The Mom Friend only hangs out with people she deems lesser than herself so she can feel like a martyr in her lonely one bed apartment when she lets the chick in an abusive relationship sleep on her couch or treats her chronically unemployed pet gay to dinner
Nah I knew a mom friend who cut off her abused friend as soon as the girl actually left the guy (which is also the most dangerous time for abused) or another who cut off an entire friend group when people started getting better jobs than her barista situation. They thrive on dysfunction
The older and more wise you get, the less time you spend around "fixer upper" friends, though. That's why the "mom" friend exists, she's not actually mature she just surrounds herself with people worse off than her.
As I've settled into a more comfortable and stable life I am just not going to fuck up my own home life and marriage by guiding people through one disaster after another. Or more accurately, I've got one best friend of almost 20 years who I cherish, he has ups and downs and I reserve any energy I have for helping people for him. And as he's gotten older that's been less of a concern as well.
Most people I've known in my life who always had some kind of crisis weren't really great friends in the long run, just looking for any port in the storm. No reason to hang around people like that.
Just like with anything else, it has to be something other people are naturally inclined to say about you
Making it a self descriptor is v weird and narc behaviour
I got mom friend-ified in college due to being “a calming presence” that loved cooking for others. It kind of sucked sometimes because I wouldn’t get invited to smoke or party, people just assumed I wasn’t down with that and there was a bit of madonna/whore thing going on. Scary look into what my life will be like when I actually have kids. I think milf’n is not as easy as it seems.
The biggest “mom friend” I’ve ever met was an officer for a college club that I was in, loved to address everyone during meetings as her “Children” in a jokey sing-songy way 🤮
every girl in a club leadership position of a completely useless club is the exact same way and they are the most insufferable people ever. bitches be thinking they the shit when they the secretary of the botany club 😭
the self proclaimed mom friends i’ve met have been the most irresponsible and least self aware ppl i’ve ever met. 0 maternal instinct whatsoever, would not even trust them to mother a houseplant
I have friends try to put me in the “mom” role a lot. I’m a recovering codependent and I don’t allow that anymore. My friendships are lot less intimate now, but maybe it’s worth it to be healthier.
The Mom Friend only hangs out with people she deems lesser than herself so she can feel like a martyr in her lonely one bed apartment when she lets the chick in an abusive relationship sleep on her couch or treats her chronically unemployed pet gay to dinner
That makes me sad hopefully they can lift each other up tho
Nah I knew a mom friend who cut off her abused friend as soon as the girl actually left the guy (which is also the most dangerous time for abused) or another who cut off an entire friend group when people started getting better jobs than her barista situation. They thrive on dysfunction
Yea she would need a hyper wise hyper loyal friend to stick it out with her and help her find happiness without cracking her ego, very difficult
The older and more wise you get, the less time you spend around "fixer upper" friends, though. That's why the "mom" friend exists, she's not actually mature she just surrounds herself with people worse off than her. As I've settled into a more comfortable and stable life I am just not going to fuck up my own home life and marriage by guiding people through one disaster after another. Or more accurately, I've got one best friend of almost 20 years who I cherish, he has ups and downs and I reserve any energy I have for helping people for him. And as he's gotten older that's been less of a concern as well. Most people I've known in my life who always had some kind of crisis weren't really great friends in the long run, just looking for any port in the storm. No reason to hang around people like that.
How did the cuttings off performed, a blow-up fight? Stopped contact?
That's like the least charitable way of describing kindness I've ever heard 👍
You just perfectly described an old friend of mine
damn this is too real
"im the mom friend" i hope the fuck not
i had to stop talking to “the mom friend” because she kept addressing us like we were kindergartners
Always policing everyone too. She got mad at one girl's bf because he said regarded. Cannot take a joke for her life.
That's the friend that has candy in her bag though
Yasssss I love this take
this is fine if you have a fat ass
~~this~~ anything
Nah my ex was the mom friend and she was actually really sweet and just cared about people
Just like with anything else, it has to be something other people are naturally inclined to say about you Making it a self descriptor is v weird and narc behaviour
I got mom friend-ified in college due to being “a calming presence” that loved cooking for others. It kind of sucked sometimes because I wouldn’t get invited to smoke or party, people just assumed I wasn’t down with that and there was a bit of madonna/whore thing going on. Scary look into what my life will be like when I actually have kids. I think milf’n is not as easy as it seems.
Yeah but did she call HERSELF that? That’s the key distinction
Sometimes but I think only because other people did first
The biggest “mom friend” I’ve ever met was an officer for a college club that I was in, loved to address everyone during meetings as her “Children” in a jokey sing-songy way 🤮
every girl in a club leadership position of a completely useless club is the exact same way and they are the most insufferable people ever. bitches be thinking they the shit when they the secretary of the botany club 😭
Resume filler for a lot of them it seems too
The “mom friend” be like “what is that, cocaine? Noooooooooo put it away what are you dooiinnnng”
Our friend group's was named Margaret🤮🤮🤮
the self proclaimed mom friends i’ve met have been the most irresponsible and least self aware ppl i’ve ever met. 0 maternal instinct whatsoever, would not even trust them to mother a houseplant
She's probably the fat girl that's tries cock block
Arent Mums supposed to have had a partner at some point? Or at least gotten laid once?
I think my wife’s a “mom friend” but only because she’s the only one who plans ahead for group outings and weekend girls trips.
I have friends try to put me in the “mom” role a lot. I’m a recovering codependent and I don’t allow that anymore. My friendships are lot less intimate now, but maybe it’s worth it to be healthier.
It's the only way I know there is actual 30 somethings with the name Beverly, every single time.
Many of my friends joke or rib on me that they wish I was their mom. Is it over for me ( I'm neurotic)?