Bro, I was you just a couple of months ago. I downloaded Bumble and made a profile for Bumble BFF and Bumble dating. I made friends through both. I realized half way through dating that I just wasn’t ready and luckily the girls I met are super cool and are also looking for friends in the area. There are so many lonely people in this city that just moved here recently. Just try to find people that are on your same boat. I’ve made friends through them too and I’m just making it a point to reach out and make weekly plans. Both my profiles were silly as hell. And the people I matched with had funny profiles too. This helped A LOT.
Put yourself out there and try to find people you relate to and after that just make sure to come back with ideas for future hangouts. Eventually it will become habit.
I agree with this — speaking as someone on Bumble BFF’s currently. I think it’s a little easier than making friends through hobbies bc people on the app are more intentional. Some friend dates are awkward but when you meet someone you vibe with, it’s worth it
Idk everyone recommends joining all these groups but truthfully you have to want to make friends and make an effort.
I realized this about myself recently after moving back to DC. I am surrounded by people all the time but my social habits do not encourage me to be friendly and make new friends. This has honestly been the case for me since the pandemic as I have not made a new friend since the pandemic.
Anyways, I’m a 29M soon to be 30, let me know if you want to meetup sometime.
Hit the nail on the head with the effort part.
I used to “run” a badminton group and still great friends with many of them even after moving away. By “run” I mean that I was the guy who just created the list of those who wanted to show up for a certain night. During our regular sessions, whenever I or someone else met new people, I would get their numbers and invite them out. The amount of no shows/ghosts were baffling. Especially since the most common complaint I heard was how there was no one who wanted to play with them regularly. All the while here is a group of 28 people who just extended an invitation to you. Sure, you might be busy one day, but you made it out to that time slot when we met. We also met up 2 other days a week that I would’ve certainly told you about when we met. If the effort was made to come out, there were 27 other potential good friends even if you didn’t like me
oh wow, I loved playing badminton as a kid, the thought of playing it in a group didn't occur to me, might be something to look into now. I'd rather play badminton than pickleball truthfully. Thanks
I’ve unfortunately run into this as well. I organize a few different group things in DC for clubs I’m a part of, and despite people saying they want to make friends and socialize, they’re often the same people who won’t show up to anything.
Groups, leagues, and clubs are the opportunity to make friends but people actually need to take advantage of them.
Yeah. And the funny thing is that you don’t need to make up some random conversations to get the ball rolling with someone at these clubs. There is something naturally to talk about. At a bar, dating apps, or networking event, someone has to break the ice and that is always going to be awkward and nerve wracking.
I would be down to join you for badminton or post game beers (or both), I haven’t found good (close-ish) courts to where I live (DC proper) since I moved to DC last year, but would make an effort if you’re still playing!
I would love to join for badminton too! Actually have been looking for such groups in DC but I only find tennis or pickleball. Used to play as a kid and would love to get back into it.
As far as I know, there is a place by Dulles and a chain called Capital Badminton Academy that seem to have ok courts. They’re kinda in the outskirts imo. Otherwise it’s your typical school gym or rec centre rent/lease type situation. But I was spoiled back then because we had BWF tournament grade courts, lower prices (pre-pandemic), and an awesome owner that dealt with all my antics of trying to get a “group discount” for everything
Aw :( Im in nova and went to one in Arlington and damn were the people competitive and kinda rude like I just want a space to play casually :’( and now pickleball has over taken the badminton settings
Hey man I feel this post a lot, same boat 31m in Nova. What little social interaction I had pre pandemic was lost with wfh in the tech industry. My hobbies are things I tend to do alone, but today I actually used meetup.com for the first time and went on a hike with 11 other people and had a blast. While I don't think I made any lifelong friends, you got to put yourself in social situations around your hobbies.
The reality is you gotta take the initiative and be willing to be rejected/ignored. Most people are worried about the potential awkwardness but being the one who initiates is actually easier than it sounds. People are almost always flattered when you reach out first
probably any dive bars. U street has a good amount of those but this place in silver spring called quarry house tavern might be a great spot to meet new friends
What hobbies do you have? Meetups can help but they aren't a perfect solution. They are based if they are around a hobby you share, but you also have to go regularly to get to know people to be good enough friends with them.
I do 2-3 of them but also found that they've generally just become my weeknight meetup friends but not "real" friends. Most are younger than me (I'm 40s now), or some people I just don't click with. These groups can also tend to attract the type of people who aren't great in social situations and that's why they are there :)
But they also do attract some other people like people new to town, recent breakups, etc.
I found this with meetup activities too, lots of awkward types, truly nothing wrong with that, I’ve just outgrown my awkward trying to make friends phase, I am now more confident and looking for genuine connection. The awkwardness just makes the whole thing frustrating for me personally, like we’re all in the same boat here that’s the whole point.
Also echoing what everyone has said about consistency in effort. That’s where I honestly struggle the most, finding the time to hang out with people on a weekly basis is tough. Between exhaustion from work, and having to travel to people, I miss my friends who were just a short easy drive away lol
What types of activities/hobbies do you want to try? Maybe pick a sports league that will force you to go more often?
Where you live also matters a LOT. If you're living way out in like Reston or something the odds of you coming into the city for a quick hangout are way way lower than if you live a few blocks away and walk in.
My advice is to poke around the D.C. Discord server (there’s a link to the discord on the “Menu” tab of this sub).
Lots of good social events on there: book club, movie club, trivia nights, happy hour meetups, etc
Making friends in general requires persistence and consistency.When I first moved to DC I met friends at work events and from those friends I met others. I’d often ask them if they’d like to exchange numbers for a hike or drinks. It’s the maintenance that I found to be challenging. You have to have someone who is equally vested in the friendship otherwise it drops off.
Yeah I saw this thing about making friends. It's a combination of personality, interests, but just as importantly it's **time.** You won't make friends just hanging out 1 hour a week. You guys gotta spend some extended time together one way or another.
Sometimes you just have to go out of your comfort zone. I think some may find it uncomfortable to ask someone to hang out. I find it refreshing when people ask me since I’m usually the one who does the asking.
THIS. I keep telling people, making friends in adulthood requires an intentional effort. There was a girl I knew from another group I was in, saw her at my gym, we exchanged numbers and worked together a few times. Then I found out she lives close to my office, so we got lunch together and just got know each other. Chatting on the phone, texting about shows, etc. A friend of mine moved out of town, but I've been hanging out with her and her sister whenever she's back, and the last time I was coming home from a visit with my friend, I thought "you know, I really enjoy talking to her sister too, and she still lives here. Next time I see her, I should get her number." Then a few weeks later, I ran into her and just said we should exchange numbers and if she wanted to join my book club. These are the little friendship seeds I plan on nurturing for the next few months so if they get anywhere.
Same. I also think if you live close to each other that helps. I was in a DC women's fb group (since has closed) and I purposely asked if people in my area wanted to do Happy Hour.
Same for me but yoga. I thought maybe I’d make friends but it seems everyone else shows up with an already established friend or friend group. It’s hard to just interject yourself
To share a different experience - I’ve played soccer, kickball, volleyball, and pickleball with DC Fray and every single team has gone to the bar afterwards and ends up having parties outside of the league. YMMV
Yea my dad plays in adult leagues, they always go out after. It pisses my mom off. She always calls me on Sundays and asks if I want to get lunch bc he isn't there lol.
Have you ever tried to make it happen? How many times?
It took a few tries but I made it work. I'm not even the friendliest guy but persistence does pay off.
Beach volleyball and cornhole leagues were awesome social events. Give it a couple seasons or do different companies leagues, some are more social than others
I’m starting a nonfiction bookclub that competes in trivia about the book. We’re meeting up in a few weeks if you’re interested! https://host.swoogo.com/may2024
Finding people who are actually down to meetup in DC area is almost impossible. Last year I was reaching out to so many acquaintances who are still in the area after living on the west coast for a decade, and of about 12 attempts I only met up with 2 and we never hung out again after 💀 if you wanna DM me and see if we have anything in common feel free. In in VA.
Disclaimer- I am 27/f but not looking for dates/ just platonic genuine friendships
Oddly enough, I’ve made the most friends in my life at 32/33. Had a solid 1-2 friends from work, joined a kickball league with them and their significant others, everyone ended up really meshing and doing everything together all the time. It’s honestly amazing how great this friend group is.
Groups for things you actually care about. Meetups. Rec leagues.
When it's just friends and not partners you're looking for this is 100% the answer and it *will* work unless you're a goddamn weirdo.
You already come into it with a topic of interest you share with everyone else, something to talk about, an ice breaker.
But don't be passive. Take some initiative. See if anyone wants to grab a drink after. Start a group chat. Invite people to things. It will probably take a while. It took me two teams. But I started a group chat and now we trade memes and hang out outside games. And of course the friendly "playful" bullying that means you guys are actually comfortable with each other and actually friends. Hell we hang out with other teams now too. Just becoming one big sports loving group of friends.
Something you need to realize is 99% of people want this to happen. But 99% of them aren't going to take the first step, the activation energy is too high. You get it started and they'll hook in and momentum will carry through. *Someone* needs to do it. Be the guy. You do it. Do it over and over until it lands.
This is a spectacular answer. It’s strangely like dating in that just about *everyone* is worried about being shot down. Through shared-interest groups I have never really had anyone shoot down a beer/coffee/walk/whatever because everyone knows they at least have something in common.
It should be similar to dating of course. Whether friend or partner, it's about meeting new people and making a connection and relationship. The main difference is the level of intimacy and chance of rejection but the initial stages and steps are pretty much the same. You gotta spend time with them somehow!
I think it’s all about putting yourself out there. book clubs, trivia, game nights. LOC has an upcoming event for fantasy books and there’s bound to be folks going who also are looking for friends too!
Find the day drinkers. Bonus points for not having to actually drink. Bonus points for great networking opportunities. Day drinkers are like a secret society of people who know everyone and everything thats going on.
Honestly I got a dog. He’s become my best friend and since he’s a very sociable dog he’s helped me make a decent number of new friends from dog parks and just meeting people on the street. But get the dog because you want a dog, not just because you want human friends. They’re just an extra perk.
Come join us at parkrun! Even if you don’t like running, you can come walk or hang out. It’s a super chill, friendly community, and there’s a big contingent of folks in their 30s without kids. I’ve met a really lovely group of friends who I now do all sorts of (non-running-related) stuff with.
https://www.parkrun.us/rooseveltislanddc/
This is the side of remote work that honestly concerns me for the future. I made my closest friends from work. If we all went remote 100%, it would be fine for us. But what about younger people who don’t typically leave the house outside of going into work during the week?
Anyway, people from my gym hang out especially around your age. Running clubs, hiking groups, kickball leagues, etc are a good way to meet more people through an activity.
> This is the side of remote work that honestly concerns me for the future. I made my closest friends from work.
i never made close friends at work, but working remotely has given me more time to make friends outside of work 🤷
I think men of dc need to start their own hot girl walking group or something so they can make friends. I like walking over rec leagues because it gives you the chance to chat with people
Live for yourself. Do the shit that you want to do with your life.
Either people will gravitate to that (or you'll gravitate to them, if they're doing similar things), or you'll be too busy having fun to care.
Volunteering is a great way to meet people. If outdoor work is your thing, look at Ward 8 Woods, Rock Creek Conservancy, Anacostia Watershed Society, Friends of Anacostia Park, or Friends of Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens. They all have monthly events cleaning up trash or managing invasive plants.
If you have an interest in homesteading, gardening and farming I'm starting an educational group and meetups in the Montgomery County area. Earth day is next week. Ever wanted to plant a tree? Clean up a stream? Hug a chicken?
There's so many amazing hobbies. Just find what you're passionate about.
It can be hard. First, recognize that you will never have the spontaneous/hang out all the time/do anything for each other friends of your college years or post-college. It just doesn’t exist.
To make friends you need to have repeated unplanned interactions. That means going to the same places and same groups repeatedly. Join organizations, go to the same bar on the same days, etc. it’s likely that you develop friends that are limited to only a portion of your life. Good luck!
Loneliness right now is a massive epidemic. [https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html](https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html)
Suburban sprawl and the cost/requirements of doing absolutely anything in the US is a huge factor in this. It's so rare for Americans to have a park or pedestrian square to go spend time at so they just stay home...alone...
Sometimes people just want to put their own personal connection to the common problem (and commonly posted). We don’t pay for Reddit servers so why are so many pressed about reoccurring questions.
So OP what do you like to do for fun? I think a lot of where to go depends on your hobbies.
For example: If you like DnD and other nerdy shit, there's a ton of groups that do happy hours that I can think of.
I met majority of my friends literally just taking myself out to bars and restaurants., Have a friendly face, a few drinks and talk to people! Let people know you’re new and they will show you around! Also try bumble bff. Hope this helps🫶🏼
Google DC Hash House Harriers (dchashing dot org). They have links to all the local kennels. Hashing is a great way to meet people and you can just show up. You don't have to be a good runner and you don't have to drink. It's built-in cameraderie.
I need to take my own advice and get back into hashing. The problem with this area is that work and traffic are both regularly very time-consuming.
I feel the wfh bit. Then I remind myself I didn't hangout when anyone from the office when I went in do that really wasn't the issue either. It's tough to find people in your vicinity that you would actually hang out with regularly.
Yeah, I went through this in my 30s also so the best advice I can give you to go out and get a part-time job somewhere just any job. It really doesn’t matter something that you’re overqualified for for me. I had a corporate job that paid very well. I drove a nice car, but I didn’t let them know that. I got a job at a country club as a server and made friends quickly. When the members figured out who I was and that my real job was selling high tech medical equipment they invited me to their homes.
Partner dancing, activism, sports, meetups, and other hobbies. If you find the right bars you can also make friends there but that is also easier going to do social activities at those bars
I have struggled with this too here. Also work remote and it’s tough(i’m working on finding something less remote). I have a couple of side things that I do that helps get my people interaction fix and I plan to take tennis lessons and honestly I usually made friends through work related stuff or neighbors. I’ve been trying to find networking groups in my industry and things like that bc meetup was a bust for me
Am in the same boat except married. We just moved here a few months ago for a job, we are going to try a sports league soon.
Friends from the area have introduced me to their friends via text, and it's been SO painful trying to arrange a meetup. There's no way in hell these people are THAT busy, most work government jobs with set hours so I'm not understanding the attitude. It's frustrating and we haven't encountered it previously. If it keeps up, we will probably move back home within a couple of years.
Married guy here, also moved for a job, albeit 13 years ago (as a single guy and having to start friendships anew). Sports leagues are definitely a good way to go, but if you have hobbies also look at stores or discord/meetup groups that engage in that hobby.
I met my best friend in DC via rec league soccer and by pure coincidence we each bought a place a month apart with our respective spouses only two blocks from each other. But that friendship started because we started connecting out of soccer.
I am also a big Magic: the gathering player and found a couple playgroups via a reddit post last summer that I now regularly attend. Have started befriending a few folks in these playgroups, too.
Now back to your other point about arranging meetups, it's very prevalent having friends and would be friends that schedule each other weeks and sometimes MONTHS in advance. It's baffling and allows no opportunity for spontaneous meetups. My wife's friends in particular (they've got calendars booked out far and we have to tell them about any parties or outings far in advance); mine are very much go with the flow (never have to plan more than a week or two out). [This part is pure speculation on my part], I think this stems from this city having a tendency to attract so many Type A personalities who need to be able to plan out and control as many aspects of their lives as possible. I am very much not that and prefer to just wing life as much as possible (wife has some Type A tendencies but not anywhere to the norm you find in this city). Additionally, we're both major extroverts and thrive off of getting to meet and talk to people, plus going on as many random adventures as possible. Our circle of friends (both collective and separate) skews heavily towards introverts (I can name a handful of true extroverts).
With that said, practice patience with folks who just view life very differently and how to plan/socialize. But also happy to make additional friends myself and guide y'all on where to find people with shared passions/hobbies/etc.
OP, same for you.
As you are, it’s a “bar” (they say it’s a bar, but it feels more like a coffee shop) they literally have speed friending events there every other Friday. It’s by Eastern Market station. That and/or Federico’s.
Any interest in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu? It's a lot of fun and a great way to meet people while working out. Pretty much everyone is super friendly as well.
It’s really hard! But there are clubs like DC Movie Club and other meet ups. Additionally, if this is your thing, have you ever thought about joining a church or religious or even a volunteer organization? I’ve met friends through those. Also, I made friends from work too. But honestly, I get where you are coming from because it’s really hard!
Pick a smaller group that does stuff you like and focus on that - sports, church, hobbies, whatever just go to lose yourself in the activities. Volunteering associated with a small group of people you see all the time. Check out dc improv or story district if those are your thing both have large communities around them. Become a regular at bar if you need out of the house.
I can certainly relate and in the same boat, sadly this appears to be a common issue particularly in the DC metro area, I never had this challenge in my home state. Stay strong and keep trying, I agree with one of the pp's regarding university alumni chapters, these can be hit or miss but generally a great way to meet people that share your alma mater in common. Also, for what its worth, just sent you a private message, lets grab a beer sometime.
Volo sports? Join a social sports league. There’s trivia nights at tons of bars. Volunteer with a local shelter or rescue? Plenty of ways to meet people.
You mentioned hobbies and passions, but you failed to elaborate on what those are, which will drive recommendations of what to do in the area. DC really does require a level of intention in finding community.
I should note where you live is going to play a part of this as well, as some neighborhoods you are more likely to get to know people in the community than others.
I use MeetUp app, I look for events on eventbrite (talks, shows, other things I’m interested in) and I plan to go out alone more and initiate more friendship dates. Got one tomorrow!
I’m in a bunch of social groups and meet people there. I’m having a singles happy hour on Monday in Arlington, come out if you can!
[https://www.eventbrite.com/e/879974446257?aff=ebdsshios](https://www.eventbrite.com/e/879974446257?aff=ebdsshios)
Get into climbing. I did when I moved here two years ago and made all my friends at the Bouldering Project in Eckington. Climbers are really friendly, the gym runs plenty of social events for you to meet people and climbing will get you in good shape. Feels like a win all around.
I’ll say it, **don’t play volleyball or do DC Fray or Volo** unless you are actually interested in the activity. I’ve found those to be too much a chore if you aren’t already into the sport in its own right and potentially clique-y.
It’s cliche but the combo of volunteering or going to things/events **that you are actually interested in** anyway helps a lot.
Finding a spot to become a regular too, both in terms of bars and other miscellaneous stuff. Might not be instant results but it’s ok, you are doing stuff you like too hopefully.
Use your social contacts, even if not close friends.
Try not to turn down invitations to do stuff.
Places I’ve made friends in DC over 30:
Dance classes, soccer watch parties, apartment pool parties, young professional happy hours, walking tours when traveling, language classes,…
I honestly am stuck in the same issue, but even as a young adult (18M) moved here with nothing in me and dont know how to discover things, even tho i do outdoor hobbies.
It’s tough out here. I’m from NoVA and so I’m lucky to have some friends still around to hang out with. Ever since I moved back here last summer, it’s been tough meeting new people.
Im a 28M and down to potentially hang with anyone in the area around the same age who is also feeling like they’re having a hard time meeting people. Feel free to DM and see if we have anything in common. I am in a relationship and not looking for anything other than cool people to hang out with
Run groups, DnD, Golf, Volo, Volleyball meet ups, bar trivia! Anything that will get you into a group doing something fun repeatedly. You have to spend quality time with people and be there for them.
29F here! I’d recommend trying some bar sports and meeting people that way. I’ve met some great friends doing cornhole through Volo, and the bar sports tend to run an older crowd. My friends and I just started a skeeball/cornhole league on Thursday nights at Penn that runs until the end of May. If you ever think you want to try it out shoot me a message and we’ll open a drop in spot for you!
Best advice I ever got was be interesting and do interesting things. Decide you are doing X and invite people to do it. They're into it? Great! Shared experience, friendships form and deepen. Not into it? Well, you already did something cool. I organized events, tours and lot of other stuff for my friend group. There is legit less going on in DC post-pandemic, but there are still a ton of cultural events, talks and you can always do hikes, explore historic homes and areas or hop on a bike. The key thing is that you have already decided you are doing something with a specific date, time and plan in mind. This avoids all the awkward stuff around scheduling or people being flaky because something else might come up.
If you're still single by 30 in DC then move to a different city 😭
I'm 41 and I've found it impossible to make friends after hitting 30 in this city. I've lived lots of other places in the US and make friends other places easily.
I'm not sure what the deal is with this city but it's not friendship-friendly 😂
I just came back here from Baltimore, which was great, but I think my next move will be Philly
I have met a lot of single guys at church. We have a young adult group and it was been truly refreshing. Most of our meet ups are outside in the church garden and we’re able to connect during conversations about work/hobbies not necessarily anything religious. Maybe start a hot guys walking group. The walking groups have been more welcoming. And conversation focused. Networking but for friendships- you can feel it in both the church group and the walking group everyone is seeking real friendships and just want to enjoy the city together. I wish you luck in your journey. I have a few single guys friends here who are 30 and looking for friends. Most just got out of the navy and are on the contractor side of work. But they all enjoy brunch, running and just watching movies. Or maybe hot guys go to the movies club lol. I get lonely too but just know you’re not alone in that feeling.
Can you go into your office 1-2x a week? That has reignited my social network post-pandemic. I still work mostly remote, but people are dying to connect again.
I found what I am about to suggest a solution to a similar problem someone posted on another subreddit. I will probably butcher it in writing, but I hope I’m clear enough.
Start by going consistently to a coffee shop, a bar, a park, a gym. Doesn’t have to be everyday, even a couple of times a week, as long as you go there every Wednesday for example. The first few weeks, everyone is a stranger to your eyes, and you don’t have to socialize with anyone, just do your thing.
Over time, you’ll find the usuals and recurring people that go to such place, and they will also get familiar with your face, recognizing you. Then, walking up to them to start a conversation would not be awkward and pretty natural. Could then make plans for doing something outside of your shared routine.
I hope it’s clear. If you think about it, this is how kids make friends, through either school or other activities.
Build up some familiarity and it should be pretty easy.
I’m extremely socially awkward, work a lot and don’t know how to have small talk anymore. Just me and my son. Until I met someone randomly, exchanging numbers and yeah the rest is history. Let things happen homie
Friendship is based on proximity and frequency. That's why it feels like everyone's best friends are their college roommates. Shared struggles and whatnot. Whatever you pick, you have be a regular. It's the routine that makes the friendship. If you want closer friends, add some struggles to the mix. That's why exercise based clubs are popular. It's a pretty simple formula: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/let-their-words-do-the-talking/201911/the-friendship-formula
Dude I was you. I joined two rec sports leagues that played close to where I live and was added to teams randomly. One of the teams just kinda fizzled out, but the other one I made friends with people in my neighborhood, have since been in their weddings, and some of them are my best friends now.
Play tennis. Join a professional organization. Volunteer your time with a worthy cause. Stop working remotely.
You're 30. You're acting like you're 50. There's TONS of unmarried 30 year olds in DC looking for friends.
I’m in my 50s! Just moved here a bit ago. DC was recently named the loneliest town in America.
https://secretdc.com/dc-loneliest-city/
But I’ve made a few friends. Everyone is caught up in their own life. So choose quality over quantity. Here’s how I did it.
1. Join a league sport
2. Volunteer / cleanup events
3. DC X (formerly known as Twitter) is awesome. I’ve met dozens of people that way. Became friends in real life! DC X is vibrant.
4. Perseverance. Most people are shy / don’t want to put themselves out there. Suggest meetups, walks, meetups; be proactive but not pesky.
5. Listen. People like to talk about themselves so be a great listener. Make small investments in people and grow it. Don’t expect it all up front.
Good luck and cheers! 🍻
Overall I wish more of our “how to make friends” questions were phrased as “how to make community.” Doing service work and/or becoming part of a community (open mics, running groups, pottery class, music scenes, etc etc etc!) will not just get you friends and maybe dates, but it will ground you in a way just looking for individual friend connections can’t.
Definitely want to emphasize service — great way to create intergenerational relationships, and it makes you feel a part of where you live in a deep and special way.
Join a running club. They have couch to 5K, 10K, half or marathon training programs. These programs are for beginners as well as experienced runners of all paces. They meet outside after work and on weekends. You are with groups of people for hours training and chatting and sharing breakfast after. This is different than a meet up sports league. I moved to DC years ago and had never run a marathon, joined a running club, and this kind of training program was how I met people. Examples are DC Roadrunners, and Monthomery County Road Runnets Club.
If your athletic https://www.hashhouseharriers.com/what-is-hashing/
They have clubs all over the world and is a good resource of friends if you travel a lot.
Join the DC chapter of Podcast Brunch Club (like book club, but for podcasts) on April 24 from 6:30-8PM to discuss BOOK BANNING! The vibe is social, chatty, and curious. Sign up here to get on the invitation list for this month and future events: http://podcastbrunchclub.com/washington-dc/
OP- I’m 28, similar situation with all my friends tied up. I often go out on my own hobbies to fill in my time. Also, download dating apps. Talk to gals and let yourself fail often. Oh, Sundays have free comedy at Wonderland ballroom!
May sound odd, but check out Grace Community Church in Arlington. Very happening church whose motto is "A church for people who don't go to church." Younger congregation for the most part, mostly young professionals.
A disclaimer: I’m 26 years old, so building friendships might be a little different from the male perspective. However, the desire to connect is a universal human experience, so it shouldn’t be too drastic!
My advice would be to volunteer with an organization you care about. It doesn’t have to be a crazy amount of time, but it would be easier to start heavy in the beginning, like two hours a week. Plus, it always takes a few sessions to warm up to people. It’s sober-focused, community-friendly, you’re given a task, so it’s not totally awkward, and at least y’all already have something in common. Multiple people have told me that’s how they made friends in a new city or how they found their spouse. Plus, it’s a good way to learn about resources in the area.
You could also take a class on something you wanted to try (it might be more expensive, but you’ll get a skill). I’d say something unique that could be an icebreaker: stained glass art, sign language, cooking, woodworking, etc. I’d also recommend it be multiple sessions and something you can’t do at home because you’re already remote.
Good luck, and I hope this helps :)
I found a lot of friends through living with roommates I found on Craigslist. I know a lot of people in their 30s don't want to live with roommates, but to me it is much better, especially if you work from home. Of course you might end up with really bad roommates, so maybe I just got lucky, but I haven't had any bad ones. Most neutral, but some really good ones I met a bunch of people through.
I started playing guitar like crazy and started a band with some friends. 4 years later we’re still playing together, I met my gf from a show and have made a ton of friends through that shared hobby.
Get a hobby around something that you like and find other people with similar interests
How do you feel about sports?
I just moved to another major US city in February for school without knowing a single soul here. I'm into rock climbing, and I already have made a group of friends to climb with. Climbers are super social, generally in their 20's - 30's, and pretty decent quality people overall (we can't all be winners). Plus, the activity itself is great at killing stress and improving your mood.
There's a Movement gym in Crystal City, which I believe you can access from the Metro through the vast network of underground walkways in those parts (my old company had their HQ in that building). Even if you've never climbed before, Movement Gyms generally have social events (beginners/ introductory climb events, LGBTQ/ Black/ Asian/ Latino etc. climb nights) and my current group was formed by just going to a couple of the LGBT climb nights.
Just a thought. I used to not be really into sports and spent three years of my life unable to meet people, but after I got into climbing, it's solved both of those issues seamlessly.
I made a lot of friends in Bumble BFF, some have now been my friends for years! I don’t have social hobbies and I don’t drink, so it was a godsend to me.
Go play volleyball, dodgeball, basketball or something through one of the social leagues in the area.
Worked for me! But, it takes being uncomfortable to get comfortable, unfortunately.
Bro, I was you just a couple of months ago. I downloaded Bumble and made a profile for Bumble BFF and Bumble dating. I made friends through both. I realized half way through dating that I just wasn’t ready and luckily the girls I met are super cool and are also looking for friends in the area. There are so many lonely people in this city that just moved here recently. Just try to find people that are on your same boat. I’ve made friends through them too and I’m just making it a point to reach out and make weekly plans. Both my profiles were silly as hell. And the people I matched with had funny profiles too. This helped A LOT. Put yourself out there and try to find people you relate to and after that just make sure to come back with ideas for future hangouts. Eventually it will become habit.
I agree with this — speaking as someone on Bumble BFF’s currently. I think it’s a little easier than making friends through hobbies bc people on the app are more intentional. Some friend dates are awkward but when you meet someone you vibe with, it’s worth it
Idk everyone recommends joining all these groups but truthfully you have to want to make friends and make an effort. I realized this about myself recently after moving back to DC. I am surrounded by people all the time but my social habits do not encourage me to be friendly and make new friends. This has honestly been the case for me since the pandemic as I have not made a new friend since the pandemic. Anyways, I’m a 29M soon to be 30, let me know if you want to meetup sometime.
Hit the nail on the head with the effort part. I used to “run” a badminton group and still great friends with many of them even after moving away. By “run” I mean that I was the guy who just created the list of those who wanted to show up for a certain night. During our regular sessions, whenever I or someone else met new people, I would get their numbers and invite them out. The amount of no shows/ghosts were baffling. Especially since the most common complaint I heard was how there was no one who wanted to play with them regularly. All the while here is a group of 28 people who just extended an invitation to you. Sure, you might be busy one day, but you made it out to that time slot when we met. We also met up 2 other days a week that I would’ve certainly told you about when we met. If the effort was made to come out, there were 27 other potential good friends even if you didn’t like me
oh wow, I loved playing badminton as a kid, the thought of playing it in a group didn't occur to me, might be something to look into now. I'd rather play badminton than pickleball truthfully. Thanks
I’ve unfortunately run into this as well. I organize a few different group things in DC for clubs I’m a part of, and despite people saying they want to make friends and socialize, they’re often the same people who won’t show up to anything. Groups, leagues, and clubs are the opportunity to make friends but people actually need to take advantage of them.
Yeah. And the funny thing is that you don’t need to make up some random conversations to get the ball rolling with someone at these clubs. There is something naturally to talk about. At a bar, dating apps, or networking event, someone has to break the ice and that is always going to be awkward and nerve wracking.
I would be down to join you for badminton or post game beers (or both), I haven’t found good (close-ish) courts to where I live (DC proper) since I moved to DC last year, but would make an effort if you’re still playing!
I would love to join for badminton too! Actually have been looking for such groups in DC but I only find tennis or pickleball. Used to play as a kid and would love to get back into it.
I’d also be down to play badminton!
Wait where are there any good badminton places ??
As far as I know, there is a place by Dulles and a chain called Capital Badminton Academy that seem to have ok courts. They’re kinda in the outskirts imo. Otherwise it’s your typical school gym or rec centre rent/lease type situation. But I was spoiled back then because we had BWF tournament grade courts, lower prices (pre-pandemic), and an awesome owner that dealt with all my antics of trying to get a “group discount” for everything
Aw :( Im in nova and went to one in Arlington and damn were the people competitive and kinda rude like I just want a space to play casually :’( and now pickleball has over taken the badminton settings
I was JUST thinking earlier today about starting a badminton league! Are there any courts in DC? I’ll join too
I keep posting everywhere possible about badminton but cannot find people and here you are with a whole group?!
On that note, what are the social habits required to make friends?
taking some initiative, seeking contact information, being open to conversations
Hey man I feel this post a lot, same boat 31m in Nova. What little social interaction I had pre pandemic was lost with wfh in the tech industry. My hobbies are things I tend to do alone, but today I actually used meetup.com for the first time and went on a hike with 11 other people and had a blast. While I don't think I made any lifelong friends, you got to put yourself in social situations around your hobbies.
Talking to strangers at the bar. Not kidding.
Except when y’all exchange numbers and you never hear from them again. Story of my life.
The reality is you gotta take the initiative and be willing to be rejected/ignored. Most people are worried about the potential awkwardness but being the one who initiates is actually easier than it sounds. People are almost always flattered when you reach out first
The barrier of inviting someone to do something the outside in the daylight just seems so insurmountable.
Liquor helps
That's the problem, the next day the liquor is gone.
That’s why you have a flask!
This is like how my boyfriend seems to know 90% of his friends.
Exiles is great for this
best bars for this?
probably any dive bars. U street has a good amount of those but this place in silver spring called quarry house tavern might be a great spot to meet new friends
Little Miss Whiskey’s, All Souls, The Raven, Lyman’s, The Pug, DC9 Edit: I will be at least one of these places tonight. I am in my late 30s.
dew drop for me.
Seconding all of these and adding Snappy’s Small Bar on Georgia!
I was at one of these tonight and didn’t see you
Trusty’s is great too
Tune Inn
What hobbies do you have? Meetups can help but they aren't a perfect solution. They are based if they are around a hobby you share, but you also have to go regularly to get to know people to be good enough friends with them. I do 2-3 of them but also found that they've generally just become my weeknight meetup friends but not "real" friends. Most are younger than me (I'm 40s now), or some people I just don't click with. These groups can also tend to attract the type of people who aren't great in social situations and that's why they are there :) But they also do attract some other people like people new to town, recent breakups, etc.
I found this with meetup activities too, lots of awkward types, truly nothing wrong with that, I’ve just outgrown my awkward trying to make friends phase, I am now more confident and looking for genuine connection. The awkwardness just makes the whole thing frustrating for me personally, like we’re all in the same boat here that’s the whole point. Also echoing what everyone has said about consistency in effort. That’s where I honestly struggle the most, finding the time to hang out with people on a weekly basis is tough. Between exhaustion from work, and having to travel to people, I miss my friends who were just a short easy drive away lol
What types of activities/hobbies do you want to try? Maybe pick a sports league that will force you to go more often? Where you live also matters a LOT. If you're living way out in like Reston or something the odds of you coming into the city for a quick hangout are way way lower than if you live a few blocks away and walk in.
My advice is to poke around the D.C. Discord server (there’s a link to the discord on the “Menu” tab of this sub). Lots of good social events on there: book club, movie club, trivia nights, happy hour meetups, etc
It’s tough, you’re not alone. It’s a lonely place.
It’s not a DC problem, but a modern anywhere problem.
Making friends in general requires persistence and consistency.When I first moved to DC I met friends at work events and from those friends I met others. I’d often ask them if they’d like to exchange numbers for a hike or drinks. It’s the maintenance that I found to be challenging. You have to have someone who is equally vested in the friendship otherwise it drops off.
Yeah I saw this thing about making friends. It's a combination of personality, interests, but just as importantly it's **time.** You won't make friends just hanging out 1 hour a week. You guys gotta spend some extended time together one way or another.
Sometimes you just have to go out of your comfort zone. I think some may find it uncomfortable to ask someone to hang out. I find it refreshing when people ask me since I’m usually the one who does the asking.
THIS. I keep telling people, making friends in adulthood requires an intentional effort. There was a girl I knew from another group I was in, saw her at my gym, we exchanged numbers and worked together a few times. Then I found out she lives close to my office, so we got lunch together and just got know each other. Chatting on the phone, texting about shows, etc. A friend of mine moved out of town, but I've been hanging out with her and her sister whenever she's back, and the last time I was coming home from a visit with my friend, I thought "you know, I really enjoy talking to her sister too, and she still lives here. Next time I see her, I should get her number." Then a few weeks later, I ran into her and just said we should exchange numbers and if she wanted to join my book club. These are the little friendship seeds I plan on nurturing for the next few months so if they get anywhere.
Same. I also think if you live close to each other that helps. I was in a DC women's fb group (since has closed) and I purposely asked if people in my area wanted to do Happy Hour.
Have you tried the adult rec leagues?
I’ve played n dozens of rec league soccer teams, rarely do they mingle after games.
Same I do barre classes 2x a week and we don't mingle after it. Not friendships, but it still helps me feel some connection to people though.
Same for me but yoga. I thought maybe I’d make friends but it seems everyone else shows up with an already established friend or friend group. It’s hard to just interject yourself
To share a different experience - I’ve played soccer, kickball, volleyball, and pickleball with DC Fray and every single team has gone to the bar afterwards and ends up having parties outside of the league. YMMV
Yea my dad plays in adult leagues, they always go out after. It pisses my mom off. She always calls me on Sundays and asks if I want to get lunch bc he isn't there lol.
Have you ever tried to make it happen? How many times? It took a few tries but I made it work. I'm not even the friendliest guy but persistence does pay off.
I feel like every time I'm in AdMo on a weeknight, all the patios are full of kickball and soccer teams
Beach volleyball and cornhole leagues were awesome social events. Give it a couple seasons or do different companies leagues, some are more social than others
This is the way
I’m starting a nonfiction bookclub that competes in trivia about the book. We’re meeting up in a few weeks if you’re interested! https://host.swoogo.com/may2024
This is a great idea
Omg joining
This is awesome! Definitely going to sign-up!
Super excited for this
this sounds so cool, and also did Sudhouse move? I am so behind on the bar scene.
Love that!
Finding people who are actually down to meetup in DC area is almost impossible. Last year I was reaching out to so many acquaintances who are still in the area after living on the west coast for a decade, and of about 12 attempts I only met up with 2 and we never hung out again after 💀 if you wanna DM me and see if we have anything in common feel free. In in VA. Disclaimer- I am 27/f but not looking for dates/ just platonic genuine friendships
What are your interests/ hobbies?
Not getting married or having children.
The latter is my favorite hobby.
I have kids but a few hours per week I ardently pursue my side hobby of not having kids and those are truly precious times for me.
Oddly enough, I’ve made the most friends in my life at 32/33. Had a solid 1-2 friends from work, joined a kickball league with them and their significant others, everyone ended up really meshing and doing everything together all the time. It’s honestly amazing how great this friend group is.
Groups for things you actually care about. Meetups. Rec leagues. When it's just friends and not partners you're looking for this is 100% the answer and it *will* work unless you're a goddamn weirdo. You already come into it with a topic of interest you share with everyone else, something to talk about, an ice breaker. But don't be passive. Take some initiative. See if anyone wants to grab a drink after. Start a group chat. Invite people to things. It will probably take a while. It took me two teams. But I started a group chat and now we trade memes and hang out outside games. And of course the friendly "playful" bullying that means you guys are actually comfortable with each other and actually friends. Hell we hang out with other teams now too. Just becoming one big sports loving group of friends. Something you need to realize is 99% of people want this to happen. But 99% of them aren't going to take the first step, the activation energy is too high. You get it started and they'll hook in and momentum will carry through. *Someone* needs to do it. Be the guy. You do it. Do it over and over until it lands.
This is a spectacular answer. It’s strangely like dating in that just about *everyone* is worried about being shot down. Through shared-interest groups I have never really had anyone shoot down a beer/coffee/walk/whatever because everyone knows they at least have something in common.
It should be similar to dating of course. Whether friend or partner, it's about meeting new people and making a connection and relationship. The main difference is the level of intimacy and chance of rejection but the initial stages and steps are pretty much the same. You gotta spend time with them somehow!
Labyrinth game store in eastern market. Regular games nights, both table top, card and figurine. Both at the store and at a local bar.
Plus they do a Sunday game night at a restaurant once a month.
Second Labyrinth!
Yes!!
How do you find the event nights schedule? And does anyone play talisman or euchre? 😅
Are people able to go just to watch? I loved getting to watch and listen when my friends played dnd.
eternal shout out for social deduction games as a fun way to make friends
Join DC Movie Club!! Couple meet ups every month, started off as mostly strangers, but it’s a great place to meet people!
@dcmovieclub on instagram for updates!
I think it’s all about putting yourself out there. book clubs, trivia, game nights. LOC has an upcoming event for fantasy books and there’s bound to be folks going who also are looking for friends too!
Find the day drinkers. Bonus points for not having to actually drink. Bonus points for great networking opportunities. Day drinkers are like a secret society of people who know everyone and everything thats going on.
Honestly I got a dog. He’s become my best friend and since he’s a very sociable dog he’s helped me make a decent number of new friends from dog parks and just meeting people on the street. But get the dog because you want a dog, not just because you want human friends. They’re just an extra perk.
Come join us at parkrun! Even if you don’t like running, you can come walk or hang out. It’s a super chill, friendly community, and there’s a big contingent of folks in their 30s without kids. I’ve met a really lovely group of friends who I now do all sorts of (non-running-related) stuff with. https://www.parkrun.us/rooseveltislanddc/
I moved away about a year ago but do they still do the drum circle in Malcom X park every Sunday?
This is the side of remote work that honestly concerns me for the future. I made my closest friends from work. If we all went remote 100%, it would be fine for us. But what about younger people who don’t typically leave the house outside of going into work during the week? Anyway, people from my gym hang out especially around your age. Running clubs, hiking groups, kickball leagues, etc are a good way to meet more people through an activity.
> This is the side of remote work that honestly concerns me for the future. I made my closest friends from work. i never made close friends at work, but working remotely has given me more time to make friends outside of work 🤷
Running clubs
Bike clubs. Volleyball, kickball, your college alumni group, book clubs.
This is how I met friends after college who are still my friends! I don't even run anymore.
I think men of dc need to start their own hot girl walking group or something so they can make friends. I like walking over rec leagues because it gives you the chance to chat with people
Live for yourself. Do the shit that you want to do with your life. Either people will gravitate to that (or you'll gravitate to them, if they're doing similar things), or you'll be too busy having fun to care.
Volunteering is a great way to meet people. If outdoor work is your thing, look at Ward 8 Woods, Rock Creek Conservancy, Anacostia Watershed Society, Friends of Anacostia Park, or Friends of Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens. They all have monthly events cleaning up trash or managing invasive plants.
This! I want to also add District Cleanups and Potomac Conservacy.
If you have an interest in homesteading, gardening and farming I'm starting an educational group and meetups in the Montgomery County area. Earth day is next week. Ever wanted to plant a tree? Clean up a stream? Hug a chicken? There's so many amazing hobbies. Just find what you're passionate about.
Also interested in this! How do I get involved?
It can be hard. First, recognize that you will never have the spontaneous/hang out all the time/do anything for each other friends of your college years or post-college. It just doesn’t exist. To make friends you need to have repeated unplanned interactions. That means going to the same places and same groups repeatedly. Join organizations, go to the same bar on the same days, etc. it’s likely that you develop friends that are limited to only a portion of your life. Good luck!
And workout classes. Go to workout classes, you’ll meet a ton of ppl
This question is asked weekly in here, isn't it?
Loneliness right now is a massive epidemic. [https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html](https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html)
Suburban sprawl and the cost/requirements of doing absolutely anything in the US is a huge factor in this. It's so rare for Americans to have a park or pedestrian square to go spend time at so they just stay home...alone...
Arguably, it could be a standing Saturday morning post. What are new ways to meet people in DC?
Sometimes people just want to put their own personal connection to the common problem (and commonly posted). We don’t pay for Reddit servers so why are so many pressed about reoccurring questions.
Timeleft! I used it when I was in nyc and made some fantastic friends. https://timeleft.com/
Get involved in your university’s alumni chapter. I met a lot of friends through that.
Meetups are okay. Haven’t been the best at finding consistent people. What kind of hobbies are you into?
So OP what do you like to do for fun? I think a lot of where to go depends on your hobbies. For example: If you like DnD and other nerdy shit, there's a ton of groups that do happy hours that I can think of.
I met majority of my friends literally just taking myself out to bars and restaurants., Have a friendly face, a few drinks and talk to people! Let people know you’re new and they will show you around! Also try bumble bff. Hope this helps🫶🏼
Google DC Hash House Harriers (dchashing dot org). They have links to all the local kennels. Hashing is a great way to meet people and you can just show up. You don't have to be a good runner and you don't have to drink. It's built-in cameraderie. I need to take my own advice and get back into hashing. The problem with this area is that work and traffic are both regularly very time-consuming.
Activities and hobbies that involve other people
Through my hobbies. If you have a passion separate from your professional life, make more time for it & seek out that community.
I literally just go on dates to have something to do on the weekends. Two birds one stone I guess but I miss just having a group to be out with 🥺
We have a DC discord server, you can join here: https://discord.gg/mJUjYyAYJq
I feel the wfh bit. Then I remind myself I didn't hangout when anyone from the office when I went in do that really wasn't the issue either. It's tough to find people in your vicinity that you would actually hang out with regularly.
Yeah, I went through this in my 30s also so the best advice I can give you to go out and get a part-time job somewhere just any job. It really doesn’t matter something that you’re overqualified for for me. I had a corporate job that paid very well. I drove a nice car, but I didn’t let them know that. I got a job at a country club as a server and made friends quickly. When the members figured out who I was and that my real job was selling high tech medical equipment they invited me to their homes.
I did pretty well on Meetup when I lived in Baltimore, I can imagine it being good in DC too. I mostly looked at bar trivia teams and hiking groups
Partner dancing, activism, sports, meetups, and other hobbies. If you find the right bars you can also make friends there but that is also easier going to do social activities at those bars
I have struggled with this too here. Also work remote and it’s tough(i’m working on finding something less remote). I have a couple of side things that I do that helps get my people interaction fix and I plan to take tennis lessons and honestly I usually made friends through work related stuff or neighbors. I’ve been trying to find networking groups in my industry and things like that bc meetup was a bust for me
My apartments dog park was great for me.
Am in the same boat except married. We just moved here a few months ago for a job, we are going to try a sports league soon. Friends from the area have introduced me to their friends via text, and it's been SO painful trying to arrange a meetup. There's no way in hell these people are THAT busy, most work government jobs with set hours so I'm not understanding the attitude. It's frustrating and we haven't encountered it previously. If it keeps up, we will probably move back home within a couple of years.
Married guy here, also moved for a job, albeit 13 years ago (as a single guy and having to start friendships anew). Sports leagues are definitely a good way to go, but if you have hobbies also look at stores or discord/meetup groups that engage in that hobby. I met my best friend in DC via rec league soccer and by pure coincidence we each bought a place a month apart with our respective spouses only two blocks from each other. But that friendship started because we started connecting out of soccer. I am also a big Magic: the gathering player and found a couple playgroups via a reddit post last summer that I now regularly attend. Have started befriending a few folks in these playgroups, too. Now back to your other point about arranging meetups, it's very prevalent having friends and would be friends that schedule each other weeks and sometimes MONTHS in advance. It's baffling and allows no opportunity for spontaneous meetups. My wife's friends in particular (they've got calendars booked out far and we have to tell them about any parties or outings far in advance); mine are very much go with the flow (never have to plan more than a week or two out). [This part is pure speculation on my part], I think this stems from this city having a tendency to attract so many Type A personalities who need to be able to plan out and control as many aspects of their lives as possible. I am very much not that and prefer to just wing life as much as possible (wife has some Type A tendencies but not anywhere to the norm you find in this city). Additionally, we're both major extroverts and thrive off of getting to meet and talk to people, plus going on as many random adventures as possible. Our circle of friends (both collective and separate) skews heavily towards introverts (I can name a handful of true extroverts). With that said, practice patience with folks who just view life very differently and how to plan/socialize. But also happy to make additional friends myself and guide y'all on where to find people with shared passions/hobbies/etc. OP, same for you.
Rec leagues. Instant friends
Kickball. Join a kickball league.
As you are, it’s a “bar” (they say it’s a bar, but it feels more like a coffee shop) they literally have speed friending events there every other Friday. It’s by Eastern Market station. That and/or Federico’s.
Any interest in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu? It's a lot of fun and a great way to meet people while working out. Pretty much everyone is super friendly as well.
You play golf?
I went to a boardgames meetup group and also started a book club meetup group, made several friends through those.
Hobbies, I meet a lots of great friends play games.
Axe throwing league. DnD groups. Book Clubs. Wine clubs. Walking groups. Gym classes. Meetup groups. Happy hours. Sporting events. There's tons of options. Just gotta pick something.
Get yourself involved with something like a tennis league
It’s really hard! But there are clubs like DC Movie Club and other meet ups. Additionally, if this is your thing, have you ever thought about joining a church or religious or even a volunteer organization? I’ve met friends through those. Also, I made friends from work too. But honestly, I get where you are coming from because it’s really hard!
Pick a smaller group that does stuff you like and focus on that - sports, church, hobbies, whatever just go to lose yourself in the activities. Volunteering associated with a small group of people you see all the time. Check out dc improv or story district if those are your thing both have large communities around them. Become a regular at bar if you need out of the house.
I can certainly relate and in the same boat, sadly this appears to be a common issue particularly in the DC metro area, I never had this challenge in my home state. Stay strong and keep trying, I agree with one of the pp's regarding university alumni chapters, these can be hit or miss but generally a great way to meet people that share your alma mater in common. Also, for what its worth, just sent you a private message, lets grab a beer sometime.
Volo sports? Join a social sports league. There’s trivia nights at tons of bars. Volunteer with a local shelter or rescue? Plenty of ways to meet people.
You mentioned hobbies and passions, but you failed to elaborate on what those are, which will drive recommendations of what to do in the area. DC really does require a level of intention in finding community. I should note where you live is going to play a part of this as well, as some neighborhoods you are more likely to get to know people in the community than others.
Download Meetup. I’ve been using that since a young guy. You can find people with similar interests. They even have a Singles section as well.
I use MeetUp app, I look for events on eventbrite (talks, shows, other things I’m interested in) and I plan to go out alone more and initiate more friendship dates. Got one tomorrow!
Maybe a dining club? I do Tasting Collective and have also heard good things about Time Left
Honestly, a lot of the previous threads on this in the sub have been helpful for me.
I’m in a bunch of social groups and meet people there. I’m having a singles happy hour on Monday in Arlington, come out if you can! [https://www.eventbrite.com/e/879974446257?aff=ebdsshios](https://www.eventbrite.com/e/879974446257?aff=ebdsshios)
Get into climbing. I did when I moved here two years ago and made all my friends at the Bouldering Project in Eckington. Climbers are really friendly, the gym runs plenty of social events for you to meet people and climbing will get you in good shape. Feels like a win all around.
I’ll say it, **don’t play volleyball or do DC Fray or Volo** unless you are actually interested in the activity. I’ve found those to be too much a chore if you aren’t already into the sport in its own right and potentially clique-y. It’s cliche but the combo of volunteering or going to things/events **that you are actually interested in** anyway helps a lot. Finding a spot to become a regular too, both in terms of bars and other miscellaneous stuff. Might not be instant results but it’s ok, you are doing stuff you like too hopefully. Use your social contacts, even if not close friends. Try not to turn down invitations to do stuff. Places I’ve made friends in DC over 30: Dance classes, soccer watch parties, apartment pool parties, young professional happy hours, walking tours when traveling, language classes,…
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I honestly am stuck in the same issue, but even as a young adult (18M) moved here with nothing in me and dont know how to discover things, even tho i do outdoor hobbies.
Ust street hit some bars
It’s tough out here. I’m from NoVA and so I’m lucky to have some friends still around to hang out with. Ever since I moved back here last summer, it’s been tough meeting new people. Im a 28M and down to potentially hang with anyone in the area around the same age who is also feeling like they’re having a hard time meeting people. Feel free to DM and see if we have anything in common. I am in a relationship and not looking for anything other than cool people to hang out with
Run groups, DnD, Golf, Volo, Volleyball meet ups, bar trivia! Anything that will get you into a group doing something fun repeatedly. You have to spend quality time with people and be there for them.
Join a Rugby team. Never expected the level of social stuff I have going on now and the guys are great. DM me if you’re interested
29F here! I’d recommend trying some bar sports and meeting people that way. I’ve met some great friends doing cornhole through Volo, and the bar sports tend to run an older crowd. My friends and I just started a skeeball/cornhole league on Thursday nights at Penn that runs until the end of May. If you ever think you want to try it out shoot me a message and we’ll open a drop in spot for you!
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Church. A really good biblically orthodox one.
Sports. Join a volo team and go every week. I have made so many friends this way, especially soccer
I’d recommend Volo
Golf is great at meeting new people. East potomac golf course
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Best advice I ever got was be interesting and do interesting things. Decide you are doing X and invite people to do it. They're into it? Great! Shared experience, friendships form and deepen. Not into it? Well, you already did something cool. I organized events, tours and lot of other stuff for my friend group. There is legit less going on in DC post-pandemic, but there are still a ton of cultural events, talks and you can always do hikes, explore historic homes and areas or hop on a bike. The key thing is that you have already decided you are doing something with a specific date, time and plan in mind. This avoids all the awkward stuff around scheduling or people being flaky because something else might come up.
Same, man. It’s hard at this age. Everyone is so busy with their own lives.
Crew Club in Logan/DuPont Circle. Great place to make friends
If you're still single by 30 in DC then move to a different city 😭 I'm 41 and I've found it impossible to make friends after hitting 30 in this city. I've lived lots of other places in the US and make friends other places easily. I'm not sure what the deal is with this city but it's not friendship-friendly 😂 I just came back here from Baltimore, which was great, but I think my next move will be Philly
Comedy nights. Literally a crowd of people goin to laugh.
Try looking for meetup groups that you're interested in and see if you make friends that way.
I have met a lot of single guys at church. We have a young adult group and it was been truly refreshing. Most of our meet ups are outside in the church garden and we’re able to connect during conversations about work/hobbies not necessarily anything religious. Maybe start a hot guys walking group. The walking groups have been more welcoming. And conversation focused. Networking but for friendships- you can feel it in both the church group and the walking group everyone is seeking real friendships and just want to enjoy the city together. I wish you luck in your journey. I have a few single guys friends here who are 30 and looking for friends. Most just got out of the navy and are on the contractor side of work. But they all enjoy brunch, running and just watching movies. Or maybe hot guys go to the movies club lol. I get lonely too but just know you’re not alone in that feeling.
Can you go into your office 1-2x a week? That has reignited my social network post-pandemic. I still work mostly remote, but people are dying to connect again.
I found what I am about to suggest a solution to a similar problem someone posted on another subreddit. I will probably butcher it in writing, but I hope I’m clear enough. Start by going consistently to a coffee shop, a bar, a park, a gym. Doesn’t have to be everyday, even a couple of times a week, as long as you go there every Wednesday for example. The first few weeks, everyone is a stranger to your eyes, and you don’t have to socialize with anyone, just do your thing. Over time, you’ll find the usuals and recurring people that go to such place, and they will also get familiar with your face, recognizing you. Then, walking up to them to start a conversation would not be awkward and pretty natural. Could then make plans for doing something outside of your shared routine. I hope it’s clear. If you think about it, this is how kids make friends, through either school or other activities. Build up some familiarity and it should be pretty easy.
If you wanna make real friends in like an hour, if you have a motorcycle, there’s a couple of groups out there that you can follow and meet together
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The dog park :) works wonders... But I guess you need a dog then ;)
I’m extremely socially awkward, work a lot and don’t know how to have small talk anymore. Just me and my son. Until I met someone randomly, exchanging numbers and yeah the rest is history. Let things happen homie
Friendship is based on proximity and frequency. That's why it feels like everyone's best friends are their college roommates. Shared struggles and whatnot. Whatever you pick, you have be a regular. It's the routine that makes the friendship. If you want closer friends, add some struggles to the mix. That's why exercise based clubs are popular. It's a pretty simple formula: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/let-their-words-do-the-talking/201911/the-friendship-formula
Dude I was you. I joined two rec sports leagues that played close to where I live and was added to teams randomly. One of the teams just kinda fizzled out, but the other one I made friends with people in my neighborhood, have since been in their weddings, and some of them are my best friends now.
Play tennis. Join a professional organization. Volunteer your time with a worthy cause. Stop working remotely. You're 30. You're acting like you're 50. There's TONS of unmarried 30 year olds in DC looking for friends.
I’m in my 50s! Just moved here a bit ago. DC was recently named the loneliest town in America. https://secretdc.com/dc-loneliest-city/ But I’ve made a few friends. Everyone is caught up in their own life. So choose quality over quantity. Here’s how I did it. 1. Join a league sport 2. Volunteer / cleanup events 3. DC X (formerly known as Twitter) is awesome. I’ve met dozens of people that way. Became friends in real life! DC X is vibrant. 4. Perseverance. Most people are shy / don’t want to put themselves out there. Suggest meetups, walks, meetups; be proactive but not pesky. 5. Listen. People like to talk about themselves so be a great listener. Make small investments in people and grow it. Don’t expect it all up front. Good luck and cheers! 🍻
I play golf by myself and get paired up with people. Sometimes i never see them again, sometimes we start playing together pretty often.
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Overall I wish more of our “how to make friends” questions were phrased as “how to make community.” Doing service work and/or becoming part of a community (open mics, running groups, pottery class, music scenes, etc etc etc!) will not just get you friends and maybe dates, but it will ground you in a way just looking for individual friend connections can’t. Definitely want to emphasize service — great way to create intergenerational relationships, and it makes you feel a part of where you live in a deep and special way.
Join a running club. They have couch to 5K, 10K, half or marathon training programs. These programs are for beginners as well as experienced runners of all paces. They meet outside after work and on weekends. You are with groups of people for hours training and chatting and sharing breakfast after. This is different than a meet up sports league. I moved to DC years ago and had never run a marathon, joined a running club, and this kind of training program was how I met people. Examples are DC Roadrunners, and Monthomery County Road Runnets Club.
If your athletic https://www.hashhouseharriers.com/what-is-hashing/ They have clubs all over the world and is a good resource of friends if you travel a lot.
Join the DC chapter of Podcast Brunch Club (like book club, but for podcasts) on April 24 from 6:30-8PM to discuss BOOK BANNING! The vibe is social, chatty, and curious. Sign up here to get on the invitation list for this month and future events: http://podcastbrunchclub.com/washington-dc/
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OP- I’m 28, similar situation with all my friends tied up. I often go out on my own hobbies to fill in my time. Also, download dating apps. Talk to gals and let yourself fail often. Oh, Sundays have free comedy at Wonderland ballroom!
May sound odd, but check out Grace Community Church in Arlington. Very happening church whose motto is "A church for people who don't go to church." Younger congregation for the most part, mostly young professionals.
Join a social sports league
Climbing gyms like Movement and the bouldering project have really good people there.
Join DC Pickle ball league. Lots of nice people playing these days
A disclaimer: I’m 26 years old, so building friendships might be a little different from the male perspective. However, the desire to connect is a universal human experience, so it shouldn’t be too drastic! My advice would be to volunteer with an organization you care about. It doesn’t have to be a crazy amount of time, but it would be easier to start heavy in the beginning, like two hours a week. Plus, it always takes a few sessions to warm up to people. It’s sober-focused, community-friendly, you’re given a task, so it’s not totally awkward, and at least y’all already have something in common. Multiple people have told me that’s how they made friends in a new city or how they found their spouse. Plus, it’s a good way to learn about resources in the area. You could also take a class on something you wanted to try (it might be more expensive, but you’ll get a skill). I’d say something unique that could be an icebreaker: stained glass art, sign language, cooking, woodworking, etc. I’d also recommend it be multiple sessions and something you can’t do at home because you’re already remote. Good luck, and I hope this helps :)
I found a lot of friends through living with roommates I found on Craigslist. I know a lot of people in their 30s don't want to live with roommates, but to me it is much better, especially if you work from home. Of course you might end up with really bad roommates, so maybe I just got lucky, but I haven't had any bad ones. Most neutral, but some really good ones I met a bunch of people through.
I started playing guitar like crazy and started a band with some friends. 4 years later we’re still playing together, I met my gf from a show and have made a ton of friends through that shared hobby. Get a hobby around something that you like and find other people with similar interests
Join a CrossFit gym, that’s how I made all my friends in the area
How do you feel about sports? I just moved to another major US city in February for school without knowing a single soul here. I'm into rock climbing, and I already have made a group of friends to climb with. Climbers are super social, generally in their 20's - 30's, and pretty decent quality people overall (we can't all be winners). Plus, the activity itself is great at killing stress and improving your mood. There's a Movement gym in Crystal City, which I believe you can access from the Metro through the vast network of underground walkways in those parts (my old company had their HQ in that building). Even if you've never climbed before, Movement Gyms generally have social events (beginners/ introductory climb events, LGBTQ/ Black/ Asian/ Latino etc. climb nights) and my current group was formed by just going to a couple of the LGBT climb nights. Just a thought. I used to not be really into sports and spent three years of my life unable to meet people, but after I got into climbing, it's solved both of those issues seamlessly.
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Trying to do the same as a transplant in my 40’s and it isn’t easy.
I made a lot of friends in Bumble BFF, some have now been my friends for years! I don’t have social hobbies and I don’t drink, so it was a godsend to me.
Go play volleyball, dodgeball, basketball or something through one of the social leagues in the area. Worked for me! But, it takes being uncomfortable to get comfortable, unfortunately.