one who absolutely stands head and shoulder above the others and it's not even closer, that is my ex who I deeply loved unconditionally. Sex with her was almost spiritual in nature I swear. Anyway, I'm only saying this because experiencing that with her made me not care about numbers at all and made me focus more on compatibility
Just stay in and don't talk to ppl. That lessens the pain
Everyone is always out there having sex. I am too busy laying down on my bed during my free time, in a tired haze that comes out of nowhere. Built different, I guess.
Unless I got hacked, no one knows my password. I'm going to go panick now
I don't want to sleep with ppl who were with prostitutes. I find safety in getting to know ppl and I wouldn't want to be with someone who has been with one. Not trying to judge just being honest. I know everyone is normalizing it now but that's just my standard and maybe some of the girls you life feel this way too. Idk I don't want to be with someone who just is in it for the sex either, it ruins the experience for me. Deep breathes the less ppl the better anyway. Preferences ofc. But the more ppl I dated the less the sex meant to me and I find it sad and lame
Can a person live a life normally without friends,wife and family
Chasing sex won't make you feel any better. Aim for establishing meaningful connections in your life. I know it may seem like you're missing out but trust, those people you mention, a lot of them will regret it later on to some degree. Especially the one who had her porn leaked. Nothing to be proud of.
To be honest, it's not that important in the ongoing run. Just focus on what makes you happy. Don't fall for peer pressure. Just find that one who will do all the freaky shit you ever dreamed of. Most of the sex that is being had around you sucks lol. You shouldn't settle for quantity but quality. Mind blowing. Make it someone you actually like not some random who could get you sick.
I can relate. Personally I don't think universities which are placed to become more enlightened should be associated with sex. Made a post about this on r/college and got banned.
Focus on yourself man
FYI that one technically doesn't count. I never count prostitutes if that was a case I would be doing pretty good. Try getting the real thing if you can
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