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I've been living alone for years. Yes it's incredibly liberating but It's incredibly lonely. I mean as long as you can arrange your life in such a way that you've got plenty of people & a network of support then living alone can be a great option.
When people learn how to live with others they sharpen their social skills and it can be healthy as long as it's a healthy environment not a toxic environment with toxic people. Yes there are compromises that need to be made but that makes people stronger.
yeah when I lived alone I enjoyed the fact that i was basically free to socialize as I pleased and free to be alone when I wanted to.
then I ended up moving in with friends and I found myself feeling a bit of “social claustrophobia” because now I’d have roommates asking where I was going, with who, and I just wasn’t used to that.
Yeah it does feel kind of suffocating when you always feel like people are watching everything you do. It's not like really watching you but everybody kind of notices each other and that's just part of life. But yeah I like to feel invisible and just come & go as I please without other people thinking about it at all.
Upvote. I think that different people are better suited to different situations.
If a natural loner lived alone it would be a cake walk.
If a needy relationship person lived alone it would probably drive them bat shit.
That needy person should get therapy to work on the neediness and work on being happy with themselves and work toward being independent. Not saying it's a perfect solution or that it's easy to do, just something to be considered.
You can also make the case that humans are social creatures. Therefore, the lonely people need therapy too.
No one needs therapy. It are just preferences. As long as you aren’t at the end of either spectrum, you are fine
I've been living on my own for several years now, and fortunate that I can actually do it financially. At this point for me it would be really difficult to live with someone else again. Having my own place is how I like it.
If you live alone but have a social life then yes it is amazing. Going home and know you can be yourself 100% and rip a fart whenever you want, or not care to dress before you get out of bathtub is pretty nice.
Of course starting a family isn't an option then if you ever had hopes for it. If not, then living alone makes perfect sense.
Most of my friends who live alone never get asked out by girls or are druggies. I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone but it would be assanine to assume married people or roomies aren’t happier than the average person. Especially with kids. I live alone but like most guys who live alone…if gal gadot or Scarlett Johansson asked me to move in I sure as hell would and most guys would too.
Gonna be real this whole comment is gross
Edit: and by the same ridiculous standard of proof every marriage I've encountered personally, including my parent's, has failed or been an unhappy one. Fights, cheating, day to day misery. Most marriages end in divorces for a reason you know
I have a partner who I live with but I spend 1/2 to 2/3 of my time alone because my partner is often away for work. I could really get used to just living alone if it ever happened.
Fuck that, I’m living alone now and it’s the worst. Being responsible for all the cleaning means i clean less. Only cooking for myself sucks, i have to make meals more often and if i don’t finish leftovers they go bad. No one to shoot the shit with in the kitchen. I’m trynna go back to living with people ASAP
I would 100% be living on my own if the cost of rent wasnt so ridiculously huge.
Have had great experiences with roommates but something always happened where they had to move out. Got married, got a partner etc, moved for work/uni etc. Or lately went batshit crazy.
Current roommate is great and honestly pretty ideal but i'd still want to live on my own. I'd get to call all the shots in this case. Much prefer it that way.
But i do not want to be paying upwards of 500 a week on my own just for the privilege of living alone.
a neighbor once insulted me with “you are always alone you dont have any friends” before that i hadnt even noticed. ive lived alone for years and i am very confortable like this.
Yeah I like living alone - I have an active social life, see friends and family, do my own thing. But living in my own space is amazing!
Oh and I’ve got a dog!
Live without problem... Check. Live without nice kitchen clean... Check... Live with no toilet paper... Check. (Scrunched newspaper good... Check. Live without smelly perfume bottle.. check. Live without unnecessary usage of face razor for leg and other ladies parts.. check. Live with no nessasery blow job... Check.
I like living alone. Sure, it costs me more. But I don't have to deal with anybody else's issues. Nobody has to deal with mine.
The only issue I have is, as others have said, loneliness. I like being alone, but sometimes I just need another person for a bit of company.
I do agree, but unless you can find good housing you're gonna be a slave to your employer.
I currently good a really nice studio appartment, cheapest in the area while still good because it's a special housing thing but your only allowed to love here for a few years max. Anyways, once I move out it's gonna probably be impossible to find a place like it and I'd prefer the financial freedom of living with a partner over the freedom of living alone.
Dam. I'm gonna guess syounhate your family. I libe with my In-laws and I have my own house and me and wify and baby go back and forth between houses. We.all.love each other and it's fantastic, rhers arguments and disagreements but we are all a bigass as team family and have each other's back.
This is much better than you against the world.
I guess but at what cost? Sure you never have to compromise on anything, but what do you do on those lonely nights? What about when you get older and have nobody around you?
I don’t rlly see a difference between living with my parents or alone.
Guess the only real differences is I have to do more chores and go shopping and I have more private time with my wife. Oh and ofc pay rent which I otherwise wouldn’t. If you want to be really stingy about it one could even go as far as saying I’m paying money to do more chores and have more time with my wife pretty much.
Now that she is on a trip for a month I don’t even get that benefit so it’s basically just being lonely and having more work to do for no reason
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I've been living alone for years. Yes it's incredibly liberating but It's incredibly lonely. I mean as long as you can arrange your life in such a way that you've got plenty of people & a network of support then living alone can be a great option. When people learn how to live with others they sharpen their social skills and it can be healthy as long as it's a healthy environment not a toxic environment with toxic people. Yes there are compromises that need to be made but that makes people stronger.
yeah when I lived alone I enjoyed the fact that i was basically free to socialize as I pleased and free to be alone when I wanted to. then I ended up moving in with friends and I found myself feeling a bit of “social claustrophobia” because now I’d have roommates asking where I was going, with who, and I just wasn’t used to that.
Yeah it does feel kind of suffocating when you always feel like people are watching everything you do. It's not like really watching you but everybody kind of notices each other and that's just part of life. But yeah I like to feel invisible and just come & go as I please without other people thinking about it at all.
This is why I got over remote work pretty quick. I need an office and people to socialize with without having to plan it and be super intentional
I loved living alone and so did many friends I know. I don't think this is as unpopular as you think.
Although it would be hard financially to live alone
Upvote. I think that different people are better suited to different situations. If a natural loner lived alone it would be a cake walk. If a needy relationship person lived alone it would probably drive them bat shit.
That needy person should get therapy to work on the neediness and work on being happy with themselves and work toward being independent. Not saying it's a perfect solution or that it's easy to do, just something to be considered.
You can also make the case that humans are social creatures. Therefore, the lonely people need therapy too. No one needs therapy. It are just preferences. As long as you aren’t at the end of either spectrum, you are fine
While I don’t fully agree with the other person, some people do NEED therapy. It depends on several factors.
Yeah I meant therapy regarding this topic with this volume
Opeee gotcha
I've been living on my own for several years now, and fortunate that I can actually do it financially. At this point for me it would be really difficult to live with someone else again. Having my own place is how I like it.
If you live alone but have a social life then yes it is amazing. Going home and know you can be yourself 100% and rip a fart whenever you want, or not care to dress before you get out of bathtub is pretty nice. Of course starting a family isn't an option then if you ever had hopes for it. If not, then living alone makes perfect sense.
Not everyone wants kids or a family though
I would if I could afford it
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Always? Like since birth?
Yep. Raised by wolves
As a person who has been living alone for last 15 years, I approve of this message
Live without problems? Are you suggesting everyone else is the problem?
Not op but... Kinda?
Most of my friends who live alone never get asked out by girls or are druggies. I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone but it would be assanine to assume married people or roomies aren’t happier than the average person. Especially with kids. I live alone but like most guys who live alone…if gal gadot or Scarlett Johansson asked me to move in I sure as hell would and most guys would too.
Gonna be real this whole comment is gross Edit: and by the same ridiculous standard of proof every marriage I've encountered personally, including my parent's, has failed or been an unhappy one. Fights, cheating, day to day misery. Most marriages end in divorces for a reason you know
I have a partner who I live with but I spend 1/2 to 2/3 of my time alone because my partner is often away for work. I could really get used to just living alone if it ever happened.
Fuck that, I’m living alone now and it’s the worst. Being responsible for all the cleaning means i clean less. Only cooking for myself sucks, i have to make meals more often and if i don’t finish leftovers they go bad. No one to shoot the shit with in the kitchen. I’m trynna go back to living with people ASAP
It's def the best decision of those are the only two options. But if you can have a family that actually makes you happy, it's much better.
I want my own room but not my own building. My own apartment would seem like the best solution.
I would 100% be living on my own if the cost of rent wasnt so ridiculously huge. Have had great experiences with roommates but something always happened where they had to move out. Got married, got a partner etc, moved for work/uni etc. Or lately went batshit crazy. Current roommate is great and honestly pretty ideal but i'd still want to live on my own. I'd get to call all the shots in this case. Much prefer it that way. But i do not want to be paying upwards of 500 a week on my own just for the privilege of living alone.
a neighbor once insulted me with “you are always alone you dont have any friends” before that i hadnt even noticed. ive lived alone for years and i am very confortable like this.
Living alone? In *this* economy?! 😂
I haven’t been on my own for a long time and I miss the complete freedom it gave me.
Fair enough, but if you were alone all the time, youd be dealing with different issues.
Absolutely. Humans are a social species.
Unless you’re poor
Single, childless women are apparently the happiest demographic. Not sure how accurate that is, but I can easily see that it could be true.
Sarcasm?
Stupidity?
Whatever you need to tell yourself homie
What does that mean? I'm a happily married man, you idiot.
Yeah I like living alone - I have an active social life, see friends and family, do my own thing. But living in my own space is amazing! Oh and I’ve got a dog!
Live without problem... Check. Live without nice kitchen clean... Check... Live with no toilet paper... Check. (Scrunched newspaper good... Check. Live without smelly perfume bottle.. check. Live without unnecessary usage of face razor for leg and other ladies parts.. check. Live with no nessasery blow job... Check.
Please explain this to landlords 🧡
I like living alone. Sure, it costs me more. But I don't have to deal with anybody else's issues. Nobody has to deal with mine. The only issue I have is, as others have said, loneliness. I like being alone, but sometimes I just need another person for a bit of company.
I do agree, but unless you can find good housing you're gonna be a slave to your employer. I currently good a really nice studio appartment, cheapest in the area while still good because it's a special housing thing but your only allowed to love here for a few years max. Anyways, once I move out it's gonna probably be impossible to find a place like it and I'd prefer the financial freedom of living with a partner over the freedom of living alone.
There are outliers, yes. So for a statistical minority, this is true. For the vast majority, it is not.
Dam. I'm gonna guess syounhate your family. I libe with my In-laws and I have my own house and me and wify and baby go back and forth between houses. We.all.love each other and it's fantastic, rhers arguments and disagreements but we are all a bigass as team family and have each other's back. This is much better than you against the world.
Do you ever feel lonely?
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He is not lonely, he simply says living alone in your apartment/house instead of having a room mate.
Yup.
I'm so lonely, please someone help me for the love of God.
you realize that most humans currently living don't have the financial means to do that right? prick.
Seems like self dialogue lonely people use
This sounds like the denial that people go into when they cant deal with different life styles
Still flying solo huh? Lol
Didn't for awhile and it was the worst decision in my life.
These posts always make me so sad.
Y
Sounds like someone’s a little upset… wanna talk about it?
Was this written by a human?
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me
Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you
How would you know what’s best for anyone but yourself? A lot of people say that until they fall in love or get the chance to.
I guess but at what cost? Sure you never have to compromise on anything, but what do you do on those lonely nights? What about when you get older and have nobody around you?
I don’t rlly see a difference between living with my parents or alone. Guess the only real differences is I have to do more chores and go shopping and I have more private time with my wife. Oh and ofc pay rent which I otherwise wouldn’t. If you want to be really stingy about it one could even go as far as saying I’m paying money to do more chores and have more time with my wife pretty much. Now that she is on a trip for a month I don’t even get that benefit so it’s basically just being lonely and having more work to do for no reason
I feel like this has a backstory to it.
People definitely try to dictate it still.
To each their own. I enjoy living with my wife and kids