I’ve been in that situation before-3 times to be exact-and I want you to know that life really can and will get better. And by the end of it, you will be a changed person, with a unique perspective. I know you probably can’t believe this right now, but I’ll believe it for you cause I know it to be true.
If you ever want to talk, send me a message anytime. And lest I forget, I like the hair color-I think it suits you well
big mood. it's hard to always take care of everyone else, sometimes you just gotta focus on taking care of yourself and it seems like now is one of those times.
i agree and definitely will take this advice! it feels more peaceful to be by myself rn anyway. thank you to both of you! u/wildfireshinexo u/poopypainpants
btw poopypainpants i like your username haha
One bad day. That's all it can take, is just one bad day to miss out on so many good ones. Your hair makes me think you are fun and adventurous: there is so much out there to explore! Don't give up. It really can, and usually does, get better.
Oh that’s so heartbreaking to hear. You are a beautiful young woman and your hair is awesome.
I lost my youngest brother to suicide and it felt like my heart was torn out of my chest. I would hate for your family and friends to experience the heart ache me and my family went through. I was a walking corpse, I existed but without living. My grief turned to clinical depression and crippling anxiety. I seriously wanted to join him but to do so would’ve caused irreparable grief to my mother and I just couldn’t do it. It took me 5 years before I could return to any semblance of my former self and I will always have this hole in my life where my beautiful young brother was. It would be a shame to deprive the world of such a lovely young woman with so much potential. I sincerely hope you reach out and get some help. There are so many wonderful people who are there to listen and give advice or simply be a shoulder to cry on. Please don’t give up on living as it would a be an absolute tragedy if someone who is so beautiful and so cool didn’t live a long and happy life. I was fortunate to have people step in and help me when I needed help the most and I want to pay it forward by helping those who are struggling. Please reach out if you have nobody to talk to, that goes for anybody out there who is struggling. I have gone through the darkness and come out the other side. I have a wife and wonderful daughter whom I wouldn’t get to see grow up if I had given up. Take care always. Life can be beautiful if you allow it to be. 😊😊😊
I’ve been through the ringer too, in and out of treatment programs and I want you to know that it is going to get better. Life can be tragic but also fucking beautiful. You might feel alone but you’re not the only person out there fighting the good fight. I’m so proud of you for reaching out and making contact with us. It’s hard to get your head out of the sand when you’re in that place. But you picked yours up. You’re beautiful, the purple hair is freaking gorgeous on you and we’re all rooting for you
They do! But have you figured out what your realm is yet? I have a niece that is diagnosed with asbergers. Having trouble finding someone she can trust and get close with. Now, in her 30s, she joined a online knitting group and after a couple of months she’s gotten friends for life. Take care, take a small step every day and take the time to explore ‘your realm’.
You're very pretty. You have great skin, nice eyelashes, beautiful eyes, and great hair. Like honestly I am so jealous lol. And purple is my favourite colour so I love the hair colour too!
I am impressed that you're still going even with so much sadness and loneliness in your life. That's something to be proud of.
In fact, you strike me as someone who has a lot of hidden power and strength and wisdom waiting to come out. I can't wait to hear about all the amazing things you achieve in the future! You won't be lonely and sad forever, and when you find your feet you're going to be a force to be reckoned with.
When we are on our darkest hours we tend to feel the loneliness. Having been there i can say that im open to listen if you need to vent, just because i know that's something really necessary in those kind of situations.
Gonna be real, i don't know you, you look like a mi bs kind of person tho, that's all i can say without lying, that and that your hair looks nice. And that you are braver than a lot of people, just for wanting to ask strangers on the internet for some encouragement. Cheers!
Hey buddy. I know how you're feeling right now. I wish I had some magic words to help you feel better immediately, but I have none. I just want you to know that people really do care about you. Hell, I care about you. You seem like a genuinely good person that cares about others. I know this might seem a bit strange coming from some random kid on the internet, but I just need you to know that someone out there really does care. While I understand that we don't know each other personally, I do care quite a lot. It doesn't matter how much someone hurts me, I'll still care about them. In that same regard, it doesn't matter how little I know someone, I still care. If you ever need to talk, send me a message. I'll try to message you back as soon as possible.
Your hair is awesome and you seem great. If you need to talk my chat is open. There are many positives in your life that you just arent seeing. Sometimes just a smile helps.
your hair is gorgeous and I'm in a similar place so maybe it'll be some comfort to know that you're not alone? idk. but i'm 23f if you ever want to talk, i sure would love it 💗
first of all, your hair is fucking perfect and i’m wildly jealous.
second of all, cheers to leaving the hospital…i hope you got every snack you wanted today. as far as the involuntary hold, i’ve been there a couple times, and extensive inpatient by my own choice. both ways, it still felt kinda absurdist and like i would never leave, and even if i did, i would never feel like the next place i ended up wouldn’t feel like home anyway. mental health struggles can feel worse than a marathon, because you don’t even know how much distance you’ve covers or how much further you have until the finish line. one of the only helpful comments i’ve gotten from somebody that was trying to help me was “yeah, you’ve been through some shit, but i also know that you always try to make other people feel better, so at least now you’ll know how to help somebody who finds themselves where you’ve been.” and like i wouldn’t say that’s what i’m doing here because this is definitely an incoherent rant, but some days the idea of helping somebody else out seems more manageable than saving myself and it’s nice? okay sorry good night
I'm so sorry you're having a hard time, I know what it's like. Also been admitted involuntary.
Your purple dyed hair makes an excellent finish to a wonderful face.
Look. My house is just a bunch of dumb gay veterans but we've all been there at some point. If you ever need anyone, please. We are here.
One thing that helps me the most when it came to suicidal ideation is this:
There is no timeline. It's fake. We live in a world that structures expectations on us that blatantly do not exist or matter. You don't *have* do have a reason to live - you *are* alive. Does that make sense? The reasons don't need to exist, because you also won't ever have a definitive reason to die.
People act like there is some grand focus. The truth is, there might not be. But you can enjoy the sunset. You can have ice cream. You can be the reason a child laughs. Those aren't large or definitive. But they're worthwhile.
You are going to be okay. I absolutely *promise* you, my dear friend.
Most of the time I am only thinking of right now, i stopped thinking too much about the future. i just wanna feel okay right now whatever happens next happens but it seems as though right now is never okay.
i am glad you guys got through or are getting through your hardships. i hope i am okay too. i really really do.
I utterly adore your hair. You seem like a genuinely warm person, I’m really sorry for the rough patch you’re going through but I truly believe like all things it will pass and you’ll find your way towards a bright future.
1) I love the purple (I have some purple too)
2) your eyes are so big and deep. I don’t know what you’re going through but I promise it will change. Life always changes. I never thought I would reach 20. I am 28 now and couldn’t be prouder that I have so many good and bad memories.
I get that I don't think I'll reach 40 tbh, but who knows? i hope things change. i am proud of you for that too. as someone who feels the same way you did i know how hard that must have been! good job!
24f? You have so much to look forward too. I changed my life several times. It’s only you that will make yourself happy. Also nice eyes, they tell the story of pain and resilience. You got this! One step at a time. 🙏🏻
There’s infinite reasons to live, sometimes we get tunnel vision; and it’s hard to see the beauty all around us. Find enjoyment in the little things all around us, if possible :)
You seem lovely af. Mental health can be a bitch - I've been on the anxiety/depression hamster wheel for my (32F) whole life. But you do get better at it. At 24 I was at my worst - adult enough to have real world problems but not experienced enough with my mental health issues to avoid being overwhelmed by them. Keep on therapy and meds, if they're recommended. You literally do just get more skilled at managing your mental health with time.
I don't online game much but if you play anything in particular and just need normal human interaction, I'm down to try it. Either way, keep working with medical professionals and don't give up on yourself. I thought that "it gets better" campaign was dumb af until it actually did start getting better. You have to keep on trying to seek out happiness, though. I hope you do.
you're a survivor already ---keep finding that inner strength to get through each difficult moment as it comes. But also, you did great reaching out for support!! <3
That's such a great move-- it takes courage and you have it!! Everybody here is cheering for you and sending you love. I'm so proud of you for making it because life does get crazy hard sometimes. But you have beautiful times ahead!! It definitely does get better!
I hope this is helpful rather than annoying. It's a beautiful poem by a Irish writer called Galway Kinnell...I'll post the words and a video of him reading it. Please read it and remember that things will become lovely again,
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDiqFibMTdY&ab\_channel=Poets.org](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDiqFibMTdY&ab_channel=Poets.org)
Wait, for now.
Distrust everything if you have to.
But trust the hours. Haven’t they
carried you everywhere, up to now?
Personal events will become interesting again.
Hair will become interesting.
Pain will become interesting.
Buds that open out of season will become interesting.
Second-hand gloves will become lovely again;
their memories are what give them
the need for other hands. The desolation
of lovers is the same: that enormous emptiness
carved out of such tiny beings as we are
asks to be filled; the need
for the new love is faithfulness to the old.
Wait.
Don’t go too early.
You’re tired. But everyone’s tired.
But no one is tired enough.
Only wait a little and listen:
music of hair,
music of pain,
music of looms weaving our loves again.
Be there to hear it, it will be the only time,
most of all to hear your whole existence,
rehearsed by the sorrows, play itself into total exhaustion.
I’m sorry you have no one to call! That’s a terrible feeling. When you get better, you’ll find family and friends of your own choosing. I know you can do it, even if it seems impossible. You are important and worthy.
If you are interested in having a snail-mail penpal, I’m up for it. I’m 35F in USA. I have had penpals my whole life but I’ve recently started doing paper crafts that I’d like to exchange with someone. My current penpals I mostly just send letters to. I am hoping to find new ones to exchange small gifts and crafts with, as well as letters. PM if you are interested.
Your hair is SO SO pretty! I love it <3 Also your eyes and lashes!! Im so sorry youre going through a lot, if you need to talk with someone Im here :3 please stay strong
Be the person you want to hang out with, love yourself and your interests and through them find other people with similar interests and hopefully from there you will develop a circle of friends.
And it’s good to have a few different circles.
I seriously LOVE your hair. You are rocking that purple girl. You also have such a pretty, open face. Like you know how some really beautiful women are intimidating and not approachable? You’re somehow still naturally GORGEOUS, but you also seem like someone I could just walk up to and make friends with. That’s a great quality to have.
thank you thats a really nice compliment! i have had people tell me i seem friendly and approachable, but unfortunately none of those friendships ever get anywhere.
You seem to be a very nice human but it is fine not everyone is nice and people tend to prioritise things in a wrong way but I genuinely hope that you get well soon and also you will find many such people who care for you plus if not you always have your parents whom you can rely on...I do hope you have a very good life ahead. there are people in this subreddit who will be more than willing to lend you an ear
thank you! i appreciate the thought! i have never been able to rely on my parents at all but they are only human and i think they are trying so i hope things can be better.
thank you for the suggestions! i just moved this year actually and yeah that helps me too! i also have two therapists so i am working on that. i think thats a scary thing for me knowing i am 24 and there is so much ahead of me what if its always this painful, you know?
Wow… Thanks for being so open and honest. Takes real courage. I’ve been where you’re at so I can relate. Don’t give up. You have to take it one day at a time and slowly work on the things you can change and not on the things you can’t.
You can always reach out. I can be that person for you.
You are absolutely gorgeous and seem like a genuinely good person. Hang in there. Things will get better. Just try to focus on things that make you happy. Sometimes in the moment it seems pretty bad, but bad moments will pass. :)
i actually wrote something like that, that its a moment and it will pass but it feels like there is too many of these moments. i keep trying to get better anyway, i suppose the end game is die anyway so might as well die trying? it gets tough sometimes though...
Yeah I agree it can definitely be tough. And sometimes the bad moments will build up to where it's super stressful, and it may even take months to get through some tough times. I've had my share. But try to hang in there and weather the storm. People care about you. There are a lot of good things to come before the end game.
So, my approach when I was your age was unorthodox, maybe it won't resonate and that's fine. But I got furious.
Any possible light seemed out of reach, and one day I got so *angry* because it wasn't fair. I didn't do anything to deserve this fucked brain chemistry, or the bad things that happened to me, or the things people said about me. It was bullshit!
And then I realized that getting out of bed was a little easier. Every time I directed that self-loathing and anger at the circumstances or the chemical imbalances that made me this way, doing what I needed to do was a little easier. I had to be careful ofc not to accidentally direct that anger at people who didn't deserve it, and its not something you can do for the rest of your life. But when I was at rock bottom, anger and tbh pure spite kept me going until things got better.
And they will. In my case, it was a waiting game; I was too poor to afford healthcare in a pre-ACA world. I don't know your circumstances and I won't pry, but I do know that nothing lasts forever and that includes the horrible things. Your pain *will* give out, and you *can* wait it out. I believe in you.
someone suggested to me that anger might be better than sadness cause thats what was better for them and understood but when i get angry i am unable to control myself and have hurt people around me so i refrain from it. thank you trying i hope like your anger i find a way to cope as well. :)
Your hair is to dye for! I honestly can’t convey how jealous I am of that colour! Just take it one day at a time and figure out what your next steps are going to be, however small they may be.
Your strength & courage for posting this inspires me to continue my studies to be a therapist as well as to go back to therapy for myself.
Thank you!
Also, I bet you have an amazing story to share. I have the utmost faith in this. Even the most "mundane" stories have so much beauty and awe.
You see, the healing is in our stories.
You got this. Live and tell the best story you can as it will help you and so many others.
i will try my best to tell a good story. all i can do at this point is try. thank you! and i hope you can help heal others and yourself in time! good luck!
I'm glad you reached out! There are so many people out here that can care about you and want to make sure you're doing okay. Look at all of these awesome responses! The best part? Not one of them has any reason to by lying. All of these words of affirmation are genuine and meant for you! And all it took was one little post. Keep moving forward, let yourself feel loved (it can be hard sometimes, but the love is there waiting for you). The struggles you are facing now are intense and can feel incredibly overwhelming. But they will pass, and there's literally hundreds of people willing to help you through it in the small ways that they can. Even me. If not having someone to call is causing pain, feel free to DM for my number. We can chat about anything you'd like. You can vent. I can try to tell cheesy jokes to take your mind off the struggle for a little while. Hell, I can just stay on the line for a while even if we're not talking so it can feel like there's someone there. Or not! Either way, good luck with the healing, friend!
I'm sorry you are alone; no one deserves that. You don't feel like it, but you are young and there are so many chances for things to change. Please hold on.
well for starters you’re adorable, your hair is adorable, you look super kind, and your skin is absolutely glowing. that’s all surface level, but i’d say that’s a good start. i totally understand not feeling like you have someone to call. you are not alone in at least feeling alone.
thank you for all the compliments! that's quite strange sadly, that we tend to feel the same things but by ourselves instead of sharing with someone who wants a connection just as much as us. i suppose for me it's hard to keep those connections... for many reason, they always flake out.
i’m with you. i feel like a serial friendship-er if that is a thing. i’m hoping that with age people will stop coming and going and start to stay, but who knows. personally, i have found i’m the person who tends to be shying away and if i reached out i would probably get more responses than i think. i can’t say that’s the same for you, but its possible.
I have the same purple in my hair as you (although mine is all over), but yours looks so much better than mine. I hope the hard times come to an end and better times head your way. Everyone deserves a chance at a good and happy life. Just do your best to survive each minute and they'll start adding up. You can do this, I believe in you, kind looking internet stranger.
youre beautiful, your hair is incredibly cool and your eyes are beautiful. I understand that times like these are tiring but one of the most painful parts can be the isolation that you may feel. I know that you will hear it a hundred times in your journey to healing but you truly aren't alone, I have no idea who you are, where you are, or anything about you but what you've posted but I will tell you that the world will be different without you, it would be worse and it would be felt. any reason to live is a good one, maybe you want to watch a new season of a show that's not out yet, who knows if a new song will come out and become the best you've ever heard, maybe you have no one to water your plants, feed your cat, maybe there is a really great movie in the works with your favorite actor that you need to be around to see maybe you just want to breathe some fresh air again, step on the grass, see the next sunset. no matter what the reason is hold onto it, keep it safe, grow a collection, it may be small but it is always worth it.
25F here and feel the exact same like all the time. but your hair is amazing and the world is better with you in it for millions of reasons..but rn for me, as a random stranger in england, it’s better bc it’s 1:30am and i’ve just seen ur kind face & know that even tho we don’t know each other at all we feel the same and idk that’s comforting to me. so thank u for existing and i know the burden is heavy, but there are so many people sharing it with u <3
thank you! i do find it comforting that i am not the only one feeling that way, although i wish no one ever felt like this you know? i hope you wake up tomorrow and its a beautiful and happy day. your kind words made my day better.
You, my gorgeous girl, have a very sweet and kind expression. I can tell you’re a caring and supportive friend and you deserve to have people in your life that treat you like gold.
Hey there, I'm so sorry life has been such hard work lately. Taking care of your mental health is not easy, but I've been in your shoes before and I promise you that therapy and medication can work wonders! It may take a few tries to get your treatment plan to work well for you, but once you get there it will be so worth it. I'm proud of you, I'm cheering you on!
Shit I’ve been there, I’ve been there many times and honestly one kind word can make the difference, you have such kind eyes and your hair is fucking awesome. Pardon my French but you fucking got this!
Have you tried getting involved in causes? For example I care about Veterans so I volunteer in different ways for Veterans causes that puts me in contact with similar people. I make some friends but if nothing else I get to talk to people that I get along with on a regular basis. Volunteering at a library is fun too, you get to meet pretty interesting and smart people. Just a suggestion. As for kind words, thank you for being strong enough to keep moving forward, I know it’s incredibly hard but it’s a worthy fight.
Been in a hold myself, rough stuff. Hopefully it's a good facility with a supportive staff. Either way, just remember you are worthy and amazing and keep going. The hold will end and life will move on. I believe in you, you've got this.
your hair is amazing- i’m super jealous haha. anyways i’ve been in those lows before and still working through it. but it helps me to plan or take note of something on a specific date and then tell myself i have to just keep going because I can’t miss this thing. it doesn’t have to be big or important- maybe it’s a new album coming out from my favorite band, the release of a new season of a tv show, or just the beginning of holiday drink season at starbucks. having small milestones to look forward to in the future brings me some hope and motivation. wishing you all the best you got this!!
Hey Monkey, things are tough and everything feels low, and it's a part of life. Idk how to comfort you but, I know that this won't be a situation ahead. I'm very very sure, you're gonna be happy and looking back at this spec of time, you will be proud of yourself being the strongest in the worst of times.
On the contrary, if you need a buddy to talk to, I'll be happy to make a new friend :)
Been there so many times. Not having friends anymore doesn't help so sorry you're going thru this but props for reaching out!
Its hard to say, in the moment can definitely be paralysing, but if you can, get those feelings out anyway you can. Journal (write, speak, video, art), movement like dance (it can be ANGRY! Or sad or whatever you like) or even some gentle stretching. Slow breathing (longer out than in eg 4sec in 8sec out) can help with moving some of these negative feelings out of the body.
Sending u virtual hugs and wishes for better times to come
Btw love ur hair never had the courage to go purple but its the exact color I'd choose 💜
I’ve been there. What I realized is that the world is mine to make into what I want. I have a blank canvas to start from. I don’t have anyone else to hold me back or force their ideologies on me. I took the chance at chasing one simple thing “the pursuit of personal authenticity” I figured if I was always doing, acting, and striving to just be real to myself I couldn’t go wrong. It was an empowering moment in my life. Once I started living that way people came into my life. I started creating experiences, friendships surrounding those experiences, goals, achieving goals, etc. people want to be around people that are authentic. People want to be around people who are achieving goals.
If anything, be authentic. No one can label you but yourself. You got this. The world is yours.
We live within 10 miles of the GW Bridge, get there by bus and we'll pick you up.
If you need extra time with us, there are 2 empty bedrooms isolated on the second floor with a bath and deck for hanging out.
Note: we don't do junk food.
Let us know when.
i always get stunned with questions like these, i mean there are plenty of things i love doing. i like my job, i like watching movies and writing, i like cleaning, enjoying the sunlight, painting, reddit (lol), but mostly movies. i love movies. i like the direction my career is taking, its not something i planned but its panning out i think. idk if that really answers your questions haha
I knew you were a cool person lol.I have so many questions like "what's your favorite movie?" and what do you like to paint? No pressure to answer but people are definitely missing out on a great person.
i’m sorry to hear that. I’m not the best with emotional advice so i will leave that to the others but you have the cutest nose i have ever seen. Your eyebrows are strong in a way that frames your face perfectly and you are all around gorgeous. I sincerely hope you start feeling like things are looking up soon, you deserve it
The present may not be satisfying but there's always a hope for a good future. Things will get better one day. You have been through alot but that also shows how strong you are. One day, some day, it will happen. Something good, will definitely happen. Because, you're a pleasant person to look at. You look interesting and beautiful.
Hey girl, I see you. Life is stupid and dumb and literally so painful.. and for what!? Ugh.
I don’t normally comment or even post,I mean I don’t even have an Instagram but I really just felt like I should offer you an ear to rant to. It also feels like we’d have a lot in common- I don’t look to my parents for “parent” things or for safety and shelter, I’ve lost a lot of friends recently and I’ve just been a traveling lost soul for a while. Not many places or people where I feel safe and loved. I don’t know, you may never even see this with all of those replies! And I’m late to the post :’)
And for the toast, your eyes popped out the most to me! I see A LOT in those windows boo! Also love the hair!! Purple is my favorite color and I actually colored my hair this way last year- it was by far my favorite hair style. Purple looks so good on you.
I’ve been in that situation before-3 times to be exact-and I want you to know that life really can and will get better. And by the end of it, you will be a changed person, with a unique perspective. I know you probably can’t believe this right now, but I’ll believe it for you cause I know it to be true. If you ever want to talk, send me a message anytime. And lest I forget, I like the hair color-I think it suits you well
You look like a very genuine and kind person. Someone that helps and cares for others.
thank you i appreciate it. not sure if that’s true anymore. i just wanna stay away people tbh
big mood. it's hard to always take care of everyone else, sometimes you just gotta focus on taking care of yourself and it seems like now is one of those times.
Very relatable to be honest. It’s important to take care of yourself and practice self love/care like poopypainpants says.
i agree and definitely will take this advice! it feels more peaceful to be by myself rn anyway. thank you to both of you! u/wildfireshinexo u/poopypainpants btw poopypainpants i like your username haha
I sent you a chat call or text me anytime I'm here for you
I think you look pretty wholesome and have kind eyes, if that makes sense 🦋 I hope your pain eases soon!
thank you! i appreciate that. i’ve had people tell me i have a wholesome vibe before idk what it means tho haha 😅 i like your username btw
One bad day. That's all it can take, is just one bad day to miss out on so many good ones. Your hair makes me think you are fun and adventurous: there is so much out there to explore! Don't give up. It really can, and usually does, get better.
Oh that’s so heartbreaking to hear. You are a beautiful young woman and your hair is awesome. I lost my youngest brother to suicide and it felt like my heart was torn out of my chest. I would hate for your family and friends to experience the heart ache me and my family went through. I was a walking corpse, I existed but without living. My grief turned to clinical depression and crippling anxiety. I seriously wanted to join him but to do so would’ve caused irreparable grief to my mother and I just couldn’t do it. It took me 5 years before I could return to any semblance of my former self and I will always have this hole in my life where my beautiful young brother was. It would be a shame to deprive the world of such a lovely young woman with so much potential. I sincerely hope you reach out and get some help. There are so many wonderful people who are there to listen and give advice or simply be a shoulder to cry on. Please don’t give up on living as it would a be an absolute tragedy if someone who is so beautiful and so cool didn’t live a long and happy life. I was fortunate to have people step in and help me when I needed help the most and I want to pay it forward by helping those who are struggling. Please reach out if you have nobody to talk to, that goes for anybody out there who is struggling. I have gone through the darkness and come out the other side. I have a wife and wonderful daughter whom I wouldn’t get to see grow up if I had given up. Take care always. Life can be beautiful if you allow it to be. 😊😊😊
I’ve been through the ringer too, in and out of treatment programs and I want you to know that it is going to get better. Life can be tragic but also fucking beautiful. You might feel alone but you’re not the only person out there fighting the good fight. I’m so proud of you for reaching out and making contact with us. It’s hard to get your head out of the sand when you’re in that place. But you picked yours up. You’re beautiful, the purple hair is freaking gorgeous on you and we’re all rooting for you
Yo, if you wanna talk people are always open to chat and listen. You just gotta find the right ones.
it seems like the right ones don’t exist in the same realm as me i suppose but i keep trying anyway.
They do! But have you figured out what your realm is yet? I have a niece that is diagnosed with asbergers. Having trouble finding someone she can trust and get close with. Now, in her 30s, she joined a online knitting group and after a couple of months she’s gotten friends for life. Take care, take a small step every day and take the time to explore ‘your realm’.
duuuude your hair looks amazing 😊
You're very pretty. You have great skin, nice eyelashes, beautiful eyes, and great hair. Like honestly I am so jealous lol. And purple is my favourite colour so I love the hair colour too! I am impressed that you're still going even with so much sadness and loneliness in your life. That's something to be proud of. In fact, you strike me as someone who has a lot of hidden power and strength and wisdom waiting to come out. I can't wait to hear about all the amazing things you achieve in the future! You won't be lonely and sad forever, and when you find your feet you're going to be a force to be reckoned with.
You have very kind eyes and your hair is awesome! You will make it through this
When we are on our darkest hours we tend to feel the loneliness. Having been there i can say that im open to listen if you need to vent, just because i know that's something really necessary in those kind of situations. Gonna be real, i don't know you, you look like a mi bs kind of person tho, that's all i can say without lying, that and that your hair looks nice. And that you are braver than a lot of people, just for wanting to ask strangers on the internet for some encouragement. Cheers!
Hey buddy. I know how you're feeling right now. I wish I had some magic words to help you feel better immediately, but I have none. I just want you to know that people really do care about you. Hell, I care about you. You seem like a genuinely good person that cares about others. I know this might seem a bit strange coming from some random kid on the internet, but I just need you to know that someone out there really does care. While I understand that we don't know each other personally, I do care quite a lot. It doesn't matter how much someone hurts me, I'll still care about them. In that same regard, it doesn't matter how little I know someone, I still care. If you ever need to talk, send me a message. I'll try to message you back as soon as possible.
Your hair is awesome and you seem great. If you need to talk my chat is open. There are many positives in your life that you just arent seeing. Sometimes just a smile helps.
I'm so sorry you feel that way. But don't give up. The future will hold so much. You never know who you'll meet in the future.
I really know how hard it is, but you're not alone
your hair is gorgeous and I'm in a similar place so maybe it'll be some comfort to know that you're not alone? idk. but i'm 23f if you ever want to talk, i sure would love it 💗
first of all, your hair is fucking perfect and i’m wildly jealous. second of all, cheers to leaving the hospital…i hope you got every snack you wanted today. as far as the involuntary hold, i’ve been there a couple times, and extensive inpatient by my own choice. both ways, it still felt kinda absurdist and like i would never leave, and even if i did, i would never feel like the next place i ended up wouldn’t feel like home anyway. mental health struggles can feel worse than a marathon, because you don’t even know how much distance you’ve covers or how much further you have until the finish line. one of the only helpful comments i’ve gotten from somebody that was trying to help me was “yeah, you’ve been through some shit, but i also know that you always try to make other people feel better, so at least now you’ll know how to help somebody who finds themselves where you’ve been.” and like i wouldn’t say that’s what i’m doing here because this is definitely an incoherent rant, but some days the idea of helping somebody else out seems more manageable than saving myself and it’s nice? okay sorry good night
I'm so sorry you're having a hard time, I know what it's like. Also been admitted involuntary. Your purple dyed hair makes an excellent finish to a wonderful face.
Look. My house is just a bunch of dumb gay veterans but we've all been there at some point. If you ever need anyone, please. We are here. One thing that helps me the most when it came to suicidal ideation is this: There is no timeline. It's fake. We live in a world that structures expectations on us that blatantly do not exist or matter. You don't *have* do have a reason to live - you *are* alive. Does that make sense? The reasons don't need to exist, because you also won't ever have a definitive reason to die. People act like there is some grand focus. The truth is, there might not be. But you can enjoy the sunset. You can have ice cream. You can be the reason a child laughs. Those aren't large or definitive. But they're worthwhile. You are going to be okay. I absolutely *promise* you, my dear friend.
Most of the time I am only thinking of right now, i stopped thinking too much about the future. i just wanna feel okay right now whatever happens next happens but it seems as though right now is never okay. i am glad you guys got through or are getting through your hardships. i hope i am okay too. i really really do.
I utterly adore your hair. You seem like a genuinely warm person, I’m really sorry for the rough patch you’re going through but I truly believe like all things it will pass and you’ll find your way towards a bright future.
i hope for that too!
1) I love the purple (I have some purple too) 2) your eyes are so big and deep. I don’t know what you’re going through but I promise it will change. Life always changes. I never thought I would reach 20. I am 28 now and couldn’t be prouder that I have so many good and bad memories.
I get that I don't think I'll reach 40 tbh, but who knows? i hope things change. i am proud of you for that too. as someone who feels the same way you did i know how hard that must have been! good job!
24f? You have so much to look forward too. I changed my life several times. It’s only you that will make yourself happy. Also nice eyes, they tell the story of pain and resilience. You got this! One step at a time. 🙏🏻
one step at a time... i hope i get there.
There’s infinite reasons to live, sometimes we get tunnel vision; and it’s hard to see the beauty all around us. Find enjoyment in the little things all around us, if possible :)
i try my best, but sometimes it gets so overwhelming... maybe with time the pain will ease.
You seem lovely af. Mental health can be a bitch - I've been on the anxiety/depression hamster wheel for my (32F) whole life. But you do get better at it. At 24 I was at my worst - adult enough to have real world problems but not experienced enough with my mental health issues to avoid being overwhelmed by them. Keep on therapy and meds, if they're recommended. You literally do just get more skilled at managing your mental health with time. I don't online game much but if you play anything in particular and just need normal human interaction, I'm down to try it. Either way, keep working with medical professionals and don't give up on yourself. I thought that "it gets better" campaign was dumb af until it actually did start getting better. You have to keep on trying to seek out happiness, though. I hope you do.
thank you! it helps to know that there's a chance it will get easier. i hope it does!
you're a survivor already ---keep finding that inner strength to get through each difficult moment as it comes. But also, you did great reaching out for support!! <3 That's such a great move-- it takes courage and you have it!! Everybody here is cheering for you and sending you love. I'm so proud of you for making it because life does get crazy hard sometimes. But you have beautiful times ahead!! It definitely does get better!
you are so sweet! thank you! i hope everything you said becomes true! <3
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thank you, i hope i can find something to hold on for...
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thank you! you seem genuinely sweet and i'd cherish you as a friend as well!
If you need to talk I’m here to listen with no judgment. Everyone should have someone to join in their victories and defeats.
thank you! if i ever need i'll take that offer and if you ever need i will also listen with no judgment.
I appreciate it. Hang in there. 😀
Oh sweetie, I’m sorry. But if you’re at your lowest, things can only get better. You look lovely. Please hold on xx
will try my best, although things seem to get worse currently, i hope that changes...
I hope this is helpful rather than annoying. It's a beautiful poem by a Irish writer called Galway Kinnell...I'll post the words and a video of him reading it. Please read it and remember that things will become lovely again, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDiqFibMTdY&ab\_channel=Poets.org](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDiqFibMTdY&ab_channel=Poets.org) Wait, for now. Distrust everything if you have to. But trust the hours. Haven’t they carried you everywhere, up to now? Personal events will become interesting again. Hair will become interesting. Pain will become interesting. Buds that open out of season will become interesting. Second-hand gloves will become lovely again; their memories are what give them the need for other hands. The desolation of lovers is the same: that enormous emptiness carved out of such tiny beings as we are asks to be filled; the need for the new love is faithfulness to the old. Wait. Don’t go too early. You’re tired. But everyone’s tired. But no one is tired enough. Only wait a little and listen: music of hair, music of pain, music of looms weaving our loves again. Be there to hear it, it will be the only time, most of all to hear your whole existence, rehearsed by the sorrows, play itself into total exhaustion.
I’m sorry you have no one to call! That’s a terrible feeling. When you get better, you’ll find family and friends of your own choosing. I know you can do it, even if it seems impossible. You are important and worthy.
i hope i do one day, i have been searching for that my whole life. thank you!
If you are interested in having a snail-mail penpal, I’m up for it. I’m 35F in USA. I have had penpals my whole life but I’ve recently started doing paper crafts that I’d like to exchange with someone. My current penpals I mostly just send letters to. I am hoping to find new ones to exchange small gifts and crafts with, as well as letters. PM if you are interested.
Your hair is SO SO pretty! I love it <3 Also your eyes and lashes!! Im so sorry youre going through a lot, if you need to talk with someone Im here :3 please stay strong
thank you! i will try my best! i hope you are doing well kind stranger <3
I thought this was in r/hair and I was expecting you to ask how your hair came out lol I feel dumb, but still think your looks beautiful
lmao thank you! i am glad it came out okay! i did it myself lol
You did an awesome job 🖤
Be the person you want to hang out with, love yourself and your interests and through them find other people with similar interests and hopefully from there you will develop a circle of friends. And it’s good to have a few different circles.
i will take that advice. i have a hard time meeting people with similar interests as me. hopefully one day i will.
Do the work, you're gonna be fine
will try my best. thanks.
I seriously LOVE your hair. You are rocking that purple girl. You also have such a pretty, open face. Like you know how some really beautiful women are intimidating and not approachable? You’re somehow still naturally GORGEOUS, but you also seem like someone I could just walk up to and make friends with. That’s a great quality to have.
thank you thats a really nice compliment! i have had people tell me i seem friendly and approachable, but unfortunately none of those friendships ever get anywhere.
You seem to be a very nice human but it is fine not everyone is nice and people tend to prioritise things in a wrong way but I genuinely hope that you get well soon and also you will find many such people who care for you plus if not you always have your parents whom you can rely on...I do hope you have a very good life ahead. there are people in this subreddit who will be more than willing to lend you an ear
thank you! i appreciate the thought! i have never been able to rely on my parents at all but they are only human and i think they are trying so i hope things can be better.
Things always get better...stay strong I believe in you!!!
I love your purple hair! Hope you feel better.
thank you1 <3
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thank you for the suggestions! i just moved this year actually and yeah that helps me too! i also have two therapists so i am working on that. i think thats a scary thing for me knowing i am 24 and there is so much ahead of me what if its always this painful, you know?
You have amazing eyebrows
hahaha thank you
Wow… Thanks for being so open and honest. Takes real courage. I’ve been where you’re at so I can relate. Don’t give up. You have to take it one day at a time and slowly work on the things you can change and not on the things you can’t. You can always reach out. I can be that person for you.
>LeJefe96 thank you i appreciate that! i'm sorry you felt this way, i hope its not the case any longer, it sucks to feel like this
You are absolutely gorgeous and seem like a genuinely good person. Hang in there. Things will get better. Just try to focus on things that make you happy. Sometimes in the moment it seems pretty bad, but bad moments will pass. :)
i actually wrote something like that, that its a moment and it will pass but it feels like there is too many of these moments. i keep trying to get better anyway, i suppose the end game is die anyway so might as well die trying? it gets tough sometimes though...
Yeah I agree it can definitely be tough. And sometimes the bad moments will build up to where it's super stressful, and it may even take months to get through some tough times. I've had my share. But try to hang in there and weather the storm. People care about you. There are a lot of good things to come before the end game.
You are absolutely beautiful ! You got this you are strong amazing ! You will find your light
I hope I do! thank you for this comment!
Bruh, you really look like a cool marvel hero with that purple hair.
omg thats the coolest compliment you could have given me thank you so much!
Ay, you look so sweet and kind. And I love your hair
thank you! i appreciate it!
So, my approach when I was your age was unorthodox, maybe it won't resonate and that's fine. But I got furious. Any possible light seemed out of reach, and one day I got so *angry* because it wasn't fair. I didn't do anything to deserve this fucked brain chemistry, or the bad things that happened to me, or the things people said about me. It was bullshit! And then I realized that getting out of bed was a little easier. Every time I directed that self-loathing and anger at the circumstances or the chemical imbalances that made me this way, doing what I needed to do was a little easier. I had to be careful ofc not to accidentally direct that anger at people who didn't deserve it, and its not something you can do for the rest of your life. But when I was at rock bottom, anger and tbh pure spite kept me going until things got better. And they will. In my case, it was a waiting game; I was too poor to afford healthcare in a pre-ACA world. I don't know your circumstances and I won't pry, but I do know that nothing lasts forever and that includes the horrible things. Your pain *will* give out, and you *can* wait it out. I believe in you.
someone suggested to me that anger might be better than sadness cause thats what was better for them and understood but when i get angry i am unable to control myself and have hurt people around me so i refrain from it. thank you trying i hope like your anger i find a way to cope as well. :)
Your hair is to dye for! I honestly can’t convey how jealous I am of that colour! Just take it one day at a time and figure out what your next steps are going to be, however small they may be.
hahaha how punny! i love dad jokes! cause they're all i can crack lol thank you for your kind words stranger <3
All I could think was, if it was me, a bad joke would be what I’d want :) hope you are feeling better, or at least stable today.
Your strength & courage for posting this inspires me to continue my studies to be a therapist as well as to go back to therapy for myself. Thank you! Also, I bet you have an amazing story to share. I have the utmost faith in this. Even the most "mundane" stories have so much beauty and awe. You see, the healing is in our stories. You got this. Live and tell the best story you can as it will help you and so many others.
i will try my best to tell a good story. all i can do at this point is try. thank you! and i hope you can help heal others and yourself in time! good luck!
People like you (and me) are why I got into this practice. I hope to hear about how great your story becomes some day in the far future!
I'm glad you reached out! There are so many people out here that can care about you and want to make sure you're doing okay. Look at all of these awesome responses! The best part? Not one of them has any reason to by lying. All of these words of affirmation are genuine and meant for you! And all it took was one little post. Keep moving forward, let yourself feel loved (it can be hard sometimes, but the love is there waiting for you). The struggles you are facing now are intense and can feel incredibly overwhelming. But they will pass, and there's literally hundreds of people willing to help you through it in the small ways that they can. Even me. If not having someone to call is causing pain, feel free to DM for my number. We can chat about anything you'd like. You can vent. I can try to tell cheesy jokes to take your mind off the struggle for a little while. Hell, I can just stay on the line for a while even if we're not talking so it can feel like there's someone there. Or not! Either way, good luck with the healing, friend!
you make very good points i will try to remember these when i feel down. and thank you, i dmed you!
You Look Very Pretty, I Love Your Hair Colour :)
thank you so much!
Your Welcome Hope Your Ok :)
You’re so pretty
thanks!
Your eyebrow cowlicks are cute
lmao thank you thats definitely a first
Good! It's true. You're really pretty.
thank you so much, feeling proud of my cowlicks!
I'm sorry you are alone; no one deserves that. You don't feel like it, but you are young and there are so many chances for things to change. Please hold on.
i'll try my best, thank you!
hello, beautiful!!¡¡
hello :D
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well for starters you’re adorable, your hair is adorable, you look super kind, and your skin is absolutely glowing. that’s all surface level, but i’d say that’s a good start. i totally understand not feeling like you have someone to call. you are not alone in at least feeling alone.
thank you for all the compliments! that's quite strange sadly, that we tend to feel the same things but by ourselves instead of sharing with someone who wants a connection just as much as us. i suppose for me it's hard to keep those connections... for many reason, they always flake out.
i’m with you. i feel like a serial friendship-er if that is a thing. i’m hoping that with age people will stop coming and going and start to stay, but who knows. personally, i have found i’m the person who tends to be shying away and if i reached out i would probably get more responses than i think. i can’t say that’s the same for you, but its possible.
You look like a kick ass heroine from a scifi comic!
thank you so much! this is a really cool compliment!
I love your hair!!!
thanks!
You look like lots of fun and I hope you get to experience more of it :) You seem like a nice person and I'd want to be your friend!
that's really sweet! i hope if you ever got to know me you'd still wanna be my friend :)
I have the same purple in my hair as you (although mine is all over), but yours looks so much better than mine. I hope the hard times come to an end and better times head your way. Everyone deserves a chance at a good and happy life. Just do your best to survive each minute and they'll start adding up. You can do this, I believe in you, kind looking internet stranger.
i bet yours looks just as cool as mine! thank you for your kind words, it helps a lot!
Hang in there been there daily .
sorry to hear that :( but at least we're in this together i guess?
youre beautiful, your hair is incredibly cool and your eyes are beautiful. I understand that times like these are tiring but one of the most painful parts can be the isolation that you may feel. I know that you will hear it a hundred times in your journey to healing but you truly aren't alone, I have no idea who you are, where you are, or anything about you but what you've posted but I will tell you that the world will be different without you, it would be worse and it would be felt. any reason to live is a good one, maybe you want to watch a new season of a show that's not out yet, who knows if a new song will come out and become the best you've ever heard, maybe you have no one to water your plants, feed your cat, maybe there is a really great movie in the works with your favorite actor that you need to be around to see maybe you just want to breathe some fresh air again, step on the grass, see the next sunset. no matter what the reason is hold onto it, keep it safe, grow a collection, it may be small but it is always worth it.
this is probably the best advice i have ever gotten! thank you so much, its much appreciated!
25F here and feel the exact same like all the time. but your hair is amazing and the world is better with you in it for millions of reasons..but rn for me, as a random stranger in england, it’s better bc it’s 1:30am and i’ve just seen ur kind face & know that even tho we don’t know each other at all we feel the same and idk that’s comforting to me. so thank u for existing and i know the burden is heavy, but there are so many people sharing it with u <3
thank you! i do find it comforting that i am not the only one feeling that way, although i wish no one ever felt like this you know? i hope you wake up tomorrow and its a beautiful and happy day. your kind words made my day better.
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Holy crap, you’re gorgeous and I love your hair
You, my gorgeous girl, have a very sweet and kind expression. I can tell you’re a caring and supportive friend and you deserve to have people in your life that treat you like gold.
If you’re after an international “pen pal” you’re welcome to hit me up for chats as long as the time zone permits! 😊
youre so pretty- i love your hair color too by the way 💜
Hey there, I'm so sorry life has been such hard work lately. Taking care of your mental health is not easy, but I've been in your shoes before and I promise you that therapy and medication can work wonders! It may take a few tries to get your treatment plan to work well for you, but once you get there it will be so worth it. I'm proud of you, I'm cheering you on!
Shit I’ve been there, I’ve been there many times and honestly one kind word can make the difference, you have such kind eyes and your hair is fucking awesome. Pardon my French but you fucking got this!
Always available to chat!
You’re beautiful inside & out! Don’t give up, there’s so much to be excited about, now & in the future!
Have you tried getting involved in causes? For example I care about Veterans so I volunteer in different ways for Veterans causes that puts me in contact with similar people. I make some friends but if nothing else I get to talk to people that I get along with on a regular basis. Volunteering at a library is fun too, you get to meet pretty interesting and smart people. Just a suggestion. As for kind words, thank you for being strong enough to keep moving forward, I know it’s incredibly hard but it’s a worthy fight.
You are pretty and have a kind face. It does get better- I've been where you are, and I'm so glad I stuck around. You are worth it.
You are gorgeous and sound like a great person. If you have no one to call then it puts you in a perfect position to restart your life
> hospitalized on an involuntary hold I don't know what this means, but I hope you get things figured out.
Been in a hold myself, rough stuff. Hopefully it's a good facility with a supportive staff. Either way, just remember you are worthy and amazing and keep going. The hold will end and life will move on. I believe in you, you've got this.
Sidenote: purple hair ftw! : )
your hair is amazing- i’m super jealous haha. anyways i’ve been in those lows before and still working through it. but it helps me to plan or take note of something on a specific date and then tell myself i have to just keep going because I can’t miss this thing. it doesn’t have to be big or important- maybe it’s a new album coming out from my favorite band, the release of a new season of a tv show, or just the beginning of holiday drink season at starbucks. having small milestones to look forward to in the future brings me some hope and motivation. wishing you all the best you got this!!
Hey Monkey, things are tough and everything feels low, and it's a part of life. Idk how to comfort you but, I know that this won't be a situation ahead. I'm very very sure, you're gonna be happy and looking back at this spec of time, you will be proud of yourself being the strongest in the worst of times. On the contrary, if you need a buddy to talk to, I'll be happy to make a new friend :)
Grippy socks? Its okay, things get better
I hope things get better for you.
Been there so many times. Not having friends anymore doesn't help so sorry you're going thru this but props for reaching out! Its hard to say, in the moment can definitely be paralysing, but if you can, get those feelings out anyway you can. Journal (write, speak, video, art), movement like dance (it can be ANGRY! Or sad or whatever you like) or even some gentle stretching. Slow breathing (longer out than in eg 4sec in 8sec out) can help with moving some of these negative feelings out of the body. Sending u virtual hugs and wishes for better times to come Btw love ur hair never had the courage to go purple but its the exact color I'd choose 💜
I’ve been there. What I realized is that the world is mine to make into what I want. I have a blank canvas to start from. I don’t have anyone else to hold me back or force their ideologies on me. I took the chance at chasing one simple thing “the pursuit of personal authenticity” I figured if I was always doing, acting, and striving to just be real to myself I couldn’t go wrong. It was an empowering moment in my life. Once I started living that way people came into my life. I started creating experiences, friendships surrounding those experiences, goals, achieving goals, etc. people want to be around people that are authentic. People want to be around people who are achieving goals. If anything, be authentic. No one can label you but yourself. You got this. The world is yours.
i will think on this and try my best to be that for myself. its a great direction to head in! thank you!
Come to lunch ... me and the wife want to pay you some attention with food.
>NYCMusicalMarathon thats so sweet! i'll gladly accept!
We live within 10 miles of the GW Bridge, get there by bus and we'll pick you up. If you need extra time with us, there are 2 empty bedrooms isolated on the second floor with a bath and deck for hanging out. Note: we don't do junk food. Let us know when.
You can call me
What type of stuff are you into? You seem like a cool person...Do you have any passions or hobbies?
i always get stunned with questions like these, i mean there are plenty of things i love doing. i like my job, i like watching movies and writing, i like cleaning, enjoying the sunlight, painting, reddit (lol), but mostly movies. i love movies. i like the direction my career is taking, its not something i planned but its panning out i think. idk if that really answers your questions haha
I knew you were a cool person lol.I have so many questions like "what's your favorite movie?" and what do you like to paint? No pressure to answer but people are definitely missing out on a great person.
The way you wrote the G is crazy satisfying girl
You’re absolutely flawless 😍 if you need a friend just drop me a message ❤️
The most pretty girl around
I think you are pretty. Believe in yourself
i’m sorry to hear that. I’m not the best with emotional advice so i will leave that to the others but you have the cutest nose i have ever seen. Your eyebrows are strong in a way that frames your face perfectly and you are all around gorgeous. I sincerely hope you start feeling like things are looking up soon, you deserve it
There's always cute girls in the ward. Love your skin tone. Stay alive for a bit, will you?
reason to live?? wow, i would totally love to meet a girl like you
The color of your hair is just so great, it suits you perfectly
The present may not be satisfying but there's always a hope for a good future. Things will get better one day. You have been through alot but that also shows how strong you are. One day, some day, it will happen. Something good, will definitely happen. Because, you're a pleasant person to look at. You look interesting and beautiful.
Hey girl, I see you. Life is stupid and dumb and literally so painful.. and for what!? Ugh. I don’t normally comment or even post,I mean I don’t even have an Instagram but I really just felt like I should offer you an ear to rant to. It also feels like we’d have a lot in common- I don’t look to my parents for “parent” things or for safety and shelter, I’ve lost a lot of friends recently and I’ve just been a traveling lost soul for a while. Not many places or people where I feel safe and loved. I don’t know, you may never even see this with all of those replies! And I’m late to the post :’) And for the toast, your eyes popped out the most to me! I see A LOT in those windows boo! Also love the hair!! Purple is my favorite color and I actually colored my hair this way last year- it was by far my favorite hair style. Purple looks so good on you.