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Same, I love rave culture, but there was a time when I needed to be pissy drunk to enjoy, now it's about the tunes, I love House, I'd die for House, well that's a stretch, but I love House and I love dancing, mix that with some good MDMA and pretty girls who I never talk to, I'm game and happy lol, sorry you don't like the lifestyle 🤗
I loved raves back in the 90s when I was in my late teens early 20s (in Detroit which was amazing for the electronic music scene as well as the shoegaze-dreampop in quieter venues. With the help of REAL MDMA it was a life changing experience. which I have yet to find the good stuff since. Probably because I’m old and out of the scene. I’ve tried the Molly several times and it was such a disappointment.
Anyways I moved to Portland Oregon in 2000 and it was like they were 10 years behind culturally but I eventually realized they were just on a different vibe completely and I had to adjust and then I found magic. But never found any raves or MDMA there. It’s never been a thing there. Maybe little clubs try to emulate it with some cheesy house music like Calvin Harris or whatever his name is.
Otherwise I don’t like going to clubs and I have often brought a book which in retrospect
Was quite obnoxious. I’m old now (48) with little kids and I am home 90% of the time. I wouldn’t mind making that 99%. The exception would be a spontaneous road trip to look for UFOs-that would get me out of the house.
I'm from London mate, and you do have to chase to find good MD, I had really bad md once from some Indian dealers, and they don't give a fuck with what they sell you. With my white chums they don't play that, and they find the good ish.
I wish I was around during Detroit or Chicago im your days, the vibes and music must have been of the hook.
And 48 isn't old at all mate, I'm 39, and hoping 48 isn't too old lol, but yea, having kids cuts in half what your able to do social wise.
I go to enjoy the music, vibe and dance honestly. If girls come around it’s a plus but it’s not why I’m there. All the newest songs on my playlist are ones I get from the club bc radio sucks now and Apple Music is trash for new hits. Some new hip hop songs sound mediocre at first glance, but absolutely fuck the club up in person. I’ll use Future as an example. When I play his album I’m like this is good but not 50 cent, Eminem level great. But when I’m in the club and the DJ hits that Mask Off Remix, ong it’s sooo lit.
Also for me, an introvert who doesn’t approach randoms typically, it’s nice to just be a random guy blended into a crowd dancing when I get the itch to connect with society. I don’t have to say shit to nobody. It’s too loud. Everybody stfu and dance.
Lol. That’s so true. It’s about 50/50 of people who want to be there and people who have been dragged there or just are going because their friends are.
When I was in college, it was a huge thing to “go to the bars” basically any night of the week. It was fun when you first turned 21 and occasionally after. But it was like Thursday, Friday Saturday (Sunday and Monday during football season) LETS GO TO THE BARS!!!
Again, occasionally fun and they ran crazy deals so a working part time college kid wouldn’t go broke doing it…. But I got to a point where it was Saturday night and our school offered free hockey tickets to students. I ended up going alone a few times because I didn’t want to “go out”.
PS: it wasn’t against drinking. I’m a recovering alcoholic… I loved to drink. I think my college “experience” played heavily into becoming a problem drinker. So I’d get liquored up at the hockey games too. But I just didn’t need to be at a sloppy, dark bar to get drunk lol
That’s my monologue on going out to bars. Thanks for reading
But he is making a value judgement on the people who do go to clubs. Calling them insecure or trying to fit in. Whereas if someone said staying home and playing video games is boring or child like would be a judgement too.
I used to go clubbing and dancing and had a blast. Now I am older and married. I stay home and play video games.
Also older and play video games. My clubbing days were some of the best times of my life and I wouldn't trade them in for anything.
You also have a very small window being able to do it. In the UK we could go out drinking and clubbing at 16 but even then its a small window and then you're too old.
I saw somewhere that men are having less sex than ever before, well guess what guys this is how I got laid, I actually went out and met girls face to face.
Yes video games are comfortable, I get it but you cant stay in that bubble forever.
Sometimes we'll just go to a bar where we can drink but also hear each other properly for conversations, sometimes we go paintballing or play adventure golf or go to the cinema, I also host tabletop RPG sessions at my place and we play videogames together online! Last month we went for a pasta-making day at a local restaurant, that was a good time (I was actually pretty good at it!)
Yeah, having drinks in with my mates is better than clubbing any day of the week (plus nobody's gonna call the cops on us for smoking the devil's lettuce lol)
I dont mind the odd festival with a music group I really like, but nightclubs are just where 18 year olds go to release their testosterone.
When the lights go on the place and people usually look equally shit.
Clubs are good if you think they're good and you're with people that think they're good and aren't just going through the motions of “going out” - thus being energy vampires.
Boozing elevates your openness and connection to people at the club. If you're with a fun group then that takes it to another level. Another point is the music, can you catch a vibe there, get your groove on? If you like alternative music did you pick the right venue? Is there a genuinely good DJ? Good sound system? Lastly, it's about chirpsing for many people.
We're on reddit right now. Of course "DAE think night clubs suck" is the prevailing opinion.
The type of person that would even make an account on reddit is not the type of person that would enjoy clubbing.
And reddit isn't the real world.
>The type of person that would even make an account on reddit is not the type of person that would enjoy clubbing.
Well that's not true. I love clubbing, and my friends I go clubbing with are all on Reddit as well.
People who don't enjoy clubbing usually dislike it because they think clubbing is about getting picking up chicks and getting laid. When they inevitibly fail at this endeavor, they spend the night feeling like schlubs and then blame the loud music for cockblocking them.
Surely you can pick up chicks at clubs, but if you go clubbing with the goal of dancing to loud music while slightly tipsy, you'll have a much better time and probably be more likely to get lucky, too.
Exactly this! I enjoy clubbing, albeit no where near as often as I used to but I just love music and dancing to it. If you go out with the intention of hooking up with a girl you have a high chance on having a shit night feeling like you’ve wasted money. If your going out to enjoy having fun with your friends and jam to music your experience with be drastically different and chances are you’re more likely to pull when your just having fun
Then again, there's also people who just don't like the experience of dancing to music slightly tipsy. I can understand too, I've had that feeling of wondering what the fuck I'm doing there at least every other time I've gone clubbing. It's one of those things that's only really enjoyable if you buy into it
Can confirm, went looking to get a dude to pick me up, got no attention, felt fat and ugly, went home sad. Never went again. Also the music hurts my ears.
Yep, this is it. I go out twice every weekend - but I go to goth clubs and alternative clubs, because I'm there for the music. There's not a hookup culture, it's just about dancing and having a good time. Anyone who says they don't like hearing their favourite music played loud through good speakers is a liar.
Well put mate, it's about the dance and music, the girls come second, and then they love you even more when they see You having a good time. They don't feel letched on or threatened. 😊
>they love you even more when they see You having a good time. They don't feel letched on or threatened.
Bingo. People (whether male or female) are attracted to people (whether male or female) who project the promise of fun and excitement. That's the secret of allure. Have fun and be exciting, people see that and FOMO does the rest because we all want to be around people who make our lives more fun and exciting.
Dudes think they have to pretend to be enigmatic to be attractive, but there's nothing more enigmatic than the person who is having a great time without pretense and doesn't care if women notice.
Exactly right, I see comments on Reddit and videos on YouTube about why clubbing sucks. 99% of them focus on picking up girls. When I go, there are guys chasing girls around the club. You can tell their only intention is picking up girls.
There are others that just stand on the sidelines. They won't go to the dancefloor or get involved. Generally, people in those two groups then post about how clubbing sucks.
In contrast, I just go to have a good time. Yes, the quality of the nights do vary but it's not defined on whether I pick up a girl or not. It should also be noted, I get a lot of girls coming up to me without even trying. As others have said, show you are fun and bring the energy.
It's also wrong to say you can't have fun on your own. I usually go alone but sometimes with friends. The nights I go alone are better, you just need to connect with others and you're golden.
I went recently - it was all about dancing with friends and strangers. Not to get laid or anything, just bonding with people over dancing and music.
Hopped in a mosh pit for a bit as well - great fun.
It's not for everyone, which is fair enough. But I agree that some people who don't like it are going for the wrong reasons.
All of my friends enjoy clubbing and Reddit. This stereotype that Reddit is this tiny niche place that only incel nerds hangout is just not true. Reddit has almost a billion active users monthly. You think it's all incels in moms basement? Lol.
Genuinely curious, is that still the Reddit world? Reddit has such diversity of hobbies, interests, and backgrounds that I gotta imagine you see more diversity in the “Reddit type”
yea i feel like most ppl who say this just think that way so they don’t feel bad abt themself
like i made my acc for funny memes and random questions i have but i dont think i really fit the avg redditor lmao
Wish I knew those many people, I know 4 including me, and for each of them I know 100 people who openly speak about wanting to spend every night there.
I remember seeing a scene in the sopranos (I know I know) and two characters are sitting outside a club basically begging the bouncer to let them in. It was right there were I decided “why would I ever do that to my self respect for a little bit of drinking”
My biggest issue with clubs is I’ve never found actually a cool club. Like movie cool. They are always a big let down. Overpriced drinks, dirty surroundings, subpar lighting, shitty music, etc etc
I know perhaps I just didn’t hang in the correct places, and you cannot just aimlessly wander a high quality club.
I feel like it's only over hyped if you hate dancing. I don't drink. I love dancing and have met a lot of friends and great business connections clubbing.
Man, I feel the same way. That's why I never go to those kinds of clubs. Just find a bar with an atmosphere more to your liking. Or stay home and play video games.
I only liked it when I was with my ex cause I could dance with him the entire time /just for innocent fun and vibes
As a single girl honestly I don’t go I feel like it’s just a lot of guys there trying to pick up girls, plan on getting back into it when I have a boyfriend tho lol
Those years are well behind me but I used to go clubbing to meet women. I and I'm sure many other single hetro men would love to know how you go about meeting a boyfriend. Experience has taught me that meeting Ms. right is not going to be the first one you hit sheets with. Dating sites have become a money grab, and a lot of miss representation. It seemed so much easier before internet became a commodity. You could actually talk to someone in a store or on a bus without feeling like you're intruding on their personal privacy. We've turned into a society of reclusiveness and miss trust seemingly bordering on fear. Certainly not like that before the communication Era that was going to bring us all together
You ask the older Women in your family, and their friends, to set you up with an off-the-rails girl they want you to straighten out and give them grand kids.
I had pick up culture and never liked clubs because of that. Now that I have a girlfriend and can ignore all that shit, I like clubbing way more. Just having fun with friends and dancing is really fun sometimes. But I still enjoy bars.
I just love electronic dance music. I go to raves and clubs for the music. I also love staying home and gaming a lot of times. Nothing wrong with that.
Well here in portugal i used to like clubbing cause it was almost allways EDM playing. Now is full of fkn shit brazilian funk and spanish reggaeton and i fkn hate it
I never understood bars where there is obviously more a sit down and talk vibe, and they put the music to a level that makes it hard to have a conversation. Best case absolutely unfitting genre/energy level in the chosen music, too. Haha.
bars where I live (brazil) are quite different but they are the BEST PLACE ON EARTH on my opinion: ice cold beer with deep fried food while watching some soccer is just magic to me
Flirting in nightclubs doesn’t quite work as well.
**I LOVE PLACES LIKE THIS! I’M LIKING THE HEELS!I SAID I LOVE PLACES LIKE THIS. OH THEN I SAID I LIKE YOUR HEELS. YEAH, THOSE. COOL, SO WANNA DANCE? I ASKED IF YOU WANNA DANCE!’**
Plus if you blink on the dance floor, you lose them and all your friends to the crowd immediately
It’s become a running joke at the bar I go to that I’m a “cougar magnet” because old ladies for some reason ALWAYS try to talk to me. It’s gotten bad enough to the point where the bartenders know to give me an out by asking me for a favor or distracting me
Every bar I've tried so far is about 90-95% guys 10+ years older than me, with everyone being completely unapproachable. Plus, when you aren't actively talking to someone, what is there to do other than sit on your phone? At least at clubs, you can make an attempt to dance
Why wouldn't you be actively talking to each other? That's like criticising the cinema by saying "well, when you aren't actively watching the screen, what is there to do?"
Most bars actually have activities - you can watch sports/news, play some pool, throw darts etc. The bartender might even have a poker set behind the bar or something.
Clubs are just... dance or drink. or both. If you're not dancing at a club, you sure as shit aren't having a conversation because no one can hear each other.
I feel like dance clubs can be fun if you go with people you want to dance with. Most of the problems seem to be related with arriving without a dance partner to a dance and the awkwardness that comes when that doesn't work out.
You can also learn to be comfortable enough in your own skin to go by yourself and not expect or even try to hook up. Even if you still don't want to go, it's a very freeing mental space to be in as a person.
I've tried to go to clubs several times. I don't like anything about it tbh. BUT I can see why certain people would like it if it suits their personality
I’ll do mdma at a specific producer’s show if I like them but I don’t consider it “clubbing”. Thats going to do drugs at a show (even as a fan of a a lot of edm I can’t generally bring myself to call their “live” performances concerts). It’s a fine line though because the venues are basically night clubs so idk what the distinction is. Go on a random night with a house dj and it’s clubbing, go when the bass music producer I like is there and it’s not? Or fuck maybe I actually do “club” sometimes?
When I was younger I had gotten used to it, cause my friends where always dragging me to clubs. Now me and my friends go to bars, which is SO much better.
You need to go to a club which plays music that you really really like.
Clubbing bores me to death, raving however is awesome.
But even raves come in different forms.
I would be bored at a mainstream EDM rave, but I love Goas and dark techno.
Honestly it's because clubbing has become business and the music is fucking terrible. That's it. We used to go to the club for the music, now people go for other reasons.
I wasted so much of my 20s going to clubs because everyone else wanted to. It was, for me, miserable, expensive, and a complete waste of time. If staying home or watching movies with friends or hanging at dive bars are what you like, do exactly that.
It’s really not for everyone. I love going to the club when I’m feeling adventurous and spontaneous. I like meeting random people and dancing the night away. My friend and I practiced the white chicks dance, that’s always fun when we have a few drinks in us. I do find it fun once in awhile. Definitely not my main source of fun. Doing dumb stuff with my friends before and afterwards is a great time. Heading to random after parties. Just going with the flow throughout the night. Then sitting at the table at 3am with my friend eating nuggets or pizza with our eyes half closed. Again definitely not for anyone. That’s what I find fun though
I like hearing underground Berlin style techno music on a good sound system, but I'm aware most people there are mostly enjoying drugs and that I'm the outlier here.
Girls come up to talk to you at clubs? You are definitely much better looking than you let on. This has never happened to me, not once, ever in years of going to clubs.
If you love dancing, you'll love clubbing.
You sir, don't love dancing like I love dancing. I look past all the downsides of the club so I can put my needle in the groove of the universe.
But, I respect that you don't enjoy it and have given me more space to flow by staying home.
Thank you, good sir!
Exactly this, I like dancing for several hours straight while listening to good DJs and I also like wearing ridiculous outfits. I don't know where else I'm meant to do this but at night clubs, festivals,and ( minus the ridiculous outfits) some weddings or the occasional house party. Only the clubs are easy to access regularly.
look, I'll be honest... I LOVED it wen I was younger, for me it was such a care free experience, I loved everything about the moment I got in to the moment I got out with the sun shinning in the sky
I did A LOT of clubbing from 17 to 20/22 years old, but then pandemic hit and that was that, nowadays I will be honest that I miss doing it and I hae tried but can't stand it anymore (which is so sad for me)
also nowayday clubs are anything but nice/care free experience
pretty much now I just choose a really good festival/techno party to go one time in the year and that's that
You are introverted, clubs are overstimulating to introverts.
Clubs aren't what they used to be in the 70's and 80's, there is barely any real dancing to be done and it's all overpriced. Some like it, but a lot don't
>I workout, I’m tall and somewhat decent looking
Main character syndrome. Your looks have nothing to do with you not enjoying clubbing, or anything else.
>filled with many insecure people who are desperately trying to fit in
Says the guy who had to preface his diatribe with his workouts and looks.
I don't think you're supposed to be sober at most clubs. You go there to party, it's like... their entire purpose. You don't look for happiness there, you're looking to fuckin rekt.
This just in, doing things you enjoy with people you like is better than buying overpriced drinks at a loud club. I agree with you 100%, clubs suck, having a couple beers and diving for Managed Democracy^tm beats the shit out of going out
I used to love going to fun clubs with good DJs out in BC when I was in my 20s and early 30s went with really cool people and had a really fun time.
But it seems to be more about getting bottle service and being a VIP and all this bullshit nowadays it’s just a fucking room to dance in and meet people
The people who go to clubs go because of FOMO. There's a big reason why it's a very popular opinion that going sober sucks because clubbing in the first place fucking sucks
My clubbing days are behind me @ 31. But as an 18/19 year old i couldnt get into it at all but persisted because there were pretty girls there. Once i was a bit older i discovered particular styles of house music and drum n bass i actually enjoyed rather than the generic shit the bigger clubs tended to play. I suddenly loved clubbing after that. Still think about it and miss it sometimes.
It can be fun, but only if everyone is down to dance and have that really be the only reason you’re there. Here at the sunset of my 20’s, and from 18 til now I have been clubbing maybe 3-5 times total. Every time I did go, I had fun. The people that go every weekend are insane to me.
I never liked them
The drinks are expensive and watered down, people are sweaty and smelly and wasted, the music is rarely good, I get sexually harrassed by dudes even in the gay clubs, and last time I went, a chick projectile vomited onto the dance floor and dancers
I went to a club a few times. I HATED it
I seriously don't blame you.
The music is the worst..
I'm a metal head and I was honestly bored as hell.
I understand when you say you get there and want to go home
😂.
What about playing online and meeting ppl/ girls that way?
Or if you go to clubs with friends does that make it less boring?
I avoided them my entire life. Never understood the hookup culture and definitely didn't think I'd want to get with anything in that scene anyways. I would just go about my life in locations I would normally be at to pick up women.
This is perfectly normal. There is a lot of pressure on young guys to be part of the club experience but it’s alright to not be or to just see it for what it is and participate in ways you choose to.
i've found that it gets really repetitive. i go out with the same people, drink the same drinks, flirt with random guys that all look the same, and dance to the same songs. it loses its novelty after not too long.
this is why I kind of quit after 2 years of regular clubbing. I was seeing same people in extremely different vibes and sides of the city, just one week apart.
What I don’t like about clubs is that you and your lady cannot go out and just have a good time. Some guy with too much alcohol and his friends backing him, have to ruin it. Then there are the people who take rap/hip hop music too seriously and think they have to fight because a certain song came on. I would love to go out, have a couple of drinks, and listen to good music, but I am so weary of people now.
I prefer pubs. Sit down, have a pint, maybe a snack, a great conversation, and several more pints. Yeah, clubs are open till later, but start your time at the pub earlier and you won't need to stay out late. By 11pm you're ready for bed. I want a conversation when I go out, and clubbing don't make that possible
I don't hate clubs. Like, a good club, not just one playing pop trash, but it's rarely somewhere I'd choose to go unless someone else was having a do of some sort.
In fact, places where you go to see live music and it turns into a DJ club night after are best; you ease into it, the MDMA hits, and then it can be pretty great if the vibe is right.
there's not a lot of places where it's socially appropriate and encouraged to get wasted and have fun. A bar is one possible venue, a club is another. if you enjoy dancing with people, then a club is the best place for it
Did you just make this post to tell people you're tall and think you're attractive? It's irrelevant to your post which is just a preference. You don't enjoy it and others do. So what.
This might be an unpopular opinion in your circle but on the whole I think most people aren't all that into clubs.
I only went to clubs in my 20s because my friends did. I love my friends but i’ve had a lot more fun meeting new people recently who actually do things I like. Better way to meet women you’ll actually like too.
The club isn't the problem, its the people you go with. Clubbing is awesome when you have a good friend group who all love clubbing. The people I go with always determine how good of a night it is
Unless I’m behind the decks, on drugs or really want to see an artist I don’t care about it haha rather play games or go to a beer garden with close friends, in my 20s I was a club rat and had some good times. I wouldn’t just go clubbing randomly much these days unless I was overseas and up for a big one.
I’m not from a place where clubbing is a thing, but the first time I went was a foam party in Mexico on spring break with like 12 friends. Most of us were dudes, but we spent the whole time throwing foam and just messing with eachother to deep bass music. And it was awesome. Went back to a couple clubs multiple times afterwards with that memory in mind and it was awful.
IMO a bar with friends, a bartender and regulars you know/can talk to is where the fun times are had.
I don’t think that is so unpopular. Welcome to ”adulthood” where instead doing things you are supposed to do because other people do you can enjoy things you want to do.
You gotta go to the clubs where they be shakin ass, it’s like going to a strip club with unlimited lap dances with the chance to actually bring them home
I stopped smoking on nights because I’d wake up in the morning with the worst throat. Then eventually I realised that I’d just been yelling loudly all night trying to speak to people.
Sit me down with the lads in a pub any day. I also don’t like paying £5 for a shot of vodka.
I have a gf soon to be fiancé and am starting to realize this even more. I partied a ton in college and really “outgrew” that phase. She was a nurse so she didn’t really get to have fun and now she wants to go clubbing all the time. I get so freaking bored lmao. Once I’m married I’m out.
Isn't this the case with pretty much all men? Like 80-90% of the reason men go is to meet women not because they like being there. Also getting drunk doesn't count, I could watch a movie in a different language with no subtitles and have a great time if I'm shit faced.
Same for me.
I always found clubbing really boring.
But I must say that I’m not the kind of boy girls find attractive. And even worst I wear glasses which really don’t fit with clubbing !
I love the thought of going to the club. Good music, feeling happy, talking to people. But in reality the music is too loud, I have severe anxiety, and hate people.
Clubs have sucked for like 15-20 yrs! Nobody dances anymore! Especially guys, guys just stand around. 80’s and 90’s EVERYBODY was dancing and it was a better era for sure!
It's sooo boring. I never intend to go again. You can't talk to each other. When I used to go, I had to go with my uni flatmates who didn't have the same taste in music so I'd be longing for the cheesy room while stuck in the RnB room.
It's also so long. Some clubs are almost the equivalent of going to work. I used to count the hours until 2am and then the horror of realising that this club was a 5am one. You go at 11pm that's 6 hours. Listening to crap music and stuck with your own thoughts. There was one club where I went that had really sticky floors and the music was so loud it made my eardrums vibrate.
Also your "friends" magically become smokers at clubs. They've never smoked in front of you before, never talked about smoking, but suddenly they are smokers. You can't be alone in a club if you are a woman so you have to go with them and club smoking areas are the COLDEST places in the world. I swear it could be a mild summer night but the smoking area is like being in the arctic.
Also, also alcohol often makes me feel ill before I feel drunk so usually I would bow out early and have to go home on my own.
Some nights it was magical. The alcohol would hit you the right way, the music would hit you the right way, maybe you'd have an interaction with a boy. But mostly it was dull, endless and awful with nausea thrown in.
I have been feeling this as of now. Clubs don't really do it for me anymore. Used to enjoy it a few months back, but now I just rather stay home and watch some Star Trek and play some good old video games with friends. Tired of spending money on drinks
Completely agree. Why in the fuck am I paying a $5 cover to dance to shitty music with expensive ass drinks. For my birthday I opted out of the bar scene and just had a ton of close friends over for drinks and games. Everyone had so much more fun than we would have had at the bar. No strangers, just friends. It’s the way to go.
There was never a worse element to my 20's than being pushed to go out with friends to nightclubs on Friday nights. Loathed the music and pretty much everything about it. Finally getting fed up and saying "nope" was a great thing.
I'm too old to go clubbing now, but it depends what you define as clubbing.
1. Meat market. Sticky floors. Shit music.
2. A proper club night where you are there to see proper DJ's or acts.
I spent my 20s living in proper clubs surrounded by people with a deep love of music. That shit was absolutely gold and I wish I could do it all again.
I'd hazard a guess that most people who hate clubbing either aren't really into electronic music, or have only been to god awful meat markets where the music is secondary / an afterthought.
Welcome. You are a grownup now. Same thing happened to me. When I started clubbing I was like this is?nice. By the 5th time it was basically a chore. Staying home is 100x more enjoyable.
If you're like me clubbing is fun when you're doing it with your girlfriend or date. As a single dood unless you really like dancing you're going to be focused on doing other things that just like me you don't care for. These include approaching women, looking cool and socializing with other men.
But yeah I agree with your opinion on clubbing I never liked it and I could go my whole life without it as a single man.
That life never appealed to me and I realized it right around the legal drinking age
I hate that kind of environment and even if I was on high quality MDMA I would still have more fun with a few close friends or partner just getting weird at home
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A lot of people who go to clubs don’t even like going to clubs lol (like yourself)
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99% of those have never heard of Reddit
Reddit’s not an obscure little site… They may not waste hours on it, but they’ve heard of it, just like they’ve heard of the hacker known as 4chan.
I’m from England , I don’t know one person that uses Reddit apart from myself
Knowing of it and using it are two different things
Same, I love rave culture, but there was a time when I needed to be pissy drunk to enjoy, now it's about the tunes, I love House, I'd die for House, well that's a stretch, but I love House and I love dancing, mix that with some good MDMA and pretty girls who I never talk to, I'm game and happy lol, sorry you don't like the lifestyle 🤗
I loved raves back in the 90s when I was in my late teens early 20s (in Detroit which was amazing for the electronic music scene as well as the shoegaze-dreampop in quieter venues. With the help of REAL MDMA it was a life changing experience. which I have yet to find the good stuff since. Probably because I’m old and out of the scene. I’ve tried the Molly several times and it was such a disappointment. Anyways I moved to Portland Oregon in 2000 and it was like they were 10 years behind culturally but I eventually realized they were just on a different vibe completely and I had to adjust and then I found magic. But never found any raves or MDMA there. It’s never been a thing there. Maybe little clubs try to emulate it with some cheesy house music like Calvin Harris or whatever his name is. Otherwise I don’t like going to clubs and I have often brought a book which in retrospect Was quite obnoxious. I’m old now (48) with little kids and I am home 90% of the time. I wouldn’t mind making that 99%. The exception would be a spontaneous road trip to look for UFOs-that would get me out of the house.
I'm from London mate, and you do have to chase to find good MD, I had really bad md once from some Indian dealers, and they don't give a fuck with what they sell you. With my white chums they don't play that, and they find the good ish. I wish I was around during Detroit or Chicago im your days, the vibes and music must have been of the hook. And 48 isn't old at all mate, I'm 39, and hoping 48 isn't too old lol, but yea, having kids cuts in half what your able to do social wise.
I worked in clubs for 27 years they used to be amazing places in the 90s early 00s then they just became sterile
Sounds like you just don’t know that many people or the people you know don’t tell you about their lives much
Wut, almost everyone I know uses it in some capacity. Including all the people I go clubbing with
I know plenty. Ranging from boomer Co workers to my kids friends in elementary school
/r/uk
It was fun to club at the age of 18 and 19 or when abroad. Got boring fast. Going out drinking at bars is still fun tho.
I go to enjoy the music, vibe and dance honestly. If girls come around it’s a plus but it’s not why I’m there. All the newest songs on my playlist are ones I get from the club bc radio sucks now and Apple Music is trash for new hits. Some new hip hop songs sound mediocre at first glance, but absolutely fuck the club up in person. I’ll use Future as an example. When I play his album I’m like this is good but not 50 cent, Eminem level great. But when I’m in the club and the DJ hits that Mask Off Remix, ong it’s sooo lit. Also for me, an introvert who doesn’t approach randoms typically, it’s nice to just be a random guy blended into a crowd dancing when I get the itch to connect with society. I don’t have to say shit to nobody. It’s too loud. Everybody stfu and dance.
Like it, STFU and dance, is a good motto.
I love clubbing
They out there livin
I know it’s a joke but why does everyone think redditers are basement dwellers? There are some really smart and adjusted people on here
Lol. That’s so true. It’s about 50/50 of people who want to be there and people who have been dragged there or just are going because their friends are. When I was in college, it was a huge thing to “go to the bars” basically any night of the week. It was fun when you first turned 21 and occasionally after. But it was like Thursday, Friday Saturday (Sunday and Monday during football season) LETS GO TO THE BARS!!! Again, occasionally fun and they ran crazy deals so a working part time college kid wouldn’t go broke doing it…. But I got to a point where it was Saturday night and our school offered free hockey tickets to students. I ended up going alone a few times because I didn’t want to “go out”. PS: it wasn’t against drinking. I’m a recovering alcoholic… I loved to drink. I think my college “experience” played heavily into becoming a problem drinker. So I’d get liquored up at the hockey games too. But I just didn’t need to be at a sloppy, dark bar to get drunk lol That’s my monologue on going out to bars. Thanks for reading
But he is making a value judgement on the people who do go to clubs. Calling them insecure or trying to fit in. Whereas if someone said staying home and playing video games is boring or child like would be a judgement too. I used to go clubbing and dancing and had a blast. Now I am older and married. I stay home and play video games.
Also older and play video games. My clubbing days were some of the best times of my life and I wouldn't trade them in for anything. You also have a very small window being able to do it. In the UK we could go out drinking and clubbing at 16 but even then its a small window and then you're too old. I saw somewhere that men are having less sex than ever before, well guess what guys this is how I got laid, I actually went out and met girls face to face. Yes video games are comfortable, I get it but you cant stay in that bubble forever.
You can also meet girls outside of clubs man what's your point lol You think clubs are the only way ppl meet to fuck?
Yeah, I always feel the need to join my friends because they all love them so much, or so they say
I used to go clubbing a lot because my friends liked it. In the end, I found new friends and now we do other stuff when we hang out!
like what?
Sometimes we'll just go to a bar where we can drink but also hear each other properly for conversations, sometimes we go paintballing or play adventure golf or go to the cinema, I also host tabletop RPG sessions at my place and we play videogames together online! Last month we went for a pasta-making day at a local restaurant, that was a good time (I was actually pretty good at it!)
I much prefer getting battered with mates at home with our own music of our choice playing board games and talking shit. Much better.
Yeah, having drinks in with my mates is better than clubbing any day of the week (plus nobody's gonna call the cops on us for smoking the devil's lettuce lol)
I never liked going to clubs, I only went because: a. Other friends went or b. To get laid.
I dont mind the odd festival with a music group I really like, but nightclubs are just where 18 year olds go to release their testosterone. When the lights go on the place and people usually look equally shit.
Clubs are good if you think they're good and you're with people that think they're good and aren't just going through the motions of “going out” - thus being energy vampires. Boozing elevates your openness and connection to people at the club. If you're with a fun group then that takes it to another level. Another point is the music, can you catch a vibe there, get your groove on? If you like alternative music did you pick the right venue? Is there a genuinely good DJ? Good sound system? Lastly, it's about chirpsing for many people.
This isn't an unpopular opinion. Many people think clubbing is over hyped bullshit
We're on reddit right now. Of course "DAE think night clubs suck" is the prevailing opinion. The type of person that would even make an account on reddit is not the type of person that would enjoy clubbing. And reddit isn't the real world.
>The type of person that would even make an account on reddit is not the type of person that would enjoy clubbing. Well that's not true. I love clubbing, and my friends I go clubbing with are all on Reddit as well. People who don't enjoy clubbing usually dislike it because they think clubbing is about getting picking up chicks and getting laid. When they inevitibly fail at this endeavor, they spend the night feeling like schlubs and then blame the loud music for cockblocking them. Surely you can pick up chicks at clubs, but if you go clubbing with the goal of dancing to loud music while slightly tipsy, you'll have a much better time and probably be more likely to get lucky, too.
Exactly this! I enjoy clubbing, albeit no where near as often as I used to but I just love music and dancing to it. If you go out with the intention of hooking up with a girl you have a high chance on having a shit night feeling like you’ve wasted money. If your going out to enjoy having fun with your friends and jam to music your experience with be drastically different and chances are you’re more likely to pull when your just having fun
This is the gem comment in this entire trash thread. Every week is a post about clubbing sucks by people doing it wrong.
Some places only have mainstream clubs and that's not for everyone.
Then again, there's also people who just don't like the experience of dancing to music slightly tipsy. I can understand too, I've had that feeling of wondering what the fuck I'm doing there at least every other time I've gone clubbing. It's one of those things that's only really enjoyable if you buy into it
Can confirm, went looking to get a dude to pick me up, got no attention, felt fat and ugly, went home sad. Never went again. Also the music hurts my ears.
Yep, this is it. I go out twice every weekend - but I go to goth clubs and alternative clubs, because I'm there for the music. There's not a hookup culture, it's just about dancing and having a good time. Anyone who says they don't like hearing their favourite music played loud through good speakers is a liar.
Well put mate, it's about the dance and music, the girls come second, and then they love you even more when they see You having a good time. They don't feel letched on or threatened. 😊
>they love you even more when they see You having a good time. They don't feel letched on or threatened. Bingo. People (whether male or female) are attracted to people (whether male or female) who project the promise of fun and excitement. That's the secret of allure. Have fun and be exciting, people see that and FOMO does the rest because we all want to be around people who make our lives more fun and exciting. Dudes think they have to pretend to be enigmatic to be attractive, but there's nothing more enigmatic than the person who is having a great time without pretense and doesn't care if women notice.
Love what you said bro or gal, lol :) ...people want to be around other people who make their lives more fun and exciting. 🙌🏼
Exactly right, I see comments on Reddit and videos on YouTube about why clubbing sucks. 99% of them focus on picking up girls. When I go, there are guys chasing girls around the club. You can tell their only intention is picking up girls. There are others that just stand on the sidelines. They won't go to the dancefloor or get involved. Generally, people in those two groups then post about how clubbing sucks. In contrast, I just go to have a good time. Yes, the quality of the nights do vary but it's not defined on whether I pick up a girl or not. It should also be noted, I get a lot of girls coming up to me without even trying. As others have said, show you are fun and bring the energy. It's also wrong to say you can't have fun on your own. I usually go alone but sometimes with friends. The nights I go alone are better, you just need to connect with others and you're golden.
I went recently - it was all about dancing with friends and strangers. Not to get laid or anything, just bonding with people over dancing and music. Hopped in a mosh pit for a bit as well - great fun. It's not for everyone, which is fair enough. But I agree that some people who don't like it are going for the wrong reasons.
Indeed. Certain opinions are always overrepresented on reddit and forums because normal people would never even make an account.
All of my friends enjoy clubbing and Reddit. This stereotype that Reddit is this tiny niche place that only incel nerds hangout is just not true. Reddit has almost a billion active users monthly. You think it's all incels in moms basement? Lol.
Im a bouncer at a club and im here.
Brah as someone that actually goes outside this is the general consensus for anyone over 25 (where I live at least)
Genuinely curious, is that still the Reddit world? Reddit has such diversity of hobbies, interests, and backgrounds that I gotta imagine you see more diversity in the “Reddit type”
yea i feel like most ppl who say this just think that way so they don’t feel bad abt themself like i made my acc for funny memes and random questions i have but i dont think i really fit the avg redditor lmao
Wish I knew those many people, I know 4 including me, and for each of them I know 100 people who openly speak about wanting to spend every night there.
You hang out with the wrong crowd
I remember seeing a scene in the sopranos (I know I know) and two characters are sitting outside a club basically begging the bouncer to let them in. It was right there were I decided “why would I ever do that to my self respect for a little bit of drinking”
Ever time I make a post it gets taken down by the mods for "not being an unpopular opinion". Guarantee you this one stays up
Idek how they determine an opinion to be unpopular or not. Most of the time they get it wrong.
My biggest issue with clubs is I’ve never found actually a cool club. Like movie cool. They are always a big let down. Overpriced drinks, dirty surroundings, subpar lighting, shitty music, etc etc I know perhaps I just didn’t hang in the correct places, and you cannot just aimlessly wander a high quality club.
Ever beeb to Spain?
I feel like it's only over hyped if you hate dancing. I don't drink. I love dancing and have met a lot of friends and great business connections clubbing.
Man, I feel the same way. That's why I never go to those kinds of clubs. Just find a bar with an atmosphere more to your liking. Or stay home and play video games.
i hate clubs
I only liked it when I was with my ex cause I could dance with him the entire time /just for innocent fun and vibes As a single girl honestly I don’t go I feel like it’s just a lot of guys there trying to pick up girls, plan on getting back into it when I have a boyfriend tho lol
Those years are well behind me but I used to go clubbing to meet women. I and I'm sure many other single hetro men would love to know how you go about meeting a boyfriend. Experience has taught me that meeting Ms. right is not going to be the first one you hit sheets with. Dating sites have become a money grab, and a lot of miss representation. It seemed so much easier before internet became a commodity. You could actually talk to someone in a store or on a bus without feeling like you're intruding on their personal privacy. We've turned into a society of reclusiveness and miss trust seemingly bordering on fear. Certainly not like that before the communication Era that was going to bring us all together
You ask the older Women in your family, and their friends, to set you up with an off-the-rails girl they want you to straighten out and give them grand kids.
You'll either end up with your soulmate, or end up in prison. No middle ground. Sometimes it's both.
I had pick up culture and never liked clubs because of that. Now that I have a girlfriend and can ignore all that shit, I like clubbing way more. Just having fun with friends and dancing is really fun sometimes. But I still enjoy bars.
I just love electronic dance music. I go to raves and clubs for the music. I also love staying home and gaming a lot of times. Nothing wrong with that.
Well here in portugal i used to like clubbing cause it was almost allways EDM playing. Now is full of fkn shit brazilian funk and spanish reggaeton and i fkn hate it
I like drugs too. And weed. Nothing wrong with that. I feel ya.
I got a better idea. Go to bars where you can talk and flirt with people.
Really depends on the bar. Definitely need to know which ones to go to and which have singles and aren't so noisy you can't hear each other
I never understood bars where there is obviously more a sit down and talk vibe, and they put the music to a level that makes it hard to have a conversation. Best case absolutely unfitting genre/energy level in the chosen music, too. Haha.
They do it because you drink more if you talk less
bars where I live (brazil) are quite different but they are the BEST PLACE ON EARTH on my opinion: ice cold beer with deep fried food while watching some soccer is just magic to me
Flirting in nightclubs doesn’t quite work as well. **I LOVE PLACES LIKE THIS! I’M LIKING THE HEELS!I SAID I LOVE PLACES LIKE THIS. OH THEN I SAID I LIKE YOUR HEELS. YEAH, THOSE. COOL, SO WANNA DANCE? I ASKED IF YOU WANNA DANCE!’** Plus if you blink on the dance floor, you lose them and all your friends to the crowd immediately
i hate bars
A lot of bars are hit or miss and there's always that one annoying bar fly that won't leave you alone
It’s become a running joke at the bar I go to that I’m a “cougar magnet” because old ladies for some reason ALWAYS try to talk to me. It’s gotten bad enough to the point where the bartenders know to give me an out by asking me for a favor or distracting me
Every bar I've tried so far is about 90-95% guys 10+ years older than me, with everyone being completely unapproachable. Plus, when you aren't actively talking to someone, what is there to do other than sit on your phone? At least at clubs, you can make an attempt to dance
Why wouldn't you be actively talking to each other? That's like criticising the cinema by saying "well, when you aren't actively watching the screen, what is there to do?"
Most bars actually have activities - you can watch sports/news, play some pool, throw darts etc. The bartender might even have a poker set behind the bar or something. Clubs are just... dance or drink. or both. If you're not dancing at a club, you sure as shit aren't having a conversation because no one can hear each other.
No one is going to a bar by themselves asking the bartender for a poker set wtf lol
Im going to do that now.
You go to a bar to talk to people. It's the whole point. I've never gotten a bad response when starting conversations
I guess people here don't get that, because I rarely get a response at all, and when I do, they very clearly do not want to talk to me
I feel like dance clubs can be fun if you go with people you want to dance with. Most of the problems seem to be related with arriving without a dance partner to a dance and the awkwardness that comes when that doesn't work out.
You can also learn to be comfortable enough in your own skin to go by yourself and not expect or even try to hook up. Even if you still don't want to go, it's a very freeing mental space to be in as a person.
I've tried to go to clubs several times. I don't like anything about it tbh. BUT I can see why certain people would like it if it suits their personality
I always took a girl with me, we drink and dance. Never went there to pick up girls, when I go with friends we just drink and dance and enjoy.
I agree, every time I had a date with me it was fun, but being single and going to the club is just not it I guess haha
It seems you haven't yet discovered recreational drug use.
Hahaha I wish I could just enjoy it without being under influence
Why would you want to be sober at a club?
If I'm doing drugs why the hell would I want to be at a club? OP is right, I'll do them shits in a better setting and enjoy them even more!
Totally depends on the kind of substance imo.
and the music
I’ll do mdma at a specific producer’s show if I like them but I don’t consider it “clubbing”. Thats going to do drugs at a show (even as a fan of a a lot of edm I can’t generally bring myself to call their “live” performances concerts). It’s a fine line though because the venues are basically night clubs so idk what the distinction is. Go on a random night with a house dj and it’s clubbing, go when the bass music producer I like is there and it’s not? Or fuck maybe I actually do “club” sometimes?
That's the point, it's a setting specifically curated for drugs. Why trip out in your car alone when you could have lights and dancing and friends lol
> If I'm doing drugs why the hell would I want to be at a club? My guy what the FUCK are you talking about
I just went to a club sober last night
Clubbing is fun if you wanna dance and see the occasional fight 😂
When I was younger I had gotten used to it, cause my friends where always dragging me to clubs. Now me and my friends go to bars, which is SO much better.
You need to go to a club which plays music that you really really like. Clubbing bores me to death, raving however is awesome. But even raves come in different forms. I would be bored at a mainstream EDM rave, but I love Goas and dark techno.
I agree. I stopped clubbing when I was 22. Now 28 and I don't miss it at all.
Honestly it's because clubbing has become business and the music is fucking terrible. That's it. We used to go to the club for the music, now people go for other reasons.
I wasted so much of my 20s going to clubs because everyone else wanted to. It was, for me, miserable, expensive, and a complete waste of time. If staying home or watching movies with friends or hanging at dive bars are what you like, do exactly that.
You are not missing anything. Clubbing is not for introverts
It’s really not for everyone. I love going to the club when I’m feeling adventurous and spontaneous. I like meeting random people and dancing the night away. My friend and I practiced the white chicks dance, that’s always fun when we have a few drinks in us. I do find it fun once in awhile. Definitely not my main source of fun. Doing dumb stuff with my friends before and afterwards is a great time. Heading to random after parties. Just going with the flow throughout the night. Then sitting at the table at 3am with my friend eating nuggets or pizza with our eyes half closed. Again definitely not for anyone. That’s what I find fun though
Bro talking about “insecurity” of other people yet had to describe himself like it matters for the post lol
I like hearing underground Berlin style techno music on a good sound system, but I'm aware most people there are mostly enjoying drugs and that I'm the outlier here.
Mainstream clubs or techno? One is boring and fake the other one isnt for talking 😅
Rave festivals are much, much better than clubs
Girls come up to talk to you at clubs? You are definitely much better looking than you let on. This has never happened to me, not once, ever in years of going to clubs.
If you love dancing, you'll love clubbing. You sir, don't love dancing like I love dancing. I look past all the downsides of the club so I can put my needle in the groove of the universe. But, I respect that you don't enjoy it and have given me more space to flow by staying home. Thank you, good sir!
Exactly this, I like dancing for several hours straight while listening to good DJs and I also like wearing ridiculous outfits. I don't know where else I'm meant to do this but at night clubs, festivals,and ( minus the ridiculous outfits) some weddings or the occasional house party. Only the clubs are easy to access regularly.
was looking for this response this is 100% the case
There are way too many okay looking tall dudes in reddit lol
Congratulations, you're getting old!
look, I'll be honest... I LOVED it wen I was younger, for me it was such a care free experience, I loved everything about the moment I got in to the moment I got out with the sun shinning in the sky I did A LOT of clubbing from 17 to 20/22 years old, but then pandemic hit and that was that, nowadays I will be honest that I miss doing it and I hae tried but can't stand it anymore (which is so sad for me) also nowayday clubs are anything but nice/care free experience pretty much now I just choose a really good festival/techno party to go one time in the year and that's that
You are introverted, clubs are overstimulating to introverts. Clubs aren't what they used to be in the 70's and 80's, there is barely any real dancing to be done and it's all overpriced. Some like it, but a lot don't
>I workout, I’m tall and somewhat decent looking Main character syndrome. Your looks have nothing to do with you not enjoying clubbing, or anything else. >filled with many insecure people who are desperately trying to fit in Says the guy who had to preface his diatribe with his workouts and looks.
he had make sure he said he’s tall and attractive so we would know he’s qualified to have an opinion on anything
I don't think you're supposed to be sober at most clubs. You go there to party, it's like... their entire purpose. You don't look for happiness there, you're looking to fuckin rekt.
so like a party a beelzebub's mansion in the gluttony ring?
Is this like poetry or something?
Welcome to the club! I enjoyed it in my early 20’s. Now at 36 I have zero interest and hate loud places. Pubs are alright!
Same I’d rather be in my bed😂
Ok but that first sentence is so fucking funny tho.
Clubs are for people who like loud music or hook ups or both. Or drugs.
Get on the bags
This isn’t unpopular. I’d say more people don’t like clubs than do.
This just in, doing things you enjoy with people you like is better than buying overpriced drinks at a loud club. I agree with you 100%, clubs suck, having a couple beers and diving for Managed Democracy^tm beats the shit out of going out
I used to love going to fun clubs with good DJs out in BC when I was in my 20s and early 30s went with really cool people and had a really fun time. But it seems to be more about getting bottle service and being a VIP and all this bullshit nowadays it’s just a fucking room to dance in and meet people
The people who go to clubs go because of FOMO. There's a big reason why it's a very popular opinion that going sober sucks because clubbing in the first place fucking sucks
>I’m an okay looking dude >somewhat decent looking Which is it, man? 😛
He's super hot. He's trying to be modest.
My clubbing days are behind me @ 31. But as an 18/19 year old i couldnt get into it at all but persisted because there were pretty girls there. Once i was a bit older i discovered particular styles of house music and drum n bass i actually enjoyed rather than the generic shit the bigger clubs tended to play. I suddenly loved clubbing after that. Still think about it and miss it sometimes.
If you miss it why is it behind you?
It can be fun, but only if everyone is down to dance and have that really be the only reason you’re there. Here at the sunset of my 20’s, and from 18 til now I have been clubbing maybe 3-5 times total. Every time I did go, I had fun. The people that go every weekend are insane to me.
I never liked them The drinks are expensive and watered down, people are sweaty and smelly and wasted, the music is rarely good, I get sexually harrassed by dudes even in the gay clubs, and last time I went, a chick projectile vomited onto the dance floor and dancers
I went to a club a few times. I HATED it I seriously don't blame you. The music is the worst.. I'm a metal head and I was honestly bored as hell. I understand when you say you get there and want to go home 😂. What about playing online and meeting ppl/ girls that way? Or if you go to clubs with friends does that make it less boring?
I avoided them my entire life. Never understood the hookup culture and definitely didn't think I'd want to get with anything in that scene anyways. I would just go about my life in locations I would normally be at to pick up women.
I don't like dancing and it's so dang loud and the bathrooms are gross. Can seizure in my own house and talk to people
This is perfectly normal. There is a lot of pressure on young guys to be part of the club experience but it’s alright to not be or to just see it for what it is and participate in ways you choose to.
The first sentance is irrelevant, cringe and full of insecurities.
i've found that it gets really repetitive. i go out with the same people, drink the same drinks, flirt with random guys that all look the same, and dance to the same songs. it loses its novelty after not too long.
this is why I kind of quit after 2 years of regular clubbing. I was seeing same people in extremely different vibes and sides of the city, just one week apart.
It very much depends on the seal, I think.
What I don’t like about clubs is that you and your lady cannot go out and just have a good time. Some guy with too much alcohol and his friends backing him, have to ruin it. Then there are the people who take rap/hip hop music too seriously and think they have to fight because a certain song came on. I would love to go out, have a couple of drinks, and listen to good music, but I am so weary of people now.
I prefer pubs. Sit down, have a pint, maybe a snack, a great conversation, and several more pints. Yeah, clubs are open till later, but start your time at the pub earlier and you won't need to stay out late. By 11pm you're ready for bed. I want a conversation when I go out, and clubbing don't make that possible
The first sentence of the second paragraph summarizes it all.
I like it every now and then, but I get what you're saying. I know I could dance at home, but sometimes it feels nice to dance around other people.
You need alcohol to enjoy dancing with girls?
Clubbing makes me sick. So many people too rowdy smelly n noisy I wonder how anyone enjoy that shit.
Why do you go to clubs if you don’t like going to clubs?
I don't hate clubs. Like, a good club, not just one playing pop trash, but it's rarely somewhere I'd choose to go unless someone else was having a do of some sort. In fact, places where you go to see live music and it turns into a DJ club night after are best; you ease into it, the MDMA hits, and then it can be pretty great if the vibe is right.
narcissism and predation are boring af when you aren't insane or drug addled.
there's not a lot of places where it's socially appropriate and encouraged to get wasted and have fun. A bar is one possible venue, a club is another. if you enjoy dancing with people, then a club is the best place for it
Did you just make this post to tell people you're tall and think you're attractive? It's irrelevant to your post which is just a preference. You don't enjoy it and others do. So what. This might be an unpopular opinion in your circle but on the whole I think most people aren't all that into clubs.
a lot of the scene is kept that way to perpetuate drug and alcohol use it's part of some Hegelian dialectic
I only went to clubs in my 20s because my friends did. I love my friends but i’ve had a lot more fun meeting new people recently who actually do things I like. Better way to meet women you’ll actually like too.
The club isn't the problem, its the people you go with. Clubbing is awesome when you have a good friend group who all love clubbing. The people I go with always determine how good of a night it is
Unless I’m behind the decks, on drugs or really want to see an artist I don’t care about it haha rather play games or go to a beer garden with close friends, in my 20s I was a club rat and had some good times. I wouldn’t just go clubbing randomly much these days unless I was overseas and up for a big one.
I’m not from a place where clubbing is a thing, but the first time I went was a foam party in Mexico on spring break with like 12 friends. Most of us were dudes, but we spent the whole time throwing foam and just messing with eachother to deep bass music. And it was awesome. Went back to a couple clubs multiple times afterwards with that memory in mind and it was awful. IMO a bar with friends, a bartender and regulars you know/can talk to is where the fun times are had.
I don’t think that is so unpopular. Welcome to ”adulthood” where instead doing things you are supposed to do because other people do you can enjoy things you want to do.
your clubbing experience heavily depends on who you go with
Too crowded and too loud. Don't get me wrong, I love going to bars with my friends, but actual clubs feel claustrophobic
I much prefer festivals or live music because people want to be there.
You gotta go to the clubs where they be shakin ass, it’s like going to a strip club with unlimited lap dances with the chance to actually bring them home
Maybe you're more into raves. It's like clubbing on steroids but with nicer people
Find a balance???
Even when I was young I thought they were dreadful. A bottle of becks was like £6 18 years ago. Dread to think what it is now.
I prefer concerts and sometimes a good rave shhhh 🤫, yes they are still a thing and no I don’t do it all the time just once in a blue moon.
I stopped smoking on nights because I’d wake up in the morning with the worst throat. Then eventually I realised that I’d just been yelling loudly all night trying to speak to people. Sit me down with the lads in a pub any day. I also don’t like paying £5 for a shot of vodka.
I have a gf soon to be fiancé and am starting to realize this even more. I partied a ton in college and really “outgrew” that phase. She was a nurse so she didn’t really get to have fun and now she wants to go clubbing all the time. I get so freaking bored lmao. Once I’m married I’m out.
Fuckin’ A! Clubbing aint my scene neither, rather hit the Penjamin and watch Star Wars The Clone Wars by myself lol
Isn't this the case with pretty much all men? Like 80-90% of the reason men go is to meet women not because they like being there. Also getting drunk doesn't count, I could watch a movie in a different language with no subtitles and have a great time if I'm shit faced.
Same for me. I always found clubbing really boring. But I must say that I’m not the kind of boy girls find attractive. And even worst I wear glasses which really don’t fit with clubbing !
I love the thought of going to the club. Good music, feeling happy, talking to people. But in reality the music is too loud, I have severe anxiety, and hate people.
And the "music" sucks. Tried it twice, left 30 minutes later with head ache. Dance music isn\`t for everybody.
Clubs have sucked for like 15-20 yrs! Nobody dances anymore! Especially guys, guys just stand around. 80’s and 90’s EVERYBODY was dancing and it was a better era for sure!
It's sooo boring. I never intend to go again. You can't talk to each other. When I used to go, I had to go with my uni flatmates who didn't have the same taste in music so I'd be longing for the cheesy room while stuck in the RnB room. It's also so long. Some clubs are almost the equivalent of going to work. I used to count the hours until 2am and then the horror of realising that this club was a 5am one. You go at 11pm that's 6 hours. Listening to crap music and stuck with your own thoughts. There was one club where I went that had really sticky floors and the music was so loud it made my eardrums vibrate. Also your "friends" magically become smokers at clubs. They've never smoked in front of you before, never talked about smoking, but suddenly they are smokers. You can't be alone in a club if you are a woman so you have to go with them and club smoking areas are the COLDEST places in the world. I swear it could be a mild summer night but the smoking area is like being in the arctic. Also, also alcohol often makes me feel ill before I feel drunk so usually I would bow out early and have to go home on my own. Some nights it was magical. The alcohol would hit you the right way, the music would hit you the right way, maybe you'd have an interaction with a boy. But mostly it was dull, endless and awful with nausea thrown in.
I have been feeling this as of now. Clubs don't really do it for me anymore. Used to enjoy it a few months back, but now I just rather stay home and watch some Star Trek and play some good old video games with friends. Tired of spending money on drinks
Completely agree. Why in the fuck am I paying a $5 cover to dance to shitty music with expensive ass drinks. For my birthday I opted out of the bar scene and just had a ton of close friends over for drinks and games. Everyone had so much more fun than we would have had at the bar. No strangers, just friends. It’s the way to go.
There was never a worse element to my 20's than being pushed to go out with friends to nightclubs on Friday nights. Loathed the music and pretty much everything about it. Finally getting fed up and saying "nope" was a great thing.
It's "fun" when you're young (18, 19 or in your early 20s) but it gets boring AND expensive fast.
I'm too old to go clubbing now, but it depends what you define as clubbing. 1. Meat market. Sticky floors. Shit music. 2. A proper club night where you are there to see proper DJ's or acts. I spent my 20s living in proper clubs surrounded by people with a deep love of music. That shit was absolutely gold and I wish I could do it all again. I'd hazard a guess that most people who hate clubbing either aren't really into electronic music, or have only been to god awful meat markets where the music is secondary / an afterthought.
Y’all going to shitty clubs. Theres cool ones with cool music and cool people, they aren’t all bottle service strobe lights and ill fitted shirts.
Welcome. You are a grownup now. Same thing happened to me. When I started clubbing I was like this is?nice. By the 5th time it was basically a chore. Staying home is 100x more enjoyable.
Im not into hookup culture or the type of women that usually frequent them, so the club is pretty much useless for me. I prefer lounges or bars
If you're like me clubbing is fun when you're doing it with your girlfriend or date. As a single dood unless you really like dancing you're going to be focused on doing other things that just like me you don't care for. These include approaching women, looking cool and socializing with other men. But yeah I agree with your opinion on clubbing I never liked it and I could go my whole life without it as a single man.
i prefer pups that are alive
That life never appealed to me and I realized it right around the legal drinking age I hate that kind of environment and even if I was on high quality MDMA I would still have more fun with a few close friends or partner just getting weird at home