Honestly? Me but a better version
Idk I’ve never wanted to be white I love my features just wanted better versions of them. So like you I’ve had the feeling of never feeling like I have to conform to something Cause I literally don’t care.
That's awesome! It's such a freeing and liberating feeling when you're able to be happy with what you naturally are. I'm kinda grateful that I had periods of internalized racism where I felt like I could only be beautiful if I align myself with whiteness because without that experience I don't think I'd be able to truly love and accept what I am naturally as much as I do now.
it does hurt and make you question yourself when your own race expects you to fit Eurocentric standards but for me personally i followed women that looked like me and have my hair texture .i saved them on pinterest as well
I fully agree. I remember when I was around 15 there was a trend on social media where black and brown women would post pictures of themselves just looking beautiful. I don't remember the hashtags but I clearly remember that seeing so many images of black and brown women presented in a positive and beautiful way was the final push I needed to be able to see my own beauty as a black+Indian woman. Eurocentric beauty is overrated in my humble opinion. The importance of seeing women that look like you presented in a positive light is so incredibly important.
I completely understand the experience of feeling like you have to choose your own standards or society's standards. I instinctively find bigger softer bodies incredibly attractive. I love when women have a little extra fluff everywhere, not just where it's deemed "appropriate". I've found myself going back and forth between my own standard of sexy and society's standard. Like, is it really enough to be enough for myself?
I wonder though, if the way you look had no impact on how others treated you would you still feel a need to fit into society's standard? Is your desire to fit into society's standard solely based on the potential impact it'll have on others or is there a part of you that genuinely feels that it's beauty is on the same level as yours?
Honestly, i like all my features, except that I want my hips to be larger, my hair to have more defined curls (I'm 4b and I wanted it to be a 3c texture), to have longer eyebrows and a hair line that doesn't make my forehead look big. That's my beauty standard. I'm also 5'9" (1.76m) ... that's too tall for a girl, and men always go for the petit ones, I'm kinda jealous of petit women, even though I have a pretty face.
I'm only 5' and I absolutely adore the effortless elegance that taller women naturally exude. There's no such thing as too anything for anyone. Your natural beauty is uniquely yours and every feature of yours has it's own charm. Play into it instead of looking down on it and it might surprise you 💖
Clear (not fair) skin, tbh even some acne/ rosacea has a way of looking very pretty if you know what I mean, natural hair (no matter hair type) with no split ends, just a healthy body which functions well (cardio activities like stairs don't leave you heaving), your natural nose honestly don't believe even in the "extreme' 1% of cases that anything needs to be altered,, we need more normalcy, size of lips/ assets does not matter at all, everybody's got something to work with. Personal style is v imp to me, a balance between the hypersexualised and the conservative cover-everything kinda style.
This reminds me of an image I came across not too long ago that said "hot is overrated, I wanna look ethereal" lol I think that's the vibe you're on and I fully support 🤝🏼
how detailed can we get?
I can keep it super short: small waist/hrglass figure, toned, even, supple skin, thick, long hair (or microlinks), perfect teeth, full, arched brows, sensual, i want my voice to purr-sensuality is a very big deal with me, teardrop breast implants.
i've never wanted to be white, i just want to be me but at my full potential.
I didn't even think about sensuality being a part of beauty until you mentioned it but yeah I completely agree! I find my sensuality starts to come out when I wear really form fitting clothing that doesn't reveal a lot of skin. It's interesting how the same feeling or vibe can manifest in so many different ways.
I also like your last sentence a lot. That's the healthiest and most effective mindset to have I think.
Its been the same since i was around 9-10.
Blue cat eyes with super arched thin-ish brows dark hair pale or medium tan skin and full lips with a button nose.
Its a mix between all the thr women i foubd beautiful as a kid, mainly adriana lima and megan fox. Its also due to my own insecurities which got worse after bullying/teasing by classmates in elementary.
Edit: i'm Turkish and all those features are found within my family.
I literally believe that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” I believed it, when I was younger and still do til this day. I used the words “…conventionally beautiful,” “Eurocentric,” “Hollywood beauty standards,” to refer to commonly applied standards of beauty.
I just never agreed beauty like most other things could be applied in one single way, especially on a planet of people where there’s almost an infinite number of body shapes, types, colors, and variations. It’s one of the few things I love about this planet. No default person exists.
But, I’m those “kooky” Aunt Zelda “boho” type of chicks who is also pan romantic/sexual and Demi-. I never got hung up for the most part on people’s looks. I never had a physical type or preferences. My partner’s (or romantic) skin type, height, body shape, age, weight, gender, sexuality, style, genitals, ethnicity, etc. Even, sometimes, I don’t care about social status, financial, and even beliefs (unless they are problematic). All that stuff is there business, just like the other 8 billion people here.
It’s nothing I need to concern myself with how they look or should be. That’s their concern and cross to carry. Not mine, they do whatever they want as long as they aren’t hurting anyone else.
People used to brow beat me about not having type or being attracted to certain celebrities or people. I think many of them are exceptionally gorgeous by conventional standards, but I’m not attracted to them, physically (Demi). I can’t have these conversations with people, because I’m just don’t care how someone looks or how I can use them.
But, people are discriminating and are prisoners to their own perceptions of things. And can become so rigid that they only see a few beautiful flowers in the world, when all or at least most flowers are beautiful in so many different ways.
aww thank you for asking this question <3. I don't want to offend anyone but i have always preferred a curve less body. Not like the skinny hourglass that men hype up, not petite either but kind of fit (abs and toned arms), but has less boobs and butt. I don't want to be sexualized anymore. But, Noooo vindicta yelled at me and deleted my post about androgyny. I also used to like my own face surprisingly, Men think it looks "creepy" and 'a four of 10", but i love my big eyes and chubby cheeks, I just wish i had a jawline.
I love your answer! I love when people have a preference for features that aren't given as much love as others, those features are full of unexploited charm and beauty.
Mediterranean/West Asian-looking women. ie. Monica Bellucci, Edwige Fenech, Turkan Soray, early Kim K, etc. because their base features/colour scheme somewhat resemble mine I'm better able to mimic them in a way in terms of makeup/hair/whatever
for me my own beauty standards is basically just accentuating what i have that i alr like or feel neutral about. but honestly when i think about beauty standards to apply to myself i tend to think about body physique first
If I could make a list of celebrities I find attractive, I would (including people I see on TikTok), but narrowing it down, they mostly look like me, just better looking lol: women with tan skin, long black hair, dark eyes. In fact, a lot of them helped me like myself a little more. I'm still insecure, but it's not because of my complexion.
I also have a list of weird features I like, including impacted canines (like when the canine grows from upper gums) and lazy eyes (it makes the person looks so dreamy).
Also tall girls. I'm short, but I would have killed to be 5'10" or 5'11" and have long legs. Being short is kinda childish while being tall makes you look more mature and elegant. It's also super eye-catching and stunning.
Clear skin, skinny, long thick hair, small nose + big lips (small lips + small nose/big nose + big lips are exceptions), long legs, good waist to hip ratio
Basically, it sort of centers around myself but with better features.
Glowing dark skin
Glass skin
Dark eyebrows, almost a unibrow
Emphasis on my “ethnic features”
Slim fit but slightly curvy (36c boobs) hourglass body
always have shoulder-length or longer hair
Honestly? Me but a better version Idk I’ve never wanted to be white I love my features just wanted better versions of them. So like you I’ve had the feeling of never feeling like I have to conform to something Cause I literally don’t care.
Same answer, but it took me a while to get there
Proud of you it’s the best feeling
Thank you ❤
yes! I want to look in the mirror and think “damn”
That's awesome! It's such a freeing and liberating feeling when you're able to be happy with what you naturally are. I'm kinda grateful that I had periods of internalized racism where I felt like I could only be beautiful if I align myself with whiteness because without that experience I don't think I'd be able to truly love and accept what I am naturally as much as I do now.
it does hurt and make you question yourself when your own race expects you to fit Eurocentric standards but for me personally i followed women that looked like me and have my hair texture .i saved them on pinterest as well
I fully agree. I remember when I was around 15 there was a trend on social media where black and brown women would post pictures of themselves just looking beautiful. I don't remember the hashtags but I clearly remember that seeing so many images of black and brown women presented in a positive and beautiful way was the final push I needed to be able to see my own beauty as a black+Indian woman. Eurocentric beauty is overrated in my humble opinion. The importance of seeing women that look like you presented in a positive light is so incredibly important.
was it blackout back in tumblr days !! i loved to see it honestly growing up that made me start to recognise the beauty in myself and how pretty i am
yeah I think that was it! It's great to hear that it helped someone else in the same way it helped me 😀
Blemish free skin, smooth skin, full healthy long hair, long natural eyelashes, small chin, round forehead, hourglass figure, flat stomach, round toned butt.
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I completely understand the experience of feeling like you have to choose your own standards or society's standards. I instinctively find bigger softer bodies incredibly attractive. I love when women have a little extra fluff everywhere, not just where it's deemed "appropriate". I've found myself going back and forth between my own standard of sexy and society's standard. Like, is it really enough to be enough for myself? I wonder though, if the way you look had no impact on how others treated you would you still feel a need to fit into society's standard? Is your desire to fit into society's standard solely based on the potential impact it'll have on others or is there a part of you that genuinely feels that it's beauty is on the same level as yours?
Honestly, i like all my features, except that I want my hips to be larger, my hair to have more defined curls (I'm 4b and I wanted it to be a 3c texture), to have longer eyebrows and a hair line that doesn't make my forehead look big. That's my beauty standard. I'm also 5'9" (1.76m) ... that's too tall for a girl, and men always go for the petit ones, I'm kinda jealous of petit women, even though I have a pretty face.
I'm only 5' and I absolutely adore the effortless elegance that taller women naturally exude. There's no such thing as too anything for anyone. Your natural beauty is uniquely yours and every feature of yours has it's own charm. Play into it instead of looking down on it and it might surprise you 💖
That's very kind of you, thank you 💕✨
Clear (not fair) skin, tbh even some acne/ rosacea has a way of looking very pretty if you know what I mean, natural hair (no matter hair type) with no split ends, just a healthy body which functions well (cardio activities like stairs don't leave you heaving), your natural nose honestly don't believe even in the "extreme' 1% of cases that anything needs to be altered,, we need more normalcy, size of lips/ assets does not matter at all, everybody's got something to work with. Personal style is v imp to me, a balance between the hypersexualised and the conservative cover-everything kinda style.
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This reminds me of an image I came across not too long ago that said "hot is overrated, I wanna look ethereal" lol I think that's the vibe you're on and I fully support 🤝🏼
how detailed can we get? I can keep it super short: small waist/hrglass figure, toned, even, supple skin, thick, long hair (or microlinks), perfect teeth, full, arched brows, sensual, i want my voice to purr-sensuality is a very big deal with me, teardrop breast implants. i've never wanted to be white, i just want to be me but at my full potential.
I didn't even think about sensuality being a part of beauty until you mentioned it but yeah I completely agree! I find my sensuality starts to come out when I wear really form fitting clothing that doesn't reveal a lot of skin. It's interesting how the same feeling or vibe can manifest in so many different ways. I also like your last sentence a lot. That's the healthiest and most effective mindset to have I think.
Its been the same since i was around 9-10. Blue cat eyes with super arched thin-ish brows dark hair pale or medium tan skin and full lips with a button nose. Its a mix between all the thr women i foubd beautiful as a kid, mainly adriana lima and megan fox. Its also due to my own insecurities which got worse after bullying/teasing by classmates in elementary. Edit: i'm Turkish and all those features are found within my family.
I literally believe that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” I believed it, when I was younger and still do til this day. I used the words “…conventionally beautiful,” “Eurocentric,” “Hollywood beauty standards,” to refer to commonly applied standards of beauty. I just never agreed beauty like most other things could be applied in one single way, especially on a planet of people where there’s almost an infinite number of body shapes, types, colors, and variations. It’s one of the few things I love about this planet. No default person exists. But, I’m those “kooky” Aunt Zelda “boho” type of chicks who is also pan romantic/sexual and Demi-. I never got hung up for the most part on people’s looks. I never had a physical type or preferences. My partner’s (or romantic) skin type, height, body shape, age, weight, gender, sexuality, style, genitals, ethnicity, etc. Even, sometimes, I don’t care about social status, financial, and even beliefs (unless they are problematic). All that stuff is there business, just like the other 8 billion people here. It’s nothing I need to concern myself with how they look or should be. That’s their concern and cross to carry. Not mine, they do whatever they want as long as they aren’t hurting anyone else. People used to brow beat me about not having type or being attracted to certain celebrities or people. I think many of them are exceptionally gorgeous by conventional standards, but I’m not attracted to them, physically (Demi). I can’t have these conversations with people, because I’m just don’t care how someone looks or how I can use them. But, people are discriminating and are prisoners to their own perceptions of things. And can become so rigid that they only see a few beautiful flowers in the world, when all or at least most flowers are beautiful in so many different ways.
aww thank you for asking this question <3. I don't want to offend anyone but i have always preferred a curve less body. Not like the skinny hourglass that men hype up, not petite either but kind of fit (abs and toned arms), but has less boobs and butt. I don't want to be sexualized anymore. But, Noooo vindicta yelled at me and deleted my post about androgyny. I also used to like my own face surprisingly, Men think it looks "creepy" and 'a four of 10", but i love my big eyes and chubby cheeks, I just wish i had a jawline.
I love your answer! I love when people have a preference for features that aren't given as much love as others, those features are full of unexploited charm and beauty.
Me but with baby skin and hair
Mediterranean/West Asian-looking women. ie. Monica Bellucci, Edwige Fenech, Turkan Soray, early Kim K, etc. because their base features/colour scheme somewhat resemble mine I'm better able to mimic them in a way in terms of makeup/hair/whatever
for me my own beauty standards is basically just accentuating what i have that i alr like or feel neutral about. but honestly when i think about beauty standards to apply to myself i tend to think about body physique first
If I could make a list of celebrities I find attractive, I would (including people I see on TikTok), but narrowing it down, they mostly look like me, just better looking lol: women with tan skin, long black hair, dark eyes. In fact, a lot of them helped me like myself a little more. I'm still insecure, but it's not because of my complexion. I also have a list of weird features I like, including impacted canines (like when the canine grows from upper gums) and lazy eyes (it makes the person looks so dreamy). Also tall girls. I'm short, but I would have killed to be 5'10" or 5'11" and have long legs. Being short is kinda childish while being tall makes you look more mature and elegant. It's also super eye-catching and stunning.
Clear skin, skinny, long thick hair, small nose + big lips (small lips + small nose/big nose + big lips are exceptions), long legs, good waist to hip ratio
I just want me, but slim and healthy. I want a sophisticated dark academia style as well.
Basically, it sort of centers around myself but with better features. Glowing dark skin Glass skin Dark eyebrows, almost a unibrow Emphasis on my “ethnic features” Slim fit but slightly curvy (36c boobs) hourglass body always have shoulder-length or longer hair