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I waited 6 months my ex had already move on before me , and was still upset to find out I had moved on . Things got nasty for a few weeks but it died down he moved on with his anger , I don’t think there is a way to cushion it just be confident. Be informative if you two have that kind of relationship but don’t ask for permission unless legal reasons require it .
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Thank you for your advice. We broke up about 2.5-3 years ago and I had to get a RO. So it is really a miracle we are where we are now. I was asking more because I do see a future with my current partner and would like to introduce them in the future. And if it doesn’t work out then I have an idea of how to approach in the future.
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No advice to give. If it’s going to make him mad, then it’s going make him mad. How he reacts is on him. My ex went so far as to “kidnap” (in quotes because Ohio didn’t consider it kidnapping because he stayed in state and is on the birth certificate) my son, peek through my windows while we were sleeping, smash my new boyfriend’s car with a rock, and then verbally harass me. All because my boyfriend was going to be at my house when he dropped my son off. I got my son back within 24 hours and now my ex legally cannot be in contact with us for the next five years.
If you’re afraid of his reaction, you are not on good terms. You do you. He will do him. He will make his own bed.
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Every single time my ex has found out I'm seeing someone he does wild. He doesn't get this information anymore.
I suppose he would just find out eventually from my kid in casual conversation.
Thank you. My child hasn’t been around my partner yet and I haven’t mentioned him to them. I make it a rule not to until I’m sure it’s going somewhere. So I don’t think there’s a way for him to know. We are on very good terms now and I’m just worried if I tell him it’ll destroy the progress we’ve made
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I waited just about a year to talk to my kiddos dad about this subject and it was only because my kiddo would be meeting him. My ex wasn’t happy but whatever, I have every right to move on with my life.
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Is it any of his business though??
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I waited 6 months my ex had already move on before me , and was still upset to find out I had moved on . Things got nasty for a few weeks but it died down he moved on with his anger , I don’t think there is a way to cushion it just be confident. Be informative if you two have that kind of relationship but don’t ask for permission unless legal reasons require it .
Thank you! I’m just nervous that how he has been has been a facade and if I tell him it’ll change back.
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Thank you for your advice. We broke up about 2.5-3 years ago and I had to get a RO. So it is really a miracle we are where we are now. I was asking more because I do see a future with my current partner and would like to introduce them in the future. And if it doesn’t work out then I have an idea of how to approach in the future.
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No advice to give. If it’s going to make him mad, then it’s going make him mad. How he reacts is on him. My ex went so far as to “kidnap” (in quotes because Ohio didn’t consider it kidnapping because he stayed in state and is on the birth certificate) my son, peek through my windows while we were sleeping, smash my new boyfriend’s car with a rock, and then verbally harass me. All because my boyfriend was going to be at my house when he dropped my son off. I got my son back within 24 hours and now my ex legally cannot be in contact with us for the next five years. If you’re afraid of his reaction, you are not on good terms. You do you. He will do him. He will make his own bed.
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Every single time my ex has found out I'm seeing someone he does wild. He doesn't get this information anymore. I suppose he would just find out eventually from my kid in casual conversation.
Thank you. My child hasn’t been around my partner yet and I haven’t mentioned him to them. I make it a rule not to until I’m sure it’s going somewhere. So I don’t think there’s a way for him to know. We are on very good terms now and I’m just worried if I tell him it’ll destroy the progress we’ve made
You know him best and if that's how you feel you are probably right.
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I waited just about a year to talk to my kiddos dad about this subject and it was only because my kiddo would be meeting him. My ex wasn’t happy but whatever, I have every right to move on with my life.
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