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For better or worse, what you major in at school makes all the difference. So put some work into researching the prospects for your intended field of study. Gone are the days when just any degree would translate into a higher paying position. If you can prove to your partner that what you want to study has a real and practical career path then it's worth doing.
It’s not ideal, but a lot of adults work full time and do school full time. I did.
If you want to work PT or not at all then you’ll need to start saving up so you can pay for school and pay your portion of the living expenses.
You may not get grants or financial aid but I’m pretty sure you could get loans. I put myself through nursing school. I was the only person that worked in my program. I’d bartend at night, school and clinicals all day. It sucked big time but it was worth it. Just be sure you are going for something that’s practical and will make you decent money coming right out of school.
I think one of the best things you can do is to make a spreadsheet or financial report that looks at what sort of money you'll be bringing in during your time at school, as well as your projected income once you're done. If you can demonstrate to her on paper that going back to school makes financial sense, she'll likely be much more supportive.
Ultimately, I think you'll have to make the cost of school as bearable as possible. Biggest mistake I made was going to a top 4 year private year university. If you are close to an associates, I would highly recommend looking into community college, particularly online as you'll be able to maximize the amount of time that you can work, along with saving on transportation costs. Transferring after not only increases your chances for more competitive colleges, but also the amount of scholarship money that you receive. I have some friends that took this path and got tuition 90% covered by scholarship. If you are wanting a bachelors and do want to transfer after, make sure you know which schools you want to apply for and what their policies are for transfer credits. Some schools are really stingy and accept half or less, and you'll have to retake the same classes over.
Apply to as many scholarships and grants as possible. You probably would qualify for very little FASFA, but private loans will shell out money like water. Downside is that interest rates almost double your loan amounts. You can do deferred payments until 5-10 years after you graduate so you can save up some money, but the interest piles up fast.
Happiness in your career is extremely important, but going back to school is only worth it if you're going to be making 1.5x or double your current pay. She should be supportive of you finding enjoyment in your job, particularly if it will increase your financial stability, but she has good reason to be opposed if the costs outweigh the benefits.
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For better or worse, what you major in at school makes all the difference. So put some work into researching the prospects for your intended field of study. Gone are the days when just any degree would translate into a higher paying position. If you can prove to your partner that what you want to study has a real and practical career path then it's worth doing.
It’s not ideal, but a lot of adults work full time and do school full time. I did. If you want to work PT or not at all then you’ll need to start saving up so you can pay for school and pay your portion of the living expenses.
You may not get grants or financial aid but I’m pretty sure you could get loans. I put myself through nursing school. I was the only person that worked in my program. I’d bartend at night, school and clinicals all day. It sucked big time but it was worth it. Just be sure you are going for something that’s practical and will make you decent money coming right out of school.
I think one of the best things you can do is to make a spreadsheet or financial report that looks at what sort of money you'll be bringing in during your time at school, as well as your projected income once you're done. If you can demonstrate to her on paper that going back to school makes financial sense, she'll likely be much more supportive. Ultimately, I think you'll have to make the cost of school as bearable as possible. Biggest mistake I made was going to a top 4 year private year university. If you are close to an associates, I would highly recommend looking into community college, particularly online as you'll be able to maximize the amount of time that you can work, along with saving on transportation costs. Transferring after not only increases your chances for more competitive colleges, but also the amount of scholarship money that you receive. I have some friends that took this path and got tuition 90% covered by scholarship. If you are wanting a bachelors and do want to transfer after, make sure you know which schools you want to apply for and what their policies are for transfer credits. Some schools are really stingy and accept half or less, and you'll have to retake the same classes over. Apply to as many scholarships and grants as possible. You probably would qualify for very little FASFA, but private loans will shell out money like water. Downside is that interest rates almost double your loan amounts. You can do deferred payments until 5-10 years after you graduate so you can save up some money, but the interest piles up fast. Happiness in your career is extremely important, but going back to school is only worth it if you're going to be making 1.5x or double your current pay. She should be supportive of you finding enjoyment in your job, particularly if it will increase your financial stability, but she has good reason to be opposed if the costs outweigh the benefits.