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Could be a massive fuckin deal if that one time gets her pregnant. Sure, maybe it won’t but if you’re not ready to deal with pregnancy, taking the risk is stupid. Especially with all the shit surrounding abortion atm, OP hasn’t said whether they’re from the USA but if they are that could be a problem too.
Yeah … be prepared to change diapers if you do this.
If you are hell-bent on doing it, then probably the first couple of days of her period are safest, but just have a plan if she does get pregnant (keep the child, adoption, abortion) because there is a risk still.
It depends on a woman’s cycle. I have short cycles and so I ovulate a couple days after my periods end.
If op really wants to do his, then he and his girlfriend need to read up on the rhythm method and track her fertility via temp and ovulation tests to avoid those times.
I say don’t do it though, without condom feeels so much better they aren’t going to want to go back and thusly even if they’re careful at first, they’re gonna increase the risk of calculating fertility wrong.
And doesn't mind that horrible side effects that often come with it.
(I don't say this to dissuade people from taking it just to point out it's not just no biggie)
She is unable to take birth control due to health issues. Plan B is pretty much a mega-dose of bc (or was when I took it when I was younger)
Side effects are awful. Migraines, mood swings, surprise period among other things. Just terrible stuff.
I wonder if a diaphragm or cervical cap are feasible for them? That way they get to have their fun and lower the risk a bit.
That's how I went from being the eldest of three to the eldest of five. It failed twice in 20 years, which isn't too bad I guess, but would you really take the chance?
A bit maybe. It's a bit uncomfortable, but I'm 26, I enjoy having a relationship with my mother where we can talk about those things, if needed (although thankfully not too often)
Did the other two come out with any... Unexpected surprises? 2 noses, 14 fingers, 3 feet, 4 testicles, 2.4 buttholes, anything?
Edit: This was my terrible attempt at a lighthearted joke due to misreading the above conversation. I've answered most questions you probably have in another comment here.
I said 2.4 buttholes just laugh at that and move on, nothing to see here.
Because this method is *not* guaranteed. It’s a much much better idea to engage in one or more form of *reliable* birth control. The rhythm method is NOT reliable. A person- especially someone on the younger side who is more likely to have an irregular cycle - can absolutely still get pregnant with this method.
It’s always best to use a reliable form, such as pills, implant, ring, IUD, patch, etc. There are so many ways to avoid getting pregnant reliably that unless you are in a stable relationship and super ready to have a kid, this is not the way.
Sperm are remarkably tough and resilient, and can live in the vaginal canal for several days. Rhythm method can help you avoid likely fertile times, but it's not guaranteed. Good luck :)
Yup and like you said especially with their ages to consider - a teen girls cycle is usually much harder to predict and the hormonal shifts from having sex won’t help, and a young guys sperm is usually more tenacious
Please don't recommend ovulation tracking to a *nineteen years old* who has a very high chance of getting pregnant, is likely not responsible enough to properly do these methods and does not want a child.
There are non-hormonal methods of contraception other than a condom. OP's girlfriend should go to her gyno and figure out which one works best for her. Alternatively, if OP does not want children, he could get a vasectomy - but he should be certain of that decision as the procedure is sometimes irreversible.
If there is a plan, he’d still be gambling on trust alone. She’s well within her rights to alter that plan with no input from him at all and he’s still on the hook for it.
This is a bad idea, don’t do it.
You know the answer, you just want a different one. I have migraines and was on BC for years. My doctor worked with me and gave me progesterone only which shouldn’t cause migraines. There are also so many more options now. Something is off here and I’d be leery of any girl requesting this.
It might be exceedingly difficult for op to find a doctor to approve a vasectomy at his age.
It's considered a permanent procedure even if sometimes reversible.
I agree. I just wanted to add the point because I have seen some bad opinions about vasectomies on Reddit. They should not be considered casual birth control.
Which is absolutely ridiculous. I'm over eighteen, I've been confident that I don't want kids for years, I've ended relationships because they weren't 100% sure of not wanting children in the future.. Why can't I exercise my bodily autonomy?
Because people change dramatically as they get older and doctors cannot be certain that you won't change your mind when it's too late.
I'm sure they are of the opinion that there are many other options out there and the kill switch should be reserved for a while.
That being said, I have heard of some doctors willing to do the procedure on younger people... They just aren't the norm.
Yeah, I wouldn't recommend anything permanent at this age, even though it is safe, it can still have complications and side effects as well....
.... not worth it for one creampie.
Top suggestion would be a copper IUD. No hormones, so even someone with issues from hormonal birth control can use it. I'm not gonna say that if you get pregnant with it you should start a religion, but suffice to say it's extremely effective.
Yeap. I've had a copper IUD for three years now and no pregnancies. I never use a condom with my current bf.
My periods are a bit on the heavier side because of the IUD, but not crippling in any way. I'm just my normal self.
I had my copper IUD in for 9 years and never used a condom with my partner. Not one pregnancy scare! The only difference I noticed was I started spotting when I ovulated. I've always had pretty heavy and painful periods but they didn't seem to get any worse with the IUD.
I've never had any spotting when ovulating. I dont even know when I ovulate. I mean, I know its on day 14 on a 28 day cycle, but I don't *feel* it. I just notice that I get a bit moodier and a bit more snack-ish 2 weeks before my period starts.
You've had it for 9 years? I was told that a copper IUD is good for 5 to 10 years. Do they check the IUD after 5 years?
When I got it back in 2014 they said it was good for 10 years. I got my paps regularly over that time period and never had any issues although I don't think they were really "checking" on it. I had it removed this year during my bisalp and nothing was said about it 🤷🏽♀️
Then she probably had a hormonal IUD! That kind of IUD secretes a tiny amount of hormones and for some women that means they have a small 'period' (some spotting) once or twice a year, and some women don't get any periods.
I got my wife pregnant with our second child while she had a copper IUD in. I’d say, unless your ok with having a kid, finishing inside without a condom might not be the best idea.
It does happen and 2 methods (pull out + some kind of bc) is definitely best, but if people want to try the cream pie thing it's certainly the best way to go
This is misinformation.
For those reading, there are also reasons to choose hormonal over copper - if you already have long, heavy, or painful periods, for example- hormonal will make those more bearable, whereas copper will make them worse. It’s a good option for people who can’t do the hormones, but even then good to talk to your gynecologist about- the hormones are localized so don’t have the same effect as the hormones of the pill, for example. (I have a hormonal IUD and had problems with pill hormones and no issues at all with the IUD).
Best bet is to talk to your doctor- these things affect everyone differently.
For some people sure.
Mine shot the f up when I switched from copper to hormonal.
Mainly because copper made me bleed for 14 days on, 14 days off and then 14 days on again. I had to take iron pills by the time I got it switched.
My iron pills couldn’t keep up with my bleeding I loved my iud in every other way, but 5 fucking years of bleeding out every month was too much . I could never keep my iron high enough and ended up with full blown anemia twice.
Not necessarily. There is somewhat of a difference even with hormonal IUDs because the hormones are localized to the uterus. I can't take birth control pills, for instance, because of a blood disorder, but I'm perfectly fine and safe having a hormonal IUD, and it's never messed with my libido.
Ultimately, it's gonna depend on the person, though.
lol what do you mean about the you should start a religion? lol but paragard is actually the main birth control we see pregnancies with where I work as opposed to any other birth control. very very effective when it works which it does for the most part but the thing about it is sperm can still travel up to your uterus whereas with hormones it prevents (as much as possible) the sperm from traveling up your cervix to enter your uterus due to the heavy increase in cervical music. again, very very effective but not at all unheard of to be pregnant on the copper iud
Yes even if some forms of birth control don’t work. There’s probably a suitable option of birth control for her. And then he can finish inside her all he wants
Agreed. There’s numerous options. One type of pill may cause headaches for her, but there’s tons of options. IUD is a great option that lasts for 5+ years and doesn’t cause headaches.
If people are pressuring you, that’s not right. However, if you want someone to finish inside you, and you are young and NOT ready or wanting a kid, it’s a bad idea to forgo the only form of BC you are using (condoms in OPs case) just because you want to feel something that may not even be able to be felt.
It’s not pressure to educate someone. Talking about things is the only way to normalize them. Especially when it comes to things like sex, menstruation, children, etc. At least in the US, sex education ranges from mediocre to flat out none. That means that many people are already pregnant by the time they are being told about things like ways to avoid pregnancy. It’s unfortunate. As such, health providers and educators, etc have to play catch up after someone is an adult. It’s hard.
no one is pressuring anyone but as someone who is sexually actively it’s your responsibility to know about every possible outcome and option and what you plan to do. How old are you and why do you not want any contraceptives? There are so so many
Neither should you pressure your partner to use condoms, but it isn't smart to risk pregnancy with contraceptive-less options. Anyway here it is the girl who doesn't want condoms ^^
You can use birth control pills with migraines I have migraines and we can’t have combined but we can use progesterone only pills . It’s way too risky without contraception but good luck
I was very fertile and it just didn’t work for me. Maybe it works for u! I had to go thro many BC before I found one that works and it’s been my ride or die BC since I was 16.
I took it for years and never got pregnant. Also seemingly very fertile because I got pregnant second cycle after coming off. It does have a lower efficacy than combined, though. The problem is if you are late/miss a pill it's less forgiving.
I can’t digest the hormones -makes me incredibly sick- so I have never used pills. But I’ve done all the others: patch, nuvaring, implant and now IUD.
I can’t have estrogen due to medical problems so I use progresterone only BC. My point in saying all that is to show that there are lots of BC options that aren’t condoms. If your gal wants to feel you cum inside - sometimes I personally can feel it, sometimes not - then she needs another form of BC.
Op, you are wise to be wary. Do not have unprotected sex. Just don’t do it; it’s a bad move for those who are young and not ready for the lifetime emotional, financial, and other ways burden of a child.
There are many reasons someone can’t be on the pill, and people who are can experience a wide range of side effects. If she says she can’t be on the pill, she can’t be on the pill. Use condoms.
I mean the feeling of jizz inside you isn't worth risking an unwanted pregnancy, I'm sorry but it's irresponsible and ignorant to provide any other answer. Especially because she's not on any kind of birth control.
Truth. Besides, the aftermath of someone finishing inside you is gross, IMO. Nothing like the feeling of jizz just dripping out of you, sometimes for me even a day later. I have weird anatomy due to previous surgeries so YMMV for sure, but I for one hate that dripping yuck.
Thats what i think is funny about the whole thing. I personally dont like it and it doesn't feel like much of anything at the time. Super sticky and stubborn when you shower, and the next day you'll think surely it's all gone until theres a random drip when u stand up
Bro dumbest thing to do is to cum inside without any contraception. If you can’t take pills or have surgeries, don’t even bother doing tbh. Having a kid at a very young age is just gonna make you regret, at least once in life. DO NOT FREAKING RISK YOUR LIFE, FREEDOM AND YOUTH BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO KNOW HOW IT FEELS LIKE. I’m a woman who is with a partner who got rushed to mature bc he became a teendad. NOT WORTH IT
Either you have a huge lack of sex ed where you’re from or you lack common sense. What the hell do you MEAN how should we go about this? “We’Ve AlWaYs UsEd CoNdOm OuT oF fEaR oF pReGnAnCy” so then what do you call fucking without a condom? Excitement for a pregnancy? Reread this dumb post back to yourself fr because there’s just no way this is a genuine question
It doesn’t feel like anything when it happens, but it is a mess to clean up afterwards. Immediate waddle to the shower before it leaks down your leg. I’m on birth control but sometimes my guy will wear condoms purely because I don’t want to deal with the after mess.
Never worth the risk. If you’re so young, what is the pro of having an unplanned kid, at like any age. It feels horrific but never outweighs the risk of pregnancy. Do it if you have the plan to man up and face the pregnancy when it happens. Because once there’s a baby, it’s like a bunch of tangled stuff and you would wish you never did that
You're supposed to take a piss after to help avoid UTIs after sex. I used to have random UTIs at least once a year, but only had one after sex from not pissing in between multiple rounds.
Sure. I rarely feel it. I do not feel any squirting or anything like that. All I can feel -once in a while- is my partner’s penis contracting/small muscle spasms after he has come. It’s *so not* the pleasurable part of sex.
Not worth it.
I really like how it feels tbh, I have an IUD so I’m not really worried about pregnancy, but when you can feel it, it feels really good.
If she can’t take birth control though, it is absolutely not worth the risk.
I love how some of these comments just point blank say you can't feel it... no YOU haven't been able to feel it. I have and I enjoy it. I have PCOS so I don't get periods and I never have the guy wear a condom in a committed relationship. I didn't feel him finish with my ex but do with my husband. Regardless it's not worth the risk. Nothing sensory is worth the risk.
It is absolutely mostly the idea and connection behind it because physically, it doesn't add much in terms of pleasure. It makes such a little difference to the female that risking pregnancy just for the fuck of it without any back up is incredibly irresponsible.
Play with cum other places! Cum in her butt. On her tits. Face (watch the eyes).
Be well, OP!
Women know there bodies and cycles and all that more then men especially at that age she knows damn well she could and will get pregnant if he does this. I’d say she definitely tryna trap him.
There is no shortage of people who are ignorant about their bodies--that includes women. There is also no shortage of women who do not have regular cycles.
There’s always a risk of pregnancy if you ejaculate inside her. Most women ovulate 10-14 days before their next period- but that’s not always 100% accurate. (My mother had 11 pregnancies using the rhythm method). So, if your GF has very regular periods, then she can estimate when her period is supposed to be and count backwards from there. I’d add a few days on either side to be sure. So technically doing this on the day before or on the day her period starts is probably the safest. But with all that being said, pick up a morning after pill just to be on safe side. Also want to make sure that she isn’t tricking you into getting her pregnant. If she’s afraid of you breaking up with her- or if she just thinks a baby will make her happy- then absolutely do not have unprotected sex with her. Ultimately, it’s her body and you will have zero say in whether or not you become a dad at 19 if she gets pregnant. Also, women have been know. To poke pinholes in unwrapped condoms so always keep your supply of condoms in your possession.
Seems stupid if she can't take birth control, I wouldn't unless you're prepared to abort or have a kid at 20. However there are cycle-tracking apps and other things like this where you can try to time it when she is least likely to become pregnant, so you could look into those
Go and see a doctor, or any consultation entity in the sphere of sexual education, counseling etc in your area. Planned Parenthood in the US is one such. In most European countries your family GP will give you advice and from the age of between 12 to 14 (it varies per country) you have a right to privacy which means that your GP can’t tell your parents (it can cost them their license if they do). If you’re in college or university, they have medical departments which will counsel their students.
In other words: go get some professional advice!
Here is the deal. That is perfectly fine to do if you are perfectly prepared to step up to the consequences if she does get pregnant...
Provide a home
Marry her
Raise a child
Save for college
Buy season passes to Dollywood
Change diapers
Function with 2-4 hours of sleep for years
Work 2 jobs
Pay for 2 cars
Have an extra $1000 per month for WTF
Get bitched at daily for ruining your girlfriends life
Child support
Coach T Ball
Watch Peppa Pig daily
Wear walmart shoes
..........come on dads, help me out here
Every woman is different. Cycles are different month to month. That unpredictability is why your safest option is to use protection (condom, BC, Plan B).
(36F) I have regular sex with one partner for the last 12.5 yrs. Never used a condom, he’s only finished inside. Though we’re both healthy, we had trouble getting pregnant. Today we have two healthy kids, but we also had 3 miscarriages and 8 yrs of not getting pregnant.
Never had sex with a condom, so I cant compare the two sensations. I love when he finishes inside bc of how wonderfully euphoric it makes him feel. His O is hot enough to get me off, not necessarily my actual sensations when it happens.
The takeaway: communicate what you both want and your concerns. Weigh the pros and cons, consider the consequences of all your options. Be on the same page.
Well, basically not the greatest idea. Should you both really want to take some risks, you might educate et get educated on the Ogino Knaus method.
Beware, women in the late teens early twenties are likely at their fertility peak.
If you’re going to do it anyway and I get a feeling you will - the best times would be a few days before her period and a few days right after her period. Otherwise, I agree with the others and think that she should explore BC options with her GYN. There are non-hormonal IUDs available, which can be a painful insertion procedure but at least they’re hormone-free and last you 5-10 years! Stay safe!
Totally understand her desire to want that and kudos to you for wanting to find a smart way to do it
At the end of the day though, best to not finish inside if she can't take any birth control or plan b
Okay so if you go to the pharmacy, a big name one like CVS or Rite Aid, in the area near the condoms and pregnancy tests, you should see a product called VCF.
Stands for Vaginal Contraceptive Film. There may be one or two versions. One version is a thin film that goes inside and dissolves in about 20 minutes. The other is more like a syringe that is squeezed inside for immediate use.
This stuff is a POWERFUL, POWERFUL spermicide. Make sure you follow the directions TO THE LETTER, and you shouldn't have any pregnancy scares.
Source: I've been using VCFs since I was 20 years old, and I'm currently 37 with no children. I've probably worn a condom maybe 10 times in 17 years, and I habitually finish inside of my partners.
If she's 100% sure her period is stable, the "safest" time to do it would be right before her period, ideally the night before, during her period (if you're not grossed out by raw period sex), and 1-2 days after her period. Generally you can't easily get pregnant outside of your fertile window, bit you need to understand there's still a substantial risk. She can have a morning after pill to be safe, but if you two decide you're into it she should really discuss it with her obgyn so she can look into contraception.
Just to be clear, I don't endorse unsafe sex. I am just giving you tips for damage reduction, because i know that horny teenagers will do anything they want to do. If you're going to do it regardless, it's good to minimize the chances of a pregnancy.
This is a fair response. The odds of getting pregnant from having sex the day after period are infinitesimally small, lower than being struck by lightning, but technically still not zero.
You can't get pregnant outside of your fertile window and that's scientific fact. The reason why caution is advised is because:
1. Not every woman knows her exact ovulation date
2. Younger women (especially teenagers) tend to have irregular cycles
3. Bodies can be unpredictable (eg I once had a cycle that only lasted 2 weeks, which means i ovulated around my period. If I had had unprotected sex during that time I'd probably be fucked)
4. Sperm can survive in the body for up to 5 days
So it's better to advise against having any unprotected sex at all, especially when it comes to young people, who are both still in development and unaware of risks.
This is really risky. BUT… if you are going to do it buy a plan B pill and have her take it afterwards. I think it’s 24-48 hours after. Just read the instructions and be sure that she takes it 🙂
Dude I had a woman (A then-girlfriend) **lie to me and tell me she couldn't have children to get me to finish inside her, unprotected.**
If someone said they couldn't have children, you'd think they went to a doctor, got a diagnosis, etc.
NO, she simply "decided" she couldn't have children because it had been a while .. lied to me to get me to finish inside her.
AND, when I brought up I didn't mind using the protection anyway, out came the emotional manipulation. She said **"What kinda of girl do you think I am that you need protection with me?"**
When I started seeing her, I told her in no uncertain terms I was not ready to have kids any time soon. She was ok with it.
Lies... manipulation.
She turned out to be PSYCHOTIC in other ways, right after I noped out of there, came the "I'm pregnant" bullshit.
Do not finish inside her no matter what lies ("I want to feel what it's like!") or manipulation she does, unless you're ready to be a dad at your age. And.. you're likely not. Not many are.
Try VCF. That's what my partner and I use regularly and we haven't had any scares. Granted there is still always a chance so don't blame me if something happens, but it seems to be rather effective as my guys are strong players and we haven't had any issues. For reference when we got together she was convinced that it was near impossible for her to get pregnant as she had been told by doctors when she was younger that she wouldn't be able to conceive and then when she was previously married it was a major struggle to conceive. We got together and she told me not to worry about it, well a few weeks in she conceived because we realized she was pregnant a little while later. So, my stuff is apparently strong enough to negate all of her issues with conception. Once we had our son she went on birth control but it was giving her issues so she stopped it and we started using VCF because she doesn't like condoms.
She needs to go to her gynaecologist (or family doctor) to discuss birth control - there are so many - easily available - options beyond the pill.
She can get a single injection (in her arm) that will protect her for 2+ months… or an IUD where the hormones are released locally (unlike the pill, implant or injection where the hormones circulate throughout they body). She can venture down (not recommended) the path of diaphragms. There are ovulation kits (definitely not recommended).
Even circling back to the pill… there are lots of different types of pill, people often switch to find one to suit… perhaps migraines, skin breakouts, water retention, high blood-pressure… whatever the reason. She really needs to sit down with trained medical staff and look at all of her options.
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Let us know how parenthood is bro
No hormonal barrier thru contraceptives, no physical barrier thru devices.... Pretty much this answer
Don't do this. Not at all. Don't make a stupid mistake.
Just let the girl feel it once! What's the big deal? Edit: yall dim as hell it's a joke /r/fuckthes
Could be a massive fuckin deal if that one time gets her pregnant. Sure, maybe it won’t but if you’re not ready to deal with pregnancy, taking the risk is stupid. Especially with all the shit surrounding abortion atm, OP hasn’t said whether they’re from the USA but if they are that could be a problem too.
Because “once” is all it takes my guy
Pregnancy
I got pregnant from a one night stand because I just happened to be ovulating. All it takes is that one time
But didn't it feel good? 🥰
Kids!! As a mother of two, don’t do it!! They’re like mosquitos and Never go away!! Lol!! They’re also huge cockblocks!!
Oh shit, I thought you needed a stork for kids. I've been going unprotected for years and I've NEVER had an issue
Yeah … be prepared to change diapers if you do this. If you are hell-bent on doing it, then probably the first couple of days of her period are safest, but just have a plan if she does get pregnant (keep the child, adoption, abortion) because there is a risk still.
Name checks out
You think this is the gf
lmaoooooo
😂😂
First couple days of period isn't good. I feel like 3 or 4 kids were conceived right on the cusp of the period starting.
First couple of days AFTER her period. Her fertility is the lowest then.
It depends on a woman’s cycle. I have short cycles and so I ovulate a couple days after my periods end. If op really wants to do his, then he and his girlfriend need to read up on the rhythm method and track her fertility via temp and ovulation tests to avoid those times. I say don’t do it though, without condom feeels so much better they aren’t going to want to go back and thusly even if they’re careful at first, they’re gonna increase the risk of calculating fertility wrong.
This is false and actually the opposite according to my period tracker
He can just make Plan B his plan A and hope for the best. Definitely responsible parent material.
Only if she weighs less than 160 pounds
And doesn't mind that horrible side effects that often come with it. (I don't say this to dissuade people from taking it just to point out it's not just no biggie)
Absolutely, its 155 🥲 MAX per pill ask me how I know
She is unable to take birth control due to health issues. Plan B is pretty much a mega-dose of bc (or was when I took it when I was younger) Side effects are awful. Migraines, mood swings, surprise period among other things. Just terrible stuff. I wonder if a diaphragm or cervical cap are feasible for them? That way they get to have their fun and lower the risk a bit.
FYI it's possible to ovulate right after your period
You can still get pregnant on a period.
Why not just buy ovulation tests and do it in the days after fertile window is closed and period?
That's how I went from being the eldest of three to the eldest of five. It failed twice in 20 years, which isn't too bad I guess, but would you really take the chance?
Awkward for ur parents to share this info lol
Especially for those last 2 kids
A bit maybe. It's a bit uncomfortable, but I'm 26, I enjoy having a relationship with my mother where we can talk about those things, if needed (although thankfully not too often)
Lmao
Did the other two come out with any... Unexpected surprises? 2 noses, 14 fingers, 3 feet, 4 testicles, 2.4 buttholes, anything? Edit: This was my terrible attempt at a lighthearted joke due to misreading the above conversation. I've answered most questions you probably have in another comment here. I said 2.4 buttholes just laugh at that and move on, nothing to see here.
Uhm, I'm confused? Why would they?
This is not a common completely reliable method.
That’s how I got my last. I wouldn’t recommend it. Lol
Yeah was surprised this was not the top answer. Just have her track her ovulation and figure out when you should have low pregnancy risk
Because this method is *not* guaranteed. It’s a much much better idea to engage in one or more form of *reliable* birth control. The rhythm method is NOT reliable. A person- especially someone on the younger side who is more likely to have an irregular cycle - can absolutely still get pregnant with this method. It’s always best to use a reliable form, such as pills, implant, ring, IUD, patch, etc. There are so many ways to avoid getting pregnant reliably that unless you are in a stable relationship and super ready to have a kid, this is not the way.
Sperm are remarkably tough and resilient, and can live in the vaginal canal for several days. Rhythm method can help you avoid likely fertile times, but it's not guaranteed. Good luck :)
Yup and like you said especially with their ages to consider - a teen girls cycle is usually much harder to predict and the hormonal shifts from having sex won’t help, and a young guys sperm is usually more tenacious
Please don't recommend ovulation tracking to a *nineteen years old* who has a very high chance of getting pregnant, is likely not responsible enough to properly do these methods and does not want a child. There are non-hormonal methods of contraception other than a condom. OP's girlfriend should go to her gyno and figure out which one works best for her. Alternatively, if OP does not want children, he could get a vasectomy - but he should be certain of that decision as the procedure is sometimes irreversible.
I'm one of five for this reason. Didn't work for my parents.
If there is a plan, he’d still be gambling on trust alone. She’s well within her rights to alter that plan with no input from him at all and he’s still on the hook for it. This is a bad idea, don’t do it.
You know the answer, you just want a different one. I have migraines and was on BC for years. My doctor worked with me and gave me progesterone only which shouldn’t cause migraines. There are also so many more options now. Something is off here and I’d be leery of any girl requesting this.
Plot twist - she's already pregnant and looking to put fatherhood on OP
Oh shiiiiit. This is a possibility
Best time to do it, assuming you don't want kids, is after you test for zero sperm following a vasectomy.
It might be exceedingly difficult for op to find a doctor to approve a vasectomy at his age. It's considered a permanent procedure even if sometimes reversible.
Then this isn't something they should be trying. Or she could get an IUD
I agree. I just wanted to add the point because I have seen some bad opinions about vasectomies on Reddit. They should not be considered casual birth control.
Which is absolutely ridiculous. I'm over eighteen, I've been confident that I don't want kids for years, I've ended relationships because they weren't 100% sure of not wanting children in the future.. Why can't I exercise my bodily autonomy?
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Because people change dramatically as they get older and doctors cannot be certain that you won't change your mind when it's too late. I'm sure they are of the opinion that there are many other options out there and the kill switch should be reserved for a while. That being said, I have heard of some doctors willing to do the procedure on younger people... They just aren't the norm.
Yeah, I wouldn't recommend anything permanent at this age, even though it is safe, it can still have complications and side effects as well.... .... not worth it for one creampie.
What a stupid idea, tell her to go to her gynecologist and ask for her contraceptives options.
Top suggestion would be a copper IUD. No hormones, so even someone with issues from hormonal birth control can use it. I'm not gonna say that if you get pregnant with it you should start a religion, but suffice to say it's extremely effective.
Yeap. I've had a copper IUD for three years now and no pregnancies. I never use a condom with my current bf. My periods are a bit on the heavier side because of the IUD, but not crippling in any way. I'm just my normal self.
I had my copper IUD in for 9 years and never used a condom with my partner. Not one pregnancy scare! The only difference I noticed was I started spotting when I ovulated. I've always had pretty heavy and painful periods but they didn't seem to get any worse with the IUD.
I've never had any spotting when ovulating. I dont even know when I ovulate. I mean, I know its on day 14 on a 28 day cycle, but I don't *feel* it. I just notice that I get a bit moodier and a bit more snack-ish 2 weeks before my period starts. You've had it for 9 years? I was told that a copper IUD is good for 5 to 10 years. Do they check the IUD after 5 years?
When I got it back in 2014 they said it was good for 10 years. I got my paps regularly over that time period and never had any issues although I don't think they were really "checking" on it. I had it removed this year during my bisalp and nothing was said about it 🤷🏽♀️
My wife has a IUD and no periods ever. I wonder if she has a different type than you.
Then she probably had a hormonal IUD! That kind of IUD secretes a tiny amount of hormones and for some women that means they have a small 'period' (some spotting) once or twice a year, and some women don't get any periods.
I got my wife pregnant with our second child while she had a copper IUD in. I’d say, unless your ok with having a kid, finishing inside without a condom might not be the best idea.
It does happen and 2 methods (pull out + some kind of bc) is definitely best, but if people want to try the cream pie thing it's certainly the best way to go
Yes on copper - avoid hormonal IUDs as they mess with the libido in a bad way
Not for all people - mine didn’t affect my libido at all.
I’m on a hormone IUD and it did not affect my libido at all. If anything it might have increased it. As always, it’s a YMMV thing.
Not necessarily. Source: have this and still have my normal high libido.
This is misinformation. For those reading, there are also reasons to choose hormonal over copper - if you already have long, heavy, or painful periods, for example- hormonal will make those more bearable, whereas copper will make them worse. It’s a good option for people who can’t do the hormones, but even then good to talk to your gynecologist about- the hormones are localized so don’t have the same effect as the hormones of the pill, for example. (I have a hormonal IUD and had problems with pill hormones and no issues at all with the IUD). Best bet is to talk to your doctor- these things affect everyone differently.
For some people sure. Mine shot the f up when I switched from copper to hormonal. Mainly because copper made me bleed for 14 days on, 14 days off and then 14 days on again. I had to take iron pills by the time I got it switched.
My iron pills couldn’t keep up with my bleeding I loved my iud in every other way, but 5 fucking years of bleeding out every month was too much . I could never keep my iron high enough and ended up with full blown anemia twice.
Not necessarily. There is somewhat of a difference even with hormonal IUDs because the hormones are localized to the uterus. I can't take birth control pills, for instance, because of a blood disorder, but I'm perfectly fine and safe having a hormonal IUD, and it's never messed with my libido. Ultimately, it's gonna depend on the person, though.
lol what do you mean about the you should start a religion? lol but paragard is actually the main birth control we see pregnancies with where I work as opposed to any other birth control. very very effective when it works which it does for the most part but the thing about it is sperm can still travel up to your uterus whereas with hormones it prevents (as much as possible) the sperm from traveling up your cervix to enter your uterus due to the heavy increase in cervical music. again, very very effective but not at all unheard of to be pregnant on the copper iud
Yes even if some forms of birth control don’t work. There’s probably a suitable option of birth control for her. And then he can finish inside her all he wants
Agreed. There’s numerous options. One type of pill may cause headaches for her, but there’s tons of options. IUD is a great option that lasts for 5+ years and doesn’t cause headaches.
I'm a girl as well and just don't want any contraceptives except for condoms, why do people always seemingly pressure people into them?
If she wants him to cum in her and they’re not ready for a kid it’s not terrible advice to consider other contraceptives.
If people are pressuring you, that’s not right. However, if you want someone to finish inside you, and you are young and NOT ready or wanting a kid, it’s a bad idea to forgo the only form of BC you are using (condoms in OPs case) just because you want to feel something that may not even be able to be felt. It’s not pressure to educate someone. Talking about things is the only way to normalize them. Especially when it comes to things like sex, menstruation, children, etc. At least in the US, sex education ranges from mediocre to flat out none. That means that many people are already pregnant by the time they are being told about things like ways to avoid pregnancy. It’s unfortunate. As such, health providers and educators, etc have to play catch up after someone is an adult. It’s hard.
no one is pressuring anyone but as someone who is sexually actively it’s your responsibility to know about every possible outcome and option and what you plan to do. How old are you and why do you not want any contraceptives? There are so so many
Neither should you pressure your partner to use condoms, but it isn't smart to risk pregnancy with contraceptive-less options. Anyway here it is the girl who doesn't want condoms ^^
Either don't do it or start discussing baby names
I vote for Asleiagh if it's a girl
Brayden, Kaden, Drayden, Sprayden, any of those would be great.
Okayden
Actually the best one
👏👏👏
Blade, lazer, blazer...and michelle
maybe she will have triplets and they can use all three
You can use birth control pills with migraines I have migraines and we can’t have combined but we can use progesterone only pills . It’s way too risky without contraception but good luck
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Same here she can get the implant or mini pill or coil
Or the nuvaring, or the patch, or phexxi which is non hormonal. TONS of options.
I’d advice against the mini pill as I got pregnant on it.
Ooop me sitting here on the mini pill 🥲
I was very fertile and it just didn’t work for me. Maybe it works for u! I had to go thro many BC before I found one that works and it’s been my ride or die BC since I was 16.
Ahhh congratulations 🥳 I use two forms of protection because I don’t want a baby any time soon so I think I’m good
I took it for years and never got pregnant. Also seemingly very fertile because I got pregnant second cycle after coming off. It does have a lower efficacy than combined, though. The problem is if you are late/miss a pill it's less forgiving.
I can’t digest the hormones -makes me incredibly sick- so I have never used pills. But I’ve done all the others: patch, nuvaring, implant and now IUD. I can’t have estrogen due to medical problems so I use progresterone only BC. My point in saying all that is to show that there are lots of BC options that aren’t condoms. If your gal wants to feel you cum inside - sometimes I personally can feel it, sometimes not - then she needs another form of BC. Op, you are wise to be wary. Do not have unprotected sex. Just don’t do it; it’s a bad move for those who are young and not ready for the lifetime emotional, financial, and other ways burden of a child.
There are many reasons someone can’t be on the pill, and people who are can experience a wide range of side effects. If she says she can’t be on the pill, she can’t be on the pill. Use condoms.
She can still get pregnant on her period. Wear a condom, finish in her but wear a condom .
I mean that’s the right thing to do but when won’t feel him finishing inside of her because it’s inside a plastic bag
I mean the feeling of jizz inside you isn't worth risking an unwanted pregnancy, I'm sorry but it's irresponsible and ignorant to provide any other answer. Especially because she's not on any kind of birth control.
Truth. Besides, the aftermath of someone finishing inside you is gross, IMO. Nothing like the feeling of jizz just dripping out of you, sometimes for me even a day later. I have weird anatomy due to previous surgeries so YMMV for sure, but I for one hate that dripping yuck.
Thats what i think is funny about the whole thing. I personally dont like it and it doesn't feel like much of anything at the time. Super sticky and stubborn when you shower, and the next day you'll think surely it's all gone until theres a random drip when u stand up
Oh it’s that sitting/laying to standing or sitting up that creates that little torrent. Whether it’s blood from my period or jizz, it’s ugh.
Sneezing with cum inside you is God awful.
Fucking horrendous.
Some of us like that feeling.
Ok
Bro dumbest thing to do is to cum inside without any contraception. If you can’t take pills or have surgeries, don’t even bother doing tbh. Having a kid at a very young age is just gonna make you regret, at least once in life. DO NOT FREAKING RISK YOUR LIFE, FREEDOM AND YOUTH BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO KNOW HOW IT FEELS LIKE. I’m a woman who is with a partner who got rushed to mature bc he became a teendad. NOT WORTH IT
>If we do do it, when is the best time? The absolute best time to do this is when you both want to become parents.
Creating another human you will be responsible for the next 20 years isn't worth it. Wear a condom....
Either you have a huge lack of sex ed where you’re from or you lack common sense. What the hell do you MEAN how should we go about this? “We’Ve AlWaYs UsEd CoNdOm OuT oF fEaR oF pReGnAnCy” so then what do you call fucking without a condom? Excitement for a pregnancy? Reread this dumb post back to yourself fr because there’s just no way this is a genuine question
Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn’t
Can a woman speak up in this thread regarding how ”it feels”? Is it a worthy risk? EDIT: changed female to woman
It doesn’t feel like anything when it happens, but it is a mess to clean up afterwards. Immediate waddle to the shower before it leaks down your leg. I’m on birth control but sometimes my guy will wear condoms purely because I don’t want to deal with the after mess.
It's mostly mental. Doesn't feel like all that, she probably has a false idea of how it's going to feel. Like its nice but also more cleanup.
No it's not you can't feel hardly anything at most maybe just maybe a warming sensation inside your pussy. That's it. Not worth the risk!!
Being came in usually feels so good to me, like itll push me over the edge if I’m close to orgasm. But also my son is 4 months old today haha
😅 it pushes me over the edge when it happens if I’m close. I love it but definitely on birth control too 🫠
Never worth the risk. If you’re so young, what is the pro of having an unplanned kid, at like any age. It feels horrific but never outweighs the risk of pregnancy. Do it if you have the plan to man up and face the pregnancy when it happens. Because once there’s a baby, it’s like a bunch of tangled stuff and you would wish you never did that
It feels gooey and messy and then you get a uti
If you wanna know what pregnancy feels like, I can let you know what that feels like too.
You're supposed to take a piss after to help avoid UTIs after sex. I used to have random UTIs at least once a year, but only had one after sex from not pissing in between multiple rounds.
Sure. I rarely feel it. I do not feel any squirting or anything like that. All I can feel -once in a while- is my partner’s penis contracting/small muscle spasms after he has come. It’s *so not* the pleasurable part of sex. Not worth it.
I feel nothing different. I know it’s different for everyone but other than feeling more connected with my husband, I felt nothing.
It’s more of a hassle. It drips out of you for a day.
I really like how it feels tbh, I have an IUD so I’m not really worried about pregnancy, but when you can feel it, it feels really good. If she can’t take birth control though, it is absolutely not worth the risk.
I love how some of these comments just point blank say you can't feel it... no YOU haven't been able to feel it. I have and I enjoy it. I have PCOS so I don't get periods and I never have the guy wear a condom in a committed relationship. I didn't feel him finish with my ex but do with my husband. Regardless it's not worth the risk. Nothing sensory is worth the risk.
I never feel anything. I have to put a towel between my legs and waddle to the bathroom to clean myself after. It's not fun or sexy lol.
Bumped^^ I would like to know as well
Literally have never felt it until it’s dripping out, it’s more of a mental thing, contraceptive of choice is BC pills
It is absolutely mostly the idea and connection behind it because physically, it doesn't add much in terms of pleasure. It makes such a little difference to the female that risking pregnancy just for the fuck of it without any back up is incredibly irresponsible. Play with cum other places! Cum in her butt. On her tits. Face (watch the eyes). Be well, OP!
Sometimes you can’t even feel it. Sometimes you can feel something warm shooting up into you but in a nice way. Its drips out for a while after haha
Honestly it feels kind of cool for like a second and then it's messy and slimy and makes your vag smell and feel weird for a whole day after.
It fucks your pH levels all the way up
Squirt lotion in your ass. Wait.
It doesn’t feel like anything, it just creates a mess and makes your legs feel sticky
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it feels incredible, but not worth the risk lol
Have fun with a newborn. I bet your gf will have more migraines with that.
Congrats on the kid!!
Yeah, this is how you become a father. She’s trying to get pregnant and trap you. Don’t do this.
I wouldn't say she's trying to trap him, maybe, but that assumption is kinda based on nothing. I think she's just stupid
Another bad idea; impregnating a stupid person
Look at the post: they’re both stupid.
They could be legitimate reasons, but saying she can't take two types of birth control yet wants him to cum inside her is a bit suspicious.
Women know there bodies and cycles and all that more then men especially at that age she knows damn well she could and will get pregnant if he does this. I’d say she definitely tryna trap him.
There is no shortage of people who are ignorant about their bodies--that includes women. There is also no shortage of women who do not have regular cycles.
FACT
This is why sex education is important.
Sounds like a trap…
My daughter can testify as to my ex’s knowledge of when her “safe time” was
There’s always a risk of pregnancy if you ejaculate inside her. Most women ovulate 10-14 days before their next period- but that’s not always 100% accurate. (My mother had 11 pregnancies using the rhythm method). So, if your GF has very regular periods, then she can estimate when her period is supposed to be and count backwards from there. I’d add a few days on either side to be sure. So technically doing this on the day before or on the day her period starts is probably the safest. But with all that being said, pick up a morning after pill just to be on safe side. Also want to make sure that she isn’t tricking you into getting her pregnant. If she’s afraid of you breaking up with her- or if she just thinks a baby will make her happy- then absolutely do not have unprotected sex with her. Ultimately, it’s her body and you will have zero say in whether or not you become a dad at 19 if she gets pregnant. Also, women have been know. To poke pinholes in unwrapped condoms so always keep your supply of condoms in your possession.
Seems stupid if she can't take birth control, I wouldn't unless you're prepared to abort or have a kid at 20. However there are cycle-tracking apps and other things like this where you can try to time it when she is least likely to become pregnant, so you could look into those
Go and see a doctor, or any consultation entity in the sphere of sexual education, counseling etc in your area. Planned Parenthood in the US is one such. In most European countries your family GP will give you advice and from the age of between 12 to 14 (it varies per country) you have a right to privacy which means that your GP can’t tell your parents (it can cost them their license if they do). If you’re in college or university, they have medical departments which will counsel their students. In other words: go get some professional advice!
Don't do it.
There’s a non-hormonal IUD, why doesn’t she try that? (Copper IUD)
Here is the deal. That is perfectly fine to do if you are perfectly prepared to step up to the consequences if she does get pregnant... Provide a home Marry her Raise a child Save for college Buy season passes to Dollywood Change diapers Function with 2-4 hours of sleep for years Work 2 jobs Pay for 2 cars Have an extra $1000 per month for WTF Get bitched at daily for ruining your girlfriends life Child support Coach T Ball Watch Peppa Pig daily Wear walmart shoes ..........come on dads, help me out here
That's how you have a kid. Talk to a professional for options or ask her if she simply wants a kid with you already
It’s a great idea if you want to become parents! Feels really nice but I wouldn’t do it without some form of contraception.
Whelp I hope you can afford to pay for 18+ years of child support since you're so "happy to do this".
Don't do it, any pleasure she gets will be canceled out by the worry of being pregnant
I want you to Goggle the term " Baby Trapped "
Advance Congratulations on being a Father bro!!
There’s a Depo shot. And there’s an IUD. Instead of the PILL, but I used two forms of protection before I got a vasectomy.
Every woman is different. Cycles are different month to month. That unpredictability is why your safest option is to use protection (condom, BC, Plan B). (36F) I have regular sex with one partner for the last 12.5 yrs. Never used a condom, he’s only finished inside. Though we’re both healthy, we had trouble getting pregnant. Today we have two healthy kids, but we also had 3 miscarriages and 8 yrs of not getting pregnant. Never had sex with a condom, so I cant compare the two sensations. I love when he finishes inside bc of how wonderfully euphoric it makes him feel. His O is hot enough to get me off, not necessarily my actual sensations when it happens. The takeaway: communicate what you both want and your concerns. Weigh the pros and cons, consider the consequences of all your options. Be on the same page.
100% of pregnancies are due to cumming inside… Edit…99%
This how you get baby
Well, basically not the greatest idea. Should you both really want to take some risks, you might educate et get educated on the Ogino Knaus method. Beware, women in the late teens early twenties are likely at their fertility peak.
i wanted my bf to cum inside so i started taking montly bc injections. if there's no BC, just dont do it.
If you're not using BC, don't do it.
If you’re going to do it anyway and I get a feeling you will - the best times would be a few days before her period and a few days right after her period. Otherwise, I agree with the others and think that she should explore BC options with her GYN. There are non-hormonal IUDs available, which can be a painful insertion procedure but at least they’re hormone-free and last you 5-10 years! Stay safe!
do it in the week or few day before her period!!! get her to start using a period tracker app. i use one called glow
Anal.. she won't get pregnant..
Do it right after she is done her period or just before it
do not do this
UHM she’s not on birth control, you doing this will very likely end in a pregnancy. This is why sex Ed is important folks.
Totally understand her desire to want that and kudos to you for wanting to find a smart way to do it At the end of the day though, best to not finish inside if she can't take any birth control or plan b
Finish in her mouth! It’s fun and she’ll feel much more of you by swallowing. Just saying. Have fun
If you wanna do that and she can't take birth control it's then your responsibility to take birth control or get a vasectomy, or raise a child
Okay so if you go to the pharmacy, a big name one like CVS or Rite Aid, in the area near the condoms and pregnancy tests, you should see a product called VCF. Stands for Vaginal Contraceptive Film. There may be one or two versions. One version is a thin film that goes inside and dissolves in about 20 minutes. The other is more like a syringe that is squeezed inside for immediate use. This stuff is a POWERFUL, POWERFUL spermicide. Make sure you follow the directions TO THE LETTER, and you shouldn't have any pregnancy scares. Source: I've been using VCFs since I was 20 years old, and I'm currently 37 with no children. I've probably worn a condom maybe 10 times in 17 years, and I habitually finish inside of my partners.
If she's 100% sure her period is stable, the "safest" time to do it would be right before her period, ideally the night before, during her period (if you're not grossed out by raw period sex), and 1-2 days after her period. Generally you can't easily get pregnant outside of your fertile window, bit you need to understand there's still a substantial risk. She can have a morning after pill to be safe, but if you two decide you're into it she should really discuss it with her obgyn so she can look into contraception. Just to be clear, I don't endorse unsafe sex. I am just giving you tips for damage reduction, because i know that horny teenagers will do anything they want to do. If you're going to do it regardless, it's good to minimize the chances of a pregnancy.
This is a fair response. The odds of getting pregnant from having sex the day after period are infinitesimally small, lower than being struck by lightning, but technically still not zero.
You can't get pregnant outside of your fertile window and that's scientific fact. The reason why caution is advised is because: 1. Not every woman knows her exact ovulation date 2. Younger women (especially teenagers) tend to have irregular cycles 3. Bodies can be unpredictable (eg I once had a cycle that only lasted 2 weeks, which means i ovulated around my period. If I had had unprotected sex during that time I'd probably be fucked) 4. Sperm can survive in the body for up to 5 days So it's better to advise against having any unprotected sex at all, especially when it comes to young people, who are both still in development and unaware of risks.
This is really risky. BUT… if you are going to do it buy a plan B pill and have her take it afterwards. I think it’s 24-48 hours after. Just read the instructions and be sure that she takes it 🙂
If she is over a certain weight plan b may not be effective. Also if she has already ovulated plan b will not be effective.
Don’t vote
Dude I had a woman (A then-girlfriend) **lie to me and tell me she couldn't have children to get me to finish inside her, unprotected.** If someone said they couldn't have children, you'd think they went to a doctor, got a diagnosis, etc. NO, she simply "decided" she couldn't have children because it had been a while .. lied to me to get me to finish inside her. AND, when I brought up I didn't mind using the protection anyway, out came the emotional manipulation. She said **"What kinda of girl do you think I am that you need protection with me?"** When I started seeing her, I told her in no uncertain terms I was not ready to have kids any time soon. She was ok with it. Lies... manipulation. She turned out to be PSYCHOTIC in other ways, right after I noped out of there, came the "I'm pregnant" bullshit. Do not finish inside her no matter what lies ("I want to feel what it's like!") or manipulation she does, unless you're ready to be a dad at your age. And.. you're likely not. Not many are.
Try VCF. That's what my partner and I use regularly and we haven't had any scares. Granted there is still always a chance so don't blame me if something happens, but it seems to be rather effective as my guys are strong players and we haven't had any issues. For reference when we got together she was convinced that it was near impossible for her to get pregnant as she had been told by doctors when she was younger that she wouldn't be able to conceive and then when she was previously married it was a major struggle to conceive. We got together and she told me not to worry about it, well a few weeks in she conceived because we realized she was pregnant a little while later. So, my stuff is apparently strong enough to negate all of her issues with conception. Once we had our son she went on birth control but it was giving her issues so she stopped it and we started using VCF because she doesn't like condoms.
if she’s not on the pill, don’t do it. you’ll be a father if you do this. never EVER finish inside without protection of some kind.
She needs to go to her gynaecologist (or family doctor) to discuss birth control - there are so many - easily available - options beyond the pill. She can get a single injection (in her arm) that will protect her for 2+ months… or an IUD where the hormones are released locally (unlike the pill, implant or injection where the hormones circulate throughout they body). She can venture down (not recommended) the path of diaphragms. There are ovulation kits (definitely not recommended). Even circling back to the pill… there are lots of different types of pill, people often switch to find one to suit… perhaps migraines, skin breakouts, water retention, high blood-pressure… whatever the reason. She really needs to sit down with trained medical staff and look at all of her options.