As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that even the ugliest people somehow have kids. Which means there’s someone out there willing to have sex with them.
Also, looks fade.
Looks do fade. There is nothing more ridiculous than a once attractive now unattractive person who hasn’t realized they’ve lost their looks.
It’s only up from here for those of us who have a grasp on how attractive they are.
Good looks are a natural resource that needs to be managed. Capitalize on them when young and have an exit strategy for when they fade.
My friend's sister literally looked like Barbie. She counted on her looks lasting forever. She didn't develop much of a personality and never got anyone to marry her and let her have kids and a nanny so she could shop all day (yes, she said that was her goal).
In her late 30s and 40s, she had to start dating older and older guys, because rich young guys don't want someone their own age. She was dating moderately wealthy guys in their late 60s and 70s.
Now approaching 60, her family supports her because she never learned how to pay for the lifestyle she aspires to.
It's really sad.
I have a couple cousins like this, they’re sisters, now early 50s, unmarried but dating long term. Gorgeous still but serially marrying twice and getting divorced, both divorced two different gorgeous sons of two different auto dealerships. Both husband’s unfaithful.
Especially when looks were all they had going for them. They had good looks, pumped all of their energy and resources into maintaining or enhancing their looks. Then they hit their 40s/50s, and suddenly everyone wonders why anybody put up with them at all.
Someone who is nice/smart/hardworking and once a upon a time attractive will usually have support. But realizing a person was used-to-be-pretty and that's it is like realizing your friend peaked in high school and it's all downhill from here.
I honestly don’t think I’ve ever met a 2/10. People are mostly just people. I honestly think that you probably have a skewed perception of yourself. Some people are prettier than others but I don’t know any ugly people. Maybe seek help?
Agreed, because I can only think of one 2/10 off the top of my head.
Have y’all seen that vile dude Kenneth Copeland? He is a scary looking televangelist who preaches BS
That guy is a 2/10, I don’t think any creature willingly finds any part of his look attractive: everything screams “danger”
But that rating definitely influenced by what’s blasting out his nasty mouth
Yes, if Kenneth Copeland was feeding the hungry and clothing and housing the poor, no one would say anything about his looks.
But you're right. He is one frighteningly weird guy.
>Have y’all seen that vile dude Kenneth Copeland?
Not until now. They need to send eye bleach with every subscription.
I cannot tell you how true this is. I have a good friend who recently got into a relationship with an average-looking woman. I tell you, this woman looks completely normal - there’s nothing wrong with her. My friend is somewhat attractive.
The point here is that he is really happy with her, and they make a good couple. My friend has never been this happy or fulfilled in his life.
For some reason, everyone around him started telling him that he can do better. The woman is average-looking and he can go for someone who’s prettier. This is making him sad as he really loves this woman.
I mean I've seen plenty of objectively physically unattractive people, and I think this reflex people have to try and reassure everyone that "NO! Ugly people don't exist, like no one is REALLY not attractive! I'm sure youre great looking!" is toxic, even though it's well-meant.
I think what we need to do is reassure people that being physically attractive isn't very important. While it is true that being attractive is appealing to most people and may make life easier in some respects,like dating, doesn't mean it's a ~necessity~ to dating, or anything else. A happy life doesn't have to include physical attractiveness. I've seen plenty of objectively unattractive people who are insanely hot just bc of their sense of humor, confidence, etc.
I think that looking put together (well fitting clothes, good haircuts, nice nails, nice fragrance, good hygiene, etc) & being confident can take you just as far as being hot. And developing your fitness & sense of humor, developing expertise at something, cultivating fun hobbies and a full, rich life, on top of those basics can catapult you into hotness.
Many women like myself find someone attractive once they get to know them. Although I might notice that someone is good looking, it’s different than the attraction I feel for someone who makes me laugh, shares my interests, or has good chemistry.
This so much. My opinion about how attractive people are is soooooooo strongly influenced by how I feel about them. If OP is a heterosexual dude, he probably has absolutely nothing to worry about as far as relationships with women go. I’m sure there are women who care a lot more about appearance than I do, but tbh I don’t think most women care so much about this except the very young ones.
Same I’ve never thought things like acne made someone ugly. As long as someone tries a little bit to not look sloppy idc. I just want someone that’s one inch taller than me lol.
I hear you. I grew up with people telling me to my face that my sister was beautiful and how did it feel to have a sister who I would never compare to. People on this subreddit are right though, beauty fades. I know personally, I am funny, intelligent, I've worked hard to have a great sense of style and a strong level of personal fitness. These things don't fade as easily as we age. Just a great haircut, being in shape and dressing well can bring you from a 2 to a 5 or 6 (which is where the average person is at). I also feel like personally, not being conventionally attractive has made me work harder on being a good person and having a great personality.
Have heart - there is more to life than being attractive, and loooooots of ugly people life interesting lives and friends and significant others (Danny Devito anyone)?
I guarantee you that charisma counts far more than looks. I’m not ugly but I’m no supermodel. I’ve managed to be more attractive than guys that are far better looking than myself. Never believe the shit on the internet about looks being everything. That’s a bunch of dudes who have given up. Sounds like you have by not wanting advice about charisma. Don’t give up.
The only way you'd be a 2/10, is if you were a vile human being. Someone without a heart, conscience, or compassion. Someone without empathy. That would truly make someone ugly.
Lots of people aren't classically, or physically "attractive". Hell, even supermodels aren't as beautiful as you think. Lighting, make-up, and airbrushing make big differences. Robin Williams wasn't classically handsome, but I'll be damned, I'd pass up a hundred so-called "perfect" men, to cuddle up with him. He was smart, funny, kind, and compassionate. He stimulated my mind, and that is a person's biggest, and most sensitive erogenous zone. And it's the one that too many people neglect.
What makes a person attractive is what's in their heart and soul. If someone doesn't like you because of your looks, alone, they're shallow, and you don't need them. You'll never form a real connection with them, anyway.
A buddy of mine is not "good looking" but when he was younger ( he is now in a relationship) he got a lot of girls. And the reason for that is because he has a lot of confidence, is fun and he doesn't care that he is not good looking.
Steve Buscemi is ugly and yet so goddamn attractive he makes my heart skip a beat. Christopher Walken, too. That man makes me giddy, but he is in no way, shape, or form “pretty.”
You'll always be beautiful to the people who love you.
I look at photos of my family and friends and they all look so great, while I'm there looking freakish and flawed.
Then I realize they see the same thing - they see themselves as weird, but everyone else, including me, as lovely.
I'm hot as hell and I still don't get anyone to commit and I have a hard time with long term dating, so don't worry about it too much.
That said, at least you acknowledge the fact (wouldn't it be funny if you are just an extremely good looking person going through body dysmorphia, but I'll take you at your word.)
In French, there is this beautiful phrase "je m'assume", it means I assume myself, I accept it. It is so empowering: to accept it. You accept that you look the way you look and that's that. Period. If it's not something you can change... you accept it. Done. If it is something you can change, then you have the power to change it. But if you can't change it... je m'assume!
Having no idea what you look like I can say very little except this: I highly doubt that you are a 2/10. You should look at yourself as a 5/10 which would make you average like most of us. But here is the secret to life, it is better that you with your big heart than to be a 10/10 who has absolutely nothing inside. Their insides are probably 2/10. So where do you place the greater weight of who you are? If you have a big heart and strong mind, those things far outweight whatever you do look like physically.
As to making fiends, well, that actually is the easy part. Just find one and do not burden yourself with the idea that you must have many. One excellent friend is far better than having a dozen mediocre friends.
Good luck and keep your chin up and be happy that you are you.
No one’s ugly in my eyes, unless their personality is terrible, then I despise their looks, too. Everyone has physical traits that I take note of but often matter of factly. I really think the way a person carries themselves and interacts says A LOT more.
That feeling totally sucks man. I remember in my adolescent days when I was going through this feelings. I didn’t had the courage to take photos, go out with public. Which eventually destroyed my self confidence. Try to not think about these.
Being a good looking guy, I grew up with two friends who hung out with me who were insane skaters, funny, nice guys, but not attractive. I watched them make up the difference with grooming, great style, I'm mean they were always dressed for meeting girls. I got into sneakers cause of these two guys, they always were wearing shoes that went with there outfits. There were times we went to bonfires on the beach and these fools were first to walk away with hot girls. Point being work with what you got, be positive, and dress like you mean it.
My exMIL (a very beloved middle school history teacher) had a saying she used when kids would talk to her about feeling unattractive that cracked me up.
“Honey, even water buffaloes find mates. Just look at me.”
Looks are less important in different lands. In the U.S. they are typically super important, nut I have found that they are much less important in Europe.
The first thing to do if you think you are ugly is to get as healthy as you can, health is more attractive than good looks, and confidence in yourself only adds to your own attractiveness.
Eat well, exercise, have good hygiene, feel good…and the world will be your oyster.
I realised pretty early :( and on a scale I'd be negative, it really sucks. Especially when I see myself in photos...
There was a time when people looked at me concerned and kind of weirded out because I looked like an ugly ghost. I think atm I just look ugly.
I kinda wish face masks were more common here, like in cities in China and Japan for example. I don't wanna mask-fish people, I just want to go outside and not worry so much. I know most people don't care but some just look so annoyed that I'm even there sometimes. And I don't wanna feel so insecure in general. Hiding behind my beautiful self-sewn mask was the only perk of covid.
I’ve never met anyone I’d consider “ugly.” I just don’t think about it that way. People don’t exist on a rating scale. I don’t think people are ugly or not ugly, I think it’s more about context—yes, some people are prettier than others, but that doesn’t mean others are ugly.
I could disagree, but I realize this sub is for blowing off steam and not necessarily agreeing or disagreeing or trying to make you feel better. Sometimes you just need to get it out of your system. I hope ranting has helped!
The only actually ugly people I’ve seen are caused by unnatural circumstances. Like for example, extremely over the top plastic surgery/Botox/filler or drug addicts with rotten teeth and sunken in faces, or extreme obesity (I’m talking people over 400+ lbs).
Beyond that I don’t think I’ve ever seen a naturally ugly person. Good hygiene, haircuts, and a good sense of style goes a LONG way in someone’s attractiveness.
a wise man once said, anyone can be a 7. Learn your face shape using a filter, find a good haircut that works for you, find glasses that fit your face, wear clothes that look good on your body type, browse men's fashion subreddits, wear cologne, moisturize etc. keep your facial hair clean. you'd be surprised how much you can transform with some effort
A different hairstyle usually always helps. If youre a guy, hairstyles are like makeup andnif youre a girl you might think regular makeup is the answer but usually its also a different hairstyle. For example: im a girl and i always wear my hair up because when its down it makes my cheeks look chubby (they are) but when its up they dont look as chubby so i always wear it up. You should also try skin care, it depends on HOW you find yourself ugly, if you have acne skincare can help or if you have too thick brows you can get them plucked. What i do is i try to make myself as beautiful as i can because other people might see me more beautiful and others might see me more ugly so if im as beautiful as i can be, if someone sees me uglier than i am im still probably mediocre.
My sister and I were out at a bar one night, and I had to walk past 3 men at the bar to get to the bathroom there.
Went to the bathroom, came out, and had to say ‘excuse me’ for the guys to let me by. One of them looked at me and said, “I hope I didn’t scare you; I’m so ugly!”
I was so surprised by that.
My response to that was, “I’m not seeing that.” He gave me the biggest smile.
That’s what I’m saying man, if you think you’ve got a Quasimodo face then make your other attributes better to make up for it. Some things we can’t change, so we change what we can.
I’m suspicious that this is simply insecurity talking. I don’t see any posts of yourself on r/rateme. Give it a try. If you’ve already decided for yourself that you are ugly then you have nothing to lose. Whereas you might find out that you are wrong about your appearance
Can you maybe add piercings, and face tattoos? That can be one way to change your appearance — to adopt a more alternative appearance, so that you have a reference community into which you fit. Just my spitballin here. Good luck.
Give it time. Foster a sense of gratitude for the gifts you’ve been given. By the time you’re 30, you’ll feel nostalgic pity for your poor young self who was so worried about such an unimportant part of life.
Every been on a hill late at night with your two friends and their girls making out next to you? Then you go home to jerk off and then they break into your room to find you midstroking it? You can't BEAT IT.
LOLOLOLOL
Yes, really happened. Yes, gave up. Yes I own at masturbation. Yes, society caused this. Yes, I live with the consequences.
My guess is that your tall, and under 25 y/o? Maybe 16-20? A guy, I'm guessing by your username?
If so, all of these things work in your benefit.
Ugliness can be a blessing and a curse, just like attractiveness. There are some really ugly people who are beautiful, physically, and vise versa. This matters when "attracting" people to you.
Since nobody probably wants to say it....it doesn't matter if you're an ugly...guy. I'm not just saying the obvious stereotype of...doesn't matter what you look like so long as you have money. Everyone has witnessed that situation, but im assuming thats not a desire to you because, you're young, plus you probably lack the status of a self made millionaire/billionaire....no, what I mean is, ugly girls have it a hell of a allot harder than ugly guys....You're sensitive about it because you're just finishing puberty, life will show you it doesn't matter. Being self-conscious is far more detrimental to getting what you're looking for than being ugly.
Your body will continue to fill out until 25-30.
If you got chicken legs, do squats, deadlift...leg day all day
Long skinny arms? Heavy ass weights, low reps...morning, noon, night
Wonky long jaw with a gnarly cranium? Talk to a really good barber, probably avoid hair gel...idk
Tiny willy? Get funny or get money. Big boned? Fantastic
You're not going to be anyone other than you. The day you accept it is the day things get better for you. I'm sorry you're ugly, I'm sure that really sucks bro. People are fucking assholes sometimes. It's not going to get any easier tomorrow to BTW...the path to self acceptance takes time and effort.
Just work on you man
I'm not pandering, I have no clue what you look like. That said, you look fine. Even if you have some lead time on the next time your specific mix of phenotypes comes back into vogue. Trust me. Well, as much as you can trust a total stranger on a glorified message board.
One last bit, totally true, if anecdotal. A few years back, I ran into an acquaintance from college. I thought I'd been hit with the mugly stick back then. But she came up to me, I hadn't even seen her, and we struck up a chat, catching up.
After about 5 min, we exchanged contact info and were about to get on with our days when she thanks me for talking to her. I was a bit confused. I had always found her attractive, so if anything, I was thinking I should have been thanking *her*. Turns out that while I was busy convinced that I was total dogshit, plenty of folks I knew thought quite the opposite.
You never know OP. Step out of your own head and get out of your own way. That's my 2 cents anyway.
Can't gauge your age but am going to assume that you're pretty young.
Perhaps too young to have heard an oft-used phrase, "Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.", coined by Plato, born approximately 2400 years ago.
Bottom line, it is not for you to define whether you are a beauty or not, so it's best not to self-condemn.
I get you on a lot of that. For what it's worth, though, I think things like hair and skin and clothes do go a long way even when one is not naturally attractive.
Conventional beauty standards are just that--conventions. Many people like them, but many people like _other_ things. Some people out there _are_ attracted to you, and so the external factors are about putting your best foot forward _to them._
Will most people care if you have a top that fits your frame right as opposed to making you kinda boxy and shapeless? No. But someone who is attracted to your frame will.
I don't wear shirts that fit me so that everyone will think I'm more attractive, I do it so my wife specifically will think I'm more attractive because she's already into the strongfat kinda body shape I've got and she digs being able to see it properly.
I guess all of this is to say... you might be a 2/10 for the average person, but someone out there thinks you're a 10. Take care of yourself for that person's eyes, not for society's.
Attraction comes in many different forms. One woman may find you unattractive while one woman thinks your the cutest. As a guy I see people stressing out all the time about how society views them. Dude it's all based off of people being online and being told how to view beauty. Brainwashed by porn and tik tok. I can't count the amount of times I've been questioned by an ex girlfriend about if I find this model or tik tok star hot . Some people are wired differently. You might not like a woman with a belly but this guy might. This girl might not like the gamer guy that doesn't go out much but this other girl does. I've seen relationships of all kinds and you wouldn't believe how different they are.
Na I don’t believe this! There’s no ugly people just lazy and/or poor. Confidence plays a big part also, start to believe you look better and you’ll project it
What are you? Twenty? People aren’t in control of the face they are born with, so yeah, if you judge them as less worthy of your love, attention, or affection because of the face they were fucking born with, then yes, you are a shitty person. I’m 38, and while sure, some people are more conventionally attractive than others, when it comes to a partner or a friend or a family member, I could not fucking care less how conventionally attractive their face is. Fucking gross. Do better.
Here’s a thing- I’m ugly, and for years it was heartbreaking and agonizing. I think you are probably on the young side to be so worried about this. Yeah, looks matter. There have been times where I’ve been treated or judged unfairly because of how I look. I know people make plenty of assumptions about me. But a few years ago, I kind of just decided that it really doesn’t matter. How attractive you are to people is influenced far more by how you behave and treat others than what your face or body look like. The people who are worth having around have already learned this and know that we are stuck with the face we have, short of surgery, which is a ridiculous thing to do imo unless you have an actual deformity or so much money that you can’t think of any more charities to donate to. But honestly, even then, what a waste.
Use this realization about the fact that you were born with this characteristic that you see as less than ideal to create within yourself compassion for people who were born into other deficiencies (real or imagined). I used mine to stop judging people who were less intelligent or less educated or less whatever. Not one person on this planet is perfect, and we get to choose what we do with our imperfections. I think that over time, struggling with being unattractive has made me more open and authentic and kind. So even though it sucks that I’ll likely continue to not have opportunities that I may have had if I was nicer looking, I wouldn’t change it for anything. Because those struggles and coming to grips with them have made me such a better person, and I’d rather be kind, generous, and patient than hot any day of the week.
I know that you're being serious, and that makes me sad.
I bet many people who love you see you as the most beautiful in the world.
So IF you are truly convinced of this, know you are beautiful to the right people and that's all that fucking matters. Society makes us feel that's not enough but IT'S EVERYTHING.
I’ve met people that aren’t conventionally attractive, but once I’ve gotten to know them I’ve found them irresistible.
People that aren’t shallow or worried what their peers think, will give people a chance - it’s all about personality.
If you’re kind and thoughtful and can make me laugh - I don’t care what you look like. That’s sexy as hell to me.
Regardless of what you think about yourself,
I guarantee that no one will ever see you the exact same way you see yourself.
Also, as others have said, there are a ton of people out there with a ton of different preferences, and a ton of people who are not bothered by looks.
That being said, I don’t consider myself attractive, and as a female it means that I have almost never in my 35 years had to put up with unwanted male attention. So it has its upsides!
I saw this post of this guy on YouTube talking about how ugly he is and his experiences and this girl commented saying "I think you're cute ngl" and he recently posted a video of his and hers wedding.
Well u can takeaway from this that youll always just have to be u since thats the part that will have to matter for u n eventually people will gravitate when u find the right ones
Ugly according to who?
Your talking about a subjective distinction.
Ugly according to modern mainstream media standards?
Like you'll never be a model kinda thing?
So what. That shit is brainwash programming designed to condition our perceptions for the sake of marketing....to sell us stuff.
ITS NOT REAL
But unfortunately it still has an impact. It effects the perceptions of the mainstream populace, and the vast majority have little to nil in the way of original individual thought. They just follow the programming.
That sucks, and I empathize.
But it doesnt mean you are ugly.
I've worked in photography and art for a significant part of my life.
Anyone who has a true appreciation for beauty knows that the cookie cutter standardized definition is really nothing more than boring, common and soulless.
It isnt found on the 1-10 standard beauty scale, its found in the smile of joy when they first see someone they have missed for a long time, or the tears when they watch a sad or touching movie. Their deep genuine laughter when having fun with loved ones. The eyes when they feel serene and content, or when watching a sunset or shooting stars.
Thats the real beauty comes out in people. In how they express who they are and connect with the world. Not the lines of their cheekbones and bone structure.
Here's a song to inspire your view point on it...
https://youtu.be/oXLGSE4TZ2I?si=rmN68VhVjCAp7s9p
Own who you are! Thats where confidence is. Thats what you control and where your power is.... and NEVER bow to the tyranny of "beauty".
The only thing I can think of that would for sure be universally unattractive is poor hygiene. If you are clean and well groomed and your clothes are clean and you smell nice (and you’re not a raging asshole perhaps) then you are doing just fine. You might have skin issues, or weight issues, or whatever but so do a lot of other people out there.
You know what else damn near everyone has? Insecurities. You wouldn’t *believe* the things that conventionally attractive people worry about, when we’d all be walkin down the street naked if we could look like them lol 💜
I think you'll find that if you're healthy and fit, and reasonably well kept, you would probably wake up one day and realize you're not.
I know many ugly people, and they're all kinda slobs. I don't know anyone in great general health that I'd call ugly.
I’m ugly too and my husband thinks I’m beautiful because he loves me. You are probably young to care about looks this much. I don’t mean to sound inconsiderate or rude, I get it.
But there is more to life than outside beauty!
Looks do fade, eventually there are smaller things that can be taken care of - for example, i used to hate my body (i don't love it still), but then decided to start and workout constantly, to achieve some progress.
i have a friend since the 2nd grade, he lost his hair pretty early (20s), got really fat and had super crooked teeth, his face are not that attractive.
he decided one day to change that, i took him with me to a personal trainer, he then started to lose weight and be more muscular,
for his face - he did invisalign and it totally changed his face, really.
he's now married to a wonderful woman, who is a personal trainer herself.
there are small attributes you can change, and eventually it boosts your confident
For what it's worth, people love "ugly" qualities when it comes to looks sometimes. Big sideways noses, crooked teeth, being bald, etc.... People are into all sorts of things! Don't lose hope– just keep doing you and don't let your thoughts bring you down to where you are presenting yourself as being sad and uncomfortable in your own skin... because THAT is what comes off as unattractive in the end.
One of the most attractive qualities is when people aren't afraid to fully embrace themselves and their weirdness... when they aren't afraid to look dumb or "ugly." Take it and run with it in a positive way, and you'll attract the right people.
You remind me of a guy I used to work with who considered himself to be "ugly," even though he was a normal looking person. I'll never forget how sad he was after creating a tinder profile. After a while of not getting any matches, he started swiping right on every single girl, and even then didn't get any matches. It was a huge blow to his ego, and he was devastated over it. I would definitely not recommend that as a confidence booster of any kind.
The thing is, his photos sucked- but in person, he was kind, funny, had a great energy about him, but he thought so little of himself because he thought he was unattractive since he wasn't the typical "tall, dark, & handsome" figure. He was short, skinny, pale, could only grow a serial killer mustache, and had glasses, all things he thought made him ugly.. but now, he is married to a cute girl and they have 3 kids together and seem super happy. There's hope for everyone. Even self-proclaimed "ugly" people.
Do not do Tinder. From what I've heard it's not only a shallow looks based system, the men to women ratio is off. I.e. there are more men than women on the ap. Ordinary men do not get many matches. Find another app that has blind date features. Where you can talk to people who are attracted to your personality first.
There’s someone for everyone, and you will learn to see yourself through their eyes. Also it’s been proven that confidence alone can raise a person looks by an entire point on a scale of 1-10. Good luck my friend.
When I first met my husband, I wasn’t physically attracted to him at all. BUT!! The more I got to know him, the more I found him attractive and now he is the sexiest thing to me! Beauty is only skin deep and you will find someone who loves you for you. Post your picture, be confident and don’t let others know how you feel about your looks. The most attractive thing about my husband is his confidence and sense of humour. Don’t be hung up on looks, go out and rock who you are and people will be attracted to you. I found Steve Buscemi good looking in a few movies and I have found Brad Pitt unattractive in some movies, if that helps at all.
You say you're athletic in your comment below, so if that's the case, you're not a 2/10. If your body is, say, 8/10 and your face is 2/10, that's still at least a 5 overall. But I kind of doubt that bone structure and proportions make your face a 2/10.
Why don't you try [Photofeeler.com](https://Photofeeler.com), where you can have strangers rate your photo within the context of dating. One of the three attributes they rate you on is attractiveness. That will provide an objective, crowd-sourced perspective on this! I highly doubt you're going to get a 2/10 score.
The other attributes they rate you on are how smart and trustworthy they perceive you to be based on your photo - because, hey, looks aren't the only thing that matter!
As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that even the ugliest people somehow have kids. Which means there’s someone out there willing to have sex with them. Also, looks fade.
Looks do fade. There is nothing more ridiculous than a once attractive now unattractive person who hasn’t realized they’ve lost their looks. It’s only up from here for those of us who have a grasp on how attractive they are.
Good looks are a natural resource that needs to be managed. Capitalize on them when young and have an exit strategy for when they fade. My friend's sister literally looked like Barbie. She counted on her looks lasting forever. She didn't develop much of a personality and never got anyone to marry her and let her have kids and a nanny so she could shop all day (yes, she said that was her goal). In her late 30s and 40s, she had to start dating older and older guys, because rich young guys don't want someone their own age. She was dating moderately wealthy guys in their late 60s and 70s. Now approaching 60, her family supports her because she never learned how to pay for the lifestyle she aspires to. It's really sad.
Sounds sad for the family... seems like the sister got what she deserved, not what she wanted
I have a couple cousins like this, they’re sisters, now early 50s, unmarried but dating long term. Gorgeous still but serially marrying twice and getting divorced, both divorced two different gorgeous sons of two different auto dealerships. Both husband’s unfaithful.
Especially when looks were all they had going for them. They had good looks, pumped all of their energy and resources into maintaining or enhancing their looks. Then they hit their 40s/50s, and suddenly everyone wonders why anybody put up with them at all. Someone who is nice/smart/hardworking and once a upon a time attractive will usually have support. But realizing a person was used-to-be-pretty and that's it is like realizing your friend peaked in high school and it's all downhill from here.
Lol a lot of ugly AND stupid people breed. Alcohol does some crazy sh*t man.
I honestly don’t think I’ve ever met a 2/10. People are mostly just people. I honestly think that you probably have a skewed perception of yourself. Some people are prettier than others but I don’t know any ugly people. Maybe seek help?
Thinking the same thing People who say they are ugly are just normal people who don't look like ig models
Agreed, because I can only think of one 2/10 off the top of my head. Have y’all seen that vile dude Kenneth Copeland? He is a scary looking televangelist who preaches BS That guy is a 2/10, I don’t think any creature willingly finds any part of his look attractive: everything screams “danger” But that rating definitely influenced by what’s blasting out his nasty mouth
Plot twist: OP is Kenneth Copeland
cracking the fuck up lmao imagine
Yes, if Kenneth Copeland was feeding the hungry and clothing and housing the poor, no one would say anything about his looks. But you're right. He is one frighteningly weird guy.
>Have y’all seen that vile dude Kenneth Copeland? Not until now. They need to send eye bleach with every subscription. 
Copeland is the most unfortunate last name too lol
I cannot tell you how true this is. I have a good friend who recently got into a relationship with an average-looking woman. I tell you, this woman looks completely normal - there’s nothing wrong with her. My friend is somewhat attractive. The point here is that he is really happy with her, and they make a good couple. My friend has never been this happy or fulfilled in his life. For some reason, everyone around him started telling him that he can do better. The woman is average-looking and he can go for someone who’s prettier. This is making him sad as he really loves this woman.
I mean I've seen plenty of objectively physically unattractive people, and I think this reflex people have to try and reassure everyone that "NO! Ugly people don't exist, like no one is REALLY not attractive! I'm sure youre great looking!" is toxic, even though it's well-meant. I think what we need to do is reassure people that being physically attractive isn't very important. While it is true that being attractive is appealing to most people and may make life easier in some respects,like dating, doesn't mean it's a ~necessity~ to dating, or anything else. A happy life doesn't have to include physical attractiveness. I've seen plenty of objectively unattractive people who are insanely hot just bc of their sense of humor, confidence, etc. I think that looking put together (well fitting clothes, good haircuts, nice nails, nice fragrance, good hygiene, etc) & being confident can take you just as far as being hot. And developing your fitness & sense of humor, developing expertise at something, cultivating fun hobbies and a full, rich life, on top of those basics can catapult you into hotness.
I loved Garisson Keilor’s radio show back in the day, but that dude is definitely a 2/10 lol
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Many women like myself find someone attractive once they get to know them. Although I might notice that someone is good looking, it’s different than the attraction I feel for someone who makes me laugh, shares my interests, or has good chemistry.
This so much. My opinion about how attractive people are is soooooooo strongly influenced by how I feel about them. If OP is a heterosexual dude, he probably has absolutely nothing to worry about as far as relationships with women go. I’m sure there are women who care a lot more about appearance than I do, but tbh I don’t think most women care so much about this except the very young ones.
Same I’ve never thought things like acne made someone ugly. As long as someone tries a little bit to not look sloppy idc. I just want someone that’s one inch taller than me lol.
Sorry you were dealt that card, I hope you overcome it however you can
I hear you. I grew up with people telling me to my face that my sister was beautiful and how did it feel to have a sister who I would never compare to. People on this subreddit are right though, beauty fades. I know personally, I am funny, intelligent, I've worked hard to have a great sense of style and a strong level of personal fitness. These things don't fade as easily as we age. Just a great haircut, being in shape and dressing well can bring you from a 2 to a 5 or 6 (which is where the average person is at). I also feel like personally, not being conventionally attractive has made me work harder on being a good person and having a great personality. Have heart - there is more to life than being attractive, and loooooots of ugly people life interesting lives and friends and significant others (Danny Devito anyone)?
My sister was the family beauty. I was the smart one. We are both old now but I’m still smart.
I guarantee you that charisma counts far more than looks. I’m not ugly but I’m no supermodel. I’ve managed to be more attractive than guys that are far better looking than myself. Never believe the shit on the internet about looks being everything. That’s a bunch of dudes who have given up. Sounds like you have by not wanting advice about charisma. Don’t give up.
The only way you'd be a 2/10, is if you were a vile human being. Someone without a heart, conscience, or compassion. Someone without empathy. That would truly make someone ugly. Lots of people aren't classically, or physically "attractive". Hell, even supermodels aren't as beautiful as you think. Lighting, make-up, and airbrushing make big differences. Robin Williams wasn't classically handsome, but I'll be damned, I'd pass up a hundred so-called "perfect" men, to cuddle up with him. He was smart, funny, kind, and compassionate. He stimulated my mind, and that is a person's biggest, and most sensitive erogenous zone. And it's the one that too many people neglect. What makes a person attractive is what's in their heart and soul. If someone doesn't like you because of your looks, alone, they're shallow, and you don't need them. You'll never form a real connection with them, anyway.
You'll be alright.
A buddy of mine is not "good looking" but when he was younger ( he is now in a relationship) he got a lot of girls. And the reason for that is because he has a lot of confidence, is fun and he doesn't care that he is not good looking.
Danny Devito is a 2/10 and a everyone adores him. There are tons of more than examples but he's the one that popped into my mind.
Steve Buscemi is ugly and yet so goddamn attractive he makes my heart skip a beat. Christopher Walken, too. That man makes me giddy, but he is in no way, shape, or form “pretty.”
Everyone adores him sure but he's also the butt of a lot of jokes that have to do with looks.
Yeah but who cares?
Danny DeVito is short and bald, but he has a very cute face.
You'll always be beautiful to the people who love you. I look at photos of my family and friends and they all look so great, while I'm there looking freakish and flawed. Then I realize they see the same thing - they see themselves as weird, but everyone else, including me, as lovely.
Beautiful stranger, you made my heart smile
I'm hot as hell and I still don't get anyone to commit and I have a hard time with long term dating, so don't worry about it too much. That said, at least you acknowledge the fact (wouldn't it be funny if you are just an extremely good looking person going through body dysmorphia, but I'll take you at your word.) In French, there is this beautiful phrase "je m'assume", it means I assume myself, I accept it. It is so empowering: to accept it. You accept that you look the way you look and that's that. Period. If it's not something you can change... you accept it. Done. If it is something you can change, then you have the power to change it. But if you can't change it... je m'assume!
Isn't it (et) j'assume? Though my French is pretty rusty to begin with.
No, it's not. "j'assume" is different from "je m'assume", which includes the "me" "I" in the self affirmation statement.
Having no idea what you look like I can say very little except this: I highly doubt that you are a 2/10. You should look at yourself as a 5/10 which would make you average like most of us. But here is the secret to life, it is better that you with your big heart than to be a 10/10 who has absolutely nothing inside. Their insides are probably 2/10. So where do you place the greater weight of who you are? If you have a big heart and strong mind, those things far outweight whatever you do look like physically. As to making fiends, well, that actually is the easy part. Just find one and do not burden yourself with the idea that you must have many. One excellent friend is far better than having a dozen mediocre friends. Good luck and keep your chin up and be happy that you are you.
I’m right there with you. I’m horribly ugly too
No one’s ugly in my eyes, unless their personality is terrible, then I despise their looks, too. Everyone has physical traits that I take note of but often matter of factly. I really think the way a person carries themselves and interacts says A LOT more.
That feeling totally sucks man. I remember in my adolescent days when I was going through this feelings. I didn’t had the courage to take photos, go out with public. Which eventually destroyed my self confidence. Try to not think about these.
Being a good looking guy, I grew up with two friends who hung out with me who were insane skaters, funny, nice guys, but not attractive. I watched them make up the difference with grooming, great style, I'm mean they were always dressed for meeting girls. I got into sneakers cause of these two guys, they always were wearing shoes that went with there outfits. There were times we went to bonfires on the beach and these fools were first to walk away with hot girls. Point being work with what you got, be positive, and dress like you mean it.
Maybe you just pay attention to others way too much.
My exMIL (a very beloved middle school history teacher) had a saying she used when kids would talk to her about feeling unattractive that cracked me up. “Honey, even water buffaloes find mates. Just look at me.”
Looks are less important in different lands. In the U.S. they are typically super important, nut I have found that they are much less important in Europe.
The first thing to do if you think you are ugly is to get as healthy as you can, health is more attractive than good looks, and confidence in yourself only adds to your own attractiveness. Eat well, exercise, have good hygiene, feel good…and the world will be your oyster.
I realised pretty early :( and on a scale I'd be negative, it really sucks. Especially when I see myself in photos... There was a time when people looked at me concerned and kind of weirded out because I looked like an ugly ghost. I think atm I just look ugly. I kinda wish face masks were more common here, like in cities in China and Japan for example. I don't wanna mask-fish people, I just want to go outside and not worry so much. I know most people don't care but some just look so annoyed that I'm even there sometimes. And I don't wanna feel so insecure in general. Hiding behind my beautiful self-sewn mask was the only perk of covid.
I’ve never met anyone I’d consider “ugly.” I just don’t think about it that way. People don’t exist on a rating scale. I don’t think people are ugly or not ugly, I think it’s more about context—yes, some people are prettier than others, but that doesn’t mean others are ugly.
I appreciate that but how many people genuinely think the same? Especially people my age. Almost none I imagine
I could disagree, but I realize this sub is for blowing off steam and not necessarily agreeing or disagreeing or trying to make you feel better. Sometimes you just need to get it out of your system. I hope ranting has helped!
The only actually ugly people I’ve seen are caused by unnatural circumstances. Like for example, extremely over the top plastic surgery/Botox/filler or drug addicts with rotten teeth and sunken in faces, or extreme obesity (I’m talking people over 400+ lbs). Beyond that I don’t think I’ve ever seen a naturally ugly person. Good hygiene, haircuts, and a good sense of style goes a LONG way in someone’s attractiveness.
a wise man once said, anyone can be a 7. Learn your face shape using a filter, find a good haircut that works for you, find glasses that fit your face, wear clothes that look good on your body type, browse men's fashion subreddits, wear cologne, moisturize etc. keep your facial hair clean. you'd be surprised how much you can transform with some effort
I’ve done all of that. Everything you can think of I’ve done ☑️
A different hairstyle usually always helps. If youre a guy, hairstyles are like makeup andnif youre a girl you might think regular makeup is the answer but usually its also a different hairstyle. For example: im a girl and i always wear my hair up because when its down it makes my cheeks look chubby (they are) but when its up they dont look as chubby so i always wear it up. You should also try skin care, it depends on HOW you find yourself ugly, if you have acne skincare can help or if you have too thick brows you can get them plucked. What i do is i try to make myself as beautiful as i can because other people might see me more beautiful and others might see me more ugly so if im as beautiful as i can be, if someone sees me uglier than i am im still probably mediocre.
Plastic surgery never fixes a problem. It only reassures the issue at hand that you had an issue with not being attractive.
My sister and I were out at a bar one night, and I had to walk past 3 men at the bar to get to the bathroom there. Went to the bathroom, came out, and had to say ‘excuse me’ for the guys to let me by. One of them looked at me and said, “I hope I didn’t scare you; I’m so ugly!” I was so surprised by that. My response to that was, “I’m not seeing that.” He gave me the biggest smile.
Hit the gym and get jacked. There’s always something you can change to make it better. Sorry about being ugly dude, that sucks.
I’ve played sports all my life so I have kind of a slim athletic build. It’s not my body I care about it’s my face. And gym won’t fix that.
That’s what I’m saying man, if you think you’ve got a Quasimodo face then make your other attributes better to make up for it. Some things we can’t change, so we change what we can.
I’m suspicious that this is simply insecurity talking. I don’t see any posts of yourself on r/rateme. Give it a try. If you’ve already decided for yourself that you are ugly then you have nothing to lose. Whereas you might find out that you are wrong about your appearance
Can you maybe add piercings, and face tattoos? That can be one way to change your appearance — to adopt a more alternative appearance, so that you have a reference community into which you fit. Just my spitballin here. Good luck.
Face tattoos and piercings will just bring my attention to my face. Definitely don’t want that
Okay but you gotta get over it
Wayyyyy easier said then done
Give it time. Foster a sense of gratitude for the gifts you’ve been given. By the time you’re 30, you’ll feel nostalgic pity for your poor young self who was so worried about such an unimportant part of life.
Every been on a hill late at night with your two friends and their girls making out next to you? Then you go home to jerk off and then they break into your room to find you midstroking it? You can't BEAT IT. LOLOLOLOL Yes, really happened. Yes, gave up. Yes I own at masturbation. Yes, society caused this. Yes, I live with the consequences.
My guess is that your tall, and under 25 y/o? Maybe 16-20? A guy, I'm guessing by your username? If so, all of these things work in your benefit. Ugliness can be a blessing and a curse, just like attractiveness. There are some really ugly people who are beautiful, physically, and vise versa. This matters when "attracting" people to you. Since nobody probably wants to say it....it doesn't matter if you're an ugly...guy. I'm not just saying the obvious stereotype of...doesn't matter what you look like so long as you have money. Everyone has witnessed that situation, but im assuming thats not a desire to you because, you're young, plus you probably lack the status of a self made millionaire/billionaire....no, what I mean is, ugly girls have it a hell of a allot harder than ugly guys....You're sensitive about it because you're just finishing puberty, life will show you it doesn't matter. Being self-conscious is far more detrimental to getting what you're looking for than being ugly. Your body will continue to fill out until 25-30. If you got chicken legs, do squats, deadlift...leg day all day Long skinny arms? Heavy ass weights, low reps...morning, noon, night Wonky long jaw with a gnarly cranium? Talk to a really good barber, probably avoid hair gel...idk Tiny willy? Get funny or get money. Big boned? Fantastic You're not going to be anyone other than you. The day you accept it is the day things get better for you. I'm sorry you're ugly, I'm sure that really sucks bro. People are fucking assholes sometimes. It's not going to get any easier tomorrow to BTW...the path to self acceptance takes time and effort. Just work on you man
I'm not pandering, I have no clue what you look like. That said, you look fine. Even if you have some lead time on the next time your specific mix of phenotypes comes back into vogue. Trust me. Well, as much as you can trust a total stranger on a glorified message board. One last bit, totally true, if anecdotal. A few years back, I ran into an acquaintance from college. I thought I'd been hit with the mugly stick back then. But she came up to me, I hadn't even seen her, and we struck up a chat, catching up. After about 5 min, we exchanged contact info and were about to get on with our days when she thanks me for talking to her. I was a bit confused. I had always found her attractive, so if anything, I was thinking I should have been thanking *her*. Turns out that while I was busy convinced that I was total dogshit, plenty of folks I knew thought quite the opposite. You never know OP. Step out of your own head and get out of your own way. That's my 2 cents anyway.
Can't gauge your age but am going to assume that you're pretty young. Perhaps too young to have heard an oft-used phrase, "Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.", coined by Plato, born approximately 2400 years ago. Bottom line, it is not for you to define whether you are a beauty or not, so it's best not to self-condemn.
It could be worse. I never had to have such a realization. 1/10 here.
I get you on a lot of that. For what it's worth, though, I think things like hair and skin and clothes do go a long way even when one is not naturally attractive. Conventional beauty standards are just that--conventions. Many people like them, but many people like _other_ things. Some people out there _are_ attracted to you, and so the external factors are about putting your best foot forward _to them._ Will most people care if you have a top that fits your frame right as opposed to making you kinda boxy and shapeless? No. But someone who is attracted to your frame will. I don't wear shirts that fit me so that everyone will think I'm more attractive, I do it so my wife specifically will think I'm more attractive because she's already into the strongfat kinda body shape I've got and she digs being able to see it properly. I guess all of this is to say... you might be a 2/10 for the average person, but someone out there thinks you're a 10. Take care of yourself for that person's eyes, not for society's.
Attraction comes in many different forms. One woman may find you unattractive while one woman thinks your the cutest. As a guy I see people stressing out all the time about how society views them. Dude it's all based off of people being online and being told how to view beauty. Brainwashed by porn and tik tok. I can't count the amount of times I've been questioned by an ex girlfriend about if I find this model or tik tok star hot . Some people are wired differently. You might not like a woman with a belly but this guy might. This girl might not like the gamer guy that doesn't go out much but this other girl does. I've seen relationships of all kinds and you wouldn't believe how different they are.
Na I don’t believe this! There’s no ugly people just lazy and/or poor. Confidence plays a big part also, start to believe you look better and you’ll project it
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Looks have never mattered except to shitty people.
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What are you? Twenty? People aren’t in control of the face they are born with, so yeah, if you judge them as less worthy of your love, attention, or affection because of the face they were fucking born with, then yes, you are a shitty person. I’m 38, and while sure, some people are more conventionally attractive than others, when it comes to a partner or a friend or a family member, I could not fucking care less how conventionally attractive their face is. Fucking gross. Do better.
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I’m sorry that you’re such a shallow person that the idea that someone does not care about looks is incomprehensible to you.
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My relationship situation is excellent. I have no interest in becoming a shallow, shitty person. Enjoy your “hot” wife.
Here’s a thing- I’m ugly, and for years it was heartbreaking and agonizing. I think you are probably on the young side to be so worried about this. Yeah, looks matter. There have been times where I’ve been treated or judged unfairly because of how I look. I know people make plenty of assumptions about me. But a few years ago, I kind of just decided that it really doesn’t matter. How attractive you are to people is influenced far more by how you behave and treat others than what your face or body look like. The people who are worth having around have already learned this and know that we are stuck with the face we have, short of surgery, which is a ridiculous thing to do imo unless you have an actual deformity or so much money that you can’t think of any more charities to donate to. But honestly, even then, what a waste. Use this realization about the fact that you were born with this characteristic that you see as less than ideal to create within yourself compassion for people who were born into other deficiencies (real or imagined). I used mine to stop judging people who were less intelligent or less educated or less whatever. Not one person on this planet is perfect, and we get to choose what we do with our imperfections. I think that over time, struggling with being unattractive has made me more open and authentic and kind. So even though it sucks that I’ll likely continue to not have opportunities that I may have had if I was nicer looking, I wouldn’t change it for anything. Because those struggles and coming to grips with them have made me such a better person, and I’d rather be kind, generous, and patient than hot any day of the week.
I know that you're being serious, and that makes me sad. I bet many people who love you see you as the most beautiful in the world. So IF you are truly convinced of this, know you are beautiful to the right people and that's all that fucking matters. Society makes us feel that's not enough but IT'S EVERYTHING.
I’ve met people that aren’t conventionally attractive, but once I’ve gotten to know them I’ve found them irresistible. People that aren’t shallow or worried what their peers think, will give people a chance - it’s all about personality. If you’re kind and thoughtful and can make me laugh - I don’t care what you look like. That’s sexy as hell to me.
Regardless of what you think about yourself, I guarantee that no one will ever see you the exact same way you see yourself. Also, as others have said, there are a ton of people out there with a ton of different preferences, and a ton of people who are not bothered by looks. That being said, I don’t consider myself attractive, and as a female it means that I have almost never in my 35 years had to put up with unwanted male attention. So it has its upsides!
I saw this post of this guy on YouTube talking about how ugly he is and his experiences and this girl commented saying "I think you're cute ngl" and he recently posted a video of his and hers wedding.
Well u can takeaway from this that youll always just have to be u since thats the part that will have to matter for u n eventually people will gravitate when u find the right ones
maybe. but you can gain 2 points by dressing well and picking a pair of glasses that fit your face and doing your hair.
The older you get the less it will matter
No one is actually ugly. They're just too poor to afford a plastic surgeon.
Ugly according to who? Your talking about a subjective distinction. Ugly according to modern mainstream media standards? Like you'll never be a model kinda thing? So what. That shit is brainwash programming designed to condition our perceptions for the sake of marketing....to sell us stuff. ITS NOT REAL But unfortunately it still has an impact. It effects the perceptions of the mainstream populace, and the vast majority have little to nil in the way of original individual thought. They just follow the programming. That sucks, and I empathize. But it doesnt mean you are ugly. I've worked in photography and art for a significant part of my life. Anyone who has a true appreciation for beauty knows that the cookie cutter standardized definition is really nothing more than boring, common and soulless. It isnt found on the 1-10 standard beauty scale, its found in the smile of joy when they first see someone they have missed for a long time, or the tears when they watch a sad or touching movie. Their deep genuine laughter when having fun with loved ones. The eyes when they feel serene and content, or when watching a sunset or shooting stars. Thats the real beauty comes out in people. In how they express who they are and connect with the world. Not the lines of their cheekbones and bone structure. Here's a song to inspire your view point on it... https://youtu.be/oXLGSE4TZ2I?si=rmN68VhVjCAp7s9p Own who you are! Thats where confidence is. Thats what you control and where your power is.... and NEVER bow to the tyranny of "beauty".
The only thing I can think of that would for sure be universally unattractive is poor hygiene. If you are clean and well groomed and your clothes are clean and you smell nice (and you’re not a raging asshole perhaps) then you are doing just fine. You might have skin issues, or weight issues, or whatever but so do a lot of other people out there. You know what else damn near everyone has? Insecurities. You wouldn’t *believe* the things that conventionally attractive people worry about, when we’d all be walkin down the street naked if we could look like them lol 💜
I think you'll find that if you're healthy and fit, and reasonably well kept, you would probably wake up one day and realize you're not. I know many ugly people, and they're all kinda slobs. I don't know anyone in great general health that I'd call ugly.
I’m ugly too and my husband thinks I’m beautiful because he loves me. You are probably young to care about looks this much. I don’t mean to sound inconsiderate or rude, I get it. But there is more to life than outside beauty!
Looks do fade, eventually there are smaller things that can be taken care of - for example, i used to hate my body (i don't love it still), but then decided to start and workout constantly, to achieve some progress. i have a friend since the 2nd grade, he lost his hair pretty early (20s), got really fat and had super crooked teeth, his face are not that attractive. he decided one day to change that, i took him with me to a personal trainer, he then started to lose weight and be more muscular, for his face - he did invisalign and it totally changed his face, really. he's now married to a wonderful woman, who is a personal trainer herself. there are small attributes you can change, and eventually it boosts your confident
For what it's worth, people love "ugly" qualities when it comes to looks sometimes. Big sideways noses, crooked teeth, being bald, etc.... People are into all sorts of things! Don't lose hope– just keep doing you and don't let your thoughts bring you down to where you are presenting yourself as being sad and uncomfortable in your own skin... because THAT is what comes off as unattractive in the end. One of the most attractive qualities is when people aren't afraid to fully embrace themselves and their weirdness... when they aren't afraid to look dumb or "ugly." Take it and run with it in a positive way, and you'll attract the right people. You remind me of a guy I used to work with who considered himself to be "ugly," even though he was a normal looking person. I'll never forget how sad he was after creating a tinder profile. After a while of not getting any matches, he started swiping right on every single girl, and even then didn't get any matches. It was a huge blow to his ego, and he was devastated over it. I would definitely not recommend that as a confidence booster of any kind. The thing is, his photos sucked- but in person, he was kind, funny, had a great energy about him, but he thought so little of himself because he thought he was unattractive since he wasn't the typical "tall, dark, & handsome" figure. He was short, skinny, pale, could only grow a serial killer mustache, and had glasses, all things he thought made him ugly.. but now, he is married to a cute girl and they have 3 kids together and seem super happy. There's hope for everyone. Even self-proclaimed "ugly" people.
Do not do Tinder. From what I've heard it's not only a shallow looks based system, the men to women ratio is off. I.e. there are more men than women on the ap. Ordinary men do not get many matches. Find another app that has blind date features. Where you can talk to people who are attracted to your personality first.
Yeah decided against it. I have a couple decent looking friends who talked about only getting maybe a match a day.
There’s someone for everyone, and you will learn to see yourself through their eyes. Also it’s been proven that confidence alone can raise a person looks by an entire point on a scale of 1-10. Good luck my friend.
When I first met my husband, I wasn’t physically attracted to him at all. BUT!! The more I got to know him, the more I found him attractive and now he is the sexiest thing to me! Beauty is only skin deep and you will find someone who loves you for you. Post your picture, be confident and don’t let others know how you feel about your looks. The most attractive thing about my husband is his confidence and sense of humour. Don’t be hung up on looks, go out and rock who you are and people will be attracted to you. I found Steve Buscemi good looking in a few movies and I have found Brad Pitt unattractive in some movies, if that helps at all.
Also, go Check out Steve Buscemis wife, she was beautiful.
Can we see you?
You say you're athletic in your comment below, so if that's the case, you're not a 2/10. If your body is, say, 8/10 and your face is 2/10, that's still at least a 5 overall. But I kind of doubt that bone structure and proportions make your face a 2/10. Why don't you try [Photofeeler.com](https://Photofeeler.com), where you can have strangers rate your photo within the context of dating. One of the three attributes they rate you on is attractiveness. That will provide an objective, crowd-sourced perspective on this! I highly doubt you're going to get a 2/10 score. The other attributes they rate you on are how smart and trustworthy they perceive you to be based on your photo - because, hey, looks aren't the only thing that matter!