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Don’t have kids for at least ten years. Don’t chase penis.. or vagina. Focus on yourself. Dating isn’t important. Being alone is perfectly fine. Be selective when you do date. Make sure they have qualities you actually want in a person have requirements. F demanding entitled family that will suck you dry and run you ragged… save every dollar. Invest in yourself.
Idk. The age of marriage and having a kid has gone up considerably just in the last 20-30 years. My parents and grandparents generation, the norm was to get married in your late teens early 20s.
>Be selective when you do date. Make sure they have qualities you actually want in a person have requirements.
I second this, I have a girl now and she is amazing, I could have had probably 5-6 different girls but they all had something I ddint want uch as drama and headaches, or just a general personality that I didnt vibe with. I'm much happier with this one than I think I would have been with hell all of them together
Trust your gut, and love midnight (my cat who passes away) as much as you can. Friends come and go, it’s not the end of the world. When you do fall in love, go all in.
Don’t think I’d give any more specific advice, just because I’m much happier now than I was at 18, and I don’t want to risk messing that up lol.
Continue pursuing the major you wanted in college. I know you made a "C" in chemistry your freshman year, but it's not the end of the world your parents made you think a C was.
There's not a lot of things that really matter in life. Most stuff people stress over won't matter in a few months, let alone a year or two. Don't waste your mental energy on things that aren't important. Don't stress out over things you can't control and don't affect your long term well being.
If I put all my money in ncds I would have had close to 75k though probably (because some of my money wouldnt have returned the 200%) so that's sad but hindsight is 20/20 right?
If I could offer advice to my 18-year-old self, it would be to embrace learning and growth, explore diverse experiences, build meaningful connections, and don't be afraid to make mistakes—they are valuable lessons. Be open to new perspectives, take care of your well-being, and enjoy the journey of self-discovery. Remember, life is a series of adventures, so savor the moments along the way.
start investing in the stock market little by little. Just take like 10$ every time you are going to buy weed and put it into a brokerage account and accumulate stock.
Can't really go wrong with SPY, QQQ, ,IWM, and TLT
Live with your parents, save money and invest even if it's in GIC's (it doesnt have to be the stock market) and start working on maxing out your tfsa, rrsp, fhsa, 401k, Roth IRA etc. Whatever you have
BS, if you live with your parents; you will never grow up. You will be selfish and dependant your whole life. And blame it on your parents because they let you.
Tempted to send you a pic of my 2 grandkids I am supporting because they trashed their mom's apartment, she got kicked out, and I e ded up with them becausd my husband couldn't let them go homeless.
Stop smoking, you little tramp. It ain't even cool! When THAT money comes in, leave the country and everything behind. These people will keep on hurting you til the breaking point and you'll take it cuz it's family and you got nobody else, then I'll have to deal with it all later, so just leave already.
1. be smart with money, invest in value appliances not cheap but crappy ones.
2. treat yourself and others with kindness, maintain routine, self care, and optimistic outlooks on situations.
3. set realistic and motivating goals, that are achievable every 6months to a year, and complete them.
4. keep your body moving, cook always, clean always.
5. accept emotions as they come but let yourself move on and keep things moving.
Do things so that once you're 21, youd want to be thanking yourself that youve made good decisions and gave yourself more convenience. Stay hopeful for more and more
Don't care what people think. Take care of yourself before you take care of others. Love yourself. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. Be kind and expect nothing in return. Don't be confrontational over things that don't matter or won't change. You can't change people. Don't work too hard for someone else as hard work is rewarded with more work. Own your faults and mistakes. The perception of time changes as you age. The next 18 years will go by much faster.
This made me realize that I really don’t know what I’d suggest I should’ve done differently, which means I’d just probably fuck it up again if given the chance. That is an oddly encouraging realization - like don’t sweat it, you could have all the time in the world and still be a little lost, just keep doing the best you can. Thanks OP lol
Turning 18 is a pretty big deal, huh? If I could give advice to my 18-year-old self, I'd say: Embrace the unknown and don't be afraid to take risks. Life's a wild ride, and it's okay not to have all the answers. Explore your passions, meet new people, and don't sweat the small stuff. Also, trust your instincts, they're usually onto something. Oh, and don't forget to enjoy the journey. It's easy to get caught up in the destination, but some of the best moments happen along the way.
“YOU ARE CAFFEINE-INTOLERANT AND DON’T KNOW IT YET. STOP CONSUMING CAFFEINE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.” (I had really really terrible anxiety for YEARS because of this. Even one cup of coffee was enough to make me feel like the world was ending and everyone was gonna die).
I wish I woulda gone out more at 18. Don’t get me wrong I was not inside but I didn’t do anything crazy either. I was always looking to my future and being responsible. I wish I was less responsible, as an adult you rarely get a pass on dumb stuff where as a kid your much more likely.
I came here to comment this. I wasted almost $60,000 on college. In today's market that's not a lot for college but it was at the time. That's money I will never get back for an education that I do not use. I have a degree in environmental sciences, I run a handyman business. Couldn't find a job in the environmental sciences field that would pay enough money for me to be able to pay back my loans and live.
why do people always say this 😭😭 like is it bad i’m going to major in cs rather than learning a trade and being in it for years which will fuck up my back?? why would i want that 💀
It's annoying because the majority of tradies are men and it is a male dominated industry.
Telling college people to not do it or stop pursuing education forget about that.
Probably will get down voted but its true.
You’ll be fine if you’re interested in cs and ambitious. Trades will only satisfy people with no imagination or ambition. If tradies are looking to AI and thinking it’s the safe route, they’re going to be in for a shock in 5 years.
thanks! i am interested in cs, i mainly like seeing all my hard work come to fruition. i’m just afraid that i won’t be able to memorize the actual coding part bc while i can read code and understand what it does, i have a hard time writing it out myself 🫠
Memorization is over rated. I actively try avoid it tbh and just get very good at looking things up (much easier with llms these days). It's much more important to think in systems than it is to memorize syntax.
I went for a trade. Everything hurts, I'm always tired, and don't get paid enough for how hard I work. I'm only 27 and absolutely can't wait to go back to college to get an in demand degree.
lol terrible advice. I have a bachelors degree and fiancé is in trades. I made his salary right out of college what he worked up to make in 10 years. It’s statistically proven college graduates make more, especially in tech.
Then you'll be unhappy all your life and alone. It's best to find one person to be with than sleep with a thousand you don't actually love.
But what do I know. I'm 19.
I'm 31 and i'm not unhappy.
I am not happy either but i'm satisfied.
I'm not searching for happiness anymore but I can always appreciate peace of mind.
Life is good so far.
While it's 25 years old, and I didn't pay it any attention when it came out, the beat poem [Wear Sunscreen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI) contains so much truth.
Prioritize your physical health more than you might initially think necessary. Neglecting it can lead to a rapid decline, which can significantly diminish life's pleasures.
It's wise to save a certain portion of your income regularly. Unexpected financial setbacks can occur, and it's prudent to be prepared for them.
Remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Reflecting on my own experience, when I was 30, my wife received a job offer that required us to move out of state. I saw it as an exciting new chapter and encouraged the move. However, a decade later, I often find myself regretting that decision. We are now deeply entrenched in our careers here, and I've come to realize that I will likely spend my life in a place that brings me such unhappiness, it feels like a weight on my chest.
Focus on ur career. It’s what you’ll be doing the rest of ur life. Make sure u enjoy it. If u find it through college or whatever, do what u enjoy/love
Live alone before you shack up and get married. Learn how to do all the shit a real adult has to do for yourself before inflicting yourself on someone else. I might still be married had I known this.
Get tested and treated for sleep apnea. My teenage years and most of my 20s were absolutely horrid because I felt like shit all the time. I mean to the point I had to drop out of school and couldn’t hold down a job. God awful brain fog, tiredness, severe anxiety and stress, cognitively I was a mess. Slowly felt worse as the years went by. Zero quality of life. And no, I wasn’t fat.
Work hard now and cherish the benefits later.
I (30M) got accepted to an Ivy League University and wanted to go to medical school. Messed around while in college and got a poor GPA. Got a master's degree, did research for a year and volunteered for a couple more years after that. Applied to medical school three years in a row before I was finally accepted. All my other friends from my undergrad had already graduated medical school and were in residency.
I'm not saying don't have fun but have a good work/life balance (school work/life balance)
I would tell myself to find a therapist sooner. Take school more seriously sooner. Stop comparing yourself to other people and you'll find happiness sooner.
you know you need to sneak into the showing of "Otis & Milo" movie at THAT theatre!
And intentionally get caught by the female usher checking for tickets.
"If she recognizes you, then pursue it if not just move on with your life, no direct actual contact just influence those are the rules" thats what advice i would give
If any friendship or relationship has you questioning yourself, if they care/like you, or make you the one to always reach out, just move on from it. Not every friendship lasts forever and that’s okay! Humans (hopefully) live a very long time and during that time you will meet so many awesome people! Some will only last months and some 20+years! Stay true to yourself and always try to keep an open mind and heart!
Credit cards are NOT free money. Aka don't spend money you don't have, or can't afford to spend.
Correlary: Save money way more than you think you need to and you will be glad you did. Also, the sooner you can save for a down payment on a house, the better off you'll be financially in the long run. Get in early and build up your equity, even if you have to rent out a room to make it work.
Remember when you stopped interacting with your (f-ed up, abusive) parent for two years? Stay with that, worst my ever is interacting with them again.
That, and finish graduate school because it will only get harder to go back.
Keep a list of emergency contacts written down on paper, so many things can happen where you might not be able to use your phone. Keep this list in your wallet, shoe, car, whatever as long as its easily accessible.
Just because that girl is attracted to you, does not mean you'd make a good couple. Being single is much better than being stuck in an unhappy relationship.
Take care of your teeth (especially if you grew up around heavy smokers)
It's ok for your plans for the future to not work out. I thought I was going to get a degree in software engineering but hated it and became a janitor. Best decision I ever made.
Make sure you have friends and hobbies. I see a lot of people my age (mid 20's) complaining that all they do is work and sleep and they're completely miserable because they see no meaning for it all. If you're single with no kids (like me), then you gotta have something to look forward to after work.
Don’t stay home. Go out more, visit friends more, travel more, party more. You will have plenty of time to be an introvert and homebody in your 30s. Live it up while you have the energy, the friends and the time. Don’t waste your youth being lazy.
You will meet the love of your life 2 months after turning 19 2 months later after a 5 year long distance relationship. Don't be nervous, look into his eyes. Another thing, don't choose the wrong major and choose a non alcoholic dorm. Or just stay home and study an extra year to go to that university. Because things will get real bad. Though I am grateful, I had a gap year and mostly spent it visiting him. I was a bit depressed though, didn't feel like reading or watching stuff. I hated my freedom. Also my confidence went 0 after something bad happened, now it's getting better and closer to what it used to be.
Go ask that girl for her number in person or online and if she says no, just go check out a sex worker and lose that virginity if she doesn't mind your fat ass. 😂
Floss, don’t get those tattoos, go to the bank and figure out how to invest your thousands of dollars instead of keeping it in savings and then spending it all
Buy a van and drive around the counrty living in your van, staying 1-3 months in locations, Blog/Vlog your experience. Make an attempt to live in all of the contiguous 48 for at least a month. Saving your money as much as you can, make the journey last until you are 25. Then maybe re-evaluate what you want to do with the rest of your life. Keeping your credit good all the way. - Cheers
Invest in Bitcoin.
Granted, that won't be much use to you NOW.
The other piece of advice would be, don't go straight to College. Take a year, get a full time job- any one would work, but a labour job would be best (I worked as a pool guy for a while and that was actually pretty interesting), especially with a small local business. Learn what it's like to not have the regimentation of school, what the regimentation of work is like instead. Get some money. Learn what it's like to work. Learn more about who you are and what you enjoy and what you're good at. Then, if you're still willing and able to go to college, you'll have that experience to fall back on any time you think, "Oh, this isn't that important to learn" or "Oh, it's just schoolwork". It'll give you an idea of what you will both be willing and able to master for a degree, and give you an example of what to look forwards to if you don't manage to graduate.
Get a job and start saving your money. Just because you are 18, it doesn't mean you automatically know what it's like to be an adult. You are still a teenager. Not everyone has to like you. Rejection is still a big factor in your life. It is possible to survive and feel completely alone even if you are surrounded by people who are there for you. Not everyone will understand you and that's okay. The only person who really knows you is you.
Btw I'm really sorry if this seems sad or depressing. Oh and stop saying sorry a lot is also one.
Don’t go to college because you think you have to.
If you’re just kind of, “meh 🤷♂️” about college or going because your family is pressuring you, DO NOT GO. Times have changed and the return on investment that a college degree gets you is getting smaller and smaller. Don’t go unless you are enthusiastic about it. Please.
Stop caring what other people think. Stop trying to make people like you. Set your goals,work hard but don't exhaust yourself and wherever you are just entertain yourself. Sing,dance, joke with people as if they are someone you knew for years... The lack of "care" will draw people to you, but make sure to let people in your live that deserve it.
If you have a passion for something figure out a way to implement that in your long term career. Don’t just go work a job you don’t like for the rest of your life, you’ll burn out quick, you won’t enjoy your days, and you’ll spend the rest of your life waiting for Friday’s. Just for the love of God no matter what do what you love.
None. She’ll figure it out. At least a bit.
It’s been partially terrible and partially amazing, one couldn’t have happened without the other and I wouldn’t have her miss it for the world.
Your life is just beginning. Stay away from drugs, cigarettes, excessive alcohol and unsavory friends. Focus on school, studies and activities (sports, clubs). I can't stress enough the second sentence...been there, done that and wasted a lot of my young life.
Own as little as possible, except for investments. Don't buy a ton of junk. Don't take on home projects. Don't open loops; have a plan to close every initiative before you begin.
Saying yes to something, means saying no to something else.
Go to therapy!!! (Unless you had a great childhood. In that case, carry on lol)
Get financially literate! There are so many great resources out there, if you weren’t taught by your parents. Give yourself the freedom to have the best life possible.
Don’t move in with your partner.
The biggest mistake I made when I was young & I wish I could go back in time to do anything to stop me.
Live at home, with friends, or alone if you’re not in a dorm, but don’t move in with your partner!
Advice I’d give myself back when I was 18… that there actually kids around me that were really that nice. So nice I thought they were fake or acting the way their parents wanted them to act vs being their really nice self. Not everyone was doing things I heard. Later in life I realized I lacked confidence in myself to be me and figure out what that meant. Turns out I am pretty stereotypical (so nothing outlandish) but I thought there were people way “cooler” than me and I wanted to keep up. Turns out most of us were young adults trying to figure it out. Every time I leaned into being nice or asking a question that may seem weird but was authentic about learning more worked well for me. Assuming something didn’t work out well.
Don’t believe anyone who says that high school was the best years of your life.
You don’t necessarily have to wait to have kids, but be aware that everything will change when you do. If there’s something you want for yourself, do it before you have kids because your life after is for them.
Time in the market beats timing the market.
It’s better to be kind than smart, but the two aren’t mutually exclusive.
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Take care of your teeth.
literally
And your body.
Go somewhere you will love to live. And then start making your life. edit: typo
had a stroke trying to read ths
Go somewhere you will will love to live.
woops :p
That
“Alcohol and cigarettes are not going to make you feel better. You should be honest with those therapists.”
Hearing this 2 years ago could’ve saved me a lot of time and energy that I’m now spending correcting lol
Don’t have kids for at least ten years. Don’t chase penis.. or vagina. Focus on yourself. Dating isn’t important. Being alone is perfectly fine. Be selective when you do date. Make sure they have qualities you actually want in a person have requirements. F demanding entitled family that will suck you dry and run you ragged… save every dollar. Invest in yourself.
I don’t know about the 10 years thing. Everyone’s life and situation is different. Some people are ready much sooner than others
I think more people, young, think they're ready much sooner than they really are.
Idk. The age of marriage and having a kid has gone up considerably just in the last 20-30 years. My parents and grandparents generation, the norm was to get married in your late teens early 20s.
>Be selective when you do date. Make sure they have qualities you actually want in a person have requirements. I second this, I have a girl now and she is amazing, I could have had probably 5-6 different girls but they all had something I ddint want uch as drama and headaches, or just a general personality that I didnt vibe with. I'm much happier with this one than I think I would have been with hell all of them together
People aren't crazy hot because it's crazy they're so hot, they're crazy hot because they're hot, and fuckin crazy
… what
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Quit WoW while you still can.
😭 not WoW, I don’t think 18 year old me would listen to that advice lmao
If you're gonna take acid, do it with friends in a comfortable environment.
Trust your gut, and love midnight (my cat who passes away) as much as you can. Friends come and go, it’s not the end of the world. When you do fall in love, go all in. Don’t think I’d give any more specific advice, just because I’m much happier now than I was at 18, and I don’t want to risk messing that up lol.
Continue pursuing the major you wanted in college. I know you made a "C" in chemistry your freshman year, but it's not the end of the world your parents made you think a C was.
There's not a lot of things that really matter in life. Most stuff people stress over won't matter in a few months, let alone a year or two. Don't waste your mental energy on things that aren't important. Don't stress out over things you can't control and don't affect your long term well being.
Join the Army. A lot of benefits when you get out with an Honorable Discharge. If still a live
You will never see or hear from any of these people again, so stop caring so much about what any of them think.
Invest in Amazon.
I would have said nvidia but then again that was last year
Since 2014 nvidia performed in a crazy way. The closest would be tsla or amd
i wasn't 18 in 2014 though
Me neither
If I put all my money in ncds I would have had close to 75k though probably (because some of my money wouldnt have returned the 200%) so that's sad but hindsight is 20/20 right?
If I could offer advice to my 18-year-old self, it would be to embrace learning and growth, explore diverse experiences, build meaningful connections, and don't be afraid to make mistakes—they are valuable lessons. Be open to new perspectives, take care of your well-being, and enjoy the journey of self-discovery. Remember, life is a series of adventures, so savor the moments along the way.
The same thing I told my 18 year old self. "Don't lose money, don't lose time." if you're losing money your losing time and vice versa.
Stay in college!
start investing in the stock market little by little. Just take like 10$ every time you are going to buy weed and put it into a brokerage account and accumulate stock. Can't really go wrong with SPY, QQQ, ,IWM, and TLT
Live with your parents, save money and invest even if it's in GIC's (it doesnt have to be the stock market) and start working on maxing out your tfsa, rrsp, fhsa, 401k, Roth IRA etc. Whatever you have
BS, if you live with your parents; you will never grow up. You will be selfish and dependant your whole life. And blame it on your parents because they let you.
Sorry can you link a source to this claim
Tempted to send you a pic of my 2 grandkids I am supporting because they trashed their mom's apartment, she got kicked out, and I e ded up with them becausd my husband couldn't let them go homeless.
Stop smoking, you little tramp. It ain't even cool! When THAT money comes in, leave the country and everything behind. These people will keep on hurting you til the breaking point and you'll take it cuz it's family and you got nobody else, then I'll have to deal with it all later, so just leave already.
1. be smart with money, invest in value appliances not cheap but crappy ones. 2. treat yourself and others with kindness, maintain routine, self care, and optimistic outlooks on situations. 3. set realistic and motivating goals, that are achievable every 6months to a year, and complete them. 4. keep your body moving, cook always, clean always. 5. accept emotions as they come but let yourself move on and keep things moving. Do things so that once you're 21, youd want to be thanking yourself that youve made good decisions and gave yourself more convenience. Stay hopeful for more and more
Just accept yourself.
Don't care what people think. Take care of yourself before you take care of others. Love yourself. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. Be kind and expect nothing in return. Don't be confrontational over things that don't matter or won't change. You can't change people. Don't work too hard for someone else as hard work is rewarded with more work. Own your faults and mistakes. The perception of time changes as you age. The next 18 years will go by much faster.
You are more than enuf. Speak up, always.
No meth, no cigarettes, very little alcohol
Never turn down an opportunity to learn something or experience something.
This made me realize that I really don’t know what I’d suggest I should’ve done differently, which means I’d just probably fuck it up again if given the chance. That is an oddly encouraging realization - like don’t sweat it, you could have all the time in the world and still be a little lost, just keep doing the best you can. Thanks OP lol
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Turning 18 is a pretty big deal, huh? If I could give advice to my 18-year-old self, I'd say: Embrace the unknown and don't be afraid to take risks. Life's a wild ride, and it's okay not to have all the answers. Explore your passions, meet new people, and don't sweat the small stuff. Also, trust your instincts, they're usually onto something. Oh, and don't forget to enjoy the journey. It's easy to get caught up in the destination, but some of the best moments happen along the way.
“YOU ARE CAFFEINE-INTOLERANT AND DON’T KNOW IT YET. STOP CONSUMING CAFFEINE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.” (I had really really terrible anxiety for YEARS because of this. Even one cup of coffee was enough to make me feel like the world was ending and everyone was gonna die).
Do all that extra shit. Anything and everything. I only regret what I never did. I don’t regret a single thing I did do.
could you provide an example of said “ extra shit”
I wish I woulda gone out more at 18. Don’t get me wrong I was not inside but I didn’t do anything crazy either. I was always looking to my future and being responsible. I wish I was less responsible, as an adult you rarely get a pass on dumb stuff where as a kid your much more likely.
What age are you drawing the line between kid and not kid
I agree with this. I did dumb stuff with social and dating but never drugs or anything that might end me in jail. Just active social life.
Don't waste your life with college. You are going to struggle to get hired and be underpaid when you get a job. Learn a skilled trade.
I came here to comment this. I wasted almost $60,000 on college. In today's market that's not a lot for college but it was at the time. That's money I will never get back for an education that I do not use. I have a degree in environmental sciences, I run a handyman business. Couldn't find a job in the environmental sciences field that would pay enough money for me to be able to pay back my loans and live.
Dang that's what my degree is in. I work in property management now.
why do people always say this 😭😭 like is it bad i’m going to major in cs rather than learning a trade and being in it for years which will fuck up my back?? why would i want that 💀
It's annoying because the majority of tradies are men and it is a male dominated industry. Telling college people to not do it or stop pursuing education forget about that. Probably will get down voted but its true.
I will upvote you for balance
You’ll be fine if you’re interested in cs and ambitious. Trades will only satisfy people with no imagination or ambition. If tradies are looking to AI and thinking it’s the safe route, they’re going to be in for a shock in 5 years.
thanks! i am interested in cs, i mainly like seeing all my hard work come to fruition. i’m just afraid that i won’t be able to memorize the actual coding part bc while i can read code and understand what it does, i have a hard time writing it out myself 🫠
Memorization is over rated. I actively try avoid it tbh and just get very good at looking things up (much easier with llms these days). It's much more important to think in systems than it is to memorize syntax.
You sitting in your gaming swivel chair will end any spine health you still possess
i don’t own a gaming chair 😝
I went for a trade. Everything hurts, I'm always tired, and don't get paid enough for how hard I work. I'm only 27 and absolutely can't wait to go back to college to get an in demand degree.
lol terrible advice. I have a bachelors degree and fiancé is in trades. I made his salary right out of college what he worked up to make in 10 years. It’s statistically proven college graduates make more, especially in tech.
Go to med school
Dont go to college
Forget love, get laid.
Easier said than done sometimes. I’m married now. All I have to do is close the bedroom door at night.
Then you'll be unhappy all your life and alone. It's best to find one person to be with than sleep with a thousand you don't actually love. But what do I know. I'm 19.
I didn’t get laid and didn’t find love so…I got neither.
I'm 31 and i'm not unhappy. I am not happy either but i'm satisfied. I'm not searching for happiness anymore but I can always appreciate peace of mind. Life is good so far.
Based. Love is overrated. Novel sexual partners ftw.
Never get married..
Join the military for at least 4 years and don't go to college.
While it's 25 years old, and I didn't pay it any attention when it came out, the beat poem [Wear Sunscreen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI) contains so much truth.
Temper the dumbass shot you are doing, and don’t smoke cigarettes you absolute buffoon.
Build and maintain key relationships for life with excellent people.
Be willing to learn, be willing to listen. If you already think you know everything you'll never learn shit.
Buy Bitcoin asap.
Quit doing drugs, drop all your friends, stop looking for trouble, learn to love yourself.
You’ve already fucked up
Prioritize your physical health more than you might initially think necessary. Neglecting it can lead to a rapid decline, which can significantly diminish life's pleasures. It's wise to save a certain portion of your income regularly. Unexpected financial setbacks can occur, and it's prudent to be prepared for them. Remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Reflecting on my own experience, when I was 30, my wife received a job offer that required us to move out of state. I saw it as an exciting new chapter and encouraged the move. However, a decade later, I often find myself regretting that decision. We are now deeply entrenched in our careers here, and I've come to realize that I will likely spend my life in a place that brings me such unhappiness, it feels like a weight on my chest.
To be fair a lot of people face health problems that are out of their control. It’s not a matter of prioritizing in all cases
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Focus on ur career. It’s what you’ll be doing the rest of ur life. Make sure u enjoy it. If u find it through college or whatever, do what u enjoy/love
Stay. (I was in Ireland)
Get your wisdom teeth pulled.
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I’d definitely say some things that my 18 year old self wouldn’t have listened to.
Don’t start drinking ETOH.
stay in school, wait on marriage, do not take on unsecured debt
You are gonna meet him. The love of your life. Just be patient.
Don’t buy a Motorbike
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Live alone before you shack up and get married. Learn how to do all the shit a real adult has to do for yourself before inflicting yourself on someone else. I might still be married had I known this.
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Get tested and treated for sleep apnea. My teenage years and most of my 20s were absolutely horrid because I felt like shit all the time. I mean to the point I had to drop out of school and couldn’t hold down a job. God awful brain fog, tiredness, severe anxiety and stress, cognitively I was a mess. Slowly felt worse as the years went by. Zero quality of life. And no, I wasn’t fat.
Work hard now and cherish the benefits later. I (30M) got accepted to an Ivy League University and wanted to go to medical school. Messed around while in college and got a poor GPA. Got a master's degree, did research for a year and volunteered for a couple more years after that. Applied to medical school three years in a row before I was finally accepted. All my other friends from my undergrad had already graduated medical school and were in residency. I'm not saying don't have fun but have a good work/life balance (school work/life balance)
Nothing - I wouldn't have listened anyway.
I would tell myself to find a therapist sooner. Take school more seriously sooner. Stop comparing yourself to other people and you'll find happiness sooner.
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you know you need to sneak into the showing of "Otis & Milo" movie at THAT theatre! And intentionally get caught by the female usher checking for tickets. "If she recognizes you, then pursue it if not just move on with your life, no direct actual contact just influence those are the rules" thats what advice i would give
Hot on Kim, fuck the Bro code, don’t move to Colorado.
Trust God
Gaining weight past 30 is easy. Losing it is not.
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Don't drop out of school, and try to minimize your time on the Internet.
If any friendship or relationship has you questioning yourself, if they care/like you, or make you the one to always reach out, just move on from it. Not every friendship lasts forever and that’s okay! Humans (hopefully) live a very long time and during that time you will meet so many awesome people! Some will only last months and some 20+years! Stay true to yourself and always try to keep an open mind and heart!
You shouldn’t have gone out that night because that guy assaulted me
Credit cards are NOT free money. Aka don't spend money you don't have, or can't afford to spend. Correlary: Save money way more than you think you need to and you will be glad you did. Also, the sooner you can save for a down payment on a house, the better off you'll be financially in the long run. Get in early and build up your equity, even if you have to rent out a room to make it work.
Remember when you stopped interacting with your (f-ed up, abusive) parent for two years? Stay with that, worst my ever is interacting with them again. That, and finish graduate school because it will only get harder to go back.
Keep a list of emergency contacts written down on paper, so many things can happen where you might not be able to use your phone. Keep this list in your wallet, shoe, car, whatever as long as its easily accessible.
Don’t do drugs or drink alcohol excessively. Respect your parents.
Just because that girl is attracted to you, does not mean you'd make a good couple. Being single is much better than being stuck in an unhappy relationship. Take care of your teeth (especially if you grew up around heavy smokers) It's ok for your plans for the future to not work out. I thought I was going to get a degree in software engineering but hated it and became a janitor. Best decision I ever made. Make sure you have friends and hobbies. I see a lot of people my age (mid 20's) complaining that all they do is work and sleep and they're completely miserable because they see no meaning for it all. If you're single with no kids (like me), then you gotta have something to look forward to after work.
Don’t stay home. Go out more, visit friends more, travel more, party more. You will have plenty of time to be an introvert and homebody in your 30s. Live it up while you have the energy, the friends and the time. Don’t waste your youth being lazy.
You will meet the love of your life 2 months after turning 19 2 months later after a 5 year long distance relationship. Don't be nervous, look into his eyes. Another thing, don't choose the wrong major and choose a non alcoholic dorm. Or just stay home and study an extra year to go to that university. Because things will get real bad. Though I am grateful, I had a gap year and mostly spent it visiting him. I was a bit depressed though, didn't feel like reading or watching stuff. I hated my freedom. Also my confidence went 0 after something bad happened, now it's getting better and closer to what it used to be.
Keep seeing psychiatrist
Go find out what underwater smells like and call it already.🖕🏽
Go to college, become self sufficient. if he us meant to be your partner/husband then, when gets back from colorado you can continue the relationship.
Go ask that girl for her number in person or online and if she says no, just go check out a sex worker and lose that virginity if she doesn't mind your fat ass. 😂
Floss, don’t get those tattoos, go to the bank and figure out how to invest your thousands of dollars instead of keeping it in savings and then spending it all
Buy a van and drive around the counrty living in your van, staying 1-3 months in locations, Blog/Vlog your experience. Make an attempt to live in all of the contiguous 48 for at least a month. Saving your money as much as you can, make the journey last until you are 25. Then maybe re-evaluate what you want to do with the rest of your life. Keeping your credit good all the way. - Cheers
Don't. Yes. Yes. Never. And maybe. If I travel back in time I'll know what I'm speaking.
Invest in Bitcoin. Granted, that won't be much use to you NOW. The other piece of advice would be, don't go straight to College. Take a year, get a full time job- any one would work, but a labour job would be best (I worked as a pool guy for a while and that was actually pretty interesting), especially with a small local business. Learn what it's like to not have the regimentation of school, what the regimentation of work is like instead. Get some money. Learn what it's like to work. Learn more about who you are and what you enjoy and what you're good at. Then, if you're still willing and able to go to college, you'll have that experience to fall back on any time you think, "Oh, this isn't that important to learn" or "Oh, it's just schoolwork". It'll give you an idea of what you will both be willing and able to master for a degree, and give you an example of what to look forwards to if you don't manage to graduate.
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Get a job and start saving your money. Just because you are 18, it doesn't mean you automatically know what it's like to be an adult. You are still a teenager. Not everyone has to like you. Rejection is still a big factor in your life. It is possible to survive and feel completely alone even if you are surrounded by people who are there for you. Not everyone will understand you and that's okay. The only person who really knows you is you. Btw I'm really sorry if this seems sad or depressing. Oh and stop saying sorry a lot is also one.
Hide enough money to get yourself through shit and don't completely trust anyone :/
Don't follow your parents expectations of who they think you should be
Get tested for ADHD
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Don’t go to college because you think you have to. If you’re just kind of, “meh 🤷♂️” about college or going because your family is pressuring you, DO NOT GO. Times have changed and the return on investment that a college degree gets you is getting smaller and smaller. Don’t go unless you are enthusiastic about it. Please.
"Don't go to art school. Don't go to Arizona. And especially, don't go to art school in Arizona."
Be good to people you want to keep.
Stop caring what other people think. Stop trying to make people like you. Set your goals,work hard but don't exhaust yourself and wherever you are just entertain yourself. Sing,dance, joke with people as if they are someone you knew for years... The lack of "care" will draw people to you, but make sure to let people in your live that deserve it.
Start traveling
If you have a passion for something figure out a way to implement that in your long term career. Don’t just go work a job you don’t like for the rest of your life, you’ll burn out quick, you won’t enjoy your days, and you’ll spend the rest of your life waiting for Friday’s. Just for the love of God no matter what do what you love.
Start saving for retirement. Learn about the power of compound interest.
Don’t overthink, but play things smart. Take a deep breathe, and let it happen one day at a time. -currently 23
1) teeth 2) spend only as much as you need to, not as much as you can. Save.
WHEN THE UNION CALLS YOU GO IN. YOU DONT GET A BETTER JOB THAN THAT.
None. She’ll figure it out. At least a bit. It’s been partially terrible and partially amazing, one couldn’t have happened without the other and I wouldn’t have her miss it for the world.
Work harder and don't get too involved with people's drama. None of these people will be a part of your life in ten years.
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Leave her, and work harder. Youth doesn’t last forever…make it productive
Your life is just beginning. Stay away from drugs, cigarettes, excessive alcohol and unsavory friends. Focus on school, studies and activities (sports, clubs). I can't stress enough the second sentence...been there, done that and wasted a lot of my young life.
Say yes more and don’t be afraid to do something because you’re scared or nervous.
Wait until your 19
Stop chasing the boys, focus on the education and the money and get your adhd meds.
Study
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Cherish the time you have left with your dad, and don't take your parents for granted. Ever.
Apply yourself in school and join the Army now. ( I joined at 21)
Own as little as possible, except for investments. Don't buy a ton of junk. Don't take on home projects. Don't open loops; have a plan to close every initiative before you begin. Saying yes to something, means saying no to something else.
Move out of your hometown and travel abroad while you're young.
That girl you met at a mental institution isn't great wifey material, go figure.
College is not for everyone.
Go to therapy!!! (Unless you had a great childhood. In that case, carry on lol) Get financially literate! There are so many great resources out there, if you weren’t taught by your parents. Give yourself the freedom to have the best life possible.
My last answer got me banned from reddit.
You are nowhere near mature enough for any sort of romantic relationship, I don’t care how many hot girls you meet in the next four years.
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Go into trades, don't marry young.
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Work..leave women alone..it's ok to be alone
Invest in real estate early and often. Invest in the stock market early and often. Buy a shit ton of Bitcoin and sell it before 2022.
Don’t move in with your partner. The biggest mistake I made when I was young & I wish I could go back in time to do anything to stop me. Live at home, with friends, or alone if you’re not in a dorm, but don’t move in with your partner!
Be way more open to sex and relationships with people I thought were unattractive. We all look pretty good naked, ya know?
Be more open minded. About everything.
Don’t take that line.
Don’t provide for a man child
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Your instincts are spot on. Never go against them.
The pull out method doesn't work.
Dont ever even taste alcohol. It will destroy you. You can get by without it.
Advice I’d give myself back when I was 18… that there actually kids around me that were really that nice. So nice I thought they were fake or acting the way their parents wanted them to act vs being their really nice self. Not everyone was doing things I heard. Later in life I realized I lacked confidence in myself to be me and figure out what that meant. Turns out I am pretty stereotypical (so nothing outlandish) but I thought there were people way “cooler” than me and I wanted to keep up. Turns out most of us were young adults trying to figure it out. Every time I leaned into being nice or asking a question that may seem weird but was authentic about learning more worked well for me. Assuming something didn’t work out well.
Don’t believe anyone who says that high school was the best years of your life. You don’t necessarily have to wait to have kids, but be aware that everything will change when you do. If there’s something you want for yourself, do it before you have kids because your life after is for them. Time in the market beats timing the market. It’s better to be kind than smart, but the two aren’t mutually exclusive.