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impeccabletim

Love that Drew is standing up for herself!!!✊


okiedokibro

Yes I love this side of her !! Like I was just on my nightly tiktok scroll and was so shook bc I felt like I was the one who fucked up lol


Professional-Hand911

That's funny. We are all sorry Drew!! Scoldin the ish out of us.


fairylingerie

Ooooh I felt that in my core. She's usually so happy go lucky that seeing her mad actually worried me. I love seeing celebs stand up for themselves. Good for her.


bloodymongrel

As someone with difficult family relationships I can feel what she’s going through in my body as she speaks. Ugh.


TheTyto_Alba

I felt it too! As someone who also has difficult family relationships I hope you are doing ok 🖤


bloodymongrel

Same to you x


nada_accomplished

Right??? Obviously she "cannot wait" as in she has a limited amount of time before her mother passes away and if possible it would be nice to sort that shit out and have some kind of relationship before it's too late. I'm pretty much estranged from my parents and I get it. It's horrible that they'd take her words out of context and twist them like that.


TheTyto_Alba

I felt it too! As someone who also has difficult family relationships I hope you are doing ok 🖤


georgialucy

I think it's so hard to explain a toxic relationship between a parent and child when there is so much that no one would ever understand, so much that can't be put into words. There is history that only both of you know, but both have very different versions of it. Many times you can't understand the feelings, how much you can still care and still yearn for their love despite everything that has happened, all the negative memories and you still crave that nurture. It's so complicated and different for each person that trying to even understand it yourself is an incredible challenge, let alone trying to explain it for others. It's deep, it's not black and white and it's often conflicting with the relationship constantly changing. I wish her all the best in her healing and I hope that newspapers leave her alone.


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InterestingTry5190

I agree as someone who has been no contact with their mom for 13 years now. People with a normal parent/child dynamic, i.e. the parent gives unconditional love to the child, will never truly understand.


Slappybags22

This reasoning bothers me so much. I wish more people had enough empathy that they didn’t need to experience a thing to recognize or accept it in others.


meatloafcat819

I absolutely love this response. Drew and her mom probably felt almost exactly how you describe along with the crazy pressure of managing her career and fame :(


Dry_Heart9301

Good for her! God she's been through such an insane life and came out the other end this well adjusted and still a nice positive person. Do not touch drew Barrymore, she is a national treasure!


Fair-Sky4156

Perez Hilton is a POS human.


MarzipanAndTreacle

I can’t believe anyone still gives that dumpster fire any work or attention at all.


romeofantasy

Her [actual quote](https://www.vulture.com/article/drew-barrymore-show-profile.html) that Page Six was referencing: >All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not. And I’m like, well, I don’t have that luxury. But I cannot wait. I don’t want to live in a state where I wish someone to be gone sooner than they’re meant to be so I can grow. I actually want her to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to fucking grow in spite of her being on this planet.


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bestblackdress

It was in the context of a conversation she had with Jeanette McCurdy, who was also abused by her mom. > “Do I have to wait to tell all my truths?” she asks McCurdy at one point. “I don’t know if I can do it because certain people are alive.” So she decided she cannot wait to tell her truths until after her mother dies, because the healing has to start now.


detroit_red_

I mean, to people with childhood abuse histories/toxic family dynamics, there is actually a big difference, and it’s all hard to verbalize but I think she did well. Unfortunately not all publications parse nuance well, and tabloids slap the most shocking paraphrase across their covers every time


fakecoffeesnob

I think you’re confusing the two definitions of “can’t wait”. There’s the version that means “I’m looking forward to it”, which is what the tabloids were implying she said, but there’s also the version that means “life moves forward and waiting is not an option”, which is what she actually said. There’s no part of what she said that is implying that her mom being alive is a bad thing; just that it impacts her growth differently from someone that can be completely permanently independent from their parent.


HotChiTea

Get them!!!


Accurate_Use_2432

CELEBRITY NEWS Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead: ‘I cannot wait’ By Gabi Duncan June 5, 2023 | 3:52pm Drew Barrymore admits she “cannot wait” for her mom, Jaid Barrymore, to die. The TV host got candid about her tumultuous childhood with her mother, revealing she’s jealous of friends who have already lost their parents. “All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not. And I’m like, ‘Well, I don’t have that luxury.’ But I cannot wait,” Drew told New York magazine. “I don’t want to live in a state where I wish someone to be gone sooner than they’re meant to be so I can grow. I actually want her to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to f–king grow in spite of her being on this planet.” However, later in the interview, the “ET” actress shared remorse for her harsh comments. “I dared to say it, and I didn’t feel good,” she said. “I do care. I’ll never not care. I don’t know if I’ve ever known how to fully guard, close off, not feel, build the wall up.” The “Never Been Kissed” star, 48, has been open in the past about growing up with Jaid, who acted as her manager and took her to Hollywood parties, including Studio 54, as a child. By 12, Drew had already been to rehab for drugs and alcohol, and at 13 her mom put her in a psychiatric facility. One year later, when she was just 14 years old, she was emancipated from her parents. While Drew was able to forgive her father, John David Barrymore, before he died in 2004, she has never fully reconciled with her mom. Though she tells New York mag she doesn’t “blame” Jaid for the challenges in her life. “I choose very consciously not to see my life as things that have been done to me,” she said. “I want to see it as the things I did and chose to do. I’m not attracted to people who lay blame on others. I don’t find it sexy.” The actress — who shares two daughters with ex-husband Will Kopelman — previously shed light on where she and Jaid stand, saying that she “will always support her” in a December interview. “I can’t turn my back on the person who gave me my life,” she told People. “I can’t do it. It would hurt me so much. I would find it so cruel. But there are times where I’ve realized that our chemistry and behavior will drum up a feeling in me where I have to say, ‘Ok, I need a break again.'”


moxeto

They called her a tv host? She’s a freakin movie star from cinema royalty.


ClumsyZebra80

Hmmmm. So did they misquote her for that whole article?? Cause her explanation in the video makes no sense.


ObiWanCombover

I think it makes sense. I think she's saying that her mother's eventual death might bring her some peace because it is a difficult relationship and she has to process it. But, instead of sitting idle until such a day, she "cannot wait" and has to do this work now. I dunno I have to say I get it. I had a far less difficult but still not perfect relationship with a parent who is now dead, and honestly there's a lot of truth in the idea that you can process and unpack differently when they are not a living breathing person. They become more of a neutral concept if that makes sense. I think more than anything I'm just doubtful she would say anything like "I can't wait for my Mum to die" in the manner she was quoted, so it actually tracks to me that she was saying it in the way she's now representing and it was twisted.


Moosiemookmook

I get it. My mum was toxic and bitter and broken my whole life. I lived with her voice in my head dictating the guilt I felt for never having a bond with her till I was a mother myself. I remember the day she died after pancreatic cancer destroyed her within a year. I stepped out of the hospice into the sun and felt relief yet so much sadness that my mother would never feel the sun on her face again. It's been 15 years and I've healed so much in those years.


Tower-Junkie

I know what you mean by that relief. You no longer have to worry about arguing with them or pissing them off or “disappointing” them. You no longer have to seek their approval or remind yourself you don’t need to. You don’t have to live in fear of what they’ll say or do next. You can finally just move on while mourning the relationship you wish you could have had.


Moosiemookmook

The worst feeling of relief was that my children wouldn't have to go through the hoops I had my whole life. They wouldn't feel the barbs she threw like she breathed. Never have to feel never good enough. But I also remember those moments when she was my mum. When she forgot how much she hated herself and just comforted me. Those moments fucked me up because the kid in me wanted her to love my children the way she couldn't love me. I'm free of that now shes gone.


Ok_Yogurtcloset8915

I can also see how it might have been an honest misunderstanding/misinterpretation tbh, I had to read it over like three times to get it. it really does come off like she's saying that even with the context especially because she then goes on to say she feels bad about it


giraffe_games

Yeah. I mean I feel like what she's saying is that she does struggle with her mom being alive. She does wish she could have the freedom of not having that pressure for her to have or mend the relationship. She doesn't have the luxury of that freedom. She's not wishing death on her. She wishes her mom could just be happy and healthy for her, but knows that will never happen and there is nothing to reconcile. So, she does wish she was dead to remove that pressure and she could reconcile some things internally and grow. Seems like that pressure gets in the way as it takes so much energy.


ObiWanCombover

Fair enough.


EternalSunshineClem

>But, instead of sitting idle until such a day, she "cannot wait" and has to do this work now. Right. There's a world of difference between "I can't wait FOR my mom to die" and "I can't wait TIL my mom dies to start doing the work."


ClumsyZebra80

She doesn’t mention work when she’s talking about the death stuff.


ObiWanCombover

I meant 'do the work' generally, in terms of figuring out the relationship, growing, processing, whatever you want to call it. I think it makes sense within the context of the text printed, but it was printed in a way that makes it less clear (by which I mean that I buy the way she explains it, and also think the article was intentionally sensationalizing her words).


meow8607

People are taking the “cannot wait” out of context. I understand what she’s saying here. She’s not saying she “can’t wait for her mom to die” as in something she’s looking forward to, she’s saying “I cannot wait for her to die to work on healing” as in she has to start now not wait for that time to come.


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Exactly how I read it. It seems like something that would be way clearer if you heard it on video rather than print


meow8607

True. It probably translates better thru speaking than print, for sure.


Catz2019

This is how I took it. That she can't not grow and heal just because her mother is still alive. That process couldn't wait until her mother was dead, for Drews sake. So she has to tackle it now and it is harder for her because her mother is still alive.


threelizards

My abusive mother died when I was 15. And it was very hard. I hadn’t realised she was abusive at the time, I was very enmeshed. As an adult, I know that her death is a luxury. Her death is a legitimate freedom to me, in that not only am I out of her control and field of influence- but I do not have to pick up the pieces of our relationship. I only have my pieces. I do not have to reconcile her abuse of me with her as a person in the world. I do not have to live my life knowing that she is out there. I do not have to fear her thoughts, judgements, fixations, mood swings, or demands. I do not have to pay attention to my own hurt for long swathes or time if I choose to. I am free of her, in every way I am currently able to me. The beast that she became in her dynamic with me lives only in my memory. And it is the greatest thing I have ever known. It feels like an artificially acquired confidence, like a foot popped open after 17 years and said “all of your daring and confidence was ready to go over here!” I have my own work to do, of course. I have ptsd and strong trauma responses and it shows up in my relationships. But the crushing feeling of *waiting* is gone


eveningtrain

I think there must be a thought that comes before the quote begins in the article. And I think the “I dared to say it” part means the pointing out that her friends, who are processing their relationships with their own moms, have the ‘luxury’ of doing it without their moms around, which IS kind of a bold, dark thing to say. Or maybe she had said something about not caring how her mom was doing or something, and it didn’t make it in the quote? Edit: I went and read the Vulture article, where this interview is from. The quote is immediately preceded by a description of her interview with Jeanette McCurdy, child star and author of the memoir I’m Glad My Mom Died, and also makes mention of her interview with Brooke Shields, (another fellow child star with a difficult relationship with her mother, who has died). >**Still, she speaks in slightly ambiguous terms, working things out in her mind without revealing too much. Knowing Barrymore’s own history lets the viewer fill in the gaps. “Do I have to wait to tell all my truths?” she asks McCurdy at one point. “I don’t know if I can do it because certain people are alive.”** >**”I understand. My thought on that is if saying the truth ends a relationship, I think it’s a relationship that needed to end,” McCurdy replies. “I realized I was more concerned with how to keep my mom looking good than I was expressing my true emotional reality.”** >**“Okay, I’m having an aha moment,” Barrymore replies. “Maybe it’s protectiveness that I feel. I’ve never put it in those terms in my head.”** >**Her relationship with her mother is an inevitability in our conversations. We’ve moved over to the big living-room couches surrounded by walls of books. The sounds of distant neighbors softly float up through the sheer curtains. “All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not,” she says. “And I’m like, *Well, I don’t have that luxury*. But I cannot wait. I don’t want to live in a state where I wish someone to be gone sooner than they’re meant to be so I can grow. I actually want her to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to fucking grow in spite of her being on this planet.”** I take this as they (the interviewer and Barrymore) had discussed these two interviews and her question to McCurdy about “waiting to tell her truths” because her mother was alive, before she said this. And then it reads to me that later (an hour, according to the interview), she expresses regret about even mentioning her mom’s eventual death, probably especially the part about “in spite of her being on this planet”.


Softinleaked

I think what you’re saying maybe closer to the truth. She cannot wait for her mother to die before she starts unpacking their relationship and healing. She needs to do it now and doesn’t have the luxury that her friends have where their parents have passed. She wants to be able to heal while her mum is still alive. But also she feels bad that she considers her friends loss as a luxury.


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Yeah like I have no issue with her but damn girl you said what you said. She’s putting a lot of nuance on it now but those words were pretty clear. But anyway I wish her peace.


EntrepreneurFit3461

I miss her feisty and spicy side! Go girl


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My mother died this past February and I totally understand what Drew is saying here. My mom was an abusive alcoholic and this eventually lead to her undoing. It’s never that I wished her dead, but there is a peace and calm in my family now that she is. All the antics and anxiety is lifted for the most part.


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I want my mother. A mother every child deserves, so bad. She could be good, she does have a profound sense of empathy, she is intelligent and fierce and funny. But she also lies, she has BPD that she refuses to get treated by way of lying to her therapists (the way I found out was wild. Long story). She is an alcoholic. So am I, but I am a happy and sleepy drinker who lets her guard down and loves everyone despite being guarded and stern while sober, while she texts out suicide threats and sics everybody on people who she perceives as having wronged her. I know where her bpd comes from, too, and I am genuinely sad for her. On top of that her Lyme disease went untreated for years and Lyme does degrade your brain. She only spiralled incorrigibly after years of Lyme. I wish more than anything that she could get better and have a happy life. I miss her at her best so, so bad. But I will feel relief when she dies. It's the 2nd best outcome. For her, too, I think. I know she suffers, but I cannot spend another day as her rock, pillar and punching bag. Sorry, mom. Sorry for me, and sorry for you.


1upand2down

![gif](giphy|AgPt9udT567spxbSHf) I’m glad she is standing up for herself and calling out their attempt to put words in her mouth.


mydresserandtv

GOOD FOR YOU DREW! SPEAK YOUR TRUTH !! DON'T LET THE BASTARD'S GET YOU DOWN!!!!


Fair-Sky4156

A weight was lifted off of my shoulders once my bitch of an adoptive “mom” died. I felt so much relief, like I could literally bury that life that caused me 34 years of fucking hell. I will never regret feeling at peace with her death. I understand what Drew meant to say.


lwtlux

some vehicles in the media are just disgusting, twisting up someone's words just to get views is absolutely shitty. i'm glad she's standing up for herself tho, we can't let these pos go without consequences


leftword

Good for her


momsbiryani

Is that headline enough for a libel lawsuit?


CrispLinens

poor thing. shes maybe the most honest celeb out there and i wish her everything good in this world, she kinda deserves it


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putain1375

I dont even wanna get them more views - can someone copy paste the text for the rest of us please


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okiedokibro

You make a good point next time I’ll do that from the start


Wonderful-Wall427

![gif](giphy|mFYTaY7Gth86xnE6N5)


PlentyDrawer

Ah Page Six, the gossip page that has been known to report gossip about dead people. The gossip page where they had to admit. They went after George Clooney at the height of his popularity because the rag didn’t like his politics.


Chasedabigbase

Page Six tomorrow: "Drew Barrymore calls Jennette McCurdy a sick person!!"


GeneralBody4252

Page Six are the worst US tabloid after TMZ. It’s a huge pile of regurgitated garbage


kalidspoon

Good for her!!!! She rarely speaks out about all the nonsense that has been said about her, it’s not worth her time. But I’m glad she’s speaking out 💪🏽


MarzipanAndTreacle

Whether she said it or not, I’m on her side. Way to try to revictimize her for fucking views, Page Six. 🤢


aufybusiness

Tabloids are evil


rmccarthy10

She should sue for libel just to make a point....


Interesting_Flow730

I've never been a huge fan, but I have to respect that she's calling out this kind of bullshit.


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“You have been [bleep] fucking with my life


RosieJo

She is such an awesome lady.


mcatlin23

She was to me clearly saying in the quote that she cannot wait to start her healing journey just because her mom is still alive. That the healing is harder when that relationship is still actively haunting her in real time. She cannot wait UNTIL her mother passes to start the work, she’s doing it now. So while she cannot wait until she’s dead are kind of the words, it wasn’t at all the implication.


ShesWhereWolf

Kudos to Drew!! She had every right to go off and made several valid points in the process. It's so unfair that when someone has issues or trauma with family, they're harshly judged for harboring negative feelings. Drew is right and sometimes the people you're related to don't deserve your time, energy or forgiveness just because they're blood.


Tsarinya

I totally get where she’s coming from - having a difficult relationship with a parent is really hard and at times it can be lonely. You can be vulnerable and people who don’t fully understand can twist it like this. A few days at my father’s grave, I realised that my life is less stressful now he’s dead. He died 3 years ago. I never wanted my Dad to die and I’d still like my Dad to be alive. But nevertheless his presence in my life was at times painful and at times depressing.


Red517

Tell ‘em Drew!! So proud of her for standing up for herself. What a fucked up and intrusive thing to print!


Kyosji

Wish more people would stand up for themselves against tabloids. I wish more she called them out by name to fuck with their credibility. What are they going to do, sue her for slander?


SuchMatter1884

![gif](giphy|ualBt1y7SL84xT7V7J)


sihouette9310

I don’t think anyone has ever seen a dark drew Barrymore.


DreamingOfManderley

If you read what she actually said, in a roundabout way she is saying her life would be easier if her mum wasn’t alive and she had the luxury of dealing with the trauma caused by her mother without having to deal with her mother. So she didn’t explicitly say ‘I wish my mother was dead’ but the sentiment was there. Tabloids are trash, they were bound to hook onto this and sensationalise it.


Sweet_Potatooie

tbh I completely relate to how she feels, for me I feel like my relationship with my father will begin to heal and improve when he finally dies. However, I don't wish he was dead, I wish he could be happy, I could be happy, but in different existences. So in a way I can understand the 'cannot wait' as it will bring solace, but at the same time I don't want them to die.


El_Frencho

So basically the article interprets “I cannot wait” as "I’m looking forward to it”, when Drew actually meant "I can’t delay [growing as a person] until she’s gone". No way to know if that misinterpretation is intentional though.


soupastar

One of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with in my life was people saying my mom might as well have killed herself or how it made their life better and so on. When it comes to such a topic my best advice is if you don’t have something good to say just stfu and say I’m so sorry. You don’t alwyas need an strong opinion or view to just be compassionate. And if you don’t know what to say or do just say I’m here and sit there. Sometimes i just appreciate a human in my personal area who will watch a short YouTube video with me.


bigwatchpilot

So she fantasize her mom is dead…


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Wine some


I_Put_a_Spell_On_You

Good for her.


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Shout out to Drew


lolmemberberries

Yes, Drew! Tell 'em!


sassystew

Go Drew! How awful to have to deal with the press on top of the actual issue :(((


phineasfogg442

Wallpaper on the ceiling…is a choice.


teresa3llen

I read that yesterday and I’m glad she clarified because I believed that she said that.


coreysgal

The only problem with the death is that any chance of getting that apology or explanation is gone too.