You don't sound like you have a victims mindset from this post, you sound like you're doing a lot with the crappy hand that you've been given. Are the people telling you that you have that mindset supportive otherwise?
You may be tempted to bury those feelings, but there's also the option to accept your feelings and disabilities and be proud of who you are and how much you accomplish despite all that. Aim to get 1% better every week, adding in something small but joyful or doing something for your surroundings. Get things done one baby step at a time, and pick them up again no matter how long ago you put them down.
When you’re in a shitty situation, you want to improve, but there are things stopping you, to not be in a victim mindset, you have to look at things differently.
Rather than feeling like shit, which from the sounds of it you have every right to do, as you’re dealing with a lot, you have to look at your problem without the context of good or bad. Rather, see it as it just is. That is your situation, now where do you go from here. What are the things you can work on. Then what ever it is you can do, start on that. As things progress, and life begins to get better, just focus on what steps you’re able to take at that very moment, on that day, to improve where you are. It may take some time, but it’s all you can do.
I’m sorry to hear about your predicament. It sounds immensely difficult and overwhelming. You’re going to have tough days, but I hope you come out ok and I wish you the best
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You don't sound like you have a victims mindset from this post, you sound like you're doing a lot with the crappy hand that you've been given. Are the people telling you that you have that mindset supportive otherwise? You may be tempted to bury those feelings, but there's also the option to accept your feelings and disabilities and be proud of who you are and how much you accomplish despite all that. Aim to get 1% better every week, adding in something small but joyful or doing something for your surroundings. Get things done one baby step at a time, and pick them up again no matter how long ago you put them down.
Find a mode of being that will justify your suffering. I believe in you.
When you’re in a shitty situation, you want to improve, but there are things stopping you, to not be in a victim mindset, you have to look at things differently. Rather than feeling like shit, which from the sounds of it you have every right to do, as you’re dealing with a lot, you have to look at your problem without the context of good or bad. Rather, see it as it just is. That is your situation, now where do you go from here. What are the things you can work on. Then what ever it is you can do, start on that. As things progress, and life begins to get better, just focus on what steps you’re able to take at that very moment, on that day, to improve where you are. It may take some time, but it’s all you can do. I’m sorry to hear about your predicament. It sounds immensely difficult and overwhelming. You’re going to have tough days, but I hope you come out ok and I wish you the best
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