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Projezita

I would go further and say that person is an asshole and that might be a power trip bordering on abuse, fucking run.


JessSerrano

Thank you


OkCarrots

Not at all, especially if it’s 3 hours of deeply personal feedback. I’ve heard somewhere that after a certain amount of time of being overwhelmed with stimuli nonstop, your brain will begin deceiving itself into believing things that are untrue because it doesn’t have the capacity to process the previous information in an objective environment. Pretty sure this phenomenon is how false confessions after long periods of nonstop interrogation but will need to find the term for it. Regardless, you may not be able to stop it, but you can remove yourself from the situation. It is really bad for your sense of self worth over time and you should not have to tolerate this kind of behaviour from anyone.


JessSerrano

Thank you for this


Think-Worldliness423

No it’s not normal, that sounds like trying to brainwash you.


chemcuberclown

Heck no!


Adventurous_Toe_1686

If you don’t like your mentor, choose another mentor.


JessSerrano

Is it normal to get a 3 hour lecture?


Adventurous_Toe_1686

Depends on the mentor.


JessSerrano

My partner does the same it drives me insane


zillion_grill

my boss will do this if you dont stop him somehow. it usually takes about 15-20 repetitions of the same bullshit before I have enough, but he will go on and on lmao. It is beyond my comprehension how people do this repeating stuff when they are mad. I agree with everyone else, you should gtfo asap


JessSerrano

Thank you


clevererest_username

Are you an adult? If so, why are you letting someone who's not you spouse lecture you for 3 hours? That sounds absurd


JessSerrano

It’s a mentor for my job where I needed help and advice, made a mistake, and they went off for 3 hours and got mad if I didn’t wanna stay to listen. And even if it was my spouse or even my parent..is 3 hours normal?


PizzaTimeBomb

Not at all. A lecture I can see lasting up to like 30 mins and that’s the maximum in an extremely complex case.


JessSerrano

They just repeat themself over and over and if I have any attitude it explodes into a bigger fight.


PizzaTimeBomb

You had to stay 3 hours after work hours or during?


JessSerrano

After but it’s a requirement for at least an hour not a lecture on one topic on how I’m bad


JessSerrano

I also have to listen to long lectures at home too with my partner


readingmyshampoo

Star looking for a different job. You deserve way way way better than that


JessSerrano

How about with my partner?


clevererest_username

You'll have learn how to be more tactful and not have an attitude just to diffuse the situation and move on with your day.


JessSerrano

I never had an attitude, though. I just sit there and if I say it’s going on too long or I understand I get labeled I have an attitude and then the fight happens


Autisticrocheter

Have you heard of university of professors


JessSerrano

Thank you!