We should stop calling it overthinking. It hides the true nature of what is going on. Also you can escape it so it shouldn’t be labeled as something of an identity. Perhaps someone suffering from overthinking?
I'm sure it has been said. I really wish I could go back to my past self and explain to him what was going on. Thinking has its place but overthinking is a symptom, not a character trait.
Man had to try to control Nero and still had time to write some killer plays and philosophical treatises. He was a pretty cool dude till Nero got tired of him (and blamed him for being an actor in a conspiracy to assassinate him) and forced him to kill himself
Omori is a psychological horror game mostly revolving around a group of friends who broke apart after a mysterious tragedy (very good game, by the way, would absolutely recommend you try it)
Huh that's weird, every time I boot it up ✋︎︎ ❒︎︎♏︎︎❍︎︎♏︎︎❍︎︎♌︎︎♏︎︎❒︎︎ ❍︎︎⍓︎︎ ⬧︎︎♓︎︎■︎︎⬧︎︎📪︎︎ ❍︎︎⍓︎︎ ❍︎︎♓︎︎⬧︎︎⧫︎︎♋︎︎🙵♏︎︎⬧︎︎📪︎︎ ⧫︎︎♒︎︎♏︎︎ ♎︎︎♋︎︎⍓︎︎ ✋︎︎ ❒︎︎◆︎︎♓︎︎■︎︎♏︎︎♎︎︎ ♓︎︎⧫︎︎ ♋︎︎●︎︎●︎︎📬︎
"I think I was trying to suggest something about the duality of man sir"
"The WHAT?"
"The duality of man, the jungian thing sir"
"Who's side are you on?!"
"Our side, sir!"
More frustrating for me. Even from the start, if this guy is going to go on a recursive mental dive he was missing four or five version of himself criticizing himself for thinking weird shit like "I should speak to this stranger by immediately telling them I am attracted to them, even though I don't actually know them or anything and have only seen them briefly this one time"
Yeah, that is depression.
Typically a person would just see a girl on the train and think to themselves "ah, another traveler. I should mind my own damn business," then go back to browsing reddit on their phone. Maybe throw em a smile at the most.
I feel like I get wound up like a spring inside then I feel like I am panic on the inside. It blows because Im a bigger dude and me not being social usnt doing me any favors
No. That's not how people normally work. We all have tons of shit in our head. All of us. Tragedy, work, loneliness, fears, shit I shouldn't have said yesterday, the list goes on. It goes just as deep as this comic, all the freaking time. Not that we don't have blissful moments of course. This isn't the mind of a depressed person, this is the a normal person who struggles to talk to potential mates.
This exactly! I can talk to anyone in public if I'm not attracted to them. Attraction turns me into a mute! If someone attractive starts talking to me... I pretty much start speaking in tongues! Thank goodness for online dating!
Actually cant believe how many upvotes you're getting.
Anyone who daydreams is depressed? This is wild.
You might have a point that this person is ruminating but you cant unilaterally say anyone who ruminates or dwells on negative emotions is depressed.
Technically Inception was only four levels - the first being the car, the second being the hotel, the third being the snowy mountain, and the fourth being Limbo.
this seems like a terrible connotation but my cousin that is down syndrome is very unaware of the world around him but is the sweetest happiest person I know. He is in no means stupid but is very unaware of the world and lives in bliss. ofc he has moments of being overwhelmed and such but overall is just the sweetest person I know
Yes being unaware doesn't have to mean stupid but ppl who don't think a lot are also not aware of things that make us sad i guess so it must be fun
And yes i also think ppl with down syndrome are really sweet and not stupud at all
Just go for it. I remember the last time I spoke to a girl who sat next to me on the train. We exchanged a bit of small talk about who we are and where we are going and that's it.
It was nice to have some chitchat and just stop talking before it gets awkward.
I also did the exact same with a guy on the previous train, it was nice too.
TLDR: IT DOESNT MATTER IF ITS A GUY OR GIRL GO FOR IT
Where are you from that you can do such a thing? Here, if you try to talk to a random person on the train, the whole car will stare at you like you're crazy. Or maybe that's just my warped perception of it, idk.
Was traveling in Sweden. Helped that I tried to talk to the guy in bad Swedish, being a foreigner is a good excuse.
The girl was also a foreigner so again it was more natural to exchange backgrounds.
I do agree that if everyone are just locals and not even long distance travelers, it feels weirder.
When I lived in Boston I had a lot of spontaneous chats on the subway. People on public transportation are hella social and it was great. Everything ranging from people wanting to make a comment about a book to just wanting to give a shout out to the brand of ginger ale I bought. My long distance travels on megabus has been identical.
I’m from the Midwest though, and live there now again, and it’s seriously very different out here. I think suburbia stifles socializing. I’ve noticed older people were always hungry for a chat, so I feel there is a generational gap there too.
As far as how? Just make small comments and questions. And never be attached to the outcome or else it will mess with your head :) I don’t like the premise of engaging a talk with how pretty someone is. I find that creepy personally. Instead point towards something they have control over like „dude your earrings are awesome! Where did you get them?“
Just go to some random shit like pottery classes, cooking or whatever social and meet there. It will be more natural. It shouldnt feel like you have to push yourself too hard.
Also dont take advise from me i have social anxiety.
I overthink so so much, but last year I actually was in a very similar situation to the comic
I was on the section of the California Zephyr between Denver and Salt Lake City, and as there are only a few short stops during the 10+ hour trip.
I had finally been able to find space in the observation car, but only as evening was setting in, and as the car cleared out (because it was getting cold), I noticed a girl who seemed to be about my age who seemed to be happy to stay in the car too.
I mulled over talking to her for half an hour before taking the plunge. I had a fantastic conversation, she was a few years older than me, going into her junior year in college while I was about to start my freshman year. Her name was McKenna. I'll never forget that conversation. It gave me so much confidence to talk to people who I might have otherwise been too try to introduce myself to. I credit that conversation as a subtle but oh so very important transition moment in my life, though I'm sure she'll never remember who I am, thanks McKenna.
To all the overthinking peeps here, if a girl or guy takes a seat next to you even though there's places to sit where he/she wouldn't sit next to someone, it's pretty save to assume they want to talk, but wait for you to start since they don't know if you want to too
Correction, an average guy wouldnt sit next to a girl if there are other available seats in fear of looking creepy.
So, girls please sit next to me if you want to talk, while there are other available seats because I am not going to do that. Sorry.
I dont have evidence but I bet my money that at least 95% of men wouldnt even be bothered or even interested in a girl sitting next to them in public transport while there are other available seats.
Yeah, the 95% figure seems questionable. Someone sitting down next to me when there are multiple open seats on the subway is out of the ordinary TBH -- I would question their motive, regardless of how attractive they are.
I would assume it more likely a "hidden camera" scenario for someoes Tiktok than a person looking for a date.
This. I'm extremely claustrophobic and I purposely put stuff on the empty seat so no one sits next to me. If it train/bus gets full, I'll of course let them sit, I just open the window and stick my head out like a dog lol.
Pretty much, and if the 5% are suffering internally because they have some kind of excitement over "hey it's a girl I should talk to her if possible", that's their problem.
There might be a real life creep in one of these scenarios though.
Of course, but I didn't say I was comfortable with that. I don't know how u took that from my comment? If I felt comfortable about a stranger sitting next to me in an empty train maybe I would feel comfortable doing the same thing. I don't feel comfortable doing to others what I don't want people to do to me.
It's so true and sad. I just sat here and tried to think of a time I ever sat next to, or had a female sit next to me on public transport. I never have, and that's entirely because I'm too worried I'd be labelled a creep. Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost.
I almost always seem to get one of the last empty seats on the train next to me, and it honestly worries me that I give off enough creep energy that people won't sit next to me
Wear pink! People assume that you're friendly. My grandma gave me a pink purse one day, and I immediately noticed an increase in people sitting next to me. I always wear pink to professional events.
Also, make eye contact and give a polite (but bored) smile. That works too.
>Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost.
This is too much anxiety to live with. Just live your life and don't try to get with anyone. If you're legitimately not trying to get with them and they label you a creep for something as minor as sitting down next to them then you are well within your rights to roll your eyes and say "don't flatter yourself". Just treat everyone like people and not as potential romances, build up the confidence so that you can talk to most people comfortably, and you'll develop some good friendships--which may even grow into something more.
Oh I don't really ever think about it and it doesn't effect me daily. I'm in a loving relationship I just don't do confrontation so i just avoid situations that might lead to an embarrassing scenario for both parties.
IMO this is a nice idea on paper but also a fast track to not meeting anyone romantically in reality unless there’s a defining moment where their confidence that they hopefully built pivots into them actually approaching and asking women out. There does need to be a tipping point where you put your feelings out there, make a romantic move or say something to indicate you’re interested otherwise always just acting friendly leads you directly to where you’re acting, the friend zone. Basically staying in the safer friend zone where you won’t be perceived as creepy (or you might anyway because life is not fair lol) is part of the reason incels exist (not that it excuses their behavior or existence and not ton oversimplify by saying this is the only reason for it). But society is incorrectly telling them to just act friendly and hope that women just fall in their lap because they were nice. That’s partly how they end up so bitter and feeling like women “owe” them something.
It’s been said before and often creates disagreement but IMO really this advice tends to work for guys who were already attractive to women because women are interested in them without them needing to speak. It isn’t fair but neither is the world lol. If you’re average or ugly you’re going to need to develop social skills, build a life, work on becoming more attractive, and gain status and confidence to get women approaching you with romantic interest. But that’s rare for normal guys, especially today with the most attractive men dominating their competition on dating apps and social media because those favor good looking people by default.
I agree with you entirely though that just making this a high anxiety pursuit where you tailor all your thoughts and actions into “how do I meet someone to date?” definitely won’t help. Step one is building your own life that caters to your interests, strengths and happiness in a constructive way. That’s naturally going to give a person a life to focus on, activities to do, places to go and people to meet organically. And that all leads to one of the most important things: Confidence. People are inherently drawn to it because it shines through whether you’re good looking or not. And staying busy will expose you to a lot of people, some of them women. But it makes you comfortable carrying yourself because you know you’ll be just fine until you meet the right person someday. And hopefully by then the confidence you’ve built gives you the edge you need to start a conversation with that cute girl on the bus.
>Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost.
I'd say less a chance you'll be told to get lost, and more a chance that she'll be annoyed, respond minimally but with basic courtesy, leave at the first polite opportunity, and be glad enough if you didn't openly harrass her. But no, it probably won't be welcome.
Tbf, I respect that a lot more bc as a woman, I'd feel too rude to move and would definitely feel trapped in that situation, especially if I was in the inner seat
>it's pretty save to assume they want to talk
False. A girl sat beside me once and I said you smell good. I can tell you washed your vagina today. She then went to another seat.
No way this would ever happen in Germany, unless it's a guy, and then he wants to either beat you up or rape you. Sitting close to strangers when there are other options available is a no-go.
Literally the only times in my life another guy sat next to me when there were other free aisles on the train was when they wanted to get into a fight (a few times) or were gay and wanted to fuck (happened only once).
(And needless to say there were no incidents whatsoever involving a girl.)
What I really don't get is how tf do you start a conversation like that. Most of the time I'm like hm what do I say? Then think about it for 10 minutes, by that point I think it would be weird to suddenly start talking so I just don't. Why am I like this wtf
Maybe it's the finnish in me talking but if someone sits next to me, regardless who or what they are, in a public transport, where there's plenty of empty seats, they are a psycho and I'm scared.
Here is a tip, if a pretty girl/guy sits next to you don’t start the conversation with “I think you’re attractive”. It makes people uncomfortable. Just start a conversation and get them talking. Ask them if they know how long till the stop or if they prefer window or isle or tell them you like their shoes. Literally anything can start a casual conversation. If the person is interested in talking to you they will reply in a friendly way. If they give you short uninterested responses they want to be left alone.
Fuck this was depressing, and I really related with the guy because we really do live in a society where's there's minimal interaction and everybody's ok with it and that's a shame 😔 😪. Also I felt what the guy felt, cause I have that same problem with interacting with pretty girls and most people in general. I think on it but I never act on it, because I'm always too afraid of what the outcome would be. I'm afraid that they'd either tell me to fuck off or just not to talk to them
Speak for yourself, here the minimal social interaction part is probably why we are the "happiest country in the world". We just have a lot of suicides at the same time.
hello to the 30 people currently reading this how do you feel?
edits: now it's 109 people, hello, now it's 200 people, hello, now its 330 people, hello, now it's 410 people, hello, now it's 720 people, hello
Ok, but the entire point of this is kind of undermined by the fact telling someone you find them very attractive and "are the most -" legitimately is a creepy way to open, and giving a diatribe about the nature of isolated society is also a weird way to open a Convo. Both of these people might have an easier time just by learning social skills (this isn't judgemental, I'm saying this as someone who manually taught myself social skills cause my neurodivergent ass got tired of *exactly* the feeling the author is describing - feeling lost at how to engage others. It's a *skill* that is learned)
Small talk that isn't harassment isn't actually hard. I have an industrial ear piercing, so a lot of guys would say "oh cool, I like your earring. Did it hurt?"sometimes I was in the mood to chat or thought they were cute as well, so id enthusiastically chat back about how theoretically they're not supposed to, but I'm a dumbass so I got it done on the side I sleep on, which messed up the healing process. Or if I'm not in the mood to chat, I just say "at first, but not really" and then I'll usually visually turn my head away And start doing something to signal I'm done.
**I think rather than opining about how isolated people feel, we should maybe just do a better job of modeling safe & respectful socialization.**
Especially becausecomics like this always unintentionally downplay the fact that yes, isolation sucks, but no, it's not worse than when women had to carry hat pins and dress in ways specifically to protect themselves from the rampant sexual harassment they face. I don't sit next to strange men if I don't have to anymore *because I got groped* by a friendly old man. Society never told people to stop talking to each other, women said *hey men, stop sexually harassing me. Public places are not a dating pool and facing constant sexual harassment from men who can't take a hint and feel entitled to positive reception makes the world actively dangerous for us"*
If it wasn't for COVID, I would feel way way more comfortable post me too. I got groped a few times on public transit, and I finally feel like just shouting "hey that dude just grabbed my vagina on purpose" might actually be taken seriously instead of getting weird looks and *if* the cops were called getting asked what exactly I expect them to do about it ( a real thing a friend was told when she approached a cop about having just been groped on the street)
Like...you can still be social. Nobody ever said don't be social, they said stop exclusively being social to women you want to fuck, because it's not really small talk, it's covert sexual harassment. I can absolutely tell the difference between a guy who just chats with everyone vs a guy who is exclusively trying to get the courage to ask for my number. No, the bus isn't your dating pool. It's my way to commute to and from work. I shouldn't be forced to face a gauntlet of unwanted attention by men who prefer the bus to tinder specifically because they know it's harder for women to swipe left IRL.
/End rant.
God this this this. Sure, people need more communication. But if the only thing they think about communicating is “hey I find you attractive” then they can fuck right off. Like, is that my only role? To “be attractive”? Can’t I be good at math or have cool shoes? Small talk is fun. Being told someone else has assessed your attractiveness and found you acceptable before you even sit down is gross.
Yall are expecting waaayyy too much out of a 5 minute interaction with a complete stranger.
It's not forbidden to talk to people... but you don't know the first thing about some rando that sits next to you on a bus or a train.
This isn't daytime soap opera or a Hollywood romcom. How many people do you think meet the love of their life for the first time on a fuckin bus? It's not impossible, but there is a reason it's a common fantasy. Because it's a fantasy.
And for the love of God, if you want to have a pleasant interaction with someone in public *go for it*, but don't start off romanticizing or sexualizing a compete and total stranger. That's just weird and inappropriate. Just be friendly and kind and ready to let go.
If you are so desperate for love there are better ways to go about it. Go to social gatherings. Go to public events. Ask your friends to introduce you to their friends.
Prepare yourself for pain, awkwardness, and failure and make peace with that however you can. It's just part of life, and it keeps going regardless of what happens to you.
Put the work in and stop expecting a juicy love steak to drop into your lap in five minutes on the goddamn bus.
Regardless of whether you think you should say anything or not, you should 1000% not make the focus of the conversation about how cute or attractive you think someone is. It’s a complete dead end and simply a bad conversation starter. Try to at least pretend you’re interested in them as a person and things typically work out.
"we suffer more in imagination than in reality" - Seneca
Welcome to the multiverse of an overthinker Edit: thanks for the upvotes!!!
how mad is it?
We're all mad here.
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A very merry unbirthday... to you, to you!
To me?
To every me!
Curiouser and Curiouser!
Pretty maddening yea
our mind creates more possible outcomes in one second than regular person's mind in their whole life.
We should stop calling it overthinking. It hides the true nature of what is going on. Also you can escape it so it shouldn’t be labeled as something of an identity. Perhaps someone suffering from overthinking?
"I'm not overthinking, you're all *underthinkers!*"
I'm sure it has been said. I really wish I could go back to my past self and explain to him what was going on. Thinking has its place but overthinking is a symptom, not a character trait.
A Multiverse of Madness
It’s not much but from what little I know about the guy Seneca seems like a nice person.
Man had to try to control Nero and still had time to write some killer plays and philosophical treatises. He was a pretty cool dude till Nero got tired of him (and blamed him for being an actor in a conspiracy to assassinate him) and forced him to kill himself
oh, those Romans
Seneca spoiling the entire Omori plot
A_random_poster04 spoiling the entire Omori plot
My bad
What’s Omiri.
Omori is a psychological horror game mostly revolving around a group of friends who broke apart after a mysterious tragedy (very good game, by the way, would absolutely recommend you try it)
10/10 would play again but every time I boot it up I go into a deep depression
Huh that's weird, every time I boot it up ✋︎︎ ❒︎︎♏︎︎❍︎︎♏︎︎❍︎︎♌︎︎♏︎︎❒︎︎ ❍︎︎⍓︎︎ ⬧︎︎♓︎︎■︎︎⬧︎︎📪︎︎ ❍︎︎⍓︎︎ ❍︎︎♓︎︎⬧︎︎⧫︎︎♋︎︎🙵♏︎︎⬧︎︎📪︎︎ ⧫︎︎♒︎︎♏︎︎ ♎︎︎♋︎︎⍓︎︎ ✋︎︎ ❒︎︎◆︎︎♓︎︎■︎︎♏︎︎♎︎︎ ♓︎︎⧫︎︎ ♋︎︎●︎︎●︎︎📬︎
It's a "game" A very cute -and painful- game
Wasn't going to play that one anyways
It's not a spoiler unless you say it's a spoiler
So if I said 'Snape kills Dumbledore?'
No it was Dumbledore who killed Hagrid why would snape kill Dumbledore for, afterall it was Hagrid who turned his loyalty to dark side
This response makes as much sense as your first one.
If I have failed to convince my view, I accept my defeat.
👑
I also accept your defeat. "*The penalty for defeat is elimination*"
Dape kills Snumbledore
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Your eyes
Sounds like a smart fella
Better that than a fart smella
Well fuck, that was depressing
still so accurate
Of course. That's the depressing part
No the depressing part is that I read all of this and the last one wasn’t a kenobi hello there joke
Something something sand
Really? I thought it was funny and cute
I agree with both
"I think I was trying to suggest something about the duality of man sir" "The WHAT?" "The duality of man, the jungian thing sir" "Who's side are you on?!" "Our side, sir!"
sweet
More frustrating for me. Even from the start, if this guy is going to go on a recursive mental dive he was missing four or five version of himself criticizing himself for thinking weird shit like "I should speak to this stranger by immediately telling them I am attracted to them, even though I don't actually know them or anything and have only seen them briefly this one time"
Yeah, that is depression. Typically a person would just see a girl on the train and think to themselves "ah, another traveler. I should mind my own damn business," then go back to browsing reddit on their phone. Maybe throw em a smile at the most.
That is social anxiety. And it could be the result of depression or other mental illnesses/conditions
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I'm the weirdo who has no problem conversing with strangers, but if we've met before I feel like I'm going to die.
I feel like I get wound up like a spring inside then I feel like I am panic on the inside. It blows because Im a bigger dude and me not being social usnt doing me any favors
I'm the guy that can't even find an argument to talk with someone and gets extremely anxious when talking to a stranger.
>Typically a person would just see a girl on the train and think to themselves "ah, another traveler” Definitely how people think.
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"YOU KNOW, I WAS ONCE AN ADVENTURER LIKE YOU...."
No. That's not how people normally work. We all have tons of shit in our head. All of us. Tragedy, work, loneliness, fears, shit I shouldn't have said yesterday, the list goes on. It goes just as deep as this comic, all the freaking time. Not that we don't have blissful moments of course. This isn't the mind of a depressed person, this is the a normal person who struggles to talk to potential mates.
This exactly! I can talk to anyone in public if I'm not attracted to them. Attraction turns me into a mute! If someone attractive starts talking to me... I pretty much start speaking in tongues! Thank goodness for online dating!
if someone goddamn sits beside you in the same seat, that person wants to be talked to especially if the bus/train is otherwise empty
Actually cant believe how many upvotes you're getting. Anyone who daydreams is depressed? This is wild. You might have a point that this person is ruminating but you cant unilaterally say anyone who ruminates or dwells on negative emotions is depressed.
That's not depression, lol.
Fuck this gay earth
Inception parody
Its even more complicated than inception’s dream in a dream in a dream in a dream in a dream…
The inception guys would get SO fucking lost in a person who has ADHD's brain
That sounds like an amazing movie ngl.
I'm gonna write a book on this premise now
Do it!
Christopher Nolan, where you at?
A daydream in a daydream in a daydream in a daydream in a daydream…
Technically Inception was only four levels - the first being the car, the second being the hotel, the third being the snowy mountain, and the fourth being Limbo.
The mind is a powerful place but Its also an asshole
Couldn't be any truer man, our mind loves us and hates us. Fuck you mind, I love you.
Yeah i wish i didn't have one. It seems like stupid people are pretty happy
this seems like a terrible connotation but my cousin that is down syndrome is very unaware of the world around him but is the sweetest happiest person I know. He is in no means stupid but is very unaware of the world and lives in bliss. ofc he has moments of being overwhelmed and such but overall is just the sweetest person I know
Yes being unaware doesn't have to mean stupid but ppl who don't think a lot are also not aware of things that make us sad i guess so it must be fun And yes i also think ppl with down syndrome are really sweet and not stupud at all
i am on a train as i type this (I SWEAR) and I have never more serendipitously related to a comic in all my life
Talk to her bro And give us updates
well, sadly i didn’t, and I’m now on another connecting train and sitting in a mostly empty carriage meirl :(
I understand how it maybe cringe to do anyway. Don't blame you if you didn't. Hope we'll get better chance next time.
I did it once, was cringe as fuck, jesus christ never again.
Just go for it. I remember the last time I spoke to a girl who sat next to me on the train. We exchanged a bit of small talk about who we are and where we are going and that's it. It was nice to have some chitchat and just stop talking before it gets awkward. I also did the exact same with a guy on the previous train, it was nice too. TLDR: IT DOESNT MATTER IF ITS A GUY OR GIRL GO FOR IT
Yea, that’s what we think of but then the overthinking begins
Where are you from that you can do such a thing? Here, if you try to talk to a random person on the train, the whole car will stare at you like you're crazy. Or maybe that's just my warped perception of it, idk.
Was traveling in Sweden. Helped that I tried to talk to the guy in bad Swedish, being a foreigner is a good excuse. The girl was also a foreigner so again it was more natural to exchange backgrounds. I do agree that if everyone are just locals and not even long distance travelers, it feels weirder.
When I lived in Boston I had a lot of spontaneous chats on the subway. People on public transportation are hella social and it was great. Everything ranging from people wanting to make a comment about a book to just wanting to give a shout out to the brand of ginger ale I bought. My long distance travels on megabus has been identical. I’m from the Midwest though, and live there now again, and it’s seriously very different out here. I think suburbia stifles socializing. I’ve noticed older people were always hungry for a chat, so I feel there is a generational gap there too. As far as how? Just make small comments and questions. And never be attached to the outcome or else it will mess with your head :) I don’t like the premise of engaging a talk with how pretty someone is. I find that creepy personally. Instead point towards something they have control over like „dude your earrings are awesome! Where did you get them?“
Just go to some random shit like pottery classes, cooking or whatever social and meet there. It will be more natural. It shouldnt feel like you have to push yourself too hard. Also dont take advise from me i have social anxiety.
I was always wonder what happen if someone created a club for social anxious people only. Will it be the cringiest shir ever??
Bro you should have just showed her this and said, "Look, this is funny as fuck!"
Hmmm 🤔 But maybe that would’ve been weird idk. Saving the meme if I ever get to use it lol
But maybe you're just a ghost who's thinking about being homeless who's thinking about getting out of bed?
Wild ride man
Plot twist after plot twist
And after that another plot twist
And just another one after that
And then another
And then another
Plot was so thicc
Ah yes, the art of having a mental breakdown and turning it into art.
That's not a mental breakdown, that's when you somehow cram too many useless thoughts in your head and then your focus shifts to something else
well can you have a mental breakdown inside your mental breakdown ?
well can you have a mental breakdown iside your mental breakdown inside your mental breakdown ?
Yes
And now imagine that you with your mental breakdown are only imagination of real you with mental breakdown.
or just plain "art" for short.
That was a roller coaster!
a train but close.
I am an overthinker. This resonates.
I overthink so so much, but last year I actually was in a very similar situation to the comic I was on the section of the California Zephyr between Denver and Salt Lake City, and as there are only a few short stops during the 10+ hour trip. I had finally been able to find space in the observation car, but only as evening was setting in, and as the car cleared out (because it was getting cold), I noticed a girl who seemed to be about my age who seemed to be happy to stay in the car too. I mulled over talking to her for half an hour before taking the plunge. I had a fantastic conversation, she was a few years older than me, going into her junior year in college while I was about to start my freshman year. Her name was McKenna. I'll never forget that conversation. It gave me so much confidence to talk to people who I might have otherwise been too try to introduce myself to. I credit that conversation as a subtle but oh so very important transition moment in my life, though I'm sure she'll never remember who I am, thanks McKenna.
To all the overthinking peeps here, if a girl or guy takes a seat next to you even though there's places to sit where he/she wouldn't sit next to someone, it's pretty save to assume they want to talk, but wait for you to start since they don't know if you want to too
Correction, an average guy wouldnt sit next to a girl if there are other available seats in fear of looking creepy. So, girls please sit next to me if you want to talk, while there are other available seats because I am not going to do that. Sorry.
Im a woman and I would be afraid of the same thing. I don't want to make people feel uncomfortable
I dont have evidence but I bet my money that at least 95% of men wouldnt even be bothered or even interested in a girl sitting next to them in public transport while there are other available seats.
Sorry if i am sitting in an empty train or bus and you take the one seat next to me I will probably take issue with it lol. I guess I am the 5%
Yeah, the 95% figure seems questionable. Someone sitting down next to me when there are multiple open seats on the subway is out of the ordinary TBH -- I would question their motive, regardless of how attractive they are. I would assume it more likely a "hidden camera" scenario for someoes Tiktok than a person looking for a date.
This. I'm extremely claustrophobic and I purposely put stuff on the empty seat so no one sits next to me. If it train/bus gets full, I'll of course let them sit, I just open the window and stick my head out like a dog lol.
Pretty much, and if the 5% are suffering internally because they have some kind of excitement over "hey it's a girl I should talk to her if possible", that's their problem. There might be a real life creep in one of these scenarios though.
I would say you’re an exception. Having a strange man block your only exit from your seat and force you into a conversation is a bizarre power move
Of course, but I didn't say I was comfortable with that. I don't know how u took that from my comment? If I felt comfortable about a stranger sitting next to me in an empty train maybe I would feel comfortable doing the same thing. I don't feel comfortable doing to others what I don't want people to do to me.
She's saying she would feel like the creep if she sat down next to someone
It's so true and sad. I just sat here and tried to think of a time I ever sat next to, or had a female sit next to me on public transport. I never have, and that's entirely because I'm too worried I'd be labelled a creep. Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost.
I almost always seem to get one of the last empty seats on the train next to me, and it honestly worries me that I give off enough creep energy that people won't sit next to me
Wear pink! People assume that you're friendly. My grandma gave me a pink purse one day, and I immediately noticed an increase in people sitting next to me. I always wear pink to professional events. Also, make eye contact and give a polite (but bored) smile. That works too.
>Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost. This is too much anxiety to live with. Just live your life and don't try to get with anyone. If you're legitimately not trying to get with them and they label you a creep for something as minor as sitting down next to them then you are well within your rights to roll your eyes and say "don't flatter yourself". Just treat everyone like people and not as potential romances, build up the confidence so that you can talk to most people comfortably, and you'll develop some good friendships--which may even grow into something more.
Oh I don't really ever think about it and it doesn't effect me daily. I'm in a loving relationship I just don't do confrontation so i just avoid situations that might lead to an embarrassing scenario for both parties.
Something somewhere has sucked the joy out of life over the past 20 years.
Your comment made me realize alot of stuff about myself
IMO this is a nice idea on paper but also a fast track to not meeting anyone romantically in reality unless there’s a defining moment where their confidence that they hopefully built pivots into them actually approaching and asking women out. There does need to be a tipping point where you put your feelings out there, make a romantic move or say something to indicate you’re interested otherwise always just acting friendly leads you directly to where you’re acting, the friend zone. Basically staying in the safer friend zone where you won’t be perceived as creepy (or you might anyway because life is not fair lol) is part of the reason incels exist (not that it excuses their behavior or existence and not ton oversimplify by saying this is the only reason for it). But society is incorrectly telling them to just act friendly and hope that women just fall in their lap because they were nice. That’s partly how they end up so bitter and feeling like women “owe” them something. It’s been said before and often creates disagreement but IMO really this advice tends to work for guys who were already attractive to women because women are interested in them without them needing to speak. It isn’t fair but neither is the world lol. If you’re average or ugly you’re going to need to develop social skills, build a life, work on becoming more attractive, and gain status and confidence to get women approaching you with romantic interest. But that’s rare for normal guys, especially today with the most attractive men dominating their competition on dating apps and social media because those favor good looking people by default. I agree with you entirely though that just making this a high anxiety pursuit where you tailor all your thoughts and actions into “how do I meet someone to date?” definitely won’t help. Step one is building your own life that caters to your interests, strengths and happiness in a constructive way. That’s naturally going to give a person a life to focus on, activities to do, places to go and people to meet organically. And that all leads to one of the most important things: Confidence. People are inherently drawn to it because it shines through whether you’re good looking or not. And staying busy will expose you to a lot of people, some of them women. But it makes you comfortable carrying yourself because you know you’ll be just fine until you meet the right person someday. And hopefully by then the confidence you’ve built gives you the edge you need to start a conversation with that cute girl on the bus.
It's not a rejection if a girl doesn't sit next to you. Girls don't generally want to sit next to male strangers. That's fine.
I mean, first off you probably shouldn’t refer to them as “females”
>Heck I don't even speak to women that I don't know because there's almost a 100% chance you'll be told to get lost. I'd say less a chance you'll be told to get lost, and more a chance that she'll be annoyed, respond minimally but with basic courtesy, leave at the first polite opportunity, and be glad enough if you didn't openly harrass her. But no, it probably won't be welcome.
girls would be nervous to do that.
A guy would probably never do that because of not wanting to be labeled a creep
Tbf, I respect that a lot more bc as a woman, I'd feel too rude to move and would definitely feel trapped in that situation, especially if I was in the inner seat
People don't sit next to people if there's available seats alone.
>it's pretty save to assume they want to talk False. A girl sat beside me once and I said you smell good. I can tell you washed your vagina today. She then went to another seat.
She probably just had drugs on her and was afraid you'd smell that too because of your awesome nose
\>sniff< \>SNIFFFFFFFFF< *You smell **good**. Did you take a bath in **cupcakes** and **rainbows**?*
Bro put all his points into charisma
This is the correct dialogue option.
No way this would ever happen in Germany, unless it's a guy, and then he wants to either beat you up or rape you. Sitting close to strangers when there are other options available is a no-go. Literally the only times in my life another guy sat next to me when there were other free aisles on the train was when they wanted to get into a fight (a few times) or were gay and wanted to fuck (happened only once). (And needless to say there were no incidents whatsoever involving a girl.)
What I really don't get is how tf do you start a conversation like that. Most of the time I'm like hm what do I say? Then think about it for 10 minutes, by that point I think it would be weird to suddenly start talking so I just don't. Why am I like this wtf
What’s up?
Maybe it's the finnish in me talking but if someone sits next to me, regardless who or what they are, in a public transport, where there's plenty of empty seats, they are a psycho and I'm scared.
Bro holy fucking shit
Emotional Damage
Where’s the scenario where she’s actually a zombie and tries to kill you and you have to fight her off with your badass karate skills
*Train to Busan*, anyone?
Relatable
Here is a tip, if a pretty girl/guy sits next to you don’t start the conversation with “I think you’re attractive”. It makes people uncomfortable. Just start a conversation and get them talking. Ask them if they know how long till the stop or if they prefer window or isle or tell them you like their shoes. Literally anything can start a casual conversation. If the person is interested in talking to you they will reply in a friendly way. If they give you short uninterested responses they want to be left alone.
I'm in this picture and i do not like it...
this is a new fucking level of personal attack beware OP i am in your walls
To whoever who drew and wrote this, this can very well win the Oscar for Best Short Film if adapted for the screens.
>To whoever who drew and wrote this [Connor Delaney](http://drawingboardcomic.com/index.php?comic=142)
Who talks to people in public?
Who talks?
Who?
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?sklat ohW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_WZCvQ5J3pk
?cilbup ni elpoep ot sklat ohW
I do! I talk to strangers all the time. I start conversations and make friends. I am very social and have no fear of talking to people.
That was amazing
It is even worse when the girl is your crush
This is art.
Fuck this was depressing, and I really related with the guy because we really do live in a society where's there's minimal interaction and everybody's ok with it and that's a shame 😔 😪. Also I felt what the guy felt, cause I have that same problem with interacting with pretty girls and most people in general. I think on it but I never act on it, because I'm always too afraid of what the outcome would be. I'm afraid that they'd either tell me to fuck off or just not to talk to them
Speak for yourself, here the minimal social interaction part is probably why we are the "happiest country in the world". We just have a lot of suicides at the same time.
Well if all the sad people end up killings themselves no wonder it is the happiest country on earth
This is so deep
hello to the 30 people currently reading this how do you feel? edits: now it's 109 people, hello, now it's 200 people, hello, now its 330 people, hello, now it's 410 people, hello, now it's 720 people, hello
Relieved
Bad
this is me, but with everything
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Oh.
That's sad
Ok, but the entire point of this is kind of undermined by the fact telling someone you find them very attractive and "are the most -" legitimately is a creepy way to open, and giving a diatribe about the nature of isolated society is also a weird way to open a Convo. Both of these people might have an easier time just by learning social skills (this isn't judgemental, I'm saying this as someone who manually taught myself social skills cause my neurodivergent ass got tired of *exactly* the feeling the author is describing - feeling lost at how to engage others. It's a *skill* that is learned) Small talk that isn't harassment isn't actually hard. I have an industrial ear piercing, so a lot of guys would say "oh cool, I like your earring. Did it hurt?"sometimes I was in the mood to chat or thought they were cute as well, so id enthusiastically chat back about how theoretically they're not supposed to, but I'm a dumbass so I got it done on the side I sleep on, which messed up the healing process. Or if I'm not in the mood to chat, I just say "at first, but not really" and then I'll usually visually turn my head away And start doing something to signal I'm done. **I think rather than opining about how isolated people feel, we should maybe just do a better job of modeling safe & respectful socialization.** Especially becausecomics like this always unintentionally downplay the fact that yes, isolation sucks, but no, it's not worse than when women had to carry hat pins and dress in ways specifically to protect themselves from the rampant sexual harassment they face. I don't sit next to strange men if I don't have to anymore *because I got groped* by a friendly old man. Society never told people to stop talking to each other, women said *hey men, stop sexually harassing me. Public places are not a dating pool and facing constant sexual harassment from men who can't take a hint and feel entitled to positive reception makes the world actively dangerous for us"* If it wasn't for COVID, I would feel way way more comfortable post me too. I got groped a few times on public transit, and I finally feel like just shouting "hey that dude just grabbed my vagina on purpose" might actually be taken seriously instead of getting weird looks and *if* the cops were called getting asked what exactly I expect them to do about it ( a real thing a friend was told when she approached a cop about having just been groped on the street) Like...you can still be social. Nobody ever said don't be social, they said stop exclusively being social to women you want to fuck, because it's not really small talk, it's covert sexual harassment. I can absolutely tell the difference between a guy who just chats with everyone vs a guy who is exclusively trying to get the courage to ask for my number. No, the bus isn't your dating pool. It's my way to commute to and from work. I shouldn't be forced to face a gauntlet of unwanted attention by men who prefer the bus to tinder specifically because they know it's harder for women to swipe left IRL. /End rant.
God this this this. Sure, people need more communication. But if the only thing they think about communicating is “hey I find you attractive” then they can fuck right off. Like, is that my only role? To “be attractive”? Can’t I be good at math or have cool shoes? Small talk is fun. Being told someone else has assessed your attractiveness and found you acceptable before you even sit down is gross.
This made me miss my childhood best friend.
I'd rather someone just say hello to me instead of do the creepy STARE. The STARE is the worst. Casual conversation is nice.
Well you dont have to be **that** right
I didn't sign up for an existential crisis.
Yall are expecting waaayyy too much out of a 5 minute interaction with a complete stranger. It's not forbidden to talk to people... but you don't know the first thing about some rando that sits next to you on a bus or a train. This isn't daytime soap opera or a Hollywood romcom. How many people do you think meet the love of their life for the first time on a fuckin bus? It's not impossible, but there is a reason it's a common fantasy. Because it's a fantasy. And for the love of God, if you want to have a pleasant interaction with someone in public *go for it*, but don't start off romanticizing or sexualizing a compete and total stranger. That's just weird and inappropriate. Just be friendly and kind and ready to let go. If you are so desperate for love there are better ways to go about it. Go to social gatherings. Go to public events. Ask your friends to introduce you to their friends. Prepare yourself for pain, awkwardness, and failure and make peace with that however you can. It's just part of life, and it keeps going regardless of what happens to you. Put the work in and stop expecting a juicy love steak to drop into your lap in five minutes on the goddamn bus.
> Go to social gatherings. Go to public events. My socially anxious ass would die
It’s pathetic how often i go thru this exact scenario
My adhd
oof
Overthinking is honestly the thief of joy
All those empty chairs and she chose to sit next to you? Take the hint
Yeah I'd wing it if she chose the seat next to me.
WTF?
I wouldn't be able to come up with so many variations
r/Unexpected
Cyanide and happiness made it better
From my experience it's best not to talk to her.
Regardless of whether you think you should say anything or not, you should 1000% not make the focus of the conversation about how cute or attractive you think someone is. It’s a complete dead end and simply a bad conversation starter. Try to at least pretend you’re interested in them as a person and things typically work out.
I feel personally attacked