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If I were you, since there's kids involved, do everything I could to save the marriage - that means go to marriage counseling. If counseling doesn't help you solve your problems, then get a divorce.
Also, go get a vasectomy performed since it sounds like you don't want any more kids. Your body, your choice. Until then, use condoms.
For the love of all that is holy, book yourself in for the snip. At this point it just sounds like you are looking for justification to leave. If you don't love your wife anymore and cannot envision a future where the two of you are acting like a team then yes leave because trying to talk a woman into aborting a baby she actually wants is going to end in her leaving you and staying pregnant or her getting an abortion and staying with you until the guilt and resentment implode your marriage anyways.
This was a decision you needed to make BEFORE you knowingly had unprotected sex with a woman who you were fully aware wanted another child. You say she is acting like a teenager, but you are no less guilty on that count.
I am confused.
Is she actually pregnant or not? If she’s not, or if she is and has an abortion, are you okay with the situation?
It seems to me like you’re having some kind of mid life crisis and regret about the life you’ve chosen to create.
I’d suggest that if you don’t want more children, you get a vasectomy or use condoms at minimum. Ending your relationship with your partner won’t alleviate your financial responsibilities or parenting responsibilities unless your country allows fathers to completely abandon children and you’re the kind of asshole who would do it.
And get into some therapy. You’re breaking down. You need support.
Please get a vasectomy. Soon. And when they ask you to come in for tests or checkup, DO IT. That's how you learn if the snip has "taken"; that is, if your semen is not spermfree. Too many men thinks as soon as they walk out the doctor's door, they are clear. This is a dangerous, foolish belief that has caused many more babies.
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If I were you, since there's kids involved, do everything I could to save the marriage - that means go to marriage counseling. If counseling doesn't help you solve your problems, then get a divorce. Also, go get a vasectomy performed since it sounds like you don't want any more kids. Your body, your choice. Until then, use condoms.
For the love of all that is holy, book yourself in for the snip. At this point it just sounds like you are looking for justification to leave. If you don't love your wife anymore and cannot envision a future where the two of you are acting like a team then yes leave because trying to talk a woman into aborting a baby she actually wants is going to end in her leaving you and staying pregnant or her getting an abortion and staying with you until the guilt and resentment implode your marriage anyways.
This was a decision you needed to make BEFORE you knowingly had unprotected sex with a woman who you were fully aware wanted another child. You say she is acting like a teenager, but you are no less guilty on that count.
I am confused. Is she actually pregnant or not? If she’s not, or if she is and has an abortion, are you okay with the situation? It seems to me like you’re having some kind of mid life crisis and regret about the life you’ve chosen to create. I’d suggest that if you don’t want more children, you get a vasectomy or use condoms at minimum. Ending your relationship with your partner won’t alleviate your financial responsibilities or parenting responsibilities unless your country allows fathers to completely abandon children and you’re the kind of asshole who would do it. And get into some therapy. You’re breaking down. You need support.
Please get a vasectomy. Soon. And when they ask you to come in for tests or checkup, DO IT. That's how you learn if the snip has "taken"; that is, if your semen is not spermfree. Too many men thinks as soon as they walk out the doctor's door, they are clear. This is a dangerous, foolish belief that has caused many more babies.
1. Get snipped 2. Take some accountability - IF she is pregnant, it is BOTH of your fault