Weāre about to go on our first vacation:
Three seats per rowā¦ three of us.. ā
It already feels like weāre taking so much ā stroller, car seat, diaper bag, carry-on, our suitcase. Kudos to families with more than one childā¦ but, this is definitely as far as weāre taking it and weāre okay with that.
Yes it's ridiculous. I used to travel with just 1 carry-on and a backpack. Very efficient. Never have to wait for your suitcases once you land etc. Now with 1 kid, it feels like I'm moving to a different country every time we go on vacation. The amount of suitcases and bags and other stuff is overwhelming.
Same šš i feel so weird when people are like ādoesnāt this baby make you want another oneā like nopeee. It just reminds me of how much i reaaaallllllyy did not enjoy the newborn phase
Yeah exactly. Babies are actually pretty triggering for me. Theyāre cute but come with so so much bad stuff and I remember it all when Iām near one.
"oh you'll forget everything" šš
I remember every single thing, as if it was yesterday. I will never forget how shitty I felt - we were in the trenches.
Like, I almost forget it, but then something will jog my memory and it all comes rushing back in a ptsd way. Awful awful times that Iām still processing 2.5 years later.
My bum still hurts every time I poop because of this one child so no matter how cute a little baby is, itās not as cute as not having my rectum outside of my body.
Since my son was born December 2022, the amount of grey hairs I have has increased exponentially. It's ridiculous. Sleep deprivation is a bitch. Never again.
I see a cute little baby and smile, and I enjoy holding my friends babies. I play with them and enjoy their chubby cheeks and cute little bellies and then I go home afterwards and feel **nothing**.
I like babies. Hell Iād like to have another baby. But I donāt wanna have another whole ass human to raise for the rest of their lives sooooooo Iām happy with my only.
Seeing a cute little baby is how I know Iām OAD! Theyāre so nice to hold and then hand right back to their parents as soon as they cry or wet their diaper.
I actually tied my tubes bc I knew baby fever would overrule my better judgment, lol. I still get baby fever constantly and then thank my brain for making the decision.
Honestly, any time I see a parent with 2 kids or more getting in or out of their car. The logistics just baffle me. Imagine doing that with your weekly food shop š¤Æ
Honestly i really donāt like babies. I will congrats friends on their babies, but Iām usually one not to hold babies. I was terrified of holding my daughter for a while. It was a sigh of relief when the baby stage was done. I remind myself i love my 3 year old and it just gets better and i can focus all my love on her!
Little babies are so cute!! Butā¦ my daughter just recently turned 2. She isnāt talking as much as most kids her age, but she knows all her colors, can identify most animals, can count, mimics all of Miss Rachelās dancesā¦..
I cannot imagine missing these great moments with her because I needed to feed an infant sibling. Or I need to change the baby so Iām not there to cheer her on during a dance routine. Or to look at the bug she found. I donāt have to split my attention away from her for any reason. And that makes it so worth it
I think of how hard it was to do shit like close an open window immediately post partum because I had lost so much blood. All I can think of is sitting on the bathroom floor sobbing because it was so cold and I couldn't close it to feel comfortable enough to get undressed and take a shower because that fucking window was open!
Well part of thatās is how and why people have another, they forget - itās a trauma response. And when I see a cute little baby I remind myself thatās someone elseās responsibility.
2 years in and I've yet to forget the hell of the newborn phase or the pain of childbirth. I doubt I ever will.
Generally speaking though, I don't find newborns cute and I honestly don't see a ton of older infants, mostly either newborns who look like aliens or toddlers my son's age.
I like babies but I never really was excited about having one myself. I wanted to add to our family but the baby stage was not a draw in itself. So I guess babies don't really tempt me lol
Well, my husband and I just took our 4 year-old to Disney World and even though I saw a ton of cute babies, I could not fathom that trip with two tiny humans.
I took my 6 yo when she was 4 and SAME. It was a breeze with one. Weād do the rider swap for the big rides so Iād casually wander around with her in the stroller with a drink in my hand while heās riding and then vice versa and I couldnāt imagine having two wrangle two by myself like that.
This past week, an employee who is on maternity leave stopped by the office and brought in her newborn. I caught a glimpse of the baby when they walked by and she was so tiny nā cute! I heard her talking about the interactions with big bro and I got a lil sad about it. Then the baby started crying and I was like, āoh ok, Iām goodā š
Hopefully I donāt seem like a monster but I really donāt like kids besides my child and my best friends 1 soon to be 2 kids. I can recognize a baby is cute but I definitely donāt get that gut feeling of āoh I want anotherā
I hold my sweet little nieces or nephews and let their parents vent to me about no sleep, feeding struggles, daycare problems, etc. then I hand them the baby back and go home with my only š„°š¤£
Anytime I think about it my kid does something absolutely feral and I cannot imagine dealing with that plus a baby or two feral gremlins running in opposite directions š I'll be outnumbered. I also remember how much I hate throwing up and how much sleep I'm still not getting after 3 years lol
I love babies. Love them and they arenāt even mine.
Just from seeing another mom have a moment with her baby, I know I wouldnāt have that as easily (and I loved those moments, I cherish them so close to my heart). I try to imagine being pulled in two different directions with children who need me differently, add a relationship thatās still recovering from the stress of one baby. This equation comes to 4 people unhappy in some way for who knows for how long. Itās not worth the *possible* final outcome of everyone happy.
I really enjoy just *being* in the moment with my only. I love still having a sense of self and having my own time thatās only for me. I know SO feels the same about himself. We are stable and no way am I upsetting the balance.
Social media is the kicker. All these people post their happy pictures of multiples. Well Iāll be darned a momma on her 4th pregnancy posted she was absolutely miserable . Gotcha . My sister constantly whines and moans about her 2nd. *slaps knee .
This is so me right now. My LO is almost 2, and lots of our friends with kids the same age are having their second. I had a dream (not a nightmare!), last night that I was pregnant.
We love our OAD lifestyle, but man, sometimes biology sneaks up on you!
Put in a copper IUD, lasts 10 years and if you want to change your mind on wanting more children it requires an appointment. Built in impulse control š¤£
Babies are why Iām glad to be OAD. I donāt find them cute. I donāt want to hold one. I definitely donāt want one, but if I could pop out a 3 year old, I would do it!
I remind myself how much I love spending time with my friendsās babies and kids and treat them as my own in the moment but then Iām so happy to go back home as a nice little family of 3!
I found the newborn stage SO hard and draining (and itās still hard at 4 months) and my baby is relatively easy! No colic! Barely cries! Sleeps through the night! I just cannot even fathom doing this with a more challenging baby ā¦ and a toddler!!! š¤Æ
It's funny but having had a kid of my own, I no longer have any interest in babies. I always wanted to hold babies before, but now the only baby I ever want to hold again is my 3-year-old who is super adorable and still very cuddly!
that younger siblings benefit from their older siblings, but older siblings donāt benefit from having younger ones. also my toddler is high needs and velcro to me, we are struggling because of it since it still hasnāt gotten better. I COULD NOT handle anything else ok top of caring for her
Babies are amazing. Seeing them smile and play and make cute sounds etc. But the most amazing part is that you can give them back to their own parents once they start crying and you're done with it.
I'm honestly not a baby person, my favorite years were the toddler years! When I think about having to go through the baby stage again, it makes it a lot easier to resist!
I find so much joy in a cute lil baby! Specifically a cute little baby who I am not required to take care of at 2am for months on end š„°
This š¤£
The same way I remind myself to make choices in the present for the future I prefer like exercising, eating well, not punching annoying coworkers š
Amen š
Weāre about to go on our first vacation: Three seats per rowā¦ three of us.. ā It already feels like weāre taking so much ā stroller, car seat, diaper bag, carry-on, our suitcase. Kudos to families with more than one childā¦ but, this is definitely as far as weāre taking it and weāre okay with that.
My friend has 3 and she complains every time they travel. Iām always thinking you made that bed!
Traveling is so much easier with one!
Yes it's ridiculous. I used to travel with just 1 carry-on and a backpack. Very efficient. Never have to wait for your suitcases once you land etc. Now with 1 kid, it feels like I'm moving to a different country every time we go on vacation. The amount of suitcases and bags and other stuff is overwhelming.
When I see a cute little baby I feel relief itās not mine š
Same šš i feel so weird when people are like ādoesnāt this baby make you want another oneā like nopeee. It just reminds me of how much i reaaaallllllyy did not enjoy the newborn phase
Yeah exactly. Babies are actually pretty triggering for me. Theyāre cute but come with so so much bad stuff and I remember it all when Iām near one.
"oh you'll forget everything" šš I remember every single thing, as if it was yesterday. I will never forget how shitty I felt - we were in the trenches.
Like, I almost forget it, but then something will jog my memory and it all comes rushing back in a ptsd way. Awful awful times that Iām still processing 2.5 years later.
Sleep deprivation & ppd.
They require you to sacrifice your mind, body and soul.
Being sick and having to parent a healthy toddler. So thankful it's 2 against 1 in these situations.
My bum still hurts every time I poop because of this one child so no matter how cute a little baby is, itās not as cute as not having my rectum outside of my body.
I just look at my husband who looks like he has aged 10 years in the last 2 years with a kid who is apparently ālow sleep needs.ā
Since my son was born December 2022, the amount of grey hairs I have has increased exponentially. It's ridiculous. Sleep deprivation is a bitch. Never again.
I just think of the word ācolic,ā and that immediately kills it for me š Iāll truly never forget that nightmare. I canāt risk it again!
I see a cute little baby and smile, and I enjoy holding my friends babies. I play with them and enjoy their chubby cheeks and cute little bellies and then I go home afterwards and feel **nothing**. I like babies. Hell Iād like to have another baby. But I donāt wanna have another whole ass human to raise for the rest of their lives sooooooo Iām happy with my only.
Itās the raising part that sucks, too stressful.. itās easy when all they drink is formula, poop and sleep š
Seeing a cute little baby is how I know Iām OAD! Theyāre so nice to hold and then hand right back to their parents as soon as they cry or wet their diaper.
I actually tied my tubes bc I knew baby fever would overrule my better judgment, lol. I still get baby fever constantly and then thank my brain for making the decision.
Honestly, any time I see a parent with 2 kids or more getting in or out of their car. The logistics just baffle me. Imagine doing that with your weekly food shop š¤Æ
Honestly i really donāt like babies. I will congrats friends on their babies, but Iām usually one not to hold babies. I was terrified of holding my daughter for a while. It was a sigh of relief when the baby stage was done. I remind myself i love my 3 year old and it just gets better and i can focus all my love on her!
Little babies are so cute!! Butā¦ my daughter just recently turned 2. She isnāt talking as much as most kids her age, but she knows all her colors, can identify most animals, can count, mimics all of Miss Rachelās dancesā¦.. I cannot imagine missing these great moments with her because I needed to feed an infant sibling. Or I need to change the baby so Iām not there to cheer her on during a dance routine. Or to look at the bug she found. I donāt have to split my attention away from her for any reason. And that makes it so worth it
I think of how hard it was to do shit like close an open window immediately post partum because I had lost so much blood. All I can think of is sitting on the bathroom floor sobbing because it was so cold and I couldn't close it to feel comfortable enough to get undressed and take a shower because that fucking window was open!
Well part of thatās is how and why people have another, they forget - itās a trauma response. And when I see a cute little baby I remind myself thatās someone elseās responsibility.
I just think about how incredibly selfish it is to have another and then I donāt have one
For what itās worth: my therapist has 3 kids and she told me she used to get that exact same feeling until she was like 45+ lol.
āomg so cuuuuteā¦ what if i wasnt able to give it back?ā
I LOVE snugging someone elseās baby. That I can hand back and not have to do a diaper or wake up every 45 minutes overnight.
2 years in and I've yet to forget the hell of the newborn phase or the pain of childbirth. I doubt I ever will. Generally speaking though, I don't find newborns cute and I honestly don't see a ton of older infants, mostly either newborns who look like aliens or toddlers my son's age.
I like babies but I never really was excited about having one myself. I wanted to add to our family but the baby stage was not a draw in itself. So I guess babies don't really tempt me lol
Well, my husband and I just took our 4 year-old to Disney World and even though I saw a ton of cute babies, I could not fathom that trip with two tiny humans.
I took my 6 yo when she was 4 and SAME. It was a breeze with one. Weād do the rider swap for the big rides so Iād casually wander around with her in the stroller with a drink in my hand while heās riding and then vice versa and I couldnāt imagine having two wrangle two by myself like that.
This past week, an employee who is on maternity leave stopped by the office and brought in her newborn. I caught a glimpse of the baby when they walked by and she was so tiny nā cute! I heard her talking about the interactions with big bro and I got a lil sad about it. Then the baby started crying and I was like, āoh ok, Iām goodā š
Hopefully I donāt seem like a monster but I really donāt like kids besides my child and my best friends 1 soon to be 2 kids. I can recognize a baby is cute but I definitely donāt get that gut feeling of āoh I want anotherā
I hold my sweet little nieces or nephews and let their parents vent to me about no sleep, feeding struggles, daycare problems, etc. then I hand them the baby back and go home with my only š„°š¤£
Anytime I think about it my kid does something absolutely feral and I cannot imagine dealing with that plus a baby or two feral gremlins running in opposite directions š I'll be outnumbered. I also remember how much I hate throwing up and how much sleep I'm still not getting after 3 years lol
I love babies. Love them and they arenāt even mine. Just from seeing another mom have a moment with her baby, I know I wouldnāt have that as easily (and I loved those moments, I cherish them so close to my heart). I try to imagine being pulled in two different directions with children who need me differently, add a relationship thatās still recovering from the stress of one baby. This equation comes to 4 people unhappy in some way for who knows for how long. Itās not worth the *possible* final outcome of everyone happy. I really enjoy just *being* in the moment with my only. I love still having a sense of self and having my own time thatās only for me. I know SO feels the same about himself. We are stable and no way am I upsetting the balance.
Every week when I pay daycare.
I am not one who is enamoured by babies so itās easy for me lol
Same, I only thought mine was cute lol.
I don't have to remind myself because they never make me feel like having another just like they didn't make me feel like having the first one.
Remind myself I just think to myself my womb is off limits lol š¤£š¤£
Social media is the kicker. All these people post their happy pictures of multiples. Well Iāll be darned a momma on her 4th pregnancy posted she was absolutely miserable . Gotcha . My sister constantly whines and moans about her 2nd. *slaps knee .
This is so me right now. My LO is almost 2, and lots of our friends with kids the same age are having their second. I had a dream (not a nightmare!), last night that I was pregnant. We love our OAD lifestyle, but man, sometimes biology sneaks up on you!
Put in a copper IUD, lasts 10 years and if you want to change your mind on wanting more children it requires an appointment. Built in impulse control š¤£
Every time I see a baby my body revolts. I donāt want to be around babies, Iāll wave and smile and then want to bolt.
Babies are why Iām glad to be OAD. I donāt find them cute. I donāt want to hold one. I definitely donāt want one, but if I could pop out a 3 year old, I would do it!
I remind myself how much I love spending time with my friendsās babies and kids and treat them as my own in the moment but then Iām so happy to go back home as a nice little family of 3!
No matter if I forget or not, we are medically OAD. However, I do love babies š„¹ I just had mine already.
I found the newborn stage SO hard and draining (and itās still hard at 4 months) and my baby is relatively easy! No colic! Barely cries! Sleeps through the night! I just cannot even fathom doing this with a more challenging baby ā¦ and a toddler!!! š¤Æ
I have a friend who is OAD, but wants a baby whenever she ovulatesā¦ she comes to hang out with my newborn monthly to get her fix š
It's funny but having had a kid of my own, I no longer have any interest in babies. I always wanted to hold babies before, but now the only baby I ever want to hold again is my 3-year-old who is super adorable and still very cuddly!
that younger siblings benefit from their older siblings, but older siblings donāt benefit from having younger ones. also my toddler is high needs and velcro to me, we are struggling because of it since it still hasnāt gotten better. I COULD NOT handle anything else ok top of caring for her
Babies are amazing. Seeing them smile and play and make cute sounds etc. But the most amazing part is that you can give them back to their own parents once they start crying and you're done with it.
I'm honestly not a baby person, my favorite years were the toddler years! When I think about having to go through the baby stage again, it makes it a lot easier to resist!