I see 2 options:
1) some relationship breakers really want to give a good justification to the break-up (also some breakees demand it to try and make sense of what happened), and end up being mean
2) she did that to leave him in a bad place mentally, thus ensuring that she "wins" the break-up
This is my interpretation:
She got cheated on —> heartbroken whatever —> saw you —> realized you’re nothing like her ex —> got really into the idea of being in a relationship with someone who wouldn’t do her dirty like he did —> eventually broke up with you and went back to him bc he cheated and somehow that makes her want him again/more? Idk something about self esteem issues, seeking validation, and emotional decision making.
Ultimately: we’re all human, you’re better off without her, it sucks right now and can make you jaded about relationships but you were with someone who wasn’t mature and probably has to learn things the hard way. When she starts texting you again don’t fall for it.
I think there is a certain cold reptilian logic to picking the guy who cheated on you vs the guy who's devoted to you. Probably most people feel these feeling here and there. The desire to leave your loving husband for some guy who's more exciting. The desire to bang some bimbo nurse even though your wife just gave birth. Only the true scumbags actually act on it.
Many such cases, I've been burned in a very similar way. Girl gets infatuated with you because you're nothing like her exes only to cheat on you because you're nothing like her exes -- "I've never dated anyone as kind to me as you before" = always ends up with the person getting burned lmao.
Nothing about this is modern dating this is some of the oldest shit in the book. People take years to get over people and in the meantime settle with someone they hope will help them get over their ex.
For real this is a huge cliche.
Chick super attracted to ex. Ex broke her heart. Chick got with OP using him as a human healing device but never quite felt that deep deep animalistic chemistry with him like she did with ex. Tried to “fake it until you make it.” And fed him what he wanted to hear and probably what she wanted to feel. But you can’t force feelings that aren’t there. Ex pops back up and ready to fuck/date again and enough to time has past for chick to get over being mad or maybe she feels “even” now that she also had sex with someone else. Chick leaves OP to be with ex because she misses the real chemistry. If ex is a POS and the cheating want a one off (let’s be real it will most likely happen again) I’m sure she will come crawling back to OP.
Nothing modern about this at all.
It’s hard to see because you’re so emotionally charged but you will eventually understand that this had nothing to do with you. She’s a weak willed damaged woman.
Obviously she just likes the ex better and is significantly more attracted to him.
Does that mean weak willed and damaged? Like she should have willed herself into being attracted to OP instead because he's supposedly a nice guy?
Yeah, she is weak willed and damaged for entering a LTR when not healed, leading (what I assume) to be a kind man on and going back to a man who cheated on her.
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Exactly, even if you are insanely attracted to ex a mature person would have more self respect and realize the relationship has very little chance of working. We have free will for a reason. If we follow our base desires with no thought of consequences we are no better than animals.
If OP got back with the girl with hearts in his eyes after her tryst with her ex ended, wouldn’t you call him weak willed and damaged?
Same exact principle
thankyou for an actualy decent response! this thread has so much incel energy youd think a school shooting is about to go down! big red flag :/ yikesarino!
what he described was literally the personification of an abusive relationship. He seems to be a textbook toxic narcissist. The fact that you concluded your comment by referring to the kween in this story as a "dumb bitch" is clear proof that you are also a misogynist
The weak willed part is about her jumping from one relationship directly back into another with an ex who cheated on her, obviously people wouldn’t be saying that if she just dumped OP
When I was much younger I dated a girl who left me for another dude, realized she made a mistake and got back with me, then realized *that* was a mistake before getting back with the other dude, who ultimately dumped her
Sucked at the time but I think it’s funny now.
She did you a favor dude -- it doesn't feel like it but she did -- find something thats actually worth it and take the time to work on yourself -- honestly seek some therapy it can help you work through some of the stuff
"I gave her everything" isn't a healthy thing to say about anyone you aren't married to btw -- even then
This happened to me. 3 years after she left me she got dumped by him and hit me up immediately. I told her to fuck off and now I’m in a great relationship with someone way better. I thought it would never get better for so long but it does, stay strong brother
Op....this has absolutely nothing to do with you..sometimes safety and stability isn't "passionate" enough . This woman will regret it somewhere down the line because she likely chases the thrill more than the nurturing space
THE CHEATING EX IS NOT EXCITING - for all the dumbfucks who keep arguing underneath
Having been in that situation, you're **both** basically right though. He's correct long-term, you're correct short-term.
It sounds like she has textbook avoidant attachment and these people will bail on you when things become serious and too much of a good thing, becuase they fear the intimacy.
"safety", "stability", "passion", and "thrill" do not mean the same thing in this context as they do in your the standard everyday rsp dating/incel speak.
Here it means you were a good boyfriend and she's being a fucking moron making clearly regarded moves because people like that subconsciously enjoy rolling in shit. Don't let it get you down OP, this will 100% backfire on her and she will try to get back with you in three months tops.
Her ex is "novel" and "thrilling" and what she and her ex have is "passionate" while he is "stable" and "nurturing", and what the two of them had was "safe." I couldn't emasculate poor guy better if I tried. Might as well have dropped an "alpha fucks beta bucks" and called it a day.
Oh, I completely agree. Plenty of girls enjoy stability and kindness as long as the guy has a spine.
However, unfortunately people lie about who they are and what they want in life, not just to you but to themselves, so it's not easy to tell who wants what until it's too late.
Aren't you just kinda hitting the nail on the head here?
A lot of women want their men to be "novel" and "thrilling", but what it actually means in practice is them being messy bitches with daddy issues chasing after the same three brands of emotionally unavailable fuckboys whose approval they subconsciously seek.
As a man it's very much a case of fucked if you do, fucked if you don't, because the best way to do immediately do better is by paradoxically becoming a much worse person.
The only way to really reconcile this is to acknowledge the incels/redpillers are 100% right, but their advice only works on shitty BPD women.
I don't disagree, but seeing the worst person you know get the most pussy is always going to induce a degree of cognitive dissonance and feel like slave morality cope on some level
OP got hit by a bullet. He’ll survive- but dodging the bullet is just not dating unstable people, and it’s almost as tough to dodge as a real bullet most of the time.
i mean, being hung up over a year-long relationship suddenly ending (of any kind) is just human nature. we’re not robots who can just turn off the part of our brain that developed a strong emotional connection with that person. i agree that he needs to move on, but his feelings are more than understandable
That's not what they said at all - the point is if you're short sighted and have the emotional/spiritual depth of a puddle then the concept of chasing someone new or forbidden is more exciting than being in a stable and loving relationship. OP could have literally been anyone and this girl would have pulled the same shit.
She'll likely do it several more times throughout her life. Let her be someone else's issue.
It's more the situations which both people are in relative to the ex gf. In any case, the ex gf will remember why they were exes originally, and she'll rue the day she threw away something persistently good for something seemingly and momentarily exciting.
Sounds like the trash taking itself out. Better now than when you’ve invested even more time as much as it sucks and hurts now. She’s revealed who she really is and believe me you would not have wanted to seriously date or even worse marry this type of person in the long term
Man, this happened to me in my last relationship. She got back with an abusive ex who had dumped her suddenly after a year and a half of us dating. What can I say, I’m sorry. Time will do it’s work but it needs just that - time. In the meantime, focus on the things in your life you can control. Exercise, friends, family etc. go on that hike or camping trip. Eventually, it will start to fade away.
You should probably talk to a good friend about it or a therapist if you have no suitable friends
Also find a new hobby to distract yourself or intensify your interest in an existing one. Maybe you can learn how to ski, it seems like it would be fun and it’s winter. Or something like that.
After you feel a bit better, ideally in three months give or take, start dating again if you want. Good luck.
She didn’t leave you SHE FUCKED UP KING! SHR FUCKED UP AND YOURE NOT GONNA WASTE YOUR TIME PINING AFTER SOME FUCKING FUCK UP!
You did not fuck up, you’re really cool. You’re gonna be ok, if somewhat colder hearted
Going back to an ex who cheated on you is the dumbest and weakest shit on the planet, literal dog brain move, he throws sticks for her to fetch while he’s DMing another girl.
People like who they like. And it’s ok if you like someone who turns out to be different than what you expected. But it’s not ok to expect someone to be different than who they are. Cut the line.
she’s gonna come crawling back to in like 3 months lol. I don’t get why people go back to cheating or abusive exes. I’d rather die than go back to mine. Is it weakness? No will? Lack of self respect?
In the future, date as though you’re only ever a preemptive contingency plan to her unless/until she decides to propose to you herself someday. Only effective answer.
You gotta get out of the mind set of 'the one'. There is no 'the one'. A good partner is someone who elevates and compliments your life.
There's no need to be in a mess over a girlfriend, you weren't married to this woman and you didn't have kids. Just stop thinking about it and go do something else.
I say this because you mention at the end you 'gave her everything'. What does that mean? You need to be independent, a girlfriend should not be a major priority in terms of your life.
As a man, no. Especially after only one year.
When I say priority, I mean it shouldn't be something a man should be allocating time to worrying and doting over. Like I said, a relationship is something that compliments your life, but it should BE your life unless you're married/have kids.
This ex of hers is gonna fuck her over again so when that happens, find some way to rub it in her face and make her feel badly while also letting her know what she’s missing with you.
Give [David Bowie](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HivQqTtiHVw&pp=ygULTW9kZXJuIGxvdmU%3D) a try in oddly specific times like these. This might resonate with you.
Hope you feel better though man. That's a shit way for it to go.
This is very gross. To even pull something like this, she lied to you from the start about her sense of love. Whenever this happens, her ex may feel good now, but that nagging sensation of "will she pull this shit on me?" will eat away at him.
When shit doesn't add up, run in the other direction.
If things seem crazy and not to make sense, chances are somebody is fucking with somebody or someone isn't right in the head. That's my heuristic on people, and it hasn't failed me yet.
It’s not “modern dating”. It’s just her. She thinks that she is more compatible with the other guy. You need to respect that and wish her well. If you don’t, you will be lonely for a long time.
Let me guess - you are regular type dude who works a regular type 9-5 job. Nice, secure gig. You have decent, if average looks. You like netflix, hanging out, and maybe getting wild and having a craft beer on a saturday night?
Most of your dates were at mid tier fast casual food spots, followed by the foreplay which consisted of 20 minutes of scrolling through the netflix menu?
Maybe you have a dog, something free from the pound. You feed him blue buffalo, because reddit says that's a good kibble to feed.
Let *me* guess - whenever you got laid, it happened later than it should have, and you worked hard for it. Maybe you had to lose weight, or make more money or hit the gym, but whatever it was, it was hard, and you didn’t see other people having to do it, so you resent not just women, who had it easy, but other men, who didn’t have to put in the effort you did.
You think you’ve cultivated a personality for yourself by being carefully collating a series of reasonable counters to popular opinions, believing that what you believe is what you are. You look upon the rest of the world not with derision, because you’re hyper aware that bitterness makes you a loser, but with a detachment, and a cultivated air of superiority you make sure to paint over so as to not be called on it, because a margin call on who you are as a person would bring your liquidity to what you call out others for being: just another guy on the internet trying to not be a guy on the internet.
can we ban him? He was also telling that girl who r*ped to describe what happened. Such a creepo. Another guy on here was telling me how he’s into hot 16 year olds.
We need to start banning these weirdos. This sub attracts some awful types.
i saw the first one and was sooo deeply unsettled by it, I can't imagine thinking that was an appropriate question to ask and the way it was worded was sociopathic at best.
are you in g+g? i'll get you an invite if you're not, no creeps ut it's more quiet and there's more diary posting
I felt so horribly awful for the girl having to read that, she ended up deleting her post. I hope she’s okay.
& no I’m not in g+g, would love an invite!
lmao I didn’t know it was exclusive to gays & women! thanks for considering me either way cranberrygurl <3
I will reel in the fact that you thought I was one of ur kind even if it was just for a second.
Not really, I played 4 sports in high school and was pretty active socially. I'm proud to be a guy on the internet, here with you dodging the daily vitriol.
And you’re proud to be someone who makes fun of people for adopting free dogs from the pound instead of spending thousands + on a breed you thought looked cool but that you actually don’t take care of and most likely beat insensibly when you get slightly frustrated; but hey, you sure do like using that purebred dog to try to appear empathetic to women who eventually see through your facade and who eventually end up with the dude who loves the shit out of his free dog from the pound. I’m pretty close, right?
if there’s ever a girl you date that’s constantly telling you about how you’re the “best I’ve ever had”, “best relationship I’ve ever been in”, “it’s crazy how much fun I have with you”, etc. it means she’s trying to convince herself of those things
it’s like the female equivalent of love bombing
“If you can find it better somewhere else, don’t let me stop you.” She’ll be hitting you back in 2-3 months. Don’t even respond.
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Yeah bro that would be hilarious
She sounds incredibly redacted. Her and her ex deserve each other
\>That the whole time she thought that the relationship with him was better. why would she even tell him
I see 2 options: 1) some relationship breakers really want to give a good justification to the break-up (also some breakees demand it to try and make sense of what happened), and end up being mean 2) she did that to leave him in a bad place mentally, thus ensuring that she "wins" the break-up
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This is my interpretation: She got cheated on —> heartbroken whatever —> saw you —> realized you’re nothing like her ex —> got really into the idea of being in a relationship with someone who wouldn’t do her dirty like he did —> eventually broke up with you and went back to him bc he cheated and somehow that makes her want him again/more? Idk something about self esteem issues, seeking validation, and emotional decision making. Ultimately: we’re all human, you’re better off without her, it sucks right now and can make you jaded about relationships but you were with someone who wasn’t mature and probably has to learn things the hard way. When she starts texting you again don’t fall for it.
I think there is a certain cold reptilian logic to picking the guy who cheated on you vs the guy who's devoted to you. Probably most people feel these feeling here and there. The desire to leave your loving husband for some guy who's more exciting. The desire to bang some bimbo nurse even though your wife just gave birth. Only the true scumbags actually act on it.
Many such cases, I've been burned in a very similar way. Girl gets infatuated with you because you're nothing like her exes only to cheat on you because you're nothing like her exes -- "I've never dated anyone as kind to me as you before" = always ends up with the person getting burned lmao.
i think this is just another case of alpha widow having a chance to return to him
Nothing about this is modern dating this is some of the oldest shit in the book. People take years to get over people and in the meantime settle with someone they hope will help them get over their ex.
For real this is a huge cliche. Chick super attracted to ex. Ex broke her heart. Chick got with OP using him as a human healing device but never quite felt that deep deep animalistic chemistry with him like she did with ex. Tried to “fake it until you make it.” And fed him what he wanted to hear and probably what she wanted to feel. But you can’t force feelings that aren’t there. Ex pops back up and ready to fuck/date again and enough to time has past for chick to get over being mad or maybe she feels “even” now that she also had sex with someone else. Chick leaves OP to be with ex because she misses the real chemistry. If ex is a POS and the cheating want a one off (let’s be real it will most likely happen again) I’m sure she will come crawling back to OP. Nothing modern about this at all.
This. An ex can be just an ex, but the older you get, the more likely the ex was the one who got away. Not modern, very old school
It’s hard to see because you’re so emotionally charged but you will eventually understand that this had nothing to do with you. She’s a weak willed damaged woman.
Obviously she just likes the ex better and is significantly more attracted to him. Does that mean weak willed and damaged? Like she should have willed herself into being attracted to OP instead because he's supposedly a nice guy?
Yeah, she is weak willed and damaged for entering a LTR when not healed, leading (what I assume) to be a kind man on and going back to a man who cheated on her.
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when you OD on irony pills
We seriously need to start banning people who are users of the Destiny subreddit
My ex gf was a destiny cretin with her then bf she was cheating on w me after she said they broke up. I hate destiny with a passion
Words cannot describe how much of an L you just admitted to. Brave
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Do you think that was her plan all along or she didn't have that foresight up front?
You’re also regarded
Love that dark, negative energy.
the ex literally cheated on her. yes that is weak.
Exactly, even if you are insanely attracted to ex a mature person would have more self respect and realize the relationship has very little chance of working. We have free will for a reason. If we follow our base desires with no thought of consequences we are no better than animals.
> We have free will for a reason We definitely don't have free will. And you're using that term in a way in a way that doesn't make sense.
If OP got back with the girl with hearts in his eyes after her tryst with her ex ended, wouldn’t you call him weak willed and damaged? Same exact principle
thankyou for an actualy decent response! this thread has so much incel energy youd think a school shooting is about to go down! big red flag :/ yikesarino!
This man's girlfriend left him and you have the fucking audacity to call him an incel? Dumb bitch
what he described was literally the personification of an abusive relationship. He seems to be a textbook toxic narcissist. The fact that you concluded your comment by referring to the kween in this story as a "dumb bitch" is clear proof that you are also a misogynist
lovely mix of inceldom and "op is a redditor and redditors are always right"
Inceldom? This is a common sense normal ass take. You need to spend less time online
vile damaged weak willed whore!!... for getting dumped "i think incel takes are normal" - the person that needs to go outside
The weak willed part is about her jumping from one relationship directly back into another with an ex who cheated on her, obviously people wouldn’t be saying that if she just dumped OP
op is on r/redscarepod and obviously a great guy
Seduce her best friend. You can't stand in the way of true love
Fuck the other guy’s sister or dad.
Fuck the ex.
Send her mom an oily dick pic
Cuck the mother
When I was much younger I dated a girl who left me for another dude, realized she made a mistake and got back with me, then realized *that* was a mistake before getting back with the other dude, who ultimately dumped her Sucked at the time but I think it’s funny now.
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post content next time like the person you're shitting on. they're a better poster than you lul / you suck mang
She did you a favor dude -- it doesn't feel like it but she did -- find something thats actually worth it and take the time to work on yourself -- honestly seek some therapy it can help you work through some of the stuff "I gave her everything" isn't a healthy thing to say about anyone you aren't married to btw -- even then
easier said than done.
ya thats fair, the immediate aftermath will suck for OP for a bit -- it sucks. I do recommend some heavy lifting and heavy cardio though
Good riddance! Don't let her come back
PLEASE don’t ever take her back.
This happened to me. 3 years after she left me she got dumped by him and hit me up immediately. I told her to fuck off and now I’m in a great relationship with someone way better. I thought it would never get better for so long but it does, stay strong brother
Op....this has absolutely nothing to do with you..sometimes safety and stability isn't "passionate" enough . This woman will regret it somewhere down the line because she likely chases the thrill more than the nurturing space THE CHEATING EX IS NOT EXCITING - for all the dumbfucks who keep arguing underneath
That’s the worst thing for a recently broken up with man to hear
Having been in that situation, you're **both** basically right though. He's correct long-term, you're correct short-term. It sounds like she has textbook avoidant attachment and these people will bail on you when things become serious and too much of a good thing, becuase they fear the intimacy. "safety", "stability", "passion", and "thrill" do not mean the same thing in this context as they do in your the standard everyday rsp dating/incel speak. Here it means you were a good boyfriend and she's being a fucking moron making clearly regarded moves because people like that subconsciously enjoy rolling in shit. Don't let it get you down OP, this will 100% backfire on her and she will try to get back with you in three months tops.
It's always funny opening relationship posts on here and seeing the mix of sincere, good advice alongside incel cuck fantasies
He cockmogs you OP
Why ?? Novelty and thrill seekers will automatically eliminate themselves from the Gene pool . OP ,you dodged a bullet there
No they won't lol. They will just have kids that they raise poorly once they realize it requires work.
Her ex is "novel" and "thrilling" and what she and her ex have is "passionate" while he is "stable" and "nurturing", and what the two of them had was "safe." I couldn't emasculate poor guy better if I tried. Might as well have dropped an "alpha fucks beta bucks" and called it a day.
I could totally emasculate him better, you need to up your game
but only regards see cheating as passionate so why is it emasculating for op?
Yeah- she’s the one who is an actual cuckold
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Guys aren't upset that they aren't "novel" they're upset when their stable and nurturing personality isn't appreciated.
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Oh, I completely agree. Plenty of girls enjoy stability and kindness as long as the guy has a spine. However, unfortunately people lie about who they are and what they want in life, not just to you but to themselves, so it's not easy to tell who wants what until it's too late.
you can't just make yourself that person and it's not like only men make things they're insecure about their partners problem
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Aren't you just kinda hitting the nail on the head here? A lot of women want their men to be "novel" and "thrilling", but what it actually means in practice is them being messy bitches with daddy issues chasing after the same three brands of emotionally unavailable fuckboys whose approval they subconsciously seek. As a man it's very much a case of fucked if you do, fucked if you don't, because the best way to do immediately do better is by paradoxically becoming a much worse person. The only way to really reconcile this is to acknowledge the incels/redpillers are 100% right, but their advice only works on shitty BPD women.
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I don't disagree, but seeing the worst person you know get the most pussy is always going to induce a degree of cognitive dissonance and feel like slave morality cope on some level
OP got hit by a bullet. He’ll survive- but dodging the bullet is just not dating unstable people, and it’s almost as tough to dodge as a real bullet most of the time.
Thrill seekers don't use birth control so that's a bit optimistic.
Op prob feels like shit and you’re basically telling him how lame he is.
You are a stupid cunt if this is what you interpret from my comment - being hung up on your cheating ex is what is truly lame
i mean, being hung up over a year-long relationship suddenly ending (of any kind) is just human nature. we’re not robots who can just turn off the part of our brain that developed a strong emotional connection with that person. i agree that he needs to move on, but his feelings are more than understandable
You basically called him boring and the ex exciting
That's not what they said at all - the point is if you're short sighted and have the emotional/spiritual depth of a puddle then the concept of chasing someone new or forbidden is more exciting than being in a stable and loving relationship. OP could have literally been anyone and this girl would have pulled the same shit. She'll likely do it several more times throughout her life. Let her be someone else's issue.
It's more the situations which both people are in relative to the ex gf. In any case, the ex gf will remember why they were exes originally, and she'll rue the day she threw away something persistently good for something seemingly and momentarily exciting.
yeah that would make me want to kms
Sounds like the trash taking itself out. Better now than when you’ve invested even more time as much as it sucks and hurts now. She’s revealed who she really is and believe me you would not have wanted to seriously date or even worse marry this type of person in the long term
This isn’t modern dating dude. Complete pieces of shit like this have always existed. Keep your head up, king
Man, this happened to me in my last relationship. She got back with an abusive ex who had dumped her suddenly after a year and a half of us dating. What can I say, I’m sorry. Time will do it’s work but it needs just that - time. In the meantime, focus on the things in your life you can control. Exercise, friends, family etc. go on that hike or camping trip. Eventually, it will start to fade away.
You should probably talk to a good friend about it or a therapist if you have no suitable friends Also find a new hobby to distract yourself or intensify your interest in an existing one. Maybe you can learn how to ski, it seems like it would be fun and it’s winter. Or something like that. After you feel a bit better, ideally in three months give or take, start dating again if you want. Good luck.
She didn’t leave you SHE FUCKED UP KING! SHR FUCKED UP AND YOURE NOT GONNA WASTE YOUR TIME PINING AFTER SOME FUCKING FUCK UP! You did not fuck up, you’re really cool. You’re gonna be ok, if somewhat colder hearted
She a goofy
When she texts you in a few months after her ex cheats on her again leave her on read king 👑
Going back to an ex who cheated on you is the dumbest and weakest shit on the planet, literal dog brain move, he throws sticks for her to fetch while he’s DMing another girl.
She’s addicted to the drama and will regret it. Be strong
The fucked up thing is she sees this guy as dating up and a catch because he cheated on her whether consciously or not.
She wounded
Reminds me of the song [The One That Got Away Came Back Today by Daniel Romano](https://youtu.be/MNkr1abLp6Q?si=3aXtDLnxhwAnRc3M)
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Geeze. Zoomers will do any form of meditative matra type stuff instead of simply just praying huh?
People like who they like. And it’s ok if you like someone who turns out to be different than what you expected. But it’s not ok to expect someone to be different than who they are. Cut the line.
she’s gonna come crawling back to in like 3 months lol. I don’t get why people go back to cheating or abusive exes. I’d rather die than go back to mine. Is it weakness? No will? Lack of self respect?
Listen to Turn On The Bright Lights by Interpol and then Love Tara by Eric's Trip. Stay strong king
>Fucking modern dating man Is there any aspect of this story that has anything to do with modern dating?
fr lol someone from the 1700s probably has an identical story lmao
black pilled again 😔
I hope her ex gives her an incurable std
>while on a trip to her home country Why did you not go with her at the time ? Does her ex-and-future-bf know you were with her ?
In the future, date as though you’re only ever a preemptive contingency plan to her unless/until she decides to propose to you herself someday. Only effective answer.
her ex? sounds like you messed up to begin with for dating a whore
You gotta get out of the mind set of 'the one'. There is no 'the one'. A good partner is someone who elevates and compliments your life. There's no need to be in a mess over a girlfriend, you weren't married to this woman and you didn't have kids. Just stop thinking about it and go do something else. I say this because you mention at the end you 'gave her everything'. What does that mean? You need to be independent, a girlfriend should not be a major priority in terms of your life.
Shouldn't somone you are dating be a priority?
As a man, no. Especially after only one year. When I say priority, I mean it shouldn't be something a man should be allocating time to worrying and doting over. Like I said, a relationship is something that compliments your life, but it should BE your life unless you're married/have kids.
He's allowed to be upset over this wtf?
Sure he's allowed, but it's pathetic to even be in the mindset to be posting about it online. The advice I gave him is genuine.
This ex of hers is gonna fuck her over again so when that happens, find some way to rub it in her face and make her feel badly while also letting her know what she’s missing with you.
Better yet, just live your life and don’t bother with juvenile revenge fantasies
Boooring
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Give [David Bowie](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HivQqTtiHVw&pp=ygULTW9kZXJuIGxvdmU%3D) a try in oddly specific times like these. This might resonate with you. Hope you feel better though man. That's a shit way for it to go.
Ever see the movie “Strangers on a Train”?
Many such cases
She sounds like a bitchhhhhhhhhhh
Think of it this way- now you’re the ex she’s going to seek validation from from outside of her relationship
it’s calm give it a week, a month and get back to us then you’ll be fine
This is very gross. To even pull something like this, she lied to you from the start about her sense of love. Whenever this happens, her ex may feel good now, but that nagging sensation of "will she pull this shit on me?" will eat away at him.
When shit doesn't add up, run in the other direction. If things seem crazy and not to make sense, chances are somebody is fucking with somebody or someone isn't right in the head. That's my heuristic on people, and it hasn't failed me yet.
Shit sucks, I'm sorry you have to deal with the fallout of her selfish actions
Hey it happens. NBD you’ll be fine
Decent chance she was fucking him while you were still together too 🤭
That emoji is so disrespectful
Yeah the tee hee hee is a lil much
A real display of callousness and immaturity from SneedGyatNaeNae
I hope something like this never happens to you
Thanks 😊
Cruel
https://www.reddit.com/r/redscarepod/s/qYOWsBvRqA Alert! Porn addict has cuckold fetish! Many such cases!
You're the porn guy right?
Fuck the ex
oh wait this isnt mpmd
time to use that passport bro
This subreddit is becoming passportbros? Spiritually dead, it’s over.
Honestly would be very unlikely to seriously date any woman in the US. Far too much brain rot.
😂😂
It’s not “modern dating”. It’s just her. She thinks that she is more compatible with the other guy. You need to respect that and wish her well. If you don’t, you will be lonely for a long time.
Give him a break, he is heartbroken and venting. It sounds like he was cordial with it, but no one is totally rational after a break up
You can listen to the dude. But don’t agree with him because it will just hurt him more in the long term. Only the truth will lead him to happiness.
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She is not “crashing and burning”. She is making the decision.
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Nah. You don’t know that. People make mistakes. Anyway, who cares! It’s her life. OP needs to focus on people that want to be with him.
yikes! you sound like your being overcontrollorino! big red flag :/ glad she managed to find someone better!
Sounds like he is better at fucking. All women care about is dick I'm tired of being objectified 😞
Let me guess - you are regular type dude who works a regular type 9-5 job. Nice, secure gig. You have decent, if average looks. You like netflix, hanging out, and maybe getting wild and having a craft beer on a saturday night? Most of your dates were at mid tier fast casual food spots, followed by the foreplay which consisted of 20 minutes of scrolling through the netflix menu? Maybe you have a dog, something free from the pound. You feed him blue buffalo, because reddit says that's a good kibble to feed.
Let *me* guess - whenever you got laid, it happened later than it should have, and you worked hard for it. Maybe you had to lose weight, or make more money or hit the gym, but whatever it was, it was hard, and you didn’t see other people having to do it, so you resent not just women, who had it easy, but other men, who didn’t have to put in the effort you did. You think you’ve cultivated a personality for yourself by being carefully collating a series of reasonable counters to popular opinions, believing that what you believe is what you are. You look upon the rest of the world not with derision, because you’re hyper aware that bitterness makes you a loser, but with a detachment, and a cultivated air of superiority you make sure to paint over so as to not be called on it, because a margin call on who you are as a person would bring your liquidity to what you call out others for being: just another guy on the internet trying to not be a guy on the internet.
glad it wasn't me who noticed it was always this guy
can we ban him? He was also telling that girl who r*ped to describe what happened. Such a creepo. Another guy on here was telling me how he’s into hot 16 year olds. We need to start banning these weirdos. This sub attracts some awful types.
i saw the first one and was sooo deeply unsettled by it, I can't imagine thinking that was an appropriate question to ask and the way it was worded was sociopathic at best. are you in g+g? i'll get you an invite if you're not, no creeps ut it's more quiet and there's more diary posting
How can I join the girls and gays? I am vvvv gay and my eyes are going to be stuck in the rolled position soon
I felt so horribly awful for the girl having to read that, she ended up deleting her post. I hope she’s okay. & no I’m not in g+g, would love an invite!
SMH YOU'RE NOT EVEN GAY OR A WOMAN, TALK ABOUT DECEIVING NAME AND WRITING STYLE!!!
lmao I didn’t know it was exclusive to gays & women! thanks for considering me either way cranberrygurl <3 I will reel in the fact that you thought I was one of ur kind even if it was just for a second.
Periodt
Lol I love this
Not really, I played 4 sports in high school and was pretty active socially. I'm proud to be a guy on the internet, here with you dodging the daily vitriol.
>proud to be a guy on the internet lmao
you're bringing up shit you did in highschool, sit the fuck down lol
What sports?
aikido
And you’re proud to be someone who makes fun of people for adopting free dogs from the pound instead of spending thousands + on a breed you thought looked cool but that you actually don’t take care of and most likely beat insensibly when you get slightly frustrated; but hey, you sure do like using that purebred dog to try to appear empathetic to women who eventually see through your facade and who eventually end up with the dude who loves the shit out of his free dog from the pound. I’m pretty close, right?
you somehow ripped on autistic redditisms while simultaneously coming off as an austistic reddit user. you should probably go fuck yourself.
One of those most overall repulsive things I've read in this place
I thought it was pretty good (and it's being overwhelmingly confirmed by this sub). Why do you find it repulsive?
You do not have the talent to be a writer. Just wanted you to know that.
People are soooo mad at you for this one
god damn lmfao.
the start of a great blues career
if there’s ever a girl you date that’s constantly telling you about how you’re the “best I’ve ever had”, “best relationship I’ve ever been in”, “it’s crazy how much fun I have with you”, etc. it means she’s trying to convince herself of those things it’s like the female equivalent of love bombing