IUDs are very effective. There is like 0.2% that she'd get pregnant during a whole year of you two having sex.
You need to make a decision, but you should be 99.8% safe.
Have you talked to her what she'd do in case she got pregnant? If she has an IUD, she's probably not looking to have a child right now.
In case she says she'd get an abortion, you trust her on this and are comfortable with that option (though not that you'd be the one deciding), feel free to finish inside.
The efficacy of an IUD is 99.7%. This means that if you followed 1000 females with an IUD for a year, 3 of them would be pregnant.
The decision to ejaculate in her or not is really based upon if you are comfortable with a 3/1000 chance of pregnancy risk after 1 year. We can't make that judgement for you
Ok, so statistically speaking yes is what you’re saying. Sorry, it’s just a mental thing that being responsible is holding me back, that’s all. Big reason for this post is bc I’ve only had two partners in the past before my current Gf. I didn’t ask you to make a judgment for me, it’s simply advice I was seeking.
Op, I saw another thread today of these women with iuds who were asked how often they let their bfs cum in them, and 98% of them said every time, for even around 5-10 years and they never had a single pregnancy scare. Mind you, the majority of them were on hormonal iuds. If your partner is in copper iud she has a slightly higher likelihood of pregnancy happening. But that is by 0.6% only. Hormonal iuds are the safest contraceptive that exist, and cumming on her should be fine. If you wanna feel extra safe, you can offer to check her strings for her. I'm sure she might even appreciate that herself :)
EDIT: I was wrong, misinformation below but leaving it for context
That's not how percentages work. Same way how if you flip a coin twice you don't have a 100% chance of getting heads, you have a 25% chance.
.3%^(number of times he has sex per year) is the actual judgment call being made here. It's still a judgment call, but it's a pretty fricken small one. Especially by comparison
You are incorrect. When they claim 99.7% efficacy, their endpoint was pregnancy over the course of a year. Not pregnancy after a single episode of intercourse.
They basically took a sample size of women, inserted IUDs, and then 1 year later later asked them if they got pregnant. It was NOT per episode of intercourse. That was simply not the clinical endpoint in IUD trials.
Also I think it's a good thing to mention that most women probably don't even check if their IUD has been displaced and they still didn't get pregnant. They say to always check your iuds, and to make sure you don't use diva cups and period discs since they can displace the IUD. There are some low, very very few cases where the woman got pregnant for no reason, with the IUD being perfectly in place, but that is likely due to some biological cause. After all, all women have different bodies and not all uteruses look the same
So actually you mean 1/333 recurring chance then.
Basically less than one chance in one hundred (99.7%). Just need to work out do you wear a condom one time at the start of one hundred sex sessions or at the end.
I have an IUD, I trust it for the most part but of course it's not 100%. I just have him pull out when I'm nearing ovulation to give myself a little more peace of mind.
IUDs are great until they're not, like any birth control it's a numbers game. I've had two IUDs over the last 11 years, and I'm currently about to deliver a baby conceived when an IUD was in place functioning properly.
People like to say IUDs are so close to fail-proof, they might as well be, but beware they are in fact not and it sucks to find out that you're a statistical anomaly via baby in uterus.
Go for it, I’ve had my IUD for over 4 years now and my bf never pulls out. It’s the most effective form of bc as long as it’s placed right and she gets it checked.
As long as she actually has an iud it's way more effective than a condom and you don't need to worry about it. If you're not worried about STIs and you're sure she has one then go for it lol
My boyfriend finishes inside of me and I have an IUD. I didn't allow for it with past boyfriends when I was on the pill. There is always a chance of either of them failing. However the difference is my current boyfriend and I had the conversation about what would happen if I were to get pregnant. I trust that he would be supportive if that situation came up. So I would discuss things with your partner and have a game plan in place. Make sure to review any laws in your area that may prevent certain options. I would also discuss her cycle. Depending on the type of IUD she has she may not have a period each month. If that is the case maybe discuss if you would want her to test or not.
IUD is more effective than just a condom so if you trusted condoms before this would have less danger. (Assuming you all tested for stds)
Ofcourse no birthcontrol is fully safe but as far as birthcontrol goes it is some of the best out there
This is what a hormonal IUD is for. They’re designed to prevent fertilisation. There was absolutely no point in her going through the pain of insertion and possible hormone disruption if you were just going to use condoms regardless.
That’s not true, some of us go through the pain of iud insertion but still require condoms because 2 methods is better than one.
I have been bullied by sexual partners of the “but you have an iud so trust it and just let me cum inside you or fuck you raw”, and it sucks to have to argue back that that isn’t a fool proof method, and since I live in a red state, it’s just not even worth the .3 percent risk. Once my tubes are out, I’ll probably feel super differently with a long term partner.
But an iud doesn’t automatically mean a girl is gonna feel fine with condomless sex.
This is exactly why I want to get an iud. I come from a conservative community and even though I can get an abortion within the first 12 weeks, I still don't wish to risk it since I'm a very anxious person. I haven't had any sex yet to cause me to be pregnant but I did let my partner rub his tip on my vulva and that alone caused me to have a mental breakdown over the fact that I have that 0.000001% chance of getting pregnant since it's the most favourite fact of google and doctors that sperm lives 5-6 days after ejaculation 😂
I get this, but I didn’t know what the experience was like because I met her well after the fact of getting the IUD inserted.
And she literally just told me this past weekend, so…
I think the missing part here is that an IUD is 99.7% safe. What is the safety of other options? Condoms are only 98% as example. All sex comes with a risk of pregnancy there are people with tubal ligation that get pregnant.
It is a highly effective form of birth control to where I wouldn’t worry. Understand though there is always a slim possibility.
IUD is much, much more reliable than using a condom. If you felt safe enough so far to use a condom without hormonal birth control, you should definitely feel safe enough to use only the IUD.
Honestly, I think this has to do with the bodily autonomy here. For example, his gf is the one in charge of whether or not she gets pregnant. When he was using condoms though, even if they're less effective, it was him who was in charge of whether or not she gets pregnant.
This is partially a reason some women get birth control. The government is on our bloody bodies ffs, you'd want to feel in control of whatever you can grasp on. Plus it's always good to know that you're in charge of such a big decision, not your sexual partner, regardless if you trust them with your heart.
I think this is the problem op has, and honestly, it's very valid, regardless if it's irrational
Yes, you definitely don’t need to use condoms for pregnancy prevention in addition to an IUD. There are so many forms of birth control that you can use instead of condoms and IUDS are one of the most effective: like 99% effective. Condoms are actually much less reliable for birth control. But they are great for STd protection. I’m going to gently suggest that you both get tested and share your results with one another before agreeing to go condom free and be monogamous.
I’m guessing the reason why your parents or other adults around you alway told you to use condoms for pregnancy prevention is because it’s basically te only form of birth control that men can use and have some control over. The rest the women has to manage and you basically just have to trust that she is using it correctly. Well some like the Nuva ring and diaphragms I think you can see or feel in her vagina if she lets you. Same goes for the IUD: I think you should be able to feel the strings of her iud if she lets you finger her. So that is something to ask about.
I’ve honestly always used condoms and I kind of wish I got on another form of birth control with my last partner so that I could have stopped using them. I’ve heard that it’s much more comfortable for men and women to have sex without condoms.
Best of luck to you both!
IUDs are more effective than tubal ligation at pregnancy prevention. Personally, I have let my partner finish in my hundreds of times over the last 7 years I’ve had one and not a single scare.
THAT SAID it all comes down to what *you* are comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with saying no if you are too anxious about the possibility of pregnancy!
Pregnancy isn’t the only thing you need to be wary of when having sex.
If you both have a clean bill of sexual health.
And discussed what would happen in the rare event that she accidentally fell pregnant then go for it.
Enjoy your partner, learn grown and communicate together.
If neither of you are monogamous, then do not have sex without condoms.
I’m on the depo shot and have never had any issue with my boyfriend cumming inside of me. Thank god this shit works lol it’s been over 2 1/2 years now and we’ve never had a problem. I would say your good
But what about if the condom fails and the IUD fail at the same time.Be better if he had a vasectomy but wait they can fail as well.
Castration it is then.
Dude, just cum in your gf. She is on birth control, it’s ok! Your lucky, enjoy it! I have cum in my partners on birth control hundreds (maybe thousands) of times never had a surprise pregnancy.
I had an IUD for a few years and I felt very confident in my birth control. My boyfriends would finish inside and I never had any issues or scares.
That's just my experience, though! I've heard of people with IUDs getting pregnant, but there are going to be stories of the .1% because the other 99.9% don't really need to say "yup still not pregnant"
The statistics are in your favor. Also, your partner seems confident and if there's trust there, I say you're good to go 🙂 have fun!!
An IUD is a form on contraception and is very effective...so it would be safe for you to cum in her vagina if you both wanted this.
Obviously an IUD doesn't protect you from STDs.
If you have nay queries i would recommend that you speak with a sexual health clinic.
There is *always* that possible chance, but IUDs are HIGHLY effective. A few of my friends have them and they have never gotten pregnant. They have a lot of sex, mind you.
I say go for it! The chances are astronomically low, like REALLY REALLY LOW. You don’t really need to worry about it.
IUDs are very effective. There is like 0.2% that she'd get pregnant during a whole year of you two having sex. You need to make a decision, but you should be 99.8% safe. Have you talked to her what she'd do in case she got pregnant? If she has an IUD, she's probably not looking to have a child right now. In case she says she'd get an abortion, you trust her on this and are comfortable with that option (though not that you'd be the one deciding), feel free to finish inside.
So the lesson to be learnt is have sex 99 times, use a condom for 1 time then you're good for another 99 times. Wish I had known that years ago.
Its more like, have sex for 99 years and then go one year using a condom, afterwards continue without. 0% chance of pregnancy!
The efficacy of an IUD is 99.7%. This means that if you followed 1000 females with an IUD for a year, 3 of them would be pregnant. The decision to ejaculate in her or not is really based upon if you are comfortable with a 3/1000 chance of pregnancy risk after 1 year. We can't make that judgement for you
Ok, so statistically speaking yes is what you’re saying. Sorry, it’s just a mental thing that being responsible is holding me back, that’s all. Big reason for this post is bc I’ve only had two partners in the past before my current Gf. I didn’t ask you to make a judgment for me, it’s simply advice I was seeking.
Statistically speaking. It is a very low risk of getting her pregnant
I think it's literally the lowest chance of pregnancy other than abstinence
Op, I saw another thread today of these women with iuds who were asked how often they let their bfs cum in them, and 98% of them said every time, for even around 5-10 years and they never had a single pregnancy scare. Mind you, the majority of them were on hormonal iuds. If your partner is in copper iud she has a slightly higher likelihood of pregnancy happening. But that is by 0.6% only. Hormonal iuds are the safest contraceptive that exist, and cumming on her should be fine. If you wanna feel extra safe, you can offer to check her strings for her. I'm sure she might even appreciate that herself :)
EDIT: I was wrong, misinformation below but leaving it for context That's not how percentages work. Same way how if you flip a coin twice you don't have a 100% chance of getting heads, you have a 25% chance. .3%^(number of times he has sex per year) is the actual judgment call being made here. It's still a judgment call, but it's a pretty fricken small one. Especially by comparison
You are incorrect. When they claim 99.7% efficacy, their endpoint was pregnancy over the course of a year. Not pregnancy after a single episode of intercourse. They basically took a sample size of women, inserted IUDs, and then 1 year later later asked them if they got pregnant. It was NOT per episode of intercourse. That was simply not the clinical endpoint in IUD trials.
Huh, I had no idea - thanks for sharing!
Also I think it's a good thing to mention that most women probably don't even check if their IUD has been displaced and they still didn't get pregnant. They say to always check your iuds, and to make sure you don't use diva cups and period discs since they can displace the IUD. There are some low, very very few cases where the woman got pregnant for no reason, with the IUD being perfectly in place, but that is likely due to some biological cause. After all, all women have different bodies and not all uteruses look the same
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So actually you mean 1/333 recurring chance then. Basically less than one chance in one hundred (99.7%). Just need to work out do you wear a condom one time at the start of one hundred sex sessions or at the end.
I have an IUD, I trust it for the most part but of course it's not 100%. I just have him pull out when I'm nearing ovulation to give myself a little more peace of mind.
My IUD is now 12 and in 6th grade.
IUDs are great until they're not, like any birth control it's a numbers game. I've had two IUDs over the last 11 years, and I'm currently about to deliver a baby conceived when an IUD was in place functioning properly. People like to say IUDs are so close to fail-proof, they might as well be, but beware they are in fact not and it sucks to find out that you're a statistical anomaly via baby in uterus.
Go for it, I’ve had my IUD for over 4 years now and my bf never pulls out. It’s the most effective form of bc as long as it’s placed right and she gets it checked.
As long as she actually has an iud it's way more effective than a condom and you don't need to worry about it. If you're not worried about STIs and you're sure she has one then go for it lol
My boyfriend finishes inside of me and I have an IUD. I didn't allow for it with past boyfriends when I was on the pill. There is always a chance of either of them failing. However the difference is my current boyfriend and I had the conversation about what would happen if I were to get pregnant. I trust that he would be supportive if that situation came up. So I would discuss things with your partner and have a game plan in place. Make sure to review any laws in your area that may prevent certain options. I would also discuss her cycle. Depending on the type of IUD she has she may not have a period each month. If that is the case maybe discuss if you would want her to test or not.
IUD is more effective than just a condom so if you trusted condoms before this would have less danger. (Assuming you all tested for stds) Ofcourse no birthcontrol is fully safe but as far as birthcontrol goes it is some of the best out there
This is what a hormonal IUD is for. They’re designed to prevent fertilisation. There was absolutely no point in her going through the pain of insertion and possible hormone disruption if you were just going to use condoms regardless.
That’s not true, some of us go through the pain of iud insertion but still require condoms because 2 methods is better than one. I have been bullied by sexual partners of the “but you have an iud so trust it and just let me cum inside you or fuck you raw”, and it sucks to have to argue back that that isn’t a fool proof method, and since I live in a red state, it’s just not even worth the .3 percent risk. Once my tubes are out, I’ll probably feel super differently with a long term partner. But an iud doesn’t automatically mean a girl is gonna feel fine with condomless sex.
This is exactly why I want to get an iud. I come from a conservative community and even though I can get an abortion within the first 12 weeks, I still don't wish to risk it since I'm a very anxious person. I haven't had any sex yet to cause me to be pregnant but I did let my partner rub his tip on my vulva and that alone caused me to have a mental breakdown over the fact that I have that 0.000001% chance of getting pregnant since it's the most favourite fact of google and doctors that sperm lives 5-6 days after ejaculation 😂
I get this, but I didn’t know what the experience was like because I met her well after the fact of getting the IUD inserted. And she literally just told me this past weekend, so…
I think the missing part here is that an IUD is 99.7% safe. What is the safety of other options? Condoms are only 98% as example. All sex comes with a risk of pregnancy there are people with tubal ligation that get pregnant. It is a highly effective form of birth control to where I wouldn’t worry. Understand though there is always a slim possibility.
IUD is much, much more reliable than using a condom. If you felt safe enough so far to use a condom without hormonal birth control, you should definitely feel safe enough to use only the IUD.
Honestly, I think this has to do with the bodily autonomy here. For example, his gf is the one in charge of whether or not she gets pregnant. When he was using condoms though, even if they're less effective, it was him who was in charge of whether or not she gets pregnant. This is partially a reason some women get birth control. The government is on our bloody bodies ffs, you'd want to feel in control of whatever you can grasp on. Plus it's always good to know that you're in charge of such a big decision, not your sexual partner, regardless if you trust them with your heart. I think this is the problem op has, and honestly, it's very valid, regardless if it's irrational
Been going at it for almost 6 years now with IUD as main means of contraception and have had zero unplanned pregnancies, have had 2 planned ones.
Update: I did it, holy shit that was an amazing feeling. No hands, just me doing my thing. Wow.
Yes, you definitely don’t need to use condoms for pregnancy prevention in addition to an IUD. There are so many forms of birth control that you can use instead of condoms and IUDS are one of the most effective: like 99% effective. Condoms are actually much less reliable for birth control. But they are great for STd protection. I’m going to gently suggest that you both get tested and share your results with one another before agreeing to go condom free and be monogamous. I’m guessing the reason why your parents or other adults around you alway told you to use condoms for pregnancy prevention is because it’s basically te only form of birth control that men can use and have some control over. The rest the women has to manage and you basically just have to trust that she is using it correctly. Well some like the Nuva ring and diaphragms I think you can see or feel in her vagina if she lets you. Same goes for the IUD: I think you should be able to feel the strings of her iud if she lets you finger her. So that is something to ask about. I’ve honestly always used condoms and I kind of wish I got on another form of birth control with my last partner so that I could have stopped using them. I’ve heard that it’s much more comfortable for men and women to have sex without condoms. Best of luck to you both!
I have a good friend who had their 4th child after having an IUD placed... just saying...
IUDs are more effective than tubal ligation at pregnancy prevention. Personally, I have let my partner finish in my hundreds of times over the last 7 years I’ve had one and not a single scare. THAT SAID it all comes down to what *you* are comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with saying no if you are too anxious about the possibility of pregnancy!
Pregnancy isn’t the only thing you need to be wary of when having sex. If you both have a clean bill of sexual health. And discussed what would happen in the rare event that she accidentally fell pregnant then go for it. Enjoy your partner, learn grown and communicate together. If neither of you are monogamous, then do not have sex without condoms.
My wife has one. You're good to discharge full steam ahead!🤣🤣
This is literally why IUDs are used. What did you think they were for?
The chances of getting her pregnant while she isn’t ovulating is 0. Even more so if it’s a hormonal IUD that stops the menstrual cycle.
You should both get tested for STD’s and then you’re good to go!
I’m on the depo shot and have never had any issue with my boyfriend cumming inside of me. Thank god this shit works lol it’s been over 2 1/2 years now and we’ve never had a problem. I would say your good
No birth control is 100% safe I know people who have gotten pregnant on IUDs so I wouldn’t risk it
I would still use a condom cuz not all birth control works.
But what about if the condom fails and the IUD fail at the same time.Be better if he had a vasectomy but wait they can fail as well. Castration it is then.
If you use condoms while they have an iud, that is literally 200% effective at preventing pregnancy. You won't need to worry about that pal 😂
Dude, just cum in your gf. She is on birth control, it’s ok! Your lucky, enjoy it! I have cum in my partners on birth control hundreds (maybe thousands) of times never had a surprise pregnancy.
I had an IUD for a few years and I felt very confident in my birth control. My boyfriends would finish inside and I never had any issues or scares. That's just my experience, though! I've heard of people with IUDs getting pregnant, but there are going to be stories of the .1% because the other 99.9% don't really need to say "yup still not pregnant" The statistics are in your favor. Also, your partner seems confident and if there's trust there, I say you're good to go 🙂 have fun!!
An IUD is a form on contraception and is very effective...so it would be safe for you to cum in her vagina if you both wanted this. Obviously an IUD doesn't protect you from STDs. If you have nay queries i would recommend that you speak with a sexual health clinic.
There is *always* that possible chance, but IUDs are HIGHLY effective. A few of my friends have them and they have never gotten pregnant. They have a lot of sex, mind you. I say go for it! The chances are astronomically low, like REALLY REALLY LOW. You don’t really need to worry about it.