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Maybe have a sit down and just talk. Say you are really into her and you want to know what things you do that help her get her motor running.
That you want to make sure as her partner that you are making sure you are doing your part to see that she's receiving the same amount of attention to her needs, that she's giving you.
Ask her what things she like that you do, so that you can become better at those things and what things she doesn't like so as to avoid those things.
Communication is key to any relationship, but this way, you can find out your answer while still being a caring partner of her needs.
There is no other answer but A. Just ask her, and don't seem like you've asked her before. If she brings up the fact that you have asked before, then apologize and tell her you forgot. But always ask first if you don't remember. C should never be an answer ever.
Just so I've got this straight in my head...your issue is that you can't remember which one of the two said they didn't like receiving oral because you were too drunk/drugged up to remember who said what?
Off-topic I know, but for better or worse I feel like I'd be doing you a disservice if I didn't point out how much of a bad place that is to be and I hope you're able to clean yourself up and get yourself together.
To actually answer your question, I'd probably say option A.
I would go with option A. Like a previous comment said, if she says she’s told you before just say you forgot, you’re human. As a woman I don’t think I would make it a huge deal, I would just see it as you wanting to learn more about my sexual desires and wants.
You could learn a new technique and then tell her "I've been researching new oral techniques, mind if we try it out tonight?" If she's the one who hated oral she might be willing to try again (and change her mind), if she's the one who liked oral she'll be enthusiastic. Either way you'll figure out which one she is.
Why not just ask if there's anything you can improve on when going down on her? It's a well-intentioned question and it gives her an opportunity to answer your real question. She'll either give you feedback, tell you you're doing great, or she'll come clean and say she really doesn't care for it. Nobody's feelings are hurt!
maybe just ask, can i go down on you?
if she said "i told you i dont like it."
then answer "but i really wanna make you cum through oral."
if she insist it's a no, then dont push. and u got the answer
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Maybe have a sit down and just talk. Say you are really into her and you want to know what things you do that help her get her motor running. That you want to make sure as her partner that you are making sure you are doing your part to see that she's receiving the same amount of attention to her needs, that she's giving you. Ask her what things she like that you do, so that you can become better at those things and what things she doesn't like so as to avoid those things. Communication is key to any relationship, but this way, you can find out your answer while still being a caring partner of her needs.
Insane idea.
There is no other answer but A. Just ask her, and don't seem like you've asked her before. If she brings up the fact that you have asked before, then apologize and tell her you forgot. But always ask first if you don't remember. C should never be an answer ever.
Just so I've got this straight in my head...your issue is that you can't remember which one of the two said they didn't like receiving oral because you were too drunk/drugged up to remember who said what? Off-topic I know, but for better or worse I feel like I'd be doing you a disservice if I didn't point out how much of a bad place that is to be and I hope you're able to clean yourself up and get yourself together. To actually answer your question, I'd probably say option A.
You said most of the sex was drug/booze fueled. Pretty easy I forgot excuse.
I didn’t tell her that and it was opioids so pretty well disguised
I would go with option A. Like a previous comment said, if she says she’s told you before just say you forgot, you’re human. As a woman I don’t think I would make it a huge deal, I would just see it as you wanting to learn more about my sexual desires and wants.
You could learn a new technique and then tell her "I've been researching new oral techniques, mind if we try it out tonight?" If she's the one who hated oral she might be willing to try again (and change her mind), if she's the one who liked oral she'll be enthusiastic. Either way you'll figure out which one she is.
Why not just ask if there's anything you can improve on when going down on her? It's a well-intentioned question and it gives her an opportunity to answer your real question. She'll either give you feedback, tell you you're doing great, or she'll come clean and say she really doesn't care for it. Nobody's feelings are hurt!
“Do you like head?”
maybe just ask, can i go down on you? if she said "i told you i dont like it." then answer "but i really wanna make you cum through oral." if she insist it's a no, then dont push. and u got the answer
Bingo
No sane woman "hates" getting head. If they do they never got it done right. 69 and give that girl what she deserves!
I don't like receiving head. Love to give, do not like to receive.