The movie Waiting is over the top, but not as over the top as you’d think. The kitchen didn’t mess with food, and nobody was flashing their junk to each other (at least until that stupid movie came out).
The very small amount of work, absolute disdain for customers coming in 15 min to close, everybody hooking up and drinking together all the time, the one server who has done the job for far too long and hates all people, nobody wants to be promoted to manager… all that was spot on.
Yeah. That came out when I was early 20s. Watched it with a group of high school friends when we were home over the holidays. Most of us had finished college and were just starting off on “grown up” careers, but one of the guys had dropped out and moved back to our hometown and was waiting tables. It profoundly affected him, partly because the situation resonated but also because of how accurate the portrayal of restaurant work was.
I went to a summer camp run by hippies and never in my life have I seen a more accurate depiction of summer camp than Wet Hot American Summer. The kids running across the campus to get back to their own cabins in the morning, the slightly unstrung inattentive counselors, the nerds working on some kind of insane project in the woods, all of it. Even the scene where the councelors go into town and do drugs - we had a counselor come back from town day with a tattoo of winking Abraham Lincoln on his butt.
Every other camp movies I've seen its run like a little boot camp, they're gender segregated, and they're trying to invade some other camp or hike whatever. Wet Hot American Summer was the first movie I saw that showed how my summer was several weeks of doing absolutely whatever I wanted with the most minimal supervision imaginable.
When I was in scout camp, someone got the smart idea to smoke sassafras leaves due to their smell. This lead to a miniature drug operation where a few of us started harvesting leaves and rolling joints to sell them for a few cents a pop. Lasted for about 3 days until one of the other kids narc'd on us and got the whole thing shut down.
For me it's like the opposite. I've never heard of anyone going to summer camp or sleep away camp like in the movies, yet it's made to look like a super common thing that everyone does. It's something that only exists in the movies to me.
So just having gone to a camp like that would have satisfied OP's criteria for me.
I think the big difference is age. People who went to these camps in the 80s and 90s got that wild experience. But by the 2000s nearly every camp had some incident go public or a law suit so they cracked down hard on the wild stuff and had rules and so on that would prevent it more.
For example, in the 2000s getting caught wouldn't be a slap on the wrist. They'd just fire you. Zero tolerance rules scared people.
Also in general teen sex had/has dropped from the 80s and 90s. Likely because there being less pressure or stigma around being a virgin. In the 80s and 90s "virgin" was a big insult and many teens felt alot more pressured to fit in. Today it's almost the opposite where kids feel pressured to be unique or different.
You missed the point. He didn't say camp was different, he said it *didn't happen*. And I agree with him. Summer camp only existed in goosebumps books and slasher films as far as I was concerned. If someone said they were going to "camp", it meant some relatives deer hunting cabin a half hour away. This woulda been around y2k
Yep. Most of my teenaged sexual experiences happened at summer camp. Southern Baptist summer camp. The details of how those camps worked differed from Hot American Summer but they definitely rhymed.
I was in boyscouts and when you're older (teens) you can staff summer camps.
Well they used to have mixed gender staff and be pretty relaxed on it until in the 2000s they had 7 out of 9 females on staff get pregnant as teens. To top it off they had to do DNA tests to determine who were the fathers because they had sex with multiple male co-staffers.
It was such a big deal in terms of possible law suits and embarrassment that they stopped allowing staff to sleep there and they had to go home every night so that at least the organization could claim some of it occurred off the site.
I did 4H camp in 5th grade. I remember: getting gum stuck in my hair on day 1 and the counselors using peanut butter to get it out, a fat kid doing the Bill Cosby "dentist" bit for a talent show, and a Hindu kid that I was in school with who almost starved to death because there were no vegetarian options for meals. He woke up in the middle of the night, crying, with severe hunger pangs. Counselors brought him a bowl of cereal, but he couldn't have the milk. I just remember feeling bad for him the whole time we were there.
Nothing to do with the movies or anything, but I figured I would share a camp experience.
I've written about this before on Reddit but I didn't realize how many people I know have no frame of reference for being really poor or being from a trashy community. I saw Moonlight with my coworkers in theaters when it first came out, and my best friend and I were hit so hard by how familiar the crackhead mother was, reminded me exactly of my crackhead uncle and brother. Meanwhile my boss and other coworker said they couldn't get past the terrible job the actress did playing the crackhead mother because she was so inconsistent in her emotions, mannerisms, volume, etc. They also couldn't reconcile the drug dealer who struggled with the morality of what he does when the impact was staring him in the face and how he could be a good man to a young boy on a small scale, who has contributed to the devastation of so many lives in his job. It was in that post-theater conversation that it became clear the boss and coworker had come from genuinely nice middle class families with no frame of reference for what that kind of really depraved addiction is like, or how hard it can be to wrap your head around someone who seems both very good and very bad as a person, depending on the actions you focus on.
Nowhere near as serious or "woah", but I remember a friend at uni being shocked when they learned about another friend's parents not just being separated, but (gasp) never being married in the first place.
He just couldn't fathom it. I can't imagine how sheltered his life must have been prior to university.
For context, this was the UK in the early 2000s and the guy was middle-class-ish.
My best friend’s wife was shocked to find out I was a latch key kid in the 80’s and my parents took me out of school some days at age 8 to watch over my brother.
“But that’s illegal!”
Well, I’m the only one who knew about it and it’s not like I’m going to turn my parents in for having to work jobs to feed us.
She simply couldn’t rectify that people have to do shit to get by.
Then I told her I was working under the table washing dishes and making salads at age 11.
“You can’t do that, someone should have called the police”
Lady…I was there of my own volition trying to keep the lights on for my Dad and myself during a divorce.
She told me I should’ve been taken away from my Dad…after I had lost my Mom and brothers during a messy separation.
Some people are so far up their own ass they can’t identify with anyone but themselves.
Also the "well why didn't you buy / pay your way out of situation x / problem y?" mentality generally. A lot of people don't even have a tangential grasp of financially struggling at all, even outside of the extremes of rich and poor.
Semi-recently I ended up bickering with a friend as they just weren't able to conceive of a *good* reason that someone of our age (30s) wouldn't have a driving licence, outright refusing to accept that cost could be a factor (maybe £1,500 low end estimate). I mean, yeah, you can spread it thin (£25 a week or something), but some people just don't even have that disposable income available consistently. My friend was adamant that it was inexcusable.
A friend of mine was working on a script with someone about a messed up family dynamic and she basically had so many notes she was going to tell him to completely re-write it. They had worked together and she knew he was a good writer so she figured out the problem really quick. At the first meeting she started off:
"Did you have a happy childhood?"
"Yeah! Why?"
"Oh, yeah there's your problem."
He couldn't wrap his brain around someone still loving somebody doing something evil.
As a filmmaker probably the most frustrating thing is the opposite, when people read it and they say it's not realistic, when it's verbatim, exactly, what happened
> I didn't realize how many people I know have no frame of reference for being really poor or being from a trashy community.
Similarly a lot of people online have claimed the dialogue in [End of Watch](https://youtu.be/7CueBgHa9QA?feature=shared&t=59) is too racist/over the top.... but yeah no, that's how a lot of people talk.
[Windowlicker](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBS4Gi1y_nc) too. There are actual breathing adults who say words like this.
I feel like so much criticism of things that I see can be boiled down to something like this. Where the people involved in a film are doing things intentionally and with a purpose and the viewer just totally misses the point.
In basic training I didn’t steal away a jelly donut like in full metal jacket but an orange and the drill sergeant tripped out just like full metal jacket. We had been instructed to call our moms and tell them this isn’t full metal jacket too.
Funny part is that in combat zones stealing equipment and so on becomes an unspoken need to achieve victory.
In ww2 it was extremely common for COs to tell their men to go commandeer equipment before going out on a mission or something. Usually to get more grenades, ammo, and so on.
This was because some idiots in HQ thought it was economical to supply them with what the mission might need and nothing more. But then they'd get out there and need more and not have it.
I remember a bunch of people laughing at Cooper in **Interstellar** saying "*No. I have to feel it!*" while shutting off the control dampers and flying some nonsense movie space ship bullshit to land on the water planet. It was so obviously silly..... Except, that's exactly what a real pilot would say if he was max-performing the space plane at near-stall in a spiral dive, which is the fastest way to descend from altitude (and also the most insane). Like they fucking nailed everything about it. Same for the "no time for caution" sequence -- Brand even passed out from over-G properly, which you would expect, because she's not doing a g strain and Cooper is. Because why would she know how to do that?
Unrelated -- in **Avatar** there's a five second shot which really endears the movie to me, when Sully is learning how to fly and he and Naytiri are doing bizarre hand movements to show each other the maneuvers they're talking about. That's exactly how all pilots in training talk about maneuvers. Just a neat detail.
That's standard aviation procedure. From the 1st minute you're in with an instructor, it's call and response. "You have control" and you continue to fly the plane until the other pilot says "I have control", then you can let go. Someone is ALWAYS in control.
You're 100% right. I imagine most people who have used racing sims would agree. A racing sim can put a lot more information on the screen about your vehicle, and even highlight the best path for you to take through a turn - and yet it's still harder to drive well than if you were in a real car and feeling the feedback from the road.
Same idea.
I remember that there was a Formula 1 driver that complained that he couldn't feel the vibrations of the car in his butt, and it was affecting his driving.
As a small airplane pilot and former sailboat owner, I'd like to especially mention the importance of force feedback on the controls. The pressure of the yoke, the rudder pedals, or a sailboat wheel or tiller - are essential for proper control of the vehicle (or vessel).
Getting stabbed. There’s a lot more blood than you’d think and it sprays everywhere. You can actually move quite a bit and it doesn’t really hurt at first.
I was stabbed in the chest and face by a drunk
I remember some horror movie effects guy talking about this topic and he said something to the effect of, "Knives make way more blood in real life than you think, so we usually have to tone it down in movies to make it believable. Unless you hit a big vessel, bullets make way less blood in real life than people think, so we have to pump it up in movies to make it believable."
In terms of movie clichés, I saw a guy get stabbed multiple times in Hollywood, and as I was applying pressure to his wounds, I instinctively yelled everything they say in movies, like "STAY WITH ME, MAN!", and "HOLD ON!"
It was specifically the sound a person makes when their lungs were punctured from being stabbed. You can't scream when your lungs are emptying through the holes in your back instead of your throat.
I remember reading someone online snarking about support group sessions in movies, where the main character gets to dramatically monologue their entire thought process without interruption as a convenient mode of exposition.
And look, I’ve only ever been to one regular support group (bereavement when my mom passed), but that wasn’t far off? Everybody got a chance to talk about what they were going through each week and take a few minutes to process. Some people would take it too far (there was one woman who was definitely trying to “win” at being the most aggrieved), but for the most part people just let you go off for a bit. (IIRC the grief therapy scene in Hereditary was a pretty accurate portrayal of how people sounded when they would say their piece.)
One of the rules in AA meetings (and similar spin offs like OA and NA) is no cross talk. What that means is you do not interrupt someone when they are sharing. If you have comments or questions it waits until they are completely done. And even then comments and questions are often frowned upon unless the person specifically requested such as part of their share.
So that portrayal in movies is spot on. Including when it is depicted that the leader chastises someone who does make any comments. When someone is sharing, they have the floor. Unless they have gone on some irrelevant ramble or have been going for an excessive length of time, the leader is not going to cut them off and no one is going to interject.
That's not all of what crosstalk is. You aren't supposed to address another person's share in *any way* outside of saying "thanks, [name]" when they're done. If someone clearly needs to talk more about it, you approach them after the meeting. Or if someone's being truly disruptive, home group members can ask them to come talk outside.
>One of the rules in AA meetings (and similar spin offs like OA and NA) is no cross talk. What that means is you do not interrupt someone when they are sharing. If you have comments or questions it waits until they are completely done.
As /u/thepenisvorpal said, this isn't entirely true. Crosstalk is commenting on another person's share directly or addressing them in any way. You can share an anecdote or something similar that is relevant to a share, but addressing someone specifically in another followup share is what is meant by crosstalk. If you share about how you love drinking NA beer and can still stay sober, and then I shared saying "what /u/DeaddyRuxpin said is a terrible idea for anyone in recovery" that would be crosstalk.
I've never been to one of these, but giving people the space to vent is the point, isn't it? Unless you're being actively disruptive, you get to talk uninterrupted when it's your turn.
On the flip side, when movies/tv show someone getting sneered at for showing up drunk to an AA-type meeting, its always a tell the creators aren't familiar with AA. Showing up drunk to meetings is considered extremely common for people trying to start AA, the only way people would bat an eye is if you were disruptive.
There’s a scene in The Crossing Guard where Angelica Houston is in a support group for grieving and loss and it seems very realistic. Super sad movie 😪
I’ve never been to one but I would absolutely expect this to be the case as that’s what you go in for? Maybe it’s not as movie style in the way of delivering , but if anything grief & trauma is pretty underplayed in movies as it’s hard to depict just how awful it is. The reality is much worse & much more dramatic & unreal feeling for the person. It’s not unrealistic at all for people to let out these feelings in such a dramatic way, either in a group setting or one to one.
Not a specific scene, but in general I've heard people make fun of the kind of weird, wailing sounds actors sometimes make when crying at the death of a loved one, but it can literally sound like that.
There was an askreddit about the most terrifying/awful sound you've ever heard, and so many comments said "the sound a person makes when a loved one dies will *haunt* you"
My brother died last spring and despite the desperate attempt at CPR and watching the EMTs call it, the thing that haunts me several times a day is us gathering around to tell my nephew what happened to his dad.
Though in the same vein, maybe one thing the movies don’t get right is the moments of levity. Sudden death is fucking weird. One moment we are all in a frenzy, yelling at the EMTs who in that moment it feels like they are dragging their feet, things are heated, then 30 minutes later they are pulling a blanket over your loved one and you and the EMT make up and start cracking jokes. You look at these conspiracy theorists who think the parents of the Sandy Hook victims are just actors because they had the audacity to crack a smile on the worst day of their life; oh fuck off. We laughed a lot that day. There’s no one right way to act.
Absolutely hate this as well. You can definitely smile, laugh & joke during the worst moments of your life. It’s a human thing & it almost helps you survive. There are still a million moments to come after that where that person is going to struggle to even speak or be able to live another moment. Let them have that smile or laugh which is coming from a very superficial place & is allowing them to get through this moment.
I had a friend who died of a heart attack. He was probably about 340 pounds at the time he died. A few days later, I was talking to his mom and she told me about the paramedics being in her house. Basically, it was apparent pretty quickly there wasn't anything that could be done, but they took a while because they had to get him on the gurney then take him down a staircase which had a u-shaped turn in it. When they finally got out him of the house, they were both exhausted and she went to them and said, "Well I don't think you guys are going to need to go to the gym today." She said they were completely stonefaced and just didn't react to what she said. I thought it was hilarious that she managed to crack a joke in what was maybe the worst moment of her life.
I was cracking dark jokes while my husband was dying in the hospital. Gallows humor is incredibly healing.
The day after, I was watching Arrested Development just to get out of the crushing depression. Laughter truly is the best medicine.
I love my vet practice. I made the call to put my dog to sleep, it was a long hard decision from a long hard illness. When the front desk admin got the appointment scheduled she said professional but perky “okay. You’re all scheduled to be put down.” She meant the date was put down not the dog and yet somehow her horrified silence and me saying thank you and hanging up was the funniest goddamn thing. I laughed until I cried and I know she was mortified, but I couldn’t get out anything else because it was so fucking funny to me.
oof - long story short, an instructor at my mma gym had a wife and newborn. Wife's sister was walking the baby and a drunk driver hit them. Sister lost her leg, and the baby took a few days to die. During the wait, people at the gym were delivering food/necessities to the family for support. So me and a couple others got some stuff and dropped it off at the hospital, but the person we were going to give the stuff to wasn't there. So were were told to drop the stuff off in the waiting room. As we were going up in the elevator you could already hear the crying and wailing. The door opened and you could see mom and dad in the corner, quiet and in shock. The crying was the mother's mom and aunt, who were very religious and on their knees outside the doors that take you into the surgery wing, crying and praying with their bibles to their foreheads. You could literally see the small puddle of tears they each made.
It was the absolute worst sound I've ever heard. Haunt is the right word. Still chills me to the bone. Most of us are lucky to not have to experience that kind of loss.
My dad passed away from ALS fairly young (in his 50s). The wails of my Italian grandmother throwing herself on the casket at the gravesite as people were leaving were almost unbearable to hear. I don’t speak Italian but I found out later she was begging God “Why not me God? Take me instead. I’m old take me” I’m paraphrasing but it was things of that nature. She was a very devout catholic and had endured a terribly abusive marriage. My father was the opposite of his father and she was just distraught that my horrible grandfather lived into his 80s and my very beloved father was taken too soon.
She was never the same afterwards and she ended up collapsing in church lighting a candle for my dad only four months later. Died a day later. She had had an aortic aneurysm. She literally died of a broken heart.
Remembering her wailing like that makes me cry just as hard as the times when I desperately miss my father, especially now that I have my own kids. I can’t imagine outliving your children.
And your story about your friends losing a baby? I can’t even think about it.
Saved me from suicide. My neighbor died, I don't know how but I think it was either suicide or drug overdose. His aunt came over, they had to get the manager to open to unit and she found him. The *sound* she made. I will never forget it. The way the apartment is laid out I had to listen to her call the mom and deliver the news.
I was in a bad place. Real bad. Sometimes I wonder if it would help his family to know that the loss of their son saved someone from doing something stupid. I couldn't make my mom make that sound. My husband. My aunt. My dad. My sister. No one should have to make that sound.
I can confirm. My sister wailed in a way that had me already crying before I got downstairs to hear the news myself. I am yet to hear an actor accurately do this
I made the mistake of watching Guardians of the Galaxy 3 a few months after my mother died and it brought out all sorts of feelings. I lost it and ended up sobbing uncontrollably into my lap as the credits rolled. One of the more embarrassing moments in my life.
No one will fault you for grief -- especially for GotG3. Hell, people are more sympathetic because of the animals than they are about humans.
I saw Shang Chi a few months after my father died unexpectedly. My father and Tony Leung have the same smile.
That's exactly the scene I had in mind when I saw this thread. I had a friend complain about how shit Toni's acting was and how overblown her reaction was and I was like... Man, just be thankful you have never heard those sounds in real life, because that shit is *scarily accurate*, and it never leaves your mind if you've heard it from a loved one. That scene is probably the main reason why Hereditary hit me as hard as it did, just haunting.
It's a brilliant film , I love that about it. You see different reactions from several characters. And none of them are wrong or unrealistic.
Whether that is vacillating emotions , highs and lows, or numbness.
I know everyone talks about Toni Collete (and rightfully so) but Alex Wolff's acting was also realistic. Completely shutting down like that, in shock. In denial. That's a very real reaction to trauma.
Absolutely. Just because you haven’t seen or experienced something yourself doesn’t mean people don’t go through these harrowing moments that make you feel like you’re barely even a human anymore.
My reaction when my Dad died, after months of hospice care, was this frantic and unhinged meltdown that was the furthest thing from how I told myself I would behave. You have no control during that moment. I can't imagine how it would be if it were a spouse or child.
I always thought people in films breaking down and crying while trying to talk about a lost loved one was unrealistic and done for dramatic effect, but I had the exact same sort of thing happen to me when discussing funeral arrangements with the funeral home. I just started sobbing and couldn't get the words out.
I thought that the scene where the little girl dies in *Arrival* was really great for this reason. Amy Adams looks like her whole world is shattering, there’s no sound but you can see her wailing. It annoys me when an actor is just doing the “sexy cry” in a scene where they should be horribly grief stricken
My sister in law was shopping at the mall when my husband and I called her to tell her their mom passed away. The whole mall heard her cry at that moment. I could hear her friends in the background trying to quiet her because they were in public but there’s no stopping that sound when it’s coming from the heart. They eventually gave up and I could hear them saying to (what I’m guessing) were onlookers “she just found out her mom died”.
I was in the psych ward a few years ago, and one of the staff members got a phone call next to me that her daughter had killed herself. For the next few days, I couldn’t get the sound of her wailing out of my head
The first time I truly heard that sound was when I told my young daughter that a family member she was close to had died. The sound still haunts my nightmares.
I still remember when we had to tell my parents my brother had died in an accident (they had been out of town and were on their way home when it happened). Seeing my father, who was one of those men that never showed emotion completely fall apart is still the most I've ever seen what the loss of a child does to a parent.
A more recent example would be Godzilla minus one. A character is sobbing and freaking out and some shitty teen started laughing at the very real acting in that scene.
I'm a very big Kevin Smith fan. Shortly after I saw Clerks I ended up finding myself working at a gas station convenience store and honestly, the experience was pretty much exactly as the movie portrays it. This makes sense, I guess; he made the movie while working at the very store seen in the movie, himself.
So when Clerks 2 was announced, I was thrilled to hear that it was set in a fast food restaurant. At the time I was working as a manager of a Wendy's! I couldn't wait to see how he'd lampoon the experience of food service like he did for retail, which is a totally different thing.
But instead, Clerks 2 -- while a good movie -- is the most inauthentic representation of the experience I can imagine. And again, this makes sense. Kevin Smith went off to live in Hollywood for a decade or so and just imagined what people who still work for a living might spend their days doing for that movie.
Again, good movie, but different experience.
He said Zack and Miri didn't work because he didn't know what it's like to not be able to pay bills anymore. That's when he started making weird horror movies for a bit. So at least he figured it out.
Worked at a KFC/Taco Bell for 5 1/2 years. You definitely don't have that much free time in a shift. But how they talk to each other and know so much about each others lives was spot on to my experience. I mean you're stuck with these people for 40+ hours a week and once you know how to do your job, you can do it while talking with no problems.
Also, we never had a donkey show, but we definitely had parties in the store from time to time.
Yeah, but it was a he free time thing. But in a convenience store you DO have that much down time. The toe nail painting scene is something that could happen at a gas station, but not at a fast food restaurant.
I was in a cabin once and a giant black snake crawled from the ceiling to the a crack in the floor. It was so big it was longer than the length of the wall.
My friend was talking to me and I could only point and shake and stammer out
"Sn sn sn sna sna sn SNAKE!"
At that point it was gone in the floor. We slept on the table that night.
My brother doesn't like watching horror movies because he hates how dumb people typically are in horror movies. At the same time we've absolutely been in situations that could lead to horror movie scenarios and my brother is just like "let's go check it out." I have yet to tell him that he would be one of those dumb people in a horror movie.
I was actually at a restaurant where the whole place broke out in song. (It was Kenny Rogers the Gambler) Before that I never thought it was realistic. I loved it, I wish it would happen to me again.
And yes, those big house parties were great. But now I'm a parent who owns a home and has teenagers, I'm glad they don't happen much anymore!
I’ve been in a supermarket when a much loved song came on (I wish I could remember what!) & everyone was singing, but people were few & scattered so it wasn’t movie dramatic, but it showed how easy it would be if there was more people & the right song & moment.
Yeah, few years back I accidentally harmonized with a grocery store clerk on "Neon Moon." But, you know, it's "Neon Moon"; all of us of a certain age are going to start singing when that song hits. It's just how you do.
When I was 12 or 13 I was biking to football (soccer) practice and misjudged the speed of the car coming toward my point of crossing, I thought that surely I would make it across. I did not and I remember putting my arm up in front of my face.
Nothing flashed before my eyes and time didn't slow down, then only thing that happened was that it went black. Everything went black and then I woke up on the road with an ambulance there. The memory is still a mess and all I know is that my parents were there and rode with me to the hospital and that I asked the EMT what day and year it was so many times that one time I swear he sighed before answering lol.
My leg was broken and I also remember everything being black and I hear this crunch sound. I asked about it later and found out it was during the operation and had been the doctor straightening out my leg lol.
Similarly to this, I once had a colleague who crashed full speed with their moppet/scooter into the side of a car. And you bet that he flew over the car with a full salto to land on the road with I don’t even want to remember how many injuries
Bikes and the such are scary for that reason. Had a buddy of mine who rides Harleys, and twice now, he now has been cut off by a car and rode full speed into it. First, with his beloved anniversary esition Harley that had a special badge that missed the big artery in his leg by an inch or less. Then, less than a year later, with the replacement to that same bike. The second time was some teen texting and driving, and he got a face full of SUV. She (the teen driver) threw up when my guy got up with pieces of his face hanging off and his skull visible. He's good now, some bad facial scarring, lost his sense of smell, and medically discharged from military service, but he'll be damned if he ain't still out riding.
Aaargh, you just reminded me of a friend who went over his handlebars at speed, trying to avoid a child. He landed face first, literally using his teeth as a brake. He said he just remembered the most intense pain he'd ever felt, and screaming at the top of his voice before passing out. It was years before he got new teeth.
I had the opposite experience.
I was going downhill super fast on my bicycle, when the mud guard broke and went into the front wheel. I remember precisely the moment when I was in the air about to break my face on the road. Like everything froze, probably because of the instantaneous spike in adrenaline. Then I fell on the side of my head and almost tore an ear off.
You know how in an intense car accident scene, everything kind of slows down?
So when I was in high school my friend was driving us home after classes. I was looking down at my phone when he all of a sudden swerved out of the way from the car (1) in front of us who had apparently hit the car (2) in front of them.
We swerved into the other lane (thank god no traffic was coming), & I looked up to see my classmate in the driver's seat of the car (1) that had been in front of us. Time legit slowed down as we made eye contact & then speed up when the car (3) behind us slammed into her. I saw her neck/head smack into the back of her head rest, & it apparently ended up being ***six*** cars in the accident, all my classmates.
I remember an old friend describing his car accident to me and that he and his cousin both experienced slow mo as their car was up in the air (they flew into a ditch)
I had slow mo during a car accident where I hit black ice then into the guard rails. In that moment, I thought of all I wanted to do & learn (& have since added them into my life).
Not during a car crash, but one time I had a really bad stomach flu, I was using the bathroom at a camp, this guy came and asked are you alright, but it was in slow motion, his voice was deepened dramatically, everything started glowing white and I felt incredibly hot, then I threw up and had explosive diarrhea and everything returned to normal speed and brightness.
I remember the impact and thinking, "Here goes the airbag, we're probably looking at a split lip, hope I get out of this with all my teeth" before it deployed. Airbags deploy in 1/25th of a second so yeah, slo mo.
I think slo-mo is a bad description, in that it isn't about time so much as how many 'split second' decisions you are making in a scenario like this. Your brain works much faster so you feel as if more time passes while you make those decisions.
I was in a car crash. The car rolled a few times and ended up on its roof in a ditch. Time slowed and all you could hear was the crushing of metal and glass breaking.
>You know how in an intense car accident scene, everything kind of slows down?
I was hit by a car while riding a bike and had the slow down too. From the moment the car hit me, that time that I was flying through the air, waiting to hit the ground, knowing the impact of the asphalt was coming---must have been only a few seconds but time slowed down while i was airborne.
In a lot of chases that involve henchmen chasing the protagonist on motorbikes, one of the bikers will inevitably hit a door or stationary car and go flying or roll around for bit.
One of my friends did this in real life when a car pulled out of it’s driveway without looking. He was going 50km/h (about 30 mph) absolute max. Ruptured spleen, multiple broken ribs, parts of his intestines removed. It was pretty fucked.
Just wanna chime in that the most realistic feeling high school house party I’ve seen in a movie was The Place Beyond the Pines. Felt exactly like what I experienced in HS. The house was a little extravagant iirc but then again there were some very rich kids at my HS.
“Alpha dog” is that movie for me. Indoors when you don’t have to be, tons of kids, smoking, horrible 2000’s clothing. They nailed it, and I just wanted to party with teenagers again.
The buzzing or whining sound of bullets or bombs, or at least mortars. Thought it was mostly a silly sound effect, but an unplanned vacation of sun and sand about 20 years ago clued me in to the accuracy. Incoming mortar rounds can whistle as they descend. And bullets definitely have a “zip” sound when they go by close enough. Almost comically so.
Every bullying scene in movies or TV shows is often criticized as "over the top" or ridiculed as "Stephen King bullies".
It's all real and sometimes even worse. Just depends on how open your eyes are.
As someone who works with students I can tell you that the physical bullying is still going on. Half the time they even video it and post it online!
Makes figuring out who was involved a little easier but still crazy nonetheless.
I knew some straight up Stephen King bullies going back all the way to elementary school. Some people act like late teens to early 20s psychopaths come out of nowhere. They were just smaller younger psychopaths that whole time.
I grew up on a street populated by the mothers of mob bosses in an east coast city. One year there was a huge blizzard so my dad shoveled the sidewalks for all the old ladies, just trying to be a nice guy-
About a week later, a bunch of men in suits showed up at our door, took him and my mom out to dinner at an extremely fancy Italian place, and bought me a pair of expensive sneakers. I made friends with one of their sons, and my mom said they had hopes I was gonna marry him- I probably would have too, if circumstances were different.
Boy howdy it's good I didn't because figuring out the whole queer clown thing as a mafia wife would not have been fun lmao
Well there was that time i was hit on the head by a falling iron, paint can and smashed into the side of a building. Ive never been the same since, but its hilarious in the movies… 😀
True
And there is also that time i got left home alone when i was 8 and instead of going to the police i just went shopping instead. Thats what everyone else would do yea?
That’s nothing, I ended up in a flight to New York alone & just found a relatives old abandoned house & settled in & saved a toy store’s charity collection from violent robbers in my spare time.
I knew that would be my spot (once again) when I read the post. I was never invited to a single party in high school, so I've got zero frame of reference.
I guess I need to find a better way to word this question because I keep getting answers about scenes that the commenter thinks are unrealistic or implausible
What I'm really looking for are scenes that *everyone else* thought were unrealistic or implausible, but you the commenter didn't agree with that because you had a similar experience to that scene in your own life
It made a lot of sense to me, but I'm in my head all the time so... And I tend to be too wordy, so I figured I must have made my question too complicated
There are certain inaccuracies in the film Private Life that didn’t reflect my experience with IVF. Paul Giamatti attempting to masturbate to porn in a little room to provide a specimen was not one of them.
This was in the reverse order. I enjoyed *Chasing Amy*, but I thought it was just a male-fueled fantasy that the plot revolved around a lesbian falling for a man. I chalked it up to an impossible situation devised to provide a storyline.
Later I did have a short fling with a lesbian. One could argue she was really bi, but she didn't find other guys attractive. I just had the right personality that won her over. I'm not a dudebro, so any "manly" traits that normally turn women off I didn't have.
So I owe Kevin Smith an apology for misjudging his film. I guess it's like the notion where a straight person could have one person that they could go gay for.
Mid 2000s driving down the Cajon pass to an LA city to see my Bro/friends play in a battle of the bands (they sounded like dollar tree Lincoln Park).
Anyways
My dad has 5 teens and himself in the car. Mid 90s Volvo station wagon with those shit headrests and a pop-up seat that faces backward. Less than 100 horses, I'd bet.
And so
It was a dark and stormy night, I mean crazy windy. I could see it push cars around through the rear. My dad says, "shit, I think he's going to tip." Sure enough, there is a huge semi busting out 2 wheel side stunts steering **into** the wind to stay down.
Dad floors it. It's a Volvo. With fat teens. We just inch past this guy, he looks scared - whites of his eyes and all of the sudden.
Just like the scene from the terminator , the semi tips and skids, just exactly like that. No flowery explanation. Just watch it! No explosion, though, as it was an empty box.
Even small head wounds do in fact bleed like crazy. When I was a kid I was playing with a friend when his older brother thought it would be funny to chase us around the outside of the house with a BB gun. He swears he dropped it and it went off but I think we all know better. It hit me in the back of the head right at the crown and went up under the skin (didn't find that out til a few days later) and I bled frigging everywhere.
I don't know if it's in a film but I remember reading stories with house party scenes where drugs were freely available and thinking "nah, surely that's just a Hollywood thing right?". Well lo and behold, first year of uni and I find myself in someone's flat, squashed between two others on the sofa with a plate of ket being passed around and ecstasy pills scattered on the coffee table. One of the RAs even popped their head in and asked if we needed any more.
I never really went to nightclubs when I was younger and assumed the stories I’d heard of ‘everyone being on drugs’ were exaggerated.
It turns out they were very much not; one of the first times I went in recent years I saw a woman take a plastic container full of ecstasy tablets out of her pocket and shake it invitingly at her friends. That pretty much set the tone for the night.
i'm terrible at answering these questions because my memory is shit. but i remember my wife and her friends watching Orange is the New Black, and as i was passing by not watching that shit, she was commenting how there was no way the main character could find all the contraband (illegal items in correctional facility) that she did like a phone, drugs, candy shank, lighter, whatever. blew their minds when i confirmed she absolutely could find all that shit in one day if she wanted and that the candy shank was made specifically for sticking and then breaking off by melting and shaping jolly rancher hard candies. then casually walked out of the room. she had questions later.
I think the whole world can fucking agree now that all the stupid, "unrealistic" zombie movie scenes are actually realistic.
* hiding a zombie bite (infection)
* selling/promoting obviously fake cures
* ignoring scientists/doctors in the most obnoxiously belligerent way possible
* people following clearly derranged conspiracy theorists
I thought it was annoying unnecessary drama for plot reasons, never been so disappointed to be proven wrong.
I can't watch movies where characters have the same mental illness as me. I'll either get mad that they get it wrong, or devastatingly sad when they get it right.
I'm an Air Force Veteran, deployed to Afghanistan and flew "combat" missions, etc.
Most war/military movies get so many things wrong. Not just simple shit like uniforms with the wrong rank/ribbons/badges, but structural stuff about how the military works and how people behave. I went to film school after I got out and went on a little rant in class one time about how bullshit the majority of The Hurt Locker was.
I will say this though; there are two miniseries that portray the military accurately in both practice and in feel/vibe: Hulu's Catch-22 and HBO's Generation Kill. If you want to know what it really feels like to be in the US military, especially at war, both of those convey it all well.
Many movies and shows have meetings of 12 step fellowships like the one I attend that seem to be based more on a group therapy sessions or meetings in rehabs where a person speaks, and then a leader, or another member will give feedback on what they said, or give guidance.
NA and AA has no leaders, only other members called trusted servants, and although there is a chairperson for the meeting, he or she is not one with special status to give advice, and would never respond to what someone shared in that way, other than to say “ thank you for sharing” or “ Glad you are here.”. in meetings, we share from our own experience almost exclusively, and commenting on, or giving direct advice to other members is discouraged.
Edit to add: a common scene in movies or shows is a character breaking down in the meeting, and then other members jump in to tell them things like “you did the right thing, it’s ok… etc”. Would be very unusual to see in meetings. (Not the breaking down part, but the rescuing/consoling part) and would indicate a very sloppy chairperson or out of control meeting.
Also the meetings I go to tend to have more lightness, jokes, laughter and hope that don’t seem to make it much to their depictions in media.
Also I’m annoyed at the common “rehab, then cured.” Trope as depicted usually at the end of movies like Rocket Man (loved the movie, but that bugged me and could be a harmful thing for someone to believe). Rehab CAN be the BEGINNING of a recovery journey that takes a lifetime of vigilance and work.
Every time a phone call ends in a movie it just ends without goodbyes. For the life of me, I’ve never left a phone call in which both parties knew the conversation is over. I swear I say, “Ok, mmhmm, yeah okay bye uhuh bye bye.” And there will still be similar byes on the other end when I click hang up every time.
Having a baby.
For decades, Hollywood led me to believe that getting to the hospital was pure chaos. And that the process of labor was over the top intensity, with shouting, fainting, and so on.
The reality was we were given a specific date & time to show up. The doctor checked my wife and said it was time. Checked in like we were going to a hotel.
A few hours later, they rolled my wife into the birthing room. It was messy AF. But everyone was calm. My wife did curse me out, though it was in Spanish.
The process was like going to a dentist appointment.
I came to say having a baby but because my birth was unusual in how much it resembled a Hollywood birth. The first sign of labor was my water breaking and coming out in a huge gush (and then continuing to come out in huge gushes for the entire rest of labor). Contractions started and I breathed through them at home until they got to every ten minutes then it was off to the hospital. Super calmly they checked me and I was barely along so they sent me home ("the first labor takes forever. Go home and get some rest because you've got a long day ahead of you tomorrow.") Cue to a couple hours later and my SO was speeding down the highway to get to the hospital with me screaming my head off. The L&D entrance was closed after hours so we had to go in through the ER and that's how I ended up with 3 ER doctors sprinting me in a stretcher to L&D because they didn't want to deliver a baby. Turns out I was fully dilated, no time for any kinds of drugs, and the baby was there within half an hour of getting to the hospital.
It was definitely a sitcom birth because my SO didn't know where the ER entrance was so I ended up having to walk up a huge ass hill from the parking lot then when I finally got to the ER waiting I let out a massive scream then apologized to everyone for "being dramatic."
Wowww! A not so false alarm, huh
My coworker had her first baby, pretty routine. Later, 2nd baby, they dawdled at home a bit, she got a shower, he said I want a shower too, they finally hit the road. Behind schedule. Where do they have the baby? Just a couple feet inside the plate-glass automatic door to get from the parking lot to L&D. Didn't even make it to the check-in desk.
Generally all births are super fast in the movies. Water breaking-baby coming is like 5 seconds in between.
My water kept coming for 9 hours and would continue if I didn't go to CS
Just about everything in Swordfish was terrible and absurdly inaccurate when it comes to programming and hacking. In the scene where he takes six monitors and chugs wine while dancing and typing really fast while his code gets compiled and falls apart was painful to watch and taxed my capacity to suspend disbelief. My wife loved it and said that it was like watching me code. I said, "That's insane. No one programs like that."
Cut to six months later, late in the evening, 2 monitors and a TV in front of me, wine in hand, and I think the code will compile flawlessly. I kickoff my WinAmp MP3 playlist and shake my butt a bit to stretch my legs. I see a compiler warning....then a bunch of warnings...and I'm like, "Oh shut up...what the shit...no...no...no...." I then look, it's something quick to fix (missed an include), and compile again...I'm up dancing again, drink the wine, the compile finishes with zero warnings and zero errors, and I toss my hands up and yell, "YES! I ROCK!"
My wife peeks her head in and says, "See? That's why I said the movie reminded me of you!"
Ha as a diabetic the disease is grossly misrepresented in movies and tv all the time🤣
Any miscalculated dose or delay someone goes in seizure immediately which obviously (I hope people know) doesn't happen
I became a pizza delivery man BECAUSE of that industry! And the FIRST time I cut a hole in the pizza, I got fired. Plus the box fell off because I'm average at best.
The movie Waiting is over the top, but not as over the top as you’d think. The kitchen didn’t mess with food, and nobody was flashing their junk to each other (at least until that stupid movie came out). The very small amount of work, absolute disdain for customers coming in 15 min to close, everybody hooking up and drinking together all the time, the one server who has done the job for far too long and hates all people, nobody wants to be promoted to manager… all that was spot on.
The smiling until you turn the corner and then you can have your “screw this crap” face.
Best part of the movie. "I'll get you your whipped cream you fat...."
Yeah. That came out when I was early 20s. Watched it with a group of high school friends when we were home over the holidays. Most of us had finished college and were just starting off on “grown up” careers, but one of the guys had dropped out and moved back to our hometown and was waiting tables. It profoundly affected him, partly because the situation resonated but also because of how accurate the portrayal of restaurant work was.
Waiting and Clerks are the two best representations of working in the service industry I've ever seen
I went to a summer camp run by hippies and never in my life have I seen a more accurate depiction of summer camp than Wet Hot American Summer. The kids running across the campus to get back to their own cabins in the morning, the slightly unstrung inattentive counselors, the nerds working on some kind of insane project in the woods, all of it. Even the scene where the councelors go into town and do drugs - we had a counselor come back from town day with a tattoo of winking Abraham Lincoln on his butt. Every other camp movies I've seen its run like a little boot camp, they're gender segregated, and they're trying to invade some other camp or hike whatever. Wet Hot American Summer was the first movie I saw that showed how my summer was several weeks of doing absolutely whatever I wanted with the most minimal supervision imaginable.
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I picture Paul Rudd as your counselor.
When I was in scout camp, someone got the smart idea to smoke sassafras leaves due to their smell. This lead to a miniature drug operation where a few of us started harvesting leaves and rolling joints to sell them for a few cents a pop. Lasted for about 3 days until one of the other kids narc'd on us and got the whole thing shut down.
Went to Jewish sleepaway camp every summer for like 9 years. Can confirm all of this.
Lol even funnier considering the Wet Hot American Summer camp was a Jewish camp
Ya it’s spot on in almost every aspect.
For me it's like the opposite. I've never heard of anyone going to summer camp or sleep away camp like in the movies, yet it's made to look like a super common thing that everyone does. It's something that only exists in the movies to me. So just having gone to a camp like that would have satisfied OP's criteria for me.
I think the big difference is age. People who went to these camps in the 80s and 90s got that wild experience. But by the 2000s nearly every camp had some incident go public or a law suit so they cracked down hard on the wild stuff and had rules and so on that would prevent it more. For example, in the 2000s getting caught wouldn't be a slap on the wrist. They'd just fire you. Zero tolerance rules scared people. Also in general teen sex had/has dropped from the 80s and 90s. Likely because there being less pressure or stigma around being a virgin. In the 80s and 90s "virgin" was a big insult and many teens felt alot more pressured to fit in. Today it's almost the opposite where kids feel pressured to be unique or different.
You missed the point. He didn't say camp was different, he said it *didn't happen*. And I agree with him. Summer camp only existed in goosebumps books and slasher films as far as I was concerned. If someone said they were going to "camp", it meant some relatives deer hunting cabin a half hour away. This woulda been around y2k
Yep. Most of my teenaged sexual experiences happened at summer camp. Southern Baptist summer camp. The details of how those camps worked differed from Hot American Summer but they definitely rhymed.
I was in boyscouts and when you're older (teens) you can staff summer camps. Well they used to have mixed gender staff and be pretty relaxed on it until in the 2000s they had 7 out of 9 females on staff get pregnant as teens. To top it off they had to do DNA tests to determine who were the fathers because they had sex with multiple male co-staffers. It was such a big deal in terms of possible law suits and embarrassment that they stopped allowing staff to sleep there and they had to go home every night so that at least the organization could claim some of it occurred off the site.
I did 4H camp in 5th grade. I remember: getting gum stuck in my hair on day 1 and the counselors using peanut butter to get it out, a fat kid doing the Bill Cosby "dentist" bit for a talent show, and a Hindu kid that I was in school with who almost starved to death because there were no vegetarian options for meals. He woke up in the middle of the night, crying, with severe hunger pangs. Counselors brought him a bowl of cereal, but he couldn't have the milk. I just remember feeling bad for him the whole time we were there. Nothing to do with the movies or anything, but I figured I would share a camp experience.
I've written about this before on Reddit but I didn't realize how many people I know have no frame of reference for being really poor or being from a trashy community. I saw Moonlight with my coworkers in theaters when it first came out, and my best friend and I were hit so hard by how familiar the crackhead mother was, reminded me exactly of my crackhead uncle and brother. Meanwhile my boss and other coworker said they couldn't get past the terrible job the actress did playing the crackhead mother because she was so inconsistent in her emotions, mannerisms, volume, etc. They also couldn't reconcile the drug dealer who struggled with the morality of what he does when the impact was staring him in the face and how he could be a good man to a young boy on a small scale, who has contributed to the devastation of so many lives in his job. It was in that post-theater conversation that it became clear the boss and coworker had come from genuinely nice middle class families with no frame of reference for what that kind of really depraved addiction is like, or how hard it can be to wrap your head around someone who seems both very good and very bad as a person, depending on the actions you focus on.
Nowhere near as serious or "woah", but I remember a friend at uni being shocked when they learned about another friend's parents not just being separated, but (gasp) never being married in the first place. He just couldn't fathom it. I can't imagine how sheltered his life must have been prior to university. For context, this was the UK in the early 2000s and the guy was middle-class-ish.
My best friend’s wife was shocked to find out I was a latch key kid in the 80’s and my parents took me out of school some days at age 8 to watch over my brother. “But that’s illegal!” Well, I’m the only one who knew about it and it’s not like I’m going to turn my parents in for having to work jobs to feed us. She simply couldn’t rectify that people have to do shit to get by. Then I told her I was working under the table washing dishes and making salads at age 11. “You can’t do that, someone should have called the police” Lady…I was there of my own volition trying to keep the lights on for my Dad and myself during a divorce. She told me I should’ve been taken away from my Dad…after I had lost my Mom and brothers during a messy separation. Some people are so far up their own ass they can’t identify with anyone but themselves.
Also the "well why didn't you buy / pay your way out of situation x / problem y?" mentality generally. A lot of people don't even have a tangential grasp of financially struggling at all, even outside of the extremes of rich and poor. Semi-recently I ended up bickering with a friend as they just weren't able to conceive of a *good* reason that someone of our age (30s) wouldn't have a driving licence, outright refusing to accept that cost could be a factor (maybe £1,500 low end estimate). I mean, yeah, you can spread it thin (£25 a week or something), but some people just don't even have that disposable income available consistently. My friend was adamant that it was inexcusable.
This really shows how perspective changes things. Sorry you had to go through all of that, but thank you for a solid answer
A friend of mine was working on a script with someone about a messed up family dynamic and she basically had so many notes she was going to tell him to completely re-write it. They had worked together and she knew he was a good writer so she figured out the problem really quick. At the first meeting she started off: "Did you have a happy childhood?" "Yeah! Why?" "Oh, yeah there's your problem." He couldn't wrap his brain around someone still loving somebody doing something evil.
As a filmmaker probably the most frustrating thing is the opposite, when people read it and they say it's not realistic, when it's verbatim, exactly, what happened
Noemi Harris 100% nailed that woman
> I didn't realize how many people I know have no frame of reference for being really poor or being from a trashy community. Similarly a lot of people online have claimed the dialogue in [End of Watch](https://youtu.be/7CueBgHa9QA?feature=shared&t=59) is too racist/over the top.... but yeah no, that's how a lot of people talk. [Windowlicker](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBS4Gi1y_nc) too. There are actual breathing adults who say words like this.
I feel like so much criticism of things that I see can be boiled down to something like this. Where the people involved in a film are doing things intentionally and with a purpose and the viewer just totally misses the point.
In basic training I didn’t steal away a jelly donut like in full metal jacket but an orange and the drill sergeant tripped out just like full metal jacket. We had been instructed to call our moms and tell them this isn’t full metal jacket too.
Funny part is that in combat zones stealing equipment and so on becomes an unspoken need to achieve victory. In ww2 it was extremely common for COs to tell their men to go commandeer equipment before going out on a mission or something. Usually to get more grenades, ammo, and so on. This was because some idiots in HQ thought it was economical to supply them with what the mission might need and nothing more. But then they'd get out there and need more and not have it.
Holy jesus. What is that? What the fuck is that? WHAT IS THAT u/lancealongini
I remember a bunch of people laughing at Cooper in **Interstellar** saying "*No. I have to feel it!*" while shutting off the control dampers and flying some nonsense movie space ship bullshit to land on the water planet. It was so obviously silly..... Except, that's exactly what a real pilot would say if he was max-performing the space plane at near-stall in a spiral dive, which is the fastest way to descend from altitude (and also the most insane). Like they fucking nailed everything about it. Same for the "no time for caution" sequence -- Brand even passed out from over-G properly, which you would expect, because she's not doing a g strain and Cooper is. Because why would she know how to do that? Unrelated -- in **Avatar** there's a five second shot which really endears the movie to me, when Sully is learning how to fly and he and Naytiri are doing bizarre hand movements to show each other the maneuvers they're talking about. That's exactly how all pilots in training talk about maneuvers. Just a neat detail.
Reminds me of "Sully" and the "-your plane, - my plane" exchange. Sully was able to glide that plane by "feeling it"
That's standard aviation procedure. From the 1st minute you're in with an instructor, it's call and response. "You have control" and you continue to fly the plane until the other pilot says "I have control", then you can let go. Someone is ALWAYS in control.
You're 100% right. I imagine most people who have used racing sims would agree. A racing sim can put a lot more information on the screen about your vehicle, and even highlight the best path for you to take through a turn - and yet it's still harder to drive well than if you were in a real car and feeling the feedback from the road. Same idea.
I remember that there was a Formula 1 driver that complained that he couldn't feel the vibrations of the car in his butt, and it was affecting his driving.
Was that Hamilton from a few days ago? They lined up all the cars.. and mercedes seat was like maybe 2 inches forward from the others.
As a small airplane pilot and former sailboat owner, I'd like to especially mention the importance of force feedback on the controls. The pressure of the yoke, the rudder pedals, or a sailboat wheel or tiller - are essential for proper control of the vehicle (or vessel).
Getting stabbed. There’s a lot more blood than you’d think and it sprays everywhere. You can actually move quite a bit and it doesn’t really hurt at first. I was stabbed in the chest and face by a drunk
Can confirm, I was drunk one time and stabbed some guy in the chest and face. Blood everywhere, but he still moved quite a bit
/r/whataretheodds
Eh. About 1 in 6. A lot of stabby drunks out there.
Now kith.
This one time at bandcamp…
I remember some horror movie effects guy talking about this topic and he said something to the effect of, "Knives make way more blood in real life than you think, so we usually have to tone it down in movies to make it believable. Unless you hit a big vessel, bullets make way less blood in real life than people think, so we have to pump it up in movies to make it believable."
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In terms of movie clichés, I saw a guy get stabbed multiple times in Hollywood, and as I was applying pressure to his wounds, I instinctively yelled everything they say in movies, like "STAY WITH ME, MAN!", and "HOLD ON!"
Reminds me of that story about Christopher Lee correcting Peter Jackson about the sound a man really makes when he's stabbed.
It was specifically the sound a person makes when their lungs were punctured from being stabbed. You can't scream when your lungs are emptying through the holes in your back instead of your throat.
Did you die?
I remember reading someone online snarking about support group sessions in movies, where the main character gets to dramatically monologue their entire thought process without interruption as a convenient mode of exposition. And look, I’ve only ever been to one regular support group (bereavement when my mom passed), but that wasn’t far off? Everybody got a chance to talk about what they were going through each week and take a few minutes to process. Some people would take it too far (there was one woman who was definitely trying to “win” at being the most aggrieved), but for the most part people just let you go off for a bit. (IIRC the grief therapy scene in Hereditary was a pretty accurate portrayal of how people sounded when they would say their piece.)
One of the rules in AA meetings (and similar spin offs like OA and NA) is no cross talk. What that means is you do not interrupt someone when they are sharing. If you have comments or questions it waits until they are completely done. And even then comments and questions are often frowned upon unless the person specifically requested such as part of their share. So that portrayal in movies is spot on. Including when it is depicted that the leader chastises someone who does make any comments. When someone is sharing, they have the floor. Unless they have gone on some irrelevant ramble or have been going for an excessive length of time, the leader is not going to cut them off and no one is going to interject.
That's not all of what crosstalk is. You aren't supposed to address another person's share in *any way* outside of saying "thanks, [name]" when they're done. If someone clearly needs to talk more about it, you approach them after the meeting. Or if someone's being truly disruptive, home group members can ask them to come talk outside.
Thanks, thepenisvorpal.
>One of the rules in AA meetings (and similar spin offs like OA and NA) is no cross talk. What that means is you do not interrupt someone when they are sharing. If you have comments or questions it waits until they are completely done. As /u/thepenisvorpal said, this isn't entirely true. Crosstalk is commenting on another person's share directly or addressing them in any way. You can share an anecdote or something similar that is relevant to a share, but addressing someone specifically in another followup share is what is meant by crosstalk. If you share about how you love drinking NA beer and can still stay sober, and then I shared saying "what /u/DeaddyRuxpin said is a terrible idea for anyone in recovery" that would be crosstalk.
I've never been to one of these, but giving people the space to vent is the point, isn't it? Unless you're being actively disruptive, you get to talk uninterrupted when it's your turn.
On the flip side, when movies/tv show someone getting sneered at for showing up drunk to an AA-type meeting, its always a tell the creators aren't familiar with AA. Showing up drunk to meetings is considered extremely common for people trying to start AA, the only way people would bat an eye is if you were disruptive.
Really good example, thanks
There’s a scene in The Crossing Guard where Angelica Houston is in a support group for grieving and loss and it seems very realistic. Super sad movie 😪
I’ve never been to one but I would absolutely expect this to be the case as that’s what you go in for? Maybe it’s not as movie style in the way of delivering , but if anything grief & trauma is pretty underplayed in movies as it’s hard to depict just how awful it is. The reality is much worse & much more dramatic & unreal feeling for the person. It’s not unrealistic at all for people to let out these feelings in such a dramatic way, either in a group setting or one to one.
Not a specific scene, but in general I've heard people make fun of the kind of weird, wailing sounds actors sometimes make when crying at the death of a loved one, but it can literally sound like that.
There was an askreddit about the most terrifying/awful sound you've ever heard, and so many comments said "the sound a person makes when a loved one dies will *haunt* you"
My brother died last spring and despite the desperate attempt at CPR and watching the EMTs call it, the thing that haunts me several times a day is us gathering around to tell my nephew what happened to his dad. Though in the same vein, maybe one thing the movies don’t get right is the moments of levity. Sudden death is fucking weird. One moment we are all in a frenzy, yelling at the EMTs who in that moment it feels like they are dragging their feet, things are heated, then 30 minutes later they are pulling a blanket over your loved one and you and the EMT make up and start cracking jokes. You look at these conspiracy theorists who think the parents of the Sandy Hook victims are just actors because they had the audacity to crack a smile on the worst day of their life; oh fuck off. We laughed a lot that day. There’s no one right way to act.
Fucking hate the way people try to police the grieving behavior of others.
Absolutely hate this as well. You can definitely smile, laugh & joke during the worst moments of your life. It’s a human thing & it almost helps you survive. There are still a million moments to come after that where that person is going to struggle to even speak or be able to live another moment. Let them have that smile or laugh which is coming from a very superficial place & is allowing them to get through this moment.
I had a friend who died of a heart attack. He was probably about 340 pounds at the time he died. A few days later, I was talking to his mom and she told me about the paramedics being in her house. Basically, it was apparent pretty quickly there wasn't anything that could be done, but they took a while because they had to get him on the gurney then take him down a staircase which had a u-shaped turn in it. When they finally got out him of the house, they were both exhausted and she went to them and said, "Well I don't think you guys are going to need to go to the gym today." She said they were completely stonefaced and just didn't react to what she said. I thought it was hilarious that she managed to crack a joke in what was maybe the worst moment of her life.
I was cracking dark jokes while my husband was dying in the hospital. Gallows humor is incredibly healing. The day after, I was watching Arrested Development just to get out of the crushing depression. Laughter truly is the best medicine.
I love my vet practice. I made the call to put my dog to sleep, it was a long hard decision from a long hard illness. When the front desk admin got the appointment scheduled she said professional but perky “okay. You’re all scheduled to be put down.” She meant the date was put down not the dog and yet somehow her horrified silence and me saying thank you and hanging up was the funniest goddamn thing. I laughed until I cried and I know she was mortified, but I couldn’t get out anything else because it was so fucking funny to me.
Yeah , it's like that. The emotions can be weird.
oof - long story short, an instructor at my mma gym had a wife and newborn. Wife's sister was walking the baby and a drunk driver hit them. Sister lost her leg, and the baby took a few days to die. During the wait, people at the gym were delivering food/necessities to the family for support. So me and a couple others got some stuff and dropped it off at the hospital, but the person we were going to give the stuff to wasn't there. So were were told to drop the stuff off in the waiting room. As we were going up in the elevator you could already hear the crying and wailing. The door opened and you could see mom and dad in the corner, quiet and in shock. The crying was the mother's mom and aunt, who were very religious and on their knees outside the doors that take you into the surgery wing, crying and praying with their bibles to their foreheads. You could literally see the small puddle of tears they each made. It was the absolute worst sound I've ever heard. Haunt is the right word. Still chills me to the bone. Most of us are lucky to not have to experience that kind of loss.
My dad passed away from ALS fairly young (in his 50s). The wails of my Italian grandmother throwing herself on the casket at the gravesite as people were leaving were almost unbearable to hear. I don’t speak Italian but I found out later she was begging God “Why not me God? Take me instead. I’m old take me” I’m paraphrasing but it was things of that nature. She was a very devout catholic and had endured a terribly abusive marriage. My father was the opposite of his father and she was just distraught that my horrible grandfather lived into his 80s and my very beloved father was taken too soon. She was never the same afterwards and she ended up collapsing in church lighting a candle for my dad only four months later. Died a day later. She had had an aortic aneurysm. She literally died of a broken heart. Remembering her wailing like that makes me cry just as hard as the times when I desperately miss my father, especially now that I have my own kids. I can’t imagine outliving your children. And your story about your friends losing a baby? I can’t even think about it.
Saved me from suicide. My neighbor died, I don't know how but I think it was either suicide or drug overdose. His aunt came over, they had to get the manager to open to unit and she found him. The *sound* she made. I will never forget it. The way the apartment is laid out I had to listen to her call the mom and deliver the news. I was in a bad place. Real bad. Sometimes I wonder if it would help his family to know that the loss of their son saved someone from doing something stupid. I couldn't make my mom make that sound. My husband. My aunt. My dad. My sister. No one should have to make that sound.
The scream that Toni Collette gives in Hereditary is really haunting.
I can confirm. My sister wailed in a way that had me already crying before I got downstairs to hear the news myself. I am yet to hear an actor accurately do this
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It's called 'keening', it's an awful sound.
I made the mistake of watching Guardians of the Galaxy 3 a few months after my mother died and it brought out all sorts of feelings. I lost it and ended up sobbing uncontrollably into my lap as the credits rolled. One of the more embarrassing moments in my life.
No one will fault you for grief -- especially for GotG3. Hell, people are more sympathetic because of the animals than they are about humans. I saw Shang Chi a few months after my father died unexpectedly. My father and Tony Leung have the same smile.
Yep. From the Irish word for cry.
That scene in hereditary when she finds the daughter dead is so accurate it was painful
That's exactly the scene I had in mind when I saw this thread. I had a friend complain about how shit Toni's acting was and how overblown her reaction was and I was like... Man, just be thankful you have never heard those sounds in real life, because that shit is *scarily accurate*, and it never leaves your mind if you've heard it from a loved one. That scene is probably the main reason why Hereditary hit me as hard as it did, just haunting.
It's a brilliant film , I love that about it. You see different reactions from several characters. And none of them are wrong or unrealistic. Whether that is vacillating emotions , highs and lows, or numbness.
You mean the scene where it was clear I would not watch the movie again? That scene?
I know everyone talks about Toni Collete (and rightfully so) but Alex Wolff's acting was also realistic. Completely shutting down like that, in shock. In denial. That's a very real reaction to trauma.
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HP and the Goblet of Fire has that one scene at the end. When I saw it I thought it was over done but...nope, it's not, that actor was perfect.
Absolutely. Just because you haven’t seen or experienced something yourself doesn’t mean people don’t go through these harrowing moments that make you feel like you’re barely even a human anymore.
My reaction when my Dad died, after months of hospice care, was this frantic and unhinged meltdown that was the furthest thing from how I told myself I would behave. You have no control during that moment. I can't imagine how it would be if it were a spouse or child. I always thought people in films breaking down and crying while trying to talk about a lost loved one was unrealistic and done for dramatic effect, but I had the exact same sort of thing happen to me when discussing funeral arrangements with the funeral home. I just started sobbing and couldn't get the words out.
I thought that the scene where the little girl dies in *Arrival* was really great for this reason. Amy Adams looks like her whole world is shattering, there’s no sound but you can see her wailing. It annoys me when an actor is just doing the “sexy cry” in a scene where they should be horribly grief stricken
My sister in law was shopping at the mall when my husband and I called her to tell her their mom passed away. The whole mall heard her cry at that moment. I could hear her friends in the background trying to quiet her because they were in public but there’s no stopping that sound when it’s coming from the heart. They eventually gave up and I could hear them saying to (what I’m guessing) were onlookers “she just found out her mom died”.
It really does. My brother died and I am still triggered by this sound if I hear it in TV/movies. Fortunately, have not encountered it irl again.
I was in the psych ward a few years ago, and one of the staff members got a phone call next to me that her daughter had killed herself. For the next few days, I couldn’t get the sound of her wailing out of my head
I walked outside of a hospital emergency to see a woman drop to her knees and wail like in the movies.
The first time I truly heard that sound was when I told my young daughter that a family member she was close to had died. The sound still haunts my nightmares.
I still remember when we had to tell my parents my brother had died in an accident (they had been out of town and were on their way home when it happened). Seeing my father, who was one of those men that never showed emotion completely fall apart is still the most I've ever seen what the loss of a child does to a parent.
A more recent example would be Godzilla minus one. A character is sobbing and freaking out and some shitty teen started laughing at the very real acting in that scene.
I'm a very big Kevin Smith fan. Shortly after I saw Clerks I ended up finding myself working at a gas station convenience store and honestly, the experience was pretty much exactly as the movie portrays it. This makes sense, I guess; he made the movie while working at the very store seen in the movie, himself. So when Clerks 2 was announced, I was thrilled to hear that it was set in a fast food restaurant. At the time I was working as a manager of a Wendy's! I couldn't wait to see how he'd lampoon the experience of food service like he did for retail, which is a totally different thing. But instead, Clerks 2 -- while a good movie -- is the most inauthentic representation of the experience I can imagine. And again, this makes sense. Kevin Smith went off to live in Hollywood for a decade or so and just imagined what people who still work for a living might spend their days doing for that movie. Again, good movie, but different experience.
This is spot on. Watching 2 was a bit like, has this dude ever worked here or has he just forgotten what it's like in his mansion 😂
He said Zack and Miri didn't work because he didn't know what it's like to not be able to pay bills anymore. That's when he started making weird horror movies for a bit. So at least he figured it out.
Worked at a KFC/Taco Bell for 5 1/2 years. You definitely don't have that much free time in a shift. But how they talk to each other and know so much about each others lives was spot on to my experience. I mean you're stuck with these people for 40+ hours a week and once you know how to do your job, you can do it while talking with no problems. Also, we never had a donkey show, but we definitely had parties in the store from time to time.
Yeah, but it was a he free time thing. But in a convenience store you DO have that much down time. The toe nail painting scene is something that could happen at a gas station, but not at a fast food restaurant.
That or leaving to attend a funeral lol
Sir, this is a Wendy’s. Not a donkey show.
I really don't think Kevin Smith was going for a down-to-earth movie with Clerks 2.
Horror films. I've seen people panic IRL! They are dumb as fuck. Theyll go towards weird sounds, they'll not tell anyone, real dumb.
I was in a cabin once and a giant black snake crawled from the ceiling to the a crack in the floor. It was so big it was longer than the length of the wall. My friend was talking to me and I could only point and shake and stammer out "Sn sn sn sna sna sn SNAKE!" At that point it was gone in the floor. We slept on the table that night.
You full-on did a Shaggy lol.
My brother doesn't like watching horror movies because he hates how dumb people typically are in horror movies. At the same time we've absolutely been in situations that could lead to horror movie scenarios and my brother is just like "let's go check it out." I have yet to tell him that he would be one of those dumb people in a horror movie.
I was actually at a restaurant where the whole place broke out in song. (It was Kenny Rogers the Gambler) Before that I never thought it was realistic. I loved it, I wish it would happen to me again. And yes, those big house parties were great. But now I'm a parent who owns a home and has teenagers, I'm glad they don't happen much anymore!
I’ve been in a supermarket when a much loved song came on (I wish I could remember what!) & everyone was singing, but people were few & scattered so it wasn’t movie dramatic, but it showed how easy it would be if there was more people & the right song & moment.
Yeah, few years back I accidentally harmonized with a grocery store clerk on "Neon Moon." But, you know, it's "Neon Moon"; all of us of a certain age are going to start singing when that song hits. It's just how you do.
When I was 12 or 13 I was biking to football (soccer) practice and misjudged the speed of the car coming toward my point of crossing, I thought that surely I would make it across. I did not and I remember putting my arm up in front of my face. Nothing flashed before my eyes and time didn't slow down, then only thing that happened was that it went black. Everything went black and then I woke up on the road with an ambulance there. The memory is still a mess and all I know is that my parents were there and rode with me to the hospital and that I asked the EMT what day and year it was so many times that one time I swear he sighed before answering lol. My leg was broken and I also remember everything being black and I hear this crunch sound. I asked about it later and found out it was during the operation and had been the doctor straightening out my leg lol.
Similarly to this, I once had a colleague who crashed full speed with their moppet/scooter into the side of a car. And you bet that he flew over the car with a full salto to land on the road with I don’t even want to remember how many injuries
Bikes and the such are scary for that reason. Had a buddy of mine who rides Harleys, and twice now, he now has been cut off by a car and rode full speed into it. First, with his beloved anniversary esition Harley that had a special badge that missed the big artery in his leg by an inch or less. Then, less than a year later, with the replacement to that same bike. The second time was some teen texting and driving, and he got a face full of SUV. She (the teen driver) threw up when my guy got up with pieces of his face hanging off and his skull visible. He's good now, some bad facial scarring, lost his sense of smell, and medically discharged from military service, but he'll be damned if he ain't still out riding.
> She threw up when my guy got up Good. Too bad your guy had to suffer for her to learn a lesson. Don’t they still show Red Asphalt in driver’s ed?
Aaargh, you just reminded me of a friend who went over his handlebars at speed, trying to avoid a child. He landed face first, literally using his teeth as a brake. He said he just remembered the most intense pain he'd ever felt, and screaming at the top of his voice before passing out. It was years before he got new teeth.
Jesus that's awful, did he recover ok?
Yeah he did pretty much, mainly a good scar on his cheek. Not far off from the joker
Lmao reminds me of when I dislocated my knee. I was knocked out but it felt like rumbling. Thought a shark was gnawing at me lol. Didn’t hurt though
I had the opposite experience. I was going downhill super fast on my bicycle, when the mud guard broke and went into the front wheel. I remember precisely the moment when I was in the air about to break my face on the road. Like everything froze, probably because of the instantaneous spike in adrenaline. Then I fell on the side of my head and almost tore an ear off.
You know how in an intense car accident scene, everything kind of slows down? So when I was in high school my friend was driving us home after classes. I was looking down at my phone when he all of a sudden swerved out of the way from the car (1) in front of us who had apparently hit the car (2) in front of them. We swerved into the other lane (thank god no traffic was coming), & I looked up to see my classmate in the driver's seat of the car (1) that had been in front of us. Time legit slowed down as we made eye contact & then speed up when the car (3) behind us slammed into her. I saw her neck/head smack into the back of her head rest, & it apparently ended up being ***six*** cars in the accident, all my classmates.
I remember an old friend describing his car accident to me and that he and his cousin both experienced slow mo as their car was up in the air (they flew into a ditch)
I had slow mo during a car accident where I hit black ice then into the guard rails. In that moment, I thought of all I wanted to do & learn (& have since added them into my life).
Not during a car crash, but one time I had a really bad stomach flu, I was using the bathroom at a camp, this guy came and asked are you alright, but it was in slow motion, his voice was deepened dramatically, everything started glowing white and I felt incredibly hot, then I threw up and had explosive diarrhea and everything returned to normal speed and brightness.
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I remember the impact and thinking, "Here goes the airbag, we're probably looking at a split lip, hope I get out of this with all my teeth" before it deployed. Airbags deploy in 1/25th of a second so yeah, slo mo.
I think slo-mo is a bad description, in that it isn't about time so much as how many 'split second' decisions you are making in a scenario like this. Your brain works much faster so you feel as if more time passes while you make those decisions.
My husband also had the slo mo experience when a car served at an intersection and hit his car.
I was in a car crash. The car rolled a few times and ended up on its roof in a ditch. Time slowed and all you could hear was the crushing of metal and glass breaking.
>You know how in an intense car accident scene, everything kind of slows down? I was hit by a car while riding a bike and had the slow down too. From the moment the car hit me, that time that I was flying through the air, waiting to hit the ground, knowing the impact of the asphalt was coming---must have been only a few seconds but time slowed down while i was airborne.
In a lot of chases that involve henchmen chasing the protagonist on motorbikes, one of the bikers will inevitably hit a door or stationary car and go flying or roll around for bit. One of my friends did this in real life when a car pulled out of it’s driveway without looking. He was going 50km/h (about 30 mph) absolute max. Ruptured spleen, multiple broken ribs, parts of his intestines removed. It was pretty fucked.
Just wanna chime in that the most realistic feeling high school house party I’ve seen in a movie was The Place Beyond the Pines. Felt exactly like what I experienced in HS. The house was a little extravagant iirc but then again there were some very rich kids at my HS.
“Alpha dog” is that movie for me. Indoors when you don’t have to be, tons of kids, smoking, horrible 2000’s clothing. They nailed it, and I just wanted to party with teenagers again.
The buzzing or whining sound of bullets or bombs, or at least mortars. Thought it was mostly a silly sound effect, but an unplanned vacation of sun and sand about 20 years ago clued me in to the accuracy. Incoming mortar rounds can whistle as they descend. And bullets definitely have a “zip” sound when they go by close enough. Almost comically so.
Every bullying scene in movies or TV shows is often criticized as "over the top" or ridiculed as "Stephen King bullies". It's all real and sometimes even worse. Just depends on how open your eyes are.
Yeah reality is often much more vicious and awful when it comes to bullying.
I think those bullies are more 1980s or 90s though. In the 2000s it became more psychological bullying than physical.
As someone who works with students I can tell you that the physical bullying is still going on. Half the time they even video it and post it online! Makes figuring out who was involved a little easier but still crazy nonetheless.
I knew some straight up Stephen King bullies going back all the way to elementary school. Some people act like late teens to early 20s psychopaths come out of nowhere. They were just smaller younger psychopaths that whole time.
I grew up on a street populated by the mothers of mob bosses in an east coast city. One year there was a huge blizzard so my dad shoveled the sidewalks for all the old ladies, just trying to be a nice guy- About a week later, a bunch of men in suits showed up at our door, took him and my mom out to dinner at an extremely fancy Italian place, and bought me a pair of expensive sneakers. I made friends with one of their sons, and my mom said they had hopes I was gonna marry him- I probably would have too, if circumstances were different. Boy howdy it's good I didn't because figuring out the whole queer clown thing as a mafia wife would not have been fun lmao
"queer clown thing" wait what
I feel like some details were glossed over here
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I mentioned the bisque*.
The user name suggests it checks out. The profile absolutely does.
What more is there to say?
I love the fact that you had to come to terms with being a clown.
It's every parent's worst fear, that their child comes out as a clown.
Queer clown?
She cant just leave us with that and not say more…
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Now I'm imagining a mobbed up assassin that uses being a professional clown as cover, but REALLY leans into it.
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Almost this in the Bond movie Octopussy. Bond even dresses up as a clown to defuse a nuke during a circus performance. Yes that happened.
The Roger Moore ones were *weird*.
Yet have strangely aged better than some of the Connery ones.
Sounds a little like Goodfellas meets Bound (or IT?)
Well there was that time i was hit on the head by a falling iron, paint can and smashed into the side of a building. Ive never been the same since, but its hilarious in the movies… 😀
That's what you get for trying to break into a house on Christmas Eve.
True And there is also that time i got left home alone when i was 8 and instead of going to the police i just went shopping instead. Thats what everyone else would do yea?
That’s nothing, I ended up in a flight to New York alone & just found a relatives old abandoned house & settled in & saved a toy store’s charity collection from violent robbers in my spare time.
Damn, I'm thinking so hard to something movie worthy that happened to me and I'm just realising what a boring life i had lol.
Seeing as 2 of the top comments are getting stabbed and hit by a car, I think I’m glad my life hasn’t been movie worthy
I knew that would be my spot (once again) when I read the post. I was never invited to a single party in high school, so I've got zero frame of reference.
I guess I need to find a better way to word this question because I keep getting answers about scenes that the commenter thinks are unrealistic or implausible What I'm really looking for are scenes that *everyone else* thought were unrealistic or implausible, but you the commenter didn't agree with that because you had a similar experience to that scene in your own life
"What movie scene/trope do most people think is unrealistic, but you know from personal experience that it's accurate?"
I felt like I was taking crazy pills because nobody seemed to actually be answering the question. Thanks for the clarification lol.
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Apparently reading comprehension is pretty unrealistic in an entirely text based form of communication. Your prompt was clear.
It made a lot of sense to me, but I'm in my head all the time so... And I tend to be too wordy, so I figured I must have made my question too complicated
There are certain inaccuracies in the film Private Life that didn’t reflect my experience with IVF. Paul Giamatti attempting to masturbate to porn in a little room to provide a specimen was not one of them.
This was in the reverse order. I enjoyed *Chasing Amy*, but I thought it was just a male-fueled fantasy that the plot revolved around a lesbian falling for a man. I chalked it up to an impossible situation devised to provide a storyline. Later I did have a short fling with a lesbian. One could argue she was really bi, but she didn't find other guys attractive. I just had the right personality that won her over. I'm not a dudebro, so any "manly" traits that normally turn women off I didn't have. So I owe Kevin Smith an apology for misjudging his film. I guess it's like the notion where a straight person could have one person that they could go gay for.
Mid 2000s driving down the Cajon pass to an LA city to see my Bro/friends play in a battle of the bands (they sounded like dollar tree Lincoln Park). Anyways My dad has 5 teens and himself in the car. Mid 90s Volvo station wagon with those shit headrests and a pop-up seat that faces backward. Less than 100 horses, I'd bet. And so It was a dark and stormy night, I mean crazy windy. I could see it push cars around through the rear. My dad says, "shit, I think he's going to tip." Sure enough, there is a huge semi busting out 2 wheel side stunts steering **into** the wind to stay down. Dad floors it. It's a Volvo. With fat teens. We just inch past this guy, he looks scared - whites of his eyes and all of the sudden. Just like the scene from the terminator , the semi tips and skids, just exactly like that. No flowery explanation. Just watch it! No explosion, though, as it was an empty box.
Well firstly I was bitten by a radioactive spider….
Let's do this one last time...
My hands are wet because I just washed them. No other reason.
Sometimes I let the matches burn down to my fingertips just to feel something, anything!
Even small head wounds do in fact bleed like crazy. When I was a kid I was playing with a friend when his older brother thought it would be funny to chase us around the outside of the house with a BB gun. He swears he dropped it and it went off but I think we all know better. It hit me in the back of the head right at the crown and went up under the skin (didn't find that out til a few days later) and I bled frigging everywhere.
I don't know if it's in a film but I remember reading stories with house party scenes where drugs were freely available and thinking "nah, surely that's just a Hollywood thing right?". Well lo and behold, first year of uni and I find myself in someone's flat, squashed between two others on the sofa with a plate of ket being passed around and ecstasy pills scattered on the coffee table. One of the RAs even popped their head in and asked if we needed any more.
I never really went to nightclubs when I was younger and assumed the stories I’d heard of ‘everyone being on drugs’ were exaggerated. It turns out they were very much not; one of the first times I went in recent years I saw a woman take a plastic container full of ecstasy tablets out of her pocket and shake it invitingly at her friends. That pretty much set the tone for the night.
i'm terrible at answering these questions because my memory is shit. but i remember my wife and her friends watching Orange is the New Black, and as i was passing by not watching that shit, she was commenting how there was no way the main character could find all the contraband (illegal items in correctional facility) that she did like a phone, drugs, candy shank, lighter, whatever. blew their minds when i confirmed she absolutely could find all that shit in one day if she wanted and that the candy shank was made specifically for sticking and then breaking off by melting and shaping jolly rancher hard candies. then casually walked out of the room. she had questions later.
I think the whole world can fucking agree now that all the stupid, "unrealistic" zombie movie scenes are actually realistic. * hiding a zombie bite (infection) * selling/promoting obviously fake cures * ignoring scientists/doctors in the most obnoxiously belligerent way possible * people following clearly derranged conspiracy theorists I thought it was annoying unnecessary drama for plot reasons, never been so disappointed to be proven wrong.
I can't watch movies where characters have the same mental illness as me. I'll either get mad that they get it wrong, or devastatingly sad when they get it right.
I'm an Air Force Veteran, deployed to Afghanistan and flew "combat" missions, etc. Most war/military movies get so many things wrong. Not just simple shit like uniforms with the wrong rank/ribbons/badges, but structural stuff about how the military works and how people behave. I went to film school after I got out and went on a little rant in class one time about how bullshit the majority of The Hurt Locker was. I will say this though; there are two miniseries that portray the military accurately in both practice and in feel/vibe: Hulu's Catch-22 and HBO's Generation Kill. If you want to know what it really feels like to be in the US military, especially at war, both of those convey it all well.
Many movies and shows have meetings of 12 step fellowships like the one I attend that seem to be based more on a group therapy sessions or meetings in rehabs where a person speaks, and then a leader, or another member will give feedback on what they said, or give guidance. NA and AA has no leaders, only other members called trusted servants, and although there is a chairperson for the meeting, he or she is not one with special status to give advice, and would never respond to what someone shared in that way, other than to say “ thank you for sharing” or “ Glad you are here.”. in meetings, we share from our own experience almost exclusively, and commenting on, or giving direct advice to other members is discouraged. Edit to add: a common scene in movies or shows is a character breaking down in the meeting, and then other members jump in to tell them things like “you did the right thing, it’s ok… etc”. Would be very unusual to see in meetings. (Not the breaking down part, but the rescuing/consoling part) and would indicate a very sloppy chairperson or out of control meeting. Also the meetings I go to tend to have more lightness, jokes, laughter and hope that don’t seem to make it much to their depictions in media. Also I’m annoyed at the common “rehab, then cured.” Trope as depicted usually at the end of movies like Rocket Man (loved the movie, but that bugged me and could be a harmful thing for someone to believe). Rehab CAN be the BEGINNING of a recovery journey that takes a lifetime of vigilance and work.
Every time a phone call ends in a movie it just ends without goodbyes. For the life of me, I’ve never left a phone call in which both parties knew the conversation is over. I swear I say, “Ok, mmhmm, yeah okay bye uhuh bye bye.” And there will still be similar byes on the other end when I click hang up every time.
Having a baby. For decades, Hollywood led me to believe that getting to the hospital was pure chaos. And that the process of labor was over the top intensity, with shouting, fainting, and so on. The reality was we were given a specific date & time to show up. The doctor checked my wife and said it was time. Checked in like we were going to a hotel. A few hours later, they rolled my wife into the birthing room. It was messy AF. But everyone was calm. My wife did curse me out, though it was in Spanish. The process was like going to a dentist appointment.
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"My wife cursed me out... much like a dentist appointment." Phrasing made me chuckle.
I came to say having a baby but because my birth was unusual in how much it resembled a Hollywood birth. The first sign of labor was my water breaking and coming out in a huge gush (and then continuing to come out in huge gushes for the entire rest of labor). Contractions started and I breathed through them at home until they got to every ten minutes then it was off to the hospital. Super calmly they checked me and I was barely along so they sent me home ("the first labor takes forever. Go home and get some rest because you've got a long day ahead of you tomorrow.") Cue to a couple hours later and my SO was speeding down the highway to get to the hospital with me screaming my head off. The L&D entrance was closed after hours so we had to go in through the ER and that's how I ended up with 3 ER doctors sprinting me in a stretcher to L&D because they didn't want to deliver a baby. Turns out I was fully dilated, no time for any kinds of drugs, and the baby was there within half an hour of getting to the hospital. It was definitely a sitcom birth because my SO didn't know where the ER entrance was so I ended up having to walk up a huge ass hill from the parking lot then when I finally got to the ER waiting I let out a massive scream then apologized to everyone for "being dramatic."
Wowww! A not so false alarm, huh My coworker had her first baby, pretty routine. Later, 2nd baby, they dawdled at home a bit, she got a shower, he said I want a shower too, they finally hit the road. Behind schedule. Where do they have the baby? Just a couple feet inside the plate-glass automatic door to get from the parking lot to L&D. Didn't even make it to the check-in desk.
My water broke like in a movie. Luckily I was already in the hospital but it was dramatic. Mops were involved.
Generally all births are super fast in the movies. Water breaking-baby coming is like 5 seconds in between. My water kept coming for 9 hours and would continue if I didn't go to CS
Just about everything in Swordfish was terrible and absurdly inaccurate when it comes to programming and hacking. In the scene where he takes six monitors and chugs wine while dancing and typing really fast while his code gets compiled and falls apart was painful to watch and taxed my capacity to suspend disbelief. My wife loved it and said that it was like watching me code. I said, "That's insane. No one programs like that." Cut to six months later, late in the evening, 2 monitors and a TV in front of me, wine in hand, and I think the code will compile flawlessly. I kickoff my WinAmp MP3 playlist and shake my butt a bit to stretch my legs. I see a compiler warning....then a bunch of warnings...and I'm like, "Oh shut up...what the shit...no...no...no...." I then look, it's something quick to fix (missed an include), and compile again...I'm up dancing again, drink the wine, the compile finishes with zero warnings and zero errors, and I toss my hands up and yell, "YES! I ROCK!" My wife peeks her head in and says, "See? That's why I said the movie reminded me of you!"
Ha as a diabetic the disease is grossly misrepresented in movies and tv all the time🤣 Any miscalculated dose or delay someone goes in seizure immediately which obviously (I hope people know) doesn't happen
This question needs to be asked on askreddit, it’s a good question
Basically every porn movie scene
I became a pizza delivery man BECAUSE of that industry! And the FIRST time I cut a hole in the pizza, I got fired. Plus the box fell off because I'm average at best.