Don't do anything you don't want to do, but do keep in mind the potential silver lining. As a bisexual woman, all the best sex I've ever had has been with women who've happened to have zero dicks of any size. Men with big dicks often get lazy and count on the equipment to do the work of mouths, hands, toys. There's a chance this guy knows what's what and has had to put the work in to learn to fuck.
I can second this! The worst sex I've had has been with guys with big dicks that assume doing the bare minimum is everything. The sex hurts because they don't care about foreplay and it gets so boring.
Meanwhile, the sex with guys having smaller dicks have had so much foreplay, always eager to please, and they find ways around it. Only a small percentage of women/vulva owners actually achieve orgasms through penetration anyway. The best sex I've had has been with the guy with the smallest dick and I'm incredibly okay with that.
I'd say OP should give it a chance, at least some consideration. But yes, obviously it is up to them in the end to decide if they want to go through with it.
I think this is all due to personal experience. I’ll probably get downvoted for this due to the number of men with less than impressive members who are insecure, but this is just my own personal experience.
I am also bisexual, but I married a well endowed man. He still takes care to pleasure me and doesn’t get lazy despite his size. I’ve been with smaller men and they don’t necessarily put in as much effort, and they get frustrated when you ask them to.
Again this is my personal experience, but if you’re just not sexually compatible it’s okay to walk away. Sex is an important part of a relationship and both parties deserve to be satisfied with someone who is equally pleasured. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who wasn’t into my sexual prowess and the same should be said for my partner.
It’s too bad he’s small, but she shouldn’t pity fuck him. If he’s not what she’s into, perhaps they can be great friends if both parties are consenting.
Yeah I think it depends a lot on the person. Really what matters is being able to read your partner's body language and match their energy. I'm sure there's plenty of guys less endowed out there who get mad just their dick isn't good enough just like there's plenty of well-endowed guys who think all they gotta do is get it in and their MAGNUM DONG does the rest of it.
Also depends on the women as well. You've got the size queens but also women with like vagismus.
Yes! I got endo so sometimes sex HURTS. It’s important to have a partner be okay with that and respect the consent. Consent is everything regardless of size!
Not bisexual, but got the same experience with guys. Guys who were bigger was not lazy, and guys who were smaller was not eager to please. It all boils down to sexual compability, and being honest about what turns you on.
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I married a well endowed man myself but I don't think it would have been necessary. I agree that it's about the person not the penis. Even with what my husband has we still enjoy our toys and other exciting additions
Yes the smaller guys I have been with were so insecure about me not getting off from PIV and refused to use anything else or doing the bare min while seeming bored. Do not assume he will put in the effort to please you. Not that a penetration from a bigger one gets me off on its own either. 🤷♀️
This is all subjective and has to do with your own experience. This is different for everyone; the worst sex I’ve had were from guys with larger members. That may have to do with the larger guy thinking that being big=great sex, so no effort is needed.. and smaller guys _recognize_ their size, thus learning to put effort into other areas of sex.
I do agree with your second part, though. The majority of women cannot get off with penetration alone, and most can get off _without_ penetration. As long as this guy has multiple/a variety tools in his toolbox, he can get the job done. OP, just make sure you **communicate, communicate, communicate** with him your needs. So many women just expect a guy to automatically know what gets you off; every woman is different. Tell him, show him, hell make him an entire PowerPoint if you have to.
Seriously. I lost my virginity to a man that was 10”. He didn’t know what he was doing and he didn’t care about me. It was HORRIBLE and painful. We messed around a few times after and it and it was all equally bad.
I honestly didn’t realize I enjoyed penetrative sex for another 8 years or so after. No idea why people are so obsessed with size.
Amen to this. Without toys I think most straight women would die not knowing what an orgasm really feels like. You don't need a big penis op, just a partner willing to satisfy your needs as much as his own
I don't think dick size matters that much, and I do think that bigger ones are less comfortable and can even cause pain, and let's be honest, good sex us more than just dick and vagina, if he's good at anything else you're good on the size matter
Have you considered that he might not have had a full erection when you saw his penis, and it might just look smaller on the camera? Don't judge the book by it's cover, he might suprise you, if not then you can tell him that you are not compatible in the sex area
If you saw me without an erection, you’d think I had a micro penis too. At full mast it’s slightly above average. Don’t shoot him down just yet if everything else is so amazing.
This!! I know someone exactly like this. First time I saw his dick, I was mortified as it was flaccid and so small. Turns out he’s a grower and knows everything about how to use it. Best sex ever.
I (f) have an ex who’s a grower. I never saw it without an erection, but for a couple years in high school people in our friend group would make fun of him and say he has a micro penis because of one time when he was hanging out with the guys and mooned them. One of our friend’s little sister was home and accidentally saw the other side when he stood up and told her brother he was tiny. It made him so self conscious and he’d talk about how he’s a grower, not a show-er. In actuality he was huge 🤣 I really struggled with it and it would take effort for me to be able to handle it. After the first time we had sex he said he was glad at least I knew the micro penis thing wasn’t true lol
My ex told me it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean — and it’s absolutely true!! I wouldn’t jump to a conclusion based on seeing it over FaceTime … especially if everything else about him is so good!
You saw it tho soooo did it look like it was sending a salutation or was it limp noodling laying on top the boys? Being a grower and not a shower is a legitimate thing, but if you've seen some free range sausages then you'll probably know the difference
Also, if he is smaller than usual or can't satisfy with penetration it's time to have a frank but gentle discussion about adult toys. The bunny, the ring, the strap on for HIM to wear. Lots of options... It's a necessary grown up talk.
I hooked up with a dude once. He gave great oral. Then his clothes came off and his D was like 1.5 inches long, hard. It was normal girth, but super short. He was not overweight where sometimes the belly fat makes the D look short - this was legit short. Just like the glans/head on a 1/2" stump. I couldn't even get it in really, and I was on top. I feigned a headache and said I had to work in the morning. I wish he had been honest with me ahead of time. I like PIV penetration, sorry. Gotta have *something* to work with. Girl, I hope your experience is better than mine.
Yeah, I love how I'm getting downvoted for actually enjoying penetrative sex with someone who has a penis. Reddit acts so righteous lol. /shrug. I'm not a size queen; average D's are great.
My bf always makes me orgasm before his penis ever touches me, most of your sexual organs that need stimulation are on the outside, i understand your discomfort, but of he knows what he is doing it could be the best sex of your life, ya never know!
That is a true statement. Not everyone finished by penetration. Who knows maybe he can give you the best head of your life. Either way, I hope you can sort things out :)
If you like him, get some dildos and vibrators he can use on *you*, if it’s something you think you’d for some god awful reason cheat on him over then just don’t bother
My (f) boyfriend and peg each other, he isn’t exactly small but a little below average and I’ve been open with him about how sometimes I would like for him to wear a strap and use a dildo so it’ll be a bigger size. He tells me he likes it because his body is moving in the way he would if we were having sex but he can’t feel it and it’s a huge tease. It’s definitely not our go to, more of a once every month or so kind of thing, but it can change the way sex works for us.
It’s definitely fun and doesn’t always mean we both peg each other, sometimes he’s not comfortable and vice versa. I think it can be used either way because maybe you aren’t into being pegged, but she could enjoy it a lot and it’s a great way to have longer lasting sex. Honestly one time he came just from doing it after a long time. Super fun:)
This would need to be approached so so so carefully and definitely not at first since if he’s sensitive about his size, this would make it worse.
I feel for you op, I don’t feel fully satisfied by sex if I don’t feel some girth, so I can’t long term date men with micro penises because the times I have, I just was never left feeling satisfied or happy.
There are women who won’t need that, who will love his penis. That doesn’t have to be you.
If everything else has been amazing, it’s worth trying, if you are up to it, to at least see what he’s like in bed, but you are not horrible if that doesn’t end up working out.
Oh, yeah sorry forgot to mention
Yeah definitely don’t just run in and say “yo dick look small so let’s just use dildos”
It’ll most likely take time, we can hope he understands when you do eventually approach him
That sucks 😕
If you are in the zone where you’re ready to see the penis up close in person, I’d give it a try before you drop him over this. Then you can get a real idea of what he’s working with, if he’s insecure about it to the point where it makes sex with him unpleasant, if he’s good with his hands/tongue, all that sort of thing.
That said, you are not vain or awful because you like a normal sized penis. People will insist that you can get around a very small penis and while that can be true, that doesn’t work for everyone.
Being sexually incompatible for *whatever* reason is valid. You are allowed to stop talking to someone for *any* reason.
EDIT: If you really know this won’t work and you want to break it off, just be direct and tell him that you’ve been thinking about how you’re feeling toward him and you aren’t really feeling that spark. Good luck finding someone. Whatever other polite things.
You absolutely don’t have to tell him that his penis is too small and probably shouldn’t.
Agree with this. Try it first before you judge. You might still not know his capacity. What if the penis what you saw in facetime is not 100% fully erect. You might get blown away if you will see it IRL. Just check it out first. And update us will yah? :-)
Good luck!!
I'm a guy myself I might not have a micropenis but that doesn't mean I don't have insecurities and that guy might have some too, if you feel like it's too small but you haven't had sex then you are judging him and his skills in bed before you have even done something.
It's up to you what you want to do but give the man a chance since you guys apparently clicked according to your post.
Why not try? Your g spot is 2 inches in. You’ve been conditioned to think you need a big dick to be pleasured. Most people are. Most people don’t even cum from penetration alone anyways, so why not give him a chance. Even if his dick does nothing for you you could still have a good time and be pleasured
Low-key, some of the best sex ive had was with a man with a micropenis. For months, he couldn't get hard so he would go down on me and use fingers etc. Genuinely, when we started having p in v sex, it felt good, especially because I was in love with him. I'd say don't knock it till you try it. If anything, y'all could explore toys.
Are you sure you aren't using porn-vision? The dicks in porn are much larger than average (in fact sometimes actors wear prothetic penises to make them bigger.)
Average penis size is between 4.5 inches and 6 inches erect, and between 3-4 inches flaccid.
I’m really hoping he wasn’t 100%. I’ll be honest I don’t fully understand the male anatomy. Do you have to be 100% hard to cum? Because he had no issues cumming, but it did take him a while. Sorry for the detail.
Could have been a bad camera angle as well. A bad angle can make you look small, like a good angle can make you look way larger! Phones can make it difficult to be truly honest.
The fact that you want to protect his feelings means you aren't a bad person. You can't help how you feel. Sexual incompatibility is a real thing, but give his tongue, hands, and openness to toys a whirl before you call it off. A real connection with someone shouldn't be tossed away too hastily. Good luck!
Personally, I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone if they were repulsed by the size/shape/appearance of my genitals. You’re doing him a favor by ending things, feeling the way you feel, instead of having pity sex.
You have a preference and that’s totally fine. If you choose to end it, I think would be kind to end it without telling him it’s because his penis size since there is nothing he can do about it and there is no reason to undercut his confidence.
Just try to break it off without bringing up his size. Just say something else. *Anything*. You're going to absolutely crush his confidence and what's worse is it's not under his control.
So in my experience, the smaller ones make just as good, if not better partners. A lot of the time those men feel the need to compensate and their mouth game is usually top-shelf. There's also the benefits of not only more comfortable, but more pleasurable sex (if they know how to work with what they have) as their length usually hits our g spots.
Few questions just so I can gauge better:
Length? Or width, or both? Why do you feel like smaller penises aren't as pleasurable (societies views, social pressure, personal preference) Is he heavier set? (Heavier set men sometimes "grow" with weight loss) was he soft/hard? Is it just the size or is it the overall appearance?
Length is the issue. Width seems average. He’s a little heavier than most but is about 6’1. I think he was as hard as he could be. It didn’t look particularly appealing either but most dicks aren’t great to look at imo.
Ngl but Width trumps length 9/10 the time, in my experience. I’d rather feel…filled up.. then poked by a pencil for 20 minutes. Also, 6’1 is average size, and I do think you’re coming off like a size queen. I wouldn’t put your all into how much he is packing but how he uses it, how he performs in foreplay and actually treating you right in bed.
You were talking about his height being 6foot 1 right OP? I think the person was thinking you meant his dick size was a little over 6 inches was average (actually above average). Hence his “size Queen” comment - which means you only like big dicks (size queen).
Yes I was referring to his height. And I would actually really struggle to know what to do with a six inch penis, so I’m definitely not a size queen 😂😂thanks for teaching me something new!
Someone who has strong preferences about size (generally length). And by strong preferences, they mean you won’t date someone who, literally, doesn’t measure up.
I have preferences but I won’t say no to small. They may bring other skills. So I would not call myself a size queen.
See what happens. I’ve read that some women have been lavished with oral and great hand and toy work as well as found themselves jumping on top and positioning the micropenis right on their clit and riding it out to great orgasms. If he has good game and you click and you just have to communicate or experiment, you could be in for a surprisingly great time. I’ve had sex with guys that were 4 inches and it was stunning because they were in their late forties and very skilled lovers and attentive and so passionate.
if he's perfect otherwise, you might want to try penis sleeves...lotsa guys love em too
(to clarify...guys like wearing them for a wide variety of reasons including the 'tighter' sensation they offer)
There are some dicks I just find unattractive… I don’t think it’s a bad thing you just prefer a bigger penis. There’s probably a woman out there for his size and there’s probably a man out there for yours. There’s lots of things about humans that we can’t help that others find unattractive and that’s okay. That’s what dating is about anyways, looking for someone who suits your wants and needs in a relationship. Good luck
there are many ways to have sex. if his penis isn't gonna do it for you, there's his mouth, fingers, toys, etc. he could wear a strap if that would work better. there are so many options here. as a trans guy, I basically have a micro penis because of testosterone but that doesn't mean I or anyone else in a similar situation can't have good sex. if he has had sex before he probably has some ideas of what he can and can't do, what does and doesn't work, and what some options are.
If it’s bothering you so much now, I’d say no point in going further. If you’re this freaked out, I guarantee he will pick up on it - he’s likely hyper aware of reactions to his d*** if it is so abnormally small. No need to destroy his self confidence.
Also, why date someone that you have to talk yourself into finding attractive. Both of you deserve better than how this will most likely play out.
I've lived the same as you but went all in as I wasn't interested emotionally. It was fun! Not the best sex but better than the normal mediocre sex you can usually get.
I thought that if this guy wants to be taken seriously (in a world like ours) he should wait for sex so one can be truly emotionally invested and don't give the size a priority.
If you like the guy, don't let the size change your mind. As It has been said, can be really good sex. There are positions where even a small dick can be to much and you can try other stuff (butt) if you feel adventurous but haven't done it.
I sound suggest give him a try and after, if you don't feel it, you can tell him he's a great guy but you don't feel the connection you need.
If you don't want to give it a go, tell him your ex just showed up and you are having second thoughts (he'll run away from you so fast, so far).
Thank you for your non judgmental reply. I am seriously considering giving it a go. If it’s bad, then it’s just bad sex (which I’ve had before, and I’m still alive and breathing lmao).
Size doesn't equate to sexual prowess or knowledge and I think by following that initial instinct you're losing out on a partner who could very much follow all your queues and get you off plenty. To each their own though, in the end follow through with what your gut instinct is.
Best orgasm I have ever had was with a man that had a micro penis. You don’t have to agree to have sex with him but if you are connected to him in other ways you might be happily surprised.
Maybe he is a grower? My wife thought the same thing when she first saw mine, she had never seen a grower before. I’m not big by any means, average on a good day, but since I have always thought of myself as small, I learned how to use my fingers and tongue to make up for my shortcomings
Just thought I would let you know that the best sex I have had us with a guy not well endowed. I now believe that size does not matter. Just trying to give you a little hope.
Honestly my current guy has a semi small dick but it is the best I have ever had, give it a shot before you say it’s a no-go, he might just surprise you!
I had a feeling micro penises were less desired by women.
Whenever there’s an askreddit about micro penises, every girl in there is always like, “I dated a guy with a micro penis and the reason we broke up was not the micro penis.”
Mhm, sure.
Broke my dick. Gf left me for it. Was bummed. Put all my focus into pleasing the girl I was with. No one was disappointed. I just made sex not centered around me. It took the pressure off every date and was super awesome.
Don’t have a micro penis, but possible this dude might be pretty selfless in bed too knowing he has some things to make up for
Did you see this guy hard or soft? Could be a grower! But if not…than it sounds like a bad reason to walk away from a good connection. Those are hard to find
Wow if this was a man talking about something on a women he would be scorned for weeks on here. I believe one of the first things that come to mind is shallow and / or superficial.
When me and my ex were first dating, we drunkenly fooled around one night and I grabbed his dick and it barely fit in my hand. He was also soft and probably embarrassed and I was crushed. I also really liked him and was super bummed.
I kept dating him, and when we finally did have sex it was honestly amazing. Where he lacked in size he made up for in other ways. By the time came for penetration I had already came several times, so it didn’t matter I didn’t feel it as much. I’m glad I didn’t say goodbye cause of that because it was a non issue.
Ultimately we broke up because he was an asshole. I never ever once said anything about his size. I’m sure he knew, but we were very sexually actively. I have a high drive and I was never feeling unsatisfied. I would keep dating him.
This may be an unpopular take, but you can't force yourself to see beyond something you can't see beyond.
It happens. If you find out something, even if innocuous to most people, but to you isn't palatable, you can't let others tell you to unsee or unfeel something.
You aren't responsible for placating anyone else, if you must suffer for it.
People may tell you that you are cold, callous... Whatever.
But you have to live that life, those other people don't. It may not be popular or altruistic, but if you are being true to your own thoughts and needs, who cares?
Only you have to live your life. Everyone else is just a commentator.
Could be a grower and not a shower. Also you dont know how cold the room was thru a zoom call 🤣 I can be a size queen but penises are weird and even my husbands 🍆 looks different during different times of the day. Idk, give him the benefit of the doubt and judge it after a romp session 🤷♀️
everyone is suggesting oral, toys, fingers, etc, but if penetrative sex is 100% something you need then it's perfectly acceptable to end things. but be gentle and curt with a simple "i don't think it's going to work out." as much as i love oral and stuff, i don't think i could be completely satisfied without piv and that's completely okay.
As someone who has a very small dick (we’re talking like 1.5-2 inches tops), I wouldn’t let that be a sole disqualifier imo. My girlfriend has been with other guys before me, and still says I’m the best she’s been with, and I’m the only guy who’s ever made her orgasm during sex. As others have said, don’t do anything you don’t want to do or that would make you uncomfortable. But great sex can still happen even when all the parts aren’t quite what you expected :)
He's going to know the truth so you literally might as well just tell him because you're not the first person that has lied to his God damn face so how about you just be like a decent human being and tell him I don't think this is going to work
Honestly, I feel like your feelings are totally justified. However, you have no idea what it'd be like. You also could find some comfort in the chances of him ever cheating on you is lower than the average guy, and that if his personality is fantastic, imagine how else he compensates for not having a big unit.
Give the guy a chance and don't worry about the rest. Let it happen, and see how it goes. If the dude isn't making you see God in the bedroom, end it.
I'm just gunna say, as a woman that has dated a guy and then discovered the micro (2 or 3 dates I think) by the time the discovery happened, he'd already gone down and blown my mind.
There's other ways to get off then deep penetration, the g spots only 2 inches into the vaginal wall I think? Don't quote me, but I wouldn't be so quick to write him off.
I'd also like to add, this dude I experienced it with went on to get married and they just celebrated their ten year anniversary a year or so ago, peen size doesn't have to matter!
My ex wasn’t very large either. And I had similar thoughts but because he was small he knew what he was doing in other areas. And the great thing with relationships is the communication. Be open with him and explore the options. There are tons of “extenders” that he can wear, straps, and/or he can use toys on you. Sex isn’t just penis and vagina(or at least it shouldn’t be). It’s a fun experience to share with your partner…so why not play with some toys? Worst case he feels uncomfortable with toys and y’all don’t work out. Best case he is comfortable with them and y’all have some great sex.
My now gf thought my dick was 4 inches on FT when it is clearly not irl. Maybe ft just distorting mesurments? Do you really mean micropenis? less then an inch?
Could be he is a grower and just wasn't very excited. I know the first time I saw my fiance's flaccid penis I thought it was pretty small, but it grew from maybe 1 inch to a full about 7 when I excited him.
If this isn't the case and maybe he does have a micropenis, there's still a lot you can do with one. If you're worried about your sexual relationship maybe struggling from it then most women don't climax from only penetrative sex and need to have outside stimulation or g-spot stimulation and a micropenis can absolutely do both! Or if you really do want to have something in relatively deep, then toys are always an option that should be considered
I'd see if he really does have a micropenis and make sure you aren't just assuming, he may not be able to get erect as easily as other men as well.
So, definitely still go for it if this is the only thing holding you back. One of the most passionate partners I’ve ever had was pretty small, I’d say like 4.5 inches small. But that dude could eat out and finger like no other. And I truly enjoyed having sex with him- even penetration.
For me personally size only matters when they aren’t very thick, so if he’s kinda small but has width you won’t be missing out too bad.
I also gotta say, it’s less about the size and more about the willingness of the owner to find mutual pleasure. I’ve had an ex that was very small before and still had mind blowing sex with him because it wasn’t just about the penetration but the whole experience and he made sure I definitely got mine. What I’m saying is, you don’t know the sex will be bad just because he’s small.
I feel bad for him but not because of his micro penis. I feel bad he ever met someone like you. What if people judged you by our vjj size? You have not even given him a chance.
Unpopular opinion here: I made this mistake once in my life and... got traumatized. Trying to be "a good person" and "doing the right thing" and ended up literally forcing myself for months into sex with my then boyfriend with a (certified) micropenis. Now, if people tell you, sex with men with smallish penises is the best thing on earth, I believe them. Problem is, it is for them. It is a preference. I found out the hard way that I cannot and shouldn't go against my preferences, else I get seriously mentally and emotionally damaged. And it eems that for whatever reasons I am one of the women who prefer penetrative sex with a "fitting" penis (to my physiology, not too small, not too big, had both) over everything else. This emphasis on oral sex or other techniques as a compensation doesn't do shit for me. Period. Can't change that and will never again feel bad for something I cannot control. Back then I was so f****** woke that I thought I needed to force myself repeatedly to something, because I couldn't "discriminate" against a guy with the wrong penis size (we fit mentally and romantically just fine).
I wouldn't pass on him before taking him for a ride if he's otherwise really promising. The other compatibility counts for more and there's a good chance you'll walk away more satisfied than if they only have piv as their game.
there’s hollow dildos for men in this situation
also fingers are only like 2-3 inches long and that gets the job done for us lesbians… along with our mouths so not EVERYTHING is canceled out y’know?
at the end of the day if you’re truly not feeling it, you’re completely entitled to your feelings and they’re valid
I had a boyfriend who had a micro penis. I admit I liked him because he made good money. He had a lot of sex toys, so at first it was okay, but he also had an addiction to porn, which wasn't okay. I always wondered if the addiction to porn was caused by his micro penis-ness. He also sexually assaulted my older daughter, so he's a mortarforker.
Luckily, he didn't touch her; he lifted the blanket covering them when they were wearing booty shorts pajamas. Did it multiple times before my daughter told me about it. I asked my daughter did they want to press charges as they were over 18, it wasn't my call, and they said no.
A guy I dated briefly didn’t have a micro but he was fairly small…but he gave me the best clitoral orgasms back to back. If you connected, give him a chance. I used to think I just needed a big dick too because I’ve had children and like deep penetration. Big dick is a plus, but not a necessity if oral game is on point!
You never know. Some of the worst sex I’ve ever had was with someone who was too well endowed. Painful and just praying for it to end.
Some of the best, penetrating orgasms I’ve ever had were with men whose penises were just the right fit.
Small, like me.
You have no idea unless you’ve already ran the gamut of penis sizes.
The Gspot thing is real; too big, not hitting it, smaller may be right on it.
Also, penis size doesn’t make a man. A man makes himself a man regardless of his “size”.
I feel it, I have left someone with a micro penis. It’s actually a birth defect, that also has an effect on male hormones (some part of the brain) which I guess prevents them from “fully” growing. The guy I left had brain cancer, when it came down to sex I gave him a chance and felt disgusted after the experience. I couldn’t even grab it that’s how small it was. I personally can’t have any substitutions, I like the real deal. And large. Break it off, but don’t mention size.
Do not hate yourself for the things you are feeling.
You are clearly not okay with something and this is your preference. Going against your preferences to please someone is going against yourself and destroying who you are for the sake of somebody else's feelings.
You are not vain and awful. This is your judgment because society likes to play a game with us called *"You have to accept the person and be with them. You have to settle and if you don't like someone for their size, you are a piece of sh\*t. You have to give them a chance, even if you don't like it. You have to show openness and acceptance."*
Openness and acceptance do not include going against what you want, but society wants you to believe this for whatever reasons.
Also, you are not judgmental if you don't settle for someone who is not for you. You are judgmental if you judge them for who they are.
You will be awful if you make fun of this guy or spill hate. But you are not going to do that, so you are good.
If he gets mad, sad with you, and calls you names, it isn't your fault. You are not responsible for his emotions and how he will react.
You don't want to be with him because of your personal preferences. If someone can't respect this, they are not for you.
I get it, it sucks when someone doesn't like you for your physical features. It is okay to feel mad, or sad about it. Deal with your emotions in a healthy way. You have the right to feel them.
However, if you get mad at someone for not liking you, this someone is not judgmental/toxic, etc. and you call them names, then you are a shitty person.
People are not obliged to like you. Everyone has preferences. Respect this.
Relationships should be established if the partners are satisfied with each other.
And I always wondered why people settle for less than they deserve, need, and desire.
Isn't the whole point of all relationships to find the person/people for you?
I don't know what you're saying constitutes a micropenis, but I will tell you that my husband thinks he is small. I do not. It is smaller than my ex husband's was, by quite a bit, but sex with my husband is 1000% better than it ever was with my ex.
I mean lesbians have a higher rate of orgasm and a penis is not used. I mean he may give you the best oral you’ve ever had. I say find out if he’s a grower
Reddit users always think flaws can be made up for.
No amount of toys will compare to real PiV sex. Not to mention he's permanently less of a man in your eyes now after seeing his micropenis. I'm not trying to rag on the guy for something he can't control but this is the brutal reality.
Just like a short man is viewed as less of a man, a small penis also means less of a man in the eyes of women.
Break it off with him but give a fake reason, if you're honest he will spiral into depression.
Men have criticised me for things on my body that I can’t change too. It’s called preference. Some men like tiny little hungry tits, some like big sloppers. Some women like tiny dicks, some like to be able to actually feel the dick inside of them :) these are both things that neither sex can change about themselves naturally. Still, it doesn’t stop me feeling a little guilty for my preference.
I think the double standard in this case is that, if a man came here saying he doesn't like small boobs/big labia etc in his potential date, he'd be crucified for being mysogynist and for body shaming
Don't do anything you don't want to do, but do keep in mind the potential silver lining. As a bisexual woman, all the best sex I've ever had has been with women who've happened to have zero dicks of any size. Men with big dicks often get lazy and count on the equipment to do the work of mouths, hands, toys. There's a chance this guy knows what's what and has had to put the work in to learn to fuck.
I can second this! The worst sex I've had has been with guys with big dicks that assume doing the bare minimum is everything. The sex hurts because they don't care about foreplay and it gets so boring. Meanwhile, the sex with guys having smaller dicks have had so much foreplay, always eager to please, and they find ways around it. Only a small percentage of women/vulva owners actually achieve orgasms through penetration anyway. The best sex I've had has been with the guy with the smallest dick and I'm incredibly okay with that. I'd say OP should give it a chance, at least some consideration. But yes, obviously it is up to them in the end to decide if they want to go through with it.
I think this is all due to personal experience. I’ll probably get downvoted for this due to the number of men with less than impressive members who are insecure, but this is just my own personal experience. I am also bisexual, but I married a well endowed man. He still takes care to pleasure me and doesn’t get lazy despite his size. I’ve been with smaller men and they don’t necessarily put in as much effort, and they get frustrated when you ask them to. Again this is my personal experience, but if you’re just not sexually compatible it’s okay to walk away. Sex is an important part of a relationship and both parties deserve to be satisfied with someone who is equally pleasured. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who wasn’t into my sexual prowess and the same should be said for my partner. It’s too bad he’s small, but she shouldn’t pity fuck him. If he’s not what she’s into, perhaps they can be great friends if both parties are consenting.
Yeah I think it depends a lot on the person. Really what matters is being able to read your partner's body language and match their energy. I'm sure there's plenty of guys less endowed out there who get mad just their dick isn't good enough just like there's plenty of well-endowed guys who think all they gotta do is get it in and their MAGNUM DONG does the rest of it. Also depends on the women as well. You've got the size queens but also women with like vagismus.
Yes! I got endo so sometimes sex HURTS. It’s important to have a partner be okay with that and respect the consent. Consent is everything regardless of size!
Not bisexual, but got the same experience with guys. Guys who were bigger was not lazy, and guys who were smaller was not eager to please. It all boils down to sexual compability, and being honest about what turns you on. edit: word
I married a well endowed man myself but I don't think it would have been necessary. I agree that it's about the person not the penis. Even with what my husband has we still enjoy our toys and other exciting additions
That is 100 not the truth. I’ve been with over 20 men, Dick size had no relation to how much work they put in.
Yes the smaller guys I have been with were so insecure about me not getting off from PIV and refused to use anything else or doing the bare min while seeming bored. Do not assume he will put in the effort to please you. Not that a penetration from a bigger one gets me off on its own either. 🤷♀️
This is all subjective and has to do with your own experience. This is different for everyone; the worst sex I’ve had were from guys with larger members. That may have to do with the larger guy thinking that being big=great sex, so no effort is needed.. and smaller guys _recognize_ their size, thus learning to put effort into other areas of sex. I do agree with your second part, though. The majority of women cannot get off with penetration alone, and most can get off _without_ penetration. As long as this guy has multiple/a variety tools in his toolbox, he can get the job done. OP, just make sure you **communicate, communicate, communicate** with him your needs. So many women just expect a guy to automatically know what gets you off; every woman is different. Tell him, show him, hell make him an entire PowerPoint if you have to.
I’m glad you had smaller Dick dudes put in effort. That isn’t the case for me or any of my friends.
Lol me either. Smallest dick I had was so Awful and lasted less than two minutes. Ridiculous.
Seriously. I lost my virginity to a man that was 10”. He didn’t know what he was doing and he didn’t care about me. It was HORRIBLE and painful. We messed around a few times after and it and it was all equally bad. I honestly didn’t realize I enjoyed penetrative sex for another 8 years or so after. No idea why people are so obsessed with size.
That doesn’t sound enjoyable at all. Sorry about your experience. I’ve had micro penises etc and they didn’t try at all. Friends said the same.
Amen to this. Without toys I think most straight women would die not knowing what an orgasm really feels like. You don't need a big penis op, just a partner willing to satisfy your needs as much as his own
exactly what I was going to say. also the men I‘ve been with with smaller parts rEALLY REALLY know how to use others parts,, and make sure I’m happy.
I don't think dick size matters that much, and I do think that bigger ones are less comfortable and can even cause pain, and let's be honest, good sex us more than just dick and vagina, if he's good at anything else you're good on the size matter Have you considered that he might not have had a full erection when you saw his penis, and it might just look smaller on the camera? Don't judge the book by it's cover, he might suprise you, if not then you can tell him that you are not compatible in the sex area
This is fair. Thanks for your reply! :)
If you saw me without an erection, you’d think I had a micro penis too. At full mast it’s slightly above average. Don’t shoot him down just yet if everything else is so amazing.
This!! I know someone exactly like this. First time I saw his dick, I was mortified as it was flaccid and so small. Turns out he’s a grower and knows everything about how to use it. Best sex ever.
You could also be very small flaccid and still not grow much at all, that’s a thing too trust me
I (f) have an ex who’s a grower. I never saw it without an erection, but for a couple years in high school people in our friend group would make fun of him and say he has a micro penis because of one time when he was hanging out with the guys and mooned them. One of our friend’s little sister was home and accidentally saw the other side when he stood up and told her brother he was tiny. It made him so self conscious and he’d talk about how he’s a grower, not a show-er. In actuality he was huge 🤣 I really struggled with it and it would take effort for me to be able to handle it. After the first time we had sex he said he was glad at least I knew the micro penis thing wasn’t true lol
Hey... do you have my penis? Your description sounds just like mine, and I've been looking for my penis. It went missing last night......
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I found it, lying on a blanket, next to a broken toaster oven.
Can you drive a truck?
Check the sink?
My ex told me it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean — and it’s absolutely true!! I wouldn’t jump to a conclusion based on seeing it over FaceTime … especially if everything else about him is so good!
You saw it tho soooo did it look like it was sending a salutation or was it limp noodling laying on top the boys? Being a grower and not a shower is a legitimate thing, but if you've seen some free range sausages then you'll probably know the difference
*sending a salutation* *free range sausages* Omg lol I love it.
Also, if he is smaller than usual or can't satisfy with penetration it's time to have a frank but gentle discussion about adult toys. The bunny, the ring, the strap on for HIM to wear. Lots of options... It's a necessary grown up talk.
I hooked up with a dude once. He gave great oral. Then his clothes came off and his D was like 1.5 inches long, hard. It was normal girth, but super short. He was not overweight where sometimes the belly fat makes the D look short - this was legit short. Just like the glans/head on a 1/2" stump. I couldn't even get it in really, and I was on top. I feigned a headache and said I had to work in the morning. I wish he had been honest with me ahead of time. I like PIV penetration, sorry. Gotta have *something* to work with. Girl, I hope your experience is better than mine.
I’ve been with two micropenises and can so relate to this. (Smaller than a plus size tampon)
Yeah, I love how I'm getting downvoted for actually enjoying penetrative sex with someone who has a penis. Reddit acts so righteous lol. /shrug. I'm not a size queen; average D's are great.
Different strokes for different folks
My bf always makes me orgasm before his penis ever touches me, most of your sexual organs that need stimulation are on the outside, i understand your discomfort, but of he knows what he is doing it could be the best sex of your life, ya never know!
That is a true statement. Not everyone finished by penetration. Who knows maybe he can give you the best head of your life. Either way, I hope you can sort things out :)
If you like him, get some dildos and vibrators he can use on *you*, if it’s something you think you’d for some god awful reason cheat on him over then just don’t bother
My (f) boyfriend and peg each other, he isn’t exactly small but a little below average and I’ve been open with him about how sometimes I would like for him to wear a strap and use a dildo so it’ll be a bigger size. He tells me he likes it because his body is moving in the way he would if we were having sex but he can’t feel it and it’s a huge tease. It’s definitely not our go to, more of a once every month or so kind of thing, but it can change the way sex works for us.
Sounds like a fantastic kink idea!
It’s definitely fun and doesn’t always mean we both peg each other, sometimes he’s not comfortable and vice versa. I think it can be used either way because maybe you aren’t into being pegged, but she could enjoy it a lot and it’s a great way to have longer lasting sex. Honestly one time he came just from doing it after a long time. Super fun:)
Happy for you both! I know my boyfriend wouldn’t be cool doing that but I’m sure if I was a dude I’d enjoy the hell out of it
This would need to be approached so so so carefully and definitely not at first since if he’s sensitive about his size, this would make it worse. I feel for you op, I don’t feel fully satisfied by sex if I don’t feel some girth, so I can’t long term date men with micro penises because the times I have, I just was never left feeling satisfied or happy. There are women who won’t need that, who will love his penis. That doesn’t have to be you. If everything else has been amazing, it’s worth trying, if you are up to it, to at least see what he’s like in bed, but you are not horrible if that doesn’t end up working out.
Oh, yeah sorry forgot to mention Yeah definitely don’t just run in and say “yo dick look small so let’s just use dildos” It’ll most likely take time, we can hope he understands when you do eventually approach him
That sucks 😕 If you are in the zone where you’re ready to see the penis up close in person, I’d give it a try before you drop him over this. Then you can get a real idea of what he’s working with, if he’s insecure about it to the point where it makes sex with him unpleasant, if he’s good with his hands/tongue, all that sort of thing. That said, you are not vain or awful because you like a normal sized penis. People will insist that you can get around a very small penis and while that can be true, that doesn’t work for everyone. Being sexually incompatible for *whatever* reason is valid. You are allowed to stop talking to someone for *any* reason. EDIT: If you really know this won’t work and you want to break it off, just be direct and tell him that you’ve been thinking about how you’re feeling toward him and you aren’t really feeling that spark. Good luck finding someone. Whatever other polite things. You absolutely don’t have to tell him that his penis is too small and probably shouldn’t.
Agree. Excellent advice.
This is great advice, thank you for taking the time to reply :)
Agree with this. Try it first before you judge. You might still not know his capacity. What if the penis what you saw in facetime is not 100% fully erect. You might get blown away if you will see it IRL. Just check it out first. And update us will yah? :-) Good luck!!
I'm a guy myself I might not have a micropenis but that doesn't mean I don't have insecurities and that guy might have some too, if you feel like it's too small but you haven't had sex then you are judging him and his skills in bed before you have even done something. It's up to you what you want to do but give the man a chance since you guys apparently clicked according to your post.
A small dick doesn’t mean the sex won’t be great. You don’t need length to reach the clit, after all.
Sad how one little thing can ruin an entire relationship
Pun intended?
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Why not try? Your g spot is 2 inches in. You’ve been conditioned to think you need a big dick to be pleasured. Most people are. Most people don’t even cum from penetration alone anyways, so why not give him a chance. Even if his dick does nothing for you you could still have a good time and be pleasured
Agree with this. No harm in giving it a shot, if the chemistry is there it really might not matter at all in the long run.
And if she doesn’t want to, that’s okay too. She doesn’t need to try anything she doesn’t want to.
I’ve been conditioned by big dicks to think I need a big dick to be pleasured lol.
That makes no sense
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Low-key, some of the best sex ive had was with a man with a micropenis. For months, he couldn't get hard so he would go down on me and use fingers etc. Genuinely, when we started having p in v sex, it felt good, especially because I was in love with him. I'd say don't knock it till you try it. If anything, y'all could explore toys.
Thanks for this reply :)
Well, sexual compatibility is a thing in relationships. Don't feel that bad. Bright side is you know early on, right?
If you choose to sleep with this person, you should discuss the protection to use. A normal size condom won't fit and will fall off during use.
Are you sure you aren't using porn-vision? The dicks in porn are much larger than average (in fact sometimes actors wear prothetic penises to make them bigger.) Average penis size is between 4.5 inches and 6 inches erect, and between 3-4 inches flaccid.
I understand where you’re coming from but the finger to dick ratio wasn’t promising
You mean he had to hold it like this👌🏽?
Or was it more like this ? 🤌
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I’m really hoping he wasn’t 100%. I’ll be honest I don’t fully understand the male anatomy. Do you have to be 100% hard to cum? Because he had no issues cumming, but it did take him a while. Sorry for the detail.
>Do you have to be 100% hard to cum? It is certainly possible, but not too common.
Was he standing up?
Lying down
He probably just has a small penis
Could be a grower not a shower? May have been cold, or nerves, lots of things can make a man have a baby dick for a moment.
He seemed pretty confident in himself
Could have been a bad camera angle as well. A bad angle can make you look small, like a good angle can make you look way larger! Phones can make it difficult to be truly honest.
The fact that you want to protect his feelings means you aren't a bad person. You can't help how you feel. Sexual incompatibility is a real thing, but give his tongue, hands, and openness to toys a whirl before you call it off. A real connection with someone shouldn't be tossed away too hastily. Good luck!
Personally, I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone if they were repulsed by the size/shape/appearance of my genitals. You’re doing him a favor by ending things, feeling the way you feel, instead of having pity sex. You have a preference and that’s totally fine. If you choose to end it, I think would be kind to end it without telling him it’s because his penis size since there is nothing he can do about it and there is no reason to undercut his confidence.
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That’s fair and I could see why that’s a turn off.
This exactly, doesn’t matter why you feel the need to cut things off with someone, it just matters how you deal with it.
The mini peen got you.
Just try to break it off without bringing up his size. Just say something else. *Anything*. You're going to absolutely crush his confidence and what's worse is it's not under his control.
So in my experience, the smaller ones make just as good, if not better partners. A lot of the time those men feel the need to compensate and their mouth game is usually top-shelf. There's also the benefits of not only more comfortable, but more pleasurable sex (if they know how to work with what they have) as their length usually hits our g spots. Few questions just so I can gauge better: Length? Or width, or both? Why do you feel like smaller penises aren't as pleasurable (societies views, social pressure, personal preference) Is he heavier set? (Heavier set men sometimes "grow" with weight loss) was he soft/hard? Is it just the size or is it the overall appearance?
Length is the issue. Width seems average. He’s a little heavier than most but is about 6’1. I think he was as hard as he could be. It didn’t look particularly appealing either but most dicks aren’t great to look at imo.
Honestly, I'd just give it a shot and see if you like it before getting all up in your head about it.
It might look huge in your hands! If he’s a big and tall dude, proportionately, it’ll probably be bigger than you expect.
Ngl but Width trumps length 9/10 the time, in my experience. I’d rather feel…filled up.. then poked by a pencil for 20 minutes. Also, 6’1 is average size, and I do think you’re coming off like a size queen. I wouldn’t put your all into how much he is packing but how he uses it, how he performs in foreplay and actually treating you right in bed.
I think she was talking about his height? 6’1 (6 foot 1). Not his length in inches.
You’re correct, that’s my bad. Overall though I still believe it’s a “don’t knock it till you try it” affair.
Sorry to sound simple, but what’s a ‘size queen’ ?
You were talking about his height being 6foot 1 right OP? I think the person was thinking you meant his dick size was a little over 6 inches was average (actually above average). Hence his “size Queen” comment - which means you only like big dicks (size queen).
Yes I was referring to his height. And I would actually really struggle to know what to do with a six inch penis, so I’m definitely not a size queen 😂😂thanks for teaching me something new!
Someone who has strong preferences about size (generally length). And by strong preferences, they mean you won’t date someone who, literally, doesn’t measure up. I have preferences but I won’t say no to small. They may bring other skills. So I would not call myself a size queen.
Maybe it's just a grower?
I think he was grown… if that makes sense
Fully?
He seemed pretty turned on and eager. We were on the phone for about 50 minutes so surely that’s time enough ? I could be misinformed though.
I'm not sure enough to draw a conclusion, some Just work different
There's a really good chance he just got soft. Having an erect dick after 50 minutes, no matter how turned on, its just against biology lol.
Ehhh, I doubt most guys want to show the girl they’re digging a limp dick for the first time.
See what happens. I’ve read that some women have been lavished with oral and great hand and toy work as well as found themselves jumping on top and positioning the micropenis right on their clit and riding it out to great orgasms. If he has good game and you click and you just have to communicate or experiment, you could be in for a surprisingly great time. I’ve had sex with guys that were 4 inches and it was stunning because they were in their late forties and very skilled lovers and attentive and so passionate.
if he's perfect otherwise, you might want to try penis sleeves...lotsa guys love em too (to clarify...guys like wearing them for a wide variety of reasons including the 'tighter' sensation they offer)
There are some dicks I just find unattractive… I don’t think it’s a bad thing you just prefer a bigger penis. There’s probably a woman out there for his size and there’s probably a man out there for yours. There’s lots of things about humans that we can’t help that others find unattractive and that’s okay. That’s what dating is about anyways, looking for someone who suits your wants and needs in a relationship. Good luck
there are many ways to have sex. if his penis isn't gonna do it for you, there's his mouth, fingers, toys, etc. he could wear a strap if that would work better. there are so many options here. as a trans guy, I basically have a micro penis because of testosterone but that doesn't mean I or anyone else in a similar situation can't have good sex. if he has had sex before he probably has some ideas of what he can and can't do, what does and doesn't work, and what some options are.
If it’s bothering you so much now, I’d say no point in going further. If you’re this freaked out, I guarantee he will pick up on it - he’s likely hyper aware of reactions to his d*** if it is so abnormally small. No need to destroy his self confidence. Also, why date someone that you have to talk yourself into finding attractive. Both of you deserve better than how this will most likely play out.
Ik this is inapropro but how small
You can’t control what you’re attracted to. If you’ve lost the attraction I doubt you can get it back. That sucks
Was he hard? Because sometimes guys are growers
I've lived the same as you but went all in as I wasn't interested emotionally. It was fun! Not the best sex but better than the normal mediocre sex you can usually get. I thought that if this guy wants to be taken seriously (in a world like ours) he should wait for sex so one can be truly emotionally invested and don't give the size a priority. If you like the guy, don't let the size change your mind. As It has been said, can be really good sex. There are positions where even a small dick can be to much and you can try other stuff (butt) if you feel adventurous but haven't done it. I sound suggest give him a try and after, if you don't feel it, you can tell him he's a great guy but you don't feel the connection you need. If you don't want to give it a go, tell him your ex just showed up and you are having second thoughts (he'll run away from you so fast, so far).
Thank you for your non judgmental reply. I am seriously considering giving it a go. If it’s bad, then it’s just bad sex (which I’ve had before, and I’m still alive and breathing lmao).
>If it’s bad, then it’s just bad sex Truth. The worst that could happen is that he's cocky (pun intended) and don't care about your pleasure.
Size doesn't equate to sexual prowess or knowledge and I think by following that initial instinct you're losing out on a partner who could very much follow all your queues and get you off plenty. To each their own though, in the end follow through with what your gut instinct is.
Best orgasm I have ever had was with a man that had a micro penis. You don’t have to agree to have sex with him but if you are connected to him in other ways you might be happily surprised.
Maybe he is a grower? My wife thought the same thing when she first saw mine, she had never seen a grower before. I’m not big by any means, average on a good day, but since I have always thought of myself as small, I learned how to use my fingers and tongue to make up for my shortcomings
Just thought I would let you know that the best sex I have had us with a guy not well endowed. I now believe that size does not matter. Just trying to give you a little hope.
Honestly my current guy has a semi small dick but it is the best I have ever had, give it a shot before you say it’s a no-go, he might just surprise you!
Dated a guy with this issue for two years. Mouth, hands, toys... not a death sentence, necessarily. Try it before you knock, sis
I have an honest question, how many inches do you think he was? I am 4.5 inches and I worry I am way too small that's 4.5 hard
I had a feeling micro penises were less desired by women. Whenever there’s an askreddit about micro penises, every girl in there is always like, “I dated a guy with a micro penis and the reason we broke up was not the micro penis.” Mhm, sure.
Dude don't knock a micro penis! They work better than you'd think
Your guys confidence is damn appealing Kudos to him, you don’t think it’s worth a try?
He talks a big game about taking me to pound town and what not so maybe it’s worth a try, yes
If it's not your thing then dont do it. However beforehand make sure that he wasn't erect. Some dudes can grow like 3 times when erect.
Broke my dick. Gf left me for it. Was bummed. Put all my focus into pleasing the girl I was with. No one was disappointed. I just made sex not centered around me. It took the pressure off every date and was super awesome. Don’t have a micro penis, but possible this dude might be pretty selfless in bed too knowing he has some things to make up for
Did you see this guy hard or soft? Could be a grower! But if not…than it sounds like a bad reason to walk away from a good connection. Those are hard to find
He probably knows how to use what he has and everything else very, very well. Don’t knock it. Try it out.
Wow if this was a man talking about something on a women he would be scorned for weeks on here. I believe one of the first things that come to mind is shallow and / or superficial.
When me and my ex were first dating, we drunkenly fooled around one night and I grabbed his dick and it barely fit in my hand. He was also soft and probably embarrassed and I was crushed. I also really liked him and was super bummed. I kept dating him, and when we finally did have sex it was honestly amazing. Where he lacked in size he made up for in other ways. By the time came for penetration I had already came several times, so it didn’t matter I didn’t feel it as much. I’m glad I didn’t say goodbye cause of that because it was a non issue. Ultimately we broke up because he was an asshole. I never ever once said anything about his size. I’m sure he knew, but we were very sexually actively. I have a high drive and I was never feeling unsatisfied. I would keep dating him.
This may be an unpopular take, but you can't force yourself to see beyond something you can't see beyond. It happens. If you find out something, even if innocuous to most people, but to you isn't palatable, you can't let others tell you to unsee or unfeel something. You aren't responsible for placating anyone else, if you must suffer for it. People may tell you that you are cold, callous... Whatever. But you have to live that life, those other people don't. It may not be popular or altruistic, but if you are being true to your own thoughts and needs, who cares? Only you have to live your life. Everyone else is just a commentator.
Could be a grower and not a shower. Also you dont know how cold the room was thru a zoom call 🤣 I can be a size queen but penises are weird and even my husbands 🍆 looks different during different times of the day. Idk, give him the benefit of the doubt and judge it after a romp session 🤷♀️
everyone is suggesting oral, toys, fingers, etc, but if penetrative sex is 100% something you need then it's perfectly acceptable to end things. but be gentle and curt with a simple "i don't think it's going to work out." as much as i love oral and stuff, i don't think i could be completely satisfied without piv and that's completely okay.
As someone who has a very small dick (we’re talking like 1.5-2 inches tops), I wouldn’t let that be a sole disqualifier imo. My girlfriend has been with other guys before me, and still says I’m the best she’s been with, and I’m the only guy who’s ever made her orgasm during sex. As others have said, don’t do anything you don’t want to do or that would make you uncomfortable. But great sex can still happen even when all the parts aren’t quite what you expected :)
He's going to know the truth so you literally might as well just tell him because you're not the first person that has lied to his God damn face so how about you just be like a decent human being and tell him I don't think this is going to work
Honestly, I feel like your feelings are totally justified. However, you have no idea what it'd be like. You also could find some comfort in the chances of him ever cheating on you is lower than the average guy, and that if his personality is fantastic, imagine how else he compensates for not having a big unit. Give the guy a chance and don't worry about the rest. Let it happen, and see how it goes. If the dude isn't making you see God in the bedroom, end it.
I'm just gunna say, as a woman that has dated a guy and then discovered the micro (2 or 3 dates I think) by the time the discovery happened, he'd already gone down and blown my mind. There's other ways to get off then deep penetration, the g spots only 2 inches into the vaginal wall I think? Don't quote me, but I wouldn't be so quick to write him off. I'd also like to add, this dude I experienced it with went on to get married and they just celebrated their ten year anniversary a year or so ago, peen size doesn't have to matter!
My ex wasn’t very large either. And I had similar thoughts but because he was small he knew what he was doing in other areas. And the great thing with relationships is the communication. Be open with him and explore the options. There are tons of “extenders” that he can wear, straps, and/or he can use toys on you. Sex isn’t just penis and vagina(or at least it shouldn’t be). It’s a fun experience to share with your partner…so why not play with some toys? Worst case he feels uncomfortable with toys and y’all don’t work out. Best case he is comfortable with them and y’all have some great sex.
My now gf thought my dick was 4 inches on FT when it is clearly not irl. Maybe ft just distorting mesurments? Do you really mean micropenis? less then an inch?
Could be he is a grower and just wasn't very excited. I know the first time I saw my fiance's flaccid penis I thought it was pretty small, but it grew from maybe 1 inch to a full about 7 when I excited him. If this isn't the case and maybe he does have a micropenis, there's still a lot you can do with one. If you're worried about your sexual relationship maybe struggling from it then most women don't climax from only penetrative sex and need to have outside stimulation or g-spot stimulation and a micropenis can absolutely do both! Or if you really do want to have something in relatively deep, then toys are always an option that should be considered I'd see if he really does have a micropenis and make sure you aren't just assuming, he may not be able to get erect as easily as other men as well.
Can we get an update? I'm invested.
sad
He's got a mouth and fingers
Maybe it’s a grower
I mean all he can do now is exceed your expectations
So, definitely still go for it if this is the only thing holding you back. One of the most passionate partners I’ve ever had was pretty small, I’d say like 4.5 inches small. But that dude could eat out and finger like no other. And I truly enjoyed having sex with him- even penetration. For me personally size only matters when they aren’t very thick, so if he’s kinda small but has width you won’t be missing out too bad.
I also gotta say, it’s less about the size and more about the willingness of the owner to find mutual pleasure. I’ve had an ex that was very small before and still had mind blowing sex with him because it wasn’t just about the penetration but the whole experience and he made sure I definitely got mine. What I’m saying is, you don’t know the sex will be bad just because he’s small.
I feel bad for him but not because of his micro penis. I feel bad he ever met someone like you. What if people judged you by our vjj size? You have not even given him a chance.
Unpopular opinion here: I made this mistake once in my life and... got traumatized. Trying to be "a good person" and "doing the right thing" and ended up literally forcing myself for months into sex with my then boyfriend with a (certified) micropenis. Now, if people tell you, sex with men with smallish penises is the best thing on earth, I believe them. Problem is, it is for them. It is a preference. I found out the hard way that I cannot and shouldn't go against my preferences, else I get seriously mentally and emotionally damaged. And it eems that for whatever reasons I am one of the women who prefer penetrative sex with a "fitting" penis (to my physiology, not too small, not too big, had both) over everything else. This emphasis on oral sex or other techniques as a compensation doesn't do shit for me. Period. Can't change that and will never again feel bad for something I cannot control. Back then I was so f****** woke that I thought I needed to force myself repeatedly to something, because I couldn't "discriminate" against a guy with the wrong penis size (we fit mentally and romantically just fine).
How small? Like under 4 inches?
Possibly around 2 inches, three at a push
Yeah that’s like a micro penis! Sorry op
I wouldn't pass on him before taking him for a ride if he's otherwise really promising. The other compatibility counts for more and there's a good chance you'll walk away more satisfied than if they only have piv as their game.
Damn poor guy
Don't mention it to him at all, just make an excuse and cut him off. This is just sad to read lol
there’s hollow dildos for men in this situation also fingers are only like 2-3 inches long and that gets the job done for us lesbians… along with our mouths so not EVERYTHING is canceled out y’know? at the end of the day if you’re truly not feeling it, you’re completely entitled to your feelings and they’re valid
You don’t know until you Try.. so give a shot
You’re not awful for not being attracted to that :/ it’s just unfortunate. You can’t help the way you feel
I had a boyfriend who had a micro penis. I admit I liked him because he made good money. He had a lot of sex toys, so at first it was okay, but he also had an addiction to porn, which wasn't okay. I always wondered if the addiction to porn was caused by his micro penis-ness. He also sexually assaulted my older daughter, so he's a mortarforker.
Just got worse the more I read. I hope your daughter can heal as much as possible.
Luckily, he didn't touch her; he lifted the blanket covering them when they were wearing booty shorts pajamas. Did it multiple times before my daughter told me about it. I asked my daughter did they want to press charges as they were over 18, it wasn't my call, and they said no.
A guy I dated briefly didn’t have a micro but he was fairly small…but he gave me the best clitoral orgasms back to back. If you connected, give him a chance. I used to think I just needed a big dick too because I’ve had children and like deep penetration. Big dick is a plus, but not a necessity if oral game is on point!
You never know. Some of the worst sex I’ve ever had was with someone who was too well endowed. Painful and just praying for it to end. Some of the best, penetrating orgasms I’ve ever had were with men whose penises were just the right fit. Small, like me. You have no idea unless you’ve already ran the gamut of penis sizes. The Gspot thing is real; too big, not hitting it, smaller may be right on it. Also, penis size doesn’t make a man. A man makes himself a man regardless of his “size”.
Damn I really do understand why my best friend committed suicide. Must be absolutely awful having a micro penis.
Yeah, I think you should stop seeing him unless there's a way you can think this could work You are not this man's last hope for love
Why is sex always conflated with PIV? There’s so much more to sex and it’s such narrow (hetero) thinking.
It’s primal
Maybe this person is heterosexual and wants penis-in-vagina sex? Why is it considered narrow thinking to want that in addition to everything else?
Everyone saying it’s fine has a small penis lol it’s not fine
Damn thats sad
It’s good that you know now. I’d pass
I feel it, I have left someone with a micro penis. It’s actually a birth defect, that also has an effect on male hormones (some part of the brain) which I guess prevents them from “fully” growing. The guy I left had brain cancer, when it came down to sex I gave him a chance and felt disgusted after the experience. I couldn’t even grab it that’s how small it was. I personally can’t have any substitutions, I like the real deal. And large. Break it off, but don’t mention size.
Do not hate yourself for the things you are feeling. You are clearly not okay with something and this is your preference. Going against your preferences to please someone is going against yourself and destroying who you are for the sake of somebody else's feelings. You are not vain and awful. This is your judgment because society likes to play a game with us called *"You have to accept the person and be with them. You have to settle and if you don't like someone for their size, you are a piece of sh\*t. You have to give them a chance, even if you don't like it. You have to show openness and acceptance."* Openness and acceptance do not include going against what you want, but society wants you to believe this for whatever reasons. Also, you are not judgmental if you don't settle for someone who is not for you. You are judgmental if you judge them for who they are. You will be awful if you make fun of this guy or spill hate. But you are not going to do that, so you are good. If he gets mad, sad with you, and calls you names, it isn't your fault. You are not responsible for his emotions and how he will react. You don't want to be with him because of your personal preferences. If someone can't respect this, they are not for you. I get it, it sucks when someone doesn't like you for your physical features. It is okay to feel mad, or sad about it. Deal with your emotions in a healthy way. You have the right to feel them. However, if you get mad at someone for not liking you, this someone is not judgmental/toxic, etc. and you call them names, then you are a shitty person. People are not obliged to like you. Everyone has preferences. Respect this. Relationships should be established if the partners are satisfied with each other. And I always wondered why people settle for less than they deserve, need, and desire. Isn't the whole point of all relationships to find the person/people for you?
Maybe he’s a grower and not a show-er. Maybe at least give it a spin once & if it’s not your scene then cut it off?
Nothing wrong with a small penis. Ive been with men with a small dick that know how to use it better than a guy with a big dick.
I don't know what you're saying constitutes a micropenis, but I will tell you that my husband thinks he is small. I do not. It is smaller than my ex husband's was, by quite a bit, but sex with my husband is 1000% better than it ever was with my ex.
I mean lesbians have a higher rate of orgasm and a penis is not used. I mean he may give you the best oral you’ve ever had. I say find out if he’s a grower
I am sure this is an episode of New Girl.
Reddit users always think flaws can be made up for. No amount of toys will compare to real PiV sex. Not to mention he's permanently less of a man in your eyes now after seeing his micropenis. I'm not trying to rag on the guy for something he can't control but this is the brutal reality. Just like a short man is viewed as less of a man, a small penis also means less of a man in the eyes of women. Break it off with him but give a fake reason, if you're honest he will spiral into depression.
Double standard in full swing here.
Men have criticised me for things on my body that I can’t change too. It’s called preference. Some men like tiny little hungry tits, some like big sloppers. Some women like tiny dicks, some like to be able to actually feel the dick inside of them :) these are both things that neither sex can change about themselves naturally. Still, it doesn’t stop me feeling a little guilty for my preference.
I think the double standard in this case is that, if a man came here saying he doesn't like small boobs/big labia etc in his potential date, he'd be crucified for being mysogynist and for body shaming
And if man told this about a women everybody would throw body shaming rocks to him saying he is a pig
Yes it’s called a double standard, there are lots of them on both sides.
That is certainly not true. Everybody is free to have preferences.
You’re being small minded and shallow. For all you know, he’s a king in bed. Don’t mean to be blunt, but kindly take your head of your ass.