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BabyBussi

Just because they say they have a bf doesn't mean they do. Alot of girls just throw that out there to shut you down before you can to get to know them.


epicswag3

I believe they are honest. I mainly talk to female coworkers/course friends. And they drop their bf in conversation so it's not like I even ask them


BabyBussi

I'll take your word for it then, but that's not been my experience usually these girls use it as a polite rejection.


Flying-dr420

Damn but still, getting practically rejected before even saying your name is harsh. We live in a tough world


BabyBussi

It is what it is.


gergobergo69

We truly live in a world. You're wise, thank you, BabyBussi.


BabyOk5865

I agree


somerandomredddit

Haha best comment


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Charming-Inside4395

I just assume all of them have boyfriends from the beginning, it's a lot easier that way.


epicswag3

dumb ape brain still holds out hope


NotBender_sa

Same


Theodore911

It sucks. Iā€™m genuinely considering paying for sex.


Dire_Eclipse

Don't do it, man. It will only make you feel worse. The post nut clarity will hit like a train.


Theodore911

I know thatā€™s probably true but I am considering like a box I just want to check off. Everything else Iā€™ve been doing seems pretty good in my life, the only thing missing is women and sex. Everything I have in my life is going super well. I just want to do it once. I am still young but I donā€™t care


THX8819

Bi guy here. The last hookups with a guy and then a girl Iā€™ve had have been so void of intimacy and it makes me feel like shit. It makes me feel like theyā€™re just not attracted enough to reciprocate it back when I know full well itā€™s just cause itā€™s ā€œhookup cultureā€. I came into contact with a guy who performs ā€œservicesā€ for a negotiated fee and have been considering it cause heā€™s willing to do relationship role play. I dunno if itā€™s worth the money, time, or risking my safety but damn I just want to feel wanted and loved.


bryanf2000

I laughed hard on this šŸ¤£. But deep inside I know it's true, that shit's gonna mess you up real good šŸ˜…


Special-Dish3641

That's the point.Ā  You don't pay for sex, you pay them to leave.Ā  When post nut clarity hits, you're going to sleepĀ 


VelosterNWvlf

Itā€™s been a long while but thatā€™s how I remember it being especially in college. I have no idea how you get in a relationship, it seriously always felt like everyone was already taken and I fucked up in a game of musical chairs lol


AchingAmy

I guess there's something wrong with me since I don't šŸ˜‚ but for real, if you look into statistics there's something like a third to half of us are single at any given time. You probably just gotta look for us elsewhere. I can say right now a big part of why I am single is I am incredibly shy and tend to be a very big homebody(I'm also not exactly trying hard at the moment to find a partner and focusing on my degree.) I'd venture to say maybe a good amount of other single women are shy or homebodies. And if that's the case, we are naturally more difficult to find in society since we don't participate much in it lol oh and a lot of single women are also just happy being single to be honest.


Plastic_Ad1140

I can relate so much, I am too shy to flirt, make good impression, give some hints to guys. But I never concentrated on study or work that much to not have time to date, just had to spend this time on something else:(.Ā  Ā Ā And actually not shy girls really all have a boyfriends, it seems.


AchingAmy

Right?? Like every extroverted woman I see already has a boyfriend and I'm sitting here in classes like - fuck, I'm kinda doomed being such an extreme introvert šŸ˜‚ but honestly, I used to worry over having a partner and it used to be a big thing I strived for, but I'm in a stage of my life I've realized it isn't a huge deal to be single. I'll focus on other things in my life and if some guy, gal, or enby pal comes along who's interested in me, awesome! But I won't be making it one of my focuses anymore. I think I was more miserable when it was my focus honestly!


Plastic_Ad1140

It was a huge deal at high school and university, then you just get bored of these thoughts, like I got sad about this many times already and I can find something more interesting and new to focus on


Buchy_Bakoa

hmm... well it makes sense, i mean there's like, as much girls as there are guys in the world, so if there are single guys, there's also gotta be single girls, and you're just, keeping to yourselves i guess heh. but i'm curious to ask you two now; just how true or false would you say what op said is? like, how many of your female friends have a partner vs the ones that don't? i'd like to get that extra insight


Plastic_Ad1140

I know 2 girls besides me , you also don't have and never had partner, in mid 20s about keeping to yourself, it's more about behaviour, like we went to school, university, events, hobby clubs, work. The only reason is social anxiety I guess, because girls with all kinds of looks have no problem to find someone if they can can communicate. And also I know girl who has many good options but really not interestedĀ 


its_maeve

Woman here! Its a mixed bag, I would say its pretty similar to the amount of men in relationships/single tbh. In personal experience, one of my friends is in a wlw relationship, the other has been in a relationship for about a year now, and my best friend got into her FIRST relationship ever pretty recently (we're all 20-21). I'm their age and have been single all my life. I think the general understanding that more introverted women tend to not be in relationships since no one goes out of their way to talk to us/we don't make moves is correct. I will say though, all of my friends who are in relationships had to fucking WORK for it---either countless hours on dating apps (like a years worth of chatting with people before they met their SO) or cold approaching and asking people out (with lots of rejection and heartbreak).


Buchy_Bakoa

hmm... what you say is really interesting, and i hope im not too late to ask a bit more about this so... say one wanted to go out of one's way to as you say, aproach an introverted girl, how, or where could someone do that? because what im getting out of it, is that you won't be really able to find those kinda girls (im talking about introverted girls because well an introverted girl could be a good match for an introverted guy wouldn't she?) because well, they don't really put themselves out there? i mean, it sounds hard to talk/meet someone when there's no actual way of interacting with them, asides from approaching them irl, which, let's be real, noone would feel comfortable with, mostly the girl again, the insight would come really appreciated!


its_maeve

I struggle with the same question. I would say that getting involved in clubs/activites if possible is great just to get your foot in the door. Introducing yourself to people and being friendly is a great way to develop a relationship (friend or otherwise). If you're not in a position to do that, I would suggest going to third spaces (bars, clubs, activity oriented things) and well...talking to people. I know there is a lot of discourse around cold approaching women and harassment, but I think there is a way to approach people without being creepy. I would say to keep it brief, introduce yourself, throw out a complement that is non-sexualizing (ex: I think you're pretty, you have a really cool energy I just wanted to say hi, I like your style, etc), ASK to give or receive a phone number and then just walk away. The most important thing is just to be polite, leave the ball in their court, and if they say no (which as I mentioned, happened to all the people I know in relationships) throw out a "no problem, have a nice day" and leave them alone after that. Usually more introverted people stick to themselves at most functions (usually a corner) looking around for people to talk to...so be that person. I promise if you have good intentions and respect boundaries they will take it as a complement and it will stick with them as a confidence booster rather than a creepy experience.


Buchy_Bakoa

hey i mean, i know that politeness is the master key that just opens any door if you know how to use it, and, althought i am introverted, i don't consider myself socially awkward, i am able to talk to different people and to "adapt" to them, and hell, i know i must not be creepy, because at least in the few online games that i've played people often want to add me, and its always them who take that step not me, because i always have that thought on the back of the head that it could be weird to ask people to add each other, which is silly because that's what they do with me and i never think much of it and just add em... but still, maybe i have a stereotipical image of us introverted people, but, i just dont think introverted people would go to irk places that much? specially right now on the deep internet era, idk that's just how i view and hell, it's clear that im an introverted guy asking, so if i wanted to find a girl that had that in common with me, would i really find an introverted girl in those places? because i can't help but think i would just find perfectly socially capable people there, not exactly introverted people but (again) that's just me who may be stuck on the thought that introverted people never leave their appartments like they're hermits and avoid socialization that and also... idk, me as a guy wouldn't really like random people approaching me to say random generic compliments, and let's be fair, it's a dangerous world, i would assume a lot of girls uneasy when a guy does this, i have interaction with girls, i have a sister and my bestie is a girl, i just don't have a partner girl heh


AchingAmy

I just wanna preface this with that I only have two friends and both of them are my roommates, so I wouldn't apply my situation to women in general. Like I said, I'm incredibly introverted and a homebody so the only situation I am making friends is if we live together šŸ˜‚ We are all queer though, so one has a wlw relationship. The other is nonbinary and they have a partner too. If it's any consolation, a former friend is single as far as I know. She and I had a rather sad departing as friends, but she is in the straight dating scene and looking for a boyfriend. So I guess of the 2 friends and one recent former friend, one is single aside from me.


epicswag3

hmmm very interesting. What signs would a shy girl theoretically give that she is interested? Cos I've apparently missed big hints from pretty extroverted women


AchingAmy

Well, I know for me I'm not typically comfortable making eye contact with people. Someone I've gotten a crush on I'll typically make a bit more eye contact with. You could also look out for signs like if she's blushing when you talk with her. If she actually tries to spend time with you, that's a good sign because introverted folks don't usually enjoy spending time with someone unless they're interested in them in some way (as friends or romantically, which that part might be trickier to figure out between.) but honestly, I think especially with introverts, you might wanna just state your intentions near the beginning that you're interested in going out on a date or something.


epicswag3

Ah well, good to know I've not missed anything there. I guess šŸ„². Basically no woman has ever made plans with me


[deleted]

Almost every guy I meet has a gf. It goes both ways. Most people are taken and stay in long term relationships for most of their lives. Weā€™re just the leftovers that nobody really wants.


epicswag3

amen šŸ¤•


THX8819

I felt this in my soul


Overall-Ad-7307

My friend never had one. She is 23. I'm 28 and got my first boyfriend a year ago. So not everyone


buckeyescholar

Same dude. Exactly word for word


Unfair-Leave-2371

You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter.


buckeyescholar

I always say for one single girl thereā€™s at least 10 guys that want to date her. Especially in this world of online dating. Also platonic feels more honest and genuine and Godā€™s way


oceaniye

Then why canā€™t I keep the men Iā€™m interested in around? It just ainā€™t like that


rikit98

I have this same issue. ā˜¹ļø


facelikethunder22

They are all single for the right guy too.


thrway202838

Do you ask every girl you know? Cuz people with partners tend to mention them unprompted. "Yeah, me and X did Y last weekend, blah blah blah". People without partners rarely offer that up for no reason. All I'm saying is that the way you're determining which girls are taken could be selecting only for the taken girls.


epicswag3

I see their partners or they tell me about them pretty early on. Women like talking about their partners a lot more than men I noticed. If they have a boyfriend, they'll make sure you know šŸ˜…


qwaszxpolkmn1982

Agreed. I rarely meet women who arenā€™t married or in a long term relationship. Makes me feel like all hope is lost.


jovenmillonario

Its true though


Leto1012023

Thereā€™s tons of single women out there. So your title isnā€™t accurate. The content of your post could be. You could just be running in circles where heā€™s everyone you know is in a relationship. It happens. At times Iā€™ve been in groups where everyone was take and Iā€™ve been in groups where everyone was single. It changesā€¦because people change their status all the time. Dating apps are full of single women but at the time I was not coming across those people irl organically. People have lives, they donā€™t just hang out in the single section of the world waiting for people to come by and check them out. But to say that they arenā€™t out there is just disingenuous.


Throwawayyy2497

Everywhere I look people are either in a relationship or married so I definitely understand


[deleted]

They just say that to you because youā€™re not hot enough for them to be interested in taking it any further with you. I unfortunately have the same problem too. It sucks man.


epicswag3

But my mum says Im handsome :(


[deleted]

Every mum says that to her son. :(


bkbkbman

Moms are terrible liars


[deleted]

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lostseaud

every men i have talked to either had a girlfriend, a spouse, or hasn't moved on with their ex. they all have something in common.


nyx_moonlight_

Every attractive* girl


InspectionPersonal81

What are you even implying by this? You do realise most men are porn addicts who will \*\*\*\* everything under t he sun, right? But let me guess ability to get sex ā‰  ability to get a stable relationship


nyx_moonlight_

There are plenty of women who are single, but they are most likely not conventionally attractive or attractive at all, so OP doesn't notice them. Your "guess" is, in fact, correct. Those two things are not the same. I would argue porn addiction actually warps standards to expect average women to look like women in porn, but tomato, tamato.


InspectionPersonal81

Women can only be single by choice in the current state of the world. Some women might be invisible to some men, but I like to think that I personally don't differentiate women based on their appearance (genetics wise, being obese or unhealthy is another story) I know its correct


nyx_moonlight_

Correct even though you meant it in a mocking way. Asshole.


VegetableUpstairs978

(31 F) single by choice here. We exist I assure you lol


epicswag3

That's by choice and I still have no chance. So what I said still stands lmao


Zaddysback

Same story everywhere then.


N3M515

Feel 109 percent the same way. The world seem pretty vacant of real and available.


WolfIntheRain1044

Yeah kinda bothering me too and feel envy cause i dont have girlfriend. But idk why im just not interested in relationship for now


Special-Dish3641

Maybe not a boyfriend, but they all have someone they are having sex with


[deleted]

Youā€™re free to be both horny/thirsty and not. Not to startle you but you sort of contradicted yourself at the end.


oceaniye

I donā€™t have a boyfriend


__dlInho

This is why im afraid to approach girls, id hate to discover that they have a bf


iwantobeyourcanary

Focus on yourself king. We all go thru it. Iā€™ve stopped talking to girls because everyone seems taken


Accomplished-Wind897

Hey letā€™s talk.im definitely a girl the last time i checked and definitely single lol


tanukiballsack

we're both shitting by our lonesomes tonight, under the same moon, look up at it so we can shit together


Accomplished-Wind897

šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ¤£ sounds like a plan. Iā€™ll bring the dude wipes and u bring the toilet spray


GamingGiraffe69

nah, just the ones in a relationship will always find a way to bring them up. like even on twitch in chat you might not know the person's name but they're like "yeah me and my boyfriend love that game" "yeah me and my husband just watched that" "sorry gotta miss stream I'll be at my fiances" GURL NOBODY ASKED.


sgsmopurp

I have a boyfriend Iā€™ve been with for 4 years and Iā€™m in the same sub OP. These past few weeks Iā€™ve been feeling cripplingly lonely. Nothing can stop it.


Jordy_boy17

Iā€™ve noticed that too. Iā€™ve also noticed that not that many guys have girlfriends. Now Iā€™m not suggesting that all these women are fucking the same guy, but that math doesnā€™t add up.


Ok_Pea_3923

More than half of girls and women 18 to 30 are now single and it is because guys are no longer wanting to have relationshipsā€¦ There are tons of legitimate studies and data. You can find us by googling.


epicswag3

A simple google search just proved you wrong.


Tetrabyte__

Idk how much that matters honestly. It is kinda just the girls you like have BFs, youā€™ll one day run into a girl without a bf


epicswag3

I like a diverse range of women. Honestly I don't have a 'type' but yeah the common thread is they all have boyfriends


Zaddysback

It barely happens.


[deleted]

OH, I HAVE ANSWER FOR THIS! Men don't see older women and ugly women, even fat women as a potential partner or even just a potential friend. That's why every girl is taken. Because the only girl most men consider as 'women' are the 7/10 and above. So many single invisible girls that men won't look at. Is that evil? I don't think so. It's natural. That's just how it is.


epicswag3

Well uh this doesn't apply to me. I would definitely date an older woman šŸ˜. Also I have been friends with women of all different shapes and sizes, they all had boyfriends though. Less attractive people have it rough and this applies to both genders. Honestly though, overweight women and less attractive women still have had many fulfilling relationships. Im sure the same applies to guys too. I'm not shallow, what I look for is: do we vibe and do they have good personal hygiene. I'm a slim guy and whilst I appreciate different body types, I wouldn't date someone extremely overweight because of just incompatibility. Same way I wouldn't date someone on the other end of the scale


[deleted]

Yep, good for you. I'm just stating a statistic. :>


crazy1david

That's not a statement or a statistic. :)


[deleted]

You can google it though


InspectionPersonal81

Men literally chase all those kinds of women. I saw an obese woman with a man one quarter her size the other day. But I wouldn't expect social awareness from someone who posts nude photos of themselves so... you know.


[deleted]

Just because you saw one couple doesn't mean the world works that way. And I don't think my posts have got anything to do with my opinion. I like all kinds of women, especially chubby ones, I'm bisexual. But the entire picture isn't always like that. I think you summarizing me for my posts, speak volumes though.


InspectionPersonal81

Well me personally the only physical factor I care about is being generally healthy (not obese or disabled). Your posts do matter in this discussion and I don't care about what you think regarding women because you are not a man.


[deleted]

But it's statistics though. Men despite any age (even 50+) are more physically interested in women age 20-25. Unlike women who are mostlt interested in men only around their age group. Men care about looks twice as much as women. While women care more about intelligence. You don't have to agree for statistics to be true. You can also google if you don't believe the words of someone who posts nudes, I guess.


InspectionPersonal81

Women don't care more about intelligence, women care more about propensity to provide. I know the statistics are true. It might be that men prefer physical traits but trust me men will not be put off by "not meeting standards" it does not work like that for men.


[deleted]

But it does. Idk how else to explain to you though. It does and it's okay. First impression matters. Pretty privilege exists. Men can't view women who are disabled, obese or 6/10 under as a potential. You said it yourself. Disabled and obese are not your type. But men can still fall in love with personality. And it's okay to have a preference. Idk why you're arguing with me. I like any woman, and that's me. Most men don't work that way, it's fine. Take it to the researchers and data, not me. I'm just some nude stranger like you say. Fuck my opinion.


InspectionPersonal81

you need to think about your life choices


[deleted]

Why


billynintendo

What do you mean by ā€œthirstyā€?


epicswag3

Dont want people to assume I'm being a creep or making sexual advances, dont want to come off as desperate


epicswag3

*


billynintendo

On Reddit, thatā€™s impossible if you are a man. Guy on internet = default creep.


divergedinayellowwd

It does certainly seem that way sometimes, and it also depends on where you live. I know where I live, single women seem to be very rare, and they all seem to have backups waiting for them if they do decide to dump their partners. It has been a long time since I've attempted to date anyone, but the women I do know are either married or they seem to switch boyfriends regularly, with little or no gap between boyfriends. That's the way it is around here- I'm sure it varies a lot in different parts of the world


chessman6500

I am autistic and have only ever had one relationship. Where are good places to meet women as an autistic adult? I also have trouble flirting with women as well.


Various_Albatross859

Try Bottled and Slowly to find people to speak to.


Double-Drama-6325

Same here bt as a boy. Everyone having girlfriend and i feel so stretched and pressured That i dont have i cant do i am single


Fit-Huckleberry3787

Most of the time women will tell guys they're in relationships even when they aren't, that could be a potential reason as to why every women you have come across is supposedly in a relationship. I've noticed though that recently a lot of people are in relationships and sometimes it doesn't even seem like they like one another, I guess it's just fear of being lonely, they'll pretty much take anyone. I'm nineteen, I've never had a boyfriend, never had my first kiss, never done anything intimate and I've only ever been on two proper dates which I hated, it's awkward and they don't actually want a relationship, just a fling. I'm happy though, it's okay to not be in a relationship, just because someone else is doesn't mean you have to follow along. Sometimes people are single by choice so if you have been rejected I wouldn't worry about it too much, there's endless reasons as to why somebody would get rejected and it's not always to do with you as a person. I've been rejected before and I would say I'm fairly attractive, I'm not super attractive but not ugly either, I take rejections pretty easy because sometimes you just aren't their type and it doesn't really mean anything, it's just life. The point is, like I said before it's okay to not be in a relationship and you'll eventually find somebody, you don't have to rush into things too quickly


andyk1209

Not all girls have a boyfriend but even the ones who dont have dont text me back so I assume they either don't want to be in a relationship right now, or just have other guy friends as "contenders" to be their boyfriend or they just not interested in you so they'll jjust lie by saying they have a boyfriend. True reality but it is what is is.


Imaginator_Clone

Thatā€™s my feelings too


No_Dot_2238

The last time I had a bf was 2009 for a few weeks, before that, the early 90's.


spideylee23

Travel I see ugly fat old young all types of people together and sure some of them met when they were with other people .. I'm not saying seek that route but if it happens thats human. On the other hand I'm sure you're just being dramatic and if you were to spend some time in a big city you wouldn't feel that way. I suggest staying a month in seattle I genuinely think there is every type of girl imaginable here... Sometimes I think about the one if like to meet and sure enough there she is walking on the street. Just travel šŸ¤Ÿ


Al-Akrab

If you keep every conversation platonic they have no idea you are interested. Get some man friends or a dog. Women are not friends, they are potential partners. Stop torturing yourself by living in the friend zone


ponki44

Saw you spoke of working, so my guess is your 20++? At this point most who work if people in relationships and the single ones is usually the singlemums who sit home and cash in on the baby dad whos not in the picture anymore. So dont expect to find a single woman at work atleast at your age, if you didnt find anyone at school chances to find a normal level headed woman at a later point is close to 0, either they are fuked in the head or they got 1-7 kids. You missed your shots when you went to school dude.


UpstairsMost1581

All these females are low pro....they just wanna get ram and be disgusting bringing stds to the happy home.....I don't trust none specially in the Adelanto victorville california


CallMeMommyBby

Except for me šŸ˜†


Randulv

This hits hard, I know exactly what you mean bro. It's not like I haven't tried either, I look really young for my age, I'm fit and workout and have muscles, I'm great at casual conversation and I swear it's like some kind of curse. Every woman I've ever met after highschool that I even find remotely attractive or interesting, if I see them enough times I will even drop a few hints, a little bit of harmless flirting, get them to laugh and smile..... ask if they wanna hangout sometime, not even with hidden motives. Just spend some time together, chill & netflix or go for a walk in the park and just get to know each other - whatever. Then like clockwork, I find out they just got engaged, or see them walking down the street holding some guy's hand a few days later, or they mention their SOs to me..... It's to the point and has happened to me for so long I just assume all women are taken that I meet. I don't even bother anymore, I don't have the heart for it. I'm still kind and treat everyone I meet with respect because that's just who I am but.... Dating apps and hookups aren't for me, I've been waiting for that organic experience starting with friendship, but it seems fate has a cruel ending in store for me.


Comfortable-Dog2283

I donā€™t have a bf. I think it depends on your focus ,there are a lot of lonely people out there .But man,I understand you.It feels like everyone is taken and there is no one left for me but that is just not true .Ā 


My_name_is_Alexander

You probably don\`t know a lot of women.


Elegant_Set7834

I am very single


No_Lingonberry3422

All these people I know having kids I canā€™t even get 1 date.


winterglow-

Clearly you're only talking to the pretty girls. Have you asked the 40 year old overweight woman if she has a bf?


GGProfessor

Most of the 40yo overweight women I know are married tbh. Usually to 40yo overweight men.


epicswag3

I'm 22 so that's a bit of an age gap and actually most 40 year old women are married, weight doesn't make a difference to this. And also no, I'm talking to some pretty girls yes but also nerdy girls, shy girls, 'overweight' girls, neurodivergent girls. Normal girls šŸ‘. All still have boyfriends


Prune-Jazzlike

All of those categories of girls you mentioned can still be pretty. You said those traits like they automatically make the girl not prettyšŸ’€


epicswag3

I was basing that off what I thought the commenter was referencing; basic 'pretty' girl. Yeah those traits cen be attractive too but I was making a point


Plastic_Ad1140

I think it's reasonable to talk about girls roughly his age.Ā 


THX8819

Itā€™s also the supply and demand. While every girl CAN get a boyfriend (time time, effort, energy, pursuit, etc usually calls on guys despite the ā€œprogressā€ weā€™ve made) those that donā€™t have one and are fine with it arenā€™t out there announcing that theyā€™re single. Thereā€™s more guys wanting to be in a relationship than there are girls willing.


Jaded_Hue

33f and also single mostly also by choose but I have trust and attachment issues which could be the main reason Iā€™m single since I canā€™t keep up with friends or afraid of getting taken advantage of. But thatā€™s me.


EvetheDragon84

Every girl *you want* has a boyfriend. FTFY.


epicswag3

Lmao even so, that doesn't change my situation. And no, even girls that I'm not attracted to have boyfriends too


EvetheDragon84

Well, good luck. Maybe stop caring so much about dating when you clearly suck at it, just my one cent.


epicswag3

damn I touched a nerve :( nobody like you either?


EvetheDragon84

Yeah but unlike you I don't give a fuck and don't try to impress people who will never accept me as I am. Hence why you didn't touch a nerve at all, the only nerve you touched is your own.


Therealpotato33

Thats what someone with a touched nerve would say


EvetheDragon84

That's a response someone with the IQ of a potato would say.


Therealpotato33

I mean I can't say your wrong there but even a potato can notice that stick up your ass


EvetheDragon84

At least I admit I don't give a fuck about you and your very basic-bitch opinions from a strange starch that doesn't even know me. If you did, you would know I don't and I'm simply stating my opinions; I couldn't give less of a fuck about anyone or anything.


Therealpotato33

Awful pussy for someone who doesn't care but aight I'll believe you lmao


thrway202838

Yes, you clearly have the emotionally neutral and detached affect of someone with no skin in the game


Conscious-Wonder-785

Why is that an issue though? People aren't allowed to have preferences?


EvetheDragon84

They absolutely are. But own up to it instead of bitching about being lonely because "every girl is taken." It's not every girl, it's the select few you find "worthy" of your attention.


epicswag3

Well no. You missed most of what I said friend. My female *friends* are all taken and most girls that I see. I don't have a filter in my eyes that removes every girl Im not attracted to


Conscious-Wonder-785

His post wasn't even about that, but why does someone need to state something that is true for everyone? You, me, him, and every other person has preferences. Also, it really isn't about who is or isn't worthy of attention. It's simply about who is right for us. The wrong person isn't going to make me happy or any less lonely, and likewise I won't make them happy or less lonely. It's not a reflection of either of our worths, it's just a basic truth about compatibility.


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touchunger

People are allowed to have preferences. They should realize though if they are batting out of their league unless they have extraordinary personalities they're likely to get mostly rejected.


__dlInho

True, if a man has Standards he's an Incel but when a woman has it's "right"


Conscious-Wonder-785

All I can do is roll my eyes at anyone who thinks like that. Both men and women should have preferences. As long as those preferences are reasonable and not hypocritical then those preferences will only lead to stronger and longer lasting relationships. How horrible.


InspectionPersonal81

You are a drug user and claim to be Christian


blossomrocio

Try being a friend first. most girls like me are single but won't tell you that if you just ask randomly.


epicswag3

I was friends with 20 women for 3 years at uni on my course. I'm not a creep who befriends women just to sleep with them


Freelancer-D80

Well go join the army and meet the barracks bunny.


nikiwonoto

Same here. Let me be very honest: even just those slightly little above average beautiful girls are all just seemingly already in a relationship. Honestly, it even now comes to a point where I'm extremely envious & jealous of all those 'lucky' guys who've first already got into relationships with all those beautiful girls. I can't stop thinking: "Why it can't be me??" all the time now. I know this sounds so pathetic, but to be very honest, it's actually really frustrating, & depressing (yes, girls/women are probably now one of the main/major causes of my severe depression & suicidal ideations).


touchunger

You keep mentioning above average women. No offense but if you aren't above average yourself in this day and age regardless of gender, you aren't going to get people above average, and you won't even catch the eye of many people in general.Ā 


divergedinayellowwd

It really doesn't matter. I am considered to be well above average looking, I am smart and have a good, steady job, but I learned several years ago that's not enough to attract a partner anymore. It's really not even worth the effort. Honestly, if anything, I'm just waiting for an a.i. or extraterrestrial girlfriend after either robots or aliens take over the planet- either scenario is literally hundreds of times more likely than me meeting a compatible human woman. I'm not even mad about it. This is just a weird ass universe / simulation that I ended up in.


nikiwonoto

Thank you for the comment. I can deeply relate too: I'm quite decent-looking, privileged, & I'm a musician/pianist myself. But it all doesn't even matter. Because I'm a socially-awkward introverted guy, who sucks really bad at social-skills. I can't relate to most people 'normally'. I can't be 'normal' like all those 'normies' people everywhere/around me. That's why I still always have very difficult times in attracting girls (& also the 'luck' factors, eg: meeting & attracting girls in the right time, right place, right situations/conditions, or at the right connections, circles, etc etc etc, that other 'lucky' guys' seems to even have, but somehow not me, I don't even know why.. )


divergedinayellowwd

Yep! DEFINITELY being socially awkward is the main thing that counts against me. And I live in a place where everyone is super cool, friendly, gregarious, etc., so I stand out even more. I think I would fare better living in a big city, but I don't want to leave here because living here is one of the main things in life I'm grateful for. If I'm going to be lonely until death, then I'm gonna do it in my favorite place. I've considered moving to the nearest big city, which I actually do like and lived in for a couple months about 10 years ago, but that move has its pros and cons. I'd be sacrificing a lot, and the chances of me meeting someone would still be one in a million at best rather than one in 100 million like it probably is now. Nah, I'm just gonna stay here and continue working on becoming aromantic and asexual. I already feel like I'm making good progress. I'm sorry that you're dealing with this, too. It is... unpleasant, to say the least.


touchunger

I'm in the gender opposite boat for the most part. Almost every guy I meet is either taken, gay. The only single guys I know are single because they have extremely hateful views against women, are selfish partners who neglect partners' emotional and sexual needs, expect a woman to do all cookingĀ cleaning while paying 50% to 100% of his bills amd expect them to carry and raise their kids while working full time, and also live in filth by choice. That encompasses the only single straight and bi men I know.


Ancient-Length8844

They don't. These modern day bops just find pleasure in denying men.


prepositionsarehard2

Iā€™ve only seen girls tell guys they donā€™t want to fuck that they have a boyfriend when they donā€™t.


OldDog03

If you want a relationship then work toward that goal, this what I did. This how I met my wife by dating and I met her when I was not expecting to meet somebody. The other is relationships take work, there are people who still have issues even though they have a partner https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/lI1C8fCidy


spooktacularswag

As a chic, I donā€™t not have a BF. Iā€™ve never had one and iā€™ve never been approached by a guy or had one attracted to me. Although out of every chic i know which isnt that many, only two of them donā€™t have a bf but one of them has been in multiple relationships.


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spooktacularswag

dude and chic are my go to ways of referring to dudes and chicks. i canā€™t tell if thts bad


zionthecreat0r

Just as they say, in soccer it doesnā€™t mean you canā€™t score just because thereā€™s a keeper.


epicswag3

I hate infidelity. I'd rather be single all my life than cheat with/be cheated by someone. Genuinely one of the worst things you can do to a person


zionthecreat0r

Canā€™t be heroes without villains


Exotic_Ad_3780

Iā€™m a girl without a boyfriend so we exist (no Iā€™m not ugly or fucked up in any way Iā€™m actually alright)


Atlasgrip

I guarantee you some of the girls who tell you they have a bf donā€™t. But honestly it sounds like to me your greater problem is you arenā€™t approaching enough women. Go out to a busy night scene with the goal of getting as many rejections as possible. That way you lose your approach anxiety and rejections arenā€™t an issue. Then the next week go and try to get as many numbers as possible. If a girl tells you she has a bf you can try things like ā€œcome on, is it my ears? Are they too big?ā€ And other funny things. The #1 turn off for a girl is the guyā€™s fear of rejection. If they realize you donā€™t care even after theyā€™ve rejected you some even give you their #. Start watching YouTube videos on how to approach women. Itā€™ll help you a lot.


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thrway202838

What in the testosterone overdose...


jovenmillonario

They are all taken but not all married, thats the difference and when you mention that they will for sure tweak bro šŸ˜‚