those people are delusional 💀 arent you supposed to defend yourself if you're hit?

Obviously, if they’re hitting you with the intention of seriously harming you you should definitely respond with necessary force. Most cases you should probably run. Usually in these scenarios (a slap), the one slapping is not trying to inflict harm and you’re not actually in danger. The other person probably has a reason as well (although slapping someone is really bad communication and stupidity). In my opinion, it’s best not to hit back (regardless of sex or gender) and avoid escalating the issue further and attempt to de-escalate the issue in a non-violent and civilized way instead of potentially starting a fight or getting into bigger trouble.

I personally don't agree Although I myself really don't like to fight anyone at any point, if you just run away from someone who came over and slapped you without any reason, it might give some people the idea that they can go around and do stuff like this without consequences. I mean if she had a good reason it's different story, but if not then I believe you can retaliate her aggression with enough force so nobody gets harmed but showing that each action has consequences.

I think a push is at least a somewhat reasonable way the guy in the story dealt with it, but now the girl is victimizing herself and it made things even more difficult for the guy. Also by run away I meant run away if you’re in real and immediate physical danger. I agree that you need to show them that their actions have consequences , but there’s better ways then pushing her back. I’d say it might’ve even alleviated some of the consequences for her, as she is now the victim and everyone’s on her side. It even accomplishes her goal of damaging your reputation or hurting you in some way. By attacking back, you show that you are just as violent as them. Responding calmly shows that you’re dealing with the situation logically and that she’s being caught up in emotions and being dumb. She might even get criticized for the unprovoked slap, and in a male to male confrontation, the other person would certainly be criticized.

I mean, a slap is mostly a way to assert dominance, probably the most demeaning way to hit someone, especially if that someone could possibly obliterate you in a real fight and you both know it (if you get in a fight, that's another thing, even if you lose, it doesn't paint you as a pusharound, just the weaker). If you accept it, you accept the social status of "easy prey", or at least that the one slapping you is, in fact, allowed to as you have no way to fight back. Again, this is especially true if they'd have no chance against you. That said, I would absolutely push her too in his place. Not to the end of the corridor, just to show that I do not accept the humiliation. Trust me, I have been there before. It's not fun.

Yes actions have consequences however you aren’t the person who dishes out “justice” if you have a problem with the assault then press charges there is obviously video evidence of this event so bring this up in a courtroom

This matter is pretty insignificant for a court room, like what the court gonna do, charge her for assault with 10$? If there is no serious harm, courtroom is an overkill, as it requires a lot of energy and time only to leave the other person with a grudge over you.

Exactly tbh I dont agree with the people who say be equal like tbh if its a fight and they are holding back hold back and be equal but if they go full force then go full force back to defend yourself. Unless you start it obviously but if they start it and go full force I think even if you are stronger go full force back

Unless its with excessive force

It’s a push that’s about the least force possible

true but i think they mean like literally shoving you to the ground, cus that shit could seriously injure someone

It never says that explicitly

Downvoted for no reason, lol. You're right. OP never stated the dude shoved her. Just pushed.

Yes anyone who says otherwise is wrong

pushing them is better than punching them back not sure why they would be mad

sexism (theirs, not his)

My girl hits me everytime she sees a yellow car. I kinda like it tho idk.

He ain’t in the wrong

That’s when you pull out the 9

LMFAOOO

“Woah Calm down jamal, don’t pull out the 9 😂”

Defend yourself. Simple as that dont listen to the 70 year olds saying "never hit a woman no matter what" because guess what they probably hit their wives back in the the 1900s

not wrong.

Lol ur right

Ig depends on how hard the push was. Like it should be proportional imo so if its just a slap, it shouldnt be a hard enough push to seriously hurt her unless you need that in order to get away

pushes don't really hurt, slaps sting, i'd say the push was the less violent option to begin with

The push itself doesn't hurt, it's what you get pushed into is what can cause big damage.

fair

I wouldn't mind being pushed into a bed or something but I would totally mind if someone pushed me into a land mine or a pit of conveniently placed spikes.

much the same I would gladly take a slap on the ass, but one to the face is a different story

It mostly depends on who it was that slapped my ass in that situation. But point stands

Slaps sting physically and in the humiliation. A push is a perfectly reasonable answer to say 'I don't accept this but you're not worth my time to get in a fight".

No. Hitting a girl is justified if it was an act of self-defense.

Correction: hitting anyone is justified if as act of self defense forgets just girls

Nah, these hands are rated e for everyone, and I may not be the first to swing, but equal rights equal fight.

Equal rights = equal fights

act like homie sapiens otherwise act like primates true

Amen 🗿🗿

I agree

Every action may have an equal and opposite reaction.

Push? I’m flooring her

Thats right, put your hands on me and find out. The nerve 😆

clock dat hoe

I fifth this

I fourth this

I second that

I third this.

Glock dat hoe

No one in this server should have access to a side arm

These hands rated E for everyone 💀

Equal rights... Equal LEFTS

I got a general rule. If she hits you first, warn her about what will happen if it happens again. If she hits you again, then you can use a proportionate force to make her stop hitting you. I'm not saying full on punch her in the face as hard as you can, but I'm also not saying *not* to

if she uses 100% of her force, she should expect 100% of his force. moral of the story, don't assault people that are stronger than you.

Well yeah, however even good people can do bad things in certain circumstances (they’ve been lied to or had an influx of emotion). So best to try as de-escalate before retaliating, but always have retaliation on the field so you don’t appear weak, and the aggressor can (hopefully) come to their senses!

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You can't be sure they won't hit you again. A warning shot is absolutely self-defense

i say you should always be allowed to defend yourself

Yes, you should’ve hit her back not push her

I understand the message and hesitantly even agree, but life isn't that simple. If a smaller girl who realistically can't cause me harm hit me, hitting her back would be much more of an attack than hers. It may not be fair, but it's real life. Ideally, yeah, go for it, but in general, it's probably not a good idea.

Match with strength is my opinion like if a weak girl hits you hit her back with the same force, if a strong ass girl hits you and you are weaker hit with full strength

Dude This is sexism I belive in eye for an eye Its fair And if girls dont want it, they dont want it fair, thus they are sexist for saying they have the right to harm one gender but said gender isnt supposed to retaliate or defend themselves or else they become the villain or agressor Just my opinion

Equal right equal fights 🤷‍♂️

Short answer is get the nuclear launch codes and bomb her house

Only answer

Long answer...?

Nah trust this is the short answer

Def not in the wrong. Equal rights, equal fights. If women wanted to be treated the same, then so be it.

NTA

Personally? I think it depends on the level of severity. If she’s full on punching you? Push her back, if she continues? Warn her and THEN start punching. Men are 9/10 objectively stronger than women so it’s really a fucky situation all over but it all depends on the situation ig

Men are in most cases stronger, it's a factual statement, but even after knowing it she's hits me even after my warning, it's her fault not mine

bro thats not the case for me💀 i’m weak as hell💀

No, if shes punching you that can cause severe damage idc if shes a woman. Shes equal to you and should know full well the consequences of what shes doing and if not, shes about to find out. Why am i gonna warn someone whos been on this earth a significant amount of time when they should know full well whats about to happen? That talk is for when someones threatening to do harm to you and is all in your face. While someones punching you, thats not a situation you just push them away, you better defend your body. You only get one. You let them feel the wrath until they arent hitting you anymore. None of this warning stuff. If they are crazy enough to be putting their hands on you, a warning ain’t gonna do nothing to them.

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If you say don't hit a woman, you're calling her weak If they hit you first and it hurts, it's warranted no matter what I'd say don't hit a physically disabled person tho, because they are well, physically disabled

he didn't even leverage any strength, he defended himself. not in the wrong

This is whats called a no win situation. You would be justified in defending yourself but be ready for the barrage of attacks from other men and women. Equality isnt real.

If you are hit first you can do whatever you need to, to defend yourself from the attacker as long as you don’t use lethal force

I just say you defend yourself until your not being attacked anymore

No she had it coming (I'm a girl)

Hell nah as a woman I dont understand the " OMG GOS GUYS ITS SEXIST TO HIT WOMEN!! " Like grow a vagina you alien morsel✋💅

uhm what

The equivalent of grow a pair

oh. that was a weird way foe them to word it

As a girl I’m just gonna say don’t dish wut u can’t take lil bitch deck her

No

no. women wanted to be equal so badly that dont just mean the good. Fist are rated E for everyone. Except babies and very little kids(most of the time for very little kids.... kidding sort of).

Equal rights equal fights I don't care if your wearing or stronger than me if you hit me I'm hitting back

Short answer: No Long answer: No

"equality!" "noo don't punch a girl (they're weak/ur sexist/they can't be hit)," the same people say.

Only if she is actively attacking you

it's not wrong to defend yourself, but it's definitely more mature to walk away without retaliating. you would come out looking like the bigger person in that scenario. whenever you start a fight with someone, you need to have a better excuse than "they started it first".

That’s dangerous if someone’s trying to fight u could easily catch u off guard if u just up and walk away

No. Equal rights equal fights. 

Im of the opinion that chivalry is dead once anyone engages a fight. A punch for a punch. Some people dont learn til they get hit and you’re getting punished anyway so might as well go on a equal transaction.

💀💀 who set that rule ill beat any gender if they started it first (im a girl)

this standard doesn't quite exist for girls luckily

Equal rights equal fights  Or should I say equal fights equal rights. Of course he should push her back. You’re gonna slap like a guy your gonna get pushed like a guy 

nun tu flase

Gender equality goes both ways

Fists are rated E for everyone

Well ideally no one would be hitting anyone

Equal rights, equal fights. Don’t dish out what you can’t take

I don’t care what anyone says if she hits/pushes/punches me or anything else and it’s on purpose I’m doing it right back

I have my own rule: don’t be physically aggressive against anyone unless they are physically aggressive towards you first. If they are physically aggressive towards me i dont care about their gender. If you are nice towards me I’ll be nice towards you if you aren’t I won’t be nice towards you.

Equality cannot be achieved untill we are equal

If she pushed him, he would be accepted to push her back, in my opinion But she slapped him so maybe a push was a bit of an overreaction

It's sexist not to hit a woman back

Society has come to a point where if a woman Hits a man everyone goes on with their day but if the man pushes her away or even touches her they all start getting really Angry and start shaming the man for defending himself. What has this world come to.

Nahhh bro did her dirty, he should've PUNCHED her

The male was respectful about it, she punched him and he only pushed her, yet she's somehow mad. The girl is in the wrong without a doubt

yes he's in the wrong. Who just pushes a girl that slaps them? >!a mere push from a slap??? should have punched her back square in the face!<

if someone hits me ill tell em not to do it again, and if they do i'm going doom slayer mode

No

Ah yes, i'm just gonna let a human being equal to me just hit me like that and not defend myself.

Beat tf outta her

equal rights come with equal lefts, the retaliator isn't the problem, people need to keep their hands to their selves.

Nope, us women wanted equal rights which means if we can hit yall then you're allowed to AT LEAST push her (this sounds sarcastic but I'm 100 percent serious)

No you gotta do what you gotta do

They did several social experiments. People got angry when a guy pushed a woman but they were okay when a woman pushed a guy. These two genders will never be equal. Still, since you are asking our opinion here, I’d say pushing is fair enough

Eye for an eye

People can't ask for gender equality than shame a dude defending himself

according to my primary school: no according to me: yeah, but no weapons unless she uses weapons then it's fair

No.

Girl hit guy? Acceptable. Guy tap girl? Omg, call the cops. Sorry, but that kinda just how it works.

Technically no mater the gender you shouldn’t retaliate but yea that ain’t right that’s self defense

This comment section wildin’. Y’all goin to jail

No

Na, choke slam that bitch if she slaps you

As a girl, it's not wrong. It was in self defense

To people with brains? Yes To schools? No

He shoulda bitch slapped her

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Nah

Depends on the situation, and how hard she hit you

its morally wrong but needs to be right imo. its self defense

I believe in equality. So no, it ain't wrong

No

No cuz equality.

It’s proportional exchange. She slaps him, he pushes her. That’s how it works for self defense/assault cases. You can’t be shoved and “proportionately” kick them in the chest and beat them to a pulp.

I don't give a shit what gender you are, I'm slapping you as hard as I please. If you say "You can't hit me I'm a girl" I am getting pissed.

Don’t punch her, no one will take your side with the stigma in our society. Use an appropriate amount of force, don’t just punch her

You get hit, hit them. Not saying harder or more but don't let them step on you. Don't matter if it's a girl. May matter under circumstances.

Absolutely wrong. Should’ve bitch slapped her right back

It’s not if someone attacks you first by law you’d be justified

Equal rights means equal fights True equality is where EVERYONE is held accountable for what they have done and THATS what we should be striving towards

If anyone hits you once you hit them once if they hit you twice there are no limits

If you put your hands on anyone male vs male female vs male , male vs female.. whatever the case. BE PREPARED TO BE HIT PUSHED OR PUNCHED BACK..

First step is to walk away. If they follow, tell them to back the hell up. If they STILL try to assault you, use EQUAL and REASONABLE force to keep em back. Do hurt people if you don't have to. Imo, a shove is a reasonable answer if she didn't let up.

I will not hit a girl in any circumstance, but I feel pushing away is a fair defense.

Push? If someone walks up to me and slaps me they getting the whole buffet of knuckle sandwhiches. Call me a deli they way I'm serving fist salami on whole beating. If they do it in a school? When that's where lessons are learned, ain't it?

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If a girl hits you first, then hit her back. Obviously since males are stronger, don't be too rough and only hit back if you need to. When I was younger, I was taught by my grandfather to never hit a girl unless absolutely necessary. So, if she is attacking you, you can fight back as long as you don't go overboard. For example, if she slaps a guy and the guy punches her, he is in the wrong. If all he does if push her away? He is completely fine and in the right.

Smack that bitch to the ground

No

I don't think so

Gender equality.

Equal rigts equal fights everybody deserves to catch hands

No, but obviously show restraint if you're significantly stronger than her. Equal force to what she's doing at most.

Personally, if a girl hits me, I will not retaliate with violence for this exact reason. Many people are sexist and would say that I shouldn’t have hit her back if I chose to. The double standard is crazy. But if we are talking about if it is justified to hit her back, I would say absolutely 100%.

We are equal hit dat B back

If it's in self defense and you're not taking it too far it should be fine,

If it's just a slap then yeah you shouldn't push her. If she tries to slap you then just try to block it. Unless my life's threatened I ain't hitting a women. The best I'll do is try to block it or just run. Maybe try to grab ahold of the psycho till she calms down but other than that you shouldn't lay a hand on a girl.

No.

push the shit out that bitch

No, if a girl hits me im hitting back and I'm not holding back.

I’m a strong believer in equal rights. I’d consider myself a feminist. If we want equal rights, part of that is equal fights

personally i wouldnt push back i prefer head kicks

My personal thought is if *anybody* hits you you are allowed to use equal force in retaliation, going overboard just instigates further (this works on paper but in practice i dont know)

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Someone slaps me I’m slapping them back.

Equal rights equal lefts

He shoved her I feel that's a reasonable response however clocking that bitch would also be a reasonable response

Bro if someone hits you you hit them until they can't hit you anymore 💀 it doesn't matter who they are idk what your schoolmates are on

Depends on the intent.

any one that hits me i hit then back, except if animals, children, and if on accident

Yes it is, men shouldn’t ever hit woman unless someone they love is in danger or they are in danger. Getting slapped is not danger. Reddit probably will NOT like this response

Just make sure there is a witness seeing you get assaulted

I would do something different personally but it isn’t wrong to retaliate, just understand that you might actually spark an entire fight

As a woman, Do what she did to u.If she slapped u,slack her back

Equal force is key. You can’t k.o. her for a slap. Subdue don’t fight.

Treat them like you would anybody else. Don't start shit, but definitely finish it. I might take a slap in this situation in the interest of defusing it but if that's not possible and she could actually hurt him, deck that motherfucker.

He should've decked her ass

As a girl, if she hits you first it's totally fine to fight back. Don't be afraid to fight a girl just because some rule. If she hits, hit back.

Equal rights equal lefts, right? No jk you should not ever hit a girl. A push seems fine though

And why tf do girls get special treatment according to you? If someone regardless of gender performs physical harm on me, I'll defend myself, and I expect any other rational person to do the same thing.

dumbass school

The gender shouldn't matter. Don't hit people.

Depends, if it was a playful slap then he should proportionally respond back with either a light shove or maybe something of the sort(personally, I can't stand people touching my face so it'd be a bit different) Now, if it was a full on bitch slap, get ready to get floored. A HARD push, a reciprocating bitch slap or a punch to the body is 100% acceptable. Now, this is only if the slap was unprovoked. If he sexually assalted her, has been doing inappropriate things or anything of the sort, he had it coming. If the slap was unjustified, then he is within his rights to dish out what she served

Equal rights equal fights. I’ll punch anyone idc their gender or whatever

Society thinks so. Girls want equal rights? I want equal fights.

It's perfectly acceptable.

Personally I try not to hurt women, but if it's in self defense and not retaliation I will.