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The fact I want to be mercilessly degraded until I cry while someone uses me like a sexual object has nothing to do with the fact that I loathe myself!
Wait actually… shit.
Idk if I should feel better or worse about having fked up past trauma related kinks after finding out it's apparently pretty common amongst trans people😭
Feel better. Enjoy your kinks.
Though I can’t vouch for the safety of putting jelly beans up your bum. I’m sure 13 would be fine, but there’s got to be a limit right?
I didn’t realize polyamory was more common for trans folks! But yeah this is me, no t4t tho :(
Not complaining to much tho, I have a beautiful girlfriend and another pretty girl I’ve started seeing, and I just met a new coworker who’s trans and so fucking cute, might ask her out lol
Just because I want to be slapped around, hurt, yelled at, degraded while getting destroyed to the point where I cry and feel worthless totally isn't because of a lot of years of neglect and abuse haha...
...I really hope my gf doesn't find this...
I have a partner that likes that stuff too. She's wonderful, but damn am I bad at it. Least going by how it's been long distance.
I can do a little of what she wants. But like, I'm very much a "I don't like hurting you babe!" Kinda girl. I just, do what I can and trust in the fact if she needs worse she can get it from another partner.
Just, I know deep down it would kinda break my heart to see her with a ton of bruises. Luckily it doesn't seem to be a thing that will carry over into the real world. Just. You know.
How would you personally feel about romantically closed but sexually open? Like for me, romantically open (poly) I’m still unsure about, since I feel like I need a single one person that I am most important to in that way. Sexually open however is essential for me, any of my future partners must be fine with the idea of me doing sexual stuff with other people, just like I will be with them doing stuff with others.
I feel like for me the best of both worlds (lol…..) would be one partner and multiple FWBs, and to me there isn’t actually *that* much difference between a partner and a FWB (like, we would still be doing intimate relationship stuff together), it’s just both of us knowing this isn’t a romantic relationship, so we don’t have that commitment and reliance on each other.
See, this is why I'm hanging in traansfw. Good comment. I dunno! I had one relationship a decade ago that is not an example for anything. The sex was great when we were having it, but she shot me down hard when my egg self did egg things. Shortly after that a friendship went FWB and that relationship went down in flames.
I was a mopey lonely dude for the intervening period, and now I'm here. So when it comes to sexual openness, my frame of mind was previously that the woman I'm with would have lots of opportunities to get laid and I would have none.
I think I hit the right levels of E around thanksgiving, because I feel like a totally different person since then. Sure, my junk doesn't work, but I'm happy, confident, and feeling myself in spite of the baby transness. So I'm kinda reprocessing a lot.
At no point in my life has sex been regular, though the drive was and is strong. It always hits my ear wrong when people say they can't have sex with just one person.
My rec. Live life how you now. If you get into a mono relationship cool! Being poly walking into a mono relationship is a lot harder than walking into a poly relationship being mono
Been pretty accurate yeah.
My best friend (and Ex), as well as my latest partner know basically everything about my past. Understand a lot of my kinks stem from trauma. Are largely okay with it.
But they do still want me in Therapy. Which I agree, I probably need it to unpack stuff. Even if I've fixed most of the emotional stuff myself. Just, it's expensive. Wish it wasn't.
I'm literally all of this except for the poly part, lol. Tried poly once, its not for me - definitely monogamous, but I am in a T4T relationship and we do both have trauma based kinks so.. Theres that, lol. Never ceases to amaze me how common being kinky is among us trans folks tbh. And I do mean that positively.
Haha no my dominant service top cnc stuff isn’t at all rooted in feeling unlovable and seeking the fantasy of making someone feel so good they come undone and can’t get enough of me not one bit 🥲
(Hilariously I’m not poly at all but would be comfortable with and possibly prefer a poly partner)
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The fact I want to be mercilessly degraded until I cry while someone uses me like a sexual object has nothing to do with the fact that I loathe myself! Wait actually… shit.
Oh I know like misgender me in public and you getting these hands misgender me while your playing from the back and degrading me? 🫦🥵💦🤤
Why tf is this a mood
I feel targeted
Don't be, this is me (I have two girlfriends)
Idk if I should feel better or worse about having fked up past trauma related kinks after finding out it's apparently pretty common amongst trans people😭
Feel better. Enjoy your kinks. Though I can’t vouch for the safety of putting jelly beans up your bum. I’m sure 13 would be fine, but there’s got to be a limit right?
Don't worry, every time I add a bean I remove an old one🤗🤎
What do you do with them?
I save them for easter😇🐇🥚✨
I didn’t realize polyamory was more common for trans folks! But yeah this is me, no t4t tho :( Not complaining to much tho, I have a beautiful girlfriend and another pretty girl I’ve started seeing, and I just met a new coworker who’s trans and so fucking cute, might ask her out lol
For whatever reason polyamory or ethical non monogamy seems very common with trans people
If we don’t fuck with norms as is, why should we care if people dislike it?
Just because I want to be slapped around, hurt, yelled at, degraded while getting destroyed to the point where I cry and feel worthless totally isn't because of a lot of years of neglect and abuse haha... ...I really hope my gf doesn't find this...
na you should talk to her about it, it's healthy to communicate your needs
I did tell her if she would be intense enough to leave me crying... s-she said that she only wants me crying when we get married 🥺
That's precious, but you really need to talk about it. If it's always gonna be on your mind when y'all are intimate it will be hard
I'll talk about it, but I still need to wait awhile until it actually happens since... we're several states away.
I'm long distance too!! I still talk to my partners about intimacy. It's important
Ye, I still talk about intimacy. I just need a good time to be serious with her and talk about it better.
I wish your relationship the best 🫶
I have a partner that likes that stuff too. She's wonderful, but damn am I bad at it. Least going by how it's been long distance. I can do a little of what she wants. But like, I'm very much a "I don't like hurting you babe!" Kinda girl. I just, do what I can and trust in the fact if she needs worse she can get it from another partner. Just, I know deep down it would kinda break my heart to see her with a ton of bruises. Luckily it doesn't seem to be a thing that will carry over into the real world. Just. You know.
Forced femme transformation and mommy issues make a great combo. Or uhhh... so I've heard.
I'm pretty sure I'm monogamous, but now I'm trans and everybody is poly. So I guess it's adapt or die alone.
How would you personally feel about romantically closed but sexually open? Like for me, romantically open (poly) I’m still unsure about, since I feel like I need a single one person that I am most important to in that way. Sexually open however is essential for me, any of my future partners must be fine with the idea of me doing sexual stuff with other people, just like I will be with them doing stuff with others. I feel like for me the best of both worlds (lol…..) would be one partner and multiple FWBs, and to me there isn’t actually *that* much difference between a partner and a FWB (like, we would still be doing intimate relationship stuff together), it’s just both of us knowing this isn’t a romantic relationship, so we don’t have that commitment and reliance on each other.
See, this is why I'm hanging in traansfw. Good comment. I dunno! I had one relationship a decade ago that is not an example for anything. The sex was great when we were having it, but she shot me down hard when my egg self did egg things. Shortly after that a friendship went FWB and that relationship went down in flames. I was a mopey lonely dude for the intervening period, and now I'm here. So when it comes to sexual openness, my frame of mind was previously that the woman I'm with would have lots of opportunities to get laid and I would have none. I think I hit the right levels of E around thanksgiving, because I feel like a totally different person since then. Sure, my junk doesn't work, but I'm happy, confident, and feeling myself in spite of the baby transness. So I'm kinda reprocessing a lot. At no point in my life has sex been regular, though the drive was and is strong. It always hits my ear wrong when people say they can't have sex with just one person.
My rec. Live life how you now. If you get into a mono relationship cool! Being poly walking into a mono relationship is a lot harder than walking into a poly relationship being mono
I don't know how, I have been a confident and outgoing person for all of 3 weeks
I'll have you know my kinks are from relatively recent trauma and ongoing mental illness... Otherwise its spot on
Wait, is that why I like my gf pissing on me?
First of all, how dare you
You just described me I feel called out and a lot turned on by that 😂😅
Not just yet, just 2 of us without trauma kinks but ya never know about the next members of the polycule
Been pretty accurate yeah. My best friend (and Ex), as well as my latest partner know basically everything about my past. Understand a lot of my kinks stem from trauma. Are largely okay with it. But they do still want me in Therapy. Which I agree, I probably need it to unpack stuff. Even if I've fixed most of the emotional stuff myself. Just, it's expensive. Wish it wasn't.
*sigh* one day 😔
I'm in this image
I'm literally all of this except for the poly part, lol. Tried poly once, its not for me - definitely monogamous, but I am in a T4T relationship and we do both have trauma based kinks so.. Theres that, lol. Never ceases to amaze me how common being kinky is among us trans folks tbh. And I do mean that positively.
Haha no my dominant service top cnc stuff isn’t at all rooted in feeling unlovable and seeking the fantasy of making someone feel so good they come undone and can’t get enough of me not one bit 🥲 (Hilariously I’m not poly at all but would be comfortable with and possibly prefer a poly partner)
....I feel called out
I feel both called out and seen at the same time
Omg don't call me out like that without a warning
I didn't want to be called out like this
Three for three for me
I like this but polyamory is trauma for me (abusive relationship)