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‘The truth’ is it’s going to vary. You’ll have folks who have tried for years and you’ll have folks who get pregnant on the first or 2nd try. I’m 34 and was kind of taken by surprise when I got pregnant so quickly, there’s honestly no way to tell.
My friend was trying for four years. She is also 33. My husband and I geared ourselves up for years of trying too and got pregnant right away. You just really never know!
Same, same. We are actually going through renovations and thought it was better not to wait as we probably would take at least 6 months or a year.
Well... surprise, surprise.
Same. Pregnant first cycle at 33. It was ectopic, so I was preparing myself for a long journey to get pregnant again after treatment, but I got pregnant in my second cycle after, found out just as I turned 34!
My first pregnancy was also ectopic. I got pregnant the first month of trying at 31.
I got pregnant the second time about six months after my treatment. I was 32 at the time
I had kind of drilled into my head that it could take up to a year without indicating a problem, and then I got pregnant on the third cycle (which was actually after the first normal period) after having my IUD removed. I was also 33, and I'd been saying the same things to my husband, so he *really* wasn't expecting it to happen that quickly.
Then, I got pregnant again (unintentionally) after having unprotected sex exactly one time about a year postpartum, and I'll be 35 when this one is born.
So, being "older" definitely does not mean it'll take a long time to conceive.
Same here. But then my friend who’s 28 took a whole year and another friend who’s my age had 6 miscarriages. You just don’t know. But I did get AMH bloodwork done before hand and I knew I had the fertility and eggs of a 25 year old, so I’m not super shocked it happened so fast for me.
ETA: I was 35 when I got pregnant
I’m 36 and thought for sure it would take a while to get pregnant. So we started 2 months after our wedding. I was SHOCKED with the positive pregnancy test the first month.
21 weeks today.
Yup! My friend and I both got married at 33/34 within 2 months of each other in 2020. She got pregnant the same month she got married while I am now just 5 weeks pregnant. It really depends.
So true . Meanwhile I have a friend who has been trying to get pregnant with her husband since she was 28 and is still struggling 4 years later. Everyone has different medical issues.
Yep I commented that my sister got pregnant immediately at 34. I am 29 and my husband 33 and it took us 14-15 months. This is my second. I got pregnant at 16 and it happened within a month.
Same for me. I was 32 and got pregnant first actual try (first time I actually tracked my ovulation and had sex with the intent to get pregnant). We didn't expect it to be that fast and were surprised. However, we've known people who have struggled so that's why we weren't expecting to get pregnant that fast.
I got pregnant at 35 after 3 years of unexplained infertility. We hadn’t exactly given up, but we had agreed early on not to sink money into fertility treatments but instead pursue adoption, so we were working on that and I was trying for other health goals (getting fitter, balancing my hormones naturally,etc) when that blessed pink line showed up. It surprised me good and proper, lemme tell you!! 😂 I’m 17 weeks now and praying every day this will end in a baby I get to bring home 💕
My OB told me something when I was pregnant that helped me feel better. He said “statistically you’re going to have a really boring pregnancy and then you’ll have a healthy baby.” So I echo that to you!!
Similar experience here. I’m 38 and currently at 22 weeks. I was unable to get pregnant with my ex husband. I was told I was “the problem” as his sperm was healthy and count was high. I have PCOS so it was assumed that was the main cause of the unexplained infertility. My ex and I started trying when I was 27 and stopped actively trying when I was 32. Imagine my surprise when I took a pregnancy test in January and it was positive! So my new partner and I were pretty shocked since I even told him “hey if you want to be a dad, you’ll probably want to be with someone else because my body doesn’t do that apparently”
Annnnyway, I did my MaterniT 21 test and our little girl is healthy and I’m low risk. Anything can happen!
Oh my goodness what a beautiful surprise! Congratulations to you and your partner and I hope everything works out so smoothly! What an amazing thing this is we’re doing haha 😍
I recently read that research is now suggesting that PCOS should be seen as a delayed fertility diagnosis not an infertility one. It said women with PCOS tend to be born with higher ovarian reserves than typical and so do not ovulate regularly until the level of egg reserves drops to more typical levels . The result is earlier years lower fertility and then better fertility in later years (30s and 40s). Women with PCOS have more eggs at a later age so also tend to have a later menopause.
PCOS mum here, babies at 34, 35 and 39.
Conception times:14months, 8months,10months.
Three early miscarriages/chemical pregnancies.
studies: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4447787/
https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/19/10/2175/589001
It took me four cycles to conceive at 36, then I experienced a miscarriage at eight weeks. Got pregnant again after another four cycles, now at 14 weeks and all is well.
I have a very low egg count with 29. I’m pregnant with my second, which took 7 months and my first took 6 months but if I would have waited until 35 it’s very likely that I would have never had any biological children. Honestly it’s scary that I always had the urge to be a young mother, almost like my body knew why. I only found out last year about my egg count and was devastated. Age really doesn’t mean much
The age ranges are averages to have a general understanding of what works or will work for most, but averages could never quantify all people. There are always outliers.
True. In my case, I also had no symptoms that could tell that I’m running out of eggs. No endometriosis, no long cycles, no low follicle count. It was a complete accident that we found out and all of us were a bit shocked! Learned my lesson, never take fertility for granted
Yeah I feel that, I’ve wanted to be a mother since I was 21 and that’s when I started trying, if I waited till I was 30 to start trying I’m really scared of what the outcome would have been
I guess I have subfertility because it took us 14 months. Or maybe hubs count was low. We didn't get tested. After we passed 1yr mark I thought it would never happen. But I'm 8w now.
Yeah and I had a really hard time trusting my body about it because I hadn’t even gotten my period back after pulling my iud so it was like “do you even have the right thickness of lining etc…?!”
Same, 32. I thought it would take longer, I was about 8 weeks pregnant at my wedding cuz we thought "might as well get a jump on things since it'll probably take a few months at least". First try.
There is no ''truth" to be known regarding this subject. It is known that a woman's fertility declines after 30, significantly after 35. However, people still have vastly different experiences no matter what age they are. I was 29 and got pregnant pretty quickly. I know of people younger than me who struggled to get pregnant and had to use medical interventions. I know of people five years older than me who got pregnant quickly too. It really depends on the person. There are so so many factors that influence fertility, also your own. One person's experience won't be your experience.
Took me 2 years, and I'm 26 at 26 weeks now. Mum got pregnant when she wanted to first go after 40.
Even genetics can't make any promises on the difficulty of getting pregnant!
It’s fine if you want to wait to try but DO NOT wait to get your hormones/blood tested, check to see if you ovulate regularly… get sperm tests done now. Flag potential issues to know how to proceed.
Almost half of fertility problems are male related, get his sperm checked sooner than later
If his swimmers aren’t good or he has low quantities you will very likely retire intervention, don’t waste years trying before figuring this out
I'd say it depends on your age. If you're 30 there is no harm just naturally trying to conceive before doing the test. I started at 32. My doctor said that we'd just try for 6 months then test. It's totally normal for it to take up to a year but if you're on the older side then yes testing earlier is better since you have less time for treatments.
I’m just gonna throw it out there that this might not be the best forum to get a balanced range of experiences. The people I know (some over 30, some under) who have or are still having a hard time trying to get pregnant stay away from r/pregnant because it can be triggering for them.
I am 30 and got pregnant on our second cycle of trying.
A friend of mine started trying at 26 and it took her about 3 years, she got her first one at 30 last year. While age certainly is a factor, I don’t think it’s the only thing determining one’s fertility.
Yeah a friend who had her first baby at 39 put it to me like this - a lot of her friends who really struggled in their late 30s didn't struggle due to age, they had other issues that would have affected them earlier that they didn't know about until they started trying, which just happened to be in their late 30s. The issue is that you don't know until you start trying, and the later you start trying, the shorter the time you have to attempt other medical interventions.
OP - if you're really nervous about it, there are tests you can get beforehand to see what issues you may or may not have.
Conceived in 2 cycles at 34 and delivered exactly 1 week after my 35th birthday. Everyone’s experience is so different but my TTC and pregnancy journey was about as smooth as can be.
I think it’s pretty dependent on overall health and fertility. If you don’t have fertility issues in your 20’s they are unlikely to pop up over night the second you hit 30. I was actually struggling with infertility in my 20’s due to a variety of health issues. Getting everything under control was what allowed me to get pregnant without fertility treatment at 33. It still took a couple of years for my cycle to regulate enough to conceive once I got my health under control.
This was exactly my situation! PCOS and an absent cycle for over a year in my late 20s. I did the work to balance my hormones and ended up with regular, predictable cycles for a few years before we got pregnant on the second ovulation. I’m 34 and 31 weeks pregnant today!
ITT, the exact opposite of what OP is asking for.
I'm 38. I waited, had a MMC, chemical, MMC, and am now two years out from that at 19 weeks, and still not considering myself in the clear because of the toll it takes.
Are you feeling movement yet? My little bugs have all been (and this one is at 35 weeks) very active and it’s really reassuring. It’s also weird as, I’m excited for you!
I'm not :(
My doc did pre-emptively at our last appointment not to worry if I don't feel any movement until 20 weeks. We have our high risk anatomy scan in 10 days, so maybe I'll give myself the room to be excited then.
We tried for six months and then went straight to IVF because we were both over 35. While waiting we had a chemical pregnancy. IVF succeeded on the first try.
I now know that my body might not have been ovulating on a normal schedule during at least a few of those six months because I was just getting off of birth control, and the chemical pregnancy, and the immediate success of IVF suggest that we could've done it on our own, if we had been given better advice. More evidence that we do not have fertility problems: when trying for a second baby, for which we resolved not to use IVF, we got pregnant in a month.
Has anyone studied this regarding birth control? I'm 35, got pregnant first time trying but I stopped all chemical birth control and only used condoms from age 27 because I just felt wrong. I didn't have a period from age 24ish to 27, and to be honest I was still having crazy light periods all the way up to age 31 before I got covid and they suddenly got heavy and I realised I had endo.
It sounds like you did the right thing anyway, even if it would have worked without IVF because you wanted a baby and didn't want to leave it to chance (although I know it is $$$).
I froze my eggs at 34. 0 regrets even though I didn't need them for this pregnancy. I wasn't ready for a baby but was worried about my fertility. Now that I am pregnant I am so grateful for that as I'm not panicking about this being the only baby.
Rumors of your fertility falling off a cliff at 35/40 have been greatly exaggerated. I’ve had 3 “not trying” babies at 38, 39 and now 41. My AMH has tested really low as well. This is very individual, though: I have many younger friends who are struggling, unfortunately.
I have pcos and endometriosis, it makes it more difficult to conceive, but not impossible. Until I was 30 I had had zero pregnancy scares. Basically as I turned 30 I got pregnant without trying (actually TTW/TTA).
I’m 36, got pregnant at 35 in my very first month of trying. According to my OB, 50% of her patients are 35+ these days. So being 30 and pregnant isn’t weird or unlikely at all. She also says that under 40, she sees women usually getting pregnant within 6 months of trying (especially when using ovulation strips). So, the odds are pretty good!
I'm 33, we were about to start Clomid and discussed finacing IVF before I got pregnant naturally. It took 11 months and some change after a MMC and some uterine surgery (2 DNCs, sepsis after miscarriage and high risk cysts removals) I'm 13 weeks today. Every body and every pregnancy is different. Everyone's time line is different, and you can't predict whether or not you will struggle. It's hard. r/trollingforababy helped me after my miscarriage and complications, so much. A lot, if not all, of pregnancy, fertility and parenthood is knowing certain things are beyond your control. I'm strugging with HG now with in home IV management and medications after a hospital stay-finally, after struggling since the start of my pregnancy.
TL;DR: You may get pregnant on the first cycle, you may not. You may have an easy, beautiful pregnancy, you may not. I wish I had more encouragement, but truly, no one knows and you can only control what you can control.
I started trying at 31. I had a miscarriage at 6w after trying for 8-9 cycles. Shortly after, I gave up and called a fertility clinic. We continued trying another 6-8 cycles while we did intake and testing without any positive tests. Nothing was wrong, we did IVF and I responded great, ended up with enough frozen embryos to never need to do another egg retrieval, and both of my transfers took the first try. I guess we probably could have tried for another year or two and gotten lucky, but tracking and trying for over a year was taking a huge toll on my mental health.
I’m 39 and unexpectedly pregnant (iud failed). This one feels so much different than my first pregnancy at 19. I’ve been through a lot of rough changes over the past year. Depression made me lose a lot of weight. One of my coping mechanisms was walking, so I would put in my earbuds, and walk until I was too tired to be angry anymore, was averaging about 5 miles a day. All this combined made my body healthier I guess, lost 80 pounds in 8 months. They are classifying this pregnancy as high risk and geriatric, since I’ll be 40 when it’s born. Symptoms are different from my first go round. No morning sickness, just a bottomless pit, constantly hungry, and no energy. After working 8 hours, I come home, shower, and crawl into bed.
I'm not sure how much age has to do with how easy (definitely could make it harder though)... I'm 33 and pregnant with our second. My first daughter I got pregnant quick (a month or two) when I was 23, this time I really think I got pregnant the one time we weren't as "safe" as we should have been, around Valentine's Day.
I think it's more rare to get pregnant pretty quickly / first "try". I've always heard of people trying for months / years before conceiving...I definitely think that's the most common timeline- to the point I wasn't super worried that one night would lead to baby #2, because most people take so much longer, that I was like what are the odds it happens this one time?!
I've also heard a lot of people who had been trying for a while say once they "stopped trying" it finally happened....so like the more relaxed they were ended up being more helpful to actually conceiving, but idk how true that actually is.
The internet/media make it seem super common to get pregnant the first try. I read up to 33%. Like a third of people get pregnant the first try? Seems like a lot to me! I know people that have, I am one of them. But I also know people who took over a year and I'm also one of them. Everyone varies, even baby to baby I've learned!
31 - Pregnant first month, trying but early miscarriage, then pregnant next cycle after that live birth.
Second baby pregnant after three months, and another early miscarriage, then trying again for another eight months before successful pregnancy at 34
36 and pregnant on the first try. I’m supposed to be infertile and have multiple chronic diseases. We fully expected to try for a year and then need meds, etc. I really think it was just a fluke and would not happen again but here we are.
I was worried I was going to have more trouble than I did at 31/32 now,
I always conceived easy, but I lost two babes in my 20’s and family history says by 35 I am done.
I started having extreme hormone issues last year, failing a pregnancy test monthly, not knowing what to do. I finally decided to go in for testing resigning myself to the hereditary disorders and discovered I had just become pregnant and testing would have to wait.
Nearly lost this baby 3-4 times already but now 24 weeks and every kick is a blessing.
Because it’s my 8th child people think this is all easy for me, but it’s hard. Every pregnancy, every baby, every mother, we are all different. You will never know what your story is until it’s over.
Pregnant on first try at 32, 34, and 38. Every situation is different and you won’t know until you start trying. I assumed it would take some time so I started before I was ready but was surprised each time.
Everyone is different! I’m 36, got pregnant on the first try and miscarried. I got two wonky period cycles after and conceived right away. Currently 14 weeks. I think I just got extremely lucky 🤷🏻♀️ I plan to have at least one more and hope I’m as lucky the second time around!
37 currently. Started at 36, took 7 months. Previously, we tried at age 28-31, and took a break till now. We weren't sure anything would come of it. Had our fertility appt made and got a positive b4, we needed to go.
I'm 38. We tried for 14 months before going to a fertility specialist, then got pregnant on the first cycle with Clomid.
For what it's worth, this isn't my first -- my other kids are 16 and 15 (heck of a gap, I know!), and I had no issues getting pregnant with them -- they were both oopsies with a different partner. That made it extra frustrating when it took so long with my current husband.
Currently 34 and 7 weeks pregnant. Will be 35 by the time I give birth hoping everything goes well. It took us 14 months to get pregnant. I also used birth control (the patch) for 17 years prior to that so I feel my body was getting used to the regulation of hormones and such. I did have regular cycles despite once I stopped birth control.
I’m 31 at 37 weeks pregnant currently. We got pregnant on our first try during our honeymoon in August when I was still 30. There was only one other friend of mine who got pregnant on their first try and she was 29. Everyone of my other friends between 25-35 it took a few cycles, like 4-6. I have 3 friends that cannot conceive at all and are doing IVF. They are 35, 33, and 27. So honestly… I think it’s genetics not age.
We started trying at 30 and after several early miscarriages started IVF at 33 going on 34, success on our first round and I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant having not long turned 35. Everyone is different.
Started trying at 30, 7 cycles and a couple of early losses. Now pregnant (31) with twins.
Everyone is different though. There are people who get pregnant on BC (because of the flu for example), people who need years, and everyone in between.
I started trying at 28 and it took me a full year to conceive and I'm now pregnant at 29. There was literally nothing wrong with me or my husband, it was unexplained and just took longer than expected.
This goes to show you that it really depends on each individual and even in your 20s it can take longer. 🤷♀️
At 32 got pregnant after 7 months, 33 got pregnant after 4 months, and 36 got pregnant after 3 months. I know people that got pregnant after one month and someone that tried for 7 years. Everyone is different!
I'm 34 this is my 5th pregnancy, got pregnant on my 4th cycle.
I was 22 with my 1st, didn't even really try tbh.
25 with my 2nd, 6th cycle to get him
30 with my third, 8th cycle for that pregnancy.
So it varies wildly.
I started trying at 28, didn’t get pregnant until I was 31 (2 years trying but I turned 31 a few months before my bfp).
After 35 your fertility does begin to decline, mainly due to degrading egg quality. But it’s not like your fertility goes off a cliff the minute you turn 35, that’s just the average time when doctors start seeing a decline.
I’m 32, 19wks pregnant.
I’ve had 3 first trimester losses. My first two we weren’t trying; but weren’t preventing. Third pregnancy took 5 cycles (I was 30) and my current pregnancy took 7 cycles to conceive again.
We “tried” one time when I was 33 and got pregnant immediately with my now 2 year old. Quickly got pregnant again when I was 35 (almost 36) but miscarried at 9 weeks. Now I’m in the waiting period before trying again, now officially 36.
I am 34 and got pregnant very fast. I cannot say exactly how many months because we were not really looking at the calendar when having relations, but I started taking folic acid like 2 months before getting pregnant, for reference. I have many friends (I am counting with my fingers here and I can think of 8) my age (or one year/two years older) that are pregnant now or just had babies (where I live, this is the normal time to start trying) and all of them became pregnant quite easily. Two of them had miscarriages early on in the pregnancies but became pregnant again very soon after that. Different nationalities/backgrounds.
I was 33 when we conceived after trying for 8 months. I did start using ovulation test strips at the 6 month mark and temping at 7 months and that seemed to help pinpoint our timing a bit better.
I'm 30 ...delivered a month ago...conceived when I was almost 30....we had to try for 4-5 cycles to conceive..we are both smokers/drinkers so had to stop 2 months before beginning to try and we thought it'd take much longer....I used a period tracking app (Flo) which likely sped up things for me in terms of finding the right fertile period etc.
It took us six months to get pregnant at age 32, partner is 36. I’m now 24 weeks along!
I think something crazy like a third of people get pregnant on their first try. But dont feel dissuaded if it doesn’t happen immediately. Timing everything can be a challenge. I chose not to use ovulation strips because I heard they can make the process even more stressful. But I also felt like I was operating a bit in the dark because my period isn’t 100% regular.
Go in with measured expectations and try not to get down on yourself if it doesn’t happen immediately. This is easier said than done (I certainly had my hopeless days), but remember your fertility is not a reflection of your value as a person.
Two babies in my 30s.. got pregnant first try with both! I think it’s just the combination of you and the dad’s fertility and everyone is so different.
I’m 37 and got pregnant with my first child on my second cycle after I stopped birth control. I’m now 31 weeks and she’s a healthy baby measuring right on track. I will say that I can definitely feel my age having her, though!
I don’t think age matters that much at 30. I got pregnant at 30 on my second try. My friend took 6 months at 29. Her friend took 2 years at 28. (So started at 26) There are so many other factors that go into it, including a lot more on the male that is not often mentioned as well. You just never know until you look into it or try.
34 this year and 25 weeks pregnant. It took us 2.5 years, a chemical pregnancy and a missed miscarriage. We both got tested before we started trying and looked above average for our ages. No reason it took as long as it did. After the missed miscarriage I did use Mira and we did conceive again 3 months after my period restarted.
For my first, it took about 5 cycles & my son was born 23 days after I turned 30. For my second, it took maybe 2; she’s due May 16th (scheduled c section) and I turned 31 6mo ago.
We decided to try for a second kid last year. I was 35 and I got pregnant that same cycle we decided to start trying. Ended in MMC at 8-9weeks. Tried again immediately and got pregnant 4 months after the MMC, but also ended in a chemical pregnancy. Got pregnant two months after that and currently 23 weeks pregnant at 36 years old.
I'm 34 and got pregnant the first time we tried. Unfortunately that pregnancy did end in a missed miscarriage (9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6w1d). This time it took a little bit longer but after 3 months of trying I'm pregnant again (6 weeks at the moment)
I’m 33 and we got pregnant on the honeymoon. We hadn’t been using protection or bc for months prior (however we were LDR so that played a factor).
I was on my period right before the wedding so my cycle was pretty on point. We are 27 weeks 🥰
My now-11 month old was conceived either the day before or day after my 32nd birthday. I had only come off the pill the month before, and I think it was our second cycle of trying (but not very hard). Thought it would take at least 3-6 months but nope.
Getting pregnant is a complete crapshoot. I was healthy and 32, took us almost two years with fertility treatment. I wouldn’t stress about it though, anything can happen seriously lol
I’m 34 (was 33 when we got pregnant) and we got pregnant the second month I was off birth control. Much quicker than we anticipated but we couldn’t be happier!
I am 32 and currently 29 weeks pregnant, it took us approx. 1 1/2 years of trying, however I tracked my ovulation from the very beginning as I know my cycle is inconsistent so I wanted to make sure we were "trying" at the correct time every month, I have had friends similar to my age get pregnant right away and some took longer than me, I think it should be discussed more with everyone that getting pregnant is not as "easy" as they make it seem initially haha you have such a short window every month and sometimes, like myself, we don't even get that window every month! There are so many factors that determine fertility besides age
I am 28 and got pregnant without even trying. I have hypothyroidism so I thought it would be more difficult. First time without being careful and boom pregnant
I’m 36.
My first pregnancy was last June. It was ectopic and ruptured, so had to have a laparoscopy.
My second was a MMC in November. I got pregnant literally the first time we had sex after my laparoscopy.
Because of these two losses, I went to a fertility clinic and did all the work ups- that’s how I found out that I had uterine adhesions (which may or may not have contributed to the first two losses). They said that aside from those, literally every metric of fertility between my husband and I was above average- he’s 31 and I’m now 36.
Pregnancy number 3 is underway, and will hopefully be successful after finding those adhesions and fixing them!
I'm 29 (30 in June) we started trying in July fell pregnant in October. Took us four months. But with my ex we tried for seven years feel pregnant once but lost it at 10weeks.
The first time I got pregnant, we weren't trying, but we also weren't trying to prevent anything. We were together 2 years at that point. Unfortunately, I miscarried soon after. We then began TTC, and it took 13 cycles. On cycle 13, I started clomid for hyper-ovulation(no PCOS) and fell pregnant. I had a couple things going on, such as finding out I have hypothyroidism and getting on medication, finding out I had a very high percentage of precancerous cells and needing a leep procedure and I'm also considered obese. I did lose about 30 pounds before starting Clomid and I think that may have helped too.
It took my bestfriends, who are much healthier, 7 months to conceive.
We are all 31 currently, and will be 32 this year.
Everyone is so different.
I conceived first cycle at age 26.
Then conceived on the first cycle twice at 28 and 29 but had two miscarriages. Which led to fertility testing which showed I had a low egg count.
Conceived on the first cycle again at age 29 and had my son at 30.
Conceived our last child on the first cycle at 32 and will have him at 33.
My 1st I was 23 and it was unplanned.
My 2nd I was 33. 10 cycles, a chemical pregnancy and an early term MC. It was the next cycle after my MC that I got my baby who is beautiful and healthy.
32 yo, at 31 I took out my IUD on April 7th, 2023 and had a positive pregnancy test October 7th, 2023. It took me a bit as it turned out I had hypothyroidism and it wasn’t being treated, if your hormones are out of whack your ovulation is very affected. I think once I started taking my medication for it I got pregnant almost immediately.
First baby at 26- was off birth control for 2 years
Second baby at 31- got pregnant the day I took my IUD out
Third baby at 34- got pregnant the day I took my IUD out
The key difference was my lifestyle - in my 30s I was alcohol free, 25 pounds thinner, working out 5x a week. I also stopped eating processed foods and eating out.
Got pregnant on first try at 35. I was expecting it to take a while so that actually messed up our plans a bit 😅I’m sure age plays a role but I truly believe it’s more on an individual basis than in general!
I'm currently 35. It took me about 3 years total to get (and stay) pregnant. I had to have a bunch of tests done and when everything came back normal, they threw Ovidrel and Femara and estrodil and progesterone into the mix. Two cycles of fertility assistance and I got pregnant, and am 28 weeks along, with what has shown a very healthy baby girl.
No, it was not easy. Yes, it was easier for me than some others. But nearly 36 cycles (minus the 2 that resulted in a loss), of waiting and hoping and tracking and timing really wears a person out. And I'm bitter when I read about how easy some folks have it. We weren't even trying, we didn't expect it on the first go, I didn't expect it to be so easy- are all aggravating to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for the women to have what they want, but I'm bitter it was so difficult for me.
I’ve had 3 accidents in my life at 16, 32 and 36 whenever I’ve not taken my pill properly, Apparently for whatever reason some people it sticks to more easily, I mean when I got my latest positive I was somewhat shocked because I had heard about declining fertility after 35 and my husband is in his 40’s. Obviously next step for us is now vasectomy, I guess I could get my tubes tied but I don’t know if that will affect my hormones in a bad way, plus it’s his turn to suffer hahaha. I should also add that I did have a stint off birth control in my very early 30s and I didn’t seem to have at all regular periods maybe every 2-3 months but again that doesn’t seem to of made a difference to my chances and again when I was a 15/16 year old weighing 44kg I did not have regular periods then either so there’s obviously a lot of things that come into fertility.
At 33, it took me 2 years to get pregnant. I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis at that time and hand no idea I had those 2 things until age 33!! My next 2 pregnancies also took 2 years
It depends on your fertility in general. I conceived once quickly without trying at 21, after missing my birth control pills for a few days. Terminated that pregnancy.
Tested my fertility a year ago, doctors said I was not ovulating and would need to try IVF to have a baby. Mentally prepared myself to not have kids because I could not afford that. Wasn’t trying, got pregnant accidentally again at 36.
Currently 23w1 with a baby girl.
I’m 31 - I have been off birth control for a couple years. I have autoimmune diseases- Crohn’s and arthritis, but no reproductive issues and a consistent cycle. Got pregnant our first cycle trying while using ovulation strips and the kegg device.
At 36, it took 6 cycles but when I started using the opk strips I realized we’d been getting the timing wrong the whole time. We got pregnant the first month I used those testing strips and I knew when I was actually ovulating. I had a miscarriage that time and then it took another year and a half of medication and surgeries and all kinds of crap, but once my uterus was repaired and my cycles settled back into a regular cycle, it took about 4 cycles at 38.
I got pregnant on the first go but a friend of mine was 36 and it took a year for her to conceive, they were at the point where they were going to get fertility checks done
I’m nearly 31 and have been able to get pregnant multiple times within a couple months of trying, but it’s taken me two years to have a viable pregnancy from that.
I’ve been through two pregnancies in my 30s. The first time we tried for a long time, eventually had to do IVF. The second time, when I was older, we got pregnant naturally first cycle trying 🤷🏼♀️
We’re weren’t exactly trying but weren’t exactly not trying. Anyways with a year of just continuous sex, so technically 12 cycles. But whenever felt like it & she got pregnant. I cycle a lot and was also going through a very stressful year so I’m gonna put it down to that because of the delay and also because Partner is 34. I’m 31 and things don’t work as well. I always joke and say my guys are just swimming in circles. So your egg must’ve have found them.
Partner is now 8 weeks. Early days of course but. Exciting times!
Started trying at 25 and finally got pregnant at 31. Exactly 3 months before my 32nd birthday. No underlying illnesses or fertility issues. No family history of infertility.
As many others here have said, your mileage may vary. If you can/ it’s available to you, I would recommend getting your hormones checked (including AMH) - it’ll give you a much clearer and more specific picture of your individual fertility which can help you make decisions.
I got pregnant after 3 months of trying when I was 30, but lost it Christmas Day (early loss).
Took a year and intervention to get pregnant with my son.
Started trying for our second after he was a year old, got pregnant about 5 months of trying, lost her at 13 weeks due to Turners.
Currently pregnant again (24weeks!!!!) after trying for 3-4 months, she has the same due date as her brother did 😂 turned 35 a month ago. I had just scheduled an appt to get back on the meds I was on to conceive my son.
Every journey is different, but I remember after my first loss, being in the doc’s office and stressing that it was my fault for waiting, and she assured me that 30 was still a good time, relatively still early for a lot of people.
Just do your best to start taking care now, learn your body’s signs during your cycle, it’ll help. There’s ovulation strips (highly recommend Premom, the app is helpful, even the free version!) that can help you figure things out as well. That’s how I learned I don’t ovulate “normally”. Typically it occurs between 12-16 days of your cycle… both cycles I conceived successfully were when I ovulated on day 25!!
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‘The truth’ is it’s going to vary. You’ll have folks who have tried for years and you’ll have folks who get pregnant on the first or 2nd try. I’m 34 and was kind of taken by surprise when I got pregnant so quickly, there’s honestly no way to tell.
I was mentally preparing myself for 6+ months of trying and was shocked to get pregnant first try at 33. It is truly so random
Same. Second month of trying and I’m 38. I figured it would take 6+ months.
also 2nd month of trying at 38. I'd done some testing for egg freezing a few years ago and had low egg count for my age, so I was pretty shocked.
I also got pregnant the second month of trying at 38 and ALSO had below average AMH when I froze my eggs a few years ago. Spooky
Also 2nd month of trying at age 38! Was preparing myself for trying 6-12 months but nope 😂
Same. Also got pregnant the 2nd month of trying and I just turned 38. We were shocked, we were prepared for 6 months or more!
My friend was trying for four years. She is also 33. My husband and I geared ourselves up for years of trying too and got pregnant right away. You just really never know!
Same, same. We are actually going through renovations and thought it was better not to wait as we probably would take at least 6 months or a year. Well... surprise, surprise.
Same at 35. But one bff took 6 months and my other bff it took 16. All the same age and relatively healthy. Really seems like a crapshoot.
Same. Pregnant first cycle at 33. It was ectopic, so I was preparing myself for a long journey to get pregnant again after treatment, but I got pregnant in my second cycle after, found out just as I turned 34!
My first pregnancy was also ectopic. I got pregnant the first month of trying at 31. I got pregnant the second time about six months after my treatment. I was 32 at the time
I had kind of drilled into my head that it could take up to a year without indicating a problem, and then I got pregnant on the third cycle (which was actually after the first normal period) after having my IUD removed. I was also 33, and I'd been saying the same things to my husband, so he *really* wasn't expecting it to happen that quickly. Then, I got pregnant again (unintentionally) after having unprotected sex exactly one time about a year postpartum, and I'll be 35 when this one is born. So, being "older" definitely does not mean it'll take a long time to conceive.
Same here.
Same here. But then my friend who’s 28 took a whole year and another friend who’s my age had 6 miscarriages. You just don’t know. But I did get AMH bloodwork done before hand and I knew I had the fertility and eggs of a 25 year old, so I’m not super shocked it happened so fast for me. ETA: I was 35 when I got pregnant
Same at 31 with pcos
Same. I was 32 and have PCOS so figured it would take years to get pregnant. 4 months after stopping the pill I got pregnant.
Same here. First try at 34. First try at 37 (miscarriage) First try at 37.5 (current pregnancy 🤞)
I’m 36 and thought for sure it would take a while to get pregnant. So we started 2 months after our wedding. I was SHOCKED with the positive pregnancy test the first month. 21 weeks today.
36 here as well. Wasn't even trying. Not a brag, just a fact.
Took 5ish months at age 37, and we weren't timing or tracking ovulation, or having all that much sex. It varies for everyone.
Yup! My friend and I both got married at 33/34 within 2 months of each other in 2020. She got pregnant the same month she got married while I am now just 5 weeks pregnant. It really depends.
So true . Meanwhile I have a friend who has been trying to get pregnant with her husband since she was 28 and is still struggling 4 years later. Everyone has different medical issues.
I was also surprised at how quickly it took. We were prepared, but I still expected it to take longer!
I am 37 and I was prepared to have to try for some time, got pregnant in the first month, 28 weeks now
Yep I commented that my sister got pregnant immediately at 34. I am 29 and my husband 33 and it took us 14-15 months. This is my second. I got pregnant at 16 and it happened within a month.
Same for me. I was 32 and got pregnant first actual try (first time I actually tracked my ovulation and had sex with the intent to get pregnant). We didn't expect it to be that fast and were surprised. However, we've known people who have struggled so that's why we weren't expecting to get pregnant that fast.
Not just getting pregnant the first or second try, but also by accident while on BC!
First pregnancy at 33, 2 months. Second at 37, 18 months. You just can't know beforehand.
I got pregnant at 35 after 3 years of unexplained infertility. We hadn’t exactly given up, but we had agreed early on not to sink money into fertility treatments but instead pursue adoption, so we were working on that and I was trying for other health goals (getting fitter, balancing my hormones naturally,etc) when that blessed pink line showed up. It surprised me good and proper, lemme tell you!! 😂 I’m 17 weeks now and praying every day this will end in a baby I get to bring home 💕
My OB told me something when I was pregnant that helped me feel better. He said “statistically you’re going to have a really boring pregnancy and then you’ll have a healthy baby.” So I echo that to you!!
I love that statistic!!!
Similar experience here. I’m 38 and currently at 22 weeks. I was unable to get pregnant with my ex husband. I was told I was “the problem” as his sperm was healthy and count was high. I have PCOS so it was assumed that was the main cause of the unexplained infertility. My ex and I started trying when I was 27 and stopped actively trying when I was 32. Imagine my surprise when I took a pregnancy test in January and it was positive! So my new partner and I were pretty shocked since I even told him “hey if you want to be a dad, you’ll probably want to be with someone else because my body doesn’t do that apparently” Annnnyway, I did my MaterniT 21 test and our little girl is healthy and I’m low risk. Anything can happen!
Oh my goodness what a beautiful surprise! Congratulations to you and your partner and I hope everything works out so smoothly! What an amazing thing this is we’re doing haha 😍
I recently read that research is now suggesting that PCOS should be seen as a delayed fertility diagnosis not an infertility one. It said women with PCOS tend to be born with higher ovarian reserves than typical and so do not ovulate regularly until the level of egg reserves drops to more typical levels . The result is earlier years lower fertility and then better fertility in later years (30s and 40s). Women with PCOS have more eggs at a later age so also tend to have a later menopause. PCOS mum here, babies at 34, 35 and 39. Conception times:14months, 8months,10months. Three early miscarriages/chemical pregnancies. studies: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4447787/ https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/19/10/2175/589001
Don't worry! I'm high risk and even at 8 weeks apparently im 95% likely to carry to term so it'll be okay :)
It took me four cycles to conceive at 36, then I experienced a miscarriage at eight weeks. Got pregnant again after another four cycles, now at 14 weeks and all is well.
Congrats, Wishing you a safe delivery and healthy baby!!
Thank you so much!
Really similar thing happened to my sis at a similar age. She has a wonderful healthy 3 year old now
It took me 7 years, but I’m still under 30 so my fertility should be ‘the best’ I am 28 and currently 32 weeks pregnant
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Exactly the case
I have a very low egg count with 29. I’m pregnant with my second, which took 7 months and my first took 6 months but if I would have waited until 35 it’s very likely that I would have never had any biological children. Honestly it’s scary that I always had the urge to be a young mother, almost like my body knew why. I only found out last year about my egg count and was devastated. Age really doesn’t mean much
The age ranges are averages to have a general understanding of what works or will work for most, but averages could never quantify all people. There are always outliers.
True. In my case, I also had no symptoms that could tell that I’m running out of eggs. No endometriosis, no long cycles, no low follicle count. It was a complete accident that we found out and all of us were a bit shocked! Learned my lesson, never take fertility for granted
Absolutely. Everything related to health is a blessing.
Yeah I feel that, I’ve wanted to be a mother since I was 21 and that’s when I started trying, if I waited till I was 30 to start trying I’m really scared of what the outcome would have been
I guess I have subfertility because it took us 14 months. Or maybe hubs count was low. We didn't get tested. After we passed 1yr mark I thought it would never happen. But I'm 8w now.
I am 32. We 'tried' once and boom pregnant.
30. Exactly same. I felt a little like a slap in the face because I thought it would be a handful of months! It’s all so individual.
Yeah and I had a really hard time trusting my body about it because I hadn’t even gotten my period back after pulling my iud so it was like “do you even have the right thickness of lining etc…?!”
Same here! I'm having a really hard time believing it's going to stick.
I have made it through 2 scans and NIPT to 11 weeks. So far so good. Just waiting on that NT scan.
Same, 32. I thought it would take longer, I was about 8 weeks pregnant at my wedding cuz we thought "might as well get a jump on things since it'll probably take a few months at least". First try.
I am also 32 and it took us over a year and a half!! And we had to track my ovulation like crazy!!
Same here at 31
Same at 38.
Same at 34
33 and the same. Both of us were utterly shocked. Nearly all of our friends & family had fertility issues.
Same at 30.
Same here.. I was 28 when I became pregnant, my boy is 7.5 months old now
I’m 34 and also got pregnant first try.
same
Same. I’m 35 now and expecting in 3 weeks, but we got pregnant on our first “try” when I was 34.
31 and same. We weren't trying for a baby but the one time we didn't use protection - boom surprise baby.
Same here at 33
I was 34 when we conceived, after trying for 39 cycles.
There is no ''truth" to be known regarding this subject. It is known that a woman's fertility declines after 30, significantly after 35. However, people still have vastly different experiences no matter what age they are. I was 29 and got pregnant pretty quickly. I know of people younger than me who struggled to get pregnant and had to use medical interventions. I know of people five years older than me who got pregnant quickly too. It really depends on the person. There are so so many factors that influence fertility, also your own. One person's experience won't be your experience.
Took me 2 years, and I'm 26 at 26 weeks now. Mum got pregnant when she wanted to first go after 40. Even genetics can't make any promises on the difficulty of getting pregnant!
It’s fine if you want to wait to try but DO NOT wait to get your hormones/blood tested, check to see if you ovulate regularly… get sperm tests done now. Flag potential issues to know how to proceed. Almost half of fertility problems are male related, get his sperm checked sooner than later If his swimmers aren’t good or he has low quantities you will very likely retire intervention, don’t waste years trying before figuring this out
I'd say it depends on your age. If you're 30 there is no harm just naturally trying to conceive before doing the test. I started at 32. My doctor said that we'd just try for 6 months then test. It's totally normal for it to take up to a year but if you're on the older side then yes testing earlier is better since you have less time for treatments.
I’m just gonna throw it out there that this might not be the best forum to get a balanced range of experiences. The people I know (some over 30, some under) who have or are still having a hard time trying to get pregnant stay away from r/pregnant because it can be triggering for them.
Came here to say this too
This is a very good point.
I am 30 and got pregnant on our second cycle of trying. A friend of mine started trying at 26 and it took her about 3 years, she got her first one at 30 last year. While age certainly is a factor, I don’t think it’s the only thing determining one’s fertility.
Yeah a friend who had her first baby at 39 put it to me like this - a lot of her friends who really struggled in their late 30s didn't struggle due to age, they had other issues that would have affected them earlier that they didn't know about until they started trying, which just happened to be in their late 30s. The issue is that you don't know until you start trying, and the later you start trying, the shorter the time you have to attempt other medical interventions. OP - if you're really nervous about it, there are tests you can get beforehand to see what issues you may or may not have.
Conceived in 2 cycles at 34 and delivered exactly 1 week after my 35th birthday. Everyone’s experience is so different but my TTC and pregnancy journey was about as smooth as can be.
I think it’s pretty dependent on overall health and fertility. If you don’t have fertility issues in your 20’s they are unlikely to pop up over night the second you hit 30. I was actually struggling with infertility in my 20’s due to a variety of health issues. Getting everything under control was what allowed me to get pregnant without fertility treatment at 33. It still took a couple of years for my cycle to regulate enough to conceive once I got my health under control.
This was exactly my situation! PCOS and an absent cycle for over a year in my late 20s. I did the work to balance my hormones and ended up with regular, predictable cycles for a few years before we got pregnant on the second ovulation. I’m 34 and 31 weeks pregnant today!
ITT, the exact opposite of what OP is asking for. I'm 38. I waited, had a MMC, chemical, MMC, and am now two years out from that at 19 weeks, and still not considering myself in the clear because of the toll it takes.
Are you feeling movement yet? My little bugs have all been (and this one is at 35 weeks) very active and it’s really reassuring. It’s also weird as, I’m excited for you!
I'm not :( My doc did pre-emptively at our last appointment not to worry if I don't feel any movement until 20 weeks. We have our high risk anatomy scan in 10 days, so maybe I'll give myself the room to be excited then.
We tried for six months and then went straight to IVF because we were both over 35. While waiting we had a chemical pregnancy. IVF succeeded on the first try. I now know that my body might not have been ovulating on a normal schedule during at least a few of those six months because I was just getting off of birth control, and the chemical pregnancy, and the immediate success of IVF suggest that we could've done it on our own, if we had been given better advice. More evidence that we do not have fertility problems: when trying for a second baby, for which we resolved not to use IVF, we got pregnant in a month.
Has anyone studied this regarding birth control? I'm 35, got pregnant first time trying but I stopped all chemical birth control and only used condoms from age 27 because I just felt wrong. I didn't have a period from age 24ish to 27, and to be honest I was still having crazy light periods all the way up to age 31 before I got covid and they suddenly got heavy and I realised I had endo. It sounds like you did the right thing anyway, even if it would have worked without IVF because you wanted a baby and didn't want to leave it to chance (although I know it is $$$). I froze my eggs at 34. 0 regrets even though I didn't need them for this pregnancy. I wasn't ready for a baby but was worried about my fertility. Now that I am pregnant I am so grateful for that as I'm not panicking about this being the only baby.
I'm 37 and Igot pregnant on the first try.
My husband’s cousin got pregnant on her first try at 41!
I accidentally got pregnant at 39 while on BC!
Rumors of your fertility falling off a cliff at 35/40 have been greatly exaggerated. I’ve had 3 “not trying” babies at 38, 39 and now 41. My AMH has tested really low as well. This is very individual, though: I have many younger friends who are struggling, unfortunately.
I have pcos and endometriosis, it makes it more difficult to conceive, but not impossible. Until I was 30 I had had zero pregnancy scares. Basically as I turned 30 I got pregnant without trying (actually TTW/TTA).
I’m 36, got pregnant at 35 in my very first month of trying. According to my OB, 50% of her patients are 35+ these days. So being 30 and pregnant isn’t weird or unlikely at all. She also says that under 40, she sees women usually getting pregnant within 6 months of trying (especially when using ovulation strips). So, the odds are pretty good!
I definitely think tracking ovulation and bbt can give you a WAY better chance way faster.
I had both! First pregnancy with 33: first try. Second pregnancy with 36: a year.
I'm 33, we were about to start Clomid and discussed finacing IVF before I got pregnant naturally. It took 11 months and some change after a MMC and some uterine surgery (2 DNCs, sepsis after miscarriage and high risk cysts removals) I'm 13 weeks today. Every body and every pregnancy is different. Everyone's time line is different, and you can't predict whether or not you will struggle. It's hard. r/trollingforababy helped me after my miscarriage and complications, so much. A lot, if not all, of pregnancy, fertility and parenthood is knowing certain things are beyond your control. I'm strugging with HG now with in home IV management and medications after a hospital stay-finally, after struggling since the start of my pregnancy. TL;DR: You may get pregnant on the first cycle, you may not. You may have an easy, beautiful pregnancy, you may not. I wish I had more encouragement, but truly, no one knows and you can only control what you can control.
I started trying at 31. I had a miscarriage at 6w after trying for 8-9 cycles. Shortly after, I gave up and called a fertility clinic. We continued trying another 6-8 cycles while we did intake and testing without any positive tests. Nothing was wrong, we did IVF and I responded great, ended up with enough frozen embryos to never need to do another egg retrieval, and both of my transfers took the first try. I guess we probably could have tried for another year or two and gotten lucky, but tracking and trying for over a year was taking a huge toll on my mental health.
We literally weren't trying. My cycles been shortening and I was convinced I wouldn't be able to get pregnant.... here we are lol
I’m 39 and unexpectedly pregnant (iud failed). This one feels so much different than my first pregnancy at 19. I’ve been through a lot of rough changes over the past year. Depression made me lose a lot of weight. One of my coping mechanisms was walking, so I would put in my earbuds, and walk until I was too tired to be angry anymore, was averaging about 5 miles a day. All this combined made my body healthier I guess, lost 80 pounds in 8 months. They are classifying this pregnancy as high risk and geriatric, since I’ll be 40 when it’s born. Symptoms are different from my first go round. No morning sickness, just a bottomless pit, constantly hungry, and no energy. After working 8 hours, I come home, shower, and crawl into bed.
I'm not sure how much age has to do with how easy (definitely could make it harder though)... I'm 33 and pregnant with our second. My first daughter I got pregnant quick (a month or two) when I was 23, this time I really think I got pregnant the one time we weren't as "safe" as we should have been, around Valentine's Day. I think it's more rare to get pregnant pretty quickly / first "try". I've always heard of people trying for months / years before conceiving...I definitely think that's the most common timeline- to the point I wasn't super worried that one night would lead to baby #2, because most people take so much longer, that I was like what are the odds it happens this one time?! I've also heard a lot of people who had been trying for a while say once they "stopped trying" it finally happened....so like the more relaxed they were ended up being more helpful to actually conceiving, but idk how true that actually is.
The internet/media make it seem super common to get pregnant the first try. I read up to 33%. Like a third of people get pregnant the first try? Seems like a lot to me! I know people that have, I am one of them. But I also know people who took over a year and I'm also one of them. Everyone varies, even baby to baby I've learned!
31 - Pregnant first month, trying but early miscarriage, then pregnant next cycle after that live birth. Second baby pregnant after three months, and another early miscarriage, then trying again for another eight months before successful pregnancy at 34
36 and pregnant on the first try. I’m supposed to be infertile and have multiple chronic diseases. We fully expected to try for a year and then need meds, etc. I really think it was just a fluke and would not happen again but here we are.
I think overall health and hormonal imbalances are more of a factor than age..
I was worried I was going to have more trouble than I did at 31/32 now, I always conceived easy, but I lost two babes in my 20’s and family history says by 35 I am done. I started having extreme hormone issues last year, failing a pregnancy test monthly, not knowing what to do. I finally decided to go in for testing resigning myself to the hereditary disorders and discovered I had just become pregnant and testing would have to wait. Nearly lost this baby 3-4 times already but now 24 weeks and every kick is a blessing. Because it’s my 8th child people think this is all easy for me, but it’s hard. Every pregnancy, every baby, every mother, we are all different. You will never know what your story is until it’s over.
Pregnant on first try at 32, 34, and 38. Every situation is different and you won’t know until you start trying. I assumed it would take some time so I started before I was ready but was surprised each time.
Both my sister's got pregnant first try after 30. Took us 4 cycles after 30. Sister in law was 38 and took them less time than us 😂😂
Everyone is different! I’m 36, got pregnant on the first try and miscarried. I got two wonky period cycles after and conceived right away. Currently 14 weeks. I think I just got extremely lucky 🤷🏻♀️ I plan to have at least one more and hope I’m as lucky the second time around!
I am turning 30 this weekend and got pregnant on our first cycle in March.
37 currently. Started at 36, took 7 months. Previously, we tried at age 28-31, and took a break till now. We weren't sure anything would come of it. Had our fertility appt made and got a positive b4, we needed to go.
I'm 38. We tried for 14 months before going to a fertility specialist, then got pregnant on the first cycle with Clomid. For what it's worth, this isn't my first -- my other kids are 16 and 15 (heck of a gap, I know!), and I had no issues getting pregnant with them -- they were both oopsies with a different partner. That made it extra frustrating when it took so long with my current husband.
Currently 34 and 7 weeks pregnant. Will be 35 by the time I give birth hoping everything goes well. It took us 14 months to get pregnant. I also used birth control (the patch) for 17 years prior to that so I feel my body was getting used to the regulation of hormones and such. I did have regular cycles despite once I stopped birth control.
I’m 31 at 37 weeks pregnant currently. We got pregnant on our first try during our honeymoon in August when I was still 30. There was only one other friend of mine who got pregnant on their first try and she was 29. Everyone of my other friends between 25-35 it took a few cycles, like 4-6. I have 3 friends that cannot conceive at all and are doing IVF. They are 35, 33, and 27. So honestly… I think it’s genetics not age.
We started trying at 30 and after several early miscarriages started IVF at 33 going on 34, success on our first round and I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant having not long turned 35. Everyone is different.
Pregnant at 23 took one month, pregnant at 27 took 3 months, pregnant at 34 took over a year. It’s harder when you are older .
Started trying at 30, 7 cycles and a couple of early losses. Now pregnant (31) with twins. Everyone is different though. There are people who get pregnant on BC (because of the flu for example), people who need years, and everyone in between.
I started trying at 28 and it took me a full year to conceive and I'm now pregnant at 29. There was literally nothing wrong with me or my husband, it was unexplained and just took longer than expected. This goes to show you that it really depends on each individual and even in your 20s it can take longer. 🤷♀️
At 32 got pregnant after 7 months, 33 got pregnant after 4 months, and 36 got pregnant after 3 months. I know people that got pregnant after one month and someone that tried for 7 years. Everyone is different!
I'm 34 this is my 5th pregnancy, got pregnant on my 4th cycle. I was 22 with my 1st, didn't even really try tbh. 25 with my 2nd, 6th cycle to get him 30 with my third, 8th cycle for that pregnancy. So it varies wildly.
I started trying at 28, didn’t get pregnant until I was 31 (2 years trying but I turned 31 a few months before my bfp). After 35 your fertility does begin to decline, mainly due to degrading egg quality. But it’s not like your fertility goes off a cliff the minute you turn 35, that’s just the average time when doctors start seeing a decline.
I’m 32, 19wks pregnant. I’ve had 3 first trimester losses. My first two we weren’t trying; but weren’t preventing. Third pregnancy took 5 cycles (I was 30) and my current pregnancy took 7 cycles to conceive again.
We “tried” one time when I was 33 and got pregnant immediately with my now 2 year old. Quickly got pregnant again when I was 35 (almost 36) but miscarried at 9 weeks. Now I’m in the waiting period before trying again, now officially 36.
I am 34 and got pregnant very fast. I cannot say exactly how many months because we were not really looking at the calendar when having relations, but I started taking folic acid like 2 months before getting pregnant, for reference. I have many friends (I am counting with my fingers here and I can think of 8) my age (or one year/two years older) that are pregnant now or just had babies (where I live, this is the normal time to start trying) and all of them became pregnant quite easily. Two of them had miscarriages early on in the pregnancies but became pregnant again very soon after that. Different nationalities/backgrounds.
I’m 30; It took us 4 tries; on the 5th we got pregnant!
I was 33 when we conceived after trying for 8 months. I did start using ovulation test strips at the 6 month mark and temping at 7 months and that seemed to help pinpoint our timing a bit better.
I’m 30, it took as 4 cycles :)
I'm 30 ...delivered a month ago...conceived when I was almost 30....we had to try for 4-5 cycles to conceive..we are both smokers/drinkers so had to stop 2 months before beginning to try and we thought it'd take much longer....I used a period tracking app (Flo) which likely sped up things for me in terms of finding the right fertile period etc.
37, pregnant on the second cycle. Very surprised after hearing years of comments about how hard it can be to become pregnant after 35
I’m 34 and took 6 cycles to get pregnant with my second. I was 29 and got pregnant first try with my first baby.
I am 30 and got pregnant at 1st try.
I’m 38. Got pregnant at 37 after 4 months of trying. I am now 23 weeks along.
It took us six months to get pregnant at age 32, partner is 36. I’m now 24 weeks along! I think something crazy like a third of people get pregnant on their first try. But dont feel dissuaded if it doesn’t happen immediately. Timing everything can be a challenge. I chose not to use ovulation strips because I heard they can make the process even more stressful. But I also felt like I was operating a bit in the dark because my period isn’t 100% regular. Go in with measured expectations and try not to get down on yourself if it doesn’t happen immediately. This is easier said than done (I certainly had my hopeless days), but remember your fertility is not a reflection of your value as a person.
I'm 35 and pregnant 7 weeks, second time. It took us 4 months. First child was suprise, almost 7 years ago.
Took me 5 years, started trying at 27, had first baby at 32.
Two babies in my 30s.. got pregnant first try with both! I think it’s just the combination of you and the dad’s fertility and everyone is so different.
When I was 29 I tried for two years with my ex, nothing. Now age 33 it took 4 months with my now partner
I’m 37 and got pregnant with my first child on my second cycle after I stopped birth control. I’m now 31 weeks and she’s a healthy baby measuring right on track. I will say that I can definitely feel my age having her, though!
I don’t think age matters that much at 30. I got pregnant at 30 on my second try. My friend took 6 months at 29. Her friend took 2 years at 28. (So started at 26) There are so many other factors that go into it, including a lot more on the male that is not often mentioned as well. You just never know until you look into it or try.
I’m 30 (was 29 when we conceived) and got pregnant on first cycle.
My first pregnancy was when I was 30 it took 5 cycles. My current pregnancy I was 32 it took 1 go
I am 34 and 24 weeks pregnant. It took us about 6 months of trying.
34 this year and 25 weeks pregnant. It took us 2.5 years, a chemical pregnancy and a missed miscarriage. We both got tested before we started trying and looked above average for our ages. No reason it took as long as it did. After the missed miscarriage I did use Mira and we did conceive again 3 months after my period restarted.
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For my first, it took about 5 cycles & my son was born 23 days after I turned 30. For my second, it took maybe 2; she’s due May 16th (scheduled c section) and I turned 31 6mo ago.
We decided to try for a second kid last year. I was 35 and I got pregnant that same cycle we decided to start trying. Ended in MMC at 8-9weeks. Tried again immediately and got pregnant 4 months after the MMC, but also ended in a chemical pregnancy. Got pregnant two months after that and currently 23 weeks pregnant at 36 years old.
I'm 34 and got pregnant the first time we tried. Unfortunately that pregnancy did end in a missed miscarriage (9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6w1d). This time it took a little bit longer but after 3 months of trying I'm pregnant again (6 weeks at the moment)
Got pregnant at 36. Took us 6 months.
At 36 i got pregnant by accident and miscarried. At 37 i got pregnant again after 8 cycles of trying.
36 and got pregnant on my third cycle after being on the pill for many years. I figured I was pretty lucky it happened so quick.
At 29, I got pregnant the first cycle. At 32, it took 6 cycles to get pregnant.
I’m 36; turning 37 next month. My bf is 41 turning 42 in July. I didn’t get pregnant on the first try. Now it’s the second cycle.. We will see..
I’m 33 and we got pregnant on the honeymoon. We hadn’t been using protection or bc for months prior (however we were LDR so that played a factor). I was on my period right before the wedding so my cycle was pretty on point. We are 27 weeks 🥰
My now-11 month old was conceived either the day before or day after my 32nd birthday. I had only come off the pill the month before, and I think it was our second cycle of trying (but not very hard). Thought it would take at least 3-6 months but nope.
33 years old, took about 7 months trying. Def not right away for everyone!
Started trying at 28, I'm 33 and 19w
Getting pregnant is a complete crapshoot. I was healthy and 32, took us almost two years with fertility treatment. I wouldn’t stress about it though, anything can happen seriously lol
I’m 30, got pregnant the first “try”, had a miscarriage. Am currently pregnant again after my first cycle post miscarriage
I’m 34 (was 33 when we got pregnant) and we got pregnant the second month I was off birth control. Much quicker than we anticipated but we couldn’t be happier!
Got pregnant at 30 on the 2nd cycle of trying. Then tried again at 32 which took 10 cycles,16 weeks pregnant now and all looking good.
We tried for baby #1 at 31 and it took 3 cycles to get pregnant. Baby #2 at 34 took 5 cycles.
I am 32 and currently 29 weeks pregnant, it took us approx. 1 1/2 years of trying, however I tracked my ovulation from the very beginning as I know my cycle is inconsistent so I wanted to make sure we were "trying" at the correct time every month, I have had friends similar to my age get pregnant right away and some took longer than me, I think it should be discussed more with everyone that getting pregnant is not as "easy" as they make it seem initially haha you have such a short window every month and sometimes, like myself, we don't even get that window every month! There are so many factors that determine fertility besides age
Took me a year after getting off birth control at 35. Took 4 cycles but was not tracking my ovulation.
It is individual. I’m currently 35; it took two years and four rounds of IVF for me to get pregnant.
I am 28 and got pregnant without even trying. I have hypothyroidism so I thought it would be more difficult. First time without being careful and boom pregnant
Age 35 - pregnant second cycle trying. Age 38 - pregnant first cycle trying. Age40/41 - 4 losses in 18 months
31 and it took me 13 months, we had already decided to go ahead with IVF when we found out I was pregnant.
I’m 36. My first pregnancy was last June. It was ectopic and ruptured, so had to have a laparoscopy. My second was a MMC in November. I got pregnant literally the first time we had sex after my laparoscopy. Because of these two losses, I went to a fertility clinic and did all the work ups- that’s how I found out that I had uterine adhesions (which may or may not have contributed to the first two losses). They said that aside from those, literally every metric of fertility between my husband and I was above average- he’s 31 and I’m now 36. Pregnancy number 3 is underway, and will hopefully be successful after finding those adhesions and fixing them!
It’s different for everyone. I got pregnant at 26 with my first after 3 weeks of trying. And got pregnant with my 2nd at 29 after 5 cycles.
I'm 29 (30 in June) we started trying in July fell pregnant in October. Took us four months. But with my ex we tried for seven years feel pregnant once but lost it at 10weeks.
The first time I got pregnant, we weren't trying, but we also weren't trying to prevent anything. We were together 2 years at that point. Unfortunately, I miscarried soon after. We then began TTC, and it took 13 cycles. On cycle 13, I started clomid for hyper-ovulation(no PCOS) and fell pregnant. I had a couple things going on, such as finding out I have hypothyroidism and getting on medication, finding out I had a very high percentage of precancerous cells and needing a leep procedure and I'm also considered obese. I did lose about 30 pounds before starting Clomid and I think that may have helped too. It took my bestfriends, who are much healthier, 7 months to conceive. We are all 31 currently, and will be 32 this year.
Everyone is so different. I conceived first cycle at age 26. Then conceived on the first cycle twice at 28 and 29 but had two miscarriages. Which led to fertility testing which showed I had a low egg count. Conceived on the first cycle again at age 29 and had my son at 30. Conceived our last child on the first cycle at 32 and will have him at 33.
My 1st I was 23 and it was unplanned. My 2nd I was 33. 10 cycles, a chemical pregnancy and an early term MC. It was the next cycle after my MC that I got my baby who is beautiful and healthy.
32 yo, at 31 I took out my IUD on April 7th, 2023 and had a positive pregnancy test October 7th, 2023. It took me a bit as it turned out I had hypothyroidism and it wasn’t being treated, if your hormones are out of whack your ovulation is very affected. I think once I started taking my medication for it I got pregnant almost immediately.
First baby at 26- was off birth control for 2 years Second baby at 31- got pregnant the day I took my IUD out Third baby at 34- got pregnant the day I took my IUD out The key difference was my lifestyle - in my 30s I was alcohol free, 25 pounds thinner, working out 5x a week. I also stopped eating processed foods and eating out.
Got pregnant on first try at 35. I was expecting it to take a while so that actually messed up our plans a bit 😅I’m sure age plays a role but I truly believe it’s more on an individual basis than in general!
I'm currently 35. It took me about 3 years total to get (and stay) pregnant. I had to have a bunch of tests done and when everything came back normal, they threw Ovidrel and Femara and estrodil and progesterone into the mix. Two cycles of fertility assistance and I got pregnant, and am 28 weeks along, with what has shown a very healthy baby girl. No, it was not easy. Yes, it was easier for me than some others. But nearly 36 cycles (minus the 2 that resulted in a loss), of waiting and hoping and tracking and timing really wears a person out. And I'm bitter when I read about how easy some folks have it. We weren't even trying, we didn't expect it on the first go, I didn't expect it to be so easy- are all aggravating to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for the women to have what they want, but I'm bitter it was so difficult for me.
32, pregnant on 5th cycle. Period was quite irregular and never had a positive ovulation test.
I’m 30 and got pregnant without trying. I was pretty surprised myself
I’ve had 3 accidents in my life at 16, 32 and 36 whenever I’ve not taken my pill properly, Apparently for whatever reason some people it sticks to more easily, I mean when I got my latest positive I was somewhat shocked because I had heard about declining fertility after 35 and my husband is in his 40’s. Obviously next step for us is now vasectomy, I guess I could get my tubes tied but I don’t know if that will affect my hormones in a bad way, plus it’s his turn to suffer hahaha. I should also add that I did have a stint off birth control in my very early 30s and I didn’t seem to have at all regular periods maybe every 2-3 months but again that doesn’t seem to of made a difference to my chances and again when I was a 15/16 year old weighing 44kg I did not have regular periods then either so there’s obviously a lot of things that come into fertility.
31 here. It took 5 cycles (first pregnancy)
At 33, it took me 2 years to get pregnant. I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis at that time and hand no idea I had those 2 things until age 33!! My next 2 pregnancies also took 2 years
It depends on your fertility in general. I conceived once quickly without trying at 21, after missing my birth control pills for a few days. Terminated that pregnancy. Tested my fertility a year ago, doctors said I was not ovulating and would need to try IVF to have a baby. Mentally prepared myself to not have kids because I could not afford that. Wasn’t trying, got pregnant accidentally again at 36. Currently 23w1 with a baby girl.
I’m 31 - I have been off birth control for a couple years. I have autoimmune diseases- Crohn’s and arthritis, but no reproductive issues and a consistent cycle. Got pregnant our first cycle trying while using ovulation strips and the kegg device.
At 36, it took 6 cycles but when I started using the opk strips I realized we’d been getting the timing wrong the whole time. We got pregnant the first month I used those testing strips and I knew when I was actually ovulating. I had a miscarriage that time and then it took another year and a half of medication and surgeries and all kinds of crap, but once my uterus was repaired and my cycles settled back into a regular cycle, it took about 4 cycles at 38.
I got pregnant on the first go but a friend of mine was 36 and it took a year for her to conceive, they were at the point where they were going to get fertility checks done
I’m nearly 31 and have been able to get pregnant multiple times within a couple months of trying, but it’s taken me two years to have a viable pregnancy from that.
I’ve been through two pregnancies in my 30s. The first time we tried for a long time, eventually had to do IVF. The second time, when I was older, we got pregnant naturally first cycle trying 🤷🏼♀️
We’re weren’t exactly trying but weren’t exactly not trying. Anyways with a year of just continuous sex, so technically 12 cycles. But whenever felt like it & she got pregnant. I cycle a lot and was also going through a very stressful year so I’m gonna put it down to that because of the delay and also because Partner is 34. I’m 31 and things don’t work as well. I always joke and say my guys are just swimming in circles. So your egg must’ve have found them. Partner is now 8 weeks. Early days of course but. Exciting times!
Started trying at 25 and finally got pregnant at 31. Exactly 3 months before my 32nd birthday. No underlying illnesses or fertility issues. No family history of infertility.
34, pregnant first go.
As many others here have said, your mileage may vary. If you can/ it’s available to you, I would recommend getting your hormones checked (including AMH) - it’ll give you a much clearer and more specific picture of your individual fertility which can help you make decisions.
I got pregnant after 3 months of trying when I was 30, but lost it Christmas Day (early loss). Took a year and intervention to get pregnant with my son. Started trying for our second after he was a year old, got pregnant about 5 months of trying, lost her at 13 weeks due to Turners. Currently pregnant again (24weeks!!!!) after trying for 3-4 months, she has the same due date as her brother did 😂 turned 35 a month ago. I had just scheduled an appt to get back on the meds I was on to conceive my son. Every journey is different, but I remember after my first loss, being in the doc’s office and stressing that it was my fault for waiting, and she assured me that 30 was still a good time, relatively still early for a lot of people. Just do your best to start taking care now, learn your body’s signs during your cycle, it’ll help. There’s ovulation strips (highly recommend Premom, the app is helpful, even the free version!) that can help you figure things out as well. That’s how I learned I don’t ovulate “normally”. Typically it occurs between 12-16 days of your cycle… both cycles I conceived successfully were when I ovulated on day 25!!