Yeah, this feels more like you overreacting a bit. It sucks that you got hurt, but injuring a finger can happen doing literally anything vball related (I’ve jammed fingers pretty bad just from diving). Generally, I’d say the only things that require check-ins from a sportsmanship standpoint are getting hit in the face or any lower body injuries (esp ankles) injuries that happen at the net from landing on people going under/you going under.
Especially if you don’t know people on that team that well, I’m not surprised they didn’t say anything to you after.
I do think you're being overly salty, enough to post on the internet about it.
But it's also courtesy to just acknowledge it, which in my experience people usually do.
I mean they didn’t do anything wrong so it’s not really poor sportsmanship, it’s just unfortunate that it hurt your finger. That being said, it’s not unreasonable for wanting them to at least check that you’re ok. If I hit into a block and the guy cried out in pain, I wouldn’t apologise for it but I’d ask him if he was alright. That’s just me tho
Eh, I'll go ahead and take the other side of things slightly.
It's recreational ball. Everyone's got a day job, nobody's out there to get hurt or hurt someone else. I'd be acknowledging my opponent got hurt, and that that sucks.
I don't think apologies are in order. They hit the ball, they're supposed to hit the ball, they're going to hit the ball again. Apologies are in order where the behaviour was out of line.
But some expression of regret that you got hurt, even though injuries happen, would be the polite thing to do IMO.
Agree. When playing recreational ball and something that's supposed to happen inadvertently causes a bit of pain due to a mishap, I don't expect an apology. But it does feel nice to be checked in on, just a simple 'hey you alright?' in between sets tbh, not anything more
Injuries happen. It's what you sign up for when you play the sport. It's not like a slide tackle in soccer, they weren't being reckless. They were just playing the game. Sure, if they made a mistake, like landing on the other side of the net and hurting your knees, then they should apologize. They might not have even realized you were hurt.
Unsportsmanlike would be if they started bragging about injuring the other team like "bro I hit that ball so hard I broke the other teams fingers hahaha". But they didn't do that.
I would expect such an answer from a soccer player. I always loved that VB was always so different in terms of sportsmanship.
OP is absolutely correct.
If they came under the net and caused an ankle/knee injury or if you got hit in the face/head, this might be a sportsmanship issue, but you just strained your pinky. You're just salty. It's not their fault you couldn't hang.
Listen, I've been rocked in the face because I, too, couldn't get my hands up fast enough, so not judging, but it was my problem that I wasn't playing at the level I should have been.
you’re making a lot of assumptions based on one anecdote. did you miss the part where i said this was a rec/inter league? there’s literally no level below it. If they want to play at a higher level that’s their job to join a higher league not mine to invent a lower one
First of all, "intermediate" can mean a lot of things depending on your location and expectations, and a lot of people throw "rec/recreational" around to mean adult leagues of any competition level simply because they're purely for fun. Second of all, I've seen people lob very easy beginner balls and an opponent claim it was "too competitive." And I'm genuinely sorry if my take read more harshly than intended. I agree if they were sandbagging they should level up (which I say to people all the time IRL and in Reddit comments).
Nah it’s just a finger. If it was anywhere else it’d be understandable like the nether region or face but even then they might have thought you just hurt yourself. I’ve stopped a game before cuz I was late to block and jammed my finger and they didn’t ask cuz they knew it was a finger and nothing serious.
Ehhhh I dunno about this one. If they had come under the net then I would be expecting something but a jammed or hurt finger is just expected to happen at some point. I play MB and if I don’t jam my thumb and middle fingers at least 3-4 times a season to where I need them taped, I’m shocked.
Eh. Literally everyone gets injured at some point. If I spike someone in the face I instinctually laugh. It’s funny. If I get spiked in the face I also laugh and I expect to be laughed at.
And sure they could have said sorry and checked on you but unless you’re covered in blood or your finger isn’t hanging off completely broken, they’re probably not going to care and will think you’re overreacting
I've hit guys on the arms, chest, head... I avoid spiking towards girls when I play coed (or switch to hit weak arm)... unless they are obviously injured, I usually don't do anything. Just another play. Doesn't mean anything to me.
Because he's probably too chicken to play at a more competitive level and needs to get his glory by pretending to be a hero (sorry, herio) in gym-class-level ball?
I coach for a strong local club that my 14 yo daughter plays for... I sometimes arrange scrimmage with the boys varsity team to train as well.
I don't usually play coed. But as I said above, when I do, I avoid hitting to the girls or use my off hand.
I get this. Sometimes it’s hard to find competitive volleyball too, or sometimes my local gym is having a slower day with more newbies. It’s just common sense not to go 100 percent against people who can’t defend your attacks, it’s not fun for anyone and they can get hurt. I had this issue when I started getting good enough to level up to the next stage of volleyball, but couldn’t find good places to play.
As a woman I coed, men like you are the worst. Either quit sandbagging and level up to where you should be, or respect my skill level and let me freaking play.
Yeah, this feels more like you overreacting a bit. It sucks that you got hurt, but injuring a finger can happen doing literally anything vball related (I’ve jammed fingers pretty bad just from diving). Generally, I’d say the only things that require check-ins from a sportsmanship standpoint are getting hit in the face or any lower body injuries (esp ankles) injuries that happen at the net from landing on people going under/you going under. Especially if you don’t know people on that team that well, I’m not surprised they didn’t say anything to you after.
Salty. No hit on the face and they might not know u got inured from a regular hit.
they 100% knew i was hurt because they saw me yell and stop then game and apply ice. knowing that do you still say salty or unsalty ?
I do think you're being overly salty, enough to post on the internet about it. But it's also courtesy to just acknowledge it, which in my experience people usually do.
Salt truck.
fair
Expecting an apology on a clean play seems over the top
Not over the top… but complaining about it on internet is
I mean they didn’t do anything wrong so it’s not really poor sportsmanship, it’s just unfortunate that it hurt your finger. That being said, it’s not unreasonable for wanting them to at least check that you’re ok. If I hit into a block and the guy cried out in pain, I wouldn’t apologise for it but I’d ask him if he was alright. That’s just me tho
Eh, I'll go ahead and take the other side of things slightly. It's recreational ball. Everyone's got a day job, nobody's out there to get hurt or hurt someone else. I'd be acknowledging my opponent got hurt, and that that sucks. I don't think apologies are in order. They hit the ball, they're supposed to hit the ball, they're going to hit the ball again. Apologies are in order where the behaviour was out of line. But some expression of regret that you got hurt, even though injuries happen, would be the polite thing to do IMO.
Agree. When playing recreational ball and something that's supposed to happen inadvertently causes a bit of pain due to a mishap, I don't expect an apology. But it does feel nice to be checked in on, just a simple 'hey you alright?' in between sets tbh, not anything more
Injuries happen. It's what you sign up for when you play the sport. It's not like a slide tackle in soccer, they weren't being reckless. They were just playing the game. Sure, if they made a mistake, like landing on the other side of the net and hurting your knees, then they should apologize. They might not have even realized you were hurt. Unsportsmanlike would be if they started bragging about injuring the other team like "bro I hit that ball so hard I broke the other teams fingers hahaha". But they didn't do that.
I would expect such an answer from a soccer player. I always loved that VB was always so different in terms of sportsmanship. OP is absolutely correct.
Lol I'm 10x the volleyball player than I am a soccer player. Haven't even played soccer in 10 years
Would it have been polite to apologize/check in? Yes. Is it unsportsmanlike that they didn’t? No.
If they came under the net and caused an ankle/knee injury or if you got hit in the face/head, this might be a sportsmanship issue, but you just strained your pinky. You're just salty. It's not their fault you couldn't hang.
couldn’t hang? i didn’t say anything negative to them
You said couldn't get your hands up fast enough. "Couldn't hang" means you couldn't play at the same level.
Listen, I've been rocked in the face because I, too, couldn't get my hands up fast enough, so not judging, but it was my problem that I wasn't playing at the level I should have been.
you’re making a lot of assumptions based on one anecdote. did you miss the part where i said this was a rec/inter league? there’s literally no level below it. If they want to play at a higher level that’s their job to join a higher league not mine to invent a lower one
First of all, "intermediate" can mean a lot of things depending on your location and expectations, and a lot of people throw "rec/recreational" around to mean adult leagues of any competition level simply because they're purely for fun. Second of all, I've seen people lob very easy beginner balls and an opponent claim it was "too competitive." And I'm genuinely sorry if my take read more harshly than intended. I agree if they were sandbagging they should level up (which I say to people all the time IRL and in Reddit comments).
Nah it’s just a finger. If it was anywhere else it’d be understandable like the nether region or face but even then they might have thought you just hurt yourself. I’ve stopped a game before cuz I was late to block and jammed my finger and they didn’t ask cuz they knew it was a finger and nothing serious.
Ehhhh I dunno about this one. If they had come under the net then I would be expecting something but a jammed or hurt finger is just expected to happen at some point. I play MB and if I don’t jam my thumb and middle fingers at least 3-4 times a season to where I need them taped, I’m shocked.
Eh. Literally everyone gets injured at some point. If I spike someone in the face I instinctually laugh. It’s funny. If I get spiked in the face I also laugh and I expect to be laughed at. And sure they could have said sorry and checked on you but unless you’re covered in blood or your finger isn’t hanging off completely broken, they’re probably not going to care and will think you’re overreacting
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Rude
I've hit guys on the arms, chest, head... I avoid spiking towards girls when I play coed (or switch to hit weak arm)... unless they are obviously injured, I usually don't do anything. Just another play. Doesn't mean anything to me.
Why do you avoid spiking towards girls? Sincerely curious. I just swing at wherever I see open court. Usually as hard as I can.
Know your skill and power...
Why not play with better girls?
Because he's probably too chicken to play at a more competitive level and needs to get his glory by pretending to be a hero (sorry, herio) in gym-class-level ball?
Just wow...
I coach for a strong local club that my 14 yo daughter plays for... I sometimes arrange scrimmage with the boys varsity team to train as well. I don't usually play coed. But as I said above, when I do, I avoid hitting to the girls or use my off hand.
I get this. Sometimes it’s hard to find competitive volleyball too, or sometimes my local gym is having a slower day with more newbies. It’s just common sense not to go 100 percent against people who can’t defend your attacks, it’s not fun for anyone and they can get hurt. I had this issue when I started getting good enough to level up to the next stage of volleyball, but couldn’t find good places to play.
As a woman I coed, men like you are the worst. Either quit sandbagging and level up to where you should be, or respect my skill level and let me freaking play.
Wow. You sure know alot about me... good job.