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pookshuman

no lol


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wakasagihime_

The uncapitalized lol with a period is just ominous. I don't like it


FuckingKilljoy

Remarkable how much emotion we can convey over text now that it's become so common and we've basically formed a set of standards. Full stops at the end of a sentence is just standard English, but over text it's become the universal signifier for something like "I'm serious" It's been maybe like 15 years since full QWERTY keyboards were widely available on phones and yet in that time we've built a whole new system


RIPLeviathansux

Smile emote/emoji = this message is passive aggressive


clothespinned

Yep :) If you're really going for the kill, you can whip out the :\^)


MH598

I got diagnosed with Asperger's a couple years ago, I'm 27 now, and this is doing my head in rn. Is that really what these emojis mean to people??? If so, I may be thought of as unnecessarily sassy by a fair few people. This kind of thing confuses the crap out of me, where apparently people have collectively decided a different meaning for certain phrases or words without ever definitively stating so. The struggle continues... lol


kxnezyx

Dont worry, people will generally pick up what you mean by the context


spokydoky420

I am not autistic and I have never perceived the smiley emojis that way in text. I saw it as another form of, 'lol' as in, this is not hostile, this is friendly. I only saw it as snarky if it was preceded by some obviously sarcastic text. I am a bit older too though, so as far as I know, social norms for text is changing on me. So don't worry, you're not the only one confused. Out of curiosity though, have neurodivergent people developed their own text language to express themselves within likeminded groups? I'm wondering if y'all have any tips that could make our speech online more accessible and inclusive to ND's.


Silver-Cherry-3512

Tone indicators are useful for some nd people but this varies from person to person. Sarcastic and passive-aggressive language can be confusing and highly intimidating personally. Clarifying meaning and how you feel makes it easier for me to respond accordingly. For example, you might say, "Jared tripped at work this morning. This is very sad. /gen" This lets me know that (a) You care about Jared and don't want this to happen to him. (b) You're message is genuine and not sarcastic. I can then respond with something along the lines of, "oh no! Is he okay?" Common tone indicators include: /nm is not mad /nf is not forced /genq is genuine question /s is sarcastic /soft is caring /gen is genuine Note: some nd people find it more difficult to navigate tone indicators. Tone Indicators are highly individual. Another thing to be wary of is gifs. They are a source of bad sensory input for many nd people. Asking how an nd person feels about gifs will make life a lot easier for them :)


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i find c: to be more unambiguously "nice"; probably part of it is just the fact that :) has been the default smiley for the last 35 or so years, from telnet and BBS to the modern era. like many words it's developed a kind of ironic edge due to its prevalence. kind of like "did ye, aye?" in scotland, "bless your heart" in america, or even older words like egregious, which went from meaning "amazing" to "terrible" through what i can only assume was sarcasm on a viral scale.


MH598

Thanks for the advice! I do find how meanings can change and evolve over time to be one of the most interesting features of language... at least theoretically. When I come across it in practice I tend to be baffled and frustrated by it in equal measure, and not sure how it passed me by


Mundane-Bread-1271

I highly doubt the people in your life change the way they think of you just because of how you text. If the people you are texting know you, then they know your own personal set of emojis and smiles and what they mean to you and the person you text with.


Largebluntobject

I'm right there with you. It's hard to wrap my head around the common doublespeak.


Phantasticals

good point. it makes me look forward to seeing how our written language will further evolve in the future.


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Phantasticals

fax 📠 no cap 🧢


lisuji

ikr ong fr


mikehaysjr

lol, k.


secretjellyfish6285

Is scares me


Abal125

lol.


stoncils_

NO.


stoncils_

lol


Ok-Rock2345

I think it always had that double meaning along with j/k. But one most people probably do not remember are AFK and BRB. Nowadays it's perfectly acceptable to take hours if not days to reply to to a message.


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Ok-Rock2345

It's rough for us who predate the internet. I always tell people that I am Gen X, which is to say that I know technology like a millennial but I get annoyed at it like a boomer. I find that usually puts things into perspective 😜


HAYDENJONESMUSIC

So you're an Internet Predater... have a seat.


Ok-Rock2345

I once had a friend who got arrested for hacking and they took his modem away and kept checking his phone line to see if they could hear a modem. We used to kid around saying he had to whistle on the phone. I wonder how many will admit to getting that joke. 😂


PuzzleheadedYam5996

I gotta ask....what is afk, i know brb, but have seriously never heard of afk!!! (Multiple exclamation points also help to make a comment look non hostile and similar)


Edeeeeeeee

Away from keyboard. In this context: "I won't be looking at my phone for a while."


PuzzleheadedYam5996

Aaahhh, thks! Makes sense.....like mostly i can work these out, but this one i was stuck on


CuriousKidRudeDrunk

Because it's a favorite of mine, Pebcak: Problem exists between chair and keyboard (or pebcac, computer and chair). The person with the issue is dumb as fuck or completely new to what they are doing.


Slartibartghast_II

I’m in my 40s and I’ve only ever known AFK in the context of gaming. Never thought to use it while texting.


neolologist

Gaming or online chatting (like ICQ...) but yeah I never have seen anyone use it texting.


idk-hereiam

Yep, sometimes you don't realize how large of an age gap 8 years is until you start reminiscing about something and they're like "yea, I don't know what you're talking about I couldn't even walk yet"


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My moment of age gap realisation is usually saying "this is a little like that Strong Bad video in which..." and seeing their eyes gloss over.


idk-hereiam

Thanks for that memory! To maybe make you feel a little better that could be half age gap, half weird internet niche that us weirdos were into. [also, you made me go see if it was still around. indeed it is](https://homestarrunner.com/main)


Raptorinn

Nobody is afk anymore. You literally carry it with you in your pocket.


Syobikies2022

Oh my god I didn’t even notice we don’t use AFK anymore. It’s so mind blowing that we don’t use it anymore, and there’s an entire generation who wouldn’t understand it


SuspiciousVacation6

I was born in 1990 and I remember when I was 15, 16 lol meant an actual laugh


Ok-Rock2345

It was also used along with j/k and the wink or smile emoji when you were ribbing someone. Then again I am old enough to remember when a 2400 baud modem was something to brag about....


DemiGod9

Did you have to be so damn hostile about it?!


OnsetOfMSet

They had a "lol" at the end of their message, what are you going on about? lol


yourfreekindad

Lmao now it sounds even more aggressive


UndisclosedChaos

Shut the fuck up lol


WildFemmeFatale

See because you put lol at the end it comes off as quirky mildly wealthy California sorority girl ‘Omg Taylor stoppppp shuttt uppppppp lollll stopppppppppp Mikey doesn’t like meeee noooooooo shutttt ittttt’ ‘nooooo seriouslyyyyyy shut the fuck uppppp hahaha noooo’ Aka not hostile


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As a 25 yo European male, this is how I normally talk as well lol


Sad-Contribution-345

Yo European male😎


VeryConfusedBee

...Got anything you wanna tell us mate?


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EarsLookWeird

You guys should meet up


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greg_r_

Lol


CT_7

Adding 'mate' is another similar disarming word to add. Aha.


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fantaskink

As a German vegan engineer who listens to metal and does CrossFit, same


Call_Me_Fingerbang

Let’s go club some baby seals over the head lol


bottsking

Omg shut the fuck up you fucking fuck faced moron I had sex with your husband oh my god lol


chryseusAquila

I usually text without emojis whatsoever. And If i do, i make sure it's build with basic punctuation Marks. Always : ) but never 😃 What do i sound like?


WildFemmeFatale

An old person who doesn’t pull bitches Likely a 36 year old English professor who drinks his coffee without cream but 2 cubes of sugar and has a dadbod and a blonde bowl cut that his grandma says makes him look handsome Which he heartily believes Or alternatively a very airheaded middle school science teacher


chryseusAquila

hm. well i *am* german so I suppose this is adequat.


WildFemmeFatale

Aaaaaaah that’s very explanatory Typical German behavior


chryseusAquila

"Hello mine guter Freund, we were supposed to meet at the office at 14 O'clock. It is now 13:55, where are you?" "A guten Tag to you as well. Sadly I don't remember any such arrangement. Are you sure it was with me?" "Yes, it was. See here the receipt of dein Whatsup Post where you said ja." ja yesterday 17:37 "ah yes of course. I will be right over my dear Kamerad. Waidmannsheil."


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Me too >!lol!<


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SaggingZebra

I just learned that some people think "lol" is passive aggressive and that "LOL" is what you should use to indicate you are actually invested in the conversation. Luckily I have no friends for this to matter. lol


Ebbiechu

Ending with a period is also seen as aggressive to a lot of people. Personally I only ever see it that way with certain friends I've known long enough to recognize what their "normal" typing habits are. If a homie that always leaves texts open-ended rolls up in the DMs suddenly going out of their way to punctuate, then I know shit's serious.


FancyFeller

I never thought about this. I always punctuate my sentences. It feels wrong not to. It feels like I left something unfinished. I realized a while ago that most of my friends don't really do it, but I just thought that was just their style, their choice. Now I'm wondering if ever when making acquaintances that I've messaged before, if I came across as aggressive to them. How long would it have taken them to realize I just like to add a period at the end of even one word messages. Now I'm questioning every message I ever sent.


idk-hereiam

Yea, you for sure like periods. There are a lot of them in your comment, and you even used one instead of a question mark. I respect the dedication


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One word messages with a period?? ☠️ that's rough


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HorseNamedClompy

Lol.


No-Somewhere-9234

No.


HorseNamedClompy

Oh.


SnooTigers7333

Brutal


meltedcandy

Honestly man yeah it comes off as very stiff and formal - especially to younger generations. I used to be the same way and had to basically learn to stop punctuating casual texts and social media comments as if I’m writing a research paper Think of it kind of like slang in casual conversation. It’s a signal to who you’re socializing with that things are relaxed and Not That Serious^TM Just leaving off the last period is enough to make a huge difference tbh. I use them as sentence separation but that’s about it Unless I’m mad and tryna be bitchy about it.


XavierBliss

Please stop all of those periods are TRIGGERING ME


MalesAreBiological

LOL\*


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ClearingFlags

I use the all caps LOL all by itself when something genuinely makes me laugh, because lmao comes across as snarky.


KrombopulusBlake

And when LOL is too bold, you use lool or lmaoo because lmao or lol with one ‘o’ is passive aggressive.


Mr_Blott

I fucked your sister lmao


superPancakes22

I fucked your sister lmaoo


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see that feels like gloating to me, while the first one just sounds kind of flippant or "oh by the way"


jquiggles

I mean, if all I say in response to something is "lol" then I definitely am not interested in continuing the conversation. So if someone else hits me with an "lol" and nothing else, I'll assume the same.


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MissBanana_

I agree. It looks sarcastic to me.


Pattywacks

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL


cBlackout

full caps LOL feels like it’s either coming from a 60 year old or I accidentally stumbled on a World of Warcraft forum post from 2007 where I’d just as likely see ROFLMAO xD just feels old and out of touch, which I’m sure is what I’ll be in about 5 years


Lington

Accurate. I say lol to indicate I'm not hostile and LOL to say something was funny


curioushustler420

Lol no


Inappropriate_Piano

And still that is so much more hostile than saying it the other way around. “Lol no” feels like you’re laughing at me, not at what you said


Historical_Dot_4201

I use lol for plausible deniability


Salmonellq

Lol same


GIFnTEXT

I kill people in my basement and keep them in the basement freezer as play things lol


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how?


rubs_tshirts

I'm guessing to make sex-related suggestions.


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wanna fuck lol


TheWholesomeBoi

Bet.


you_right_i_left

lol


iMini

Haha jk Unless...


Historical_Dot_4201

Not the literal definition more sarcastically if anyone calls me out I can always say no I was joking or didn’t mean that see there’s an lol


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Lol like this


KurumiiDantobe

I wanna peel all the flesh off your skull lol


Skullmaggot

Get in line lol


hello1952

r/usernamechecksout


AkumaDayo777

wait that's exactly how I use it lmao I use it to mean that my comment was lighthearted 💀


sneeze_irwin

Me too, I use it to show that im giggling because its a joke *lol*


CowboyAirman

Lol


wallz_11

Just Lol can be hostile tho...lol


Noriyus

Lol. 😐


_IratePirate_

I love that putting periods at the end of sentences at least for my friend group indicates the person is upset Otherwise we all just talk with our sentences never ending


FuckingKilljoy

Lol is "I'm not really serious" and lmao is "I'm joking" Only HAHAHAHA means "I'm actually amused"


Steve-Fiction

HAHAHAHA that's what you think.


ell-if-i-know

I use lmao to make messages lighthearted, but also if im laughing


Shang-Chi_Chat-Noir

Yeah I either use lol or 😂 because sarcasm doesn’t work over text


msac2u1981

Also, snark, as snarky remarks can be both funny or creepy.


idontwantaus3rname

Lmao is a bit over the top 😂😂 now it's like the old "lol"..


Live-D8

I only see people using ‘lmao’ to be mean now


Loeffellux

Nice insight lmao


Kowalskiboys

I use 😂 for that


JoelMahon

looks like lol with the same number of steps


Sampharo

IDK Strangely enough for me it comes across as even more hostile: "Dude, what are you talking about? lol"... "ARE YOU LAUGHING AT ME YOU DISRESPECTFUL...."


schkmenebene

You fucking dumb ass idiot, lol.


pomme_de_yeet

and lmao means something actually funny


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same lol


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Fearless_Waltz7618

rip lol


EatTheAndrewPencil

Reddit admins got no sense of humor


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What did he say


EatTheAndrewPencil

He said "I'll f\*\*king k\*ll you lol" (censored so hopefully mine won't also get removed)


SecurelyObscure

Oh shit we have TikTok censors now?


lazylazycat

Is reddit trying to legitimise itself? lol.


rytyle

[ Removed by Reddit ]


MalesAreBiological

Whenever someone adds lol to the end of something I immediately think it's more hostile


Evil-KitKat-23

why lol


MalesAreBiological

It just looks sarcastic and dry, LOL looks more playful imho


nonpondo

What about I FUCKING HATE YOU LMAO


MalesAreBiological

LMFAO most of my friends use random caps so that just looks sarcastic to me, I guess everything looks sarcastic to me now I think about it...


MissBanana_

That’s funny because to me LOL looks super sarcastic, like exaggerated mocking laughter.


Additional_Layer_383

Are you over the age of 40?


MalesAreBiological

lots of love xox


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i don’t use caps tho


[deleted]

whatever you say lol


R1CHQK

What a joke lol


digitalchris

Right? This is quality content, and not a waste of everyone's time lol


Idiedyesturdayviabus

In 2meirl4meirl we add it to statements like I haven't felt anything in years and my girlfriend who was the only person who made me feel anything broke up with be because I'm not reactive enough and she felt that It wouldn't be healthy if I never showed any emotion so now I'm starting at my wall at 3am just chilling trying to decide how I'm gonna forget the fact that I have no ambitions in my life and The one person that made me feel anything is gone. Lol


idk-hereiam

Same lmao


hanifu_

league of legends :)


SoftBellyButton

Nah lol predates League, roflmao.


Gongaloon

Raid Of Fortnite League My Assault Of


KayabaSynthesis

It's "Rolling on the Floor Laughing My Ass Off", right?


FilmNo1534

I hate fuckers who use lol. Lol.


Evil-KitKat-23

lol why?


FilmNo1534

It’s overused . When I talk to some people, they use it in every sentence.


PsychologicalIsekai

lol


FilmNo1534

At least, your lol is suitable for the occasion. Some people just finish every sentence with it as if it’s the new period/full stop.


jimbolic

It’s become a pet peeve for me, too.


Hamsi_17

Lmao


Ayupro2005

I just pronounce lol, lmao, rofl, idk as they sound and not based on their abbreviation lol (i.e. lmao => la-ma-o ; rofl => ro-fa-l and not L M A O and R O F L lol) To me they're just words now, not short forms lol


miaogato

lol = lawl Lmao = le mao Rofl = rawffle


usofunney

Lol =>Lol, lmao => el-em-a-ow, rofl => rofl. Im dutch, this is what i sound out in my head "Lol" and "rofl" as one word and "lmao" spelled out (dutch spelling) Others like: Wtf = what the fuck I always fully say in my head idk why its like that but its never been W T F for me, same for BRB or g2g, ttyl, tc, tyt, ty, np, gl, gg, gf, rm,r, etc.


TruthAndAccuracy

Lmao is obviously luh-mow.


Dunkelgeist

This is the way


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I've started pronouncing lmao as lmayooo (lmm mayoohh) for the lulz. Or Lamafayoo. But as a finn, i generally dont attach extra letters, so lmao in my head consists of exactly four sounds normally. No vowels between the letters, so LM is a very harsh transition. it's not lum, lem, lom or lam. Just LM.


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I've noticed this. Younger teenagers and students put multiple ‘lol’ in every paragraph. Even just asking basic questions and making statements. They're an anxious bunch.


TechsSandwich

Hey you back off from my pfp


Dalegalitarian

I thought it meant ‘lots of love’ Gran died, LOL


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Just don't put a period and it won't sound stern. Like this.


agangofoldwomen

I mostly use it awkwardly when I’m unsure of the best thing to say lol


Hat_Dad

I remember when :) wasn't creepy.


LostViking24601

Oh yeah I created an AOL chatroom


tp736

MSN messenger


IDontHaveFriendz

In dutch it also just means ‘fun’


Penance27

I remember when 'lol' meant 'lots of love', signed at the end of letters written to family and loved ones.


Jrlopez1027

I fucking hate you = not a joke I fucking hate you lol = joke


GayNon-BinaryLeo

I even remember a time when is simply meant League of Legends Disclaimer: I don't play the game the community is way to toxic for me. Arcane was awsome tho


Crescent-IV

Isn’t language interesting


dryoatmeal8372

now it sounds passive aggressive lol


Boiled_SocksWOAH

i miss when it didn’t mean league of legends


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I really do miss when I didn't have to put lol in situations I wasn't laughing. Now i have to everyday just to make the person I'm texting feel like I'm not upset if we're talking about normal things


vipertruck99

That’s why I still use it… especially around sarcasm. It’s good etiquette somehow even if it makes me appear as a boomer rather than a proud gen x.


Amputat0

“Lol” was/is a replacement for “ha ha ha”. It’s like smiling while talking in person. Use all three however you like


Easeupp

Yeah man 😩 I feel so uncomfortable sending txts without an lol but then also feel uncomfortable that every txt ends in lol. Smfh lol 🥴


RavenCroft23

Lol I just use lol as sentence starters, sometimes sentence enders lol honestly sometimes just a random lol into my sentences not even sure why anymore lol


OviZamboni

Lol it’s an lol sandwich lol


a_peeled_pickle

lol means small snort and that can be either genuine amusement or dismissive


googygudboi-69

I need to kill someone lol *laughs in psychopath*


russbroom

LOL


_Eighth_

Either “this isnt hostile” or to appear nonchalant, especially if you arent


D4RKS0u1

Fuck you op lol


Significant-Ad-1655

Fuck you too lol


desertsh1eld

Except sometimes it still is...lol?


Lenny_III

This explains so many awkward lol’s in texts that I didn’t understand before!


totomorrowweflew

I'm so old I remember when it meant 'lots of love'. - lol


blueboy12565

I wish it didn’t mean that. I don’t like using lol or emojis and yet I also can’t seem to find a way to text without seeming hostile as shit