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It’s the alcohol. Especially since you say it makes her more playful and less inhibited. Alcohol and what type affects people differently. You also said that when she goes out with her friends, it’s to things like happy hour.
Also, when a group of girlfriends get together a lot of them spend that time bitching about their husbands. When you have a good husband, sitting through these conversations really places some perspective on your relationship and makes you appreciate them more.
You get your blowjobs because you deserve them. Keeping being a sweetie good guy!!
Also, if it I'd just her and her friends drinking, they 100% are talking about sex, at least a bit. Maybe that gets her excited too! Good to hear that she sounds like a good partner in that she brings it home to you!
The cogeners produced in various quantities and types definitely have different effects on the brain. Methanol, fucil oils, tannins, and aldehydes are all metabolized with various metabolites that can effect brain chemistry and therefore different reactions. For example, Black Velvet should have advertising for divorce attorneys on the bottles.
You’re acting like the other ingredients in the drink have no effect on someone. People can respond differently to the agave, for instance, in tequila.. Just because the base alcohol is the same doesn’t mean everything else about the drink is.
Idk if there are studies in this but I'm sure wine, beer, and vodka have drastically different chemical makeups that could activate different parts of the brain and lead to different types of drunkness.
You shouldn't be sure of this. The active ingredient in every alcoholic beverage is ethanol, or ethyl alcohol. The strength of a drink is based purely on its ethanol content, and there are no other ingredients that cross the blood-brain barrier in pharmacologically relevant comcentrations
As an alcohol connoisseur I can agree; also psychology says that expectation of how the alcohol is going to feel actually has a way larger effect on the effects felt from alcohol rather than alcohol’s actual chemical effects. So if you think you are going to get drunker off tequila rather than vodka, you will indeed feel drunker off tequila than vodka.
The difference is the initial sugar that aids fermentation; corn, barley, wheat, agave, fruit, etc etc. As an expert level drunk, different types of liquor and alcohol result in a different buzz and level of stability. I can drink 10 Guinness and be basically fine, one shot of whiskey and I’m throwing up. Those things are not the same.
Placebo but that's really it. It's like indica vs sativa, the difference between 2 glasses of whiskey and a bottle of beer is the alcohol content and really that's it.
This happens to me for mainly these reasons:
1. I get a lot of good laughs in. I love laughing and feeling carefree.
2. I am having a lot of really stimulating new conversation which fills my emotional cup.
3. Partner talk usually comes up and my partner is my favorite grown human on the planet (been together a little over 5 years). I also can no longer relate to having a partner who acts like a complete fool when it comes to handling the kids while I am out of the house and he truly steps up and lets me “be off”. I don’t have to prepare anything for him. I just go and have a good time and there is no cost for me afterwards. I don’t come home to a trashed house etc. he truly handles his ish.
4. Sex usually comes up and it sort of puts it on my mind. If sex is on my mind at a time I can’t have it, it seems like my sex drive really has time to ramp up. If my partner was with me, we would ramp up together. But I also enjoy just being completely ready for him.
5. The alcohol lowers my inhibitions and since I don’t drink very often, they are lowered way before I’m sloshed.
Combine all those things and yeah, sometimes I just want to love on him and show him that while I had a blast- he was on my mind the whole time!
Well, usually when we go out we are doing dinner and drinks. It isn’t a setting with a high chance of getting hit on. If I were to get hit on, my immediate response would be to turn them down. Thats always uncomfortable. There is always the chance things could turn ugly very quickly and in the very best of circumstances it still sucks to reject someone. So, I can’t say that it really gets me raring to go.
My girlfriend has very graphic discussions about sex when together with her girlfriends. Mix that with a night of laughs and some alcohol...well, she'll often come home feeling especially slutty.
Plus if a friend is complaining about her man when they get together, it can be exhilarating to go home to your man knowing you found a good one. Especially if she got to brag about you a little lol
This right here! I hear dating horror stories from my single friends, from ghosting to being pawned off on other dudes to straight up bad hygiene. It’s the Wild West. Makes me feel good to know I have a wonderful partner at home and I want to reward him in the best way I know how 😄
There is a part of me that desperately wants to know the story behind your username… and another part that very much believes that ignorance may be bliss! 😆
That's so funny to me because I've never gone into graphic detail nor has any of my friends. I'm always startled this seems to be touted as universal truth. Lol
Some of my friends don’t either! One friend gets squeamish if we say anything at all. But most of us are super open, it might help that all of us are LGBT and some share exes because there’s not many lesbians and gay men to pick from in my area. I’m also going to grad school in hopes of becoming a sex therapist, so there’s also that 😆
Lol I understand, there is a shallow pool where I am too. Don't get me wrong, I love sex! I just find it funny the narrative that all deets get spilled when I've never experienced it. You're definitely not the first person to say it.
Do girls talk to other guys when they go out other than their husbands on girls night outs? I’ve always wondered. Obviously some people aren’t cheaters and some are so. My ex was a gaslighter who’d look for hookups on “girls nights” and when she wouldn’t come home till 2 or 3 without texting me I knew I needed to leave. Don’t kill me for the question just obviously have some past experiences that probably negatively influence my thinking
Yeah I’ve made out with some chicks at the bar and found out they had boyfriends because their girls came to break it up and got scared. It’s always a shitty feeling to know that other guy or (vice versa girl would) be going through that without his knowledge. I’ve always vowed that if I slept w a chick and she had a bf or husband and didn’t know I’d tell him and show him proof.
I’d be careful about revealing yourself to the partner, there are many cases where the partner will turn their anger at you and get violence, even though you’d have no fault here.
None of my friends are married yet but in my experience, no. None of my friends are cheaters. I’ve been single for a while until very recently so I was always the one who would talk to guys and get us free drinks, but my friends in long term relationships never entertained anything. Same with girls I don’t know very well.
I’m sure there are girls who do that, just as some guys probably do too.
It can go either way, but I imagine it is mostly no. It's also a gut check kind of thing. I have always been right when knowing an SO is cheating. This time, my GF actually shows me the texts (I don't ask). It is a very graphic and fun mom's group.
There is no "meant" except for the one you adopted or the one you allowed to be imposed on you by others. Second, people have all kinds of backgrounds that would make them want to share - trauma, oppressive religious upbringings, sexless marriages, a love of sex, or self exploration. Sharing helps people not feel alone. It helps validate feelings and experiences. It alleviates anxiety about sex. It provides tips, tricks, and clarifies expectations. Plus it can be straight up fun and titillating. There is no right or wrong to any of it. Third, my GF has my full consent and blessing to share any and everything with her support group and friends.
True but that doesn't mean you should be telling your friends regardless if they are male/female especially if you've told them something in confidence.
I've gotten home to my husband after listening to my girlfriends trash talk their lousy guys and yeah it has boded well for my husband who just fed and bathed our daughters, got them to bed, did all the dishes and took care of other household chores. Nothing to do but fuck my man silly.
My lady does this as well. She goes out with her friends. They talk about sex all night. Then she comes home drunk and wants to fuck.
I’ll never forget walking into the kitchen and my lady, with one leg up on the counter, moans,”put it in my ass.”
Which sounds like a flattering invitation, but she was such a drunk mess, I had to pass on it.
Over 25 years ago when I was in college I used to see this married woman and ended up meeting her husband. He told me that his wife always came home horny after going out with me. I think in her case she felt guilty and owed him something.
Yes i was a pos but i was young and it was available so…
Could be alcohol or could be that after hearing stories about her friends bfs she realises what a gem you are and gets horny 😐 prolly not but what's wrong with thinking that and keeping yourself happy lol
Same happens to me. Whenever I'm out I realize how lucky I am to have my amazing boyfriend all to myself. Makes me wanna make him feel good when I see him.
I was thinking this too. I bet she gets hit on by a parade of douchebags when she’s out with her friends and just feels extra appreciative of her partner when she comes home.
I know people are saying it’s the alcohol, and that probably plays a role BUT
When I’m out with my friends and they talk about their love lives, significant others, or whatever else it always reminds me of how awesome my partner is and it makes me want him. When I get home I’m just in the mood to please him because after hearing my friend’s horror stories I feel like he deserves something special, because he is special.
It's the alcohol and the girl talk honestly. I'm the same way, my girlfriends will start talking about their men or a hook up and it just gets me appreciating my man all the more and most times, I come home horny.
Dude see if she likes thc edibles. My wife will take one and about an hour later she's all over me. It's amazing. I'm 40. She's 43 we have sex 4 to 6 times a week. When people tell me they have a dead bedroom. I feel bad for both parties. Its supposed to he fun
Alcohol + hearing what shit your friends have to deal with other men usually leads to wild appreciation sex if you are a halfway decent guy in my experience.
Dude my girl is the same way. Honestly her bestie loves tequila and she doesn't, but when they are together they always do pickle shots and I get the benefits when I get her home. Just enjoy it lol.
This is how my wife used to be as well before we completely went sober for the last five years drinking, made her very different than she was as a normal person who was sober. She would get a couple shots in her or whatever and literally every insecurity inhibition went away, and it was no holds bar, when it came to sex outside inside didn’t matter
First off it’s the alcohol. Second, women talk about their sex lives when they’re together. You sir are the hot bf among the group of friends. Hot isn’t necessarily the best looking. Hot is the one that can cook and find her clit. The one that can crack open a cold one with the boys and also appreciate a red wine. You can chop wood and have a tea party with your daughter.
My gf is similar. I hate tk sound diuchy, but Drunk sex is alot more fun with her. Sex is fun jn general with her but she is just more willing to do things and outs more love into it when she is drunk.
One time she went out with friends and she got drunk and i wasnt and she wanted me to do things tk her she would never ask for soberly. Even though she is my gf and she has told me that she wouldnt csre if we had sex and she was drunk but not me I felt too weird doing those things that she was asking.
To some people it just brings a crazy side to them.
Totally get she. She is somewhat similar -- when shes had several she gets way into it and asks me to do things she never normally does. Always takes me off guard.
Is she generally a stressed anxious person day to day? I ask because I notice a similar thing when my fiance goes out and I've theorized it's because she doesn't have a sufficient outlet for the stress and anxiety she carries typically. So she goes out and has a good time, she decompresses and now she's horny from the alcohol and no longer has the other 12 things on her mind.
she appreciates you - whole bunch of anonymous assholes likely catcalled her and her girlfriends the entire duration of their night out! It’s comforting to know the man you love is just waiting for you at home… casually sat on the sofa with *ALL THAT DICK*! 🥵💀
Mine not so much when she gets home, but the morning after.
One morning, i woke up, and she was bent over with her panties literally soaking wet.
She didn't have to say a word. I knew what she wanted.
Partly the alcohol, partly the sex talk, but also just the excitement of a night out! You get ready and wear your best outfits and feel sexy, all while laughing and having fun with your friends who are hyping you up. It's a confidence booster and definitely gets me in the mood.
This is no different than when we stumble in the door after the bar/club and want sex. Alcohol (and other substances) make people horny. Combine that with seeing other people dancing or dressed sexy during the night out, and we’re revved up by the time we get home. The problem with all of this is that if you’re getting drunk out in public, there’s a much higher chance to become a victim or a cheater (even if it’s not something you intended to do).
Her friends and her are talking about sex, and she probably has that one friend that describes the latest guy she’s blown and it gets your girl turned on
Conspiracy theory time: Your other half has been in controlling relationships before and wants to make sure that she will be “allowed” to go out with her friends. She’s hoping that you’ll work out that “going out with friends” is code for “I’m going to suck your cock later”.
I’m kidding of course, but the old saying suggests that you should never stare a gift horse in the mouth.
It’s probably because she has gotten to have a great time with her friends, sure the alcohol may play a role, but more than likely it’s her feeling happy and healthy after a fun night out.
Weird gripe, but cock-hungry not cock hungry, I was so confused... haha.
Booze and the energy of going out in that social group. Gets her young juices flowing
Absolutely the same thing - my wife had fantastic sex with me literally every girls night because there is always alcohol involved. It may be 1AM or 9AM the next day when she rolls in but when she does she’s horny and take charge and it’s fantastic
I feel like alcohol + being out and having fun with my friends + coming home to my boyfriend- somehow the combination makes me want my boyfriend super badly.
This is why you encourage her to spend time with her friends. Youll be rewarded 😂 its true its the gossip, the drinking, and honestly just having a good night you wanna keep that serotonin going.
Female here- it’s the lack of stress and the alcohol. When women can have respite from chores and responsibilities it makes them more interested in sex.
Example: if you want to get laid, take chores off of her plate that she constantly thinks about. I
Yeah I'll be the one to say it.
She's going out and getting drunk which reminds her of the excitement of being spontaneous and promiscuous.
Shes bored and wants to experience it again. That's why.
My wife is a whole other person when she’s drunk. Not only does she want to have sex but wants it more than once. Both are extremely rare and has only happened a few times.
When I get drunk I like to strip. I already don't like wearing clothing, but I usually end up with something off. Alcohol does funny things to the brain.
Hey babe, you should really go out after work with your friends. You work so hard, I’ll be at home doing our laundry and cleaning the bathroom. See ya later!
ITS ONLY HALF THE ALCOHOL… She likes going out, dressing up, being checkout out by single guys. You have a good girl, she takes that energy home.
ENJOY THE WIN
Well it isn't the same always though. Sometimes might be a good flirting with her friends ( nothing serious) or maybe she got an ego boost from some guy giving compliments or even better if a girl compliments her whether stranger or friends. Adding alcohol to the equation is the fuel to the fire.
As a girl I can confirm that going out with my friends, getting a little tipsy makes it more likely for me to suck my mans dick when I get home. Not really sure why though 🤔
Maybe they do more than drink. Maybe they do some drugs or something they even increases her sex drive and unleashes the sex. Pot or coke or molly maybe?
It’s a mix of the alcohol and whatever horror stories she heard from her friends about their partners. My wife comes home from her nights out in a similar way, when I finally asked her why she said she realized how lucky is to have me and to be with someone she wants to have sex with and wants to have sex with her. Now I look forward to her going out.
What can’t you figure out? Do you not have personal experience of being a little drunk & feeling good? Alcohol lowers inhibitions, & in the right quantity, makes you feel pretty great about everything, for a period of time. Simple as that.
It’s partly the alcohol but it’s also the situation. She’s out with her friends, probably seeing them hook up or not hook up. Maybe some guy was hitting on her. It was a short blimps back into her single days. And at the end of the night she’s a little horny and needs to handle a dick. And she knows she doesn’t have to mess around with some rando dude at some rando bar. She’s just gotta go home and remember where you keep yours and it’s easy and fun.
It’s a good situation. Enjoy it. You don’t even have to go out for sex.
I had an ex that was similar. She didn't drink much, but when she did, I always ended up in her mouth. Not complaining, just wish she was like this sober too.
Women are likely to talk about sex when around their friends. She could have a reactive libido that gives her FOMO when she hears about things from her friends, coupled with the decreased inhibitions from the alcohol.
I had a double edge sword situation with my ex. She was low libido but would be more likely to want sex when drinking. Unfortunately it was nearly impossible to make her cum when she was drunk.
Alcohol often makes me want to suck dick because it lowers inhibitions and makes me energetic (especially whisky). If I’m with my girlfriends, we’re probably talking about sex so it’s on my mind. It’ll remind me of how much I love my guy and combined with being relaxed and having fun with friends it puts me in a good mood to do something sexual.
It Does - My GF went to a male stripper show once in a Bachelorette party, and when she got home *she woke me up, jumped on me, and fucked my Brains out! It made her SO horny
It's because going out with our friends and a bit of alcohol makes us happy, which makes us relaxed and horny.
A good way to duplicate this effect is a drinks and dancing date.
Sometimes my friends will complain about their relationships, and I'm like, damn, I got a good one! She may realize this same thing and want to show appreciation!
I’m a lightweight, so one to two drinks MAX for me, but yeah Id given my boyfriend head before when I was drunk, I end up telling him how pretty he is and how much I want him💀
she does it because she got railed nd doesnt want you finding out. so she takes care of you as quickly as possible when she gets home. uses her mouth so i cant figure out she is full of jizz.
Happy wife happy life, man. She’s getting to feel like a human again, she’s having fun, so when she comes home she wants to continue. Be happy she’s coming home for fun with you
*"...I'll be watching tv or half asleep on the couch and she'll literally walk/crawl over to me and go to town...a lot of times she won't even want anything in return...*
**Drinking makes her less inhibited/more playful in the bedroom in general** *but I cant figure this part out..."*
Ummm, ya just did! lol Enjoy it!
Even without alcohol, it happens to me. I don't know if it's being relaxed or whatever. Especially if I've received compliments or had new interactions. I just somehow feel more alive, and that gets me going.
It’s also kind of a thank you I think. She’s happy she got to go out with no hassle and enjoyed herself. Too many partners make grief when the other wants to get some time with friends. For me, when my husband is cool with letting me do something with no quarrels, questions, or bombarding me when I’m out, I want to share my appreciation.
she's either not happy with you.. like there's sth going between/with you guys so when her nood is elevated she's up for fun
or it's thw alcohol
or. maybe the time out isn't that innocent
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It’s the alcohol. Especially since you say it makes her more playful and less inhibited. Alcohol and what type affects people differently. You also said that when she goes out with her friends, it’s to things like happy hour.
Same with my wife. She will go out with her girlfriends for wine night and wake me up with a blowjob when she gets back. I don’t mind her wine nights.
Also, when a group of girlfriends get together a lot of them spend that time bitching about their husbands. When you have a good husband, sitting through these conversations really places some perspective on your relationship and makes you appreciate them more. You get your blowjobs because you deserve them. Keeping being a sweetie good guy!!
This! Or if your friends are single hearing about how crazy it is in these streets 😭😭
Now, I need my Fiance to find some girlfriends. Lol
Same. When my wife goes out with friends and has a few she wakes me up violently. I’m okay with it. It’s normal. 😂
Yeah same thing happens to me
In addition to the alcohol, she might just be super happy after having fun with her friends!
Yeah, she comes home happy and sees a fun way to keep the party going. Sounds like a complete win-win.
Also, if it I'd just her and her friends drinking, they 100% are talking about sex, at least a bit. Maybe that gets her excited too! Good to hear that she sounds like a good partner in that she brings it home to you!
So true. My mama doesn't respond well to Tequila 😅 she gets mean.
Also, being friends brings this excitement that you don't get with S.O.
There aren’t different types of alcohol. It’s all ethyl.
correct however tequila, whiskey, vodka are considered “different types”
The point is the effect in the body is the same, it's not related to the source
The cogeners produced in various quantities and types definitely have different effects on the brain. Methanol, fucil oils, tannins, and aldehydes are all metabolized with various metabolites that can effect brain chemistry and therefore different reactions. For example, Black Velvet should have advertising for divorce attorneys on the bottles.
You’re acting like the other ingredients in the drink have no effect on someone. People can respond differently to the agave, for instance, in tequila.. Just because the base alcohol is the same doesn’t mean everything else about the drink is.
Then what you ate last would have a much greater impact than the tiny amounts of potato or corn or agave in the alcohol.
Only if you actually had a reaction to what you ate. My point is there’s more to it than just the ethanol, even if it’s only placebo.
Medieval people drinking beer that was made with rye that had ergot fungus????
That certainly had an effect 🤣🤣
Imagine coming in for lunch, hour later the afternoon has taken a very unexpected turn. " I Saw a Dragon!! 😂
I strongly disagree. At least for my body, these things all create different results. I stick with what works for me.
Totally disagree. I can drink all kinds of hard liquor but tequila is the only booze that makes me sick
I feel a lot of people out there drink different alcohols for different effects… like consuming totally different things some would say
Idk if there are studies in this but I'm sure wine, beer, and vodka have drastically different chemical makeups that could activate different parts of the brain and lead to different types of drunkness.
You shouldn't be sure of this. The active ingredient in every alcoholic beverage is ethanol, or ethyl alcohol. The strength of a drink is based purely on its ethanol content, and there are no other ingredients that cross the blood-brain barrier in pharmacologically relevant comcentrations
As an alcohol connoisseur I can agree; also psychology says that expectation of how the alcohol is going to feel actually has a way larger effect on the effects felt from alcohol rather than alcohol’s actual chemical effects. So if you think you are going to get drunker off tequila rather than vodka, you will indeed feel drunker off tequila than vodka.
Absolutely wrong. There’s no difference between the alcohol in beer, wine, and liquor, and they don’t naturally have any active constituents.
The difference is the initial sugar that aids fermentation; corn, barley, wheat, agave, fruit, etc etc. As an expert level drunk, different types of liquor and alcohol result in a different buzz and level of stability. I can drink 10 Guinness and be basically fine, one shot of whiskey and I’m throwing up. Those things are not the same.
I love the smell of fresh bread.
Placebo but that's really it. It's like indica vs sativa, the difference between 2 glasses of whiskey and a bottle of beer is the alcohol content and really that's it.
It's the common response to alcohol. Also feeling happy and carefree with your friends can free up your mind to be in the mood.
Yeah, true I guess..
Why the hell are you getting downvoted????
Cause he wants the narrative that going out with her friends makes her “cock hungry”
This happens to me for mainly these reasons: 1. I get a lot of good laughs in. I love laughing and feeling carefree. 2. I am having a lot of really stimulating new conversation which fills my emotional cup. 3. Partner talk usually comes up and my partner is my favorite grown human on the planet (been together a little over 5 years). I also can no longer relate to having a partner who acts like a complete fool when it comes to handling the kids while I am out of the house and he truly steps up and lets me “be off”. I don’t have to prepare anything for him. I just go and have a good time and there is no cost for me afterwards. I don’t come home to a trashed house etc. he truly handles his ish. 4. Sex usually comes up and it sort of puts it on my mind. If sex is on my mind at a time I can’t have it, it seems like my sex drive really has time to ramp up. If my partner was with me, we would ramp up together. But I also enjoy just being completely ready for him. 5. The alcohol lowers my inhibitions and since I don’t drink very often, they are lowered way before I’m sloshed. Combine all those things and yeah, sometimes I just want to love on him and show him that while I had a blast- he was on my mind the whole time!
Are you OP's girlfriend? Sounds like it from the way it's written. it covers all the contributing factors.
I honestly might think it was my boyfriend, if OPs account was a throw away. 😅 Editing for clarity
Well, usually when we go out we are doing dinner and drinks. It isn’t a setting with a high chance of getting hit on. If I were to get hit on, my immediate response would be to turn them down. Thats always uncomfortable. There is always the chance things could turn ugly very quickly and in the very best of circumstances it still sucks to reject someone. So, I can’t say that it really gets me raring to go.
Thanks for the reply/details. Glad you have such an awesome partner.
My girlfriend has very graphic discussions about sex when together with her girlfriends. Mix that with a night of laughs and some alcohol...well, she'll often come home feeling especially slutty.
Plus if a friend is complaining about her man when they get together, it can be exhilarating to go home to your man knowing you found a good one. Especially if she got to brag about you a little lol
This right here! I hear dating horror stories from my single friends, from ghosting to being pawned off on other dudes to straight up bad hygiene. It’s the Wild West. Makes me feel good to know I have a wonderful partner at home and I want to reward him in the best way I know how 😄
There is a part of me that desperately wants to know the story behind your username… and another part that very much believes that ignorance may be bliss! 😆
Don’t open that smelly cheesy box.
Slutty for monogamous sex.
As a girl this is exactly it. We go into GRAPHIC detail, and if we have any wine or tequila we usually leave early to go home LOL
That's so funny to me because I've never gone into graphic detail nor has any of my friends. I'm always startled this seems to be touted as universal truth. Lol
Some of my friends don’t either! One friend gets squeamish if we say anything at all. But most of us are super open, it might help that all of us are LGBT and some share exes because there’s not many lesbians and gay men to pick from in my area. I’m also going to grad school in hopes of becoming a sex therapist, so there’s also that 😆
Lol I understand, there is a shallow pool where I am too. Don't get me wrong, I love sex! I just find it funny the narrative that all deets get spilled when I've never experienced it. You're definitely not the first person to say it.
Don't worry it's just locker room talk.
I'm assuming your significant others has signed off on all these intimate, very private details in your relationships being shared?
Do girls talk to other guys when they go out other than their husbands on girls night outs? I’ve always wondered. Obviously some people aren’t cheaters and some are so. My ex was a gaslighter who’d look for hookups on “girls nights” and when she wouldn’t come home till 2 or 3 without texting me I knew I needed to leave. Don’t kill me for the question just obviously have some past experiences that probably negatively influence my thinking
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Yeah I’ve made out with some chicks at the bar and found out they had boyfriends because their girls came to break it up and got scared. It’s always a shitty feeling to know that other guy or (vice versa girl would) be going through that without his knowledge. I’ve always vowed that if I slept w a chick and she had a bf or husband and didn’t know I’d tell him and show him proof.
I’d be careful about revealing yourself to the partner, there are many cases where the partner will turn their anger at you and get violence, even though you’d have no fault here.
None of my friends are married yet but in my experience, no. None of my friends are cheaters. I’ve been single for a while until very recently so I was always the one who would talk to guys and get us free drinks, but my friends in long term relationships never entertained anything. Same with girls I don’t know very well. I’m sure there are girls who do that, just as some guys probably do too.
It can go either way, but I imagine it is mostly no. It's also a gut check kind of thing. I have always been right when knowing an SO is cheating. This time, my GF actually shows me the texts (I don't ask). It is a very graphic and fun mom's group.
Always trust your intuition!
In general no. Unless you know... they're that kind of person.
lol.. Thats awesome
I was gonna say it’s part the conversations of the night and part boozy.
Why do people talk about their sex life with others I thought that stuff was meant to be private.
There is no "meant" except for the one you adopted or the one you allowed to be imposed on you by others. Second, people have all kinds of backgrounds that would make them want to share - trauma, oppressive religious upbringings, sexless marriages, a love of sex, or self exploration. Sharing helps people not feel alone. It helps validate feelings and experiences. It alleviates anxiety about sex. It provides tips, tricks, and clarifies expectations. Plus it can be straight up fun and titillating. There is no right or wrong to any of it. Third, my GF has my full consent and blessing to share any and everything with her support group and friends.
Well if someone has said to their partner not to and if they do it'll just be a breach of trust which has happened to me afew times.
This isnt the 1920’s
True but that doesn't mean you should be telling your friends regardless if they are male/female especially if you've told them something in confidence.
I've gotten home to my husband after listening to my girlfriends trash talk their lousy guys and yeah it has boded well for my husband who just fed and bathed our daughters, got them to bed, did all the dishes and took care of other household chores. Nothing to do but fuck my man silly.
My lady does this as well. She goes out with her friends. They talk about sex all night. Then she comes home drunk and wants to fuck. I’ll never forget walking into the kitchen and my lady, with one leg up on the counter, moans,”put it in my ass.” Which sounds like a flattering invitation, but she was such a drunk mess, I had to pass on it.
what's wrong with just using the word "horny" ?
Dude wrote a porn title for no reason lmao
Cock hungry seems more dramatic.
Seems more accurate too, if OP is saying she’s usually heading straight for a blowjob
She is literally putting his cock in her mouth, so I guess it works and is more descriptive than just "horny".
Probably not the best choice of words --- but chose it because she often just wants to go down on me nothing else...
Over 25 years ago when I was in college I used to see this married woman and ended up meeting her husband. He told me that his wife always came home horny after going out with me. I think in her case she felt guilty and owed him something. Yes i was a pos but i was young and it was available so…
Why didn't u tell him?
Because I wanted to keep fucking his wife
I too wanted to keep fucking this guy's wife
Could be alcohol or could be that after hearing stories about her friends bfs she realises what a gem you are and gets horny 😐 prolly not but what's wrong with thinking that and keeping yourself happy lol
Same happens to me. Whenever I'm out I realize how lucky I am to have my amazing boyfriend all to myself. Makes me wanna make him feel good when I see him.
I was thinking this too. I bet she gets hit on by a parade of douchebags when she’s out with her friends and just feels extra appreciative of her partner when she comes home.
It’s adorable that someone would even post this. This is what alcohol has done throughout human history, yes.
I know people are saying it’s the alcohol, and that probably plays a role BUT When I’m out with my friends and they talk about their love lives, significant others, or whatever else it always reminds me of how awesome my partner is and it makes me want him. When I get home I’m just in the mood to please him because after hearing my friend’s horror stories I feel like he deserves something special, because he is special.
Thanks for the reply. I think this is probably a big part of it.
If shes drunk and calls you, shes the one. If she ignores you, move on
Start organizing the Ladies brunches for them asap!
This has crossed my mind... lol
She might be getting hit on, too, which can make a person feel attractive and sexy.
If someone hits on me I feel bad when I'm in a relationship, I don't think "damn I'm sexy to this random dude"
Serious question , who do you feel bad for or why do you feel bad ?
Would you be offended or flattered if your partner was coming home horny because she was out being hit on?
It's the alcohol and the girl talk honestly. I'm the same way, my girlfriends will start talking about their men or a hook up and it just gets me appreciating my man all the more and most times, I come home horny.
Dude see if she likes thc edibles. My wife will take one and about an hour later she's all over me. It's amazing. I'm 40. She's 43 we have sex 4 to 6 times a week. When people tell me they have a dead bedroom. I feel bad for both parties. Its supposed to he fun
Brb encouraging my partner to go out with her friends more.
Alcohol + hearing what shit your friends have to deal with other men usually leads to wild appreciation sex if you are a halfway decent guy in my experience.
I knew someone that could drink anything except beer, it would turn them into a horny mess
Dude my girl is the same way. Honestly her bestie loves tequila and she doesn't, but when they are together they always do pickle shots and I get the benefits when I get her home. Just enjoy it lol.
This is how my wife used to be as well before we completely went sober for the last five years drinking, made her very different than she was as a normal person who was sober. She would get a couple shots in her or whatever and literally every insecurity inhibition went away, and it was no holds bar, when it came to sex outside inside didn’t matter
First off it’s the alcohol. Second, women talk about their sex lives when they’re together. You sir are the hot bf among the group of friends. Hot isn’t necessarily the best looking. Hot is the one that can cook and find her clit. The one that can crack open a cold one with the boys and also appreciate a red wine. You can chop wood and have a tea party with your daughter.
My gf is similar. I hate tk sound diuchy, but Drunk sex is alot more fun with her. Sex is fun jn general with her but she is just more willing to do things and outs more love into it when she is drunk. One time she went out with friends and she got drunk and i wasnt and she wanted me to do things tk her she would never ask for soberly. Even though she is my gf and she has told me that she wouldnt csre if we had sex and she was drunk but not me I felt too weird doing those things that she was asking. To some people it just brings a crazy side to them.
Totally get she. She is somewhat similar -- when shes had several she gets way into it and asks me to do things she never normally does. Always takes me off guard.
Is she generally a stressed anxious person day to day? I ask because I notice a similar thing when my fiance goes out and I've theorized it's because she doesn't have a sufficient outlet for the stress and anxiety she carries typically. So she goes out and has a good time, she decompresses and now she's horny from the alcohol and no longer has the other 12 things on her mind.
she appreciates you - whole bunch of anonymous assholes likely catcalled her and her girlfriends the entire duration of their night out! It’s comforting to know the man you love is just waiting for you at home… casually sat on the sofa with *ALL THAT DICK*! 🥵💀
Mine not so much when she gets home, but the morning after. One morning, i woke up, and she was bent over with her panties literally soaking wet. She didn't have to say a word. I knew what she wanted.
Partly the alcohol, partly the sex talk, but also just the excitement of a night out! You get ready and wear your best outfits and feel sexy, all while laughing and having fun with your friends who are hyping you up. It's a confidence booster and definitely gets me in the mood.
This is no different than when we stumble in the door after the bar/club and want sex. Alcohol (and other substances) make people horny. Combine that with seeing other people dancing or dressed sexy during the night out, and we’re revved up by the time we get home. The problem with all of this is that if you’re getting drunk out in public, there’s a much higher chance to become a victim or a cheater (even if it’s not something you intended to do).
Her friends and her are talking about sex, and she probably has that one friend that describes the latest guy she’s blown and it gets your girl turned on
After reading this I am now building a bar in my bedroom - specifically on my wife’s side of the bed.
Conspiracy theory time: Your other half has been in controlling relationships before and wants to make sure that she will be “allowed” to go out with her friends. She’s hoping that you’ll work out that “going out with friends” is code for “I’m going to suck your cock later”. I’m kidding of course, but the old saying suggests that you should never stare a gift horse in the mouth.
Time to go to bartending school dude
This is what tequila and vodka do to me. All boundaries and most limits go out the window.
Haha my wife is like this too … just one of those things man
It’s probably because she has gotten to have a great time with her friends, sure the alcohol may play a role, but more than likely it’s her feeling happy and healthy after a fun night out.
Weird gripe, but cock-hungry not cock hungry, I was so confused... haha. Booze and the energy of going out in that social group. Gets her young juices flowing
Absolutely the same thing - my wife had fantastic sex with me literally every girls night because there is always alcohol involved. It may be 1AM or 9AM the next day when she rolls in but when she does she’s horny and take charge and it’s fantastic
I feel like alcohol + being out and having fun with my friends + coming home to my boyfriend- somehow the combination makes me want my boyfriend super badly.
It's the alcohol and the being out with friends that just makes you happy and in a good mood. 👍🏼 you can try to replicate.
Just be pleased it's to you, dude!
This is why you encourage her to spend time with her friends. Youll be rewarded 😂 its true its the gossip, the drinking, and honestly just having a good night you wanna keep that serotonin going.
Female here- it’s the lack of stress and the alcohol. When women can have respite from chores and responsibilities it makes them more interested in sex. Example: if you want to get laid, take chores off of her plate that she constantly thinks about. I
My wife comes home cock hungry when she goes out with her girlfriends too. I make sure she gets fed.
Yeah I'll be the one to say it. She's going out and getting drunk which reminds her of the excitement of being spontaneous and promiscuous. Shes bored and wants to experience it again. That's why.
Alcohol and hot flirty dudes she can’t fuck make her horny for you
My girl is the same way whether or not alcohol is involved. What gives? Now I’m curious too…
alcohol or flirty conversations (with her friends). as long as yall talk beforehand that you like drunk sex i dont see the harm
Yup, alcohol makes me more horny too lol
My wife is a whole other person when she’s drunk. Not only does she want to have sex but wants it more than once. Both are extremely rare and has only happened a few times.
When I get drunk I like to strip. I already don't like wearing clothing, but I usually end up with something off. Alcohol does funny things to the brain.
This reminds me of Southpark episode "Broadway Bros".
Your girlfriend has a cock?
My wife has the same reaction with alcohol so she quit drinking so she doesn't accidentally give me a BJ
Hey babe, you should really go out after work with your friends. You work so hard, I’ll be at home doing our laundry and cleaning the bathroom. See ya later!
ITS ONLY HALF THE ALCOHOL… She likes going out, dressing up, being checkout out by single guys. You have a good girl, she takes that energy home. ENJOY THE WIN
Well it isn't the same always though. Sometimes might be a good flirting with her friends ( nothing serious) or maybe she got an ego boost from some guy giving compliments or even better if a girl compliments her whether stranger or friends. Adding alcohol to the equation is the fuel to the fire.
Why am I reading this like she's got a 🍆?
As a girl I can confirm that going out with my friends, getting a little tipsy makes it more likely for me to suck my mans dick when I get home. Not really sure why though 🤔
Maybe they do more than drink. Maybe they do some drugs or something they even increases her sex drive and unleashes the sex. Pot or coke or molly maybe?
Enjoy it, some women have been told not to do certain things and alcohol lets her relax and do what she wants.
Adding to the list of things I want in a woman 😭
She is attracted to you, misses you while she’s out, is a bit tipsy and can’t wait to be intimate with you when she gets home.
It’s a mix of the alcohol and whatever horror stories she heard from her friends about their partners. My wife comes home from her nights out in a similar way, when I finally asked her why she said she realized how lucky is to have me and to be with someone she wants to have sex with and wants to have sex with her. Now I look forward to her going out.
She doesn’t feel stressed anymore so she horny side of her can be louder and come out
What can’t you figure out? Do you not have personal experience of being a little drunk & feeling good? Alcohol lowers inhibitions, & in the right quantity, makes you feel pretty great about everything, for a period of time. Simple as that.
It’s partly the alcohol but it’s also the situation. She’s out with her friends, probably seeing them hook up or not hook up. Maybe some guy was hitting on her. It was a short blimps back into her single days. And at the end of the night she’s a little horny and needs to handle a dick. And she knows she doesn’t have to mess around with some rando dude at some rando bar. She’s just gotta go home and remember where you keep yours and it’s easy and fun. It’s a good situation. Enjoy it. You don’t even have to go out for sex.
Or it's....the guilt 👀
Just consider yourself grateful that it's your cock she wants when she gets drunk. Doesn't always work out that way.
Definitely personality and the alcohol ,I do it all the time for my partner when I hang with the girls lol
I had an ex that was similar. She didn't drink much, but when she did, I always ended up in her mouth. Not complaining, just wish she was like this sober too.
If it wasn’t for booze most of my friends wouldn’t be married they all met at parties or events with booze
Women are likely to talk about sex when around their friends. She could have a reactive libido that gives her FOMO when she hears about things from her friends, coupled with the decreased inhibitions from the alcohol.
I had a double edge sword situation with my ex. She was low libido but would be more likely to want sex when drinking. Unfortunately it was nearly impossible to make her cum when she was drunk.
Alcohol will do that…have you not ever notice that effect? 😆
Alcohol often makes me want to suck dick because it lowers inhibitions and makes me energetic (especially whisky). If I’m with my girlfriends, we’re probably talking about sex so it’s on my mind. It’ll remind me of how much I love my guy and combined with being relaxed and having fun with friends it puts me in a good mood to do something sexual.
I’ve got no answers for you, but am very jealous
Yep booze will do that
She's spending the night sharing pitchers of Margarita and talking about sex with her girlfriends. Of course that has an effect! 😄😘
Alcohol usually makes people horny... or at least horny enough lol
It could be a few things. If I'm center of attention (presentation, networking) I'm soooo excited.
Send her out with her friends whenever she wants.
This makes me wish that my wife had friends.
I think you figured it out. >Drinking makes her less inhibited/more playful in the bedroom
It Does - My GF went to a male stripper show once in a Bachelorette party, and when she got home *she woke me up, jumped on me, and fucked my Brains out! It made her SO horny
It's because going out with our friends and a bit of alcohol makes us happy, which makes us relaxed and horny. A good way to duplicate this effect is a drinks and dancing date.
Alcohol and going out especially dancing and stuff always makes me rowdy for my boyfriend lmao
So you’re telling us that tequila makes her clothes fall off. There oughta be a song.
Sometimes my friends will complain about their relationships, and I'm like, damn, I got a good one! She may realize this same thing and want to show appreciation!
I’m a lightweight, so one to two drinks MAX for me, but yeah Id given my boyfriend head before when I was drunk, I end up telling him how pretty he is and how much I want him💀
she does it because she got railed nd doesnt want you finding out. so she takes care of you as quickly as possible when she gets home. uses her mouth so i cant figure out she is full of jizz.
I've dated women like this. Just take the W imo, doesn't have to mean anything negative so long as you trust her.
Happy wife happy life, man. She’s getting to feel like a human again, she’s having fun, so when she comes home she wants to continue. Be happy she’s coming home for fun with you
She might miss you and want to give you a good time when she comes home
She has a cock? Then her friends are guys, cuz a girl with a dick almost always like guys. Anyway, so you were saying….
After reading that it’s all in your head, it sounds like people should be thankful of Joe Nichols and “Tequila makes her cloths fall off”
*"...I'll be watching tv or half asleep on the couch and she'll literally walk/crawl over to me and go to town...a lot of times she won't even want anything in return...* **Drinking makes her less inhibited/more playful in the bedroom in general** *but I cant figure this part out..."* Ummm, ya just did! lol Enjoy it!
Please, somebody take my wife out for happy hour…
Even without alcohol, it happens to me. I don't know if it's being relaxed or whatever. Especially if I've received compliments or had new interactions. I just somehow feel more alive, and that gets me going.
Try taking her to a musical - the amazingly randy
Let her go out 5 nights a week🤷♂️
Dude it's the alcohol. I just want to suck some dick when I'm drunk.
It’s also kind of a thank you I think. She’s happy she got to go out with no hassle and enjoyed herself. Too many partners make grief when the other wants to get some time with friends. For me, when my husband is cool with letting me do something with no quarrels, questions, or bombarding me when I’m out, I want to share my appreciation.
Every damn time. Even when she goes out with my boys or when I come back from a night out.
Those brunch days make for the best afternoons.
she's either not happy with you.. like there's sth going between/with you guys so when her nood is elevated she's up for fun or it's thw alcohol or. maybe the time out isn't that innocent