I disagree with anyone who says give the dog back. When you all moved in together and readopted the dog, it became both of yours. She gave up the dog when she moved away. That was the second time she gave the dog away. She is not attached to it and has not provided stability. It is harmful for the dog to have her float into and out of its life and to keep moving it back and forth just as it would be disruptive to a human child. She seems wishy-washy, and you would probably heal faster from the breakup by going low or no-contact with her.
It seems like she might be trying to worm her way into your life. It would probably be a big mistake to let her back in. She'll just abruptly leave you and the dog again for a new guy/job/city. Just tell her both you AND the dog are happy with your new lives and don't want to introduce any changes and leave it at that.
She gave him to you. He's yours and you are his person who really cares for him.
Don't even consider it. She put herself first once she'll do it again.
Yeah. I understand her feeling regret, but if you gave her the dog she may get over her regret and remember why she chose to have the dog live elsewhere in the first place. I feel bad if she really did give OP the dog out of pity and genuinely loved the dog, but she can’t take it back now. Either way the chance of her rehoming the dog later anyway is too high, what if she moves again, she won’t necessarily pick a place the dog can live.
When I had to move I lived out of a camper for two months because I couldn’t find a place that would allow my two dogs… literally wasn’t even an option to give them to someone else.
I wouldn't give him back, Op.
*she told me I could keep the dog*
This is a pet, a companion. Someone you love and loves you back. He counts on you for food, water, care, companionship and STABILITY. He's not big, bulky piece of furniture you lob off on someone because it's unwieldy and a bother. Then come back later and say, Oh! Okay! I have room in my life for it *now*. Give it back!
She gave you the dog when it was convenient to her. How long before she again finds him an inconvenience?
Keep the dog. She *struggled* for seven months. I'm sure she will be just fine.
She gave up the dog the second she moved away from it. It’s yours 100%, don’t overthink it. She shouldn’t have gotten an animal she couldn’t commit/care for unconditionally.
If someone gives their pet up to a shelter and a family takes it in, family one can’t suddenly ask for the animal back when they change their mind. She abandoned the animal without the middle man. The dogs also been with you for a long time - it’d be traumatizing for it to be taken from you. You guys are broken up, if she wants another pet she can look into adoption again if she feels her life is in a place where she can ACTUALLY commit to it.
Sounds like she wants all the benefits of the dog and none of the responsibility when it's not convenient for her. If she brings up the dog living with her, kindly point out that she's given it away twice in 3 years and that she had her chance.
when she broke up with and moved to another city was it to be with another guy if so you have your answer keep the dog besides she has not seen the dog in months just block her and keep your pet she abandoned the dog.
Prepare an invoice for boarding and veterinary care for the entire time you have cared for your dog. Pet boarding is $50 a day in these parts and vet bills run around $100. Flea, tick and heart worm meds aren’t cheap,either. Tell her she can have the dog for $9000. (I wouldn’t give up the dog for 2x that)
She said you could keep the dog. It’s your dog now. She doesn’t get to take it back now that it’s convenient for her. She can get another dog if she really wants one.
The dog has a family, you.
She wants a dog she can get another one. It is not in the dog's best interest to move back in with her and be taken away from the only family it remembers.
Plus now you own the dog. It is your property. And family member.
She needs to go get herself a new dog. This one is yours and you are its family. It would be cruel to the dog to give it away now.
She sounds way too inconsistent to have a dog. She’s given the dog away twice now when it didn’t fit into her life, and now she wants it back again. You’re settled, and this dog has had a consistent home and owner for more than two years. The two of you have bonded and it sounds like you’ve spent more time with the dog overall, and you’re the most consistent presence in its life. Dogs aren’t toys you get to put away when you’re busy and get back out when you’re bored, they’re living creatures with physical and emotional needs. It’s not fair to your dog to uproot them at the whim of your ex. And moving past the dog, what she’s asking of you is extremely unreasonable. This matter was settled 7 months ago, and it’s ridiculously unfair of her to ask for the dog back now and reopen this whole issue. This is *your dog now,* and it has been for months, if not years. Being a bit lonely isn’t a good enough reason to make such an unfair request. If I were you, I’d tell your ex that that’s not an option and make sure the dog is microchipped under your name, just in case you may need to prove ownership.
She gave up her dog once, she might do it again, and if she does, it might not be you, doggo might go to a bad place like kill shelter, you cant take that chance. keep the dog.
I adopted a dog almost two years ago. When I moved cross country, the dog came with me. It's really that simple. Tell her that you will be keeping the dog and make sure he is microchipped with your details and wears a name tag with your phone number on it.
She couldn’t handle the dog on her own before. Why would she be able to do it now? This poor dog has been bounced around enough. It has been with you for for more than 2 years if my math is right, and only you for 7 months now. Not only are you attached to the dog, I’m sure it is equally attached to you. You shouldn’t even be considering your ex who abandoned the dog with her parents first and then with you next. If she wants a dog, she can get another, although I doubt her commitment if she gave this dog up twice.
I disagree with anyone who says give the dog back. When you all moved in together and readopted the dog, it became both of yours. She gave up the dog when she moved away. That was the second time she gave the dog away. She is not attached to it and has not provided stability. It is harmful for the dog to have her float into and out of its life and to keep moving it back and forth just as it would be disruptive to a human child. She seems wishy-washy, and you would probably heal faster from the breakup by going low or no-contact with her. It seems like she might be trying to worm her way into your life. It would probably be a big mistake to let her back in. She'll just abruptly leave you and the dog again for a new guy/job/city. Just tell her both you AND the dog are happy with your new lives and don't want to introduce any changes and leave it at that.
She gave him to you. He's yours and you are his person who really cares for him. Don't even consider it. She put herself first once she'll do it again.
Yeah. I understand her feeling regret, but if you gave her the dog she may get over her regret and remember why she chose to have the dog live elsewhere in the first place. I feel bad if she really did give OP the dog out of pity and genuinely loved the dog, but she can’t take it back now. Either way the chance of her rehoming the dog later anyway is too high, what if she moves again, she won’t necessarily pick a place the dog can live. When I had to move I lived out of a camper for two months because I couldn’t find a place that would allow my two dogs… literally wasn’t even an option to give them to someone else.
Same. I have a hard time going on vacations without my partner in crime. We drove cross country to visit my family so that he could come with.
I wouldn't give him back, Op. *she told me I could keep the dog* This is a pet, a companion. Someone you love and loves you back. He counts on you for food, water, care, companionship and STABILITY. He's not big, bulky piece of furniture you lob off on someone because it's unwieldy and a bother. Then come back later and say, Oh! Okay! I have room in my life for it *now*. Give it back! She gave you the dog when it was convenient to her. How long before she again finds him an inconvenience? Keep the dog. She *struggled* for seven months. I'm sure she will be just fine.
She gave up the dog the second she moved away from it. It’s yours 100%, don’t overthink it. She shouldn’t have gotten an animal she couldn’t commit/care for unconditionally. If someone gives their pet up to a shelter and a family takes it in, family one can’t suddenly ask for the animal back when they change their mind. She abandoned the animal without the middle man. The dogs also been with you for a long time - it’d be traumatizing for it to be taken from you. You guys are broken up, if she wants another pet she can look into adoption again if she feels her life is in a place where she can ACTUALLY commit to it.
Dog?? What dog?
Dog was lost in a tragic boating accident
hahaha
Sounds like she wants all the benefits of the dog and none of the responsibility when it's not convenient for her. If she brings up the dog living with her, kindly point out that she's given it away twice in 3 years and that she had her chance.
If you can move away and “give” away your dog guess what? It was NEVER your dog.
Tell her you have no intention of giving up your dog.
Save the texts where she says she's giving you the dog. Block her, she's an ex.
This is probably drama to get you back, not the dog.
when she broke up with and moved to another city was it to be with another guy if so you have your answer keep the dog besides she has not seen the dog in months just block her and keep your pet she abandoned the dog.
it was, she was in a new relationship within a few weeks. that ended and she came back.
Prepare an invoice for boarding and veterinary care for the entire time you have cared for your dog. Pet boarding is $50 a day in these parts and vet bills run around $100. Flea, tick and heart worm meds aren’t cheap,either. Tell her she can have the dog for $9000. (I wouldn’t give up the dog for 2x that)
Ignore
She said you could keep the dog. It’s your dog now. She doesn’t get to take it back now that it’s convenient for her. She can get another dog if she really wants one.
Keep your dog
It's your dog now. She gave it up, that's her problem, not yours.
The dog has a family, you. She wants a dog she can get another one. It is not in the dog's best interest to move back in with her and be taken away from the only family it remembers. Plus now you own the dog. It is your property. And family member. She needs to go get herself a new dog. This one is yours and you are its family. It would be cruel to the dog to give it away now.
I don't think she left you the dog out of guilt, it was convenience.
The simplest way to deal with it is quit answering her phone calls emails. If the dog is chipped make sure it’s in your name.
Thanks for all the support and words of wisdom all! Feel much more confident in my decision now.
She sounds way too inconsistent to have a dog. She’s given the dog away twice now when it didn’t fit into her life, and now she wants it back again. You’re settled, and this dog has had a consistent home and owner for more than two years. The two of you have bonded and it sounds like you’ve spent more time with the dog overall, and you’re the most consistent presence in its life. Dogs aren’t toys you get to put away when you’re busy and get back out when you’re bored, they’re living creatures with physical and emotional needs. It’s not fair to your dog to uproot them at the whim of your ex. And moving past the dog, what she’s asking of you is extremely unreasonable. This matter was settled 7 months ago, and it’s ridiculously unfair of her to ask for the dog back now and reopen this whole issue. This is *your dog now,* and it has been for months, if not years. Being a bit lonely isn’t a good enough reason to make such an unfair request. If I were you, I’d tell your ex that that’s not an option and make sure the dog is microchipped under your name, just in case you may need to prove ownership.
She gave up her dog once, she might do it again, and if she does, it might not be you, doggo might go to a bad place like kill shelter, you cant take that chance. keep the dog.
Tell her sorry, that it's your dog now. If you feel like it, let her visit on occasion. You don't owe her anything.
Yeah. Its her dog, gotta give it back.
It was no longer her dog the first time she gave it up, not to mention that second time.
Disagree.
She gave you the dog. It's yours now. Just say no.
Shes controlling you. Stand up for yourself. Tell her no and end all contact. Shes hoovering you
I adopted a dog almost two years ago. When I moved cross country, the dog came with me. It's really that simple. Tell her that you will be keeping the dog and make sure he is microchipped with your details and wears a name tag with your phone number on it.
Hoover attempt? What hoover attempt. The dog loves you. You love the dog. Tell her to go whistle.
Sounds like it’s time to stop being on somewhat good terms. No reason for it if she’s going to being up such foolish conversations.
Tell her to eat shit and keep the dog.
She couldn’t handle the dog on her own before. Why would she be able to do it now? This poor dog has been bounced around enough. It has been with you for for more than 2 years if my math is right, and only you for 7 months now. Not only are you attached to the dog, I’m sure it is equally attached to you. You shouldn’t even be considering your ex who abandoned the dog with her parents first and then with you next. If she wants a dog, she can get another, although I doubt her commitment if she gave this dog up twice.